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HHBSO 29: I Have a Dog Crate but No Dog · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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  Hello, welcome to Heath Hopper. Something's off of me.
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  Just Joey T, it is Thanksgiving that this podcast episode is
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  going up on. So if you're listening on
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  Thanksgiving for any reason, happy Thanksgiving.
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  I am not recording this on Thanksgiving.
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  Whenever you watch YouTube videos, especially or anything
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  that's in a recorded format and as a viewer you probably don't
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  think about this very much. But when I used to do a lot more
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  YouTube videos on the regular, like every single week whenever
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  possible, I would basically have a recording day.
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  So let's say I wanted to do some cruise advice videos.
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  So I would write an outline for maybe 3 videos and then I would
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  try to film all the videos on the same day in one sitting.
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  But it's just so much more efficient that way.
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  They are not all going to go up on the same day on YouTube, but
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  maybe one video goes up per week, so just one day's work
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  then I basically have three weeks worth of content, if you
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  will. So it's pretty popular in the
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  YouTube world where it's not like TikTok, where you can kind
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  of sort of film TikTok videos on a whim.
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  There are obviously some TikTok videos nowadays that it might be
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  15 seconds, but you know, it probably takes quite a bit of
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  planning and all that kind of stuff.
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  But especially with the YouTube videos and the longer, more
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  production intensive the videos are.
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  I mean, my YouTube videos are not super high production
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  quality, but in terms of the content, I have to sit down and
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  at least write an outline just to make sure that when I'm
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  recording as if you heard any episode this podcast, you know,
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  I just talked on and on and on and it's so easy for me to go
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  off on tangent. But if it's YouTube video where
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  OK, this is the topic of the video, this is what the
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  thumbnail and the title of the video is advertising.
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  I need to make sure I stay on that topic because that's why
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  people click on that video. I need to have an outline so
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  that I don't get too far a straight and I hit all the
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  points and all the advice that I want to deliver.
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  Yeah, so I sit down and write an outline, but I will film
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  multiple of those videos in the same day in the same sitting
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  because I need to set up the lighting, the camera, the mics,
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  all that kind of stuff. I will change my clothes, I'll
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  change my T-shirt for the different videos that I'm
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  filming on the same day to make it look a little bit like I
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  filmed them on different days. It might sound like a super
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  simple thing, but it's, you know, when you do YouTube all
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  the time, you're making content all the time.
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  That type of like sit down content, these little things
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  really matter. If you're wearing the exact same
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  T-shirt and it's in your videos over like a one month period,
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  it's going to look weird. Like why you wearing the same
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  shirt for like a whole month. So little things like that.
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  So this is a very roundabout way to tell you this podcast is
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  going up on Thanksgiving. This this podcast always goes up
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  on Thursdays. However, it is not Thursday.
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  It's not Thanksgiving Day that I'm recording this.
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  This is being recorded like the weekend before Thanksgiving, so
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  there you go if you didn't catch it.
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  The last two episodes of this podcast I recorded with my good
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  friend David from Down Under, and a few of you have written
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  back for comments that you guys really like are banter and a
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  chemistry, which is awesome. Like, we're really good friends
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  in person, so this podcast does not have an outline.
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  There might be like a few bullet points here and there of like
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  just topics where we wanted to talk about it.
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  But the last two episodes that I did with David, we talked for
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  just over an hour and I split into two parts.
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  Go check that out. It's a lot of fun to talk to
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  him. And yeah, that was I didn't
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  really need an outline or just have topic ideas.
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  I I like a few topic ideas that I can pull out of the back of my
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  hand if I need it to like have something to talk about.
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  But usually me and David we just very organically just like you
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  give your you know give your good friends.
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  If you hang up your friends naturally, organically you're
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  just gonna have topics about whatever.
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  Right now you go to dinner with friends, close friends and you
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  know like you would be talking for like an hour and a half two
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  hours. So that's kind of sort of what
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  happened. So I love recording with David,
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  but anyways, it's been a weird start to the fall weather here
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  in Los Angeles. It's very easy to just think Los
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  Angeles just sunny all the time and it's been really warm
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  lately. Today it was like in the high
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  70s, which is unseasonably warm for whatever reason, but I'm
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  enjoying it. It's just gone to the point
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  where I don't need to run the AC or the heat.
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  So at night I sleep really warm and I usually throughout the
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  summer, even if I don't need the AC during the day because you
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  know, like I can open a window, turn a fan or whatever.
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  At night though, that's where I tend to overheat when I'm
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  sleeping. So I'll run the AC overnight.
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  It's just gone to that point where it it's cool enough to
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  sleep at night without fans or AC or anything.
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  But during the day, I don't need to turn the heat on.
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  So this is where I'm maximizing my savings.
