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What's REALLY Holding You BACK? The TRUTH You Keep Avoiding! (S5) S42:E1 Saturday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Now guys, without any further ado, you know
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So let's get to it.
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All right, everyone, again, a big welcome.
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So what's really holding you back?
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The truth you keep avoiding, series five, show
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42, episode number one, it's Saturday.
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Welcome to the ever popular inspirations for your
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life show.
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I'm John Seymour, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist,
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video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, passionate
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lifelong learner, graduate student at Montclair State University,
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and so grateful now to be a published
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author.
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Today I begin a new week.
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Stop waiting for a sign.
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Your freedom starts with action.
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But before that, you can understand and break
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free.
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You need to recognize what's holding you back
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at this moment.
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Some barriers are obvious.
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Others hide in familiar routines, old stories, and
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in the way we talk to ourselves.
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We're exploring 30 ideas today.
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Listen for the one that sounds like you.
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Number one, yes.
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Number one, I think is a very important
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thing, and that is that recognizing that not
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every limitation is visible to our naked eyes.
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You can have an option to see an
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open door in front of you and still
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feel unable to walk through it.
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Ask what's stopping you at this very moment.
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Number two, some of your strongest barriers exist
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in your thinking.
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A belief like you're not ready can become
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a well, even when you have the skills
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to begin.
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Number three, guys, stop confusing familiar patterns with
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healthy ones.
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Just because you've done something for years doesn't
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mean it's helping you grow.
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And I think a lot of people, you
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know, they get tied in that phase, like,
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oh, my gosh, what am I going to
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do?
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What can I do now?
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That's a big problem for a lot of
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people.
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They don't realize that even though they're stuck,
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they made themselves stuck.
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And they're the choice of whether they're going
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to stay stuck or get unstuck.
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So we really have to understand that.
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Number four, guys, identify early what repeatedly makes
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you hesitate in life.
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Is it uncertainty?
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Is it embarrassment?
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Or is it fear of making the wrong
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decision?
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And what's fear?
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False evidence appearing real.
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Give that hesitation a name, all right?
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Number five, ask whether fear is protecting you
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or restricting you.
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Most time we think it's protecting us, but
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really, it's actually restricting us.
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Fear can alert us to genuine danger.
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But it can also keep us from reasonable
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opportunities in life.
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I think that brings a lot of people
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to a point saying, like, I can't do
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this anymore.
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I don't know what to do.
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And it comes down to that whole question,
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right?
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It comes down to that whole big question.
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Number six, notice the excuses you keep repeating.
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I don't have time.
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Maybe true sometimes.
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Other times, it means you haven't made the
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goal a priority yet.
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Number seven, examine where you surrender control unnecessarily.
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You can't control every outcome, but you can
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choose your next response.
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Number eight, recognize when comfort has become confinement.
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A predictable routine can feel safe while quietly
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shrinking what you believe is possible.
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I think people don't understand that our beliefs
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become reality.
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Our thoughts become things, all right?
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It's not like it's going to happen tomorrow.
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Like, if you suddenly wish for an elephant
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to appear in your living room, that elephant's,
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there's a delay factor.
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You're not going to see the elephant right
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away.
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But our actions are going to move toward
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that when we keep thinking about it, right?
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Number eight, recognize when comfort has become a
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sentence of confinement.
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A predictable routine can feel safe while quietly
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shrinking what you believe is actually possible.
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Number nine, stop allowing yesterday's experiences to define
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tomorrow.
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A past disappointment is information, not a permanent
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prediction of your future and the trajectory of
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where you're going.
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Number 10, identify the beliefs you've accepted without
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questioning them.
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Who taught you what you supposedly can't do?
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Is that a belief still supported by facts?
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Or have you just taken on that belief
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because of some fallacy in your life?
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Number 11, guys, please notice whose expectations influence
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your decisions.
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Respect others?
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Absolutely.
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But don't let their preferences become the blueprint
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for your own life.
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Number 12, separate genuine responsibilities from imagined obligations.
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Some commitments are real.
