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Season 3 - Episode 148 - The importance of DUALITY · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We're talking today about looking at both sides of the
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  equation, duality in whatever it is that you're coming up with.
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  I had a conversation with my daughter this week about this
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  very subject, which is why I decided to talk to you guys
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  about it because she came with an idea that she was having.
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  And I said it's a great idea. So let's consider all of it just
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  like I would if I was talking to a client because this is an idea
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  that is a financially based idea.
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  She's got something she wanted to work on.
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  And as she brought it up, of course you have to look at both
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  sides of it. And I started to explain it to
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  her and I could tell that she thought I was being the pin to
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  her balloon. And I said wait, stop.
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  I would do this with any client. I want you to realize every
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  situation has a duality to it, and it's important that you
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  recognize the duality in order to be able to manage it.
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  And she said, what exactly are you talking about?
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  And I said, it doesn't matter what idea you come up with it,
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  it doesn't it, it doesn't matter what it is.
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  It could be I'm going to cook a fancy French dinner for my
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  family. OK, that sounds amazing.
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  What is the duality to it? Well, there's going to be a big
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  mess to clean up. There's always, always, always
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  something that has a dark piece of it.
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  If you think of it in terms of light and dark, there's that's
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  we for every day we have a dawn, but we also have a sunset for
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  every day that, you know, it rains, there's a sunny day.
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  There's always a duality in nature and as human beings, we
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  can't get by that even in our situations.
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  And and you know, it's a really, really good thing.
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  I've joked around about this subject lightly before, talking
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  about how Elmo had this whole thing about wanting Christmas
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  every single day. And then he realized when he had
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  it every single day, it sucked and he didn't want it every day
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  because it made it not special. And this is in that vein, but
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  this is, this goes a little bit deeper in the sense that we are
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  talking about really being able to have a pragmatic mind and
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  look at something from the position of saying, hey, hold on
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  here. I have to just stop for a
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  second. I have to really think this
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  through because I know there will be things that will come up
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  that will not be easy to conquer.
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  There will be things that will need to be addressed.
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  There will be things that I have to navigate.
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  And if you know them ahead of time and you can prepare for
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  them, then you're better off. Simple example, the chickens,
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  OK, if you, I could have just put them out here and I could
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  have said, OK, here's their house and we're going to free
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  range them all. But at the time the property
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  wasn't fenced in and they didn't have, they need to have a run.
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  So at least we got the run portion of it done.
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  Then when we got neighbors and they had dogs, we were like, OK,
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  we can't trust their dogs. We don't know their dogs.
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  So that made us have an urgency around getting the fence up.
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  There's always going to be something that you have to do
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  with your projects that you might not want to do that has
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  more work than you want to do, that you have to look at.
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  And brainstorming that ahead of time is absolutely one of the
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  gifts that the universe has given us.
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  Being able to be creative for seeing what could be awesome and
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  what also needs to be addressed. There's no question in my mind
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  that that is a gift for us and that we have no choice.
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  We absolutely have to take it and use it as the tool it's
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  meant to be. So your creativity, which we
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  talk about a lot, is meant to give you the ability with using,
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  with your imagination to be able to say, OK, well, what are some
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  of the possibilities here that could not work?
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  What are some of the possibilities that will cause me
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  stress, grief otherwise? And once you start identifying
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  that boy, you are handedly in a better spot.
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  So whatever your project is, whatever you're working on, it
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  is OK. And, and self development has
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  really screwed people up in a lot of this because it will say,
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  oh, well, you just have to be, you know, think on the bright
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  side. That's what everybody believes.
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  But the truth is your power is in being able to come back to
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  that side after you go and say, OK, well, what's the stuff that
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  could go wrong? What's the stuff that I need to
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  address? What's the things I need to pay
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  attention to? Because if you can't do that,
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  then you're setting yourselves up for absolute disaster
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  potentially, but at least irritation.
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  And then, oh man, I didn't even think about that.
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  I mean, how many times in your life have you heard yourself
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  say, I didn't even think about that?
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  And that's why sometimes it's really, really beneficial to
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  have someone to talk it through with as long as there's somebody
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  that's going to be on the positive side.
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  Like, I ended up doing this with my daughter.
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  The conversation turned completely around.
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  And we ended up coming up with an even better idea because she
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  was able to look at the conditions and reverse engineer
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  it. So, you know, sometimes that's
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  an even better way to do it. You look at the end result.
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  You say, what do I want? Here's what I want and then all
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  right, if I, if I'm living this life, what can I put into this?
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  What do I want to do with this? And it stops you from making
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  mistakes that you wouldn't necessarily even want to
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  entertain. So think about this.
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  Really, really think about the duality of it.
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  Think about how you have to see the other side of it.
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  There is nothing wrong with having those thoughts.
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  It's not being pessimistic. It's being in that frame of mind
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  of saying I'm looking at the whole thing and then I can make
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  decisions. I can work myself through it.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you all tomorrow. Bye.