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Episode #160 w/Trish Standley · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking in with Kiki.
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  Speaker 2: Kicking it you Ki Ki, kicking it the ki Ki
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  Speaker 2: for a little personality, switching up the storyline on God
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  Speaker 2: we making this story.
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  Speaker 1: And hooks changing rise one day at the time.
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  Speaker 2: How much your problems to the side, enjoy yourself, free
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  Speaker 2: your mind chickin it ki keep.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome back to another episode of Kicking It with Kiki. Life,
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  Speaker 3: Love and Mindset, the podcast where mindset meets movement, healing
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  Speaker 3: meets action, and conversations create transformation. I'm your host, Kiki Shanel,
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  Speaker 3: Award winning author, lifestyle blogger and owner of nineteen lifestyle magazine.
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  Speaker 3: Here we talk about life, love, healing, growth and mindset
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  Speaker 3: shifts that can help you become the best version of yourself.
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  Speaker 3: So we are kicking it today. I'm kicking it with y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Know how I like to do.
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  Speaker 3: I like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce
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  Speaker 3: themselves and tell them what they do. Tell you guys,
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  Speaker 3: what they do. So I'm going to turn it over
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  Speaker 3: to my lovely guest Trish. Thank you for coming and
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  Speaker 3: kicking with me today. Go ahead and introduce yourself and
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  Speaker 3: tell the people who you are.
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  Speaker 1: I'm absolutely honored to be here with you, Kiki. As
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  Speaker 1: you stated, my name is Trish Standley. I am a
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  Speaker 1: retired independent gospel artist who merged into media. So I
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  Speaker 1: am also a TV host who merged into a Well,
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  Speaker 1: I've been a long time designer. I just actually started
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  Speaker 1: just started getting my ideas out on papers. So I
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  Speaker 1: have been a designer fashion designer for many years. And
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  Speaker 1: then also I'm starting twenty twenty six, we just started
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  Speaker 1: our very first nonprofit. So I am a busy girl
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  Speaker 1: and I do a lot, but I am married. Excuse me.
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  Speaker 1: I am married and I have a young adult daughter.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm also I work for Corporate America and I
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  Speaker 1: have been doing that for twenty seven years. So all
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  Speaker 1: of that on top of doing what I love because
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  Speaker 1: I love technology as well. So that's who I am.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely Well. I love that you have a lot of hats.
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  Speaker 3: Are you wearing them? Well? So congratulations on all the
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  Speaker 3: accolades and success. We talk about life, love and mindset,
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  Speaker 3: so we are going to the mindset moment right now.
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  Speaker 3: I have questions in this segment that I like to
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  Speaker 3: ask because I just want to get into how you
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  Speaker 3: think what mindset shifts changed the way you approach life.
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  Speaker 1: I would say that I was in college and I
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  Speaker 1: had a grandmother who had just passed. I wasn't able
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  Speaker 1: to make the other grandmother's service, So when I came
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  Speaker 1: home for the second service of that grandmother, my mother
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  Speaker 1: took me to the grave site to see her mother's grave.
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  Speaker 1: And while we were driving through there, my mother made
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  Speaker 1: a comment she doesn't even remember to this day, but
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  Speaker 1: she said, I wonder how many unlived dreams are lying
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  Speaker 1: out here in the grave. And that changed everything for me.
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  Speaker 1: I was about nineteen years old when that happened, and
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  Speaker 1: so that has been really my drive. That's why I
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  Speaker 1: do what I do because I don't want to be
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  Speaker 1: because we're all going to go one day, but when
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  Speaker 1: it's my time to go, I don't want to have
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  Speaker 1: not kind of tapped into all of the gifting that
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  Speaker 1: God has graced me with. So that is really, I guess,
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  Speaker 1: the mindset that I have and the reason why I
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  Speaker 1: do what I do is because I don't want to.
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  Speaker 1: I want to leave here empty and I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to have any talent not to if you.
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  Speaker 3: Will, absolutely because our gifts make room for us, right
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  Speaker 3: and we're doing ourselves as well as the world of
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  Speaker 3: this service by sitting on our fingers and waiting on
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  Speaker 3: things to happen. So exactly, I hate that it had
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  Speaker 3: to have that type of resulation, you know, Yeah, chance
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  Speaker 3: to have that happened. But I'm nineteen years old. You
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  Speaker 3: know a lot of people wait or don't get that
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  Speaker 3: revelation in today's before.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's okay, it's okay because I didn't get
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  Speaker 1: active in it until after I became a mother. Back
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  Speaker 1: at nineteen, I was still in college and you know,
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  Speaker 1: then you go through the phase of life where you
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  Speaker 1: are trying to figure out your life. So I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to make sure and I put more focus on my career,
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  Speaker 1: which is how I got twenty seven years with AT
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  Speaker 1: and T and so that's where my focus was. But
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  Speaker 1: not until after I got married and had my daughter,
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  Speaker 1: did I say, Okay, that's it. I've had my child,
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  Speaker 1: I've got settled in this career, and now it's time
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  Speaker 1: for me to walk out my purpose.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Absolutely, absolutely. Let's talk a little bit about purpose.
