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Fathers Are Everywhere, But Not Dads ... Can You Help Out? · Conversations: Special Guests with Preston Scott

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  Audi and welcome Second Hour the Morning Show with Preston Scott Show fifty one,
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  twenty eight. It is Tuesday, April second, and it's great to be
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  with you. Grant Allen over there running the radio program as always, and
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  I am here relegated to Studio one B in our broadcast suites here at iHeartRadio.
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  And so no matter where or how you are listening to us, we
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  thank you very much for making time now one of the things that we have.
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  You know, in the early days of this program, I used to
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  end the show with make a Difference, and I would challenge people to find
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  ways to make a difference, and we kind of let that go for a
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  while, not necessarily the idea, but just the tagline ending the show.
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  And now we've kind of formulated what I call the Mad Radio Network. And
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  I'm teasing, I'm poking fun because Mad, obviously is how a lot of
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  people on the left view people like me that I'm just mad and angry,
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  and no, not really, I just want to make a difference and that's
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  what we try to do. And so today is really this segment, set
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  of segments is all about trying to find ways to leverage you all to make
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  a difference. Now, this is Tallahassee Centric. That said, I promise
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  you all pro dads is wherever you live in this country, it's everywhere.
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  It's a thing, and it's a really important thing. And to talk about
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  it here locally is Bo Walker? Now Bo Bo started listening to this program.
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  How old were you when you were forcibly tied into your seat and made
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  to listen? Oh? I was probably eight or nine, righting to school
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  with my dad in the mornings and my brother and we love doing the trying
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  to figure out the trivia questions together. It's a pizza come on. Yeah,
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  absolutely, And so now you are. Now I am thirty two and
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  married to my high school sweetheart. How cool is that? Father to triplet
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  girls? Oh my goodness. Yeah. If ever, you've found a reason
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  to pray for a man and you just heard it. Three girls are going
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  to be teenagers at the same exact moment. But we found out at the
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  end of the year. Boy on the way now all right, so all
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  right, very excited about that. Awesome. Yeah, and you work at
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  Generations Church. Yes, I'm the kids pastor at Generation's Church, been there
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  for eleven years. But my father pastored there, So I've kind of grown
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  up, you know, at that church. It's my home church and been
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  there for a long time. Many of you and I. It's so funny
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  because when I saw you, I said, that face looks familiar. And
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  then it dawned on me when you gave me your dad's name, I knew
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  your dad. Kenny Walker just a delightful man and a good man and a
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  faithful servant to God. Yeah, he definitely had a huge heart for our
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  community at the time Oak City, and then started the Team Challenge that's here
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  in Tallahassee as well after he left Oak City. And so, yeah,
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  huge heart for this community. And I attribute my heart for the community to
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  him. And yeah, great man, you find yourself now doing what I
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  think all good ministry does, getting outside the walls of a church. You
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  know, the church obviously you know this. It's people, it's not a
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  building. But we've we've sort of allowed the secular culture to push us into
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  being a building as opposed to a to a group of people that are trying
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  to reach outside. You are in the in the schools. Tell us about
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  first the why why did you decide, Okay, I need to get into
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  some of the elementary schools. Yeah, great question. I think for us,
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  you know, our church is right in the middle of the three two
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  three oh four zip code, and uh we talk about a fertile ground.
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  Yeah, and uh, I don't know if you know, but a few
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  years ago a study was done and per capita three two three oh four was
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  ranked the uh porous zip code in all of Florida and with nearly fifty percent
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  of kids living below the poverty line. So for me and our church,
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  you know, we're we're thinking, you know, what, what can we
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  do to help? What do we do? Uh? What? What's really
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  the root of the issue here? Like is it is it drugs? Do
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  people need food? Is it housing? You know, jobs? Is it
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  drug you know what? What's the problem here? So just trying to get
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  to the root of that issue. And uh, for for me, just
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  looking into that, I realized that we really have a crisis in fatherlessness.
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  And so if you look at the root of a lot of these issues,
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  it goes back to there's not a father in kids' lives, and it leads
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  to all kinds of different things. They need dads. Yeah, we're gonna
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  pick up right there. Bo Walker with me, and we're gonna give you
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  an email throughout and here it is bo at gctlh dot org. You're gonna
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  want to remember that bo at gctlh dot org. BUTU Walker's a Kid's pastor
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  associated pastor Generation's Church in Tallahassee, and I want to remind you if you're
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  outside the Tallassee listening area, do not tune out on this because this is
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  a problem plaguing this country. You know, when we talk about fatherlessness,
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  I would probably change the language a little bit because in certain parts of our
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  society, being a father's almost like a status symbol. We're talking about being
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  a dad. There's a big difference because just about anybody can father. That's
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  a guy, not just anybody's willing to be a dad. And we're looking
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  for dads. And when you talk about bo what's going on in the three
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  two three zero four zip code? You know I was mentioned in to you.
