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  Speaker 2: In a world that often feels disconnected, uncertain, and overwhelming,
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  Speaker 2: excuse my voice a little bit today. I've been sick
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  Speaker 2: for about ten twelve days and I'm happy to be
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  Speaker 2: back doing an episode for you and with you. And
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  Speaker 2: I notice my voice is a little scratchy, so welcome,
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the show. In a few days, this country
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  Speaker 2: will celebrate something we hold sacred freedom, independence, the right
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  Speaker 2: to stand on our own answer to no one except
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  Speaker 2: maybe our parents, declare ourselves whole and sovereign and free.
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  Speaker 2: Flags will go up, grills will fire up, fireworks will
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  Speaker 2: light the sky, and somewhere in all of that celebration
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  Speaker 2: us to pause and ask a question that doesn't usually
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  Speaker 2: come up over hot dogs and sparklers. What does freedom
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  Speaker 2: actually mean when it comes to love? Such a big question.
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  Speaker 2: So many people talk about this topic, and I'm so
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  Speaker 2: happy to be talking about this topic with you today.
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  Speaker 2: Be very curious to hear your thoughts, because here's something
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  Speaker 2: I've noticed in the twenty years of doing this work.
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  Speaker 2: Many of the people who struggle most in relationships aren't
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  Speaker 2: struggling because they don't value freedom. They're struggling because they're confused.
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  Speaker 2: They've confused freedom with distance, independence with isolation, self sufficient, sorry,
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  Speaker 2: self sufficiency with a wall around the heart. This Independence Day,
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  Speaker 2: which is coming up in a couple days, I want
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  Speaker 2: to talk about a different kind of freedom, not freedom
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  Speaker 2: from love, but freedom within love. Again. I'm Robin Vogel,
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  Speaker 2: this has come back to love. We are on km
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  Speaker 2: ET Radio and today a few days before we celebrate
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  Speaker 2: the freedom this country was built on. We're going to
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  Speaker 2: talk about what real freedom looks like in matters of
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  Speaker 2: the heart. Stay with me. Let's start with the country itself.
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  Speaker 2: The Declaration of Independent Independence wasn't a declaration that says
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  Speaker 2: we want to be alone. It was a declaration that
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  Speaker 2: says we want to govern ourselves together in community, with
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  Speaker 2: our own values accountable to each other. That's actually pretty amazing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to say that again. The Declaration of Independence
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  Speaker 2: wasn't saying I want to separate myself out and be alone.
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  Speaker 2: I was talking about governing ourselves together in community, with
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  Speaker 2: our collective values accountable to each other. Independence at its
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  Speaker 2: founding was never about isolation. It was about sovereignty within
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  Speaker 2: relationship with in community, a new way of being in community,
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  Speaker 2: not an escape from community altogether, not an escape from relationship.
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  Speaker 2: I think about that a lot in my work, because
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  Speaker 2: I see the same confusion play out constantly in love.
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  Speaker 2: There are two very different kinds of freedom. The first
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  Speaker 2: is what i'd call freedom from freedom from need, freedom
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  Speaker 2: from vulnerability, freedom from the risk of being hurt or
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  Speaker 2: disappointed or let down. This kind of freedom says, Hey,
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  Speaker 2: if I don't need anyone, no one can hurt me.
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  Speaker 2: If I stay independent enough, I'll never be abandoned because
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  Speaker 2: I never dependent on anyone in the first place. This
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  Speaker 2: kind of freedom might feel safe, it feels strong. It
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  Speaker 2: often gets celebrated. Actually, especially in women and especially in successful,
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  Speaker 2: capable people. We call it self sufficiency, we call it
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  Speaker 2: having it all together. Sometimes we call it strength. But
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  Speaker 2: this freedom has a cost, because freedom from connection is,
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  Speaker 2: by its very nature, a freedom that keeps you alone.
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  Speaker 2: So take a moment before I talk about the second
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  Speaker 2: kind of freedom to just notice what resonated there for you.
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  Speaker 2: Are you somebody who has wanted freedom from the risk
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  Speaker 2: of being hurt, the risk of being abandoned again, the
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  Speaker 2: risk of being the risk of being betrayed again. You
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  Speaker 2: might not use those words like I want freedom from
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  Speaker 2: being hurt or I want freedom from being betrayed, but
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  Speaker 2: in essence, if you're saying I don't want to get
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  Speaker 2: hurt again, I'm not willing to risk getting hurt again.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not willing to risk falling in love again. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not willing to risk getting married again. For example, you're
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  Speaker 2: actually saying you want freedom from these things because inside
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  Speaker 2: you feel a sense of freedom that isn't quite accurately identified.
