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How to Build Resilience During Difficult Seasons (S5) S29:E3 Monday · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hello there, everyone, and welcome to Inspirations
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  for Your Life.
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  It's great to be with you.
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  Today is Monday.
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  All right, guys, let's go ahead and kick
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  this off, okay?
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  So in case you didn't know, this is
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  Inspirations for Your Life, and I'm glad you
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  decided to pop in and basically be part
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  of the show.
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  And so, you know, we have a master
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  topic every week.
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  This is Series 5, Show 29, and How
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  to Grow Through Every Season is our master
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  topic.
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  It starts on Saturday, rolls through to Friday,
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  and it's about building a life that creates
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  lasting results, how to build resilience.
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  During difficult seasons is our granular topic for
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  tonight, Series 5, Show 29, Episode 3.
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  So let's get right into it.
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  So welcome, everyone, to the ever-popular Inspirations
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  for Your Life show, and I'm John Seymour
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  Lee, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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  podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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  Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner, and
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  so grateful to be now a published author
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  of Drain to Driven.
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  Thank you so much for joining me today
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  for another episode of the Inspirations for Your
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  Life show, where I help you explore practical
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  principles that help us become stronger, wiser, and
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  of course, more resilient every single day of
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  our life.
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  Life will always include seasons of challenge, disappointment,
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  and uncertainty.
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  None of us can avoid these difficult moments,
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  but every one of us can decide how
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  we'll actually respond to them.
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  Today, I'm going to help you guys discover
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  that resilience isn't something you're born with.
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  Nope.
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  It's something you build every time you choose
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  to keep moving forward, despite the obstacles standing
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  in your way, and I know there can
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  be a lot of them.
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  Number one, difficult seasons strengthen character.
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  Easy seasons reveal comfort, but difficult seasons reveal
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  character.
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  Challenges expose what truly matters and help develop
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  qualities that success alone never could bring forth.
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  Growth often begins during life's hardest moments.
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  Number two, guys, pressure develops resilience.
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  Pressure tests your ability to adapt and continue
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  on.
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  Each challenge you overcome increases your confidence level
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  for the next one, and resilience grows through
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  experiences.
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  I think that's an important thing.
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  A lot of people, they miss the fact
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  that, you know, it happens, and there's like
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  stages that it happens in, right?
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  And so when we understand that, we can't
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  skip steps.
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  Number three, adversity reveals strength.
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  Many people never realize how strong they truly
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  are until life demands more from them.
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  Difficult moments uncover abilities that remain hidden during
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  easier times.
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  Strength is often discovered rather than created.
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  Every challenge, number four, contains a lesson.
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  Every obstacle has something valuable to teach, looking
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  for the lesson instead of dwelling on the
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  problem.
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  And that turns setbacks into opportunities for growth.
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  Wisdom often comes disguised as difficulty.
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  Number five, keep moving forward.
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  Progress doesn't require giant leaps every day.
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  Sometimes the greatest victory is refusing to quit.
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  Small steps still move you closer to your
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  destination.
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  Small, consistent steps.
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  Number six, focus on what you can control.
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  Don't worry about what you can't.
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  Energy spent worrying about what you cannot change
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  rarely produces positive results.
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  In fact, it causes more frustration.
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  Focus instead on your attitude, your actions, and
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  your choices.
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  Control what belongs to you.
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  And I think that's something, again, that a
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  lot of people, you know, they get stuck
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  on this, and the reason they get stuck
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  is because they don't think they can make
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  a change in their life, but really they
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  can.
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  Number seven, adapt instead of resisting.
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  Life constantly changes, and flexibility allows us to
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  grow with it.
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  Resisting every change creates frustration, while adapting creates
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  opportunity, growth, and this requires adjustment.
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  And again, a lot of people don't seem
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  to understand this.
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  Number eight, resilience grows through repetition.
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  Every challenge successfully faced strengthens your confidence.
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  Repeated perseverance builds emotional endurance.
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  That's important.
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  The more you overcome, the stronger you become.
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  But again, the first time you do it,
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  it might seem like you're going nowhere, but
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  you did make progress.
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  It just might not have been the amount
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  that you were hoping to make, but it's
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  still progress.
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  Number nine, growth often feels uncomfortable, and I've
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  said this before.
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  We have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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  Success does not start where we're comfortable.
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  Personal growth stretches you beyond familiar routines.
