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5 Things you need to know about the Narcissists new supply · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time seeing my
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  face or hearing my lovely voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and he's my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into Deborah P like
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  myself, and also validate the victims, survivors and thrivers.
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  I've said disorders said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about 5 things.
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  About the narcissist, new supply, new relationship
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  partner, what are you going to call them?
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  New he then whatever y'all whatever name y'all got for.
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  But yeah, narcissistic, toxic people and the narcissist new
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  supply. Five things about the narcissist
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  new supply. Y'all.
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  So the first thing about the new supply that you might want to
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  know is sometimes they just serve as a placeholder, like we
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  all know or most people would know that narcissists don't like
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  being by themselves, we just don't like.
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  There's something narcissistic people like the the the
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  consensus would say that most people will understand that
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  narcissists don't like being by themselves.
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  So if if that's the when that when that's the case when the
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  narcissist doesn't like being by themselves, you see how it would
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  make sense for that narcissistic person or that toxic person to
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  just need to move on quickly to find somebody else until they
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  can get you back in their life. You see what I'm saying?
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  They don't ever fully let you go.
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  They cheat. They like if you kick them out
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  or you break up with them or whatever and they move on
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  quickly. It doesn't mean that they're in
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  love with the new person. Y'all.
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  Sometimes they still want to get back to you, but they don't want
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  to be by themselves. So they just might.
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  They might try to hide the new supply.
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  You see what I'm saying? There's some other stuff coming
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  up here pretty soon. But sometimes the new supply is
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  just a placeholder. They literally just are with
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  them. So they don't.
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  They don't have to be by themselves.
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  And sometimes if you got the real bummy narcissist, they
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  would a new supply that just lets them move in and live with
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  them very quickly or whatever it is the situation is, get a get
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  get the cheeks up quickly or get the cheeks, whatever it is.
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  Yeah, in this situation, sometimes the new supply is
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  literally just a placeholder. That's how it goes in these
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  spaces right here. Like they become placeholders
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  and what not. And that's how I mean that's
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  that's what it is. They serve a placeholders to so
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  the narcissist can try to get you back.
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  So if the narcissist does successfully get you back and
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  has a placeholder new supply, the new supply is still a
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  placeholder y'all the new supply.
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  They don't necessarily. Just because they get you back
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  doesn't mean that they don't let the new supply go, because
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  sometimes you will be the placeholder.
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  You see what I'm saying? Back and forth, back and forth,
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  back and forth. You'll be the placeholder in
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  this situation right here. So you have to cut that or break
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  that out right there. Y'all the number two thing about
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  the narcissist new supply is sometimes y'all they might not
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  know about you. Surprise, it's crazy.
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  Sometimes the narcissist new supply doesn't know you exist.
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  They don't know anything about you as the main supply, the the,
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  the, the spouse, the relationship partner.
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  They don't know anything about you.
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  You know what I'm saying? Because a lot of narcissists
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  y'all like to lie. They like to hide their true
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  selves. They like to create these
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  concoct these new stories or these new lives and these new
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  lives in order to have a double, they be living double, triple
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  lives, lives, lives, They live double lives.
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  And I was just like, what am I saying?
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  Yeah, so the new supply they hide, did they hide you from the
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  new supply? The new supply doesn't know
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  about you sometimes. Y'all.
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  And this is not me trying to justify anything.
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  I'm just saying the new supply doesn't always know.
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  I talked to a woman today. Well, not today.
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  A couple days ago. Talked to her a couple days ago.
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  She's like she she just happened to go through her partner's
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  phone and saw that he was messaging another woman.
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  She called another woman. And the woman was like, who are
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  you? He's married.
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  What? No.
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  And she's sending the screenshots and all kinds of
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  stuff. Where he was, the dude was
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  lying. Like he hit lying his ass off
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  saying he wasn't married. He or he had been divorced for
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  years. He was living with his, he was
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  living with a roommate. Y'all.
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  The new supply doesn't always know that you exist.
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  And then again, I'm not trying to justify anything or the
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  behaviors of what you should do next.
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  I'm just saying. Or you should.
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  I'm not saying you should forgive the narcissists either
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  because they lied about you existing, you know they hid it
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  from your double, triple life. But sometimes the narcissists
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  new supply doesn't know that you exist.
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  It's just then it's just how it goes.
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  I'm not right there. Y'all #3 the number three thing
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  is warning. Warning the new supply might not
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  help your case out. Y'all because sometimes being
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  realistic, warning them like you can you can share all the
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  information that you have available like even if they
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  don't know about you, even if they are placeholder warning
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  them might not change their mind.
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  Y'all warning them might just like put them on a high alert
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  that you still want them back. So some of the nurses, the new
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  supply thinks that you because you warned them you just want
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  them to break up with them or leave them alone so you can have
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  them to yourself. You see how that works right
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  there. They think you just want them
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  back so they're just like they going to stay.
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  They they dig their trenches in harder.
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  So warning the narcissist new supply might actually make them
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  dig their roots in harder in their relationship.
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  Because guess what y'all. Sometimes the Narciss has told
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  them about you. Sometimes the narcissist has
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  already painted this picture about you being horrible, or you
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  being manipulative, or you being toxic, or you being aggressive,
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  or you being just who you are. You see what I'm saying?
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  They paint this picture of you being a horrible person or you
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  being crazy. They tell, oh, I'm not.
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  I'm married, but my wife don't treat me good.
