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Wife Compensation Is the New Delusion | Episode 16 · Sincerely American

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Hi, Sincerely sisters, and welcome back to Sincerely
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American. Yes.
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OK, your first topic. Why was that the most awkward
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thing I've ever said in my life? I hated that there was like a
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stall. And I'm like, yeah, OK, sorry
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girls, we're getting into it now.
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I'm like finally alive and awake.
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Like we had to have that happen in order for us to get rolling
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I. Always like how do I even start?
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That, yeah, you're like, OK, let's go.
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And I'm like, yes. The girls who get it get.
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Yeah, sometimes my brain isn't on until like, Jamie, have you
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ever seen the memes, Jay of and we can cut this out, but the
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memes of like the two minds. And then there's like the wire,
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like connecting them. I'm like, that's me and you.
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But we have to like turn on the light switch.
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Like sometimes the light, the lights are on and nobody's home
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here. Like I'm just staring.
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I got this screen like waiting to like form a thought.
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Sometimes there's nothing there. We just cover like the most
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absurd things ever and like the funniest things ever.
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So it's like, how do I even like distill this into just like 1
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and 2? Yeah.
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Oh God. Speaking of just absolutely
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absurd things that we're covering, Cameron sent this to
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me. And I'm just like, this cannot
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be real, OK? So I guess there's this new
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trend. I think I have seen this camp,
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OK, where women want compensation for being a wife.
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And let's roll the clip for a listening audience.
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She says marriages are going to keep breaking because modern
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women are demanding compensation for being a wife.
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Let's hear your take, Cam. OK, this is actually like not my
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normal take because you know me. Like what's the there's like a
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grandma and we're going to find the clip because Brianna, it's
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like a it's a voice over to like Tik Toks where it's like, you
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need to take care of me. That's what men do, take care of
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their wives. The wife does take care of the
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man. Sorry, I will not do it.
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I'm very old school. Normally you would hear my spiel
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about how men need to become like boys need to become men.
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But here's the thing. We're seeing toxic femininity
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and it comes from this social media lifestyle, like we talked
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about in a couple episodes prior, where everything is so
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aspirational. Like the girl wants to go to
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Pilates, have her car paid for, you know, be at home, no job.
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But you're seeing this without there being anything that you're
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doing for your spouse, right? I think a lot of females just
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want to be there and exist and and I don't see not as a fair
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trade off. I actually think that like
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marriage, you know, you're their helpmate, like you have to help
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out. And it's like what is
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incentivizing them to be with you if you're not like giving
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them Peace of Mind when they come home, like the the house
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isn't made, it's a total disaster.
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You're nowhere to be found. But like, you're swiping his
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credit card all the time. And it's like, for these women,
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I'm just like, what does he get in return?
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Like that gives him like no peace or structure.
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And it's just, I do think women should pursue their interests.
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Obviously, be a good role model for your children, be productive
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for your spouse, for yourself. Like live your life accordingly.
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I think some women want to sit around and do nothing though.
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And it's like, that's not really a fair trade off in my opinion.
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Well there's so many levels to this like 1.
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I think a lot of people think being a stay at home mom is just
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not a job and it's actually the hardest job.
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Like running a household is a full time job, 24 hour job.
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Let me tell you. And there is some truth to this.
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There's both. You know, I really believe that
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I have a hard time with this because I'm someone who
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obviously works as well as being a mom and I am a stay at home
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mom because I kind of have a new modern job in this digital age
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where I can work from home for the most part.
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But there is problems with this new working woman approach to a
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marriage because gender roles in marriage used to be very
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specific and set in stone. It was the man worked his nine
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to five job. He left every day and he would
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go and bring the money home and the woman kept the house in
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order and took care of the kids and cleaned, cooked and all
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those things. Nowadays with the modern age and
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feminism, you have for a lot of marriages, the woman leaving
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throughout the day, the man leaving throughout the day, and
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then they come home. And women have a lot of
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animosity towards the man because I think a lot of men
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naturally are not as great fulfilling that household
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cooking and cleaning role as women naturally are.
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And you see a lot of animosity nowadays with woman being angry
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that, oh, this guy is not doing his fair share of the things.
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We're not being 5050. I hear a lot of language about
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default parent where the woman feels like she has way more of
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the child bearing role. And this is kind of the double
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edged sword of feminism. It's like you can't have your
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cake and eat it too. And so I think this has caused a
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lot of distress in marriages because there was just like a
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beautiful thing that, you know, woman knew what their role was
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and men knew what their role was and there wasn't any
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complication. And it just worked very well
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together in tandem because men and women have opposite traits
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for the most part. And they would come together and
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provide both sides of that. And nowadays, all those roles
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are thrown up into the air for a lot of these liberal marriages.
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You can't even talk about traditional gender roles at all.
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And so you see a lot of animosity on both sides where
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you have women feel like that they're owed something from men.
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And men feel like in this modern age, like, what's the point with
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women as well? And I think it's leading to a
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lot of divorces. And I do think, you know,
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because we're obviously talking about all of these issues, and
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I'm flushing this out in real time.
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It's good to bring this back to I think it's very important in a
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marriage to define what roles are and expectations are in the
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household. And I think a lot of times, and
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you know, I'm a traditional woman in this way, I do think
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the, the money and the financial burden should fall more on the
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man. And in general, the house,
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taking care of the house, the cooking and cleaning and
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childcare should fall more on the woman.
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I think it, it just makes the most sense and it just goes with
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what I think we're meant to do. And you know, I'm, I'm not a
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one-size-fits-all. I do think every marriage can
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look different. There's some dads that stay at
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home and there's some woman that go out and work.
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So I'm not one of those that judges your marriage if you do
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it differently, but I think a lot of people just jump in and
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get married and there's no expectations in place.
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There's no rules defined, and it ends up in complete chaos.
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And you're seeing that there's a lot of animosity on both ends.
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But to go back to the original point, should women be common?
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This is also compensated for marriage.
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This is also like if you have that approach where you're like
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doing tallies and checks, I'm doing this, He's not doing that.
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That's not a healthy way to go about your marriage at all.
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It shouldn't be a competition or a game or it shouldn't be.
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You know, I did this. So he does that.
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It's not on any single thing in your marriage.
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It's never going to be 5050. There's going to be give and
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take on both ends. And it's all about communication
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and ensuring that, you know, on whatever end that your spouse is
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living up to that. But also, Cameron, to your point
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too, I think that in this culture, it's OK to call out men
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for their failures in this modern marriage scene.
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But if you ever call out a woman, people freak out.
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And you should be able to call out both genders for their
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failures in marriages. There, there are bad.
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There's like this culture where it's like all men sock men are
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trash. They're not even worth getting
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married. And then you know, you can never
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say the same about women. And there's also women that are
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not good in marriages, like you said, where they're like just
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wanting to sit around all day and be provided the world to
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offer nothing in return. Yeah, I don't think that you
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should keep tallies or like, like you said, keep a scoreboard
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on who's doing what. But I do think, like you said,
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it's a give and take. It's never going to be 5050.
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Some days it's going to be 7030. He's going to come home, He's
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going to be absolutely exhausted and he's going to want to
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decompress. And it's kind of up to you to
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like, make sure that he's coming home to like a clean, stable and
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like peaceful environment where he's able to decompress, get
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more of a sound mind in order to pick it back up and prioritize
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your marriage and, and your lives together.