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  Speaker 3: When I know you said that you had, you know,
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  Speaker 3: got married and had your child before you actually wanted
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  Speaker 3: to walk into your purpose. So did your purpose? Did
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  Speaker 3: you know what your purpose was prior to those things,
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  Speaker 3: or did it kind of happen around the same time
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  Speaker 3: of the marriage and the child.
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  Speaker 1: No, it was it was afterwards, after I got married
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  Speaker 1: and had my daughter. It's actually when I started singing.
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  Speaker 1: I started singing professionally. I've been singing and writing music
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  Speaker 1: since I was sixteen. So but when I started singing,
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  Speaker 1: I really didn't want to do it, and I did
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  Speaker 1: not want to do it. So God had to put
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  Speaker 1: a little whooping on me and he dried up my
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  Speaker 1: gifting and so that was a reality check for me.
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  Speaker 1: So I would like to say, oh, yeah, I just flowed.
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  Speaker 1: I just honey, he called and I went No, it
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  Speaker 1: was none of that for me. I was operating in
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  Speaker 1: a lot of disobedience, and in order for him to
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  Speaker 1: get me back in line, I had to be obedient
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  Speaker 1: and surrender to what he was saying to me, And
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  Speaker 1: in doing so, that has always made me consult him
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  Speaker 1: first in the things that I do, because I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be out there butt naked. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: another whoopan and so if he's not with me, I
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  Speaker 1: ain't going. So that is where I fell in line
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  Speaker 1: with my purpose. I was actually at a conference, and
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  Speaker 1: my prayer to God in that moment was other people
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  Speaker 1: have told me what my call was. Other people have
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  Speaker 1: told me what my purpose was. I need you to
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  Speaker 1: tell me. I need to hear it, hear you speak
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  Speaker 1: it to me. And that was when He revealed to
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  Speaker 1: me what my purpose was. And it's funny because I
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  Speaker 1: talk about my mom a lot in every interview that
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  Speaker 1: I do. But my mother raised we had four I
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  Speaker 1: have three sisters. I'm the youngest, and she said that
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  Speaker 1: she prayed and asked God to lead and guide her
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  Speaker 1: in the parenting of her children. And so she says
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  Speaker 1: that God revealed to her that I would be in
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  Speaker 1: front of people. She didn't know what in type of way,
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  Speaker 1: what type of capacity, so she caused me. She i't
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  Speaker 1: won't say it forced me, but she caused me to
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  Speaker 1: have to go to modeling school. I had to learn etiquette,
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  Speaker 1: how to carry myself, how to speak well, those type things,
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  Speaker 1: because she said, I don't know what exactly He's got
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  Speaker 1: for you to do, but he's gonna have it to
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  Speaker 1: be for people, and I want you to be poised
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  Speaker 1: in Polish.
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  Speaker 3: I love that. I love that. You know, it's amazing
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  Speaker 3: when confirmation happens. Yeah, and the obedience becomes the reality. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of people just see like the gl the
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  Speaker 3: glamour and that and not realize.
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  Speaker 1: What it took to get to that exactly exactly. It
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  Speaker 1: took a lot of work and a lot of resistance
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of butt whooping. And that's why they
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  Speaker 1: all are The saying is, you know, be careful of
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  Speaker 1: what she wished for what you see in other people,
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  Speaker 1: because you don't know what it took to get them there.
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  Speaker 1: And so that is the story of my life.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, okay, Well what life experience, it mores you to
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  Speaker 3: grow the most.
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  Speaker 1: Well, what I would say my show. Part of the
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  Speaker 1: reason why I was disobedient with singing is because I've all,
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  Speaker 1: like I said, I've written my entire life, but I didn't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm very intimate when it comes to my writing, and
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  Speaker 1: so I didn't want to share it with the world.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Erico Badu says his best I'm sensitive about
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  Speaker 1: my you. So I did not want to share that
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  Speaker 1: with the world so that they could pretty much tear
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  Speaker 1: it apart. I was able to do that. The hardest
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  Speaker 1: part for me was doing the talk show because doing
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  Speaker 1: the talk show, I have to show a level of
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  Speaker 1: vulnerability and a level of intimacy and honesty. And I
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  Speaker 1: have to do that because I want to be as
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  Speaker 1: authentic as possible, and so being transparent and being vulnerable
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  Speaker 1: in front of people is really really hard for me.