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  It's for for those of you that have to pay your own electricity
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  bill and it really matters whether how high or low you turn
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  down the thermostat up or down. But yeah, I don't really like
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  wearing sweaters and all that kind of stuff.
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  One of the reasons I moved to LA is that I don't need to dress up
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  in lots of clothes. I have seen that there are
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  selfies of myself where when I lived in San Francisco for
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  example, I had to put on this like thick jacket just to go
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  aside. And I I actually saw a few
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  photos, selfies that I took on myself wearing these big thick
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  jackets and basically like taking a selfie of myself to
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  remind myself how much I dislike wearing winter clothing.
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  So I don't like wearing sweaters.
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  I don't like wearing long sleeve stuff.
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  I don't like wearing thick jackets.
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  It's one of the reasons I live in Los Angeles.
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  The only thing I like about cold weather is driving in snow.
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  That's that sounds like super, super weird because most people
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  don't like driving that much. But like, I love cars and I like
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  driving. And so most people driving in
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  snow is just hell. Like you're just trying to get
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  from A to B and driving in snow, it's completely counter to that,
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  you know, higher risk of accidents and sliding off the
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  road and that kind of stuff. Had some close calls driving in
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  the snow from like years and years back when I lived in
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  Vancouver. And my family doesn't snow that
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  much in the Pacific Northwest, like once in a while.
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  And that's the worst. When you live somewhere, you get
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  snow sometimes, but not consistently year after year,
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  because people don't know what to do with the snow.
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  It's like in Los Angeles or like Socal.
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  It rains once in a while, but not most of the time.
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  It doesn't rain enough for people to know what to do with
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  the precipitation, the rain or the snow.
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  But it does hit often enough that when it does happen, like
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  people just it's like they forget how to drive.
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  But I kind of like driving in the snow because I like driving.
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  But if you get to like an empty park or not with some snow, you
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  can do some really, really fun stuff.
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  Driving in traffic doesn't matter the weather, it's it's
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  always always horrible. But yeah, it's kind of nice.
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  It's that nice temperature where like at night it cools down so
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  you can have like a really good night's sleep without having to
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  run the AC and all that stuff. But during the day, it's like
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  really, really nice to like just it's still, it's still sunny,
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  but it's not hot. So we're kind of in that, like,
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  I don't know, Goldilocks kind of weather in LA right now where
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  it's cool at night but not cold, and it's sunny and pleasantly
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  warm during the day but not hot. So I'm really enjoying it.
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  I think last year I didn't end up using the heat at all.
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  Like, I just never turned the heat on and I just wore like a
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  hoodie in the house and like, it just, like, kept the windows
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  closed. And yeah, the income is not very
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  high right now. So I am definitely, you know, I
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  just have to pinch the pennies, you know, like my mom, Tommy, we
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  got to turn down that thermostat during the winter.
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  The funny thing about that, I'm getting more into listening to
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  podcasts now. So obviously I'm recording when
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  you all listen to it. But I've been listening to a few
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  different podcasts and I tell you guys the ones I'm listening
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  to so that you guys can kind of, I mean, yeah, we'll do that.
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  But walking to and from the gym every day I'm listening to a
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  podcast. And sometimes even when I start
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  my workout, I'm still listening to the podcast.
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  You just switch over to music, something like more upbeat.
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  Because that's usually, it's actually research out there that
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  shows that listen to like, upbeat music improves your
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  performance when you're like at the gym.
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  So I'll put on something upbeat usually.
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  But sometimes you're like kind of sort of getting into the
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  podcast after like your 15th 20 minute walk to the gym or
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  wherever. So like, I kind of sometimes
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  just keep listening into like the start of my gym routine.
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  But one podcast that I like listening to is called This
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  Might Get Weird and it's hosted by two women.
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  It's Grace Helbig and Mamrie Hart.
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  So Grace and Memory. I know them because I don't know
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  them, know them in person, but I knew of them from this is like
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  12 or 13 years ago from their YouTube channel.
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  So Grace used to do this YouTube show called Daily Grace for like
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  this, like YouTube content kind of company before she went and
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  kind of did her own videos on YouTube.
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  And she used to do like comedy videos every single day of the
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  week. So it was called Daily Grace and
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  that was one of the very first Youtubers I follow like 12 or 14
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  years ago when she was doing that.
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  So like, yeah, I used to watch those like all the time.
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  I used to watch them on repeat. And Mamie Hart, she used to do a
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  her own YouTube channel and it was called You Deserve a Drink.
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  And she would mix up different drinks for like just random
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  different occasions or for different people or celebrities
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  or whatever. And they're like really good
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  friends in person and you know, faster.
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  However many years they now do a podcast.
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  I've been doing it for I think several years now, maybe like
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  four or five years now that they're doing this.
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  This might get weird podcasts. So and it's still going.