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And some days, you know, the woman may be off.
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The woman may be doing XY and Z for the family and for herself.
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And, and she needs her helper to, you know, help her wear and
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fill in those gaps. So, but I do think that there's
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this Instagram culture where we're seeing these women and
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they're like, we want to be completely provided for.
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I obviously see there's so many different sites of social media.
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That's why I love it. Because then you see the people
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arguing about 5050 and that they want a 5050 dynamic.
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Then you want the the Uber traditional marriage.
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But then there's like these women, there's this category of
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women where they just think that the man should absolutely
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bankroll everything they do and they provide nothing.
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They provide chaos. The house isn't clean, that the
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roof that he's putting over your head.
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You don't have to do a single thing.
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You can just live they're contributing to any sort of
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finances, credit cards, anything.
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And it's like he doesn't get like a stable, peaceful
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environment that's that's has structure in order to start a
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healthy life and especially to bring kids into that.
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And there is a category of women who are just like they, they
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want their girls nights. They they want the new bag, the
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new Kelly bag. They want to go on all these
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trips. They're already like figuring
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out which trips for the year that they go on.
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And I even watch this video of this divorce attorney.
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He was, he was talking about this prenup that he was
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negotiating on behalf of his client and he was talking about
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another attorney calling him behind the scenes being like,
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you're not going to like what she's demanding.
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This is absolutely insane. And this woman was demanding
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like 7 trips for the year minimum.
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She was demanding a monthly allowance for just just shopping
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and makeup products, like not even groceries or anything like
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that. And I just, it's because of this
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Instagram culture, this excessive lifestyle, this over
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consumerism where you feel like you have to be on like the
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nicest yacht with all of the plastic surgery do like in the
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nicest part of the world. And it's crazy.
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Like these women are so out of touch for that.
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Like. Always the women who demand all
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of that are like the least high value women.
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Totally. I just always notice that
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correlation. They're demanding the world and
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they're like the least high that like I'm just being honest.
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They're the type of woman that you know, I've travelled a lot
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with a lot of guys and have kind of slept around and have like
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are partiers and stuff and they're not like traditionally
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high value woman get. They expect the world.
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I always notice that. Correlation.
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It's so true. You'll see these girls on the
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street too. They'll do like these man on the
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street interviews and they're like, what would you rate
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yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? And a girl will like be like a
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10. Like she'll like forcefully, but
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then like she's not an objectively conventionally
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attractive person. And you're like, where do you
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live? Cuz I wouldn't even say that I'm
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a 10. I want that delusion.
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Yeah, I wouldn't even say that I'm a 10.
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I feel like you and I like we we're always very honest with
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each other and we're humble in the way where we know like we're
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not like the best out there. But I'm like these women, like I
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understand the incel culture now like I do when I see videos like
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that. I'm like you are not
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incentivizing these men and to ever want to pursue and a
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genuine, real, authentic and substantive relationship with
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you when you're acting like that.
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I think in general, if we could distill this down, I think women
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want to feel provided and protected, and I think men want
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to feel that their life is organized and that they are
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loved. I really believe that.
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So I think that that's how you have a health, a happy and
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healthy marriage. Speaking of just once again,
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this one's even more absurd than the last.
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I like I thought that was a low. We've hit another level of low.
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And this is what you get when you're a female scrolling on
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TikTok. You get this type of content.
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Let's roll the clap. I'm a.
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Little scared to say this but every time I see a pregnancy
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announcement I see pregnancy. In this current political
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climate that we're in, I straight up see pregnancy as an
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act of like self harm. Like if you're posting that
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you're pregnant, I, I pretty much think that you hate
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yourself. And I'm like not even joking.
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And I, I understand that that's like really like, is it alarming
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for me to think that? And like I'm here questioning
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that. I even if I think it's alarming,
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which could be alarming in itself, but also like not
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because you're the one pregnant in this political climate.
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Regardless where you stand politically, the laws affect you
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and your pregnant self and your baby in a negative manner,
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regardless if you agree with it or not.
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OK, Cameron is being pregnant self harm and I'm sorry, let me
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just preface this by saying this is the exact culture that's just
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so anti natalist. It's the culture that they want
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to break apart the family. This is the feminist agenda.
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And I know not every feminist, there's feminists who have kids.
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So I know not every feminist like willingly believes that
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they're a part of this culture. But this is the end game.
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Like let's discourage people from having children, having
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families. Let's just have a bunch of, you
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know, single woman running around and caring only about
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themselves, living the most narcissistic life imaginable.
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And like, I'm not looking to attack woman who choose not to
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have kids or that doesn't obviously woman who it doesn't
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happen for them. But I am going to come after
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this culture that's actively discouraging woman from having
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children and engaging in family life because it's so real and
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it's it's fed to women like crazy.
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Like even conservative women like us, we get this on our
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tick. Tock yeah, I got this on my feed
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and I couldn't my jaw hit the floor because I'm like how out
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of touch with life and just your I don't have the words.
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This is literally I should have put this in the I have no words
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section. But I think, like you said, it
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stems from people living for nothing other than themselves.
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Like you see people protecting their peace.
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They're not getting married. We have the lowest fertility
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rates in history. And now they're viewing it as
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self harm. Like they're making it seem
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oppressive. They're trying to sell you this
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lifestyle. That's not something that's
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aspirational. You shouldn't want that.
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You have to look at it these, these when I want to say women,
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I'm going to call women now they want to live through this false
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reality that doesn't exist. This what she has created.
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She has demonized creating a life.
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You are essentially when you are pregnant, you, your body is it's
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a miracle. It is literally a godly miracle.
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When you are blessed with a child, you are able to conceive
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and you and your spouse were able to create a life that is
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the most sacred, holy, your beautiful thing you could
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possibly do is create a life. So to say that to twist it like
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you said and be so narcissistic as to view that as self harm.
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Now here's here's actually where I'll say a caveat.
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OK, I understand that some people have very high risk
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pregnancies and you should not ignore that.
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You should. I'm not saying that you should
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ignore that 100% That's not, but that's not but that that I was
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just about to say. So I'll acknowledge that.
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But that's not what she's getting at at all.
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And I think it's still, it's fueled by illusion, it's fueled
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by hatred, divisiveness. I just it's a subjective reality
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that's just so beyond the pale where I just like, I can't even
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I don't even know what to say to that other than like, you're a
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psycho, B word. You're actually psycho and
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you're crazy for that, to think that.
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Well, I'll never forget, I think it was started in 2023, this
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trad wife trend became really big on TikTok where people were
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doing like a lot of trad wife content, whether that be
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motherhood content, baking content, call themselves trad
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wives. And you know, we've talked about
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kind of that a lot of it's become very cringy.
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But I'll never forget the reaction from a lot of these
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feminist women where they really believe that it was like a huge
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attack back on woman. They were like this, you can't
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watch this. And they would have to come out
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with all these videos talking about how terrible and how
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poisonous the trad wife content and how regressive it was.
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And I remember just sitting there and thinking, I'm like,
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God, they're that scared about people, like wanting to like go
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back towards more traditional relationships and a traditional
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lifestyle. Like this is like a huge attack
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on feminism. And this gets to the point too,
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that feminists are just never for encouraging all women.
