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Live, Love, Lead | Episode #464 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

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  Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your
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  Speaker 1: Life Count. I'm your host, Doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, international
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  Speaker 1: leadership expert and trusted advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make
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  Speaker 1: your Life Count. I'm so delighted that you joined me today.
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  Speaker 1: I have a special show for you. We are going
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  Speaker 1: to talk about leadership, a topic that is very near
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  Speaker 1: and dear to me. I am going to focus specific
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  Speaker 1: on authentic leadership. In other words, today's focus is all
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  Speaker 1: about being being true to who you are, being true
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  Speaker 1: to being yourself. Right now, today, I'm going to share
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  Speaker 1: with you a true story. This is a story about
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  Speaker 1: singer and actress Dela Reice Patricia Early Now. Many of
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  Speaker 1: us know her by her stage name Della Reese. Miss
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  Speaker 1: Reese was born in Detroit, Michigan. Now. Although she had siblings,
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  Speaker 1: she was actually raised as an only child. When she
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  Speaker 1: was very young, six years old to be exact, she
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  Speaker 1: began singing in her church, a beginning that would eventually
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  Speaker 1: lead her to become an avid gospel singer. On weekends,
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  Speaker 1: she and her mom would go to the movies. When
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  Speaker 1: she got home, Della was fond of acting out scenes
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  Speaker 1: from the various movies that she saw. Who knew that
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  Speaker 1: this would eventually lead her to a career that included radio, television,
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  Speaker 1: and films. In the mid forties, Della began her career
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  Speaker 1: directing the young people's choir at her church. While she
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  Speaker 1: was still in her early teens, she was hired to
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  Speaker 1: perform with one of the best known gospel singers in
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  Speaker 1: the world. That's where Della's life was touched by an angel.
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  Speaker 1: In her own words, here is Della's story. The summer
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  Speaker 1: I turned thirteen, I was given an opportunity that would
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  Speaker 1: ultimately shape my life. You might say I was in
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  Speaker 1: the right place at the right time. I prefer to
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  Speaker 1: think God sent an angel. I was chosen directress of
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  Speaker 1: the youth choir at the Church of Our Faith in Detroit.
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  Speaker 1: All the major gospel singers came to our church, the Soulsters,
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  Speaker 1: Mighty Clouds of Joy, Pilgrim travelers, but the most celebrated
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  Speaker 1: was Mahelia Jackson, the woman who would one day be
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  Speaker 1: known as the Queen of Gospel. That day, our church
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  Speaker 1: was packed to overflowing. Dressed in their Sunday finery, people
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  Speaker 1: cooled themselves with hand fans. I was to sing the
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  Speaker 1: first song of the concert, christ Is all excited. I
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  Speaker 1: began softly and built from them. I tore it down,
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  Speaker 1: and the youth choir was with me all the way.
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  Speaker 1: Then Michelia was introduced and started to sing. Tambourines were playing,
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  Speaker 1: people were clapping. Everyone was caught up in the joy
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  Speaker 1: of singing praise. The heat in the room rose along
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  Speaker 1: with the spirit. Suddenly, the lead soprano in Mehelia's group collapsed.
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  Speaker 1: A doctor discovered the soprano was pregnant. There were six
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  Speaker 1: weeks remaining on the group's tour, but the woman's husband
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  Speaker 1: was adamant. Did she not get back on the bus.
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  Speaker 1: Mehelio was going to need a replacement fast. Reverend Travis,
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  Speaker 1: one of our ministers, recommended that she take the soloists
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  Speaker 1: and directress of the youth thirteen year old Delaerice Early. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the challenge was to convince my mother. When Reverend Travis
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  Speaker 1: offered to speak to her, Mihelia decided to come as well.
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  Speaker 1: They walked the four blocks to our apartment building, me
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  Speaker 1: tagging behind them, praying all the way, Please God make
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  Speaker 1: Mamma let me go up the three flights of stairs.
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  Speaker 1: We climbed. Mama met us at the door good evening,
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  Speaker 1: Reverend Travis. She said, I'm always glad to see you.