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  They do one every week, but I don't really get into their
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  podcast until earlier this year. I'm, I'm late to everything
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  that's trendy, honestly. But I've been listening to the
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  podcast from like the oldest ones to, you know, to the newer
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  ones. So when I started listening
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  earlier this year, I started from like the first episode and
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  it was recorded like 2018 to 2019.
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  I think that's when they started it.
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  So it was like pre Pandemic and then I eventually heard them do
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  the podcast at the start of the Pandemic.
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  So that was like a bit of a throwback.
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  But as I'm listening to these podcasts, I'm only getting into
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  listen to these this year. Anytime I haven't upon a podcast
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  I kind of like I start from the beginning and a lot of them
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  they've been running for like a few years.
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  So I'm hearing content. I'm least the episodes from like
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  2018-2019 pre pandemic, all that kind of stuff.
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  But that's gonna be the first one that I started listening
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  regularly to and and other podcasts that I just kind of
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  stumble on more recently. So Mateo Lane is a comedian that
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  I just kind of sort of discovered more recently on
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  YouTube. And yeah, based on YouTube, he's
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  got, he's got videos on YouTube, he's got some of his specials
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  out on YouTube as well. And I don't know if he still, I
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  don't know if they still do this but Matteo Lane has a podcast
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  with a friend of his and it's called the Inside the Closet
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  podcast and I'm trying to look up the name of like the Co host
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  because he does it with someone else.
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  It's OK. It's Emma Willman and Matteo
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  Lane. They do this Inside the Closet
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  podcast. I'm not sure if it still runs.
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  I don't know if there's any recent episodes, but they talk a
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  lot about him being a gay man and then she being a lesbian.
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  So they talk a lot about, you know, queerness and sexuality
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  and that kind of stuff. And they're both like comedians
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  and entertainers. So, like, it's kind of
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  entertaining to listen from that point of view as well.
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  So I'm kind of listening to a little bit about that.
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  The most recent podcast that I literally just started listening
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  to this week is the Susie Orman Women and Money podcast.
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  So I'm not a woman, obviously, but I find it kind of sort of
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  entertaining. So I'm a little bit
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  interpersonal finances. I keep a budget and all that
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  kind of stuff, so anytime I can get some personal finance advice
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  in an entertaining way, it's great for me.
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  So Susie Orman kind of does that.
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  I usually, I know years ago when she was on TV and she did the
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  Susie Orman show. Not that I would like mark my
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  calendar to like go watch it when it comes on, but like if it
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  happens to be on or whatever, like a rerun on a weekend or
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  whatever, I would kind of watch that.
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  I like it when she gives advice to people that I call in or like
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  write in or whatever, but those are kind of fun.
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  She used to do the segment on her TV show.
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  I forgot what it's called, but it's like, can I afford it?
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  Where some of them want to buy something that they didn't
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  really need. It was always something they
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  want, like a car or go on vacation or like a boat or a jet
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  ski or whatever it is. And then she would the the
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  caller would ask Susie, like, you know, here's my finance
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  situation, just how much might I've saved in my 4 O 1K and my
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  IRA, Roth or emergency fund or whatever, just how much I bring
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  in? This is more mortgage.
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  And then Susie would tell them whether they can afford it or
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  not, like a yay or nay. So I remember that segment when
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  she used to do her TV show, but she got a podcast out now and I
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  just started listening to it. It's obviously judging from
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  title is for women, obviously, But I find it kind of
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  entertaining, You know, it's it's not like, ha ha, funny like
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  with, you know, some of these other podcasts that I mentioned
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  where they're kind of from entertainers and kind of sort of
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  comedians. But yeah, it's a weird mix of
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  podcasts, but different types of podcasts.
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  But those are the three that I'm listening to right now.
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  You know what the weird thing is?
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  And this is not, I don't think this is like a narcissistic
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  thing, but when I put out a YouTube video and even the
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  episodes of this podcast, I do sometimes listen to them.
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  And for a lot of people, I think it's very difficult for them to
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  see themselves on camera or they hear the voice play back to
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  them. When I first started doing
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  YouTube, that was the same too. I think.
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  I didn't used to do this when I was doing the daily vlog daily
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  calendar type videos on YouTube, however many like 10 years ago.
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  But with the more recent YouTube videos, first of all, I end up
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  editing it. I'm watching all the raw
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  footage, you know, if I go on a cruise and I edit, I film a
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  bunch of stuff and I'm putting together one of the after movies
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  on a cruise. There's a lot of editing
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  involved and I watch everything, especially with the stuff where
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  I just set up a camp like a camcorder.
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  Like right now for the video version of this podcast, I've
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  got Camera right in front of me. It's recording and I have to
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  edit that and I watch it. But yeah, just having done
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  YouTube for so long, I'm completely fine hearing myself
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  talk, see myself on camera because I do all my own editing
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  and production work. But with the podcast, for
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  example, I listened back to it. It's kind of sort of not because
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  I like the sound of my voice, honestly.