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They're hypocrites. They're liars, pretend that
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they're all about empowering women until the 2nd that you're
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a conservative, Christian, traditional leaning woman, then
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they'll ruthlessly tear you apart.
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And I think at the end of the day, they, like I said, they
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just want to tear apart the family unit and they'll do
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everything they can. I've seen a huge trend that we
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should cover actually in a future podcast by this.
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It's called Child Free by choice, where people like talk a
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lot about why they decide to not have children and go on and on
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and on and on about it. And it low key kind of feels
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like a cope. I won't lie.
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Like a lot of this is just like people who I think, you know, I
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think that has to do. And I know we're going to talk
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about the abortion issue next. But I think that a lot of the
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abortion where a lot of these people who have had abortions
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become like the most strongest, staunchest advocates in your
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face. I had my abortion.
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I do feel like it's a cope where they may be very deep down, they
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might not even realize that have a lot of regret over like the
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decisions they've made in their lifestyle.
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You know, that's a lot of people who like promote the sex worker,
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promote A promiscuity lifestyle. They have, I think like deep
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seated regret. And so they have to, like, push
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it on to and promote and stand so hard by it.
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Or reminds me of when they were like, having a boyfriend is
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conservative coded. Basically, if you're just living
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a normal life, how, like, everybody's always lived and
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you're just like a chill normal person that doesn't like, make
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everything hyper political and, like, have to like, be miserable
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about life. It's conservative coded, which I
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think says everything we need to know about conservatism.
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If you want to be, like, normal fun and live happily, just, like
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be a conservative and not, like, live this insane mental
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gymnastics lifestyle where everything is like offensive to
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you or terrible. Yeah.
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And these how can you call pregnancy and creating a life
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self harm? But you're going to sit there,
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you're probably going to take your anxiety or depression
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medicine, your Lexapro, your Adderall.
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And you don't think that that's like harming your body in any
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way or your birth control that you've been on since you were
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like 13 or 14 because that's like the first thing that they
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push on you if you go to a gynecologist's office.
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The double standard is just so crazy.
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And the way it's so transparent and try hard to me, the way that
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they tried to make this oppressive and make it like it's
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not an aspirational lifestyle. I see a pregnant woman, it's
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like your body automatically goes into like a nurturing
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protective mode over her. Like she has a glow.
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She's creating a life like that's like one of the most
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vulnerable stages, as you could probably say Jamie, where your
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body's changing so much. You have so many different
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hormones rushing through you. But at the end of the day, it's
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a blessing and you just you created another being like
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there's and there's a legacy that lives on past past you.
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But when you die. So it's like the way that
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they're just making this out to me, it's so cringe.
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It's so try hard. And I think I looked at this and
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I'm like, I feel sad for this person that actually believes
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that that's self harm. And again, I already noted the
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the high risk pregnancies and things like that.
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But it's just this whole culture where they want to live for
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nothing but themselves. They've replaced God with
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themselves. And so they don't want it's and
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it's because of the feminist movement, like you said, where
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they have just completely pushed this on to a very impressionable
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group of of younger females. And this is unfortunately what's
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unfolded today. Imagine that you've had
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thousands upon thousands upon thousands of years of family
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that's fought tooth blood and nailed to like continue their
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generation, their bloodline, their heritage.
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I mean, you have thousands of years of ancestors and then
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you're just like, you know what, no, I'm just going to cut off my
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whole bloodline because I'm just a selfish person and I just.
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Live with my cat doing it. Live with my cat in my high
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rise. Like that mindset, and I'm not
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talking about women where childhood having children
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doesn't work out for them. I want to be clear, but the
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mindset of actively being like no, I will not have children
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because I just want to live for myself is like a mindset that.
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Before, probably 20 years ago, people couldn't even comprehend
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that wasn't even like a choice. It was like, of course I'm
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continuing on my family. That's all that matters at the
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end of the day and I think there's something to be said
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about that. Speaking about actual self harm,
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I don't think that there's anything, I will stand by this
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that's more harmful to women than the promotion of abortion.
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There have been more abortions than people who have died in any
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World War. And I also saw the other day
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another statistic coming out that in the UK, one in three
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pregnancies result in an abortion.
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I don't think this is good or healthy for any society and I
20:39
don't even think like I'm obviously so pro-life, but I
20:42
think even someone who's pro-choice, like is this a
20:44
positive thing? Is this good?
20:47
How do you explain this as a pro-choice person?
20:50
Well, and here's the thing, these people, abortion kills
20:54
more lives and gun violence in the US and there's only one
20:58
thing liberals want to ban and they're not ready for that
21:00
conversation. So they're not.
21:04
And here's my thing too, on the other side of this coin, if we
21:08
are going to be pro-life, though, I truly believe this in
21:11
my heart, we need to be better about propping up and promoting
21:16
adoption agencies and, and promoting people who want to
21:20
start families who can't instead of just being, you know, saying
21:24
that you're pro-life, but you know, you don't have like you're
21:26
not solutions oriented about it. So I think that we need to do a
21:29
better job, especially like within our churches, within our
21:32
communities, making sure that there are like, if there's
21:34
adoption agencies nearby to, to volunteer and to help get the
21:38
word out, especially with social media nowadays too, that's where
21:41
the primary place where people go is.
21:43
They do a Google search or they go on, they go on Instagram or
21:46
they go on on Twitter. It's like we have to do a better
21:49
job too about that in my opinion.
21:52
Yeah, I mean, there's great pregnancy centers out there,
21:55
pro-life pregnancy centers, like huge shout out to so many of
21:58
them that do incredible work. But I just think that the
22:01
promotion of abortion towards young women has been the most
22:05
demonic force and truly I think in the history of humankind.
22:11
I think it goes against on just a basic biological instinct,
22:15
everything that women are supposed to be.
22:17
And, you know, as women, we have it just in, ingrained in our DNA
22:21
that we want to nurture and take care of our own children.
22:24
And to convince women to mass slaughter their own children is
22:28
just demonic. I, I don't think there's any
22:30
other word that you can describe it.
22:32
And it is murder. It's, it's a human that should
22:34
be preserved. It's, it's sacred that this is,
22:38
we have a right to life. It says that in our Bible.
22:41
It says that in our constitution, because that's
22:43
what's right. And it seems like that there are
22:45
a lot of this, you know, group of very progressive women who we
22:50
see them out protesting, we see them posting, you know, videos
22:53
like, we just saw where it feels like something is deeply wrong
22:56
and they're really struggling. Like I, I think I agree with
22:58
you. Like, I, I have a lot of empathy
23:00
towards these women that I think it, it seems like things are not
23:03
going well. And I really do think it, it has
23:05
a lot to do with abortion. And you know, I don't say this
23:08
to like and get on my high horse and to lecture people like you
23:12
can go to church for, you know, to be preached to about these
23:15
values. But I'm saying this that on this
23:17
podcast, we always encourage women to be the best versions of
23:21
themselves. And going out and sleeping with
23:23
a bunch of guys and getting an abortion is not like we want to
23:26
change the culture with women. And I think, you know, there's a
23:29
lot of women who maybe you've made mistakes in the past.
23:31
We welcome you here because it's never too late to turn that
23:34
around and to start a better life.
23:36
And I think like the message that we talk about with having,
23:39
having dignity over your body and the decisions you make and,
23:44
and with, I think having high respect for your own body and
23:48
making sure that men respect you and that they deserve you in
23:51
that capacity and have real love and real relationships and build
23:55
a family. I think that's the most
23:56
empowering message that you can pass along to women.
