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Episode 52 Navigating Your First Performance Review – How To Prepare And Use Feedback · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

• 1:17
  Hey, hey, welcome back to Hot Takes with the Murph man.
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  I am the Murph man. I'm here with my Co host Connor.
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  How are we doing today, Connor? We I'm doing good, Murph, man,
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  how are you doing today? Not so good.
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  Why do you say that? U tip got their ass kicked last
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  night. Yeah, they did.
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  Oh my God. You know, there was ESPN was
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  talking about who has it harder, EU tip or the Sam Houston team
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  with coaches and they're like, well, no, you too beat Sam
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  Houston. So that's an obvious one.
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  That's the only thing we beat. Huh.
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  It's sad. It's sad that you have to go
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  back to just that one. One win, right?
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  And then next week we go against the Texans.
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  Not Texans. No Texas.
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  Or Texas, The Longhorns, Yeah. And then Texas, when you play
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  Michigan after that, you're telling me you're playing, we're
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  playing well, you because it's your school, Oklahoma, Texas.
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  And then Michigan. Hold on, something's not right.
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  Yeah, your brain's right. Was it a different year?
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  Yeah, it was another year, dude. Oh dude, I like just hold on
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  take on Instagram that's why. My bad.
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  I was like, we don't play Texas. No, you don't.
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  Not this year. Are you kidding?
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  Playing Oklahoma, Michigan and Texas all in one year.
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  No, we play Michigan the 19th, so in two weeks.
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  OK, So will you play next week? Texas Southern.
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  Texas Southern TSU Well, I think this is going to be a pretty
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  good game. What do you think?
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  Is that home or away? This one should be home, yeah.
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  Should be, yeah. Well, I think it might be
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  actually. 00 that's for next year.
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  That's what I saw. I didn't see they joined 27.
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  They played Texas next year. Next year.
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  Next year on the 11th. So you play Michigan and then
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  Texas? No, that's that's Texas
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  schedule. Oh, that's Texas's schedule?
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  Yeah, OK. That's what it was.
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  I didn't see the 2027 but yeah, yeesh, we're going to lose.
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  So you are playing Texas. Texas just next year.
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  Yeah. All right.
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  Well, welcome to everyone who's listening today.
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  We're here live on military broadcast radio.
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  You can find us on Roku, and you can also find us at all our
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  well at the MBR Roku channel. So that's something you want to
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  watch. Come on in and watch us.
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  We'd love to talk to you so you get ready to get the show
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  started to think Hunter. Yes, Sir.
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  All right, let's ignite that fuse.
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  In today's episode, we are navigating your first
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  performance review, exploring how to prepare, receive feedback
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  with grace and use it to level up your career.
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  Navigating your first performance review,
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  Understanding the stakes and the process of your inaugural
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  evaluation to set a professional tone.
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  Preparing with data and accomplishments.
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  Documenting your wins throughout the year to advocate effectively
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  for yourself. Receiving feedback and using it
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  to grow. Developing A mindset that treats
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  critique as actionable data for your career progression.
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  Connor, what are your initial thoughts on walking into that
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  first review room? You really had to add me into
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  there, huh? I did you.
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  Just had you had to. I did.
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  Personally, walking into the interview room, I'm terrified.
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  You're terrified. Yeah, it's my first one.
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  Well, you OK? It's sad, not right.
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  So what are you? What are your thoughts going
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  into a first performance interview?
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  Well, I mean not, I'm not nervous because I know I haven't
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  done anything wrong. I know I did.
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  They would tell me like on the spot, but if I had one over
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  there while I used to work I I would think it would be good.
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  Yeah, well then why don't you be the Khrushchev leader?
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  Yeah. Right.
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  So yeah, you know, yeah, I think, I think you'd have done
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  well in your first interview, but.
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  May you still get the nerves because it's.
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  Your of course, you know, even I get the nerves and it's my one
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  thousandth. I mean, you know, it's crazy if
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  you think about it. 19 years old to now is how long 4038?
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  OK. Four times a year, every three
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  months. And then, you know, sometimes
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  it's just at the end of the year, you know, depends on how
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  everyone does it at school. We do at the end of the year,
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  right? So it's one of those things that
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  you have to be ready for because you know it's coming.
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  And how do you end up prepared? Well, you look back on all your
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  things that you've done and if you've done well throughout the
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  semester, I mean the year, you'll get a pretty good review.
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  Now when you get a raise or not, that's based on budget and
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  everything. And I think everyone should get
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  a little bit of a raise. Yeah.
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  So the. Sorry.
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  Sorry, you need to focus, please.
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  Like what? What'd you do?
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  What did you do? I joined the live.
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  Oh, you joined it? Yeah.
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  OK, because. You were going to get on my butt
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  if I didn't. You know what are you going to
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  pay attention to the to the TikTok this this time?
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  Not as much, but I I'll try. You should have it on the screen
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  there. Well, I did, and you were like,
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  no, you distracted me. Awesome.
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  I hear my voice from another angle.
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  I'm like what? Well, yeah, 'cause.
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  Anyway, what I was saying was, you know, your performance, the
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  reviews coming up, be prepared for it.
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  It's OK to be scared and not guaranteed a, a raise, but you
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  have to be ready for that. OK.
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  So let's let's talk about that and let's talk about today's
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  burning question. Today's burning question
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  challenges you to identify the most important asset to bring to
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  your performance review. A A list of all your
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  accomplishments. BA List of your weaknesses.
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  CA list of all the things your manager did wrong.
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  DA list of all the projects you want to work on.
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  Connor, how do you think our listeners should weigh these
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  choices before stepping into the room?
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  All right, there they are. Connor, what is the most
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  important thing to bring to your performance review?
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  A list of all your accomplishments, A list of all
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  your weaknesses. A list of all the things your
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  manager did wrong. That's not right, right?
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  No. And then list of all the
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  projects you want to work on. It's obviously.
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  A It's obviously a you're going. To list all your accomplishments
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  and show your boss what you've done with your life.
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  Right, OK, performance reviews are interesting because you are
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  being corrected and no one likes to be corrected.
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  You've heard of criticism, right?
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  No one has to be told that being their job is being done bad.
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  But there are also people that don't like to be told they're
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  being good. Like I've told my boss several
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  times, you don't have to tell me I'm doing good because I know I
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  did a good job. When I mess up, tell me don't,
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  don't wait. Don't you know, fix it right
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  then and there and I will admit whatever I need to admit right
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  then you can move on at a perm performance review.
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  Like I went to that performance review with that guy that I hate
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  so much. He didn't even have it filled
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  out and all he did was just berate me for the 40 minutes I
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  was in there and then wrote did good on all my reviews.
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  And what a jerk, right? You did good.
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  Yeah, but I had to take it there from him and sit down and just
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  take it. And all the examples he was
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  giving me, I was fighting him on it because I'm hell no, no, no,
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  no, that's not right. And that's not right because I
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  had my list, OK. He would tell me things like,
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  what am I doing? And I would say here's what I've
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  done. And I told him that, you know, I
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  do things behind the scenes that you don't see.
