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Show 239: Holy Matrimony, part 3 · The Uncensored Catholic

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Speaker 1: A Hey, y'all, welcome to this week's show.
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Speaker 2: We will begin today part three of our series on
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the sacrament of marriage holy matrimony, and it's going to
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be very interesting. I think you can get a lot
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out of this one. But first, as always, we'll start
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with a few questions and answers from radio replies, classic
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work by the priests and well, I guess the twenty
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thirties who were taking questions from Protestants and atheists and
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progresses and anybody who had an issue with the church.
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And it's just it's a fantastic work.
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Speaker 1: I think. I can't remember.
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Speaker 2: There are three or four volumes of radio replies, but
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it was by Father's Rumble and Carti. And I tell you,
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if you don't have these books on your shelf, you
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really need them. I mean, there's nothing new under the sun,
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you know, as the Bible says, as Ecclesiastes says, So
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the Questionaer has been asking them about the sacrament of penance,
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and he says, is it possible to secure forgiveness without
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going to a priest?
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Speaker 1: Answer?
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Speaker 2: Catholics who are unable to find a priest or are
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forgiven if they make an act of perfect contrition or sorrow,
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which such an act supposes at least the intention of
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going to confession when the opportunity presents itself. For perfect
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sorrows supposes the will to do God's will. Protestants and
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other non Catholics can also secure forgiveness by perfect sorrow
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if they are not responsible for their ignorance of the
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law of Christ, For lack of knowledge would be a
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condition of true sorrow in those who do not comply
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with the actual law. Such people would go to confession
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if they realize the obligation. But who can know that
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he has such perfect contrition? Perfect contrition implies a hatred
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of the sin to be forgiven, not from any motive,
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but because it has offended God. It implies intense sorrow
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for having committed it, the will to make a full
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reparation of harm done, and the firm purpose to avoid
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committing again. What certainty has one that he possesses such dispositions?
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Is sorrow supernatural? Is his conviction of forgiveness merely self persuasion,
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a case of the wish being the father.
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Speaker 1: To the thought.
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Speaker 2: He has no definite personal revelation that he has forgiven
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Catholics who receive sacramental absolution, are at least not left
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in such doubts and anxieties, For even though their sorrow
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be not as perfect as it should be, the sacrament
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itself will supply for certain defects, and the person continues.
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But people can simulate sorrow or deceive a priest by
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telling him only so much as they wish, and they answer.
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Catholics know that they cannot deceive God. God uses his
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priest as his agent or instrument. Even though the penitent
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have not supreme sorrow, yet he must be genuinely sorry
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and is obligated to confess all grave sins. If he
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deceives the priest, then all of the priests ores the
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words of absolution and good faith. God does not apply
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the effects of those words to the soul. A Catholic
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goes to confession when he wants his sins forgiven. He
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knows that if he merely pretends sorrow or deceives the
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priest and in serious matters, not only are none of
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his sins forgiven, but he goes away with the additional
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mortal sin of sacrilege. He does not go to confession
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for the sheer joy of adding to his sins. If
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he is not sorry and does not intend to make
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genuine confession. He just stays away and goes on with
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his sins. Only when sincerely desirous of receiving God's grace
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does he present himself in the confessional. He is not
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so foolish as to go through the farce you suggest.
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And the person asks that a priest can absolve only
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certain sins in only certain conditions, and they say yes.
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The penitent must tell fully and sincerely all his serious sins.
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He must be truly sorry for having committed them, to
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try to avoid them in the future, and promise to
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make and make good any injury to others by defamation
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of character or theft of money and goods. And he asks,
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do not Catholic sin because you know they can get
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absolution and confession. And the answered does a man break
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his leg because he knows the doctor can set it.
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Catholics regard sin is a very great evil, and no
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Catholic thinks he is morally free to continue to commit
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any sin, whether or without confession. If he does commit sin,
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he knows that he can get it forgiven, provided he
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repents and determines to try to serve God for the future.
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Above all, he knows that confession gives him no permission
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at all to commit the same sin again, and if
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he has the intention of doing so, he knows that
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the absolution is non void. Might I ask whether Protestants
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can sin because they know they can get forgiveness without confession,
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or is there no forgiveness for Protestants? All right, we
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got to at least an a page or two of
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questions and answers on tenants on confession. I'll hold off
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on it. I want to get on to matrimony, because
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you know that's been the purpose of these last I
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guess this will be the third in the series, and
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people have really enjoyed it. I've gotten some good feedback
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on this one. Remember to Catholic Church alone forbids divorce.
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The Catholic Church literally holds matrimony in a regard, views
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it in a light that no other Christian Church or
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non Christian religion on earth does. Matrimony in the Catholic
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understanding is absolutely unique.
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Speaker 1: To the Catholic Church.
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Speaker 2: So one of the topic of the duties of the
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married fathers, Brago says, the following are the duties incumbent
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on married persons. It is the duty of the wife
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to obey her husband. As the man who's to the
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family and representative of God, the man is superior to
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That man is superior to woman, is shown by the
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fact that he was created first and the woman was
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only created of his flesh and as a helper for him.
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For Corinthians eleven nine. The man being the head of
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the family, the woman is subservient to him, as the
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members of the body are to the head. The apostle says,
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the church is subject to Christ, so also let the
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wife to the husband in all things Ephesians five twenty four.