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  Speaker 2: So just take a moment to notice yourself. This is
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  Speaker 2: all about your own self inquiry and what brings true
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  Speaker 2: for you. Okay. The second kind of freedom is freedom within.
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  Speaker 2: This is sovereignty that exists inside relationship, not instead of it.
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  Speaker 2: It's the freedom to be fully yourself while also being
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  Speaker 2: fully devoted to someone else. The freedom to need someone
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  Speaker 2: without losing yourself, the freedom to depend on another person
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  Speaker 2: and still know with complete certainty who you are. This
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  Speaker 2: is a big one. A lot of people talk about
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  Speaker 2: losing themselves right, making decisions to cut off parts of
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  Speaker 2: themselves or not be fully themselves because the relationship can't
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  Speaker 2: tolerate it, or your partner can't tolerate it. So you
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  Speaker 2: do something differently because you think they're gonna like it better,
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  Speaker 2: you think they're gonna love you more, you think there's
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  Speaker 2: going to be less conflict. But next thing you know,
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  Speaker 2: something else happens. So again, this second kind of freedom
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  Speaker 2: is a freedom from within. It's within their relationship. It's
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  Speaker 2: about sovereignty within an existing relationship. It's about being full
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  Speaker 2: of yourself, being free to be full of yourself, and
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  Speaker 2: at the same time being deeply connected to someone else.
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  Speaker 2: And I think for a lot of people those things
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  Speaker 2: haven't necessarily coexisted, or there's a belief that they can't coexist.
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  Speaker 2: This is harder to access as a result. It requires
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  Speaker 2: something that the first kind of freedom doesn't. It requires trust.
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  Speaker 2: Trust that you can lean on someone and still stand
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  Speaker 2: on your own, Trust that needing someone doesn't make you weak.
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  Speaker 2: Trust that love and autonomy aren't actually opposite, they're actually partners.
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  Speaker 2: Which is kind of an interesting thing to consider. Most
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  Speaker 2: of the people I work with have built incredible lives
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  Speaker 2: around the first kind of freedom. They're capable, independent, accomplished,
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  Speaker 2: self sufficient to a pretty extraordinary degree. And many of
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  Speaker 2: them are also lonely in a way that they don't
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  Speaker 2: always let themselves feel. Because here's the truth. This Independence Day,
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  Speaker 2: this Independence Day invites us to sit with real freedom.
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  Speaker 2: That real freedom was never about not needing anyone. It
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  Speaker 2: was actually the exact opposite. It was about being whole
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  Speaker 2: enough to choose connection, not because you have to, but
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  Speaker 2: because you're free enough to want it, to be able
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  Speaker 2: to do it, to open your heart to connection, the
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  Speaker 2: freedom to open your heart to connect. That's true freedom.
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  Speaker 2: So I want to take this a little deeper into
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  Speaker 2: something I've touched on in past episodes because it's especially
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  Speaker 2: relevant this week. There's a version of independence that looks
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  Speaker 2: like strength from the outside but functions as armor on
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  Speaker 2: the inside. It sounds like I don't need anyone. I'm fine,
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  Speaker 2: I'm fine on my own. I feelt a great life
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  Speaker 2: and if someone comes into it, wonderful, but I don't
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  Speaker 2: really need them to. And I want to be careful
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  Speaker 2: here because some of that is actually genuinely true and
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  Speaker 2: genuinely healthy, right I said it a little bit, you know,
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  Speaker 2: with a tone, but genuinely that it can be very
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  Speaker 2: healthy knowing you can survive on your own, not making
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  Speaker 2: someone else responsible for your happiness. These are real, real
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  Speaker 2: important capacities. But there's a version of the same language
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  Speaker 2: that isn't strength, it's protection. You can usually tell the
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  Speaker 2: difference by asking one question, does this independence feel expansive
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  Speaker 2: and aligned or does it feel I'm going to say
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  Speaker 2: heavy and like a wall like armor. Armor feels really
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  Speaker 2: heavy energetically. So if this is someone, well, it could
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  Speaker 2: be someone you know that you hear this from But
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  Speaker 2: if you're actually also saying these words, then you're going
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  Speaker 2: to want to tune into what you're telling yourself and
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  Speaker 2: ask yourself, is this independence feeling expansive or does it
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  Speaker 2: feel heavy and like a wall. Expansive independence says I
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  Speaker 2: am whole and I choose to share my life with you.