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  And since I've left, I've been told by several people that the
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  atmosphere has changed because I kept things together even though
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  no one knew that. And my principal was amazing,
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  right? She knew what I did.
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  And, you know, she was with me every morning, out in the plate,
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  in the bus stop and everything. But you always have to be ready
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  for someone to be negative. And you also have to be ready to
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  accept all that. Right.
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  Yeah. Well, the performance review is
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  something people don't talk about because that's just
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  something you're expected to do, right?
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  No one's ever told you. Here are the things you need to
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  learn when you go into a performance interview.
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  It's all a life experience. And that's that's the whole
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  reason I created this podcast was I don't believe in life
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  experience being it should be taught.
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  OK, there's some things that need to be taught, like changing
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  a tire. Well, yeah.
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  OK, now I will tell you this. One day you got a flat tire.
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  Yeah. And you call me and you're like,
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  I can't do this. Hold on.
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  And I said, what do you mean? You know how to change a tire?
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  And he said, yeah, I do, but I don't have the tire iron.
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  I don't know why. It's not even in the car, Right.
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  I was like, damn. OK, I'll be right there.
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  Yeah. Yeah, not that I couldn't do it,
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  just I, I right. I literally couldn't, couldn't
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  do it. I had, I had the Jack, but I
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  didn't have the tire iron or red.
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  I had nothing. Now you did do one thing wrong.
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  You put the tire up before you loosen the bolts.
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  That's what you're supposed to do, No.
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  Yes. No.
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  You put the Jack up first anyways.
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  No. Yes.
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  You loose, loose. Loosen, loosen, loosen, Jack it
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  up, and then you can do it because otherwise your car is
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  going to be rotating your whole tire because there's nothing
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  holding it still like the ground.
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  Well, and then you tighten it up.
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  You lower it and then you tighten them up again.
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  Yeah. And then how many miles you have
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  to drive before you tighten them one more time.
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  I. Don't know 20. 425 OK, that is
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  something that people don't do and I'll give you a perfect
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  example of that. They were driving up real grand
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  and that car in front of us, the tire just rolled off.
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  Yeah. Either someone went in and
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  loosened all their lug nuts. That's pretty scary because that
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  could have happened on the freeway.
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  OK, yeah. But I think it took him a few
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  seconds to realize his tire was off because he kept driving a
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  little bit. You know, I, I, I don't know if
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  he tried pulling over to the side, I'm like, I would have
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  just stopped right where I was. Screw traffic, right?
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  But yeah, his front and left tire just went off at 30 miles
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  an hour. Well, actually it wasn't.
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  We have come in from a stop. So it wasn't even up to 30 miles
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  an hour. Luckily, that's probably why he
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  didn't crash. But what did?
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  What did you see? Connor let you tell the part
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  about the tire. We're driving and all I see, I
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  see a tire bouncing in front of us.
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  So like going above the windshield, like you can
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  literally break the windshield at any moment.
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  If I hadn't stopped, yes. No.
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  Well, yeah. Well, no.
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  I speed up because it was going downhill.
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  I well as it ran off the car, it was literally right in front of
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  us. I saw it happen.
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  I stopped. That's why it went.
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  I was driving. Then you stopped.
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  Yeah. OK, because I realized, oh,
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  there's a tire in front of us. Yeah.
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  But Utah, Utah, you, you talked, you thought you stopped because
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  you saw the tire. Yeah, because it almost hit us
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  because we, we didn't think, we didn't think of a tire, you
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  know, just falling off and bouncing.
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  We're just like, oh, that's a cold movie effect.
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  Like no. It was like a Roadrunner Acme
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  thing, right? Yeah, and then they went
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  downhill and almost hit a Camaro.
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  Mustang. Wasn't it a Mustang, white
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  Mustang? Or was it a white Camaro?
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  I think no it. Doesn't matter but it.
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  Was a black Camaro. Was was it?
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  This is a perfect example of witness testimony. 2 people see
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  the same thing, and we see and recall two different things.
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  Was it black? I swear it was.
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  It might have been I'm I'm not going to sit here and tell you
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  I'm right about. That we'll go back, we'll go see
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  that Carvey still there. Man, all that tire was crazy.
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  Yeah. So you always have to tie a new
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  tire, OK. And again, there is life skills
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  that you have to learn and another.
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  He tied it. The lug nuts are still on the.
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  Oh, that's right. The rim broke.
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  Not that. Like, that's right.
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  My bad. Yeah, I see.
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  I recall completely different. Damn.
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  OK. Yeah, the whole like, like
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  everything was still intact. It just fell off the whole like
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  actual yeah part of the car, the.
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  The rim holding the tire broke off of the axle.
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  But other things we have to learn, like when I was teaching
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  Connor to drive, he did not have a lot of experience and.
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  Obviously, if you teach me how to drive.
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  I'm saying, but yeah, we hadn't been driving a long time and
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  there's an on ramp that I hate. I tell Conor, avoid this on ramp
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  as much as you can. There's a couple here in El
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  Paso. I just tell him ignore him if
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  you can, like go past them on further lane.
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  But a car was coming in and there was space in front of us
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  and there was space behind us and this guy tried forcing
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  himself in on the spot. We were.
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  Connor looked left, saw the van there that he couldn't go.
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  Yeah, it was a black truck. And he?
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  Well, you called two different things.
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  Well, I wasn't really paying attention.
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  I was worried about the car. Yeah, but he didn't panic and he
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  kept his lane. And I've told him I said you
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  have to avoid an accident, right?
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  But if you get to the point where you can't.
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  Make sure you hit where it's injured.
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  Make sure you fix the part of the car.
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  Hit the car. No, that's not.
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  That's a joke, dude. If you have a part of the car
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  that's bad and you want to replace it, get a hit on that
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  side. But Connor kept driving.
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  Yeah, I just moved a little bit to my left.
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  And he did not panic. And I, I Oh, yeah.
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  OK. But I told you I was very proud
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  of you for the way you'd handle that.
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  OK. But you had just started
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  driving. Yeah.
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  But I'm going to ask you, why do you think you did so well in
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  driving? Because I could keep my cool.
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  Because I was teaching how to drive and be aware of stuff.
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  Your head's on the swivel. We've talked about this.
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  Yeah, I know it is. Like we're driving and he sees
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  stuff and I'm like, so proud of you because not everybody does
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  that. Yeah, like yesterday.
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  I'm at a stoplight truck. Oh, not a truck.
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  No cars on my right, a trucks on my left.
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  Sorry, I'm backwards. Trucks on my right, cars on my
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  left and we're at a stoplight and the turn lane is empty and a
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  fire truck passes us right and it's still a red light.
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  Then an ambulance comes and then I see the fire Marshall come.
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  I knew it was a fire Marshall when he passes.
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  I couldn't see him on far away. Anyway, the two cars started
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  driving and I honked the porn repeatedly and they both stopped
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  and then the fire Marshall was able to go through but I saw him
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  come in my rear mirror right. Yeah.