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  Speaker 1: And so I would say that was and has been
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  Speaker 1: even now to this day. It's one of the hardest
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  Speaker 1: things for me to do. Get my head right, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and go in because it's almost like a panic attack
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  Speaker 1: for me because it's like, oh my god, I'm telling this.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm telling that and people gonna look at me crazy.
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  Speaker 1: But I have to reassure myself my life is not
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  Speaker 1: my own and I'm only here as an example to
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  Speaker 1: someone else. So I have to constantly remind myself that
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  Speaker 1: because really being intimate and being open with people is
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  Speaker 1: really tough for me.
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  Speaker 3: I get it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I was always.
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  Speaker 3: I was always the person behind the scenes, like I
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  Speaker 3: write too, because I have books and stuff too. But
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  Speaker 3: I always here, y'all do it. I'll write the script.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all add out.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to say that I wrote it. I
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  Speaker 3: was always so when twenty twenty hit and God was like, no,
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  Speaker 3: you need to be coming to forward from you need
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  Speaker 3: to be in the fourthfront. I called you peel Lee. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah see now. And you know it's so funny because
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  Speaker 1: I said, I used to say, I never understood this.
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  Speaker 1: They say God will give you the desires of your heart.
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  Speaker 1: They left out the part that he's going to put
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  Speaker 1: in your heart his desire. That all you got to
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  Speaker 1: do is get in line with what his desires is,
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  Speaker 1: and you're walking out to desire your heart. So that's why,
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  Speaker 1: now in hindsight you can say, Okay, I love it now.
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  Speaker 1: But at first, oh no, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: Like, so that recorded my first show. I had my
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  Speaker 3: big sister with me. I was like, you got to
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  Speaker 3: be on the first show because I need that straight
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  Speaker 3: from you. But she was watching me do the show
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  Speaker 3: when we did them live on Instagram because everything was
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  Speaker 3: shut down in twenty twenty, right, and she said that
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  Speaker 3: she was in awe because the questions that I had
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  Speaker 3: written out, She said, you didn't even use those questions.
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  Speaker 3: It was like, you know what's going out. You knew
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  Speaker 3: when to ask this, you knew when to puss that
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  Speaker 3: you have a gift, and so you know, I prayed
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  Speaker 3: about it and then God just confirmed what she saw him.
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  Speaker 3: So I love meeting people like you and having these
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  Speaker 3: intimate conversations that will help other people tappen to their
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  Speaker 3: gifts and you know, walking purpose.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, likewise, likewise, I love meeting like minded women.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, love it. So how has love, whether self
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  Speaker 3: love or in relationships, shifted your mindset?
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  Speaker 1: Self love?
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  Speaker 3: For me?
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  Speaker 1: Here recently, I think I feel like I really feel
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  Speaker 1: like and I know that love is layered. It's like
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  Speaker 1: an onion, you know. And for me, I can speak
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  Speaker 1: specifically in the season that I'm in right now, going
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  Speaker 1: through change is where I'm going through menopause and you're
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  Speaker 1: dealing with everything that comes along with menopause, and my
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  Speaker 1: body is not the way it used to be. It's
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  Speaker 1: not the size that it used to be, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: having all of these flashes, and you know, your body's
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  Speaker 1: going through so many different which is a part of
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  Speaker 1: cycle of life I have to learn. I'm almost on
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  Speaker 1: the other side of this, but I'm still battling falling
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  Speaker 1: in love with me as I am. I'm at a
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  Speaker 1: new different layer of love when it comes to self
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  Speaker 1: love and giving myself grace, giving myself a break because
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  Speaker 1: I am I battle perfectionism, perfectionalism.
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  Speaker 3: Say the word for me, professional perfectionalism.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I battle that. And so it's just been, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it kind of messed with your head because your head
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  Speaker 1: is not lining up what you see in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just been a roller coaster in a sense.
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  Speaker 1: But I am learning that I am still beautiful and
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  Speaker 1: it isn't just a hour thing. It's in It starts
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  Speaker 1: from the inside. And so when I'm looking my words, ladies,
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  Speaker 1: I tell say this all the time on my shelf.