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  It's kind of sort of quality check, quality assurance.
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  It's like, OK, you know, like I I've edited this podcast or I've
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  made this video. Is it good?
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  Like, what are, what were the details?
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  Like, I'm kind of a detail oriented person, right?
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  So when I'm editing, there's a tendency to kind of sort of like
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  just just get it done, like just edit and get it done.
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  Because if I let myself OCD on, the editing I would never
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  finish. And editing is not the most
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  enjoyable part of their process for a lot of people, including
• 17:32
  myself. I don't hate it, but it's not
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  like enjoyable right. But sometimes I watch a video
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  that I make on YouTube or this podcast and listen to it and
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  I'll pick a little different things where oh, I should make a
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  note to do this part better or to like not do so much of this.
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  And same with the is, is, is, is anything you produce out there,
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  right. You know you you you you produce
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  anything and on on the regular you're going to want to kind of
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  quality check your stuff right. So that's kind of what I do.
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  So sometimes I'll download my own podcast after it goes up and
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  like listen to it and the the mindset is not oh I think my
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  podcast is so great. I love hearing my own voice.
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  I love hearing myself talk about whatever.
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  It's more how how much of attention did I really go off?
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  Like, is this, is this a piece of work that I feel like I can
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  consume myself? But it's kind of like, if I
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  can't consume this content myself, how do I expect other
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  people to even remotely want to consume it, right?
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  Did I put out a quality piece of work?
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  I want to go check for myself, So that's what happens.
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  It's not because I like the look of my face on YouTube or I like
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  the voice of my sound on a podcast.
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  It's really to do. I just, I really wanna know and
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  look at what I'm putting out there so that I can take little
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  notes. And I do do that and I'll take
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  those notes the next time I record whatever and apply it
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  right. So that's why I listen to my own
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  stuff. Not because I'm like full of
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  myself. Really.
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  Yeah. But yeah, I've been listening a
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  lot of podcasts, especially the other situation.
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  I will listen to a podcast is when I drive to the airport,
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  Usually in the car it's music and I don't drive that much
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  anyways, but I'm driving to the airport.
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  It's like 40 minutes, 40 something minutes or an hour
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  depending on traffic. And that's where I like put on a
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  podcast. I used to only listen to music,
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  but you know, after so many years the music gets a little
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  boring. So when that's the case, I just
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  put it in the podcast. I mean podcast is like the hot
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  thing these days. Everyone's like listen to some
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  sort of podcast. I got into it like really late.
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  I before this year, I never really listened to any sort of
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  podcasts or anything. I've never listened to
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  audiobooks. My brother sent me an audiobook
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  that's a Formula One related audiobook a year ago, two years
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  ago as like an audible.com gift, and I've never clicked on that.
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  I've never it was free, but I wasn't at that time into like
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  any audiobooks. I don't think I've listened to
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  any audiobooks at all, so. I think that was a Do people
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  still do that? I have no idea.
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  But but here we are now. I have started listening to
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  other people's podcasts as well as my own for quality assurance,
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  and I record one every week. So there you go.
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  Speaking of consuming content, I have a note on here.
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  Whenever I get a random idea, I would jot it down.
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  Many weeks ago I talked about, I think I talked about this, but I
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  think I just talked started talking about it and I
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  completely went off a tangent and I didn't finish the thought
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  they must start. The thought I was going to talk
• 21:01
  about the TV shows that I watch and I mentioned that I was
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  watching Season 2 of Heart Stopper, which came out earlier
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  this year. It's it didn't just come out.
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  I think came out in the summer a little while ago, earlier this
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  year, and then was listening to myself talk on the recording and
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  then I discovered I completely went off on attention.
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  Didn't finish my thought. But I love the first season.
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  I rewatched the first season more than a few times and that's
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  usually the type of TV show or movies or whatever that I like
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  to watch. I don't like scary movies.
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  I like to laugh. I like to.
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  I like something heartfelt. I like to be entertained.
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  I don't like anything that requires a lot of investment or
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  that requires a lot of effort to watch, right?
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  So something like Light Hearted, that's easy to watch.
• 21:58
  That's really what I want. So the first season of Heart
• 22:02
  Stopper, I loved it. It was great.
• 22:05
  A little idealistic in terms of, you know, like the storyline,
• 22:09
  the plot. It's like, of course they got
• 22:10
  together, duh. But that's kind of what I want
• 22:14
  to look for. I'm not looking for lots of
• 22:15
  twists and turns and that kind of stuff.
• 22:17
  I just want, I just want an easy watch.
• 22:19
  Having that mindset. I've only watched the first two
• 22:23
  episodes of the second season of Heart Stopper's name.
• 22:28
  I think I keep saying Heartbreaker, but it's Heart
• 22:31
  Stopper is the actual name of the show.