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  Where were they looking at? They didn't see his other third
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  car coming. You know, like everyone expects
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  the fire truck to ambulance. OK, we're good.
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  Was it like back-to-back? Yeah.
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  Oh, they. Were probably about 1015 seconds
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  apart at the most. Oh, then yeah, that's that's
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  why. But, well, the ambulance, the
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  fire truck went through on the red and then he went through the
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  green. And yeah, but you have to be
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  over your surroundings. And there's life skills that we
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  have to learn. And one of those life skills is
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  work and performance reviews. So let's talk about that a
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  little more. In today's Hot Take, we'll talk
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  about what I believe is something important to cover
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  today. Value is the only relevant
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  metric. If your manager doesn't remember
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  your accomplishments, it's not their failure, it's yours.
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  Making weekly progress tracking non negotiable value is the only
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  relevant metric. Your worth is defined by the
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  measurable results you deliver, not just effort.
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  Your manager for getting wins is your failure.
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  It is your responsibility to maintain visibility and ensure
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  your impact is documented. Weekly progress tracking makes
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  reviews a formality. By keeping a consistent record,
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  you remove ambiguity and anxiety from the evaluation process.
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  Connor, Are you ready to fan the flames on this one?
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  Is every single video about me? I was waiting for it.
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  I was thinking I'm like it better not say my name.
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  It better not say my name. You know I do this once in a
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  while. I dismissed with you are.
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  All of them. I'm pretty sure there's a lot of
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  them. Oh God.
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  OK, even the brakes. Oh.
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  But before we get to that, I I do want to say welcome to the
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  chat to Jessica and Cassie and God morning to you too.
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  You were rushing me. You were like, let's go do the
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  the, you know, burning question. I'm like, wait, let me respond.
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  What's better, not doing it or doing it wrong?
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  Doing it wrong. At least you can tell H Hey, I'm
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  paying attention to the chat. Anyway, going going back to our
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  to our slide here. Besides, this keyboard sucks.
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  It's too stiff to type. Value is the only real relevant
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  metric. Your manager doesn't remember
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  your accomplishments. That's your fault.
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  What do you think about that statement?
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  If they don't remember what you're doing, whose fault is it?
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  I mean neither. He has other people to worry
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  about. Exactly.
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  You only have to worry about yourself.
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  Yeah. So you need to be aware of what
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  you've done. Yeah.
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  I need to make sure he knows or she knows.
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  Not, not. Always, always.
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  We've been talking about this for the last couple weeks.
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  I'm still saying not always. Not everything needs to be
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  documented, yeah. No, not everything but your
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  wins, your good wins, You want to point that out.
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  What would you even count as a win that you would need to stop
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  your work and go to the boss and be like, guess what I did?
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  Let me think hey mom and dad, guess what I did?
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  Well, like they, they want us to reach out to students who are
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  fit, who are not interacting at school and not doing their work
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  and everything. And I told my boss, yes, we had
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  a meeting yesterday and I said, if there's one kid per class and
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  we have 40 teachers and they have five classes each, that
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  could be 200 kids easily just one kid per class.
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  And some classes have 250 students, some have 30, right?
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  So I, I told her, it's not that I don't want to do it, you know,
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  because I'll do my job, right, but I don't want to do it
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  personally. But I was like, that is a lot of
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  calls 200 kids. And it's like, well, let's talk
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  about that. Maybe you don't have to call
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  them. You can text them because we
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  have bulk texture. You can text, you know, 200 kids
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  at once, see who replies and if those who haven't replied, we
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  can call them, you know what I mean?
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  So there's there's a lot of things we can do with that, but
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  I'm going to get more into that when we come back from break.
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  OK, OK, so stay tuned. We return after these messages.
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  Everyone I'll say encounter about a person that unalived
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  himself made an announcement and everything.
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  Remember the football player and I don't know from how long it
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  took from that letter to him doing something or that post,
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  but unfortunately it didn't get to anyone in time.
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  You know, remember you guys there, there's always help out
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  there. 988 press one. You don't have to be a veteran.
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  Our military, it's the crisis line for anyone to call and get
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  help. All right, but back to what we
• 27:36
  were talking about, Connor, my boss was telling us you're going
• 27:40
  to do this new task, and I was bringing up problems with it.
• 27:44
  OK Do you think I'm a negative person?
• 27:51
  I know I can be. You.
• 27:53
  You could be, but most likely you're not.
• 27:57
  Not most likely, but regularly you're not.
• 27:59
  Right. But I, I tend to see problems as
• 28:01
  some people don't. Yeah, right now a different way
• 28:04
  of seeing things. I could agree with that.
• 28:07
  So, you know, I don't think she took it as a challenge because
• 28:11
  she says you're right, I thought the same thing, here's how we're
• 28:16
  going to fix it. So she already had an answer.
• 28:18
  Exactly. When you go with a problem to
• 28:20
  supervisor, you need to have a solution.
• 28:22
  Remember I told you that? Yeah.
• 28:25
  Not everyone does that. Because I said she wanted us to
• 28:29
  do it like we could. All three to the three, three
• 28:32
  team members could do it together or we could do it
• 28:36
  separately. And I'm like, there's no way we
• 28:38
  can do it separately. I can tell you that right now,
• 28:40
  OK? Well, how would you do it
• 28:41
  separately? Well, like you take 30, I take
• 28:43
  30 she takes you know what I mean?
• 28:45
  What would the group of 3B? Me and my 2 coworkers.
• 28:49
  And how much would you guys take?
• 28:51
  Depends on what the number is divided by three.
• 28:53
  If there's three, then we take one each.
• 28:54
  If there's thirty, we take 10 each.
• 28:55
  If there's 90, we take 3 or 30 each.
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  And it was just you guys. Yeah.
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  So then it was 200. Then we'll take 65.
• 29:07
  OK. And if it's individuals?
• 29:10
  Well. It'll still be the same.
• 29:11
  Yeah, we still have to do the 250, but do it by ourselves.
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  Well, you're going to do it by yourself anyways.
• 29:16
  You got to contact the kid by yourself if you got to go 1 by
• 29:20
  1. If it's doable, we can do it
• 29:23
  alone, but we'll we'll mostly do it as a team.
• 29:25
  Everything gloves together. But that's not the point of the
• 29:27
  story. The point of the story is I was
• 29:28
  bringing up to that's why. What do you mean it doesn't make
• 29:31
  sense? Can you call Twitter people in
• 29:33
  the day, Connor? Sean, that's in total, not just
• 29:38
  you. There's other people that do it.
• 29:41
  If I'm alone that week, it's my week.
• 29:44
  I do all tuned by myself. OK.
• 29:46
  And I said we can't do that, we have to split it by a team.
• 29:49
  But if there's a low number like 30, then I can do that or
• 29:52
  everyone else. Can you made it seem like all of
• 29:54
  you were there? Had to contact 200 students
• 29:57
  individually. Oh no, not 200 each. 200 total
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  and. Then I was like, no matter what
• 30:03
  team, the three are individual, you're going to split up into
• 30:05
  three anyways. Makes sense, right?