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  Speaker 1: When you look, you can't figure out why men approach
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  Speaker 1: you when you're looking at your looking your worst, because
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  Speaker 1: you don't have any any boundaries. You know, you're wide
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  Speaker 1: open white. And we don't even realize that our guards
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  Speaker 1: are our lowered because we ain't you know, we ain't
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  Speaker 1: wearing something that we think would attract them. But it's
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  Speaker 1: your inner glow that they're attracted to. And so that
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  Speaker 1: inner glow is going to be there no matter what
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  Speaker 1: this out appearance looks like. And so that is where
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  Speaker 1: I am trying to get my head and my heart
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  Speaker 1: in line so that I can receive the fullness of
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  Speaker 1: my own self love. And so this is but before you.
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  Speaker 1: I tell anybody, honey, I trish love hers some trish.
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  Speaker 1: But you go through different phases in life and you
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  Speaker 1: have to fall back in love, just like relationships. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I've been married twenty six years and it's it's the
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  Speaker 1: same thing. It goes. Marriage goes through cycles, and you
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  Speaker 1: have cycles where you halfway can stand each other, and
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  Speaker 1: then we have cycles we were just tripping over each other.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just it continues to go throughout your life journey,
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  Speaker 1: and so it's finding new ways to fall in love
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  Speaker 1: with yourself where you are.
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  Speaker 3: I love that mindset because we are our worst critic.
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  Speaker 1: Like you said, oh yes, that.
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  Speaker 3: Negative self talk will come in and have you so
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  Speaker 3: down and out if you're not careful. But we have
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  Speaker 3: to know whose we are. We are made in God's image,
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  Speaker 3: so we have to love ourselves. And sometimes it's hard
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  Speaker 3: because sometimes you look in the mirror and like, hey,
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  Speaker 3: this is not the young girl that I used to be,
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  Speaker 3: because you start to see fine lines and the wrinkles
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  Speaker 3: start coming in and the way up and down. But
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  Speaker 3: having that mindset, I am beautiful no matter how I look,
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  Speaker 3: what size I am. That is for me that was
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  Speaker 3: the most significant part of my healing journey when I
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  Speaker 3: went through Yeah, yeah, I love that. Okay, now we're
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  Speaker 3: getting into the reality check. Okay, because growth and growth,
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  Speaker 3: you know, growth sounds good. Yeah, the truth is it's
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  Speaker 3: not always comfortable. Right. What's an uncomfortable truth people need
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  Speaker 3: to hear about personal growth.
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  Speaker 1: It is just just to have the expectation that it's ugly,
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  Speaker 1: it's not pretty, it's painful, it's uncomfortable, and you have
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  Speaker 1: to be able to be in that space, in that
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  Speaker 1: head space and stay focus the hardest thing, and stay
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  Speaker 1: focused on the end goal because you know, I say,
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  Speaker 1: I try to stop using certain words because of what
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  Speaker 1: it makes me think, where my mind goes to when
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  Speaker 1: I think about it, and so I call it stretching.
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  Speaker 1: When you think about every aspect of stretch, think about
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  Speaker 1: when you're body stretches when you're pregnant. The bottom line is, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I'm uncomfortable right now, a body is ache and I'm
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  Speaker 1: just oh, this is the worst feeling in the world.
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  Speaker 1: But the bottom line is you're going to have a
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  Speaker 1: brand new baby, right Think about when you're stretching and
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  Speaker 1: you're working out and you're oh, I have to stretch,
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  Speaker 1: and oh it is hurt. I'm doing pilates. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: huge lover of plates, you know, and you're doing all
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  Speaker 1: of these stretching and getting in all of these awkward positions.
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  Speaker 1: But then now I can bounce up, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: can get all the way on the floor and jump
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  Speaker 1: all the way up. So I think and I focus
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  Speaker 1: on the benefits of it. But you have to know
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  Speaker 1: going in it is not going to be comfortable. It's
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  Speaker 1: not going to be pretty, it's going to be messy.
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  Speaker 1: And if you go in with that expectation, then you're
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  Speaker 1: not thrown off when when things go a little crazy.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you're like, okay, I'm keeping my eye on
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  Speaker 1: that goal. And we say that all the time, but
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  Speaker 1: do what whatever you need to do affirmations. Put a
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  Speaker 1: picture of of My sister is a bodybuilder, and she
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  Speaker 1: used to say, well, if you if you have a
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  Speaker 1: weight goal, put a picture of the person who you
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  Speaker 1: might be attainted and it could be you and your
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  Speaker 1: ideal weight, you know, but put a picture up so
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  Speaker 1: that you can stay focused while you're hurting and grinting
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  Speaker 1: and getting through that workout and say, okay, as soon
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  Speaker 1: as I get on the other side of this, this
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  Speaker 1: is what I have to look forward to. So I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to give in. I don't like to give
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  Speaker 1: any false information on anything. It is ugly, stretching is ugly.