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  Discomfort is often evidence that meaningful change is
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  taking place.
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  I didn't say pain.
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  I said discomfort.
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  Don't mistake temporary discomfort for failure.
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  It's not.
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  Number 10, temporary struggles create permanent strength.
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  Most difficult seasons eventually pass, but the strength
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  you build remains forever.
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  Every hardship leaves you better prepared for future
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  challenges.
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  Temporary discomfort often produces lasting growth.
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  I think that's an important one.
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  So to say, oh, my gosh, I'm in
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  so much pain.
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  You're in discomfort.
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  You're not in pain.
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  You're in discomfort.
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  And I think that's an important piece that
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  a lot of people, they miss.
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  They put more emphasis on the fact that
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  it's hurting.
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  It might be discomforting, but they make it
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  worse than what it is.
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  Number 11, confidence follows persistence.
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  Confidence develops by continuing through uncertainty.
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  Each obstacle overcome by you reminds us that
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  you are capable of more than you once
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  believed.
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  And that can create a whole domino effect,
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  guys.
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  Persistence alone creates self-belief.
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  And if we can understand that belief is
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  oftentimes the reason why we don't do something,
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  because it's something we thought.
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  We give up before we even start because
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  of something we thought.
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  Number 12, your response matters most.
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  You cannot always control what happens around you.
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  But you can always choose your responses and
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  how you interact.
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  A thoughtful response creates better outcomes than an
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  emotional reaction.
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  Your attitude shapes your future.
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  Progress requires courage.
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  Number 13, I didn't say it was going
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  to be easy.
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  I said it requires courage.
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  I said it requires courage.
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  Progress always requires courage.
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  Fear often appears whenever meaningful growth begins.
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  Courage doesn't eliminate fear, guys.
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  It simply refuses to let fear make the
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  decisions.
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  I think that's probably the most important thing
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  for us to understand.
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  Fear is false evidence appearing real.
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  And what we perceive and what we create
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  in our mind can make this huge difference
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  in our lives.
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  And it's not because we want to be
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  fearful.
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  Our surroundings cause it.
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  Our internal beliefs cause it.
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  But we can get out of fear just
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  as quickly as we got into it.
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  Number 14, I invite you to stay committed.
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  Committed.
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  Commitment carries you through days when motivation disappears.
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  Continue honoring your goals even when progress feels
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  slow.
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  I know we've all been through this.
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  Some progress is better than no progress.
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  I think that's a very important thing.
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  Consistency always wins in the long run.
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  Now, it may appear to not win in
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  the short run, but it always wins in
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  the long run.
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  And I think that's a big thing for
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  us to understand, that it happens that way
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  if we truly believe it does.
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  Always wins in the long run.
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  But sometimes we self-doubt.
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  And once we self-doubt, our energy changes.
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  And when our energy changes, it also affects
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  what people perceive about us.
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  Number 15, guys.
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  Every setback is temporary.
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  Just like rain.
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  After the rain finishes, the sun comes out
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  tomorrow.
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  We all know the song from Annie, right?
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  The sun always comes out tomorrow.
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  Maybe it's not tomorrow, but it's the next
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  day.
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  Eventually it comes out.
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  That's the point.
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  The sun always comes out after the rain
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  eventually.
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  No difficult season lasts forever.
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  Every setback eventually becomes part of your story.
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  Instead of your current reality.
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  That's an interesting one to think of.
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  Keep believing that better days are ahead and
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  they will be.
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  I know it might sound like they're not,
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  but I'm here to tell you that they
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  are really around you.
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  But you got to believe that very, very
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  strongly.
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  Number 16.
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  Build emotional strength.
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  Emotional strength develops one decision at a time.
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  Every challenge you face without giving up increases
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  your ability to handle the next one.
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  Strong emotions become powerful when guided by wisdom.
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  Instead of impulse.
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  I know impulse is something a lot of
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  us go to.
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  It's very quick.
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  It doesn't need a lot of thought.
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  But it's not going to be the best
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  for us in the long term.
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  I think if we can vow right now
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  that even though some things are going to
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  be hard, I'd rather have them be hard
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  so the long term can be easier.
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  I think that's a very important thing to
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  understand.
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  Number 17, guys.
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  Please keep improving.
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  Every day of your life offers yet another
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  opportunity to become a better version of yourself.
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  Even the smallest improvements create momentum when you
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  repeat them consistently.