• 30:08
  That's why you OK? I see the confusion.
• 30:09
  But anyway, I had a boss I worked with who I like, but he
• 30:15
  didn't want me. He didn't think it was
• 30:17
  management material that I've told you after I left, three
• 30:19
  months later, he's offering me whatever money I wanted to come
• 30:21
  back. Right when I went to the job
• 30:25
  interview, the person interviewed me asked me how come
• 30:27
  I didn't put my boss as a reference.
• 30:29
  And I, I didn't think he'd give me a good reference.
• 30:32
  But what I told her is I said, oh, he's never available.
• 30:35
  You're not going to be able to get a hold of him.
• 30:36
  I have trouble getting home. And I work with him.
• 30:38
  He's like, oh, I have his cell. I'll call him at home tonight,
• 30:42
  right? And he said, oh, he's a pain in
• 30:47
  the butt. He questions everything.
• 30:51
  And then my, the she became my boss.
• 30:53
  And she says, but is he a good worker?
• 31:00
  And he said, yeah, and that's all she cares about.
• 31:04
  Now, the pain in the butt part, when an employee speaks up and
• 31:09
  challenges the manager or speaks up and challenges a position, we
• 31:14
  have to be careful with that because some people on the team
• 31:20
  don't say anything. They just do whatever and
• 31:23
  they're going to bitch about it on their own.
• 31:25
  Some people speak up, like myself, right?
• 31:29
  And it's always the same people that speak up.
• 31:32
  Not that we're wrong or anything.
• 31:34
  It's just we tend to voice ourselves more than the average
• 31:42
  worker. And is that a pain in the side?
• 31:45
  Yeah. A throne in the side is to say
• 31:46
  yes. Pain in the butt, yes.
• 31:49
  But is it bad to do that? See, I've never been told in the
• 31:53
  job interview. God, you know, you always
• 31:55
  complain because the things I've said have happened, right?
• 32:02
  Oh, yeah. And they're, you know, they
• 32:04
  don't come and tell me. Oh, thank you for correcting me
• 32:07
  or finding that error or whatever.
• 32:08
  You know what I mean? But I love and you know I do.
• 32:12
  I love saying I told you so. Trust me.
• 32:15
  Yeah, you do. OK, because I brought it up and
• 32:21
  you didn't do anything about it. That's what it's frustrating,
• 32:24
  right? So if you're worried about
• 32:28
  speaking up because your boss isn't going to like you, if
• 32:31
  they're a good boss, they're going to want to accept your
• 32:37
  feedback. Now can you be challenging?
• 32:39
  And I had one boss. Let me, let me.
• 32:42
  This is this is I. He got pissed off at me in the
• 32:44
  meeting with in front of everybody, but he knows I'm not.
• 32:50
  Hey, welcome, Monica, welcome to the chat.
• 32:55
  He knew that I had thick skin. If I screw up or if I'm arguing
• 32:59
  with you, bring it right. We were doing something that was
• 33:07
  taking up a lot of my time. I was getting paid for it,
• 33:11
  right? But it was stupid what we were
• 33:14
  doing. He knew it was stupid.
• 33:18
  His boss knew it was stupid. The director of the company knew
• 33:22
  it was stupid. The CEO knew it was stupid,
• 33:24
  right? But we had to do it.
• 33:29
  And one time I said something in a meeting and he says, well, no,
• 33:34
  we're not. We can't do that.
• 33:35
  I said, should I be talking to you or to your boss?
• 33:36
  Because he's the one making all the decisions for our team?
• 33:40
  That's a little too far, right? As soon as I said, I'm like, oh
• 33:43
  man, I'm about to get it. And he told me like, straight
• 33:47
  up, like, you're full of it and whatever you know.
• 33:50
  And I said, look, I know you're in a difficult situation.
• 33:53
  You have someone else running the team for you and you don't
• 33:56
  like it. None of us like it.
• 33:57
  And we're going to keep doing this.
• 34:01
  We have to come up with a plan. And then smart aleck like he is,
• 34:06
  he goes, so what's the plan? And I said, I'll show you.
• 34:11
  And I started. I talked about the plan.
• 34:13
  He goes, that's not going to work.
• 34:15
  Because there was a guy who'd been in the system in El Paso
• 34:19
  since he was a kid, bouncing in and out of the hospital, going
• 34:22
  to the emergency room, saying he's suicidal, he's overdosed,
• 34:26
  he's, you know, whatever. And he also had HIV.
• 34:29
  He had AIDS, OK. OK.
• 34:32
  And we were trying to help him as much as we could.
• 34:35
  And one day he decides he wants to move to San Francisco.
• 34:38
  I said, we can't just send you to San Francisco.
• 34:40
  You don't have the money for San Francisco.
• 34:41
  It's expensive. Whatever, whatever, whatever.
• 34:44
  I said let's look at some options.
• 34:45
  And then I ended up sending him to the state hospital and got
• 34:49
  him out of El Paso. And when I told my boss what I
• 34:55
  was doing, he says, you just getting rid of him.
• 34:59
  I'm like, no, this is what he wants.
• 35:00
  He wanted to go to San Francisco.
• 35:01
  I convinced him to go to the hospital because there you can
• 35:04
  stay a long time. And then he ended up leaving
• 35:07
  there and he ended up committing suicide because they didn't have
• 35:09
  the support for him that we had. Damn.
• 35:12
  OK. I did everything I could for
• 35:15
  this guy. You know, I, I, I did everything
• 35:20
  I could and I didn't pawn him on anybody.
• 35:23
  But I remember this is the case. I got sent to court on my first
• 35:26
  day of work in the over the job when I had my boss, the director
• 35:31
  of the department and the CEO in court with me because we were
• 35:35
  all going to go to jail because we were defying the judge's
• 35:36
  orders. Dang, and it was on my, it was
• 35:40
  my plan. And I, I, I kept my guns and
• 35:45
  the, the judge was even like, all right, he's already answered
• 35:48
  your questions. What else do you want from him?
• 35:49
  You know, and he ruled that they had to let him do it.
• 35:54
  And I was like, I'm against sending him to the state
• 36:00
  hospital. I was because I'm not dumping
• 36:03
  them on someone else. But he needs more than what we
• 36:05
  can offer here. So I thought he was going to
• 36:08
  come back, right? And then after I found out he
• 36:12
  was going, he told me thank you. And I said, hey, when you get
• 36:15
  there, tell me when to stay there.
• 36:18
  And he's like, OK, so he did. And they were so mad at me.
• 36:22
  He never told him that. But they're like, you just
• 36:24
  dumped him on us. I said, he has.
• 36:26
  He's a human being. He has a right to choose.
• 36:29
  Why can't he choose? It's not my choice to send him
• 36:34
  there. You know, he needed more than
• 36:35
  what we could offer. He was with you for nine months
• 36:37
  at the state hospital. Obviously, it was more than what
• 36:39
  we were offering him. And.