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  You know what? I've been married for some long,
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  a long time. Maybe my me and my husband are
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  disconnected. They lie.
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  I mean, it's like y'all the nurses, the nurses be lying.
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  Maybe they be prepping new supplies and then they prep
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  them. They prep them, they prep, they
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  prep them for toxic surgery. That's what they'll be doing
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  sometime. They prep them for this toxicity
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  sometimes in this place right there, but that happens a lot of
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  times. Y'all the nurses warning them
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  might not help. Warning them might make things
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  worse and put them on high alert and warning them.
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  This is the crazy thing about how this happens to y'all
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  warning them because sometimes put you in actual danger.
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  Not because the new supply is going to hurt you, but because
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  the the new supply might tell your partner.
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  And then your partner comes back and your ex partner or current
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  partner, whatever they are, they come back and try to harm you
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  for for ruining their what they had going on.
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  They get angry and rage out on you for trying to ruin what they
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  have going on on the side. Which sounds horrible but it
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  happens. Y'all I promise you it happens.
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  It's toxic as hell is terrible, but it does happen #4 sometimes.
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  The new supply, Guess what? Knows about you.
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  They know exactly about you, that they know about you and
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  they don't care. They think they're better than
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  you. They sometimes the new supply
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  knows about you, knows you exist, knows everything.
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  They they might be your friend. The new supply might be your
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  friend or your family member that knows they absolutely knows
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  about you. They absolutely knows that you
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  exist. They absolutely, absolutely
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  knows who you are. They just think they're more
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  qualified for this person or they deserve this person more
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  than you are. They might just think they're
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  better than you. They might absolutely just feel
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  like that they are better than you in every single way.
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  They're more qualified to handle this person, no matter if this
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  is your best friend in the world.
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  Y'all and you, they've they've seen you be abused.
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  They've seen you get cheated on. They seen you get black eyes.
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  They're cheating with the person.
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  They're cheating. They they're helping the person
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  to cheat on you. They seen you with black eyes.
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  They seen you get stolen from. They seen you get treated badly.
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  But somehow, in some, somehow in their mind, they convinced
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  themselves that like, look, I'm better than they are, you know
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  I'm better than you. I deserve.
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  Or they deserve this person more.
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  They can treat them better, like it won't happen to me.
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  That's what their mindset I'm so much better than you that this
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  won't happen to me. That's what happens that that's
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  what goes on sometimes. Y'all, I'm so much better than
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  you that I know this won't happen to me.
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  This what happens on this Because I said this could
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  absolutely be your friend, this could absolutely be your family
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  member that is just got y'all. And they also might be a
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  narcissist. They might also be narcissistic
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  themselves or toxic themselves. So it's not just the narcissist
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  being toxic in here. You got two narcissists against
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  you now you know what I mean? But yeah, so #5 y'all, just
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  because the narcissist moves on to this person doesn't mean that
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  they are better than you. That the new supply, it's being
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  love bombed. It doesn't mean because they
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  moved on to somebody else. It doesn't mean that they are
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  better than you. Doesn't mean that they treat
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  them better than you. It doesn't mean that a person is
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  overall. It doesn't mean that they're
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  changing for the new supply. Y'all we all know.
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  Or if you knew here, the cycle of narcissistic toxic
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  relationships or narcissistic toxic abuse goes.
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  Love bombing, I love bombing, Devalue, discard.
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  Maybe a Hoover. You see what I'm saying?
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  Love bombing. So when you're seeing them treat
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  the new supply better than they treated you.
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  Or giving the new supply everything that you ask for.
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  Or doing or hugging them, kissing them with the new
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  supply, doing whatever, you know, doing all this other
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  stuff. They are love bombing the new
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  supply. You see what I'm saying?
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  They're love bombing the new relationship partner.
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  You're witnessing the love bombing phase.
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  Y'all is it. This is the mindset right here.
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  Just because the narcissist moved on to new supply, it
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  doesn't mean like the grass is greener on the other side of the
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  fence. Sometimes y'all it's just
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  different grass. You see what I'm saying?
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  You can Kentucky blue and that's crabgrass.
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  Whatever. I don't know grass type.
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  Y'alls if y'all some grass grass experts, what's good grass?
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  What's mad grass? What's high quality?
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  What's low quality? You see what I'm saying?
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  You or Kentucky blue? I just know that from I think
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  liar liar. No, no, no phone with Dick and
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  Jane. Whatever grass they had they got
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  repossessed that you or that type of grass.
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  And the narcissists do supply something else, but you're
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  seeing the love by me face. And also y'all.
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  Longevity does not mean happiness.
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  Longevity does not mean just because the relationship has
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  went on for a long time doesn't mean it's a good relationship.
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  I think a lot of people get that twisted up right there, like,
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  oh, they've been together for a long time, so they must be happy
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  that that does not. That does not mean that those
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  two things does not have to be mutually inclusive.
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  You see what I'm saying? That's a that's the mindset of
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  it all. Just because you they're
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  treating a new person better doesn't mean that they're you
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  are a worse person. You mean doesn't mean you
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  deserve less. You know what I mean?
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  So I hope this these five lists if I miss something about the
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  new supply add in the comment section.
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  What you think I miss? You know what I mean?
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  I can do another like this can be first five.
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  I can do the second five. You know what I mean?
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  Give me five more things by the narcissist's new supply because
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  like I say, I'm yeah, I don't know everything.
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  I am still learning too. You know what I mean?
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