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The woman is commanded to cover her head in church
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to indicate that she is under the dominion of the man,
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whereas the man uncovers his head because there is no
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one over him but God first. Corinthians eleven ten. Yes,
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veiling is a beautiful tradition. We really need to get
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back to it sometimes in church now especially it was
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like a Polish family. You know, you'll see the girls
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whereing veils. It's about it. We really need to get
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back to that tradition. The wife ought to fear her
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husband Ephesians five thirty three. That has shown him the
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deference due him. After the fall, God ordained that the
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woman should be under her husband's power and should yield
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him obedience Genesis three sixteen, because Eve lusted after power
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and ate the apple first. The husband therefore has every
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right to rule his wife, but he ought to rule
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with kindness, gentleness, and leniency, for she is, in one sense,
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his equal, having been made out of the flesh taken
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from his side. Therefore, saying Ambrose bids the husband remember
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that his wife is not to be treated as a servant,
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that he must not make his authority felt to be
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a burden. Besides, the woman being weak or can claim
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to be gently treated First Peter three seven. It is
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more shame for the man than for the woman if
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he resorts to blows to enforce his authority. As representative
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of God, the husband has the right of controlling the household.
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The angel did not appear to marry but to Joseph
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when the flight to Egypt was made. Because the husband's
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duty is to rule and govern, the husband and wife
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owe each other love, fidelity, and mutual aid in all
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circumstances in their life. Husbands ought to love their wives
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as Christ loves the church. Ephesians five twenty five as
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their own bodies five twenty eight as themselves five thirty three.
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The love of husband and wife ought not to be
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a purely natural love like that at the lower animals,
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nor a purely human love like that of the heathen,
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but a holy and supernatural affection like that of Christ
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for the Church, and the Church for Christ. Hence they
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ought to each. They ought each to bear with the
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infirmities of each other patiently and indulgently, or generously close
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their eyes to them. An example of this was given
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by the Greek philosophy or Socrates, whose wife was a
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perfect virago virago vrgo apparently means hot tempered I don't know, says.
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When she stormed at him, he took no more notice
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of it than the rattling of a passing vehicle. One day,
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when he was seated before the house with his scholars.
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From a window above, she raided him soundly, and finally
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threw a jug of water over him. Socrates rose and
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changed his place, remarking with a smile. I might have
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known that the storm would have ended with a thundershower.
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The wife would influence her husband for good far more
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effectually by silence, meekness, and prayer than by reproaches. Saint
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Augustine tells us that his mother did more for the
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conversion of her husband, Patricius by the saintliness of her
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life than by her words. Decisions between husband and wife
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ruined their happiness. Without peace at home, nothing pleases, even
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amid all the luxuries wealth can command married people of
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fidelity to one another Hebrews thirteen to four. They ought
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scrupulously to guard against every appearance of unfaithfulness and to
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avoid familiar intercourse with the persons of the other sex.
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For where jealousy enters, all conjugal happiness is at an end.
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Saint John Christosmos of the opinion that the direst poverty,
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the most incurable malady, fire, even and sword are lesser
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evils than jealousy. The Jews used to stone the unfaithful
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husband or wife, where they considered adultery no less heinous
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crime than murder Leviticus twenty ten. Saint Paul declares everlasting
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damnation to the portion of adulters Ephesians five five. The
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marriad must not defraud one another of their conjugal rights
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for Corinthians seven one through five, but they must substain
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from excess inconsistent with the sanctity of their state. Tobias
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six or Tobit I should say Tobit six seventeen, and
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only keep in view the object indicated by the Angel
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to Tobias in five twenty two. Otherwise the devil will
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prevail over them five sixteen. To the duty of mutual aid,
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it appertains that husband and wife should live together. Neither
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the one or the others should avail himself or herself
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if contrarities or calamities overtake them of any pretext to
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leave the other. They are bound to assist each other
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in the training of the children, to sucker each other
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in illness, to aid each other, to bear more easily
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the ills of life, and to perform their religious duties
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with greater facility. Eve was created for the sole purpose
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of helping Adam. For God said, it is not good
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for a man to be alone. Let us make him
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a helpmate or a help like unto himself Genesis two eighteen.
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It is, however, a sad misfortune when the wife is
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not a support but across to her husband, when instead
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of lightning his burdens, she only addswer to their weight.
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Almighty God declares that a really good woman is a
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treasure of an estimable price Proverbs thirty one ten, far
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above the most costly jewels. Jewels serve to adorn their owner,
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and that which is to him a brilliant ornament in
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the day of prosperity is to him in adverse city
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at timely aid. So a good wife is in herself,
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as sorts of riches, a valuable jewel which retains its
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worth amid the vicissitudes of life. It isn't a shame
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people don't talk like this anymore. I mean eighteen nineties
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this was just the way people talked vicissitudes of life. No,
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we don't talk that way anymore, and it is a shame. Actually, yes,
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I could go on on that topic. I will hold
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my tongue for now because I want to get through
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this one today.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: It is the duty of both husband and wife to
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provide for their children, and are trained there and the
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fear and love of God. Children are no more of
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the property their parents than riches. Are their gifts from
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God psalms. I don't even know what number that is.
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They are His creatures, destined to be happy with Him forever.