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  Speaker 1: It's not easy. But I guarantee, if you stay the course,
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  Speaker 1: you will receive that bottom line reward.
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  Speaker 3: I promise you absolutely. I agree because I was going
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  Speaker 3: to sleep in this morning. I was off today and
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  Speaker 3: I was going to sleep in this morning. And the
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  Speaker 3: I guess the walking part of me because I'm started
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  Speaker 3: to train for a marathon. I want to do a
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  Speaker 3: marathon before I turned fifty. I have two years I
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  Speaker 3: and my sleep would not come back to me for nothing.
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  Speaker 3: So here I am getting up and I was dreading it.
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  Speaker 3: But when I got out there and I was on
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  Speaker 3: the trail and walked, it was a beautiful morning. The
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  Speaker 3: wind was blowing and I just felt amazing. Yet, so
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  Speaker 3: do it? Do it in spite of.
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  Speaker 1: In spite of the reward?
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  Speaker 3: Is so much reward in y'all. You know, just keep
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: keep showing up for yourself.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Yes, I love that. It's perfect.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Yep. What do people romanticize about healing? Are success? That
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: is not real?
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: That it will never come up as a and show
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: up in your life as a trigger. A lot of times,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: you can a lot of things that we are healing from.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: You Just think about it. It's a womb a womb wound,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: and it takes Some wounds take a long time to heal.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Some don't take quite as long. But just think about it.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: If you I'll just use something that's say stubbing your toe.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: You know, you stub your toe and then now all
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: of a sudden, you're like, oh my god, you know
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: you're you tend to be a little more careful and
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: you're walking after as time goes on. Okay, well you
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: healed from stubbing your toe. But if you even come
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: close I know, for me, if you even come close
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: like you're gonna stub your toe again, You're like, oh no,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: so it's gonna always be. Healing doesn't mean that you forget.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: I'll say that. It doesn't mean that you you forget
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: that you have been wounded. Healing doesn't mean that the
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: wound never took place. It never happened. It will continuously
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: be something in your life. However, the way you perceive it,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: the way you approach it, It's gonna fade, but it will
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: always be there. It's gonna always be there, but we
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: will grow and stretch. Healing is a beautiful thing and
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: we we will all say, oh, I want to be heal,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I want to be healed. Then again, you're still going
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: to have trick around that healing, and so you just
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: continue to pray and grow. And that's what life is about.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: It's a journey, and no one said that they will
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: be one perfect at the end of this life. It's
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: something that we're going to continuously live out in our journey.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: Totally. I totally agree healing is.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Necessary, it's absolutely But yeah.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: Healing is necessary because it's whenever you are striving to
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: be the best version of yourself, some healing is required
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: in order to change and grow and evolve into the better,
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: the best version of yourself. And I don't really think
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: that it's a best version of yourself because we are
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: ever changing. No, you might, you might not be the
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: same as you were last year versus last one last week.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: And that's that's the whole point.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: Right, That's right, it's the whole evolution. And just like
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: you just said a few minutes ago, you know, when
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: it comes to healing, it's ongoing, is what I'm saying.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: Like you go from healing to hell. You go from
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: wound to wound to wound, you know what I mean,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: And so it is ever present. But this is what
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I was going to say. You want to be able
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: to grow each at each point, you know what I mean.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: And you want to say, Okay, well I do want
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: to be healed from this. But what does it require?