23:59
And so it just makes me so sad that we live in this culture
24:01
where this is so normalized that sex is whatever, getting an
24:05
abortion. This is just not a culture
24:07
that's going to create a better country.
24:09
Well, I think that they've just tried to completely de
24:14
personalize the experience. And it's such a dehumanizing
24:17
experience too, because when you go or like they, they'll portray
24:21
it as like a clump of cells. But like, if you actually look
24:24
at the statistics, if a woman is going to go get an abortion, she
24:28
has over a 50% chance she will keep it if she sees the first
24:31
ultrasound. So like, in order to combat this
24:34
evil, we do need to be solutions oriented and you know, we need
24:38
to like prop up and engage with these pro-life pregnancy centers
24:43
because look at how much propaganda and, and like
24:48
glorification of Planned Parenthood we've seen and media
24:51
and, and like with our influencers with, with causes.
24:55
If you look at any fashion line, they're probably giving to
24:59
Planned Parenthood like they did BLM.
25:01
Like I remember, I think I went to Christian Louboutin and they
25:03
were doing that one year in Miami for my birthday.
25:06
I went in there and they. Never forget Dewanne.
25:08
You know that dress company that makes adorable dresses they
25:10
donate to plan? Yeah, Oh, yeah, And Olivia
25:12
Rodrigo, she was donating half of or something.
25:16
So many of her proceeds from her concerts to there.
25:19
And it's like in order to combat this, like we need to have
25:22
healthy alternatives to this because I think that they just
25:26
deep, like I said, and I, I know I'm repeating myself, but they
25:29
dehumanize this experience. This is a human life.
25:32
And they've tried to depersonalize it.
25:34
Make sure that like make sure that the mother is completely
25:37
detached from this as possible, like not doing an ultrasound.
25:41
There's no other successful way to have this pregnancy, not even
25:44
talking about adoption centers or possibly keeping it and
25:48
having financial help, private financial help from people who
25:51
are donating to these pregnancy centers, these pro pregnancy
25:55
centers. Obviously this is just a
25:56
cultural issue that we have. I just, I can't even wrap the
26:00
head my head around the fact that it's just so normalized to
26:03
terminate a pregnancy and people just continue to do it.
26:06
But I also want to blame the system for propping up birth
26:10
control too, because I believe that birth control suppresses
26:14
those nurturing hormones in your body.
26:17
It's completely you're putting in all of these hormones and
26:20
being pumped with these chemicals that are not supposed
26:22
to be there. That is like getting rid of
26:25
that, like true grounding, like that biblical grounding, like
26:28
you said, of like wanting to be a nurturer, wanting to care for
26:32
for like a family and for your child.
26:34
And so I think that these women have just been like pumped with
26:37
birth control. It's actually glorified.
26:39
Like women who like get multiple abortions, you'll never see a
26:42
woman. I had a woman comment on my
26:44
thing the other day, my video on TikTok.
26:46
She's like, yeah, I just watched this video after terminating my
26:49
segment, my 7th pregnancy, getting my 7th abortion.
26:54
I was like, like, should I say can do you want to Congrats.
26:57
Like, what are you trying to prove here?
26:59
It's disgusting, but it's disgusting.
27:02
And it's it's not only disgusting, but it's so
27:05
disheartening to think that like women think that that's normal
27:09
for their bodies to imagine. Nobody wants to talk about the
27:12
trauma and the medical crises that you may experience after
27:16
abortion. So like you said, some of the
27:18
best people in the pro-life movement have had abortions and
27:22
they talk about the depression that comes after.
27:24
They talk about the medical experience that happened to me.
27:27
You may not ever be able to have a child ever again after that.
27:31
The depression and anxiety rates are through the roof.
27:34
I think it's leaving just. And it's from a lack of
27:37
grounding in connection with people.
27:39
People don't crave substantive relationships anymore.
27:43
You have IG relationships where it's like you're just commenting
27:46
on your photos. You have porn addictions where
27:48
people are getting their intimacy through a screen.
27:51
People lack being present in the moment.
27:54
Young women, get off your phone. Young men, get off your phone.
27:58
Stop watching porn. Go meet people in public, pray
28:02
to God, read your Bible and turn off the news sometimes too.
28:07
And I promise you'll be way happy and go to the gym and I or
28:10
go for a walk and I promise you, you will be way happier that
28:13
way. I think that people just lack
28:15
substantive relationships. They're glorifying things that
28:19
shouldn't be glorified and it's just we've they've just lost the
28:23
plot. They've not to sound so ginzy,
28:25
but I'm like, they've just completely lost the plot.
28:28
Cameron, you really cooked on that one.
28:29
Thank you. I think that was great.
28:33
This actually is a very easy segue.
28:34
And two, I have no words where we always have a lot of words.
28:41
So this woman will roll the clip, but she's claiming that
28:44
she got a tumor, allegedly from her birth control.
28:47
I have a tumor on my liver from birth control and yes it's
28:50
directly caused from birth control.
28:52
I've talked about birth control a number of times on here and
28:54
sometimes I'm met with don't demonize birth control.
28:57
When you demonize birth control it affects women's rights.
29:00
If anything, I think being informed as a woman is in favor
29:03
of our rights. This is a side note, but if you
29:05
want your mind to be absolutely blown in the sense of learning
29:08
about birth control, I recommend watching The Business of Birth
29:11
Control. It's not to scare you, but it
29:13
just paints a picture of how our system actually works.
29:15
I have a hepatic adenoma which based on medical literature and
29:19
my whole report, it basically is due to long term exposure of
29:23
birth control. The thing that pisses me off the
29:25
most is that birth control is just handed out like candy.
29:29
It's handed out to every woman for any type of symptom without
29:32
any explanation of the real side effects and not to mention that
29:35
Women's Health is just severely under researched in general.
29:37
The craziest part is that I'm not on birth control anymore and
29:40
I haven't been for the last five years.
29:41
I was put on birth control when I was 12 years old for bad acne
29:45
and just horrible periods. I'm very careful always when I
29:48
speak about the subject because I am not a doctor and I'm not a
29:51
medical professional. So I'm speaking on my personal
29:54
experience. I don't think in general, I
29:57
think the way that birth control is just pushed out to women
30:01
starting at the age of 13, sometimes earlier.
30:04
I do not think this is normal. I, I, personally, I'm speaking
30:07
on my personal experience. I would not want to be on a pill
30:09
for years and suppressing my natural cycles.
30:12
I'm not someone who takes birth control because I just, I don't
30:15
want to be on a pill everyday. I, I, I don't think that that's
30:18
a great way to go about life. Of course, it's your body in
30:21
between your doctor when it comes to taking medication.
30:24
And so if that's something that you want to do, call power to
30:26
you. But I do think the way that it's
30:28
just normalized nowadays. And I'm going to bring this to
30:32
the COVID vaccine because I remember during COVID they had,
30:36
you know, they rolled out the COVID vaccine and there was all
30:38
these mandates. And I don't believe with any
30:40
type of medication there is ever A1 size fits all solution.
30:44
Maybe that COVID vaccine works very well for someone, but it
30:47
also might not work for another person because we all have
30:49
completely different bodies and our bodies handle any type of
30:52
substance, whether food, whatever that you're putting in
30:55
your body handles a different way.