• 36:42
  But yeah, so my boss, his boss and the CEO all knew it was a
• 36:46
  problem. I fixed it right, but I was
• 36:50
  ready to go to jail for contempt of court in this case because it
• 36:55
  was my plan and everyone agreed with it.
• 36:59
  Legally it was a plan we could do.
• 37:04
  I had to say we were against it because that was my job, even
• 37:08
  though I'm the one that came up with the plan.
• 37:11
  Stupid I know. OK, but the point being is it's
• 37:15
  OK to argue with the system and point out errors and fix things,
• 37:20
  you know? But again, have a solution.
• 37:23
  But don't just complain to complain.
• 37:26
  Point out concerns you have. Be legit, be authentic, be
• 37:30
  genuine. How many times have I said those
• 37:31
  words? A lot.
• 37:34
  Be yourself. OK, Now can I be that person
• 37:38
  from day one? No.
• 37:41
  OK, you have to work your way in there to be that person.
• 37:44
  But if you're that kind of leader that always speaks up and
• 37:48
  defends your team and yourself, managers should have a problem
• 37:51
  with that if you're putting up legitimate reasons, you know
• 37:56
  what I mean? So keep that in mind when we go
• 37:58
  to your assessment because they might say, oh, you know, you're
• 38:01
  a difficult person. Am I difficult or am I just
• 38:04
  pointing out concerns that I have?
• 38:08
  And I'll, I'll, I'll say this. Am I ever?
• 38:17
  What's the word wrong or inappropriate?
• 38:23
  When I say something, the answer's no.
• 38:27
  If you're joking, maybe that's how I joke.
• 38:31
  I don't joke when it comes to seriousness like that.
• 38:33
  Well. Yeah, but if you do joke, you
• 38:35
  would, yeah. No, I'm not saying I never joke,
• 38:41
  you know, But yeah, so it's OK to speak up, have a voice.
• 38:46
  If they mark that down on your performance review, you can say,
• 38:49
  oh, I remember that situation because here's what happened.
• 38:52
  Here's what you saw. Here's what I did.
• 38:55
  Like the time I tried bringing the helicopters to the school,
• 38:58
  He's like, where on earth did you think you could do that
• 39:00
  without talking to us? And I said time out.
• 39:04
  I spoke with the counselor. I was planning it with her, and
• 39:06
  she was planning it with you. Now, if she didn't do it, that's
• 39:11
  on her. That's not on me.
• 39:14
  But Can you imagine if the date came and the helicopters right
• 39:18
  whole school outside principal like no time out.
• 39:21
  We got to go to class. You can't just be outside.
• 39:24
  What do? What do you mean?
• 39:25
  I have this whole helicopters are coming in in 30 minutes.
• 39:27
  You know what I mean? Like Can you imagine?
• 39:29
  Oh, that would have. Been all that would ache.
• 39:34
  You know, and unfortunately that that counselor is no longer with
• 39:37
  us. She passed away.
• 39:38
  She had some illnesses. And you know, I do miss her, but
• 39:41
  I look went to her afterwards and she says I didn't tell him
• 39:44
  because I didn't think he'd get it done.
• 39:46
  And I told her, I said I told you I'm amazing.
• 39:51
  I I, I get things done. She says, Sean, you're not going
• 39:54
  to bring 3 helicopters and land on our playfield.
• 39:57
  She says how who has that kind of power?
• 40:01
  It's not powers. I'm working with people and I
• 40:03
  know who to call. She says you ended up calling
• 40:06
  the FAAI said yeah, like I had a cell number to the people
• 40:10
  running the tower. And she was just like, I just
• 40:15
  didn't think it was going to happen.
• 40:17
  I said, so I look the fool. I said, you need to go in there
• 40:21
  and you need to tell him. Yeah, sounds right.
• 40:23
  I failed. And it's not on him, it's on me.
• 40:26
  I don't know if she did or not, but I know that wasn't my fault.
• 40:30
  And that was AI call that a win in my book because I had it
• 40:34
  scheduled. He cancelled it.
• 40:37
  Would you call it a win? No.
• 40:39
  Why not? Because the helicopter didn't
• 40:41
  show up maybe? But everything I could control,
• 40:44
  I did. Yeah.
• 40:46
  But when someone else steps in, it's not your fault it doesn't
• 40:49
  work. Yeah, but they stop you from
• 40:52
  winning, then you lose. Well.
• 40:55
  I ended up OK. I won the battle, but I lost the
• 40:57
  war. Remember I told you that phrase?
• 40:59
  Yeah, that's an example of that. I won the battle.
• 41:02
  I got an. It was all approved, 100%
• 41:05
  approved. Well, was it if you didn't talk
• 41:08
  to the principal? No, no, well, hold on.
• 41:10
  That wasn't my job. I even talked to the director of
• 41:15
  building whatever at the district and he was calling me
• 41:19
  back. And that's when I wasn't there.
• 41:22
  And the secretary's like, oh, director whatever's trying to
• 41:25
  reach Sean. And the this guy was like, why
• 41:28
  is he calling him? And he gets on the phone with
• 41:31
  him and no, no, cut it a lot. Don't worry, it's not going to
• 41:33
  happen. I had approval.
• 41:36
  He was coming back to tell me I had approval and I even called
• 41:39
  him after I said I'm sorry, I don't, I don't, I don't know
• 41:41
  what happened. I said, well, I, I do know what
• 41:44
  happened, but nothing we can do about it.
• 41:48
  And he and he, he even said you're actually going to land 3
• 41:50
  helicopters at the school. I said, yeah, they came out and
• 41:54
  they plotted their points and they knew where they were going
• 41:56
  to land and everything. He's like, wow, that's that's
• 42:00
  pretty cool. That is cool, but would have
• 42:04
  been cool if it happened. But I mean, still, still
• 42:08
  something. And Can you imagine on veteran's
• 42:11
  day, because this, this was veterans, not veteran's day.
• 42:14
  I had on veteran's day, they were going to do a fly over for
• 42:16
  us. Wow.
• 42:18
  A Chinook, a couple of Apaches and a couple of Blackhawks.
• 42:22
  We're going to go fly over to the school during the ceremony.
• 42:26
  That's cool. Honoring veterans.
• 42:28
  Wow. That's pretty cool, right?
• 42:31
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 42:33
  It is. But anyway, the point being is
• 42:37
  even if you lose or you think you'd lost, point out what you
• 42:41
  did do you know? And you could also point out
• 42:44
  what you did wrong, right? Yeah.
• 42:49
  And say, yeah, well, everything was good, but to that point,
• 42:51
  it's not my fault she didn't report it.
• 42:53
  Had she reported it, what would you have said?
• 42:56
  He said it can be done. OK, what if it could be done,
• 43:00
  which it could be. No, we're not going to risk
• 43:05
  that. All right?
• 43:08
  You know, all the kids in school, in the in the class, I'd
• 43:12
  have to tell them like, get away from the windows because there's
• 43:14
  flying rocks, right? Put your blinds down.
