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Episode 47: Forget FOMO, Try JOMO! - The Fear of Missing Out · Winning the Week With Scott Auld

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  Fear of missing out or FOMO becomes deeply when it turns into
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  exhausting pressure that you have to be
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  You're missing out on something important and you should be somewhere and you're
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  never able to say no to going
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  Over at Lori Soul Circle that girls got a lot of good ideas me and her talking
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  about this topic the other day Brought to you by me, but inspired by Lori
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  Well
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  can I have a look at this?
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  Well, I'm gonna go the fear of missing out It's it's something that a lot of
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  people struggle with and and I think honestly if we're honest with ourselves We
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  all struggle with it to some degree I'm nobody wants toB miss a
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  But this is the kind of thing that you can stop early and if you can curtail
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  this behavior and this thinking pattern early on,
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  you can see yourself a lot of mental anguish and a lot of extreme discomfort
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  down the road.
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  It can also lead it can also lead to a lot of physical exhaustion as you can see
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  yourself a lot of mental anguish and a lot of extreme discomfort down the road.
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  It can also lead to a lot of physical exhaustion as you can you see yourself a
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  lot of mental anguish and a lot of mental extreme discomfort down the road.
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  It can also lead to a lot of physical exhaustion as you can see yourself a lot
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  of mental anguish and a
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  You can
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  really approach burnout by trying
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  to do Everything and say yes to everything and attend every thing not miss out
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  on whatever whatever big thing you think
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  you
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  And
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  or experience already thinking about what's next, what am I going to miss out
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  on, it turns into a shallower experience in the, in the thing that you're at
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  because you're mentally already thinking and planning for the next one and it
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  actually shallows the the of the experience
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  in the experience of
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  the So, focus much on not missing out the next thing actually robs
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  your joy of the current thing.
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  And think about the damage you can be doing to the relationships you have with
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  the people you love in life.
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  If you're always worried about missing out on the next thing, you're just to go
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  doing things with one group of people.
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  at the expense of people maybe that you need to be spending more time with.
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  Maybe you need to be spending more time with your spouse, with your spouse, with
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  your parents, with your children, and you're so worried about missing out on a
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  concert with your girlfriend.
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  We do a live stream here on YouTube.
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  I do a live stream on Wednesday night at 8 p.m.
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  Eastern.
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  You shouldn't feel like you have to attend every single live stream of every
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  single person you follow on YouTube.
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  It's okay to watch the replay later.
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  You can catch it when you're in the shower or something and just put it on
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  replay and listen to it. You don't have to be there for every little thing.
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  I've got some friends who do live streams every single day of the week,
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  sometimes two, and you got to be willing sometimes to take a break.
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  I've got a friend Sally, her YouTube channel is Sally D's reality.
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  When she announced that she was taking a little break from, I was really
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  impressed because she's taking a break for her mental health and that's how you
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  avoid burnout.
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  They You don't have to make a video on a specific schedule all the time.
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  You can just take a break once in a while.
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  I try to get you guys a video on Monday mornings and on Friday mornings, but if
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  it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.
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  It's not the end of the world.
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  Because, you know, I'm not worried about worried about on, you know, some
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  comments or something that I might get from a video that I might publish to you
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  guys. I like talking to you guys and I like the idea that I'm helping some of
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  you. That's why I'm doing this on this channel because I help people.
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  and just talk through some of these issues of
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  deteriorating peace that we seem to be experiencing in the suburbs and
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  living in the cities.
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  But I'm not going to keep up a schedule at the expense of my own, right?
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  So my encouragement to you guys in that department is, you're paying attention
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  to your own needs. What do they say on an airplane, right?
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  Put on your own mask first because you can't help somebody else if you're not
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  squared away yourself. Make sure that you're taking the amount of rest that you
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  need.
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  There's a reason we're supposed to rest one day out of seven.
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  Your brain's not meant to be in full engage mode all the time 24 seven.
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  It's just we're not designed that way.
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  The other thing, go into debt.
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  Financial strain as a result of fear missing out.
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  They They would be perfectly fine to miss out on.
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  It's not the end of the world if you don't go.
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  Let your friends go. They can tell you about it.
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  You have a nice, peaceful evening at home.
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  Watch a movie or something for free and save a little bit of money.
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  Don't put yourself into debt just to do out on experiences that, in the long
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  run, it's not the end of the world.
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  I guess one of the last things I'll bring up is that it
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  analysis paralysis and your decision- making starts to deteriorate
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  because you feel like you have to do yes you're not making wise decisions
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  anymore in your product if it starts to go down i like to say the saying that
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  multitasking is doing multi-time multitask is doing multi-time multi-time things
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  at once poorly uh not a big fan of multitasking i'm
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  a big fan of multit
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  Try to attend everything You're gonna attend that that's funny the word
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  attend Meaning attend a concert also can be used like the way you pay attention
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  to something and the way you pay attention to something If you try to attend
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  everything you will attend to things poorly If you try to attend everything you
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  will attend to things
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  poorly If you try to attend everything you will
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  attend you will attend to
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  things poorly if you try to attend everything you will attend to things
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  poorly
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  if you try to attend everything you will attend to everything poorly if you try
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  to attend everything you will attend to everything poorly if you try to attend
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  everything you will attend to everything poorly if you try to try to attend
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  everything you will attend to everything poorly if you try to attend to attend
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  everything you will attend to things poorly if you thoughtfully the things that
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  you really need to be at, well then you will attend to them well.
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  It's kind of just another way of saying that multitasking phrase, but I think
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  it's true. I really think it's true.
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  I
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  and
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  Or maybe you come up with a criteria where I'm only going to attend things that
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  have three or four of my friends are going to be there.
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  Or I'm only going to attend things where I can bring a family member or
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  something like that. Come up with some kind of internal rule that you can set
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  for yourself and follow for yourself.
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  And I think it will make it easier for you to say no to some things.
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  You can have a better time attending other things.
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  I guess the bottom Gain the benefit of- time Recharging at Home,
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  watching a free movie, not spending any money, spending some time with some of
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  your favorite quality people and you can hear the story about it later, right?
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  Let's embrace JOMO, the
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  That's what I
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  I look forward to I have every week.
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  Having that live stream right in the middle of the week puts me over the hump
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  hump to get through to the end of the week with a win and to push on through,
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  get through to Friday and Saturday, and finish off the week with a win like I
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  say. If you If you need that little extra boost, that little extra
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  encouragement, come on over to the winning the week live stream on Wednesday
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  night. There's always room I saved you a spot.
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  Don't worry if you forget your lunch money, I'll give you some of my french
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  fries and we'll have a good time.
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  Alright,
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  thanks for listening to me ramble here.
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  I appreciate it and let's embrace some JOMO.
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  The joy of missing out
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