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73. Set Clear Goals and Reach Them in 2023 · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

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  Kathie Owen: Do you have a definite chief aim?
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  Kathie Owen: And do you check in with that goal daily?
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  Kathie Owen: If not, you are not alone.
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  Kathie Owen: But today we are going to discuss the importance of a definite chief aim.
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  Kathie Owen: Did you know that everything you do in life can relate to that one single goal?
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  Kathie Owen: We'll discuss that and what happens when you're absolutely sure of your definite chief aim and exactly how everything else falls into place.
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  Kathie Owen: Oftentimes we wonder aimlessly without a definite chief aim.
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  Kathie Owen: When this happens, doubt, fear, and indecision creep in and we feel lost.
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  Kathie Owen: Don't worry because we are going to discuss this today and even find a way to get your own definite chief aim template and stick around to the end because I have a bonus for you.
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  Kathie Owen: Seven ideas for inner goal examples.
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  Kathie Owen: You're listening to the Stop the Mind Screw Podcast I'm your host, Kathie Owen.
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  Kathie Owen: I have been a certified fitness trainer and certified life coach since 2002.
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  Kathie Owen: On this channel, we talk about fitness, having a growth mindset, habits, and even some reality trans surfing.
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  Kathie Owen: Today we are discussing your definite chief aim and seven types of inner goals.
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  Kathie Owen: Let's get into the episode.
• 1:23
  Kathie Owen: What exactly is a definite chief aim Kathie?
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  Kathie Owen: I'm so glad you asked.
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  Kathie Owen: It is defined as a specific, clearly defined statement of purpose.
• 1:36
  Kathie Owen: Purpose is the key word here.
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  Kathie Owen: It is a single goal statement.
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  Kathie Owen: It has the power to guide your subconscious mind.
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  Kathie Owen: It transforms your attitude from pessimism into positive expectation.
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  Kathie Owen: You may have heard the term from the book Think and Grow Rich, which isn't all about money, by the way, just saying it is all about personal development.
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  Kathie Owen: When setting goals, both inner goals and outer goals, we must define our definite chief aim.
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  Kathie Owen: First and foremost, I like to call it a single goal statement.
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  Kathie Owen: What if you start thinking that every single thing that happens in your life contributes to that single goal statement, Even washing the dishes or taking out the trash, but it really is the best way.
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  Kathie Owen: It is typical human behavior to set vague goals.
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  Kathie Owen: Look at how many New Year's resolutions have set and yet they never come to pass.
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  Kathie Owen: Let's learn how to write that definite chief aim or main inner goal statement that isn't vague and according to the king himself, Napoleon Hill, and from the book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill writes these exact words.
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  Kathie Owen: I earn X amount of dollars, which will show up in various amounts from time to time during the interim.
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  Kathie Owen: In return for this money, I will give the most efficient service of which I am capable, rendering the fullest possible quantity, and the best possible quality of service in the capacity.
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  Kathie Owen: Of an entrepreneur or describe the service or merchandise you intend to offer.
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  Kathie Owen: I believe that I will have this money in my possession.
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  Kathie Owen: My faith is so strong that I can now see this money before my eyes.
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  Kathie Owen: I can touch it with my hands.
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  Kathie Owen: It is now a awaiting transfer to me at the time, and in the proportion that I deliver this service, I intend to render in return for it.
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  Kathie Owen: I'm awaiting a plan by which.
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  Kathie Owen: To accumulate this money, and I will follow that plan when it is received.
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  Kathie Owen: So write your definite chief, aim down and keep it handy for daily reference.
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  Kathie Owen: The important thing to note here is to look at this main goal often.
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  Kathie Owen: You know, so you can feel your goals.
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  Kathie Owen: I did an episode on feeling your Goals, and I'll link it in the show notes and the description.
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  Kathie Owen: I did this very thing that.
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  Kathie Owen: Napoleon Hill is talking about, and I did it in my notion page called Dream Big.