30:56
And even something like I use this example for a lot of
30:58
people, even something like Advil, which you would think is
31:01
A1 size fits all, anyone could take Advil.
31:03
I personally can't take Advil because I have a weird random
31:05
blood disorder called von Willebrand's disease that I
31:07
won't go into, but my blood is thin and so Advil will thin my
31:11
blood more. So that is something that I
31:13
can't take. So something even as simple as
31:15
Advil is actually not A1 size fits all for everyone.
31:17
That being said, I do think that pushing this birth control pill
31:22
out onto women in masks, I don't think has been positive for
31:25
society. And I think when you're making
31:27
decisions about that, you should ask a lot of questions and do a
31:30
lot of research and be careful. And don't just, you know, we
31:34
live in a day and age, to be quite frank, where a lot of
31:36
these doctors are just looking to prescribe with pills every
31:39
single thing, whether it be anxiety, depression, hormonal
31:43
acne. And I think taking natural roots
31:45
and natural remedies is the best way to go about it.
31:48
Another thing I'll say, they're like, well, you're against
31:49
abortion, so you should be for birth control.
31:52
How about just save yourself for the right person so you don't
31:54
need to worry about any of this that's never discussed in this
31:57
day and age? It's like, oh, I like I, I hate
32:00
to say this because people are like, Jamie, you're such shaming
32:02
or whatever, but no, I don't think you should have sex with
32:05
random men that you could possibly become pregnant and
32:08
you're in the situation where you have to have an abortion.
32:10
Yeah. It's like, so there's also that
32:11
lifestyle that a lot of people engaged in that's not talked
32:13
about enough that if you do wait for the right person, you don't
32:15
need to worry about any of this. You're good.
32:17
Don't worry. Yeah.
32:18
It's like, oh, I have anxiety. Well, have you tried going
32:21
outside to get some vitamin D or it's like, oh, I'm depressed.
32:25
Have you tried taking a shower and calling somebody and like
32:29
making it because you have a community around you?
32:31
Like I, like you said, natural remedies.
32:33
I am somebody who's so passionate about this topic.
32:36
I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome and that's
32:39
another thing I won't go into. But at a very young age, my
32:43
periods were very sporadic. Not to be TMI to our girlies,
32:47
but they'll probably enjoy it. I don't care.
32:49
And so I went in and the first thing that they offered was
32:52
birth control. I also had terrible hormonal
32:54
acne as well as my my sister. My sister was dealing with acne
32:58
too. And that was like the first
32:59
thing that they offered her. And she's like 13.
33:01
I was, I was 13 at the time too, not even sexually active.
33:05
And they're wanting you to get on the pill for For these
33:08
reasons. And I will tell you, anytime you
33:10
go to a doctor, they're going to prescribe you medicine because
33:13
they're making money off that. But that's also our medical
33:15
system in general. They have a prescription
33:19
mindset. So that's.
33:20
It does. It's not a preservative
33:22
subscribe that, it's a prescribing mindset in our
33:24
medical system, right? Now, yes, and of course they're
33:27
going to prescribe you more medicine to be on.
33:30
And sometimes like I've heard from women, if they just cut it
33:33
all out completely and just like focus on diet, focus on working
33:38
out, focusing on things that they can actually control in
33:40
their life to make it better than a lot of those side effects
33:44
like continue to decrease and decrease.
33:46
And I understand there's like some circumstances, like you
33:49
said, like there's not A1 size fits all.
33:51
I'm sure that like, you know, acne medicine like
33:53
spironolactone can help other people, Lexapro, great for
33:57
anxiety, whatever. Like if that works for you,
33:59
great. But I'm as somebody who has like
34:01
kind of been on, I don't want to say been on everything, but like
34:04
has been on birth control and then got off birth control
34:07
because that was the only thing she was recommended at the time.
34:10
And of course, I was going to just do what the doctors told
34:13
me. I didn't really think it through
34:15
because I was so young and impressionable, like and
34:17
malleable in that way. And I'm not a doctor.
34:19
So I trusted them and it's good to not swim with the current and
34:23
kind of question authority sometimes because now we're
34:25
looking at the long term side effects of all of this and it's
34:28
just not good for our girls. And, you know, they're, I think
34:31
they should do a lot of studies on this.
34:33
I think there's a reason they don't, to be honest, because I
34:36
just feel like science is so politicized nowadays.
34:38
But I do think that there's a huge reason, probably correlated
34:41
with the mass use of birth control with infertility rates
34:44
nowadays. Because here's what I was going
34:46
to say. They put you on birth control at
34:48
the age of 12 and 13. That way you're paying for IVF
34:51
at 30, 32. I'm I'm fully convinced.
34:53
People are saying that I'm fully convinced.
34:55
I don't, like I said, not a doctor, but I'm just throwing
35:00
this out here. So we keep our girls informed
35:02
and question. It's good to question things all
35:04
the time, especially when you're making a big decision.
35:06
But I just don't find, I wouldn't find it surprising
35:09
that's suppressing your cycle for sometimes a decade and then
35:12
trying to get pregnant. You're going to have issues of
35:14
pregnancy. And the last thing I'll say too,
35:16
is I've never met a single person who's gotten off birth
35:18
control in his regret. Me.
35:19
Neither. Everyone's like, thank God birth
35:21
control. It was like the worst thing
35:23
ever. I my whole mindset was changed.
35:25
My body's changed since being I'm just a natural is better
35:29
type of girl. Like I said, you guys can make
35:31
your own decisions. I'm not a doctor.
35:32
I'm not telling you how to live your life, but in general, the
35:36
thing that I would like to promote is doing natural
35:38
remedies and that includes also lifestyle choices.
35:41
And I think we're always honest on this podcast that making good
35:44
lifestyle choices leads to better results.
35:46
And no need for birth control or abortions if you make good
35:50
lifestyle. Decisions and one last thing
35:52
that I'll say too, because I know we have some younger girls
35:55
in high school who watched this too like 13141516.
35:59
I know some of my sisters well, my sister and her friends watch
36:03
our show like give your. I know this is personal, so I'm
36:07
sorry. Like if you're listening in the
36:08
car with somebody, but like give your period time to regulate
36:11
itself too. There are so many girls who like
36:13
don't have regular periods. As soon as they start and they
36:16
get all freaked out, then their moms take them to the doctor and
36:18
the first thing that they're recommending is birth control.
36:20
Like give it time. People have different cycles
36:23
too. Some people have different
36:25
cycles and like you're, you're going through puberty, your
36:28
body's being pumped with hormones.
36:29
You're, you're on a growth spurt.
36:31
You're, you're still growing in height.
36:33
Like it's, it's OK. And especially if you're active,
36:36
like I know a lot of younger young women, especially like
36:39
myself, I was a cheerleader at the time.
36:41
I was running track, I was playing soccer, like I was doing
36:45
all these things. And of course, like your body is
36:47
just filled with like so many different hormones.
36:50
And it's normal for things to be a little off balance until you
36:53
get a little bit older. Like it's OK.
36:55
So that would be my number one advice is just to there's no
36:58
problem in waiting and exploring your options on that.
37:01
Completely agree. All right, you guys
37:04
transitioning to our next section, our Q&A, non-toxic
37:08
advice. And as always, we love hearing
37:15
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question to sincerelyamerican.com slash ask
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a question. OK?