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Others are pressures you've assumed without ever examining
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them.
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And I think that gets a lot of
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people stuck.
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Not because, again, they want to be stuck.
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But they get stuck because of something that
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has transpired in their life.
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Like, oh my gosh, what do I do?
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What do I say?
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And it's not hard, guys.
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It's just it's becoming aware.
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It's recognizing what's going on in your life.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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us to realize, that it's something in our
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lives.
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It's something that can really take us to
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another point.
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Number 12, separate genuine responsibilities from the imagined
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obligations that you seemingly now have.
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Some commitments are real.
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Others are pressures you've assumed without ever examining
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them.
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I think that's another important piece.
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Number 13, please recognize the difference between caution
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and avoidance.
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Caution helps you prepare.
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Avoidance keeps you planning forever without moving.
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It keeps you stuck.
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It keeps you in that procrastination zone where
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you never, ever do anything.
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You ever hear somebody say to you, oh,
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you know, I'll do it tomorrow or I'll
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get to it next week.
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But next week comes and then they keep
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changing what the heck they're doing.
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What's really going on?
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I mean, why do people lead themselves down
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this path?
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I can tell you.
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It's because they feel that they're doing something.
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And the mind says, OK, you're doing something
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or I'll leave you alone.
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But it's a trick to basically not do
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anything.
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Number 14, guys, pay attention to opportunities you
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consistently reject.
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Is the opportunity wrong for you?
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Or does it simply challenge the identity you've
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grown comfortable with?
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I think that's an important piece.
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Number 15, notice how self-doubt influences your
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choices.
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Doubt may speak loudly, OK, but volume doesn't
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make it accurate.
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Look for evidence of your capabilities.
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I think although we have the ability to
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think on our own, many people will, you
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know, suck up whatever they can find.
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And I think that's a very important piece
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that many people, I'm going to say, don't
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really understand.
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Not because they don't want to understand it,
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but because they feel this is the way
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to go.
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That's what they do.
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They feel it's the way to go.
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And that becomes a very, very big problem.
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I think that's a very important thing, guys,
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a very, very important thing.
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So number 16, stop treating temporary emotions as
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permanent truths.
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Feeling discouraged today doesn't mean you're incapable tomorrow.
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I want to go back to the story
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I've told many times about the elephant, the
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elephant that was a baby calf elephant.
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And the elephant was never able to break
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free from this little tiny metal rod and
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chain.
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It's because the elephant was chained to that
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when it was a baby calf.
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And then after a while, it just never
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tried again.
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And see, we do that with our minds.
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We don't try anymore.
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But we've grown.
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And now we can do the thing that
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we couldn't do before.
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Number 17, identify the environment that reinforces all
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behaviors.
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Your surroundings influence your choices.
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What could you rearrange to support better ones
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for you?
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I mean, is it a simple shift?
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Is it a pivot?
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What is it in your life?
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I think that could really change some things
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for you, right?
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That's important to know.
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But it does get people scared.
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Your surrounding influences your choices.
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And I said, what could you rearrange to
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support better ones?
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And don't lose sleep over this.
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But just ponder and say, wait, maybe there's
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something I could do differently.
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Maybe I could do something in a different
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order.
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Maybe I can cut something out of my
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life.
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These are the kinds of questions we want
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to be asking ourselves.
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And just do it very lightly, very easily.
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And you'll be like, wait a minute, this
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makes sense.
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It makes sense, OK?
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Think about that.
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Be kind to yourself.
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I can't say that enough.
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Number 18, recognize relationships that discourage healthy growth.
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Not everyone will understand your ambitions, your goals,
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your desires.
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Seek people who can challenge you respectfully and
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support your development.
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It's OK to agree to disagree.
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But don't be a jerk about it, right?
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You know, being kind may not always be
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easy.
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It is free, OK?
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So you can be kind.
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And it doesn't cost anything.
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It might require you to just get rid
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of your ego.
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That's important.
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It's important to understand.
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And I think sometimes people do something because
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they think it's going to be the right
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way.