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They are the children of their Father in heaven, and
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are only given in trust by him to their parents
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to be brought up in his service. Thus, parents are
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only servants, bound to carry out the will of God
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and guard to their offspring. The duties which parents have
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discharge or their children. Of these, they have to safeguard
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them from everything which would be presidential to their health.
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They have to supply them with their daily sustenance. They
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also have to provide for their future. It is the
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duty of parents to deny themselves everything which might prove
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injurious to the health.
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Speaker 1: Of their children.
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Speaker 2: They must refrain from giving way to their passions or
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indulging in excesses, lest they transmit a heritage of disease
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or sin to their offspring. Like father, like child. The
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proverb says, parents ought not to give themselves up to
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the pursuit of pleasure and amusement, to the neglect of
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their young children. Let them remember how to stress married
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in Joseph, or over the child Jesus was lost, how
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for three days they sought him sorrowing Luke two forty eight.
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Let them learn a lesson from the birds. They do
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not leave the nests until they are young, are fully fledged,
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they are indefatigable. In supplying them with food, they teach
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them to fly. The parents ought to work for their
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daily bread of their family. Even wild beasts tape the
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utmost scare of their young. Yet some parents are, as
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the Holy scriptures say, cruel, as the ostrich in the
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desert Lamentations four three, which lays her eggs in the
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sand and heeds them no more. Children ought not to
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lay up for the parents, but the parents for the
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children Tewod Corinthians twelve fourteen. They ought to provide for
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their children's future by laying a certain amount of money
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to bequeath to them, by sending them to school, by
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fitting them to follow the calling most in accordance with
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their inclinations and capabilities. Above all, by training them in
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fear of God, which is the surest means of promoting
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their temporal as well as their spiritual welfare. Have you
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noticed all this is foreign to our modern culture, all
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of this, every bit of it, I mean, every single
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bit of it. Yes, there's a reason for that. David declares,
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I have been young, and now I am old, and
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I have no seeing the just forsaken, nor his seed
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begging bread Psalm's thirty six twenty five. Finally, it is
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the bound and duty of parents to pray for their children,
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and thus to call down on them the blessings of God.
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Job offered Holocaust daily for every one of his children,
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less perchance they should have sinned against God. Job One,
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Saint Monica prayed fervently for her son and with the
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happiest results. Parents, says Saint Francis to Seo, ought often
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to speak of God to their children, but get more
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often to speak to God of their children in bringing
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to the In regard to the bringing up of their children,
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is the duty of parents to have them baptized immediately
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after birth, immediately to give them their first religious teaching,
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to set them a good example in all respects, and
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to treat them with kindness rather than severity. Saint Charles
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Borromeo says that trained children's mean children means bringing them
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to Christ. Parents ought to have their new born baptized
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as soon as possible. To defer baptism for more than
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ten days after the birth of a child without.
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Speaker 1: Good reason is a sin.
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Speaker 2: Did you know that?
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Speaker 1: Yes?
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Speaker 2: It is a major mortal sin not to have your
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child baptized within the first ten days of birth unless
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you cannot do it otherwise. That really needs to be
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spoken in every parish frequently.
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Speaker 1: This is the serious stuff. They ought to.
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Speaker 2: Instruct their children early in the fundamental truths of religion,
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to teach them that there is a God in heaven,
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that he knows and sees everything, and if we obey him,
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he would take us to himself in heaven, etc.
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Speaker 1: They should be.
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Speaker 2: They should beware of frightening their children by threats of
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hell and the devil unless they inspire them with repulsion
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for religion. Another interesting point, huh. Also of allowing them
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to imbibe false ideas for later on and they final
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they had been deluded, they would not believe in anything.
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I don't think Santa Claus falls into that category. By
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the way, I think it's okay to tell your kids
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there's a Santa Claus. After all, he is based on
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a saint and let kids speak kids. That's my opinion.
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Parents must instruct their children the law of God as
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Tobias did. He taught his son from his infancy to
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fear God and to abstain from sin. Tobad one ten
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and when he thought his death was near, he gave
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him godly admonitions tobat four.
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Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, just four, I don't know.
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Speaker 2: They should endeavor to stifle evil propenthzees their children and
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bring them up in the discipline and correction of the
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Lord Ephesians five to four. In other words, little Johnny,
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you can't be little Jill. They should teach them to pray,
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beginning with the sign of the Cross and the invocation
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of the Holy Name, and proceeding to the Our Father,
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the Hell, Mary, and the Creed. The children's daily prayer
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should be very short, so it's not to become wearisome
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to them. Furthermore, parents should set their children a good example.
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We all know how much more influential example is than precept,
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and that what is seen makes a far more lasting
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impression than what is heard. The actions of the father
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and the mother are the lesson books of the children.
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How careful should they therefore be not to let them
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see them do anything blameworthy, and also to warn the
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servants not to say or do anything in the presence
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of the children's which they ought not to see or hear.
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Eighteen ninety most people had help in their house, so
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we don't much have servants these days, which is a shame.
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It's a darn shame. I could really use a maid butler,
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I could use a chaw for yes, if anyone would
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like to bequeath that unto me, I should gladly accept.
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Speaker 1: Let parents remember our Lord's words.
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Speaker 2: He that shall scandalize one of the these little ones
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that believe in me, it were better for him than
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a millstone be hanged around his neck, and he should
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be drowned in the depths of the sea Matthew eighteen six.