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  I talked about bank accounts and how even
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  the smallest amount of interest can eventually compound.
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  Progress never requires perfection.
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  Only commitment, consistency, and structure.
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  Commitment.
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  Why is it people don't want to commit?
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  They figure they could take the shortcut.
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  Other people have taken it.
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  Or they've seen other people take it.
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  They think, well, gee, I could do that
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  too.
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  I could take the shortcut.
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  But they don't realize that the shortcut is
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  actually going to cause others more pain and
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  discomfort.
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  And it will also cause themselves more pain
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  and discomfort.
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  Because it looks great on the other side
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  of the fence.
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  The grass is always greener on the other
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  side of the fence.
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  But really, grass isn't any greener.
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  It's really just a perception.
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  But it always seems like the grass is
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  greener on the other side.
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  Number 18, guys.
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  Don't quit early.
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  Don't go home early.
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  Many people stop just before they would have
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  experienced a breakthrough.
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  I've said this before, guys.
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  The only difference between success and non-success
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  is successful people have just learned to hang
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  on a little bit longer.
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  That's it, guys.
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  That's it.
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  Difficult moments often make success feel farther away
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  than it really is.
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  Stay committed.
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  Because, you see, persistence frequently rewards those who
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  refuse to quit.
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  Okay?
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  I'm not talking about ‑‑ I'm not talking
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  like about a pause.
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  I'm talking about something whereby you're quitting and
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  you're not coming back.
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  I think that's a very important thing.
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  Persistence changes outcomes.
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  Success is rarely determined by talent.
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  Rarely by talent alone.
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  It often belongs to those who continue working
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  after others have stopped.
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  Persistence transforms possibility into reality.
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  I think that's an important thing to know
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  that our belief is all we need to
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  create the reality.
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  That's it, guys.
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  Our belief.
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  That's all we need to do to create
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  the reality.
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  Number 20, guys.
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  Face discomfort.
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  Growth lives beyond your comfort zone.
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  Every uncomfortable conversation, new experience, or difficult challenge
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  expands your capacity for future success in new
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  horizons.
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  Temporary discomfort creates lasting confidence.
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  So we've got to be willing to have
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  a little bit of discomfort so we can
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  have some joy later on.
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  I think that's a big one.
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  Number 21, stay focused.
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  Distractions appear whenever you're making meaningful progress.
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  Keeping your attention on your purpose prevents temporary
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  obstacles from becoming permanent detours.
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  Focus protects momentum.
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  All right?
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  I'm not going to tell you momentum is
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  easy.
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  But once you get it going, guys, it's
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  like, oh, wow, I didn't know I could
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  do this.
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  I never knew that I could do this.
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  But you can do it when you believe
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  in yourself.
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  Number 22, guys, gets you right to that
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  point.
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  Believe in the process.
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  When you believe in something, it will work.
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  Your belief, your blind faith will build confidence
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  and will get it to work.
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  Not every day will produce visible results.
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  Sorry, guys.
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  Trust that your consistent effort is creating progress
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  beneath the surface, even when you cannot immediately
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  see it like the icebergs, right?
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  Great achievements are built through patience.
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  Number 23, guys, learn from the mistakes.
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  Okay?
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  Mistakes are valuable.
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  And they're teachers.
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  And they help you when you're willing to
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  study them.
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  Instead of dismissing them or hiding them, every
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  lesson learned improves your future decisions.
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  Failure becomes useful when it produces growth.
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  If we use failure as a tool, we
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  can say, wait a minute, this isn't working
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  for me, but I can figure this out,
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  or I can come from here, or I
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  can do this, or I can do that.
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  I think that's a very ‑‑ I think
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  that's an important piece, guys.
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  Very, very important piece.
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  Number 24, keep showing up.
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  Anybody say, well, gee, it's not working.
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  I'm telling you to keep showing up.
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  That's important.
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  Number 25, consistency separates those who dream from
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  those who achieve.
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  You need two things for success.
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  You need structure and you need consistency.
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  Without those, unfortunately, you're not going anywhere.
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  And if you achieve success once, there's no
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  reason to say it's going to happen again.
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  That might have just been luck.
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  To keep having success, you need structure and
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  you need consistency.
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  Okay?
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  Number 29, every day you continue moving forward
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  strengthens your resilience and your confidence, showing up
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  is often the hardest but most important step
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  in your life.