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  Kathie Owen: Guess what?
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  Kathie Owen: I'm constantly having to update this content because it keeps getting bigger and bigger.
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  Kathie Owen: Notion gives me easy access to this, this dream, especially when the outer world may be showing me something different.
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  Kathie Owen: Trust me, this is even contributing to your mental health.
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  Kathie Owen: You will find your true self and definitely know you are headed in the right direction, even when things seem to be falling apart.
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  Kathie Owen: The first step comes from the book, The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles written and published in 1910.
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  Kathie Owen: I love those older publications.
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  Kathie Owen: They're so full of wisdom.
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  Kathie Owen: Let's reflect on some of Wallace Wattles discussions.
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  Kathie Owen: He says this quote,"As you go on in these certain way, opportunities will come to you in increasing number and you will need to be very steady in your faith and purpose and keep in close touch with all mind.
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  Kathie Owen: by reverent gratitude." Wallace Wattles.
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  Kathie Owen: Faith and purpose are key words here.
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  Kathie Owen: Please remember that.
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  Kathie Owen: We are a product of what we have been thinking in the past.
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  Kathie Owen: So if things are a little crooked right now, we must have faith and purpose to keep us on the right path.
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  Kathie Owen: How does one do that?
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  Kathie Owen: When I first set out all my journey of setting this definite chief aim, my purpose was off.
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  Kathie Owen: I kept thinking that I needed to join a coaching program and I, so I did.
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  Kathie Owen: I thought because Amy Porterfield was such a big name and such a great marketer, that she would be a great coach.
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  Kathie Owen: It turned out her marketing style led me down a path that was not an alignment with my purpose.
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  Kathie Owen: She has what I call a lot of.
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  Kathie Owen: Um, fake content.
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  Kathie Owen: She markets to make money.
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  Kathie Owen: It was blatantly obvious in the program, and I can give you several instances of this, but that is not what this episode is about.
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  Kathie Owen: I came to the realization for the first time while reading the book, Big Magic by Liz Gilbert.
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  Kathie Owen: She's the famous author of the book, Eat, Pray, Love, and she says, and I quote,"Don't let the lie that you need to make money from your need to make a living from your vocation sabotage you from achieving your life's calling." I'm gonna read that again, or say that again.
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  Kathie Owen: "Don't let the lie that you need to make money from your need to make your living from your vocation, sabotage you from achieving your life's calling." When I heard this, I was like, Oh, my passion is to get my message of fitness education, having a growth mindset, building he healthy habits, and my passion is to teach others about habits so I can instill in them all of this fitness knowledge in my head.
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  Kathie Owen: When I shifted my perspective from marketing for money to marketing as a magnet for my message, everything shifted.
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  Kathie Owen: This was an important step in the process.
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  Kathie Owen: Remember, faith and purpose.
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  Kathie Owen: Let's discuss being present and doing today.
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  Kathie Owen: Do today's work well.
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  Kathie Owen: Leave yesterday behind.
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  Kathie Owen: Do not bother as to whether yesterday's work was well done or ill done.
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  Kathie Owen: Here's a quote from Wallace Wattles.
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  Kathie Owen: "Do not bother as to whether yesterday's work was well done.
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  Kathie Owen: Do today's work well." Wallace Wattles.
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  Kathie Owen: Keep your focus on today.
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  Kathie Owen: Not yesterday and not tomorrow.
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  Kathie Owen: Do today.
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  Kathie Owen: You know, I have an entrepreneur friend who claims to have adhd.
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  Kathie Owen: She actually says,"I am ADHD." Using those very words in her blog, and yes, she probably is.
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  Kathie Owen: In fact, I do not doubt she is adhd, just like I am a survivor of complex post-traumatic stress disorder.
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  Kathie Owen: But when she claims this, she is creating a negative mindset that will have negative consequences.
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  Kathie Owen: This is self destructive behavior and a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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  Kathie Owen: Our messages and content were were very similar, and that is why I bonded with her when I met her.
