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Seven Signs You’re Dating a Good Guy (Peace is the Proof) · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  All right, sis, let's talk. Because if you've ever found yourself asking,
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  is this healthy or am I just attached?
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  Is this God or just chemistry?
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  Why do I feel anxious instead of secure?
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  This episode is for you. If you're done chasing broken love,
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  empty promises, and lukewarm men, and you're finally ready to reclaim your crown,
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  heal your heart, and attract the God-led love you were always meant for,
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  you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Emily Jordan. your faith-based healed feminine guide and relationship coach.
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  I went from repeating the same heartbreaking cycles to experiencing a godly, healthy, aligned love.
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  And now I help women just like you heal, rise, and prepare for God's very best.
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  So are you ready to begin your royal training? Grab your crown,
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  your heart, and your journal.
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  Your royal transformation begins now.
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  Hey sis, welcome back to another episode of Girl Date the Good Guy. It's your girl, Emily.
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  And one of the biggest lies women have been taught in dating is that intensity
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  equals connection and butterflies equal confirmation.
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  Now, those are not bad things because even when I met my good guy,
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  those things were there.
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  But it cannot be what we base our decision off of. All right?
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  Peace is actually the proof.
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  So a good guy, a God-led man, he doesn't confuse your spirit,
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  trigger your anxiety, or make you question your worth.
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  He creates safety, consistency, and clarity.
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  So today I want to walk you through seven signs you're dating a good guy,
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  because some of you might be out there dating.
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  And if you are, here's some signs for you, sis.
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  And we're not doing this based off of culture and not from trauma.
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  We're coming from a place of wisdom.
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  All right, so let's begin your royal training today.
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  Seven signs. Number one, you feel safe and respected, not just physically,
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  but emotionally and spiritually too.
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  A good guy doesn't pressure you, rush you, or push past your boundaries.
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  He honors your no without punishment. He doesn't make you feel guilty for having standards.
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  You don't feel like you have to earn his affection or prove your value.
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  You feel safe being a woman with a crown. Because respect is not something you
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  negotiate, it's something you recognize.
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  So number two, sign number two, he communicates clearly and honestly.
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  A good guy is not confusing. He doesn't disappear, breadcrumb,
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  or leave you guessing where you stand.
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  His words match his actions. Let me say that again. His words match his actions.
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  His intentions are clear. His communication is consistent.
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  You don't have to decode text or analyze tone. You don't spiral wondering what
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  he meant. Clarity is kindness.
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  Confusion is not kingdom. Number three, he shows up during hard times.
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  Anyone can show up when things are easy. A good guy shows up when life gets real.
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  When you're tired, when you're emotional, when you're walking through something
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  heavy, he doesn't withdraw, minimize, or avoid you. He doesn't make your pain inconvenient.
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  He offers presence, not perfection, because consistency in hard seasons reveals character.
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  Sister, I want to say that one again.
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  Consistency in hard seasons reveals character. Here's number four.
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  Number four, he supports your growth in God calling.
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  A good guy is not threatened by your healing, your growth, or your obedience to God.
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  He doesn't shrink you. He doesn't compete with you. He doesn't mock your faith or your boundaries.
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  He celebrates your evolution. He encourages your purpose. He respects your walk
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  with God, even when it requires patience.
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  A man sent by God will never pull you away from God.
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  You know, my guy never pulled me away from God. He absolutely has been a part
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  of my evolution, of my healing and my growing.
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  Number five, you can be yourself around him.
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  You're not performing. You're not masking. You're not editing yourself to be chosen.
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  You can laugh freely, cry honestly, speak openly, rest deeply.
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  You don't feel like you're too much or not enough. You feel accepted,
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  not tolerated. A healed woman thrives where authenticity is welcomed.
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  Guys, this is a game changer.
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  Make sure you can be your full self around him.
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  Number six, your core values and life goals align.
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  Attraction fades, values remain. A good guy doesn't just want you.
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  He's walking in the same direction as you.
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  Your faith, vision, morals, and long-term goals align.
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  You're not trying to convert him, fix him, or drag him into purpose.
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  You're building toward the same future.
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  Alignment is not chemistry. It is agreement.
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  Number seven, you feel calm, not anxious.
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  This one is big, sis, so lean in.
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  A good guy brings peace, not obsession, not fear, not emotional highs and lows.
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  Your nervous system can rest around him. You don't feel an edge,
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  insecure, or consistently afraid of losing him because God-led love does not feel chaotic.
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  It feels safe, steady, secure.
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  Anxiety is often a signal, not a sign of passion.
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  Now, I do want to say something. If some of you are coming from trauma,
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  which I was coming from trauma,
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  being in a healthy, safe relationship can bring on some anxiety for you. I know that it did for me.
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  But none of that anxiety actually was based off of him and his actions.
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  It was based off my own chaotic mind. Like I had been in chaos for so long. I didn't know.
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  I didn't know how to do the healthy dating thing.
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  And so he really helped me evolve in that area of my life.
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  And so what I'm saying when I speak this is because he's not chaotic.
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  So if you are constantly anxious, triggered, or confused by him,
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  it's not because you're too sensitive.
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  It's because your spirit knows something your heart is trying to ignore.
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  A good guy will not require you to abandon your peace to keep his attention.
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  But again, sister, you got to have peace first, especially if you have an anxious attachment style.
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  You will feel anxiety.
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  In a relationship if you do. So I want to say this. You don't need more chemistry.
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  You need discernment. And you don't need just discernment and red flags and
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  how, you know, a good guy should treat you.
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  You also need to have discernment in your own anxiety and the things that you
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  might be experiencing if you're not used to a healthy guy.
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  So I'm actually going to do a podcast on that.
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  I think that's really important for me to help you discern, is it me or is it him?
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  Because I think that is so important, too, in this.
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  Because I know for me, I was raised in chaos, and then I went out and dated a bunch of chaos.
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  And then when God sent me my good guy, literally I had no idea what to do with
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  that good guy because I was so used to chaos. So there was confusion for me.
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  There was triggers for me. There was anxiety for me. But that was me.
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  It wasn't based off him. And he actually helped me work through those,
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  the anxiety I was having, the triggers or confusion.
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  Like every time I felt that way, because he was such a good guy,
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  he opened space for me to be able to feel those feelings,
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  have those triggers, have that anxiety, have that confusion,
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  and come and ask questions to get clarity. so I felt safe.
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  Talk about a good guy.
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  Really, I mean, these good guys and the guy that God has for you,
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  he is going to make you feel safe.
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  You're going to be able to bring all of those triggers or anxiety or anxiousness
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  or fear, confusion that you're feeling, and he will actually help you work through that trauma,
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  that chaos that you're used to. My guy did.
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  He is such a blessing, literally the biggest blessing, one of the biggest blessings
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  that God has ever given me.
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  That's why I always say, wait, girl, wait for the guy that God has for you.
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  It is worth the wait, sis, seriously.
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  So I hope this helped you today, ladies. I love you so much,
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  and I will see you on Friday. Have a wonderful rest of your day. Bye for now.
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  Sis, you did that. You showed up for your healing, and that is royal energy.
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  If this episode challenged you, grew you, or called you higher,
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  share it with another sister who's ready to reclaim her crown too.
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  And if you've got 30 seconds, it would bless me big if you'd leave a review on Apple Podcasts.
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  It helps more women step into their royal identity and join the Good Guys Society movement.
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  Until next time, keep your crown on, your standards high, and your heart in royal alignment.