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Things to Look for In a Dating Relationship Pt. 5 · Time with God with John North

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  Speaker 1: Good morning. We're talking all this week about the five C's,
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  Speaker 1: 5 things you should be looking for in someone that
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  Speaker 1: you are dating or someone that you would marry. 5
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  Speaker 1: C's that you're looking for, and they go in order
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  Speaker 1: of importance.
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  Speaker 1: We've seen on Monday, they should be a Christian. They're
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  Speaker 1: a believer in Jesus Christ. You want to build your
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  Speaker 1: life with someone else who has the thing that's most
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  Speaker 1: important to you is also most important to them, and
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  Speaker 1: that is their relationship with God. You want to marry someone.
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  Speaker 1: Who has this relationship with God that is going to
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  Speaker 1: help you work through the struggles of life. Secondly, not
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  Speaker 1: only a Christian, but a committed Christian, someone who is
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  Speaker 1: putting God first in their life, because all that the
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  Speaker 1: Bible describes of how God wants to be involved in
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  Speaker 1: our lives, it only works when he's at the centre
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  Speaker 1: of our lives, not if he
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  Speaker 1: Out on the periphery somewhere, but we are the centre,
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  Speaker 1: not even when your spouse is the centre of your life.
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  Speaker 1: It only works when God is the centre of your
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  Speaker 1: life and when the two of you have God at
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  Speaker 1: the centre of your lives. That is the recipe for
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  Speaker 1: a great marriage. The third C that is important is
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  Speaker 1: that they are a person of character.
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  Speaker 1: A person of character that you want to build your
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  Speaker 1: life with. The 4th C we looked at yesterday, they
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  Speaker 1: are competent. That is, they are able to do the
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  Speaker 1: things that are needed for raising children, for taking care
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  Speaker 1: of a home, for providing for the family, that this
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  Speaker 1: also is there.
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  Speaker 1: The 5th C, OK, these are the 5 most important things.
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  Speaker 1: This is the least important of the 5, but it's
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  Speaker 1: also important and cannot be ignored, and that is chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: Whew, aren't you glad that one's in there.
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  Speaker 1: Because you don't want to just have this marriage that's like, uh,
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  Speaker 1: this marriage where you're just thinking through everything and all
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  Speaker 1: the pieces fit together, but there's no passion, no chemistry,
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  Speaker 1: of course you want the chemistry. And when the Bible
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  Speaker 1: describes a beautiful marriage in the Song of Solomon in
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  Speaker 1: the Bible, uh, the book that parents don't like their
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  Speaker 1: teenagers to read, uh, you find this definite chemistry happening
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  Speaker 1: in that book, right, this passion.
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  Speaker 1: So it starts off in chapter one with the girl
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  Speaker 1: writing about Solomon. Let him kiss me with the kisses
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  Speaker 1: of his mouth, for your love is better than wine.
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  Speaker 1: Your anointing oils are fragrant. Your name is oil poured out. Therefore,
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  Speaker 1: virgins love you. Draw me after you. Let us run. Well,
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  Speaker 1: there's some passion there, isn't there?
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  Speaker 1: Uh, some real chemistry happening and when you look later
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  Speaker 1: in the chapter and you have his perspective on her
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  Speaker 1: and she, he says, behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold,
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  Speaker 1: you are beautiful, your eyes are doves, behold, you're beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: my beloved, truly delightful. I mean, there's chemistry happening there,
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  Speaker 1: isn't there.
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  Speaker 1: Now, uh,
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  Speaker 1: It's a fact
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  Speaker 1: You cannot maintain that level of passion throughout years of marriage, right?
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  Speaker 1: You would never get anything done or accomplished in your marriage.
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  Speaker 1: But as you start your marriage, there has to be
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  Speaker 1: that passion, there has to be that excitement about being together,
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  Speaker 1: and as you build your relationship with that chemistry, that
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  Speaker 1: Excitement about being together that provides you with the beginnings
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  Speaker 1: of what grows into a deep, lasting,
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  Speaker 1: Love relationship, right? It's the least important, but it's still important, chemistry, uh, uh,
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  Speaker 1: our kids are all young adults now and it's fun
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  Speaker 1: watching them when they may be kind of low on energy,
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  Speaker 1: and then their special person rings them on the phone
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  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, the energy is there, the excitement,
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  Speaker 1: or when they come over, everything's different. Well, that's the
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  Speaker 1: chemistry that you're looking for, right?
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  Speaker 1: Again, you're not able to sustain that every day through
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  Speaker 1: years of marriage. Your love becomes deeper.
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  Speaker 1: But that chemistry still comes and goes. These five C's
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  Speaker 1: are really important as you're looking for who you'll date
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  Speaker 1: and who you'll marry. They're Christian. They're committed. They have character.
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  Speaker 1: They are competent and there's chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: I'm John North.