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Those who neglect this warning will have reason to tremble,
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for if the soul of the child is lost for
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the parent's fault, they heal the voice of God saying
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I will require his blood of thy hand Ezekiel.
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Speaker 1: Three thirty three eight. I believe.
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Speaker 2: In training the children, parents should combine kindness and firmness.
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Too great severity is a fault for rebukes and punishment,
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or medicine, which, if administered too frequently into strong doses,
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does harm instead of good. It is not by incessant
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beating with the hammer that the goldsmith fashions the most
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elegant ornaments to be Always finding fault is a great mistake,
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but it is no less a one to let the
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children do wrong. The children's wrong doings pass unpunished, to
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pamper and to spoil them through irregulated affection and false kindness.
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He that spareth the God hateth his son Proverbs thirteen
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twenty four. Give thy son his way, and he will
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make thee afraid Ecclesiastes or ecclesiastic Uss maybe dobe Cyric
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three nine. To allow a child to have his own
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willing things is highly reprehensible. He should be firmly, not sternly, compelled,
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to yield, of all parenal duties. That of training the
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children and the fear of God is the most important.
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For on the manner in which it is discharged, the
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temporal and eternal happiness both the parents and children will depend.
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The education of their children ought to be for the
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parents a matter of such moment that nothing should grieve
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them so much as to see them turn out badly,
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or rejoice them so much as to see them walking
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the truth Tewod John one four. The religious training of
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the child devolves principally to the mother, as his earliest
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years spent at her knee. The father engaged in the
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occupations of his calling, his little time and less inclination
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for the work of instruction. The father and mother supplement
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each other. The father, by his position of command and
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force of character, represents the divine power of justice, and
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the mother, with her gentle kindness and tender love, represents
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the divine attributes of bounty and compassion. It is the
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part of the father to confirm with his parental authority
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what the mother teaches and to enforce the order she gives. So,
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I guess I should say this is actually really kind
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of foreign to me. My dad's not a good guy, Okay,
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I think he's on his fifth wife now. He was
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extremely abusive and extremely to the point that I have
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a brother and sister in heaven raised entirely by my mother,
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and my grandfather would have been a rate father figure,
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but he developed als and died when I was ten.
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I never actually had any example of a father in
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my life at all. So, you know, this is the
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broken state of our world, This is the broken state
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of the family.
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Speaker 1: What are you going to do?
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Speaker 2: This is one of the reasons that I wanted to
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read this book to you, so people can't understand the
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roles that God actually gives us and how we're supposed
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to do things. I know it's going to be tough
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for a lot of you to hear.
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Speaker 1: I mean the you know.
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Speaker 2: Wives being obedient to their husbands absolutely goes against feminism, right,
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being stern yet loving to your children. Most I mean
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I don't know about most. A lot of parents never
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had that example and don't understand how treating each other
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with respect. I mean, we grew up on you know,
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everybody loves Raymond and garbage like that, where the father
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is always like Homer Simpson, He's an idiot, right, and
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no one has any respect for dad. Right. This may
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almost seem like a fairy tale, but it's actually normal
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and natural, and we really got to get back to it.
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And of course, homosexuality is absolutely disordered. The Bible says
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that neither the homosexual nor the effeminate will enter the
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Kingdom of heaven. But we've normalized it, right, I mean, no,
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we got to get back to traditional trade. And by
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the way, I'm not talking about people with same sex attraction. Okay,
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that's a mental issue. I mean until recently it was
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even and then you know your DSM psychology books labeled
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a mental disorder. You're not judged for that. It's engaging
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in gay sex and the lifestyle. That's what the Bible
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absolutely says is forbidden and real quick way to go
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to hell. So we really need to get back to
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And of course the same is true for adultery, divorce.
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Jesus absolutely forbade divorce, and all four Gospels contraception, abortion.
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We could go down this road and it's absolutely the
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one hundred percent opposite from what our culture says is normal.
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Speaker 1: But this is the truth.
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Speaker 2: This is the truth that's taught by the Catholic Church,
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given the authority of God by Jesus Christ. When he said,
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those who hear you, hear me. Those who reject you
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rejected him who sent me. He said, what you bind
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on earth will be bound in heaven. What you loose
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on earth will be loosed in heaven. If a man
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would not listen to the Church, let him be into
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you as a pagan and a heathen. This is serious stuff. Nobody,
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no politician, no doctor can change the word of God.
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No philosopher, no novelist, no actor or actress can change
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the word of God.
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Speaker 1: So this is you know, it can.
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Speaker 2: Be hard for a lot of us to swallow, but
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it's what's right.
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Speaker 1: You know it's what's right. So where was it?
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Speaker 2: Um? Yes, father with gentle kindness. Yeah, it is the
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part okay, and the child. Yeah, I'll just pick up
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where I left off. Is the part of the father
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to confirm with his patriarchal, with his eternal authority, what
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the mother teaches and force the orders she gives. The
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future happiness of the child depends on the early training
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he receives. For as a rule, what he is in
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his youth that he is.
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Speaker 1: In his old age.
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Speaker 2: Just as out of a piece of soft rat wax,
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one may model an angel or a devil, so it
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is with the character of a young child. The first
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impressions are always the last, are always.
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Speaker 1: Lasting, most lasting.