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But really, it's not.
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And that's something that I think a lot
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of people just don't understand.
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They see something one way.
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And they don't change the way they think
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about it.
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They just feel that that's the only way.
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But that might not be the only way.
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There may be a better way.
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So seek people who can challenge you respectfully.
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And I know that's not something that's easy.
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You might stick around someone because they don't,
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because they give you basically a time that
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makes everything flow for you, even though they
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may not be the best for you.
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That's an important thing.
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So think about that for just a moment,
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OK?
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Think about what that means.
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Think about what that really means.
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And I can tell you that it's something
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that a lot of people today just get
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stuck on so much.
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And they get stuck on it because they
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don't know any other way to go.
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They don't know any other way to go.
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We don't know.
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They don't know any other way to go.
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And that may be a challenge for, again,
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a lot of people, a lot of people
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that want to be able to move forward,
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right?
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I think that's an important piece that maybe
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you're missing in your life.
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Number 19, notice where you keep asking for
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reassurance.
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Advice is useful, but asking the same question
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repeatedly may be a way to postpone responsibility.
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Maybe.
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Maybe.
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And you're saying, well, I only do it
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once in a while.
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Even if you do it repeatedly more than
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once or twice, you're in a pattern, guys,
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and that pattern is a problem.
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Think about that for a moment.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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us don't think about, right?
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Think about what that means to you.
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Think about what you could do.
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Think about how that affects you.
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Think about how that's gonna change you.
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I think some
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people don't understand like what this all means.
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And then they push themselves back to say,
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hey, what are we really doing?
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What are we really doing?
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And again, that can cause lots of problems
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for people.
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It's not meant to, but it does.
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It causes people to basically lose hope for
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what it is they're trying to do, losing
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hope for what it is they're trying to
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do.
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I think sometimes people like just don't necessarily
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get it.
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And I think if we just become aware
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of something, that alone will get us to
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a new point by noticing.
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As I said, advice is useful, but if
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we ask the same question repeatedly, we're just
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cleverly postponing our own accountability.
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Number 20, guys, understand that awareness is not
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the same as self-criticism.
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We're identifying patterns to improve our choices, not
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collecting reasons to feel bad about ourselves.
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Not everybody in this world is gonna like
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us, okay?
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And we're not here to change them, but
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I think it's important to know that awareness
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makes the difference.
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It makes the difference.
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And that's a very, very big difference for
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people if they could understand what that means
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or how that means something.
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But I know that some of you out
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there are saying, John, this can't be the
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way.
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You're sabotaging yourself by keeping you from the
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promised land.
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Number 21, guys, look for patterns instead of
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the isolated mistakes.
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One missed deadline is an event.
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Repeatedly missing deadlines may reveal a system that
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needs attention, a behavior that needs correcting, adjusting.
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Number 22, please recognize when you're waiting for
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permission.
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Sometimes no one is going to hand you
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a green light.
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You may need a choice to choose a
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responsible first step.
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Important, guys, very, very important.
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Number 23, ask what you would attempt without
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fear of judgment.
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Had a situation today with an event I
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was running and all of us were together
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on one side of the hayride.
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And these other two people that were in
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our group, instead of sitting with all of
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us, they went all the way to the
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far end of the hayride.
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And you know the funny reason why they
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did it?
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They did it because one of the people
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on our ride was a different skin color.
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I mean, that's crazy.
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What happened to inclusivity?
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Then we had other things we're doing, they
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took off and they didn't even come to
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lunch.
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I think before we throw a stone, we
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really need to look at ourself.
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Number 24, identify what staying stuck is costing
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you.
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Maybe it's not money, maybe it's relationships, maybe
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it's respect, reputation.
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Consider the lost time missed learning and the
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energy spent replaying the same doubts in your
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head over and over and over again.
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Number 25, stop minimizing your own potential.
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You don't need to claim you're capable of
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everything.
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You already are.
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Just stop dismissing what you could realistically learn.
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Number 26, understand that recognizing a problem creates
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options.
