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Episode 51 - “No Sleep”, But Responsibilities Don’t Care · RealTalkwithMikeD

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Real Talk with Mike D. Welcome back to
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  Speaker 1: Real Talk with Mike D. I am the one, the only,
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  Speaker 1: and the original Mike D. Thank you for being here.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. And as always, I appreciate you.
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  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to tell you right off
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  Speaker 1: the bat, I am exhausted. I had absolutely no sleep
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  Speaker 1: last night. I tossed and turned. Because I was in pain.
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  Speaker 1: My back hurt. My body hurts. I was in so
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  Speaker 1: much pain, it was unreal. So, I had one of
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  Speaker 1: those nights where you look at the clock and think, well,
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  Speaker 1: I guess sleep just isn't happening tonight. Even though you
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  Speaker 1: close your eyes, you toss and turn. You flip the
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  Speaker 1: pillow over because maybe the other side is magically going
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  Speaker 1: to solve all your problems. You check the clock. It's 1247.
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  Speaker 1: Then you're scrolling on your phone. You put the phone down.
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  Speaker 1: You close your eyes again. Then you wake up and
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  Speaker 1: it's 213. At this point, you're not even sleeping anymore.
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  Speaker 1: You're negotiating with God. You're like, listen, I don't need
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  Speaker 1: eight hours. Just give me four. Hell, I'll take three
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  Speaker 1: and a half. Just give me something. But sleep doesn't come.
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  Speaker 1: And then before you know it, morning is here. The
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  Speaker 1: alarm goes off and you stare at that alarm like
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  Speaker 1: it's your worst enemy. You think, you've got to be
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  Speaker 1: shitting me. But your body says nope. Your brain says nope.
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  Speaker 1: And your eyes are saying absolutely not. But your responsibilities,
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  Speaker 1: they don't give a damn. That's the part nobody tells
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  Speaker 1: you about being an adult. You can be exhausted. You
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  Speaker 1: can be mentally drained. You could be running on fumes,
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  Speaker 1: but the bills still need to be paid. The job
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  Speaker 1: still expects you to show up. The responsibilities at home,
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  Speaker 1: they don't disappear. Life doesn't look at you and say,
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  Speaker 1: hey Mike, you didn't sleep last night? Why don't you
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  Speaker 1: take the day off? Nope. You know what life says?
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  Speaker 1: It says get up. And that's exactly what you do.
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  Speaker 1: You get up. You drag yourself out of bed. You
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  Speaker 1: walk into the bathroom looking like you've been through three
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  Speaker 1: rounds with Mike Tyson. You look in the mirror and think, damn,
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  Speaker 1: who in the hell is that guy? Your hair is
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  Speaker 1: messed up. Your eyes are bloodshot. Your face looks tired.
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  Speaker 1: And you're standing there trying to convince yourself that you're
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  Speaker 1: ready for the day. Splash some cold water on your face. Nothing.
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  Speaker 1: You splash a little bit more. Still nothing. Then you
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  Speaker 1: make coffee. And I'm not talking about one cup. I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking about the coffee like you're trying to bring yourself
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  Speaker 1: back from the dead. You take that first sip and
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  Speaker 1: for about 30 seconds you think, okay, I might survive this.
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  Speaker 1: Then reality hits because coffee can help wake you up.
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  Speaker 1: But coffee can't replace sleep. And that's the problem. You're
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  Speaker 1: running on empty. But you've got somewhere to be. You've
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  Speaker 1: got things to do. You've got people counting on you.
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  Speaker 1: And you have responsibilities. And sometimes that's what being an
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  Speaker 1: adult really is. It's doing what needs to be done
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  Speaker 1: even when you don't feel like you have anything left
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  Speaker 1: to give. There are mornings when you don't want to
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  Speaker 1: get out of bed. Not because you're lazy. Not because
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  Speaker 1: you don't care. Because you're exhausted. Sometimes your body is
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  Speaker 1: screaming for rest but your life doesn't have a pause button.
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  Speaker 1: You think about calling out for work. You think, maybe
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  Speaker 1: I should just stay home today. And sometimes, if you're
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  Speaker 1: genuinely too tired to drive or work safely, you absolutely
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  Speaker 1: need to make the responsible decision and rest. But there
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  Speaker 1: are also those days when you have to keep moving.
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  Speaker 1: So you get dressed, you grab your stuff, you walk
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  Speaker 1: out the door and you're thinking, let's just get through today.
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  Speaker 1: That's the goal. Not conquering the world, not being Superman,
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  Speaker 1: not being perfect. Just get through today. One hour at
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  Speaker 1: a time. One task at a time. One cup of
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  Speaker 1: coffee at a time. And you know what's crazy? Nobody
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  Speaker 1: looking at you from the outside may have any idea
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  Speaker 1: of exactly what you're dealing with. They see you walking
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  Speaker 1: into work and they say, good morning. And you're thinking,
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  Speaker 1: good morning. There is nothing good about this morning. Because
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  Speaker 1: you're exhausted. But you smile anyway. You say, good morning.
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  Speaker 1: Because that's what we do. We put on that face.
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  Speaker 1: We keep moving. We do our jobs. We take care
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  Speaker 1: of our families. We handle our responsibilities. And sometimes we're
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  Speaker 1: doing all of that while we're completely exhausted on the inside.
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  Speaker 1: That's something I think we need to talk more about
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  Speaker 1: because there are expectations that you're supposed to always be okay.