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  Speaker 1: Her eyes let me know. She assumed that I had
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  Speaker 1: done something so wrong that the preacher had to bring
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  Speaker 1: me home to her. But the first words from Reverend
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  Speaker 1: Travis were, Missus Early, it's my honor to introduce you
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  Speaker 1: to miss Mahelia Jackson. I am the one being honored,
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  Speaker 1: my mother insisted. Now Mama started looking at me with
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  Speaker 1: those looks that could cut rock. It was clear she
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  Speaker 1: thought whatever it was I had done, I had done
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  Speaker 1: to the offense of Missus Jackson. The reverend made his
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  Speaker 1: case for letting me join the tour. My mother listened politely.
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  Speaker 1: Missus Early, I assure you, Mihelia spoke up. I will
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  Speaker 1: take personal good care of your daughter and see to
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  Speaker 1: it nothing happens to her. It will be a great
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  Speaker 1: learning experience for Dela Reese. The reverend added. Mamma was impassive.
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  Speaker 1: She said she would pray over it and let them
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  Speaker 1: know her decision in the morning. I barely slept that night.
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  Speaker 1: At breakfast, I crept into the kitchen, trying not to
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  Speaker 1: too hopeful or desperate. I made the coffee, set the table,
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  Speaker 1: and washed the dishes as Mama used them. My mother
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  Speaker 1: said nothing. My father came in for his breakfast. Afterward,
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  Speaker 1: Mama fixed us lunch, kissed him goodbye, and cleaned up
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  Speaker 1: the remaining dishes. I waited after what seemed an eternity.
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  Speaker 1: She said, we have to talk, and you know God
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  Speaker 1: is going to be talking right along with us. Didn't
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  Speaker 1: sound good. Mama took a drink of coffee. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: think you should go, but I asked the Lord to
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  Speaker 1: tell me if it wasn't right. He didn't. I exhaled
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  Speaker 1: a sigh of relief. I know this can be good
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  Speaker 1: for you. She went on. All I need is your
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  Speaker 1: honest word that you will do the best you can.
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  Speaker 1: I promised, and hugged and kissed her. I thanked God
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  Speaker 1: and everybody in the Bible, Reverend Travis and Miss Mahelia Jackson.
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  Speaker 1: When I finally quieted down, Mama said, and I will
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  Speaker 1: never forget these words. We don't need all of that.
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  Speaker 1: All we need is your honest word. And remember you
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  Speaker 1: won't just be giving it to me, you will be
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  Speaker 1: giving it to God too. I give you my honest word,
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'll do my best. Mihelia turned out to
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  Speaker 1: be twice as tough as my mama. Where are you going?
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  Speaker 1: What are you doing? Why are you wearing that? Things?
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  Speaker 1: Even Mama let me do on my own. Mehelia had
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  Speaker 1: to know about the music. However, more than lived up
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  Speaker 1: to my expectations. The crowds were sensational, and Mehelia was magnificent.
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  Speaker 1: Our last engagement, a grand Sunday afternoon tent revival, was
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  Speaker 1: in Chicago, Mehelia's hometown. This was going to be my
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  Speaker 1: chance to show what I could do. People from all
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  Speaker 1: over would be coming to hear Mahelia and me. In
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  Speaker 1: my mind, that was the group, Mahelia and me. The
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  Speaker 1: other three singers were just for background. When Mehelia called
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  Speaker 1: on me to start the program, I confidently began to
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  Speaker 1: walk the sawdust cover of the tent floor and do
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  Speaker 1: my thing, singing with all my might. Responses came from
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  Speaker 1: all around me. Amen, Hallelujah, Praise the Lord. I even
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  Speaker 1: heard Mahelia at her own sing child. Everyone was applauding wildly,
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  Speaker 1: asking for more. But that was it, my big solo.