• 22:33
  I think I'm, I said it wrong. But anyways, only watched the
• 22:37
  first two episodes and the first two episodes in the second
• 22:40
  season. Even those two episodes.
• 22:43
  I was getting so much anxiety watching it because it's spoiler
• 22:49
  alert, If you haven't watched Heart Stopper and there's any
• 22:53
  chance you might want to watch it, or you watched the first
• 22:56
  season but you haven't watched the second season, please don't
• 22:59
  listen to the rest of this podcast.
• 23:01
  Come back to it later, Biz spoiler alert.
• 23:04
  There you go. I've warned you, spoilers are
• 23:06
  coming only for the first two episodes, but that's only two
• 23:09
  episodes I've watched. But basically I was getting so
• 23:12
  much anxiety watching it. I just stopped watching it
• 23:15
  because they're together now and they are not hiding it very
• 23:23
  well. Kind of brings me back to my
• 23:25
  semi closeted days I didn't have.
• 23:28
  I wasn't closeted and also like dating someone or had a
• 23:32
  boyfriend the same time. But when you're in school, like
• 23:36
  high school, being closeted is like hard enough.
• 23:39
  But it just gave me anxiety because OK, they are kind of
• 23:44
  closeted because most of their friends don't know and like the
• 23:48
  school doesn't know, but they're also like kissing in random
• 23:53
  public places in the school. And for me, I'm like, you're
• 23:56
  going to get caught. You're going to get caught.
• 23:59
  And that gave me anxiety because like, not only are they going to
• 24:05
  get caught, like making out, they're going to get caught just
• 24:09
  being gay. So they're going to get in
• 24:11
  trouble for it because the school probably doesn't allow
• 24:13
  that and it's going to, like ruin it.
• 24:16
  So I keep watching the 1st and 2nd episode and all I can think
• 24:19
  of is you guys keep making out in, like in in the school in
• 24:25
  places where like it's very likely someone could see you,
• 24:28
  like in the locker room that you think is empty, but it's not.
• 24:31
  But I'm getting so much that because I know you guys are
• 24:34
  going to get caught and it's going to ruin both of your lives
• 24:37
  like in the show. So I'm just like constantly on
• 24:41
  this verge of like, Oh my God, this is where you're going to
• 24:44
  get caught. Like, and I don't want them to
• 24:45
  get caught because it's triggering for me because as a
• 24:48
  gay person that was closeted and you know, in school where I
• 24:53
  started telling a few of my like high school dude, bro friends
• 24:59
  and we'll unpack that in a separate episode because we
• 25:01
  don't have time today. That's like anxiety, you know?
• 25:06
  So I was like watching with so much anxiety.
• 25:07
  Maybe if maybe like a straight person watching it, maybe that
• 25:12
  has never gone through coming out wouldn't have so much
• 25:14
  anxiety watching it. But I was like, I I I'm so
• 25:19
  excited to watch the new season, the first episode and then like
• 25:23
  very soon in their first episode I was like just give me so much
• 25:26
  anxiety. I tried to persevere and watch
• 25:29
  the second episode but after this episode I was like I need
• 25:32
  to turn this off because I'm here for not.
• 25:35
  I'm I'm not I don't watch TV to want to be to to get anxious.
• 25:39
  I'm watching TV to like to be relaxed.
• 25:43
  I'm on an easy watch like I said and yeah, no, this is I I just,
• 25:49
  I just couldn't watch it. So if I'm really really bored on
• 25:53
  a plane ride later this year, I will maybe try to watch it.
• 26:00
  I have a downloader on my iPad. But yeah, it was like I, I,
• 26:05
  yeah, I this is not the kind of TVI.
• 26:07
  Watch what I do what I just change changing the changing the
• 26:15
  topic a little bit. A weird thing I watch are
• 26:21
  veterinarian shows which I find really interesting.
• 26:26
  So I also watch I think I mentioned this I watched those
• 26:28
  airplane crash investigation shows not no plane crashes are
• 26:33
  horrible. They're few and far in between,
• 26:35
  but they're horrible. But I like watching it because
• 26:37
  of the investigative work that they do where they look into
• 26:41
  like the reason, the root causes of why that incident happened
• 26:46
  and then how they actually to what about doing it and what the
• 26:49
  outcome was, how they made air travel safer.
• 26:51
  Like I like the engineering investigative aspect of it.
• 26:54
  Obviously, like the the the plane crash is horrible and to
• 26:59
  there to be people injured or lives lost is not good.
• 27:03
  But I like watching the engineering, the scientific, the
• 27:05
  investigative part of it and how they make changes to make, you
• 27:09
  know with the regulations to make air travel safer.