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Speaker 2: They are never fully effaced from the soul, anymore than
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marks made in the bark of a young tree ever disappear,
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but they do widen with its growth in later years.
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The character cannot be molded afresh. As the sapling is bent,
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the tree is inclined. The land, if it is to
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yield a harvest and autumn, must be tilled in early spring,
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not left uncultivated until the summer. Sapling bent inclined. If
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you bend a young tree over it will grow in
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that direction.
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Speaker 1: That's what he means.
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Speaker 2: Can it be supposed that if the souls are neglected
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in childhood, these culprits are lost their parents, and their
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parents are not to blame for it. Consider old parents,
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what a responsibility rests upon your shoulders. Those who pay
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no heed the upbringing of their children are more culpable
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than those who are put who put them to death,
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for the latterally takes the life of the body, whereas
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the former causes the destruction of the soul. Some parents
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are a great pain to amass wealth to bequeath to
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their children, but they do not care in the least
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how they are brought up. A temporal and eternal happiness
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to the parent also depends in great measure on the
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training they give to their children. Those who bring them
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up badly are generally severely chastised by God in this world,
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and often is their own children who are their scourge.
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By that wherein they have sinned, by that, they are punished.
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King David, through an exaggerated fondness for his son Absalom,
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did not correct him for his faults, and in after
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years he had caused bitter cause bitterly to regret his
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weakness when Absalom rebelled against him Second Kings eighteen, and
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I would highly recommend you read.
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Speaker 1: Faulkner.
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Speaker 2: William Faulkner, Absalom excellent, excellent story, excellent. Faulkner was quite
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a hero for me Eli. The chief priest was too
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indulgent towards his wicked sons, and the chastisement foretold to
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him by God through the mouth of Samuel speedily overtook him.
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His two sons were slain in battle, and the old man,
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on hearing the sad title of Israel tidings of Israel's defeat,
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fell of his seat and died. First Kings for eighteen.
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Nor can neglect now, I can negligent parents expect to
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fare better in another world. For the apostle comparison to unbelievers,
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if any man have not care of his own, especially
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those of his health, he hath to deny the faith,
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and is worse than the infidel on Timothy five eight.
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On the other hand, are ritual wars promised here after
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those who have brought up their children well. The eternal
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felicity of a mother depends on the manner in which
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she has trained her offspring one Timothy two fifteen. The
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father of a son will not be sorrowful at the
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approach of death. Neither father of a good son will
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not be sorrowful with a proach of death. Neither will
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he be confounded before his enemies. Ecclesiasts to cuss I
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think thirty five. I never can tell the difference Father
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Sprago is saying Ecclesiastes or Ecclesiasticus one is now called sirac.
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I always get confused. Good parents who have conscientiously fulfilled
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their duties, when they appear before God be able to say,
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behold those whom thou gavest me, I have kept, and
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none of them is lost. John seventeen, Yes, seventeen twelve.
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Now probably a little bit more controversial if we could
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even suggest that eighteen nineties Catholic Church really frowned upon
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mixed marriages. And I don't mean mixed race. I mean
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in the marriage of a Catholic to a non Catholic.
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Speaker 1: These days.
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Speaker 2: People don't really think about it that much anymore. They
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really ought to. This is actually very important. Mixed marriages,
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by which we understand the marriage of Catholics and non
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Catholics have always been disapproved of by the Church. One
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because in such marriages the proper training of the children
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as a matter of great difficulty, if not altogether impossible.
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Two because such unions are productive of no concord, no
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true happiness. Three because the Catholic is in great danger
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of losing his or her faith. And four besides, the
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non Catholic may at any time obtain a divorce, leave
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his or her Catholic partner, and contract another marriage. Yes,
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very important. Even in the Old Testament, mixed marriages were prohibited.
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The Jews were not permitted to make marriages with the
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Canaanites Deuteronomy seven to three, nor with the Samaritans. All
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they kept, although they kept the Law of God and
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had the Books of Moses, because of the heathen ceremonies
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they observed. In like manner of the present day, the
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Church discourages the marriage of Catholics to non Catholics, who,
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though they call themselves a Christian, hold doctrines which are
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at variance with the teaching of the of Christ. The
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Church warns her children against such alliances, just as a
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loving father might warn his son against undertaking some journey
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which he knowew exposed into great perils. In early times,
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parents who gave their daughter in marriage to a heretic
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were subject subject to five years penance. The dangers attended
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on mixed marriage or these at the non Catholic party,
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whether a Protestant or non Christian, far from assisting in
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the education of the children, would be an obstacle to it.
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And when we're talking religious education, we're not teach them
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to read and do math. I mean, you know, I
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should go without saying, but you know how many people
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even think of a religious education these days and will
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perhaps throw scorn and ridicule on the Catholic faith in practice.
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Give you an excellent example, Michael Savage, conservative talk radio host.
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One Catholic parent, one Jewish parent. Even though the parents
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promised to raise him as a Catholic, he was raised
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as a basically agnostic Jew. I don't know what he
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is now, but that's not uncommon at all. And even
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if this was not the case, example of an unbelieving
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parent will have the worst consequences for the children, and
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not unfrequently it happens that the non Catholic, urged by
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the ministers of his religion or his relatives who represent
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that it will be prejudicial to their temporal interests. If
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his children are brought up as Catholics, yield their persuasion
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and apart from his promise that they should be so
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brought up up, and what becomes of the children if
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their Catholic parent dies and the other espouses a member
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of his own religion. A Catholic cannot do his children
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a more cruel wrong than by marrying one who is
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not of his own religion. Moreover, true happiness can hardly
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exist in such marriages where there is not a union
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of the most important of all matters. Heartfelt affection and
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confidence between husband and wife are scarcely possible if they
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differ on a point which is all important, namely religion.
