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What about your fat? Have you made a new years change? Or are you going to keep going as you have been in your fast past? · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: So what is your plan today?
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Have you had a New Year's resolution that's already gone awry?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been planning on dropping some weight?
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: Have you been thinking about what you're going to be doing and what kind of things you're putting into play as far as wanting to change yourself maybe for good?
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you've been battling this as long as I have.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been going up and down and wait until the last several years for a very long time, for all of my childhood, teenage, adolescent, adult, and then into past the midway point, at least as far as the numbers go for male males into their 70s.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: So going past the midway point of that trajectory, I finally figured it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think you can too.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's going to come down, though, to something that I never thought I would say in front of anybody, especially because of my background as a police officer.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: You have to love yourself.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: You have to actually care enough about yourself to forgive yourself and continue the process when you mess it up.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: And us as human beings, the more that I learn about addiction, the food companies, the way that that works, it's a miracle to me that they're still so powerful in the world.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: I know Andrew Huberman, lots of other people that I watch, and if you've been trying to drop any kind of fat for any period of time, I'm sure you've run into those same people.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's one thing listening to somebody like me or like them talk, and then it's another thing to actually put it into motion.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: What I don't think people talk about is because maybe they've never been there.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: When I was 365 pounds, every day I woke up trying to roll, roll out of bed was very hard.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: And whenever my feet hit the floor and then I felt the full effect of gravity, it was even more difficult.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: The pain that I felt in my lower extremities was something that I hope I never feel again.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Right now, when I get muscle sore, if I work out a little bit too hard, because that's now become part of a daily trend that I have.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: But if I lift a little too heavy, even that pain is nowhere near what it was back in the day, experiencing gravity at 365 pounds.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I don't know if it's going to take somebody that's been through it, somebody that has been fat a majority of their life to help people.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: But I do know that we very much lie to ourselves.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Whenever I'm talking to somebody, and one of the first things I ask them, you know, you eat, a lot of it seems to be binging.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of it seems when they eat, there's no control mechanism.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: And that reminds me of the alcohol days when there wasn't any control in that either.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: It was always drinking to a point of past being buzzed, past having whatever you can qualify as a good feeling with alcohol, and then just continuing the process up until somebody passed out or you got sick or whatever it may be.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: That's is a horrible place to be, but at least your body, in most cases, identifies that alcohol is a toxic and it starts to do things in order to try to fight that toxin coming in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Food, unfortunately, even though sugar is somewhat of a tox, food doesn't have that same effect.
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  SPEAKER_00: What ends up happening is you end up storing it, but then it also creates other problems.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: You have that heart disease and an arterial plaque and those sorts of things.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: Something that maybe you already have, maybe you've had some kind of medical intervention on those areas.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you haven't, consider yourself lucky.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: And if you haven't, you might actually be able to change your ultimate destiny with regard to ending up under medical supervised care for the rest of your life.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: Being told you have to instead of maybe at this point getting to, or choosing to, or being able to on your own accord.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: Now, of course, I want to scare you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think having the last few years of your life in a hospital bed, that would be horrible.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've watched that happen to people.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe not so much because they abuse themselves, but we've all seen the shows.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: We've all seen people that seem to be enabled by other people that have this end-of-life story that seems to be just traumatic and something that I don't think any of us would wish on our enemy, let alone ourselves.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: But yet we still think there's a chance tomorrow.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: There's a chance that next meal.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: We always have a chance.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: In addition, we're always waiting for the right time.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: We're not starting today because today we have this event that we're going to go to, and they're going to have fantastic food, and everybody's prepared for it, and it's$100 a plate or$300 a plate or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should honor yourself more than having to go in and indulging in something you've probably already had at some point in your life.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_00: I can't imagine there being something offered to me that I haven't already had.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: And if I haven't had it, is it really that important for me to partake in it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it that important for me to eat it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it that important for me to put into my billion-dollar body?
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what we're worth.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: We're worth a lot of money if you want to break it down in a monetary sense.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: Just think about what it costs to go for a regular doctor visit and to follow up with medicine.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how much it takes just to take care of it, let alone replacing this body.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: Good luck with that.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: If you lost an arm and had to get it replaced, I don't know if that's even possible.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: I know you can get a lung and maybe transplant other organs, but it's not yet that time when it becomes cost effective or relatively inexpensive.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: It is incredibly expensive, and I know there are people out there wishing that they were probably you, even in your fat body, because they would probably fix it quickly, because right now they don't have the use of limbs or legs or whatever it may be.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: Respect yourself enough to start the process and continue the process until you get to the point that you can say, okay, gotten a big portion of this off.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: Now my journey in life is going to start.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: Right now, if you have a massive belly and you have large arm fat and you have massive thighs because of all the extra weight and the rubbing together, and you don't remember what it was like not to have that, you're in for a treat.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: You just have to get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, everything that's always said online is easier said than actually done.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: Willpower plays a part.
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  SPEAKER_00: The types of food you eat play a part.
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  SPEAKER_00: Food should have never been so tasty, but they've engineered food to be so tasty it's hard not to go for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's lots of research that's been done on the dopamine cycle.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you eat something really tasty, you get this dopamine hit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And believe you me, that's why most people are addicted to social media because of the dopamine hit.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: You sit there and you're looking at two or three things that you don't like, but then you get that good one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they do this on purpose.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: Well, the food conglomerate does that with food as well.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: They make it taste so good that it's hard to ignore.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: But if you look at yourself and want to have that life that's better than where you are, you're gonna have to disassociate yourself with food.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's why when I was able to go through my process, and of course I'm still on my process every day, but it came down to me not eating and then developing that disassociation with food, not being so dependent on it.
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I love my cookies, yes, I love my pizza and my ice cream and my pastas and all of those things.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: I love them very much, but I also love how I feel now much better than I did when I was eating all of those foods.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: I like the way I look, I like the way my clothes fit, I like the way I feel when I'm watching my muscles get pumped and working out and lifting weights.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: I like the way I feel when I'm walking hand in hand with the love of my life.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: I like the way these things feel much better than trying to roll around the park or walk around or roll out of bed feeling uncomfortable all day long.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe this will help you.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: Think about it, write yourself notes, write yourself a journal, talk to yourself.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: I remember I have hundreds, literally hundreds of journals that were written that are all about wanting to be thin, not wanting to be fat anymore.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: And finally one day something changed.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I had another day where something changed.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then the next day, something changed.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: So I would tell you that if you can start the process, forgive yourself.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: And if you screw it up, immediately start again.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: Don't wait, don't let it go two and three and four days, or two or three or four weeks or months before you pick it up and say, Oh my gosh, I can't believe I let this get out of hand again.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: I need to start over.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe, maybe, if you forgave yourself at the moment that you screwed it up the next time after making a plan with yourself to get it all off, maybe you'll be able to continue that process and do what happened to me.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: Have another good day and another good day.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: I messed it up, one meal, one moment, I immediately fix it.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: If you find yourself on autopilot eating something, or you go to an event that you tried to mentally prepare for, and I'm not gonna partake of this particular type of food, I'm not gonna drink alcohol and you screw it up, start immediately.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: Keep doing that.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Love yourself enough to forgive yourself and resume your mission.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Your mission should be more eating the right things, not the wrong things, than the other way around.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: If you're fat and you have that extra fat stored on your system, more than likely you have it backwards.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: You need to reverse it and think about that and get on your way.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with honor.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next one.