• 27:12
  So that's interesting and that's something I that's something
• 27:15
  that's it sounds like an intense watch, but for me it's like very
• 27:19
  fascinating. So like I can actually watch it
• 27:22
  and enjoy a show like that. I've been kind of also watching
• 27:26
  on Nat Geo National Geography. The some of the veterinarian
• 27:32
  shows, there's like a whole bunch of them and there's like a
• 27:35
  few of them that I just like randomly watch.
• 27:37
  I I like the idea of having a pet.
• 27:42
  I just don't want the burden of having pets.
• 27:45
  I was so close to getting a dog. I think I meant, but there's a
• 27:49
  dog crate sitting in my living room right now.
• 27:51
  I was that close to getting a dog.
• 27:54
  I had filled out an few two or three applications to adopt A
• 27:58
  dog earlier this year. Like it was actually last year,
• 28:01
  I think earlier this year or like late last year.
• 28:05
  And it's hardly kind of worms why I actually have to dock,
• 28:08
  right, and don't have the dog. I've had a few people come over
• 28:10
  and be like, is that a dog crate in your living room?
• 28:12
  Like, yes, here's the story on that dock, right since I brought
• 28:16
  it up. Let's just get into it.
• 28:18
  It's not a super long story. So I was like, I was like, OK, I
• 28:22
  want to get a dog. So I start looking to like how
• 28:25
  to adopt A dog and what breed I want and started getting some of
• 28:30
  the supplies actually. So I decided I wanted this kind
• 28:35
  of nice dock crate. It's a really nice looking one.
• 28:39
  It's not just like this weird ugly plastic or like metal cage
• 28:44
  looking thing, but there's this nice kind of wooden one that I
• 28:48
  wanted and it also serves as like a side table.
• 28:52
  It's very sturdy. It's kind of like the height of
• 28:55
  like a side table that you would find beside your sofa in the
• 28:58
  living room. It blends in with you know all
• 29:01
  the rest of the furniture, blends in with the decor, but
• 29:04
  that dock crate had a lead time just back when supply chain
• 29:08
  issues in like 2022. Everything was like a multiple
• 29:12
  week wait for anything you want to buy and it would have taken
• 29:16
  like two months or something like that.
• 29:19
  To get this crate you have to wait like 6 or 8 weeks.
• 29:21
  So I was thinking, well a dock crate is really important if
• 29:26
  you're going to have a dog in your house.
• 29:27
  Like the dog needs a crate and I didn't want to buy like a crappy
• 29:33
  temporary crate only to have to like get rid of it later.
• 29:36
  So I was thinking well before the dog comes because I was like
• 29:39
  convinced I was going to get a dog and I was like talking to
• 29:43
  shelters and things like that. Let's order the crate now
• 29:46
  because it takes like 6 or 8 weeks to arrive, so that by the
• 29:50
  time I would have adopted a dog, Dog dog adoption can't happen
• 29:55
  very quickly. If you really wanted to, you can
• 29:59
  like within one or two days bring a dog home.
• 30:02
  So because I didn't know exactly when I would find like the the
• 30:07
  right dog or whatever and bring that dog home, I didn't want to
• 30:09
  like, you know, bring a dog home without the crate in place.
• 30:12
  But this crate that I wanted was going to take six or eight
• 30:14
  weeks. So I pulled the trigger and just
• 30:16
  bought the crate online thinking that, OK, let's have the crate
• 30:21
  that I want in place before I go get the dog.
• 30:26
  But basically, within the time, the two months that it took for
• 30:30
  the crate to arrive, I then decide, I think when the dog
• 30:36
  crate actually came, I still wanted to get a dog.
• 30:38
  But soon after that I decided, you know what?
• 30:43
  I should not have a dog. I think yeah, I was.
• 30:49
  So I was so on board with getting a dog and then a couple
• 30:52
  of months later I was so not on board with it.
• 30:55
  Looking back at it that that drama was like a year ago.
• 30:58
  I think it was 2022. Looking back at it now, it's
• 31:02
  still the right call for me today to not have a dog.
• 31:06
  So a dog sat for a friend like a couple of times.
• 31:11
  That's what I should do. I I travel too much.
• 31:14
  I'm way too used to not having dependence.
• 31:17
  A dog is completely dependent on you, completely, 100% for every
• 31:22
  single thing, walking them, picking up their shit twice a
• 31:25
  day, feeding them, putting out water for them, anything that
• 31:30
  they need attended to, you have to do that.
• 31:34
  So I was aware of that. But back then when I was
• 31:40
  convincing myself like, I'm going to get adopted, I do love
• 31:43
  dogs. And I was always kind of sort of
• 31:49
  thinking, do I do I do I have it in me to take care of dog?
• 31:52
  I am a very responsible person. If I somehow had a dog like, I
• 31:56
  would take care of it. But thinking more about it, it's
• 32:02
  like it's not the money. But dogs can also be very
• 32:05
  expensive, like medical bills and all that kind of stuff.