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Mixed marriages are moreover fraught with no slight danger to
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the salvation of those who contract them. The wise and
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enlightened King Solomon took for himself heathen wives in his
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old age, and they prevailed over him so far that
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from a worshiper of the true God, he became an idolager,
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and allowed temples of the false God to be erected
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in his kingdom. The influence of heretics who call themselves
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Christian is often far more perilous than that of open unbelieving.
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Speaker 1: I agree completely.
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Speaker 2: If reading heretical books is apt to mislead, how much
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more is the continual and close contact with heretics to
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be dreaded. Besides, we are far more ready to adopt
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the opinions of one to whom we are attached, for
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we are blinded by affections. The Holy Father declares that
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mixed marriages have the effect of obliterating the distinction between
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truth and error, and fostering the idea that all religions
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are equally good. Furthermore, mixed marriages are most unfair for
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the Catholic party. The non Catholic may at any time
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obtain a divorce and marry again, whereas the Catholic is
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bound not to take a second partner for as long
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as the former lives. What an equivocal position is that
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of the divorce woman. She is married and yet has
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no husband. She has the mortification of seeing her rightful
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husband with another wife. She is condemned to live a
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lonely life, looking down upon, perhaps by the world, looking
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down upon, looked down upon. There I got the wrong suffix,
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and worst of all, to be separated from some if
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not all of her children, well, then may the Church
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exhort the Christian people to be aware of entering into
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matrimony with those who are aliens to the faith they hold.
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The Church tolerates some mixed marriages on three conditions. One,
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both parties must promise that their children shall be brought
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up as Catholics. Two the Catholic and yeah, good luck
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on that, Good luck on that. I was engaged to
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a very beautiful, very wonderful Presbyterian girl who said she
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might convert to Catholicism, but certainly the children, our children
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would be Catholic, because she thought she should obey her husband.
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She was brought up fairly traditional, and when we got
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down to it, she said absolutely not. Her children would
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be with her and her parents in the Presbyterian Church,
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and I could.
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Speaker 1: Go to Hell.
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Speaker 2: And that was I said, well, that's the end of
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our engagement, right, thank you.
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Speaker 1: That's how you regard me. You want me to go Hell? Okay.
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Speaker 2: The Catholic most promised to endeavor to bring the non
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Catholic to the knowledge of the truth. The non Catholic
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must promise to allow the Catholic liberty for the free
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exercise of his or her religion. Without these three conditions,
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the Church would not sank to a mixed marriage by
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tolerating or permitting mixed marriage. The Church does not approve
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of them. On the contrary, she strongly disapproves of them,
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and she is so forcibly on the children being brought
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up in the Catholic face, because this is the main
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object of matrimony. It has already been shown that the
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chief end of marriage is to train up the children
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in knowledge and fear of God. The name of the
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Christian parents should be should rather be to leap behind
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him in errors of the Kingdom of Heaven than heirs
37:47
of his earthly possession. Consequently, it is the first duty
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of a Catholic who has wedded one who does not
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hold the faith, to ensure his child's salvation in as
37:57
far as he can. How deeply is that parent to
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be commiserated who destroys the soul of her offspring by
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allowing the poison of error to be instilled into its mind.
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Remember I mean eighteen nineties, the Catholic Church didn't equivocate.
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There's true Christianity, which is Catholicism. Protestism is heresying faults.
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Speaker 1: The Church was not.
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Speaker 2: As ecumenical then as it is now, and frankly, there
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are a lot of logical problems with the ecumenism that
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we engage in these days. If you believe there's one truth,
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you can't believe that fifty thousand Protestant denominations that each
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believe something different from the other, have anything in relation
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to the truth.
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Speaker 1: Anyway.
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Speaker 2: When the first glamour of an ill regulated affection fades
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away and the conscious again, conscience again makes its voice,
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for the path of wedded life is beset with thorns.
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The birth of the first child, which ought to be
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an occasion of glad rejoicing, as a source of anxiety
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to the mother, for she feels fears that it would
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be taught to regard the truth faith with hostility. How
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her conscience reproaches her and each successive child, which ought
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to be welcomed as a blessing from the hand of God,
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as a fresh accuser, calling to mind her treachery. The
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Catholic party is also bound to bring the non Catholic
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to the knowledge of the truth, not by coercion or persuasion,
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for prosite proselytizing only adds to the number of nominal Catholics,
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not to the loyal children of the church, and is
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abhorrent to the Catholic Church, who only desires the erring
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to be brought into her fold for their own free
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will and through full conviction.
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Speaker 1: Now that's hard, isn't it.
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Speaker 2: You know me, I'm irish, I'm gonna argue and uh yeah,
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the church which actually doesn't want us to win people
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over that way. Let them be one by prayer and
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good example. Let the unbelieving husband be one by the
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cot conversation of the wife verse Peter three one. If
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the Catholic wife has seemed to be modest, yielding, patient, faithful, etc.