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  Sheriff Walt McNeil did a study he and he talked about what he called
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  it the anatomy of a murder or something to a homicide, and he drilled
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  down into years of looking at the statistics and what's causing this, driving this
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  and he arrived at a lot of the same conclusions. We need dads in
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  these homes. Now there's a reality, and the reality is that there just
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  aren't going to be dads walking in the door in a lot of the homes,
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  certainly in your zip code. But this goes across the city, and
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  it goes across the state, and it goes across the country. So explain
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  the approach that you take with all pro dads. Yeah, I was just
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  gonna mention along with that real quick. Our own state government did a study
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  on this, I think it was last year, and Governor DeSantis, along
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  with a lot of the leaders of all pro Dads, we're kind of addressing
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  this problem. And some of the statistics they found were that kids who grow
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  up in fatherless homes three times more likely to go to jail. Sixty percent
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  of youth suicides come from fatherless homes, seventy percent of high school dropouts come
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  from fatherless homes. But with a present and positive father at home, it
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  doubles a child's chances of going to college and getting a stable job. And
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  so I just believe that if we can fix fatherhood, we can change the
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  world. And I think that with all pro Dads. It's not the answer,
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  but it's a step in the right direction. And so All pro Dads
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  is a character based education program that we're able to do in the public school
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  system. We do it during school hours, so that's pretty cool. And
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  so I lead chapters locally at Sable Palm and Rudiger And the big things that
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  stick out to me for dads is that there's just power in showing up.
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  Yes, there's power and encouragement. We see the PSAs on television sometimes it
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  just say be there, yeah, being present, be there. Yeah.
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  Tell me it was the decision for you to link up with All pro Dads,
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  which is you know, I mean, you're not gonna be able to
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  quote preach the gospel, you just live it in front of these kids because
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  you're in school hours, you're on school property, right, Yeah, there's
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  some limitations to what you can do, right Yeah. Absolutely. So I
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  knew that going in, but I knew that being faithful to All pro Dads
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  would open other doors. Absolutely. And God's done some cool things with that
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  about allowing us to do some gospel centered stuff like in after school programs,
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  and so it's really opened some cool doors spiritually. But of course to all
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  pro dads, you know, even last week, I just had a dad
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  afterwards who shared that he had an older son who had in the last couple
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  of weeks committed suicide. Oh and I just said, hey, man,
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  can I can I pray with you? I just pray for you. And
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  after I prayed, he was like, would would you mind if at our
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  next meeting, I just kind of shared my story of the importance of dads,
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  you know, being in their kids' lives, and you know, like
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  and so there's just it just opened some really cool doors and you know,
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  the ability to minister to people. Even though I'm not proclaiming Jesus from a
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  stage, it just at that moment, at that moment, right right,
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  but it has opened doors to do so and people, you know, getting
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  plugged into our church and coming to different things that we do as a church.
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  But that was never my goal, and you know, it wasn't my
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  primary goal in the beginning. You know, I just wanted to try to
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  encourage dads and and make a difference in dads and kids' lives. All right.
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  When we come back, as I said, this is the Mad Radio
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  Network. It's about finding ways to make a difference. So what can you
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  do? We're going to talk very specifically about that, which is why I
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  gave you the email address bo at g C t lh dot org. Bo
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  bo at gctlh dot org. More. Next on the Morning Show with Preston
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  Scott fla on your phone with the iHeartRadio app and on hundreds of devices like
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  Alexa, Google Home, Xbox and so noos. This says Chrisler and Ihearts
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  Radio station. Regular listeners of the program would remember years ago we had Tony
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  Dungee on the show talking about all pro dads and we're looking for all pro
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  dads. We're looking for you to be an all pro dad. We're looking
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  for people that might want to help out, and we'll get to that in
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  just a second. Boat Walker with me. He leads the groups at Rudiger
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  and Sable Palm Elementary and is with Generations Church. Bo take us inside a
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  meeting. How does it start? Yes, So my favorite moment is how
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  it starts every month with what we call the Pride moment. And I asked
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  dads to just take a couple minutes and share with their child why they're proud
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  of them this month. So I say, hey, don't just tell them
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  you're proud of them, but be specific, give them a specific reason I'm
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  proud of you because and it's so cool just to see kids light up in
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  that moment. As dads speak, life and encouragement over their kids. So
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  our meetings are all about letting dads show up, encourage their kids, and
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  then just have meaningful conversations about life's topics like integrity, self control, gentleness,
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  kindness, courage, things like an expanded version of a manly minute.