• 32:09
  But I was thinking back then, the way I talked about something
• 32:12
  to it was, well, you always wanted a dog.
• 32:14
  You want a dog since you were like 12 and you're in your 30s
• 32:18
  now and you know, are you going to wait till you're 60 to have a
• 32:22
  dog? And there's always going to be
• 32:24
  some sort of excuse. So you're not going to stop
• 32:27
  traveling tomorrow, You're always going to travel.
• 32:31
  And one of the main things for me was I travel, get on the
• 32:36
  plane at least once a month and I'll it might be a short trip.
• 32:41
  It might just be for a weekend trip that I go somewhere.
• 32:44
  Sometimes I go away for a week, like when I go on the cruises.
• 32:47
  I'm away for seven or eight days.
• 32:49
  And I was thinking, well, I'm not going to.
• 32:51
  I'm always going to travel. I'm, you know, it doesn't matter
• 32:54
  if I'm in my 30s, forties, fifties, 60s, I'm going to keep
• 32:56
  travelling. I'm not going to like, no, just
• 32:59
  not travel. So I was thinking myself,
• 33:02
  travelling isn't a good excuse to not have a dog.
• 33:05
  If you want a dog, you just have to work with it.
• 33:08
  So you just have to be OK to have friends that can dox it for
• 33:13
  you, or you have to go to like a doggy hotel, whatever.
• 33:16
  But you know, like if you really want a dog, you just have to
• 33:21
  work within what you've got. So that's kind of sorry, talk
• 33:24
  myself into it. Like, there's never going to be
• 33:26
  a great, awesome situation where I'm going to be able to have a
• 33:32
  dog fit nice and neatly into my life because I do travel at
• 33:36
  least once a month. I'm on a trip, if not more
• 33:38
  sometimes. And you know, I spend a lot of
• 33:41
  time, spend a lot of time at home now because I, you know, do
• 33:45
  all my business from home right now.
• 33:46
  But maybe one day I have a nine to five job, right?
• 33:50
  And you know, like the ideal person to kind of really have a
• 33:53
  dog kind of doesn't exist. Because even for someone who's
• 33:58
  like I stay at home mom, but I stay at home mom even without
• 34:02
  the dog, with the kids, it's a full time job 24/7.
• 34:05
  No vacation breaks, no lunch breaks, no dinner breaks, no, no
• 34:08
  anything like if you are stay at home mom, that is like you're on
• 34:13
  the clock all the time, every hour and then every minute,
• 34:16
  every second without without the four O 1K or like the medical
• 34:20
  benefits. So I was thinking the the ideal
• 34:25
  situation for to have a dog doesn't really exist for anyone.
• 34:29
  Like the ideal person is like someone who doesn't need to earn
• 34:35
  their own money, who's home all the time like that.
• 34:39
  That's if you have a sugar daddy or or a housewife like.
• 34:43
  And those are not the only people that have dogs.
• 34:45
  Lots of people have fully functional lives where they make
• 34:50
  their own income, they have other things go on and have a
• 34:52
  dog and make it work. So that's I was thinking like,
• 34:56
  well, I'm not like if all these other people can have a dog and
• 35:02
  be fine, like, it shouldn't be a problem for me.
• 35:06
  So that's how I talked myself into like, you know what, let's
• 35:09
  just get a dog. Like you always wanted a dog.
• 35:12
  You can make this work. Millions of other people have
• 35:15
  regular everyday lives with jobs and other responsibilities or
• 35:19
  kids and all that kind of stuff. And they can have a dog.
• 35:23
  Like you work from home and you don't have kids and you know you
• 35:29
  at the time. Anyways, you do have enough
• 35:31
  money to like do this, so like you can just go do it.
• 35:35
  But yeah, it ultimately decided not to have a dog.
• 35:39
  Looking back at it now, a year later and this whole year, like
• 35:43
  since then, I've not regretted that choice at all.
• 35:46
  If I want to go get a dog, I can go get a dog, right?
• 35:48
  But yeah, I just don't want to. It's so simple though.
• 35:52
  What click for me is, do I want to pick up after a dog their
• 36:00
  poop twice a day, every day for the rest of my life?
• 36:05
  It was that simple, like something clicked about that,
• 36:07
  asking myself that question. Now its answer is no, I don't
• 36:10
  want to pick up after any animal for like twice a day for the
• 36:15
  rest of my life. Yeah, so there you go.
• 36:19
  So maybe that means I never have a I'll never have a dog if I
• 36:23
  ended up with a partner who also really wanted a dog.
• 36:27
  That's a little different. Like if I'm in like a long term
• 36:29
  relationship where we're living together and we both share that
• 36:34
  duty and it's not completely on me to have to about.