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  Kathie Owen: But she could not focus on one thing long enough to get it done.
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  Kathie Owen: She was focusing on tomorrow or the next day, and she even missed an important meeting with me because she was too busy paying attention to what needed to be done tomorrow.
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  Kathie Owen: While I do not have the solution for her adhd, I can tell you that focusing on tomorrow or the next thing is a major distraction and leads to a vicious cycle that will never end.
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  Kathie Owen: You know, like the victim victimizer cycle that I talk about all the time.
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  Kathie Owen: To get out of that cycle, your next step will be to focus set smart goals, make them specific.
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  Kathie Owen: Measurable, attainable, and time bound.
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  Kathie Owen: When you set your inner main goal using the smart goal method, it will be difficult for that negative mindset and self destructive behavior to set in.
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  Kathie Owen: Hold with faith and purpose, the vision of yourself in the better environment, but act upon your present environment with all your heart and with all your strength and with all your mind." Wallace Wattles.
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  Kathie Owen: I often wonder what if that friend held with faith and purpose, the vision she had originally set for herself, if this concept would help her.
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  Kathie Owen: Where would she be today?
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  Kathie Owen: Act upon your present environment with all your heart strength and mind.
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  Kathie Owen: Watch your world transform in magic fashion.
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  Kathie Owen: See, I told you that the main goal would present opportunities at every corner, including those interruptions.
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  Kathie Owen: Start where you are, right now.
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  Kathie Owen: Begin to do what you can do where you are, and you must do all that you can do where you are.
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  Kathie Owen: During the pandemic, I had to work in operations cleaning the stairs, and this was not ideal, but I gave it my all.
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  Kathie Owen: I let it contribute to my main goal because it was actually contributing.
• 11:36
  Kathie Owen: It was my new workout for the day, and I even used it as an opportunity to focus on a new podcast.
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  Kathie Owen: Do all you can in a perfect manner." another Wallace Wattles quote.
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  Kathie Owen: Do all that you can and do it in a perfect manner every day, but do it without haste, worry or fear.
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  Kathie Owen: Go as fast as you can, but never hurry.
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  Kathie Owen: We all have things to do in our day to day lives.
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  Kathie Owen: When you do it all in a perfect manner everything falls into place.
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  Kathie Owen: You know, I, I don't necessarily like the word perfect because it's not gonna be perfect.
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  Kathie Owen: Just do it.
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  Kathie Owen: The action itself will melt procrastination.
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  Kathie Owen: Oh wait, I always say that.
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  Kathie Owen: Just slow down a little bit and do the action and the best you can every day.
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  Kathie Owen: When I first started recording my episodes from, um, a mind map, I was having difficulty.
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  Kathie Owen: I was encountering different struggles, and I remember saying in one of my episodes, that done is better than perfect.
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  Kathie Owen: And eventually you use those as building blocks and they keep helping you move along better and better every time.
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  Kathie Owen: Do 1% better today than yesterday, and you will find yourself building on that.
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  Kathie Owen: If you just get your focus and your purpose down and your faith, it will make a huge difference.
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  Kathie Owen: So think of brushing your teeth every day.
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  Kathie Owen: You do this right, I hope so.
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  Kathie Owen: When you do it in a perfect manner, it spills over into your day.
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  Kathie Owen: Like a keystone habit.
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  Kathie Owen: We talked about keystone habits last week, and I'll have a link in the show notes and description, Keynote, keynote keystone habits, spill over to other things, and then things fall into place without haste, worry, or fear.
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  Kathie Owen: Imagine how easy those difficult choices become when doing little things in a perfect manner.
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  Kathie Owen: Or better than that.
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  Kathie Owen: Done is better than perfect.
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  Kathie Owen: When looking to write the main goal, you wanna ask yourself the following question aligned with each goal.
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  Kathie Owen: Dig deep and find the intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation for all the different types of goals.