• 43:18
  You know, there are some dangers there, I'm not going to lie.
• 43:23
  But it is what it is. I've been hit by those rocks.
• 43:25
  It's not a big deal. OK.
• 43:28
  I have. I mean, yeah, but not like a
• 43:30
  little kid. You know, when I, when I told
• 43:33
  you I had like a very fast military experience, I've done a
• 43:35
  little bit of everything. When I was in the reserve unit
• 43:38
  here, I was a draftsman, like the architect that I was drawing
• 43:40
  the building plans and everything.
• 43:41
  We went out to the field and they put me to work with the
• 43:43
  petroleum unit refueling helicopters and they would land,
• 43:47
  we'd walk up to them while their rotors are still going, fuel
• 43:52
  them up and send them on their way.
• 43:56
  That's not something a lot of people get to do, you know.
• 44:00
  But what's funny about that? My, my Co worker, the one who
• 44:04
  was with me that night, he actually became a City
• 44:06
  Councilman leader. But I'm asleep and he's wearing
• 44:09
  one of the flight helmets and he has his flashlight on in the
• 44:12
  dark. And we're in the tent.
• 44:13
  So there's dust in the air and I hear I open my eye and he's with
• 44:24
  the flashlight like a lightsaber.
• 44:28
  He was trying to stay awake. He was bored.
• 44:32
  But that that's that's my my favorite story of his.
• 44:35
  That's. Funny it is, right?
• 44:39
  Well, let's get to again. I, I talked about the, the, the
• 44:43
  performance review when I was being interviewed.
• 44:48
  Well, I forgot what it's called. Going from my evaluation,
• 44:52
  whatever they call in the Army and trying to blink.
• 44:56
  One of the points I put on there was he refueled helicopters.
• 45:01
  Not even my job, you know, but you did it.
• 45:05
  I did everything I could. I did everything I could.
• 45:08
  One time I had to do a class on how to do camouflage.
• 45:12
  Wow. So when I asked for the
• 45:13
  camouflage, like we don't have any, I'm like most of them would
• 45:18
  go and buy it before they did training.
• 45:21
  They'd pay out of their no so I use markers green, black and
• 45:26
  brown. Oh God.
• 45:28
  Hey, you got to adapt and overcome, right?
• 45:30
  Yeah, did it work? It did.
• 45:32
  Everyone was laughing like that. That's pretty, pretty smart, you
• 45:35
  know. But yeah, yeah, nobody was
• 45:39
  walking around with marker on their face, though.
• 45:42
  All right, I'll tell you what. Let's get to when we're talking
• 45:44
  about the performance, we got to have some terminology.
• 45:47
  So let's talk about laying down the codes and our terms that
• 45:49
  we're going to be talking about today.
• 45:59
  To ensure we are on the same page, we are defining key terms
• 46:03
  to establish a baseline vocabulary so everyone
• 46:06
  understands how performance evaluations actually work.
• 46:10
  Performance review. A formal evaluation of your work
• 46:13
  behavior and contributions over a set period.
• 46:17
  Understanding this process helps you align your output with
• 46:20
  organizational expectations. Feedback Mindset Viewing
• 46:24
  constructive criticism as data for growth rather than a
• 46:27
  personal attack, This mental shift allows you to remain
• 46:31
  objective and professional during difficult conversations.
• 46:35
  self-assessment Reflecting on your own performance proactively
• 46:39
  before meeting with management. This ensures you aren't
• 46:42
  surprised by feedback and can lead the discussion with your
• 46:45
  own data. Connor, How does establishing
• 46:48
  this foundation change the way employees view review season?
• 46:52
  I knew it. Why?
• 46:56
  What are you doing? What?
• 47:00
  You deleted the. Again dude, I'm not touching
• 47:05
  anything. None of.
• 47:05
  This it changed. None of this was me.
• 47:08
  It changed. No, I'm right here.
• 47:11
  OK, anyway, what do we, what do you think about?
• 47:13
  Deleted. What do I think about it?
• 47:17
  Yeah, I mean. When you hear these terms,
• 47:22
  anything come to mind? No, not really.
• 47:27
  Performance review is a formal evaluation of your work
• 47:30
  behavioral contributions over a set period.
• 47:33
  Why is that important a set period if I'm I'm evaluating
• 47:38
  from the 1st of January to the 31st of December, right?
• 47:43
  And then next year on January 1st, well, December 31st and I'm
• 47:51
  being evaluated again, they bring us something from the
• 47:52
  previous year. You have to know when you did it
• 47:56
  and you can say no, that that was before such and such this
• 47:59
  school year, you might still be bothered by it, right?
• 48:03
  But that what didn't happen this year.
• 48:06
  So that should not come into this interview at all or this
• 48:08
  performance review. So keep that in mind when you
• 48:12
  have rules, OK, you're able to that rules on dates, you're able
• 48:20
  to decide this before this doesn't matter.
• 48:23
  After this matters, right? So keep that in mind.
• 48:31
  Feedback, mindset, go in there and ask.
• 48:36
  You don't have to ask, actually ask these words.
• 48:38
  But what you're asking is how can I improve?
• 48:41
  Not what am I doing wrong. See the difference in the
• 48:44
  positiveness of it? Yeah.
• 48:46
  How can I improve? OK, If you say how can I improve
• 48:51
  on this, what suggestions do you have for me?
• 48:55
  Hopefully they give you some good feedback, not just mean
• 49:00
  stuff, right? Yeah.
• 49:04
  Two years ago, I was really upset at work about something
• 49:08
  and I texted my boss and said can you call me when you have a
• 49:10
  chance, please? She didn't call me until like
• 49:11
  6:30 or 7:00 at night. She's like, I'm so sorry.
• 49:14
  I've been So I said I know you're busy.
• 49:15
  If you're OK talking right now, I'm OK talking right now.
• 49:18
  She's like, yeah, what's going on?
• 49:19
  And I told her, I said, I'm not doing well.
• 49:22
  I am not happy right now. I said, here's what's happening.
• 49:26
  And she sort of laughed. And she says, I know that can be
• 49:30
  frustrating, Shawn. She says, how about we just
• 49:36
  ignore it for this year and next year you can make the changes.
• 49:41
  And I said, OK, but I just had to let you know I'm not happy
• 49:46
  right now. So there will be changes next
• 49:47
  year. And it was my club that we were
• 49:49
  talking about, right? And she's like, yeah, so I made
• 49:52
  those changes and I have some amazing officers in my club now
• 49:56
  doing everything they need to do.
• 49:58
  And it's, it's just a different club.
• 50:00
  We used to get about 8 members, maybe 7 members a year.
• 50:07
  This year I got 15 doubled because of what I did last year.
• 50:13
  So that's cool, you know, and and the proof is in the numbers,
• 50:16
  right? Yeah.
• 50:22
  OK, the numbers are what I went in with.
• 50:27
  OK, When you also have the self-assessment, reflecting on
• 50:34
  your own performance proactively before the meeting with
• 50:38
  managers, be realistic with yourself.