• 36:38
  If I only have to pick up after a dog's poop half the time and
• 36:43
  not 100% of the time, that might be doable.
• 36:47
  So that's different. Like I'm not going to say I'm
• 36:50
  going to go find a husband just to have a dog.
• 36:53
  Like, I don't want the dog that badly, but I think that's where
• 36:57
  I will re evaluate having a dog. This is how this is how my
• 37:03
  thought process works. It I I I like to think I'm a
• 37:07
  logical person. I think most people think
• 37:09
  they're a logical person. Like most people think they are
• 37:12
  smart. Most people think they're funny.
• 37:14
  Most people think they are doing the right thing, right.
• 37:18
  But having like explained it to you now, it's like, yeah, it was
• 37:24
  really just all over the place. It's like I went from seriously
• 37:28
  wanting a dog. I went to like this shelter and
• 37:31
  actually like played around with the dogs.
• 37:32
  Actually submitted a few applications to adopt dogs.
• 37:36
  None of luckily, none of those. I didn't get any of those.
• 37:39
  I guess if I did get a dog though, like at that time,
• 37:44
  marijuana, if I somebody actually got a dog, I think I
• 37:48
  would really love the dog. And even though it might be like
• 37:53
  all this extra responsibility at work to do it, I think I would
• 37:59
  be happy with the dog. But also looking back at it now,
• 38:02
  I'm equally happy not having the dog.
• 38:04
  So yeah, it it it doesn't make that much logical sense, does
• 38:10
  it? It's a little bit like neither
• 38:11
  here nor there. But I went from like almost,
• 38:15
  really almost getting a dog buying.
• 38:16
  I have a leash and I have poop bags in my pantry right now.
• 38:20
  And that dog crate I told you about, I was sitting in my
• 38:24
  living room and like a month or two later it became, no, I'm.
• 38:29
  I'm not getting a dog. And I'm very comfortable with
• 38:31
  that. I'm comfortable with that and
• 38:34
  that I don't have a dog right now.
• 38:36
  But you have some dramatic swing on, a pretty big decision.
• 38:40
  It's not like, you know, oh, Oh my God, like don't, please don't
• 38:45
  get someone a dog for. It's like a present.
• 38:49
  I guess families sometimes get dogs for, like, their kids and
• 38:51
  stuff, but that's like a family decision.
• 38:53
  That's fine. But yeah, like it.
• 38:56
  It's otherwise such a big decision that I don't think you
• 38:58
  should do it as like a gift for someone who's not really
• 39:00
  suspecting it. But anyways, yeah, like to have
• 39:03
  swing so dramatic from like a heart yes to a heart no.
• 39:07
  In the matter of like, I don't know, I think maybe like a few
• 39:11
  weeks or like a couple weeks or something.
• 39:13
  It's not really like me. But yeah, I'm kind of glad I
• 39:16
  don't have the dog now. I love dogs.
• 39:18
  I just, I don't think I want to have a dog.
• 39:21
  So I do have some friends that a couple of friends that I dock,
• 39:25
  sit for them a couple of times and that's fun.
• 39:28
  Like have to. I don't need to worry about
• 39:31
  teaching them. I don't worry.
• 39:33
  I don't have to worry about spoiling the dog.
• 39:35
  If I got a dog, I think I'd probably be more of a strict pet
• 39:42
  owner than like a LAX one. The dog needs to behave at
• 39:46
  least. Yeah, the dog just needs to
• 39:48
  behave. But with this dog that I dock
• 39:51
  sit every once in a great while, I get to spoil the dog and I
• 39:55
  don't have to worry about the repercussions, which is like
• 39:57
  really awesome. I can feed the dog as many doggy
• 40:01
  treats as I want so that the dog will listen to me.
• 40:03
  This dog is extremely food motivated.
• 40:06
  And I don't have to worry about it creating bad habits.
• 40:09
  But it's not my dog. My my friends kind of sort of
• 40:12
  know this, so I don't think they listen to this podcast.
• 40:15
  But like, I'm not ruining your dog.
• 40:16
  But I definitely do spoil that dog when he stays with me
• 40:21
  because it's not my dog and I get to spoil him.
• 40:23
  So, all right, there you go. That will be another episode of
• 40:27
  the podcast. So remember, the video version
• 40:30
  of this podcast is available on Spotify and also on my YouTube
• 40:33
  channel. Just Joey T I'm actually wearing
• 40:36
  one of my favorite tops this sleeveless T that I have.
• 40:41
  It's from top man, Top Shot. I don't know if that store even
• 40:45
  exists anymore, but I got this, oh, I don't know, five or six
• 40:49
  years ago. And this is one of my favorite.
• 40:51
  This is my one of my most favorite shirts that I have.
• 40:53
  And if you watch the video show, the podcast, you can see me
• 40:55
  wearing it and know what it looks like.
• 40:57
  But until next time, bye.