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: What does healing require? It requires acknowledgment, It requires work,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: It requires a brand new mind, like you said, mind reset.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: It requires a lot, you know I have. If my
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: father was hurt me tremendously, you know, just being a deadbeat,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: but appearentson hurt from my father, you know, and how
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: he's no longer here. But I actually had to go
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: into and I thought that I had forgiven him. I said,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: he is just the man he is, and that's just
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: who he is. But at the time he did not
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: no longer walk this earth. So much rolls up in
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: me and look more than what I expected, to the
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: point that I had to go to counseling. But it
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: was like, Okay, well now he's gone, I don't ever
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: have a chance to get a relation and have a
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: relationship with him, and so I have to and even sometimes,
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: even now he's been gone over six years, I still
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: battle that a little bit Father's Day. It's just like
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: we was talking about healing, different things will trigger you.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: I am better than I was six years ago. However,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: I am still dealing with stuff in different phases of
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: healing from that same womb. And that's just a part
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: of healing. That's a part of the journey.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, yeah. And it's not meant to be comfortable because
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: like that's stretching. You said, it stretches us so that
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: we can know that you know what. Yeah, I held
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: on to some things, but I have to release this
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: in order for me to heal. Yes, yeah, what is
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: one reason yeallady people need to understand about love and
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: relationships when it comes to mindset.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Ooh girl, I'm learning this one you speak. I think
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: that I will say, we have to give grace to others,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: but we also have to give grace to ourselves. And
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: I say that because we're going to mess up, even
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: in loving relationships. We're going to mess up, and you
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: know that's a whole part of life as well. But
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: I think that what is very a mindset that I
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: would have to say is that always be aware of
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: what you're doing, what you're saying, your tone, try to
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: be in tune with that. My mom used to make
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: us like if we if we got into with one incidence.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: I remember I was fell out with one of my
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: teachers and I came home was complaining about it, and
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: she said to me, and I was right, I'm tell
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: you right now, all the way right. But she said
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: to me, Trish, what could you have done better? How
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: could you have handled that situation better? I think every
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: single one of us needs a mindset of self reflection
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: and self reflect first before we start pointing a finger.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: And I think that if you and I'm like I said,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: this is the muscle that I am right now in
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: my life trying to exercise, and so it's definite work,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: definitely hard work. But I think that a mindset reset
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: would be to self reflect first in all of your
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: lovely relationships, friendships, even coworkers. You know, it's self reflect
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: first and do a self check. Everybody doesn't have the
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: desire to even try to work on that muscle, but
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean you don't grow, you know, and you
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: don't try to become better. And so that's what I
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: would say that it's specific to me in my life
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: and what I'm going through right now.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, man, Listen, that right there hit home to me
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: because I always try to put myself in other people's situations, Like, yeah,
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: put myself in the shoes of that person that I
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: am getting ready to go off on. How would that
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: make me feel if I were them and I had
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: somebody to tell me this? Yester at my job, he
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: was like, you make people feel seen and heard over
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: the telephone, like you are pouring into your members like
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: they are your best friends and y'all having a conversation
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: that they coming to you to listen to be heard,
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: and you are giving that experience to them. They want
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: my heart so much because that was not always Kiki,
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: trust me, it was my way or you got to
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: get out of here. I didn't care if I hurt
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: your feelings or nothing. I thank God for deliverance because
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: I want to be that person. I see it in
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: so many other people, and I'm like, thank you God,
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: because if I was like that, I know you roll
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: your eyes at me a whole lot during that time. Yeah. Absolutely, Okay,
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: So we're going to the action step, okay, because mindset
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: without action doesn't create change.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: This sure doesn't.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: What is one action someone can take today to shift
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: their mindset?
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: I think I am this is just me everywhere I go,
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: and I don't feel that this would exclude anyone. I
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: am huge on journaling, and I believe that when you are,
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: especially when you're going through a transition where you're trying
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: to align and grow and stretch and all of that,
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: I feel like the most important thing is to journal
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: date it, write down your throat thoughts, write down your
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: initial thoughts while you're in it, and be as honest.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: If you can't be honest with you, you can't be honest
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: with nobody. Be completely honest. If it requires cussin it,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: whatever it takes, wherever you are in this moment, jumal
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: it and write it down, then take it. If you've
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: got to sleep on it, come back to it a
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: week later, a day later, and you come back and
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: read where you were at that time of conflict, whatever
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: it is, and say, how we just said this? How
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: could I have handled this better? What am I doing here?
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: You will find out and I will share this. I
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: found the areas of my self worth where they I
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: was able to isolate the areas of self worth that
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: I needed to grow. Actually, I have a prompt book
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: that I'm I have. It's free, it's downloadable. It's free
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: because I realized a lot of people they need some
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: type of prompt to help them start writing. And I'm
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: the reason why, I say right on so many different levels.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I am a techie. I have all the little gadgets
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: and everything, but I still have to write it down
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: because it makes me feel so responsible for what I'm saying.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: Whatever case scenario you're in and you're trying to grow in,
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: I use myself example, all the time I had. I
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: got a new manager on the job and she and
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: I are just not jelling. And so whenever I am
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: I feel it rising up, my ears get hot, you know,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: I feel it. And so then I take a moment
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: and I write. And in that moment, in that place
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: of being uncomfortable, being upset, being emotional, I write it.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: If I feel it, I write it.
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: And then I will take a day or two and
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I go back to what I wrote and I ask
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: my what myself, how could I have how could I
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: have fixed this, or what could I have done differently?