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  Speaker 2: I am whole, and I choose to share my life
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  Speaker 2: with you. Protective independence says, hmm, I've made myself so
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  Speaker 2: self sufficient that I will never again be in a
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  Speaker 2: position to be hurt by needing someone, especially not you,
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  Speaker 2: whoever you are. The second one isn't real freedom. It's
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  Speaker 2: a very sophisticated form of self protection that happens to
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  Speaker 2: look like freedom from the outside. And here's what's important
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  Speaker 2: to understand. This kind of protective independence almost always has
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  Speaker 2: a history somewhere along the way, and it doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: to be dramatic. You learned that needing someone was risky.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you needed something and you didn't receive it. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: you depended on someone who let you down. Maybe you
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  Speaker 2: watched someone you love lose themselves entirely in a relationship
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  Speaker 2: and swore you'd never do the same. So you built
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  Speaker 2: a version of freedom that kept you safe, and it worked.
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  Speaker 2: It got you here, successful, capable, in control of your
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  Speaker 2: own life. But it also may have quietly cost you
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  Speaker 2: the thing you actually wanted all along, to be deeply,
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  Speaker 2: fully known, loved exactly as you are, without having to
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  Speaker 2: manage or protect or stay one step removed. HM. Take
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  Speaker 2: that in for a moment. It's pretty big, you know.
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  Speaker 2: We talked about it a couple weeks ago. If you
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  Speaker 2: ever have anything to say, or a question or a response,
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  Speaker 2: please feel free to message me directly. Robin Roby and
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  Speaker 2: at comeback too love dot com And while we're here,
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  Speaker 2: come back to Love dot com is where you can
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  Speaker 2: learn all about the work I've come back to Love.
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  Speaker 2: This Independence Day, which is coming up again in a
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  Speaker 2: couple of days, I want to invite you to ask
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  Speaker 2: yourself a real question. Is my independence freedom? Is my
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  Speaker 2: independence that I'm feeling about myself? I'm an independent person.
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  Speaker 2: Is it freedom? Or is it armor? Is it expansive
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  Speaker 2: or is it heavy? There's no wrong answer, That's the thing.
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  Speaker 2: There's absolutely no right and no wrong here. It's just
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  Speaker 2: all about you being aware of you, and you getting
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  Speaker 2: to know yourself better so that you can work on
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  Speaker 2: the things that you want to work on, that you
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  Speaker 2: choose to work on, and that may in fact be
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  Speaker 2: protecting you from love, from the loving relationship that you
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  Speaker 2: so desire. And this is for you if you're single
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  Speaker 2: and stuck and wondering and exhausted and frustrated about still
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  Speaker 2: being single, still swiping left and right on the dating apps.
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  Speaker 2: And this is also for you if you're in relationship,
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  Speaker 2: because if you're in relationship and you're feeling lonely, then
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  Speaker 2: you might want to look at this topic of what
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  Speaker 2: independence means to you and if you feel free to
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  Speaker 2: be yourself or if you have a wall up between you. Again,
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  Speaker 2: there's no right answer, there's no wrong answer, but the
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  Speaker 2: question itself is the beginning of something important self exploration.
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  Speaker 2: So let's explore a little bit more today. What does
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  Speaker 2: real freedom and love actually look like? Let me describe it,
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  Speaker 2: because I think it's important to have a picture of
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  Speaker 2: what you're moving towards, not just what you're moving away from.
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  Speaker 2: Real freedom and love looks like being able to say
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  Speaker 2: I need you without a feeling like defeat. We all need,
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  Speaker 2: we all need each other, we really really do. I
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  Speaker 2: know it has such a bad rap to say I
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  Speaker 2: need I need. I think automatically there's an assumption like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm needy, and then there's judgment attached to that, but
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  Speaker 2: we actually do need each other. It's really an acknowledgment
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  Speaker 2: of a truth and not a defeat. It looks like
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  Speaker 2: having your own full life. This is the freedom in love.