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  Speaker 1: I had no other number. Thinking fast, I began to
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  Speaker 1: sing another chorus. I turned it out and tore it down,
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  Speaker 1: then sat down, smug as could be. When the crowd
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  Speaker 1: quieted down, Mahelia remained seated and began to moan, no words,
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  Speaker 1: no song in particular, just moaning low and deep, until
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  Speaker 1: she broke out and Precious Lord, take my hand. Mehelia
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  Speaker 1: sang the entire song seated. It seems she was speaking
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  Speaker 1: directly and only to God. The audience responded with reverence
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  Speaker 1: and awe. They got a different kind of feeling from
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  Speaker 1: Mehelia than from me. What was it she had that
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  Speaker 1: I didn't, I wondered. My voice was just as good.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, in my mind it was better because I
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  Speaker 1: could hit higher notes. It took two more summers of
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  Speaker 1: touring with Mahelia for me to realize just what that
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  Speaker 1: something was. My singing was enjoyable, rhythmic cute. Hers was
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  Speaker 1: a deep spiritual experience. She was worshiping God, and I
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  Speaker 1: was showing off. When Mehelia sings, said my mother, you
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  Speaker 1: can feel God in her. By the end of my
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  Speaker 1: third tour with Mihelia, I thought I had learned all
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  Speaker 1: there was to learn from her. I was wrong. One
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  Speaker 1: summer day, we arrived at a church in a field
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  Speaker 1: outside Richmond, Virginia. That night, the church overflowed with people.
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  Speaker 1: When it was my turn to sing, I started with
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  Speaker 1: all guns blasting. As I hit my high note and
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  Speaker 1: held it, I heard a note higher than mine, clear
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  Speaker 1: and powerful. Undaunted, I hit a higher note and held it.
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  Speaker 1: As I walked down the aisle, trying to see who
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  Speaker 1: was singing there in the back row, I saw a
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  Speaker 1: girl with braids, dressed in coveralls and a farm shirt.
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  Speaker 1: She smiled at me, still singing higher and higher until
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  Speaker 1: she hit a note that I couldn't even reach. Ooh,
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  Speaker 1: was I mad? Who did that? Country bumpkin thinks she was?
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  Speaker 1: When the program was finished, Mahelia talked to the girl
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  Speaker 1: and her mother. Seeing that, I stormed out to the car,
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  Speaker 1: where I sulked. Soon I heard Mahelia saying, there you are,
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  Speaker 1: Dela Reese. I look the other way. That was something,
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  Speaker 1: wasn't it? Mahelia said? Ain't it grand? The way God
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  Speaker 1: has of bringing up talent in the strangest places. I
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  Speaker 1: jutted out my chin and said, I guess now, you
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  Speaker 1: warn't her right? What makes you think that? Well? She
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  Speaker 1: sang higher than I did. It's not about how high
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  Speaker 1: you sing, it's about feeling the presence of God. I
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  Speaker 1: knew she was right, but I said nothing. Then Mihelia
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  Speaker 1: said sternly and directly, Dela Reese, You've got to get
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  Speaker 1: over your miss wonderful thing and just be who you are.
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  Speaker 1: You are not in competition. You are in God's service,
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  Speaker 1: she paused, smiling. Now be glad that he called you,
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  Speaker 1: but always remember you are not the only one he called.
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  Speaker 1: Now get out of this car and come meet this child.
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  Speaker 1: I followed Mahelia inside and went over to the girl,
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  Speaker 1: who asked how I sang so well. She didn't even
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  Speaker 1: know what a power how she was. Mahelia was my
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  Speaker 1: guiding angel, though I didn't know it at that time.
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  Speaker 1: The lesson I learned that night helps me to this day.
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  Speaker 1: I never could sing like some of the top artists
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  Speaker 1: who inspired me, Dinah Washington, Sarah Vaughan, Ella Fitzgerald. But
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  Speaker 1: you know what, they could not sing like me either.