37:20
Our first question today, Cameron, is Katie from
37:22
California. What's something that instantly
37:25
makes a woman look more put together even with no makeup?
37:29
I would honestly, I thought about this and I'm guilty of
37:32
this too. I think good posture, good
37:35
posture. I like.
37:37
That if you have good posture, you automatically to me like
37:40
have just a more elevated presence, like a lot of people,
37:44
especially if their shoulders are down.
37:46
Like I'm a big believer in body language.
37:49
You just have like a calm or demeanor that way.
37:51
So yeah, I long, Long story short, sorry, short and sweet.
37:55
I'm gonna go with good posture. You know, this is an interesting
37:58
I saw someone debate this one time.
38:00
I think having like styled hair is more important than makeup.
38:05
So pretend you're like really short on time.
38:09
I would always choose to do my hair overdoing my makeup and I
38:12
will explain. I think you can still look
38:13
really good if you like blow dry your hair, make it look sleek
38:16
out a few little curls in there and have it look nice versus
38:20
like frizzy or greasy per SE. And have a bare face of makeup
38:24
versus I think you can do a full face of makeup.
38:26
And if your hair is greasy, be frizzy and looks like crap, then
38:29
I don't think you'll ever look good.
38:30
So I, I think hair if you're short on time.
38:34
And I have so many of those days where I need to go out and run
38:36
some errands or just go to brunch and I don't really want
38:39
to do a full face of makeup. Just making your hair look nice
38:42
and having like a cute outfit, I think can go a long way.
38:44
OK, last question, Amy from Florida, how do you stay
38:47
connected to friends who have very different political views?
38:50
And what's been the best way for you to meet women who think more
38:53
like you? Well, I had some instances in
38:58
high school. Wait.
38:59
Quickly, do we even have friends that have different?
39:01
Poetical views I do, actually I do.
39:03
So I was going to tell this story.
39:05
Yeah, I'm trying to think of I. Do so I went through this like
39:09
period of my life, high school and college where I had a lot of
39:13
liberal teammates. I mean, I don't want to even say
39:15
a lot. I want to say all of them were
39:17
were liberal and then I was friends with a girl in high
39:22
school, couple girls in high school who were liberal as well.
39:25
And we had falling outs and unfortunately I'm not still
39:28
close with some. But there was one girl in
39:31
particular where we just decided to put differences aside.
39:34
We understood that it was politics and that like you can
39:38
agree to disagree and, and live your life and, and still be
39:42
friends and not like, you know what I mean?
39:45
Just not demonize them for for an opinion.
39:48
And so I think that comes with age and maturity, mostly
39:53
maturity. And so I wouldn't say that those
39:57
friends for me are few and far in between though, if that's
40:00
even the saying. I feel like I keep misspeaking
40:02
this episode but most of my friends are conservative and I
40:07
think when you get older. Especially like when you have
40:10
the same world view and the same goals, like when you get older,
40:13
you want low maintenance friends who are like wanting you to
40:16
accomplish your goals. And what are those goals?
40:19
Are those goals to have a family, to have a balanced life,
40:21
to be healthy, to be happy? Like you're going that in turn,
40:25
you're going to be friends with like minded people who are
40:28
probably going to think the same as you because you're going to
40:30
have those commonalities. And you're also not just going
40:33
to have those commonalities on the surface, but even deeper
40:35
than that, like you are rooted in Christ together and and you
40:39
guys are going to in turn push each other to be the best
40:42
versions of yourself and that biblical grounding too.
40:46
So I met Jamie through a friend. I meet people, friends of
40:50
friends. I meet people through work
40:53
through my career. I think that's the best way.
40:57
Jamie and I Jamie was on the campaign and I was in the White
41:00
House and I met her through another girl that we love that
41:04
was an intern in the White House.
41:05
And then we met our best friend Bryson.
41:07
She was working in our office at the time too.
41:10
I was able to meet Isabel through Jamie, another girl
41:13
named Caroline through Jamie. And you just kind of meet
41:16
people, friends of friends, and you all become one.
41:19
Our other friend, Bridget and Emily we met through our friend
41:22
Alexandra Bryson. She went to college with them.
41:25
And so when you get older, you kind of just like all kind of
41:29
like form a big friend group, I would say, in my opinion, or
41:32
like with your job to wherever you're spending most of your
41:34
time. I would say church could be a
41:36
cool place to meet people too if like if you're in any youth
41:39
groups like but that's really how you're going to find like
41:42
minded people. Like, I was just thinking I have
41:44
some acquaintances, I would say not like super close friends who
41:47
have slightly different political beliefs than me.
41:50
I mean, any of my close friends I guess would have slightly
41:52
different political beliefs than me.
41:53
But maybe people who like per SE, we're not like someone who
41:56
voted for Trump, but not like, I wouldn't say that They're like
41:59
super liberal and like some family members, I would say.
42:04
Which? I actually don't I don't like I
42:07
would be friends with someone who's like a far left liberal.
42:09
I mean that I think it's interesting to have people who
42:11
come from like very different perspectives for than you.
42:14
I think it makes life more colorful.
42:16
It makes life more interesting. I'm someone, yes, I'm very
42:19
passionate about politics and my beliefs, but I'm not someone
42:22
that takes it like overly seriously or gets like very hurt
42:24
feelings if someone disagrees with me.
42:26
Grant in Northern California, I went to Cal like I'm used to
42:29
everyone disagreeing with me. So I used to have a lot of
42:31
friends that were like very liberal, but unfortunately,
42:34
given the career path I went down, those people decided that
42:38
they didn't want to be my friend anymore.
42:40
I always say the trash takes itself out if you don't want to
42:43
be friends with me because we have a political difference and
42:45
like, OK, you don't deserve to be my friend anyway.
42:47
So I mean like there wasn't really any hurt feelings over
42:50
it. I'd kind of moved into a
42:51
different stage of life, like when I met you and started
42:53
meeting a bunch of other people working conservative politics.
42:56
But unfortunately the other side, I'm just going to be
42:58
honest, girls, like a lot of them are very intolerant of us.
43:01
If you have a different belief system.
43:03
And so if you can find somebody that will tolerate you for
43:07
having different beliefs, and I think that's a great friendship
43:09
to have. And I don't think that you
43:10
should just be friends with someone if they have the same
43:12
political beliefs as you. It's good to be challenged on a
43:15
regular basis. And in terms of meeting people
43:17
who agree with you, I think like naturally, if you're at church
43:20
and you're surrounding yourself with good people and you're
43:22
going to find like minded people, but I don't think that
43:25
should be a priority. I do, however, I I will say when
43:27
it comes to dating, I think you should have someone that's on
43:30
the same page. If you're raising children
43:32
together, I think you need to be on the same page.
43:34
Not 100% of course. It's like normal to have a
43:37
little disagreement here and there, but I'm going to say I
43:40
don't think in this day and age you can really date someone on
43:43
the complete opposite end of the spectrum.
43:45
That being said, some people do it, so who am I to judge?
43:48
All right girls, let's head into our favorite section, Hot or
43:52
not. All right, Cam, private
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Instagram stories, I'm going to go.
44:04
I'm going to go hot. I never do them, but like I'm
44:06
always on like all my friends private stories and it's so
44:10
funny like what we all post and it's like these these beautiful
44:14
photos of my friends and the private stories are just like
44:17
unhinged and like if their humor comes out and it's like funny
44:21
little family moments that they can't post for everyone because
44:23
they still like want privacy and stuff.