• 50:43
  You know when you've screwed up, right?
• 50:46
  Sometimes, yeah. OK, if you do something wrong,
• 50:53
  you usually know it's wrong. Maybe not when you do it, but
• 50:57
  after the fact you know you did wrong.
• 50:59
  Well, yeah, like if I get a process wrong, yeah, if I
• 51:05
  accidentally do something that I've never done before that then
• 51:09
  I wouldn't know it's a mistake, right?
• 51:10
  Till they say something, right. So.
• 51:13
  But if you if you doing something and you know you don't
• 51:18
  know what's wrong at the time, but then you realize it's wrong,
• 51:21
  you have to look at yourself and go, was that something I should
• 51:23
  have known right? Well, no.
• 51:29
  You can't really expect to know everything though, no?
• 51:33
  No, no, I didn't say no everything.
• 51:34
  Well, I mean, all right, technically you, dude.
• 51:41
  You know I love watching TikTok. I don't screw all the time,
• 51:43
  right? James Scroll.
• 51:45
  What doom scroll? That's what I said.
• 51:47
  Dome scroll. Doom scroll, You said?
• 51:49
  Dome squirrel. Dome, I'm not stupid, I know
• 51:52
  it's doom scroll anyway. Anyway.
• 51:56
  Rewind you. Need to get your ears checked.
• 51:57
  You want to tell that story? No, you don't want to.
• 52:02
  Heard the fly? We'll say this sorry for the end
• 52:07
  of the show. No, we won't.
• 52:07
  Well, it wasn't you. It was me anyway, so you got me
• 52:14
  sidetracked. I'm doing scrolling and I come
• 52:17
  across as TikTok of this woman and she says, do you know why
• 52:20
  college kids are leaving school after two weeks?
• 52:23
  Because mommy and daddy can come to the school and cry and use
• 52:27
  their deep voice to fix problems.
• 52:29
  What do you think about that? No, no.
• 52:41
  Think about it for a second. If your parents have always
• 52:44
  saved you and rescued. You.
• 52:47
  Oh, that's on them. When you go to college and
• 52:50
  you're not with them where they cannot come in, like just in the
• 52:53
  good example is when I was with you, we were doing registration
• 52:56
  and I was just saying back and then the lady said something and
• 53:00
  you didn't ask her the question you need to ask.
• 53:03
  And then I asked the question and she says I can't talk to you
• 53:06
  because I don't want to talk to you.
• 53:07
  He forgot to ask this and I said, I don't have to be in
• 53:12
  there. That's not I'm not here for
• 53:14
  that. I'm his right?
• 53:14
  I'm just chilling out here instead of the car.
• 53:17
  I said, but that's A and she says that is a good question,
• 53:22
  you know, and then kind of like, Oh yeah, I forgot, you know,
• 53:30
  with everything went on financial aid, everything I've
• 53:33
  said, hey, go talk to people, right?
• 53:38
  I'll give you some questions to ask and I follow up with you
• 53:41
  every now and then, but what happened yesterday, Do you
• 53:44
  remember? I woke up late for my.
• 53:46
  No, you don't. You know, you didn't wake up
• 53:48
  late. You forgot you had an
• 53:49
  appointment. Well, but even then I was, I was
• 53:51
  going to get there earlier because I wanted to try to get
• 53:54
  closer parking. Yeah, because it gets packed.
• 53:57
  On the concert, well, the concert, it was going to be
• 53:59
  worse. Yeah, but they didn't have any.
• 54:03
  The parking lot next to the garage was still open.
• 54:08
  Oh really? OK, anyway.
• 54:10
  That's how I'm like, I don't know, even though the concert is
• 54:13
  literally today. Yeah.
• 54:14
  And I said, hey, I thought you had a meeting at 10.
• 54:18
  And you said, oh, I forgot. I was like, Oh yeah, huh, I
• 54:22
  forgot to make the appointment. What if I hadn't reminded you?
• 54:26
  I just would have forgotten. But that's something you need to
• 54:28
  do. Right now, right, I would have
• 54:31
  gone out throughout the day and I would have been like, there
• 54:34
  was something I was supposed to do one thing.
• 54:36
  Yeah, one piece of advice I've given you over and over and over
• 54:40
  is use your Google Calendar to mark things down so you know
• 54:45
  what's happening. Yeah, right.
• 54:47
  But but what? I don't use Google Calendar.
• 54:54
  Use something. It can be an Apple calendar, I
• 54:56
  don't care. There's no one old calendar.
• 54:58
  The I calendar, I don't know. OK, but you need to.
• 55:05
  You don't do that. You're pretty good at
• 55:06
  remembering stuff, but you don't do that.
• 55:08
  I I know you don't got to say it.
• 55:11
  Well, I did. I I know.
• 55:14
  Told you so and. OK.
• 55:19
  But yeah, you know, look at what you can do to fix the problem so
• 55:26
  it doesn't happen again. Every time you there's an error,
• 55:28
  there's a chance for growth. Every time you do something
• 55:30
  wrong, there's a chance for growth, to learn.
• 55:32
  What did I do wrong? And I would I would tell people
• 55:35
  if I don't know, if I don't understand truly, like if I
• 55:38
  really like. I really have no clue why this
• 55:40
  is not happy or how he's not happy.
• 55:43
  Yeah. Why you're not happy, why it's
• 55:45
  not happening. Can you please explain it to me?
• 55:50
  And a good manager will a bad manager, like, I don't have time
• 55:54
  for that. That's your job, right?
• 55:57
  So I'm going to make the mistake again because you haven't told
• 56:00
  me what I did wrong. So we got to avoid that.
• 56:04
  True. OK, so as we talk about like,
• 56:07
  laying down the coals and our terminology and I, you hear my
• 56:10
  stories, I think it's always best to have another story.
• 56:13
  So let's talk about a story from the fire.
• 56:26
  Nothing is better than hearing a real life example of how someone
• 56:29
  navigated their review season successfully.
• 56:32
  Tasha kept a running log of wins and challenges.
• 56:36
  Consistency in documentation provided the evidence needed for
• 56:39
  a successful review. She walked into her review
• 56:43
  season fully prepared. Preparation eliminated surprises
• 56:47
  and allowed her to control the narrative.
• 56:49
  She secured a raise and a road map for growth.
• 56:53
  Proactive career management leads directly to tangible
• 56:56
  professional and financial rewards.
• 56:59
  Connor, what does Tasha's success tell us about the hidden
• 57:02
  cost of winging it? We got to do it again.
• 57:14
  That's the question. I don't even know what the
• 57:16
  question was. I saw you didn't change the
• 57:17
  slide so I changed it so. I was looking at the screen.
• 57:24
  Sorry. I changed the camera at least.
• 57:28
  Yeah, Yeah. So Tasha took control of the
• 57:34
  meeting that she the parts that she could had her log of
• 57:37
  accomplishments, went in there prepared, walked in and was able
• 57:41
  to walk out with both a raise and a road map.
• 57:45
  Look at this as a chance to grow.