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  Speaker 1: You're supposed to always have energy. You're supposed to always
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  Speaker 1: be productive. You're supposed to wake up motivated. You're supposed
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  Speaker 1: to handle everything. But we're humans, and sometimes we have
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  Speaker 1: terrible nights. Sometimes our minds won't shut off. Sometimes we're
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  Speaker 1: worried about money. Sometimes we're worried about work. Sometimes we're
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  Speaker 1: thinking about relationships. Sometimes we're thinking about the future. And
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  Speaker 1: sometimes we're just lying there staring at the ceiling while
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  Speaker 1: our brain decides the perfect time to replay every mistake
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  Speaker 1: we've ever made. Then morning comes and you're exhausted. But
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  Speaker 1: guess what? You still have responsibilities. That's adulthood. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: not saying that in a depressing way. I'm saying it
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  Speaker 1: because there's something powerful about realizing I made it through
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  Speaker 1: another day. Maybe nobody applauds you. Maybe nobody knows how
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  Speaker 1: difficult that day was. Maybe nobody knows that you barely slept.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe nobody knows that you were running on three hours
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  Speaker 1: of sleep, but you know that sometimes you have to
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  Speaker 1: give yourself credit because getting through difficult days when you're exhausted,
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  Speaker 1: it's not easy. You still show up. You're still tired.
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  Speaker 1: You still did what you need to do, and that's something. Now,
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  Speaker 1: here's the important part. We also have to learn when
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  Speaker 1: enough is enough because there's a difference between pushing through
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  Speaker 1: a rough morning and constantly running yourself into the ground.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot live permanently exhausted. Your body needs rest. Your
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  Speaker 1: mind needs rest. Your soul needs rest. Sometimes the responsible
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  Speaker 1: thing isn't pushing harder. Sometimes the responsible thing is saying,
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  Speaker 1: I need to stop. I need sleep. I need to recharge.
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  Speaker 1: I need to take care of myself. Because here's the truth.
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  Speaker 1: You can't take care of everybody else if you completely
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  Speaker 1: destroy yourself in the process. If you're listening to this
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  Speaker 1: right now and you had one of those nights, maybe
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  Speaker 1: you didn't sleep at all. That's me. Maybe you got
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  Speaker 1: two hours. Maybe you got three. Maybe you've been staring
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  Speaker 1: at the ceiling all night wondering how in the hell
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  Speaker 1: you're going to make it through today. Take a breath.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to figure out your entire life. You
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  Speaker 1: don't need to solve every problem today. And you do
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  Speaker 1: not have to be perfect today. Just take the next step.
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  Speaker 1: Get through the morning. Get through the afternoon. Get home.
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  Speaker 1: Take care of what absolutely needs to be taken care of.
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  Speaker 1: And when you finally get the opportunity to rest, rest.
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  Speaker 1: And don't feel guilty about it. Don't convince yourself that
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  Speaker 1: you're being lazy. Rest is not laziness. Rest is part
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  Speaker 1: of taking care of yourself because tomorrow may bring another
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  Speaker 1: long day, another early morning, another responsibility, another challenge. And
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  Speaker 1: you need something left in the tank. So yeah, maybe
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  Speaker 1: you didn't get any sleep. Maybe you're exhausted. Maybe you're
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  Speaker 1: running on coffee, determination, and pure stubbornness. But you're still here.
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  Speaker 1: You're still moving. You're still trying. And sometimes that's enough.
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  Speaker 1: Because life doesn't always wait until you're ready. Sometimes the
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  Speaker 1: alarm goes off when you're exhausted. And sometimes responsibility comes
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  Speaker 1: knocking when you desperately want to stay in bed. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: you have to get up and say, okay, let's do this.
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  Speaker 1: Not because you're not tired. You are tired. You're exhausted.
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  Speaker 1: And not because you're not struggling. Because you are. You're
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  Speaker 1: struggling like hell. But because you have responsibilities. You have
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  Speaker 1: people who count on you. You've got dreams you're still chasing.
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  Speaker 1: You've got a life you're still trying to build. And
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  Speaker 1: you've got another day in front of you. So ladies
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  Speaker 1: and gentlemen, if you're listening to this while you're exhausted,
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  Speaker 1: if you're drinking that first cup of coffee, if you're
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  Speaker 1: getting ready for work after barely sleeping, I see you.
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  Speaker 1: But we all need to keep going. Don't forget to
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  Speaker 1: take care of yourself too because sometimes strength isn't about
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  Speaker 1: how much you carry. Sometimes strength is knowing when you
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  Speaker 1: need to put something down. And tonight, hopefully, you and
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  Speaker 1: myself can get some sleep. Hopefully you put your head
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  Speaker 1: on that pillow, close your eyes, and your brain finally says, okay, Mike,
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  Speaker 1: you have done enough today. It's time to rest. And maybe,
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  Speaker 1: just maybe, for once, that alarm clock can wait. Well,
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  Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, this has been Real Talk with Mike D.
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  Speaker 1: I greatly appreciate you being here. I appreciate you listening.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're struggling like me today, where you've gotten
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  Speaker 1: absolutely no sleep, you had body pain all night long,
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  Speaker 1: your back was on fire, your shoulders, your knees, your legs,
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  Speaker 1: your back, you're sick in your stomach, and you feel
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  Speaker 1: like just going back to bed and going back to sleep.
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  Speaker 1: I feel you. But we have responsibilities and we have
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  Speaker 1: things to do. So we just need to push forward.
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  Speaker 1: But that's going to do it for today. I greatly
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  Speaker 1: appreciate you being here. I appreciate you listening. And I
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  Speaker 1: will see you all on the next episode.