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  Speaker 1: What I had was my own. Today, I'm free of
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  Speaker 1: the fears of my youth and settled in the assurance
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  Speaker 1: that comes only from surviving. And Mahelia's words have echoed
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  Speaker 1: throughout my life. You are in God's service. I just
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  Speaker 1: love that story. It provides a great example of what
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  Speaker 1: being authentic is all about, doesn't it, And what a
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  Speaker 1: great fit for today's topic, authentic leadership. Now, remember I
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  Speaker 1: said that earlier. Authentic means really being true to who
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  Speaker 1: you are are. It's all about being yourself. Now, it's
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  Speaker 1: been said, in a world where you can be anything,
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  Speaker 1: be yourself. So I know some of you are asking
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  Speaker 1: how does that work? I mean, it's not always easy
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  Speaker 1: to be yourself. In fact, for some of you, I
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  Speaker 1: know that being yourself is easier said than done. I
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  Speaker 1: hear you. I once taught in a graduate program where
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  Speaker 1: the entire focus of that program was helping my grad
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  Speaker 1: students become comfortable with being themselves. This was a program
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  Speaker 1: that equipped them to work in what we lovingly call
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  Speaker 1: the helping professions. So when they graduated, they would become consultants, therapists, nurses, educators, attorneys,
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  Speaker 1: assuming some kind of leadership role in their organization or community. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I know firsthand that being yourself can be quite challenging.
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  Speaker 1: Think about it. So many of us focus on pleasing
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  Speaker 1: other people in the process, we can easily lose track
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  Speaker 1: of who we are along the way. Now that's a
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  Speaker 1: pretty steep price to pay. Fortunately, there are many ways
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  Speaker 1: to get back on track with being who you are
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  Speaker 1: meant to be and to discover your strengths as well
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  Speaker 1: as you're growing edges. You can begin by asking yourself
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  Speaker 1: a few questions. Ask yourself, what's unique about me? What's
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  Speaker 1: unique about me? What makes me so special? Right? Another
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  Speaker 1: question to ask is what are my top three strengths?
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  Speaker 1: Another question, what do I enjoy doing so much that
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  Speaker 1: I lose all track of time? What do I enjoy
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  Speaker 1: doing so much much that I lose track of time?
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  Speaker 1: How about this question, what do I enjoy so much
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  Speaker 1: I would do it for free? And another question to
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  Speaker 1: ask is what am I curious about now? Any one
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  Speaker 1: of those questions can help you figure out who you
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  Speaker 1: are really, who you are at the core, what is
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  Speaker 1: your authentic self right now? These questions are important. They
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  Speaker 1: are designed to help you reconnect with what's meaningful to
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  Speaker 1: you and to help you reconnect with who you are
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  Speaker 1: to fully claim your glorious self, your magnificence. Now. There
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  Speaker 1: are few critical skills that we all need, skills that
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  Speaker 1: will support you in truly being yourself, not only as
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  Speaker 1: a leader, but in all other realms of your life.
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  Speaker 1: Are those skills, Well, there are four of them, four
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  Speaker 1: that I want to shed the light on today, and
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  Speaker 1: these are essential. Now. I actually write about these skills
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  Speaker 1: in one of my books. It's called Flawless leadership, connecting
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  Speaker 1: who you are with what you know and do. So
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  Speaker 1: here are the four skills. The first one is self awareness.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, that's a skill, self awareness. The second one
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  Speaker 1: is openness. The next one transparency and curiosity. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: start with self awareness. Being yourself actually begins here, okay.
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  Speaker 1: It begins with self awareness, the conscious knowledge of your
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  Speaker 1: own desires, feelings, motives, thoughts, and traits. This skill also
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  Speaker 1: includes the capacity for introspection, for looking inward another one words,
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  Speaker 1: and the capacity for reflection. Okay, Now, this skill of
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  Speaker 1: self awareness is vital to your ability to ignite, influence,
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  Speaker 1: and inspire others. When you are self aware, you will
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  Speaker 1: be better equipped to embrace, reflect on, and use your
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  Speaker 1: unique strengths, talents, and gifts. You will be able to
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  Speaker 1: recognize what drives you and what gives you energy, focus,
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  Speaker 1: and purpose. You will also be able to develop and
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  Speaker 1: clearly communicate your vision. Right now, Why is this important?