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  Kathie Owen: A good way to do this is to tie each of your goals to a hobby.
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  Kathie Owen: It helps.
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  Kathie Owen: With the habit that you are trying to establish, and it helps you see that you do in fact have the necessary skills to achieve those goals.
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  Kathie Owen: Ask yourself the following question for each goal.
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  Kathie Owen: What are your core values?
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  Kathie Owen: Your core values are traits or qualities that are not just worthwhile.
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  Kathie Owen: They represent your highest priorities, deeply held beliefs and core fundamental driving forces.
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  Kathie Owen: They are the heart of what you.
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  Kathie Owen: As a life coach, I always try to pull someone's core values out first before doing any type of goal setting process.
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  Kathie Owen: For obvious reasons too, these limiting beliefs represent your highest priorities and deeply held beliefs and driving forces.
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  Kathie Owen: Oftentimes, we identify limiting beliefs in the process.
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  Kathie Owen: Here are the main types of inner goals I told you about as the bonus for this episode, and here are some ways of adding them to your definite chief aim.
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  Kathie Owen: There are seven goal examples.
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  Kathie Owen: Number one is career goals.
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  Kathie Owen: What are the character traits that you want to achieve for your professional goals?
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  Kathie Owen: Do you need formal education?
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  Kathie Owen: How about personal development goals?
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  Kathie Owen: This is identity based change.
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  Kathie Owen: Picture the skills you need to learn.
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  Kathie Owen: Picture the identity you need to become and start making that shift.
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  Kathie Owen: Number two, spiritual goals.
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  Kathie Owen: When you know your spiritual goals, you see how your inner self can help you attain your highest possible self.
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  Kathie Owen: The good news is this is an important factor in finding your true self, your inner world as a reflection of your outer world.
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  Kathie Owen: Your spiritual goals will also take you a long way on this personal growth journey of setting goals in general.
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  Kathie Owen: Number three, financial goals.
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  Kathie Owen: Obviously these are important when setting your definite chief aim, but did you know that so many of us neglect to state what dollar amount we want?
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  Kathie Owen: You know those x's in the definite chief aim we talked about at the beginning of the episode.
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  Kathie Owen: This could be another limiting belief as well.
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  Kathie Owen: See, I told you core values were important.
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  Kathie Owen: Start thinking about this.
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  Kathie Owen: Leave that comfort zone and set a clear dollar amount that is high but achievable.
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  Kathie Owen: Try it.
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  Kathie Owen: You might just find that your dream big page in your notion journal has to change often.
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  Kathie Owen: Social goals.
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  Kathie Owen: I have a friend who recently joined a Bible study group.
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  Kathie Owen: She had to make herself go to her first meeting.
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  Kathie Owen: Much to her surprise, every other person in the group had the same problem.
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  Kathie Owen: We all have busy lives and making time to not only set goals for ourselves, but actually take the steps to do them can come across as difficult.
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  Kathie Owen: Oftentimes this sets us up for huge success.
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  Kathie Owen: Why?
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  Kathie Owen: Well, my friend found that the Bible study Group helped her establish a keystone habit.
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  Kathie Owen: That habit spilled over into other areas of her life and helped all of her goals.
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  Kathie Owen: I told you everything contributes to your main goal.
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  Kathie Owen: Even the so called bad stuff.
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  Kathie Owen: Family goals number five.
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  Kathie Owen: For most of us, our families are the most important thing in our lives.
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  Kathie Owen: It is easy to set family goals, but we do need to work at our jobs.
• 18:09
  Kathie Owen: We need to earn money to maintain the lifestyle we want our families to live.
• 18:14
  Kathie Owen: But important part of setting family goals is the example it sets for our family.
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  Kathie Owen: When you set clear goals and actually know the real reason core values, why you are doing the things you do, purpose.
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  Kathie Owen: You are more confident, established, and well rounded, and maybe you tell the family what you are doing, the personal relationships you have with your family members are they most important in your world.