44:25
So I don't know, it's just like more human and authentic that
44:28
way. I feel like Instagram is just so
44:30
curated. It's like hard to have.
44:32
Like it's just not real, you know?
44:34
So like the private Instagrams, they're definitely more real.
44:37
So I'm going to go hot. I'm going to go hot as well, but
44:40
I use my private story differently than probably a lot
44:43
of people do. So like Cameron, you have like a
44:46
separate private Instagram where you like share more, you know,
44:49
personal type content. And then you use your like
44:52
primary Instagram for mainly the kind of like work related
44:55
content, which obviously like you get a little personal
44:57
because it's sincerely American and stuff like that.
44:59
But I don't have like a separate Instagram account, so I use my
45:03
private story for that. Like things that are more about
45:06
my family or maybe show kind of like a funny side of my
45:09
personality or particularly like content with Vivian or maybe
45:12
that would show like somewhere that I live because I get really
45:15
nervous like A and like for a danger threat about like anyone
45:18
ever like knowing like where I live or, you know, sharing me
45:21
some more intimate kind of moments with Vivian.
45:23
I don't necessarily think that's like good to just put out to
45:25
random people. So basically I use my private
45:27
story for anyone who I like know in person and I know them well
45:30
enough to know that they're good people and yada, yada.
45:33
So I'm not really that unhinged on my private story because like
45:36
it actually has like my grandparents on it and like my
45:39
mother and father-in-law, you know what I mean?
45:41
So I'm not going to be like just unhinged on my private story.
45:43
Maybe I need to create a separate, separate private story
45:46
for that, even though I don't do anything unhinged in this day
45:49
and age. My unhinged is I DoorDash
45:52
something in pajamas. Yeah, All right, naps.
45:57
I'm gonna go. Not just because I won't wake up
45:59
from it. I'm not gonna lie.
46:01
Like I could nap for five, 6-7 hours.
46:05
Like my body doesn't wake up from a nap.
46:07
I can never take a power nap. Jamie knows this about me too.
46:11
Like, we were on, what was it? We were on the train coming back
46:15
from New York, and I was napping.
46:16
And you, like, I think you nudged me.
46:18
Maybe you need to go to the bathroom or something.
46:20
I woke up. My eyes were like bloodshot red,
46:22
like I was in REM sleep. Like my body was just like
46:26
shutting down. And so with I can't do it.
46:28
I just have to sleep. And so I really try not to nap
46:31
because it throws me off routine.
46:34
One thing about Cam and I, Jay and Camcord, is we are always
46:38
tired. Yeah, always.
46:39
Why is that? I feel like hot girls are always
46:41
tired. Yeah.
46:42
And you get sleepy around people you're comfortable with too.
46:45
Did you know that? Like chemically, like if your
46:48
spouse, especially if they're like sleepy around you, that
46:50
means they feel like safe and comfortable with you.
46:53
That's interesting, I must feel really safe then.
46:59
I'm going to go nod as well for the same reason.
47:01
I don't think I will only do a nap if it's like desperate need
47:06
of it. But 9 out of 10 times I've woken
47:09
up from a nap I feel like way worse.
47:11
Like literally sometimes when you wake up from a nap you feel
47:13
like actually the worst. You feel sick, like you feel
47:15
like the worst you've ever felt in your entire life.
47:17
But I swear some I'm such a bad sleeper.
47:19
In this day and age, some of my overnight sleep should qualify
47:23
as a nap. We're talking like 2 hours I get
47:24
of sleep. So I think that's a nap.
47:27
OK Waterline eyeliner. So, Cameron, we're talking like
47:31
tight lining your eye. Yeah, and I'm going to go not
47:36
for me though, because I have almond shaped eyes.
47:39
So I do think it depends on your features, like if you have dark
47:42
hair, if you have light hair, like do you have harsher
47:45
features? Like you have to pay attention
47:47
to that. No, for me, but I I get the
47:50
trend in the vibe. So I'm not going to say that I'm
47:52
like completely disavowing it because I like it, but I can't
47:55
do it because then I look like like I look so snatch.
47:59
It's like too much. It's way too much on me.
48:03
That was like Cameron for our best friend Brysons wedding.
48:07
I don't know why camp did this. This is like the most unhinged
48:10
you've got. I like sat down and got my
48:11
makeup done and cameras like I'll just do the same thing as
48:14
her. And as you can see from the
48:15
screen, Cameron and I both are beautiful in our own ways, but
48:19
look very different. I'm like Cameron.
48:20
My makeup's like, not gonna like, look the same.
48:22
Like it's not gonna. Like, because I'm like, you look
48:23
at somebody who's beautiful and you're like, oh, I wanna look
48:26
like that. And so of course, like Jay, I'm
48:29
like, she's so gorgeous. Like, do the same thing on me.
48:31
And no, that was like a rookie mistake.
48:33
I totally agree with you. That's horrible.
48:35
And it's because you have to look at someone that has like
48:37
very similar features to you. Like I'm talking to I'm just
48:39
hair color, eye color, or like the way that their eyes are
48:42
saved, maybe similar lips. Yeah, that's who you should go
48:44
your makeup off of. I thought you looked amazing.
48:47
I totally got that. I didn't think that that was a
48:49
makeup. The makeup that was the same as
48:52
mine like flattered you in the best way I do tight lining.
48:55
I I I think it looks good. I hope so.
48:58
It's what I do every like day. I don't know, I just think like
49:02
maybe because I have like dark hair like it kind of adds like a
49:04
pop or something. I love like a winged eyeliner,
49:07
though. That's like my number one thing
49:09
that I do every day. I think it flatters me, but I
49:12
like you have less eye makeup, Cameron.
49:13
So I agree with that for me. Hot vodka waters.
49:18
Not and my parents and their friends.
49:22
I'm guilty of this too. Like we'll drink it at the lake
49:24
in Kentucky. I feel like that's just like a
49:26
lake drink is a vodka. Water like a high noon or yeah.
49:30
Yeah, but I like on an average like in general.
49:33
A vodka seltzer? Is it called a vodka water in
49:36
Kentucky? Well, no.
49:37
Vodka waters are like, what the hell is it called?
49:42
You have all these new brands coming out of it.
49:44
Yes. It's like high noons.
49:46
You can call it a seltzer drink, too.
49:48
Yeah, like High Noon, White Claws.
49:50
What is it? It's not farm water.
49:52
Are girls going to make fun of me?
49:53
What is it called? Not far.
49:56
Ranch water. That's tequila.
49:58
Farm water. Oh my God, They're going to
50:00
like, actually die of that. No, I Yeah.
50:03
And I just don't like them. I don't like them.
50:06
And they make me like queasy and I don't feel good after it, so
50:10
no. I don't do any hard alcohol, I
50:14
just like wine and champagne, so I don't.
50:16
If I'm on the lake, I'm gonna want a glass of Savion Blanc.
50:20
Yeah, it's a good one, yeah. Yeah.
50:22
So I don't really do, even though I don't really feel like
50:24
I guess I love like a little white trash like lake moment as
50:28
well. Like, I'll totally admit that
50:30
maybe I would drink one there because I don't feel like you're
50:32
gonna be bringing like a bottle of Savion Blanc to like, white
50:34
trash out on a lake. Yeah.