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  Speaker 2: Looks like you're having your own full life, your own friendships,
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  Speaker 2: your own purpose, your own joy, and choosing from that
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  Speaker 2: fullness to build something with another person rather than needing
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  Speaker 2: them to complete what feels missing in you. It looks
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  Speaker 2: like setting a boundary without guilt. That's a big one,
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  Speaker 2: and also like letting someone in without fear, also a
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  Speaker 2: big one. It has a lot to do with trust, right.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like staying yourself and who you truly are
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  Speaker 2: inside a relationship and not letting go of things that
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  Speaker 2: you think are just going to make your partner happy.
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  Speaker 2: That's not love. So it looks like not disappearing into
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  Speaker 2: the relationship, not performing a version of yourself you think
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  Speaker 2: will be easier again for your partner to love. All
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  Speaker 2: the while you're shutting down, not being who truly are,
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  Speaker 2: not being genuine, not being vulnerable because you're trying to
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  Speaker 2: avoid conflict or some kind of hurt or connection. So
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  Speaker 2: it looks like being genuine, being vulnerable, being moved by
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  Speaker 2: the relationship, being allowing yourself to be changed by your partner,
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  Speaker 2: and the relationship opening to them and to yourself and
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  Speaker 2: to the relationship itself. So that combination, full on selfhood
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  Speaker 2: and full on openness at the same time is the
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  Speaker 2: real freedom. This country was actually founded on sovereignty within relationship,
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  Speaker 2: not instead of it. I think about the people I've
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  Speaker 2: watched to do this work over the years, the ones
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  Speaker 2: who came in fiercely independent, almost proud of how little
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  Speaker 2: they needed anyone, and the slow, often uncomfortable process of
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  Speaker 2: learning that letting someone matter to you isn't a loss
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  Speaker 2: of freedom, it's the fullest expression of it. Pretty amazing
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  Speaker 2: to think about that, because here's the deepest truth I've
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  Speaker 2: come to in all these years of this work. The
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  Speaker 2: freedom to love and be loved fully, vulnerably, without the armor.
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  Speaker 2: That's not the opposite of independence. That's the most courageous
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  Speaker 2: use of the word freedom, as I've been talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Anyone can build a wall and call it freedom, but
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  Speaker 2: it takes something far braver to stay open, stay sovereign,
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  Speaker 2: within yourself and let someone in anyway. That is real independence,
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  Speaker 2: That is real freedom, That is not the absence of need,
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  Speaker 2: that's the presence of choice. I know I'm saying a
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  Speaker 2: lot here. I hope you have the opportunity to listen
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  Speaker 2: again and again to this episode because there's so many
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  Speaker 2: juicy nuggets in here. And I know you can find
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  Speaker 2: this episode after you've listened live on the radio. You
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  Speaker 2: can find it on any of your podcast platforms. Alrighty,
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  Speaker 2: before we go today, let's move into a practice. I
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  Speaker 2: always like to give you something to practice, so stay
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  Speaker 2: with me for a couple more minutes. I want to
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  Speaker 2: invite you to something that could be really, really helpful
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  Speaker 2: to work on this topic, especially if you notice that
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  Speaker 2: you are someone who has just been really glorifying independence,
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  Speaker 2: really proud of how independent you are, really proud of
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  Speaker 2: how self sufficient you are. And yet at night, when
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  Speaker 2: you get into bed and you look over to the
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  Speaker 2: other side of the bed where there may or may
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  Speaker 2: not be a pillow, there's a deep sigh, there's a
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  Speaker 2: deep longing sadness, loneliness, true deep sadness that the other
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  Speaker 2: side of the bed is actually empty. Don't you see
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  Speaker 2: that disconnection there from the daytime walking down the street
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  Speaker 2: feeling confidence and tall, confidence, independent, capable, and then you
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  Speaker 2: get home and you're with yourself and the real vulnerability
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  Speaker 2: shows up. So I want to invite you into a
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  Speaker 2: simple practice for this Independence Day weekend as you watch
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  Speaker 2: the fireworks, if you do this week, and I hope
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  Speaker 2: you do, because they're fun, I hope you let yourself enjoy,
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  Speaker 2: first of all, the holiday fully, And I invite you
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  Speaker 2: to silently ask yourself one question, Where in my life
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  Speaker 2: am I using independence as freedom? And where might I
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  Speaker 2: be using it as armor? Where in my life am
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  Speaker 2: I using independence as freedom? And where might I be
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  Speaker 2: using it as armor? And again, like I say every week,
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  Speaker 2: you don't need to answer right away. You don't need
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  Speaker 2: to fix anything this week. You don't need to fix
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  Speaker 2: anything in this moment.