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The non Catholic husband would be led to reflect and
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consider whether he may not judge the tree bite fruits.
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Speaker 1: I would say that.
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Speaker 2: Does not often happen the other way around. Women tend
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to believe they are right and the man is wrong,
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no matter what. So if you're a Catholic husband and
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you marry a Protestant wife, good luck get her to convert.
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Speaker 1: At any rate.
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Speaker 2: He will grandly to divest himself of his former presencies
40:44
against our holy religion. But he must not be pressed
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with arguments and instructions, but rather every word should be
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carefully avoided that might wound his susceptibilities. For those who
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are outside the church are not to blame because they
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have not had the privilege of being born and brought
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up in the true faith. Furthermore, the Catholic party must
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fearlessly observe his own her religious duties. The other will
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respect such observists. Good luck on that too. Listen, honey,
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we're not eating meat on Fridays. We're gonna have fish
41:15
or vegetables. M h Every Friday, She's gonna me making
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hamburgers and grilling steaks.
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Speaker 1: I guarantee it.
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Speaker 2: A man who is not devoid of the other will
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respect such observance. Oh no, A man who has not
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devoid of good feeling will have no wish to oppose
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the pious practices of his wife. He will maybe not
41:37
the other way around. He will know himself to be
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a gain or not a loser by them. Sometimes Protestants
41:43
assert that they agree with Catholics on the fundamental truths
41:46
of religion, only different on the non essentials. This is
41:50
utterly false, and yes, it is so utterly false. What
41:53
the Catholic holds most sacred, the Protestant despises witness the
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holy sacrifice of the Mass, which Protestants regard as an
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act of idolatrous worship. In the face of differences so
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deep rooted, all idea of unity is a mockery. The
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Catholic who contracts a mixed marriage without the benediction of
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the Church commits a mortal sin and cannot be admitted
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to the sacraments.
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Speaker 1: Did you know that? Do you know?
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Speaker 2: If you marry that Protestant without the Church's permission, you've
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excommunicated yourself de facto. Catholics who act thus are declared
42:29
to be guilty of a mortal sin because they send
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through disobedience. By refusing to conform the precepts of the Church,
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they give great scandal and deny the faith. They turn
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their back upon the sacraments of the True Church and
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receive the rites of a heretical sect. A heretical sect,
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all churches are not equal. Thus they give the preference
42:51
to a false church, or at least they allow its
42:53
equality with the true one. They cannot be readmitted to
42:56
the sacraments unless they manifest sincere contrition on account of
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their sinful union and are ready to comply with the
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requirements of the church. Many a one takes a just
43:06
vow of his conduct on his deathbed. Conscience often slumbers
43:10
like a volcano which, for long years shows no signs
43:13
of activity, then suddenly bursts into a flame. That flowery
43:18
language again. You gotta love it. So conscience awakens at last,
43:21
and the unhappy soul is consumed by the flames of
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remorse and despair. No one who firmly believes the Catholic
43:28
to be the only true and saving faith will be
43:31
content to see as children brought up in a soul
43:33
destroying error. And it may be safely affirmed that in
43:38
the majority of cases, those who contract mixed marriages sooner
43:41
or later heartily regret the state they have taken. Step
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they have taken. Now, now we're going to discuss I
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think this is actually gonna wrap it up. Yes, the
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unmarried state, my state, my despised state. Like I said,
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all I ever went was to get married and have kids.
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You know, it's all ever won in life. From the
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earliest age, I wanted to be an husband and a father.
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I was never like old girls are yucky, you know,
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five years old, I was like, you know, I want
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to get married and have kids.
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Speaker 1: That was always me. That's the one thing I've never
44:16
been able to do.
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Speaker 2: So the unmarried state is better than the married because
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those who do not marry have far more opportunity for
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attending to their spiritual welfare and can attain a higher
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degree of glory hereafter. Yeah, sorry, I have not. If
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you enter into religious life, you've become a priest, amock
44:38
and none. Sure, yeah, I should not disparage the unmarried,
44:50
non religious state, if that's God's will. But to me,
44:53
it just seems like a very sad period on the
44:56
end of a sentence that was all your ancestors that
44:59
came before for you, that gave you life, and you
45:02
just ended the chapter and without any fanfare, without any
45:09
great accomplishment. Maybe that's just me and God willing. Maybe
45:14
someday I'll meet the right lady who knows. But I
45:17
don't find it in any way worthwhile.
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
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Speaker 2: I know the church says that the unmarried state is
45:28
actually preferable. I don't find it in any way redeeming,
45:32
worthwhile or good at all. And I know I got
45:35
to get my mind right on that, but you know,
45:38
I'm just not there. My heart says I want to
45:40
have a wife and kids. My brain says I want
45:44
to have a wife and kids. My body says I
45:47
want to have a wife and kids. There is nothing
45:50
in me that wants to be single, never has I
45:55
don't know if.
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Speaker 1: It ever will be.
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Speaker 2: I have. I've had a need for family since I
46:03
was born. Probably because of the circumstances of my family.
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Speaker 1: I did not choose this life.
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Speaker 2: So Fathers Roger says it is better and more blessed
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to remain in virginity or in celibacy to be united
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in matrimony. The state of virginity surpasses the married state
46:23
and excellence as much as angels surpass men. It is
46:28
as far above matrimony as the heavens are above the earth.