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  Yeah. Absolutely. Let's now get real practical. What do you do for
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  kids who don't have a dad showing up in their life but want to come
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  to these meetings or they signed up dad says they're coming and dad doesn't show
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  up. Yeah. Absolutely, So first of all, let me say that
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  we have grandpa's, uncles, you know, all kinds of family members who
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  show up as the father figure. So if you're a grandpa uncle, you
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  can come to an all pro dad's meeting. If you're just someone who has
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  a heart for kids who maybe don't have a father figure, a positive father
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  figure in their life, we would love for you to come in, you
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  know, as kind of an adopted dad for the day. For the meetings,
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  and you know, kind of kind of probably I would imagine kind of
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  through Leon County Schools, we could set them up as kind of like a
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  mentor for a kid and be able to come to the breakfast and spend time
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  with them. We could absolutely do that. Sometimes we have volunteer groups come
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  in who will help kind of adopt kids for the day whose dads didn't show
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  up to a meeting. But yeah, there's a number of ways we can
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  get volunteers plugged into be a dad so to speak. When are the meetings,
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  So we usually meet once a month. The usually the last the last
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  week of the month. I'm usually at Rudiger the last Wednesday of the month,
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  and the last Thursday I'm at Sable Palm. And the meetings are from
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  nine to nine thirty okay in the morning, So the kids are excused from
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  class for that time period. Yes, So if they're signed up, they
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  you know, their teachers get a list and there they get called from class
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  to come to the cafeteria and the dads are checking in And that's another favorite
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  moment is when the dads and kids lock eyes when they first come into the
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  room and the kid runs and gives them a big bear hut because sometimes dad
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  doesn't live with their child, right, and so this is another time they
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  can be together. Yeah, yeah, it's really cool. How else can
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  people help? I mean there's a there has to be a financial component to
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  this that that does the lifting. Yes, So I've been at the Rudiger
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  Chapter for probably going on ten years now, and up until now, our
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  church is just kind of footed the bill every month and then Sable Palm we've
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  been there for a couple of years. It costs about two hundred dollars to
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  provide breakfast for the dads and the kids. We typically do donuts and juice
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  and coffee and then so that that provides the meal for them. So you're
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  looking at two hundred dollars a month, which isn't isn't bad to feed all
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  these dads and kids. We usually do eight meetings a year, so sixteen
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  hundred dollars you can pay for an entire year of all pro dads and making
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  sure these kids and dads get a good breakfast. And we will spoil them
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  every now and then with a hot breakfast when we can. And there's some
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  prizes that every now and then you'll give out little drawings and things. Yeah,
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  absolutely, all Pro Dad's partnered with Scholastic and Scholastick actually donates books that
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  go along with the topics we're talking about, So we get those for free.
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  We'll use those. But yeah, I like to throw in some fun
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  prizes all or something like that. Yeah, are some all Pro Dad merch
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  nice. I'll usually get some of that stuff off their website and try to
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  give T shirts and stuff like that away. So yeah, but two hundred
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  dollars, two hundred and fifty dollars would cover an entire meeting for you know,
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  the meal, giveaways, anything like that. So here's the challenge.
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  First of all, if you can give your time. There's some of you
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  you're retired, Uh, you've got the time to give for others. Maybe
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  you're a business owner, maybe you own your own business and you're looking for
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  something to really impact the community generationally. Is this is family tree changing stuff
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  that we're talking about here, Maybe eight businesses listening right now can take one
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  month and just donate to take care of both of the schools. Maybe we
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  got sixteen businesses that will take care of one school and one will take care
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  of another, and we'll i mean, how you know you know the math
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  folks, you've heard the number. If you can help, we're going to
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  get to that email bo at gctl dot org. Bo at gctlh dot org.
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  Send them a note, just say tell me more whatever, and uh,
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  let's step up and help, let's make these meetings happen, and both.
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  Thanks for what you're doing. I appreciate it. Thank you, my
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  best to your brother and your family. Thank you so much. Bu Walker
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  Generations Church, my guest, all pro dads, boy, all you have
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  to do is listen to one program of the Morning Show with Preston Scott and
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  you realize how badly we need dads. It's twenty seven minutes after the hour.
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