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  Speaker 1: Just notice.
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  Speaker 2: Let the question sit there, roll it around on your tongue,
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  Speaker 2: Let it take up some space, kind of the way
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  Speaker 2: of fireworks sits in the sky for just a moment
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  Speaker 2: before it opens to something bigger. You know how those
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  Speaker 2: beautiful fireworks do that. It's the same kind of thing
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  Speaker 2: that kind of noticing that one honest question, just noticing
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  Speaker 2: it actually is itself an act of freedom, Because the
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  Speaker 2: people who are truly free are the ones willing to
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  Speaker 2: look honestly at themselves without flinching, without defending. That's the
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  Speaker 2: kind of independence worth celebrating. So maybe even as you're
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  Speaker 2: lying down on the grass and looking up at the
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  Speaker 2: sky and watching those firework firework and fireworks one another
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  Speaker 2: shoot up into the sky, pause for a split second,
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  Speaker 2: and then open and then sometimes open again, and then
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  Speaker 2: there's just so much beauty. Maybe use that, first of all,
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  Speaker 2: as a metaphor for your own opening and your own
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  Speaker 2: celebration of what's possible in your life when it comes
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  Speaker 2: to freedom, That it's possible to have freedom inside yourself
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  Speaker 2: that isn't armor, but that celebrates yourself in connection with
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  Speaker 2: someone else. This is such a great opportunity to really
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  Speaker 2: look at what has happened in your life that brought
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  Speaker 2: you to this moment, that brought you to these beliefs,
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  Speaker 2: and even to notice these beliefs that you might not
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  Speaker 2: even have noticed before this episode. So this is really
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  Speaker 2: an invitation for self inquiry. I'm going to read that
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  Speaker 2: question to you one more time. Where in my life
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  Speaker 2: am I using independence as freedom? And where might I
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  Speaker 2: be using it as armor. And then what's possible? What
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  Speaker 2: else is possible? That's the next great question, What else
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  Speaker 2: is possible? And again, not right, wrong, not good or bad,
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  Speaker 2: just something different. If you're looking over at that empty
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  Speaker 2: space in your bed and you truly want something different,
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  Speaker 2: this is a very important step to take, and I
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  Speaker 2: invite you wholeheartedly to take it and take it with me.
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  Speaker 2: So thank you for spending this time with me today.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Robin Vogel. This has come back to love. If
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  Speaker 2: this conversation about freedom and love stirred something in you,
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  Speaker 2: if you recognized your own armor, or felt a longing
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  Speaker 2: for the kind of freedom that includes connection rather than
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  Speaker 2: excluding it, I'd love to connect. As you know, I
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  Speaker 2: offer a thirty minute, free private conversation just you and me.
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  Speaker 2: You can book yours at comebacktlove dot com this fourth
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  Speaker 2: of July. As you celebrate the freedom this country was
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  Speaker 2: built on, I hope you'll also celebrate a quieter kind
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  Speaker 2: of freedom, the freedom to need, the freedom to want,
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  Speaker 2: the freedom to be moved and touched by another person
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  Speaker 2: deeply without losing a single piece of who you are. That,
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  Speaker 2: my friends, is not weakness. That is independence at its
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  Speaker 2: most courageous. I'm Robin Vogel. Be gentle with yourself today.
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  Speaker 2: Love is possible and it starts with coming back to you.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for being here and I look
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  Speaker 2: forward to seeing you next week. Have a beautiful day. Hi,
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  Speaker 2: this is Robin Vogel, host of come Back to Love.
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  Speaker 2: If you are ready to heal the past and open
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  Speaker 2: your heart to love again, I want to talk with you.
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  Speaker 2: Book a free thirty minute private conversation with me at
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  Speaker 2: comebacktolove dot com. I'll meet you where you are and
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  Speaker 2: give you real tools you can use right now. Because
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  Speaker 2: love isn't just possible for you, it's waiting for you
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  Speaker 1: You've been listening to come Back to Love with Robin Vogel,
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  Speaker 1: a transformative program that covers an endless array of topics
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  Speaker 1: related to relationships, love and intimacy, along with all the
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  Speaker 1: reasons you may be keeping love at a distance. Tune
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  Speaker 1: in each week as Robin gives you practical tools that
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  Speaker 1: can be used to heal the past and help you
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  Speaker 1: to safely love again. Join Robin again next week at
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  Speaker 1: the same time for come back to love,