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It is as much superior to the soul as to
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the body. Marriage is honorable, but virginity is far more honorable.
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Such as the opinion of the Fathers, the Heathen entertained
46:42
a great respect for those who voluntarily embrace the life
46:45
of celibacy and chastity. I think the keyword with there
46:49
would be voluntarily.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Well, let's just say I've fallen in many regards in
46:56
that way, both voluntarily and on the virginity part the
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witness the reverence shown by the Romans for vestual versions. Okay,
47:05
so I wasn't a good teenager.
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Speaker 1: I'll just put it that way. We'll leave it there.
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Speaker 2: The richer and nobler the bridegroom, the more of the
47:13
bride is congratulated upon her espousal. How much more the
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more ought those be deemed happy, who, by the practice
47:22
of chastity, have chosen the Christ for their spouse and
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for his sake, like Saint Agnes of old, despised every
47:30
earthly suitor. However wealthy and powerful, the unmarried are more
47:34
free to study the concerns of their soul. Saint Paul says,
47:38
he that is without a wife is solicitous of how
47:41
he may please God. But he that is with a
47:44
wife is solicitous of how he may please his wife,
47:46
and he is divided. Frankly, most married Catholic couples I
47:51
see attend church more often, seem much more interested in
47:55
the things of God. But hey, you know again, I'm
47:59
probably first Corinthians seven thirty two through thirty four. The
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unmarried also can attain to a higher degree of glory.
48:08
Saint John beheld a multitude before the throne, who sang
48:11
a new canicle that no man could say but those
48:15
one hundred and forty four thousand souls, for they were virgins.
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All right.
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Speaker 1: Well, I missed out on that one too.
48:22
Speaker 2: Our Lord, when the come when on earth, commended the
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state of virginity both by precept and example. Our Lord
48:29
said that there are some who arenounce matrimony for the
48:31
kingdom of Heaven's sake, adding he that can take, let
48:35
him take it. Now, I can't take it. But anyway,
48:39
that's Matthew nineteen twelve. Saint Paul's has said, he that
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giveth his daughter in marriage doth well, But he that
48:46
giveth her not doth better. Uh First Corinthians seven thirty eight.
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And I can't speak of widows more blessed shall she
48:54
be if she should so remain.
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Speaker 1: You apossible?
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Speaker 2: Did not mar and many of the saints took vows
49:01
of perpetual virginity. Of this was the greatest example was
49:05
given of the blessed Mother of God, as we learned
49:08
from her own words to.
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Speaker 1: The angel Luke one thirty four.
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Speaker 2: It is also the opinions of the fathers that Saint
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Joseph did the same.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so.
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Speaker 2: A lot of church history indicate that Saint Joseph was
49:24
a widower. He had a family, his wife died, his
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children were grown blessed virgin Mary.
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Speaker 1: Had taken a vow of.
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Speaker 2: Chastity at that time. You know, she had to be
49:39
married to be cared for it, provided for it. Nobody
49:42
was going to pay her way in life, and there
49:45
was no work for women to do. So he had
49:48
then taken a val of chastity and married her.
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Speaker 1: She was about fourteen. He was probably in his fifties.
49:54
Speaker 2: And yeah, as far as taking a vow of perpetual virginity, know,
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probably not on that case, not if he had a
50:02
family with children, But taking a vow of chastity after
50:06
the fact, yes, he almost certainly did. Some of the saints,
50:11
especially in the early ages of the church, endured the
50:14
most agonizing tortures and a cruel death rather than break
50:17
their veil of virginity. It is related to Saint Hilary,
50:20
bishop of what was at Poitier, who before he received
50:24
his Holy Orders, had been married and had a daughter
50:26
that while he was in exile, he received a letter
50:29
from his daughter telling him she was grown up and
50:31
was about to be married. He wrote an answer to
50:34
say that he was soon returning home and would bring
50:37
a portrait of another suitor. She should compare the two
50:41
and choose between them. On his arrival, he gave her
50:44
a crucifix and exhorted her to consecrate herself to Christ
50:47
by a vow of virginity. This she did shortly after
50:51
she died a holy death. Just before she expired, her
50:54
father said to her, behold your celestial spouse. He has
50:58
come to take you to your eternal nuptials. In the
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pages of Hagiology, we read of many saints who, all
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they're married, have a life of chastity.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, this is a very foreign concept to me.
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It's it's it's a very.
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Speaker 2: Difficult concept for me. Uh, it's in extreme opposition to
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my nature. I'll just put it that way. But I'm trying.
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Speaker 1: We all try. Most of us fail.
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Speaker 2: But I can tell you there there just doesn't seem
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to be a whole lot of.
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Speaker 1: Virtue and loneliness at all. Maybe it's penance. Hey, maybe
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it's penance. We'll go with that, all right, y'all have
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a great week.
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Speaker 2: We have finally finished the seven sacraments. Next week we're
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going to get into Sacramento. Another very uniquely Catholic practice
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and concept and idea and whatever you want to call it.
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Have a wonderful week, Tuck in. The weather's gonna be
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awful this weekend. We're getting like five and a half
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inches of snow, thirty to fifty miles prier winds. You know,
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if you don't hear from me next week, it's because
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I don't have power. But say a prayer for all
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of us, and I'll say a prayer for all of you,
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and I'll
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Speaker 1: Talk to y'all next time.