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: I have found in my journaling personally. The reason why
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: I say that I'm a perfectionist is through journaling, and
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: so I can own only I can fix that. So
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: when I said, when I said, why is this lady
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: bothering me so bad? Why is she getting? What is
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: it that is getting on my nerve when it comes
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: to her? And I had and I had to be
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: real with me, and I said, it's because you're a
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: perfectionist and you don't receive correction from everybody. Oh wow.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: So I had to say I had to be real
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: with me. And so I feel like that is the
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: first step in change. Because once you can write it down,
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: you can read it. You come back and oh my god, dress,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: you was so out of order.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: You have to self check. And the easiest way to
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: self check for me is to hold yourself accountable. And
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: that comes my way of journaling. So that's why I
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: always say, write it down. When you write it down
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: and you go back and reread it, you have to
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: live and look at yourself in the mirror and say, Okay,
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: this is where I was wrong, this is where I
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: could have done better in this situation. And so that
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: and I had to take three days off work on
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: it because I had gone off. So, yeah, it's not
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: all prim and proper. I ain't trying to act like
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: everything is perfect this way. I went clean off and
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: then I took three days off because I needed to
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: take care of self. Yeah, and in those three days
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: that I took off was where I was able to say, Okay,
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: she's annoying me because she's pointing out my flaws and
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: as a perfectionist, I don't like that.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: I don't like that.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: Now how do I think? Now? How can I fix it? Now?
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: That's the area I'm working on fixing it. But now
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: that I'm aware, when I'm on the phone with her
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: or I'm dealing with her, it's like, okay, Trish, take
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: a step back, don't jump the gun, take a step
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: back and say, Okay, what's really going on here? How
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: are you feeling? Is what she's saying wrong?
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: No?
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, Well then why can't you do this? So it's
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: a matter of always self checking yourself. Writing it down
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: is staring you in the face. You can't hide it,
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: can't shut the coat.
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, And I'm big on journaling, like I have so
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: many journals, and that's how I started writing in the
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: third grade. My third grade teacher gave us a little
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: notebook and he introduced us to journaling, and I have
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: been a fan ever since. But writing it down, yeah,
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: it's in your face, it's.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: In your hip. You can't have from it. Yes, yeah,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I love that pel You feel it coming through your fingers.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it is. It is an extension of the brain,
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: so yes, it is. Yes. So we're gonna talk a
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: little bit about you, Like, you know, you have the
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: TV show and you know, let's talk about that, and
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: we're gonna plug everything. How where do you hang out
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: on social media? So how did you get into the
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: TV hosting like the TV show?
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: Well, I started from music. Of course, I've always loved
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: My mother's a seamstress, so I grew up with custom
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: made clothing and so I've always been a lover of it.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: So when I started singing and traveling, I would wear
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: up and coming designers pieces, and so people are like, oh,
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: where did you get this? Where'd you get that? My
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: management at the time was like, start a radio show
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: and start promoting these people, and so that's what I
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: started doing. While I was recording music and making music
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: and would bring on different designers, up and coming stylists,
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: hair everyone in the beauty industry. I would have come
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: on my radio show well when I would have makeup
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: artists and even some stylists, my viewership would say, well,
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: we can't see, you know, we can't see what if
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: she's telling us and teaching us about an application, we
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: can't see it. So in twenty eighteen, I decided to
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: transition from radio to TV and so we've been doing.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: We started out and styled with Trish because it was
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: all about fashion, but then we rebranded and pivot in
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, I believe and we became Trish Stanley TV.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: And so now we talk about everything because I am
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: a community girl, so we bring on guests who talk
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: about One of the main stories that we're following here
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: in Atlanta is a girlfriend of mine, her husband, her
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: her mother died from AIDS. Her husband, who had had it,
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: did not reveal it to her, allowed her to suffer
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: and die without acknowledging it. So we cover topics like that.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: We talk about caregiving, talk about things that pertain to
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: the community. We talk about mental pause, we talk about
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: you name it, just different things, hair loss and women
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: that is this new epidemic, and so we bring guests
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: on and we talk. We talked to authors. I love
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: talking to authors. I'm actually jealous and I always say
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: on the show, I got a book in me, and
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: y'all just can't wait. There you go, I am so
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: jealous of authors. But we bring on authors and things
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: like that, and it's just really been a true blessing
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: to be able to share so many people in the
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: community's stories and the things that we're going through. Even
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: us as a community of people, A lot of us,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: a lot of our grandparents, aunts, uncles went through dialysis.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: What is dialysis?