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When you can name the pattern, you could
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test a different response instead of repeating it
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automatically.
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Einstein said, doing the same thing over and
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over again, expecting results, what is that?
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That's insanity.
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None of us are intentionally insane.
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Number 27 guys, be willing to question your
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familiar story.
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That's how I am, might describe yesterday, but
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that doesn't have to dictate tomorrow.
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That's how it always goes.
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That's how I live.
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That's my personality.
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That's just the way it's gonna be.
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That's how I roll.
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That's how I live.
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You get the point.
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And we have to understand that, that phrase
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we tell ourselves can change.
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Number 28 guys, please, please, please accept responsibility
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without blaming yourself for everything around you.
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You aren't responsible for every obstacle, but you
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can still decide what to do next.
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Now today, I wasn't responsible for what these
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people did to the rest of the group
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and how rude they were.
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I needed to let go.
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Even though I wasn't happy with it, I
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needed to let go and I needed to
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let go of that energy.
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It's wasting energy to even think about it.
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But I wanted to share the lesson with
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you guys.
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Don't discriminate race, religion, color, orientation.
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Number 28, accept responsibility without blaming yourself for
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everything.
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You aren't responsible for every obstacle, but you
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can still decide what to do next.
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Number 29, name one pattern you're ready to
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change.
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Right this very moment.
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Make it specific, delaying difficult calls, seeking approval
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or abandoning goals when progress feels like it's
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slowed down or stopped.
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Number 30, remember ladies and gentlemen that awareness
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is the beginning of our own freedom.
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You don't have to fix your entire life
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today or even tomorrow.
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You need to see clearly enough to take
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one honest step at a time.
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You don't need to become an expert, but
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you do need to realize that the key
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to success is awareness.
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Does that hit home for you?
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I hope it does.
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So ladies and gentlemen, here is your Saturday
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challenge.
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Are you ready for it?
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Write down one, just one, recurring pattern that
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you notice, which may be limiting your own
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growth.
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Okay?
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Again, it's just one pattern.
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Importantly, gentlemen, do not, under any circumstances, judge
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yourself.
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Ask instead, what triggers it?
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What is this costing me?
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And what healthy responses could I practice next
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time?
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How can I adjust?
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Don't beat yourself up because you did it
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wrong or because it's not the way you
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want.
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That's not gonna solve the problem.
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That's just gonna drive you deeper into the
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hole.
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I think that's an important piece.
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But I don't expect everybody to become an
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expert on this overnight.
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It might take you days, might take you
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weeks, may take you months before you actually
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realize that, hey, wait a minute, I've actually
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got this.
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I understand this.
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I didn't realize that when I'm aware, my
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life changes.
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My life changes.
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Now, the reason why people don't wanna change
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is they're afraid that maybe they can't live
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up to that new change, that new responsibility,
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right?
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I think that's the hardest thing for a
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lot of people because they're afraid that it
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might not do what they want.
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And if it can't do what they want,
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they're gonna be like really, really sad.
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That's important, guys.
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That is important.
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So ask what triggers it.
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What's it costing you?
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And how do you do something different next
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time you could practice?
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So today, ladies and gentlemen, we recognized tomorrow
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we'll choose.
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On Monday, we're gonna break free.
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On Tuesday, we're gonna stand firm.
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On Wednesday, we're gonna trust.
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On Thursday, we'll rise again.
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And Friday, we'll live free.
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See, that's our journey this week.
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I wanted to share that up front so
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you kind of know what's coming.
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Ladies and gentlemen, if you do not know
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who I am, I am John Seymour.
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A serial entrepreneur, author, engineer, and so much
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more.
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And I thank you so very much for
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taking this time to spend with me and
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learn about something very precious, what's holding you
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back.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, you cannot change what
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you refuse to recognize.
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Let me say that again.
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You cannot change what you refuse to recognize.
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Stay driven, okay?
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Keep growing.
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And know that this is a process and
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it's not gonna happen overnight.
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And I'll see you guys on another show
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real soon.
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Be well, everyone, and take care.