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  Speaker 1: Because you will be able to inspire your team or
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  Speaker 1: your organization to take meaningful action. Now, this is essential
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  Speaker 1: whether you are leading at work or in your family.
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  Speaker 1: The next skill is openness. Now, this skill is often
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  Speaker 1: misunderstood because we confuse openness with self disclosure. Openness simply
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  Speaker 1: means being able to internally recognize, being able to freely access,
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  Speaker 1: and then being able to appropriately express your feelings and
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  Speaker 1: thoughts without being defensive. Right now, this sounds pretty straightforward.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to repeat those things again. Openness simply means
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  Speaker 1: being able to internally recognize, freely access, and appropriately express
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  Speaker 1: your feelings and thoughts without being defensive. Pretty simple, right. However,
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  Speaker 1: demonstrating this skill in the moment can be quite challenging.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, it can be downright difficult. Why because when
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  Speaker 1: we're triggered by someone or something and we don't realize it,
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  Speaker 1: we can easily respond inappropriately and defensively right in that
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  Speaker 1: split second, In that nano second, right we become temporarily immobilized.
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  Speaker 1: We actually freeze, which impairs our ability to internally recognize,
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  Speaker 1: freely access, and appropriately express our feelings and thoughts without
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  Speaker 1: being defensive. We've all been there, right. The key is
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  Speaker 1: to develop your ability to self regulate so that when
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  Speaker 1: you're emotionally triggered by something or someone, you can consciously
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  Speaker 1: manage your own reactivity. This is one of the many
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  Speaker 1: aspects of what we call emotional intelligence. Now, the third
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  Speaker 1: skill is transparency. Transparency allows leaders to make information that
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  Speaker 1: is normally selective, okay, normally seen by only a few people.
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  Speaker 1: These leaders allow that kind of information that's selective, okay,
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  Speaker 1: information to be available to all as appropriate. An example
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  Speaker 1: is providing insight into a leader's decision making process. Providing
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  Speaker 1: such insight can be very helpful during times of change
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  Speaker 1: and transition. And we're always going through some kind of
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  Speaker 1: change or transition, right. I remember in one company I
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  Speaker 1: worked for, the staff learned that we were going to
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  Speaker 1: be bought out. We were going to be acquired by
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  Speaker 1: a rival company. Now, the staff were intensely loyal to
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  Speaker 1: this organization that we worked for, right, including me, and
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  Speaker 1: not surprise, when we heard the news about being bought
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  Speaker 1: out by another company, we were all just kind of wobbly, right, shaken,
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  Speaker 1: shaken to the core. It seemed as though we were
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  Speaker 1: being taken off guard, blindsided, right, as if no one
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  Speaker 1: had seen this coming. However, the really senior staff had
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  Speaker 1: seen it coming, even though they couldn't reveal the specifics
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  Speaker 1: until after the buyout, after the acquisition was complete. Now
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  Speaker 1: many of us have heard something like this information information
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  Speaker 1: is the solar energy of an organization. In other words,
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  Speaker 1: even a little bit of transparency will go a long way. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the need for transparency has never been greater in our
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  Speaker 1: organizations and communities and families act as old, outworn containing
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  Speaker 1: structures and systems and hierarchies continue to dissolve, and as
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  Speaker 1: our organizations and communities struggle to survive. Leaders must be
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  Speaker 1: equipped to fill the void in a world what we
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  Speaker 1: call a VUCA world VUC A right where volatility, uncertainty, ambiguity,
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  Speaker 1: and chaos are becoming the norm. Such leaders will be
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  Speaker 1: equipped to support their organizations, their communities, and their families
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  Speaker 1: to adapt, innovate, and flourish. Now that fourth skill, curiosity,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Leaders who are curious are inquisitive,
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  Speaker 1: avid learners who desire to learn or know more. They
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  Speaker 1: actively and vigorously cultivate and nurture and leverage the skill
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  Speaker 1: of curiosity. You know what, even though we're naturally curious
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  Speaker 1: as children, as we grow older, we may not necessarily
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  Speaker 1: retain our curiosity. I remember as a little girl, my
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  Speaker 1: family moved from rural Mississippi to the inner city of Detroit, Michigan,
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  Speaker 1: and we lived in some pretty rough neighborhoods okay. Now,
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  Speaker 1: during the hot, humid summers, instead of playing outside with
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  Speaker 1: the other kids, I had to go to school. Unlike
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  Speaker 1: most kids who attend summer school because they flunked a course,
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  Speaker 1: I went to summer school because my dad said so.