50:36
Like doing like some like water skiing, wakeboarding.
50:39
So maybe in that instance I would do it.
50:41
But otherwise I don't really drink hard alcohol.
50:43
I just don't like how it makes me feel.
50:44
It's a little too strong. Yeah, I like just more of a wine
50:48
celebrity beauty brands. So we're talking like Rare.
50:52
We're talking what are some other ones?
50:54
I'm like trying to think Rare Beauty is Selena Gomez and.
50:56
Road, Patrick Todd. Road is Hailey Bieber's Lady
51:01
Gaga has one house. Yeah, House Labs.
51:04
Ariana Grande's Millie Bobby Brown has one.
51:06
There's just so many now. Oh, Kim Kardashian Kim.
51:09
Kardashian W Beauty Yeah, you know, I think some of them are
51:13
good like road, for instance, like I'll use like the road
51:17
glazing milk. I do like the iPad.
51:20
I like the branding of that that a lot.
51:23
But I do think that it's just so over saturated.
51:29
It's so over saturated and there's so many celebrities
51:32
doing it now. I would much rather have like
51:34
professional. I'm not saying that they're not
51:36
professional and they probably do have like the best of the
51:39
best, like makeup artist helping them with these lines, but I
51:43
would just much rather stick to your specialty.
51:46
If you're an actor, be an actor, you know what I mean?
51:49
Or if you're I would rather have somebody who's dedicated their
51:53
life to makeup and beauty products, whether they went to
51:58
cosmetology school and or like have taken private classes and
52:03
lessons how to do like the formulas, the science behind it,
52:07
like the, the chemists like that are that are making these
52:10
products because some of these brands like they're not like
52:14
they're not acne safe. They have so many like seed oils
52:18
and chemicals in it. It like sits in your pores and
52:21
it's like, it's just like you don't have to create a beauty
52:25
brand you really don't like. You may not even make.
52:27
That money, let's just be honest, these people are raking
52:30
in from their beauty brands. Some of them, like some of these
52:32
celebrities like more doing their.
52:34
I would rather see a perfume. Can you guys just give me a
52:36
perfume? Like get a nice little sink
52:39
going. I'm going not.
52:41
I just don't. I'm saying no to.
52:43
I just like there's only one that I like and it's and it's
52:47
rode like I don't like any of the other ones.
52:51
I'm not gonna sit here and say I would never use a product.
52:55
I don't actively protest it. But in general, I'm not.
52:59
I'm doing more of the traditional beauty brands like
53:01
NARS, Charlotte, Tallberry. Yeah, Charlotte.
53:06
I like the Dior palettes. I like the Chanel powder.
53:10
Yeah, 2 faced mascara or something.
53:13
I love Sicily. It's like this Italian.
53:16
It's very luxury makeup. It's really expensive, but it's
53:19
so worth it. It lasts a while.
53:21
I like their stuff, so I just I. Agree with me, Atelier is a good
53:24
one too. I love them.
53:27
Yeah, that's another really good one.
53:30
OK, big hair. It's such a vibe.
53:35
Like I, I don't do it but I am from Kentucky and I am a former
53:39
pageant girl and I'm also a former D1 cheerleader so I have
53:42
to go hot just because it's like it's just the vibe.
53:45
I love big hair. Like they used to have the
53:48
saying like the higher the hair the closer to God.
53:50
Like especially in the South. You will never ever see like a
53:54
woman in car pickup line without her hair teased in the South, I
53:57
swear. I love that.
53:58
I love it. Too, I actually love that
53:59
energy. I'm going hot as well.
54:01
I love a volume. I like big hair.
54:03
All right, Cameron, moving on to our final section.
54:06
Propaganda. I'm not falling for what are you
54:12
not falling for, Cam? I am not falling for slow
54:16
walkers just because I'm from the East Coast.
54:18
I live in California now and it's just such like everybody
54:20
was asking me, what is the biggest thing that you've
54:23
noticed that's different from the East Coast versus the West
54:25
Coast? People have no sense of urgency
54:27
here, whether it's driving, whether it's walking like
54:31
everybody has all the time in the world.
54:33
And I feel like if you, if you're in like a hustle and
54:35
bustle city like New York or DC, nobody is walking slow.
54:39
And I just can't do it. If I have somewhere to, I'm
54:42
going to get there in a good amount of time and I have a
54:45
little E in my step and I have a sense of urgency.
54:48
So that is propaganda. I'm not falling for is slow
54:51
walkers. Propaganda that I'm not falling
54:54
for is 5:00 AM wake ups. And I'm not talking like if I
54:58
have like a work function or something, I will get up.
55:00
I'm a hard worker in that way. Like not I will get up at any
55:03
hour as we know like we'll do like TV hits at like 3:00 AM and
55:06
I'm there. But like in general, people just
55:08
for no reason who like wake up at 5:00 AM every morning, just
55:11
like get ahead on life, like that's amazing for you.
55:15
I don't feel good when I wake up super early.
55:17
Like I'm I'll get up every morning like from seven 7:30 AM,
55:22
like that's totally fine. Even some 6:00 AM I'm totally
55:24
fine. But like 5:00 AM I feel like
55:26
crap the rest of the day. I'm like exhausted and it just
55:29
really doesn't work out for me. Yeah, I agree.
55:33
Cameron, what propaganda are you falling for?
55:35
I am falling for more appetizers and less entrees.
55:38
I am somebody who likes to share multiple little meals and snacks
55:43
with you. You know this about me.
55:45
Every single time we're out to eat, I order multiple appetizers
55:48
and then I kind of get filled on that and the cocktail that I'm
55:51
drinking. And I never really need like a
55:52
big main course meal or like a dessert.
55:55
I always just like to munch on whether it's like the other
55:58
night with my friend Kirby. We had like crispy rice.
56:00
We had a beet salad, we had some cauliflower.
56:04
And honestly, that fills me up too.
56:05
Especially if it's like my girl dinner.
56:07
I don't need a whole protein, a whole ordeal when I'm not
56:11
cooking for my husband. I completely agree with that.
56:14
I love like splitting some apps. I think that's the way to go.
56:17
The propaganda that I am falling for is intermittent fasting.
56:21
I, I'm not saying in general like do this every day, but like
56:24
sometimes if you've had like a Big Breakfast and a big lunch,
56:27
like skipping dinner, you feel like really good the next day.
56:30
Like I really mean that. I think like we talked about
56:31
food hangovers all the time. And I do think like there's no
56:35
need to eat like 3 full meals a day every day.
56:37
Like you just don't need that much food.
56:39
And I do think like fasting a lot of times makes you feel a
56:43
lot better and it makes you enjoy the food that you eat
56:46
more. And I'm not a quieter in the way
56:48
like I don't like to cut out carbs.
56:49
Like I love my pastas. I love, like bread, I love
56:53
sweets and everything. So I like to enjoy myself.
56:55
So instead, I just rather do like the intermittent fasting to
56:58
like stay in shape and everything.
57:00
And there's a reason that it's biblical to fast.
57:02
I think it brings clarity of mind and clarity of your soul.
57:06
Yes, I. Agree, usually in favor of that.
57:09
All right, girls, thank you always.
57:10
We love you. Sincerely sisters, make sure you
57:12
tune in and don't be afraid to ask us a question.