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  But it's often the one that many people
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  miss, and they miss it because of, you
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  know, what they're doing or, again, a perception.
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  They miss it because of that.
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  That's the whole reason that they miss it.
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  Number 25, progress over perfection.
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  Waiting for perfect conditions usually leads to an
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  action.
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  In other words, procrastination.
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  Small, consistent progress always outperforms perfect plans that
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  are never started.
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  Momentum is created through action, through action.
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  Number 26, stay disciplined, guys.
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  Discipline continues working long after motivation fades, which
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  it can based on your moods.
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  It keeps you moving when emotions change and
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  circumstances become difficult.
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  Long-term success depends on disciplined habits.
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  So build discipline early and you'll be happy
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  with your life.
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  Extremely happy.
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  Number 27, keep your vision alive.
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  Your vision gives meaning to today's effort.
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  When challenges arise, remembering your purpose from your
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  core values helps you continue moving toward your
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  goals.
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  Never lose sight of the future you're building.
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  Number 28, hard lessons from the seasons that
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  are frustrating, they end.
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  They end.
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  But you need to learn what those lessons
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  are.
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  You can throw away the emotional turmoil from
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  it, how you felt bad.
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  Learn the lessons so you don't do it
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  again, so you don't feel bad again.
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  Every storm eventually passes.
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  Difficult chapters prepare you for better ones that
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  are still ahead of you.
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  Hope grows when you remember that no season
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  lasts forever.
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  Number 29, strong people keep growing.
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  Strength is not measured by avoiding challenges, but
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  by continuing to learn from them.
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  Every obstacle provides another opportunity to become yet
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  wiser, stronger, and more resilient.
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  Growth never truly ends.
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  We're always learning in life.
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  Number 30, resilience always pays off.
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  Every difficult season leaves you stronger than ever
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  before, if you choose to keep growing.
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  That means you have to learn the lesson,
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  okay?
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  That's key.
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  The resilience you build today becomes the confidence
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  you rely on tomorrow.
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  Never, never, never underestimate the value of refusing
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  to give up.
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  I'm not saying you can't take a rest.
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  I didn't say that.
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  Giving up means you're not going back anymore.
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  That's not taking a rest.
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  That means you've closed your book.
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  You're not doing it anymore.
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  I've had people before that I've worked with,
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  and they get frustrated.
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  And I try to comfort them and let
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  them know that you're not alone.
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  And you may not be happy with the
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  way this is, but this is the process.
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  As I get ready to close the show
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  out today, and as I conclude with the
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  episode, remember that resilience is not about avoiding
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  hardship.
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  No.
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  It is, however, about becoming stronger because of
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  it.
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  Every challenge you face, every obstacle you overcome,
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  and every lesson you learn is shaping the
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  person you're becoming.
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  While difficult seasons may test your patience many
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  times, they also will help you to develop
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  your character, strengthen your confidence, and prepare you
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  for opportunities that could never have existed without
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  the journey.
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  Now, what I want to say to you
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  is that what you do in private eventually
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  filters to your public life.
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  When people see how you are, okay, that's
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  one thing, right?
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  But if they see how you are outside
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  of a crowd, they see your true character
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  when you're not trying to be on stage.
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  Don't ever measure your progress only by what
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  you accomplish.
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  Please measure it by who you're becoming along
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  the way.
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  And another important point, ladies and gentlemen, I
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  ask you to please continue focusing on what
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  you can control.
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  Keep learning from every experience.
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  Stay disciplined in your daily actions.
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  And remember, ladies and gentlemen, never, never, never
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  allow temporary setbacks to convince you that your
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  future has been already decided for you.
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  Thank you so much for joining me for
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  another amazing episode of Inspirations for Your Life.
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  I am John Seymour, ladies, serial entrepreneur, engineer,
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  marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote
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  speaker, graduate student at Montclair State University, passionate
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  lifelong learner, and so grateful now to be
• 27:45
  a published author of Dream to Driven.
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  Until next time, remember that the strongest people
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  aren't the ones who never struggle.
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  They're the ones who continue moving forward through
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  every season with courage, resilience, and hope.
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  Keep believing in your potential.
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  Keep growing through every challenge.
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  And never forget that your greatest strength is
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  often being built when life is asking the
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  most of you.
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  Stay inspired, stay resilient, and I'll see you
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  in our next episode.
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  Check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of my
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  amazing inspiring creations.
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  Take care, everyone.