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  Speaker 1: He actually mandated it. He was the headmaster. Our house
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  Speaker 1: was the classroom, and my sister and I were his pupils.
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  Speaker 1: So every day, while our friends played outside our house,
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  Speaker 1: in the street or in the yard, we completed our
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  Speaker 1: daily lessons. Now we studied hard, me and my sisters
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  Speaker 1: to pass the tests that Daddy gave us after dinner.
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  Speaker 1: During those Detroit summers and for years afterwards. I remember
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  Speaker 1: asking my dad about particular words or concepts that interested me,
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  Speaker 1: and without fail, Daddy always said, look it up, look
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  Speaker 1: it up. Can I just tell you something. This is
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  Speaker 1: not what a young person wants to hear. But as
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  Speaker 1: a dutiful daughter, I always followed my father's advice. Now
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  Speaker 1: was my dad being mean? When I admit that's what
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  Speaker 1: I thought, though I had the good sense to keep
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  Speaker 1: it to myself, right, So what was he doing? My
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  Speaker 1: dad was actually helping me cultivate an appetite for curiosity.
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  Speaker 1: He was instilling in me and my sisters the awareness, knowledge, skills,
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  Speaker 1: and resourcefulness for life long learning. And you know what,
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  Speaker 1: it worked. I became very good at being curious and
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  Speaker 1: quite skilled in satisfying my curiosity. In fact, I became
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  Speaker 1: a voracious learner. The more I learned, the more I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to learn, and the more curious I became. Now,
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  Speaker 1: as a visual learner, I was very good at memorizing
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  Speaker 1: words and their definitions. I was fascinated to learn that
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  Speaker 1: some writers had a knack for arranging words in such
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  Speaker 1: a way that their work I just came alive. It
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  Speaker 1: just kind of leaped up off the page right, while
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  Speaker 1: other writers were just, I don't know, just downright dull
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  Speaker 1: and boring. Although I didn't realize it at the time,
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  Speaker 1: I was actually learning about the writer's voice, about the
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  Speaker 1: writer's tone, and about the writer's style. Looking up words
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  Speaker 1: and other concepts stimulated my thinking, fueled my appetite for learning,
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  Speaker 1: and spurred my lifelong curiosity. Cultivating the skill of being
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  Speaker 1: curious also expanded my world far beyond the one I
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  Speaker 1: knew the six square blocks of my neighborhood in East Detroit.
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  Speaker 1: Being curious, along with other qualities of being has opened
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  Speaker 1: so many doors and so many opportunities to build relationships,
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  Speaker 1: to be able to work with people that I would
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  Speaker 1: never have otherwise met, and to serve people in over
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  Speaker 1: thirty countries on six continents. So what am I saying here?
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  Speaker 1: I am saying that the skills of self awareness, openness, transparency,
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  Speaker 1: and curiosity are the foundation stones for developing personal mastery.
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  Speaker 1: They are the foundation stone for becoming yourself. Each skill
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  Speaker 1: is distinct, and each one is essential. Each skill builds
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  Speaker 1: on itself and all of the other skills together they
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  Speaker 1: work in concert to support you in being who you
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  Speaker 1: truly are. Now, for those of you listening today all
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  Speaker 1: if you want to be the change you seek, remember this.
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  Speaker 1: How you live is how you lead. That's right, How
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  Speaker 1: you live is how you lead. It's how you do everything.
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  Speaker 1: You have the power to make our world a better
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