• 18:47
  Kathie Owen: Why not make sure those goals you set to reach a deeper level and make you a better person for yourself and your family.
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  Kathie Owen: Number six, intellectual goals.
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  Kathie Owen: I always say this, If you are not learning, you are dying.
• 19:03
  Kathie Owen: I think that's funny.
• 19:05
  Kathie Owen: I am not sure who said this, but it is so true.
• 19:08
  Kathie Owen: Learn something new every single day and ask yourself, How can I do that?
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  Kathie Owen: Well, here's some examples.
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  Kathie Owen: Watch Ted.
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  Kathie Owen: Ted Talks.
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  Kathie Owen: It's called Ted Ed.
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  Kathie Owen: Read 10 pages of a great book daily Follow your curiosity.
• 19:26
  Kathie Owen: Take what I call artist date.
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  Kathie Owen: This is from the book The Artist Way by Julia Cameron.
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  Kathie Owen: And an artist date is where you just go and do something creative out of your comfort zone and you will be surprised what comes from those.
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  Kathie Owen: They're just amazing.
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  Kathie Owen: Build your vocabulary.
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  Kathie Owen: Learn a new word every day.
• 19:52
  Kathie Owen: Encourage yourself with good job and things like that.
• 19:57
  Kathie Owen: Celebrate those small wins.
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  Kathie Owen: Listen to a new podcast channel or a new YouTube channel.
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  Kathie Owen: Those are just some great ways to start learning something new every single day.
• 20:13
  Kathie Owen: And number seven.
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  Kathie Owen: Physical fitness, nutrition, and wellness goals.
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  Kathie Owen: Last but certainly not least, it is important to maintain our physical health.
• 20:23
  Kathie Owen: We do so by taking care of our fitness, eating well, and maintaining our health and wellness by making good choices.
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  Kathie Owen: Honestly, our health goals are probably the most important of all.
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  Kathie Owen: If you are not healthy, it will spill over into all areas of your.
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  Kathie Owen: I remember one time my ADHD friend was take talking during one of our important meetings about having some kind of reaction to msg.
• 20:51
  Kathie Owen: That's a spice in so many foods nowadays.
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  Kathie Owen: She spent so much time talking about this problem that there was no time to discuss the benefits I could have relayed to her in the first place.
• 21:03
  Kathie Owen: As human beings, we focus on external circumstances or that dang negativity bias that I talk about all the time, that we miss the forest for the trees, do the inner work, and find different ways to approach situations.
• 21:19
  Kathie Owen: This perspective gives meaning to your whole life.
• 21:24
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• 21:25
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• 21:27
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• 21:34
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• 21:41
  Kathie Owen: Bonus content from Kathie's Coaching include a mental diet resource guide and a definite chief aim template like we're talking about today and even more.
• 21:53
  Kathie Owen: You can find this at www.kathieowen.com/ fitness or the link to the article that goes with this episode today.
• 22:05
  Kathie Owen: It will be in the show notes and the description.
• 22:08
  Kathie Owen: I sure hope to see you there.
• 22:11
  Kathie Owen: In closing, do you want inner joy?
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  Kathie Owen: A better job?
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  Kathie Owen: The feeling of fulfillment daily to live your life to the fullest potential with the right growth mindset.
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  Kathie Owen: And I know you want this feeling to last a long time.
• 22:27
  Kathie Owen: Take all the steps listed to write and feel your definite chief aim.
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  Kathie Owen: Hold it in your pocket and close to your heart.
• 22:35
  Kathie Owen: Look at it daily and set those long term goals.
• 22:38
  Kathie Owen: Set big goals, dream big, and watch your life change in a great way.
• 22:45
  Kathie Owen: I can't wait to see what you do with this.
• 22:49
  Kathie Owen: If you know someone who can benefit from this episode, please share it with them, and until next time, I'll see you next time.
• 22:56
  Kathie Owen: Peace out and Namaste.