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: And I found that out sitting down having conversations with people,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: and so that's where I am now, and that's what
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: really really excites me. Out of everything that I'm doing.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: My TV show is probably one of the most exciting
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: things that I've done. I love that.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: I love that I can tell but when you talk
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: about it, you light up.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: A little bit.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: Yes, So how can we watch and support? Where do
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: you hang out on the social media streets? Go ahead
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: and let everybody know.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm pretty much everywhere and it's Tris Stanley TV.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: The show is on YouTube, but we are we have
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: submitted and we are waiting. Our goal is to get
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: on Amazon Prime and so we're waiting for the yes
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: you're on cause it's coming notification. But right now we're
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: on YouTube again. It's Tris Stanley TB on Instagram, on Facebook.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: The only thing that I don't have Tris Stanley TV
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: and you're free too, will follow me there is TikTok because,
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: as I stated, I am a techie girl and I'm
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: in this whole world of AI art and so on
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: TikTok it's my AI journey. So if you want to
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: go over there and follow me over there, that's fine.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: But everything else is Tris Stanley TV. Website. You can
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: find me if you go to my website, you can
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: find me anywhere.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: There.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: You can see some shows and shot my store and
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: all of that.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and the website is Tris Stanley TV as well.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: No, this website is Tris Stanley dot com. Okay, Yeah,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: Tris Stanley dot com is a website. We also have
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: the free uh you just fill out the contact form
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: and I'll send you the free prompt for journal becoming
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: her Journal that I have out right now as well.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Okay, nice and all of this would be listed guys,
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: so you don't have to freak out and write it down.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: It would be there for.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: You so that you can go and connect, support and
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: all the things. So final segment of the evening is
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: called the mic drop. Okay, So I am gonna ask
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: you a couple of questions and you're just going to
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: drop the mic on them.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right.
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: So the first one, what is one truth about love?
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: Everyone should understand.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: That it's a command.
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: Okay, you want to expound on that a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I thought it was just one short answer
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  Speaker 1: that it is a command. It is. It is not
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  Speaker 1: a want, it's not a desire. Love is not the
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  Speaker 1: fairy tale that they want us to believe. It is
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  Speaker 1: real life. Love is love. That is my saying whenever
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  Speaker 1: I sign off the show. Love isn't love unless you
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  Speaker 1: give it away. You've got to give love away. You
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  Speaker 1: can't hoard it and you can't hide it. And every
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  Speaker 1: single being that God created on this earth his desire.
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  Speaker 1: When he left here, he said, that's the only command
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  Speaker 1: he gave was love you one another. That's it, Love
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  Speaker 1: you one another, regardless of your skin color, regardless of
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  Speaker 1: who you bed with, regardless of everything He said to love.
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  Speaker 1: And I can love, and I can look at anyone
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  Speaker 1: and say that I love you with the love that
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  Speaker 1: God gives me, God put in me. Because if I
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  Speaker 1: can't love you, now am I fully loving myself and
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  Speaker 1: loving those who I claim that I'm loving. We're supposed
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  Speaker 1: to love. We were created in love, and that's who we.
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  Speaker 3: Are, absolutely, And if we can't love others, how we
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  Speaker 3: expect God to love us the way that he you know,
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  Speaker 3: it's just yeah, I get it. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: I love that they are all His creations, just the
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  Speaker 1: mere fact that He created you. I love you. There
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  Speaker 1: you go, There you go.
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  Speaker 3: That's the mic drop right there. All right?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So what.
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  Speaker 3: Is one sentence about life? You want people to remember?
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  Speaker 1: Life is a journey. It is a journey. It's about growing, evolving, enjoying.
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  Speaker 1: And even though we experience death and all of these things,
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  Speaker 1: that's a part of the journey. And we only get one.
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  Speaker 1: We are blessed with only one life. Why not live it?
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  Speaker 1: And as I always say, I'm telling you, I'm leaving
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  Speaker 1: here empty when it's time for me to go, I'm empty.
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  Speaker 3: There you go, all right? Last question. Okay, when life
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  Speaker 3: challenges you and loves stretches you, what mindset keeps you grounded?
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  Speaker 1: First? I cry, First, I have a tan, Then I
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  Speaker 1: get mad, Then I have a pity party. And then
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  Speaker 1: once I wipe all the snot away, wipe all the
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  Speaker 1: tears away, I get back realigned, refocused with the purpose
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  Speaker 1: because none of us are here without purpose, and no
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  Speaker 1: matter how many times we get knocked down, we've got
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  Speaker 1: to get up and re align with that purpose.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely but tris thank you for coming to kick it
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  Speaker 3: with me. This has been another episode of kicking it
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  Speaker 3: with Kiki. Thank you guys for tuning into this episode.
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  Speaker 3: If this conversation resonate or spoke to you in any
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  Speaker 3: type of way, make sure you subscribe and share it
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  Speaker 3: with someone who needs it. And remember your story has power,
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  Speaker 3: your voice has purpose, and your mindset can change everything.
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  Speaker 3: Until next time, see y e leta purpoct hugs.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, I love it.
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  Speaker 3: Ended with Ki to come up with la