• 57:47
  Go in there, show what you've done and you you should be able
• 57:53
  to walk out with a good review. Now, have you been doing that?
• 57:57
  Be that good to get a raise, but I mean.
• 57:59
  Well, you should always get a raise at your performance
• 58:01
  review. Really.
• 58:02
  Yeah, OK. When companies say there's no
• 58:06
  budget for it, you know what one one of my pet peeves is there is
• 58:14
  a an unspoken rule that you don't talk about your pay at
• 58:19
  work, right. So here's what this is.
• 58:25
  What happened again? Do you know those little stick
• 58:29
  figures that do those animations like stories?
• 58:32
  Yeah, OK. Like with the real life
• 58:34
  animator. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 58:36
  So I was watching one of those and the manager says, hey, I
• 58:44
  don't think you're, you know, qualified to be the the team
• 58:48
  leader. I think you still need a little
• 58:49
  more growth. OK, All right.
• 58:54
  The employee walks out couple days later that he gets a call
• 58:58
  or she gets a call that says hey, I need you to train the new
• 59:00
  boss on how to do the job and she's like last week you said I
• 59:05
  wasn't ready, but now I'm training the new person I.
• 59:10
  Don't think we're talking about the same stick fig animations.
• 59:14
  Well, there's different themes on them.
• 59:16
  OK, but you know what I'm talking about.
• 59:18
  Is it the red, orange, green, blue?
• 59:21
  There's, they're all different, Hunter.
• 59:23
  What do you mean they're all different?
• 59:24
  That's the one I see. There's more.
• 59:25
  There's more than one. I said the one that reacts and,
• 59:31
  you know, interacts with the actual animator.
• 59:34
  Oh, no, that's what I no, no. This this is just a skit.
• 59:38
  Oh, wow. OK.
• 59:39
  Yeah, no. And she says a week ago you
• 59:42
  didn't think I was ready and then and this raise for that job
• 59:47
  was 20,000 higher than what I'm getting paid now.
• 59:49
  Dang. You know, I'll train him.
• 59:53
  I'll teach him how to do his job, but I'm going to teach him
• 59:57
  like he was a Co worker, not a boss, because I don't know how
• 1:00:01
  to do those things. And he said yeah, you do.
• 1:00:05
  And she said, no, I don't because last week you said I
• 1:00:08
  didn't know enough to become the supervisor, but yet I'm good
• 1:00:11
  enough to train him. Damn.
• 1:00:14
  Right time to look for another job in in my day You you joined
• 1:00:20
  the company and you stayed there as long as you could.
• 1:00:22
  You never left. Really.
• 1:00:24
  Yeah, it's called loyalty. I mean, yeah, but then I, I
• 1:00:28
  don't know. But like, for example, let's
• 1:00:31
  just pretend I kept working at Kmart since I was a teenager.
• 1:00:36
  OK, that. Would have been funny.
• 1:00:41
  Back when in the 80s I was making 387 an hour.
• 1:00:46
  Damn. OK, minimum wage now is double
• 1:00:47
  that. Yeah, OK.
• 1:00:51
  I I think I'd be higher than minimum wage by by now.
• 1:00:53
  I'm probably be a manager and director and everything, right?
• 1:00:56
  But if I stay in the same position as working the floor or
• 1:00:58
  cashier or whatever, new people getting hired will be making
• 1:01:05
  more money than me. And is that fair to me?
• 1:01:09
  No. So if I announce starting
• 1:01:12
  position for this job is $10,000 and you're making eight, before
• 1:01:20
  I make that announcement, I need to make everyone be paying
• 1:01:23
  $10,000 minimum. That's how it should be, but
• 1:01:27
  they don't like you talking about it.
• 1:01:28
  So is it legal or illegal to talk about your salary at work,
• 1:01:31
  Hunter? It's legal.
• 1:01:32
  It's legal. You can talk about it.
• 1:01:35
  I mean, they stop you then. You know, oh wow.
• 1:01:38
  Maybe give us good pay. We want to talk about it.
• 1:01:41
  Do you know the the Superstore TV series?
• 1:01:46
  Yeah, OK. Every single one about the guy
• 1:01:48
  who gets paid like $20.00 an hour or something like that, and
• 1:01:54
  it was supposed to be paid like $12.00 an hour.
• 1:01:55
  He's making like thousands of dollars more.
• 1:01:57
  Oh yeah, he made. I don't remember.
• 1:02:01
  It doesn't. Yeah, he made like 20,000
• 1:02:03
  working at A at a supermarket as.
• 1:02:05
  A senator. And the the manager's like,
• 1:02:07
  we're going to have to cut your pay and pay us back.
• 1:02:10
  He's like, why? Maybe sometimes it's best to not
• 1:02:14
  talk about your salary. True, right.
• 1:02:18
  But he's like, I had to let people go.
• 1:02:22
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:02:26
  Could they do that? Yeah.
• 1:02:27
  Did they give you the wrong pay? Do they?
• 1:02:30
  Could they? Oh, they can take you back to
• 1:02:32
  the pay you're supposed to be at.
• 1:02:34
  Not going to make you repay that.
• 1:02:35
  I I say no. I would say no, it's already a
• 1:02:38
  bank account. Now if you sign a paper that
• 1:02:40
  says I'm going to get paid $10.00 an hour and they're
• 1:02:42
  paying you 15 and you don't say anything.
• 1:02:44
  All that. Because I'll tell you what, you
• 1:02:46
  would say something if I made $8 an hour and not paid my 10,
• 1:02:50
  right? You should also say something
• 1:02:52
  when you make more, and you shouldn't be paid that.
• 1:02:54
  Now, what I found funny is when I worked at the school district,
• 1:02:58
  I got paid full time, right? 40 hours a week.
• 1:03:02
  This is my my rate. OK, $10.00 an hour.
• 1:03:05
  I'll just make it easy math $400.00 a week, right?
• 1:03:07
  Yeah, I got 280. I'm like, whoa, this is not
• 1:03:12
  taxes. I know that.
• 1:03:13
  Oh, no, no, We take your annual salary and we break it down into
• 1:03:17
  payments all year long. So you get paid over the summer,
• 1:03:20
  You're not working. Oh, OK, Came home and I looked
• 1:03:27
  at my budget. Right.
• 1:03:29
  Yeah. Because sometimes, you know,
• 1:03:32
  plans don't go as we expect. Now I will tell you this also,
• 1:03:42
  do you wait till the following year to bring it up or should
• 1:03:44
  you bring it up immediately? Because again, if you're getting
• 1:03:48
  paid less, right, you're going to bring that up immediately.
• 1:03:53
  Oh yeah, immediately. You make an error, put the money
• 1:03:57
  in. Just like if I if you
• 1:03:59
  accidentally get $1,000,000 put into your bank account right?
• 1:04:04
  Can you spend it? Technically I could, but I
• 1:04:12
  shouldn't. You know what I mean?
• 1:04:18
  It's in my bank account and I could technically spend it.
• 1:04:22
  But that's theft, believe it or not, because the bank made an
• 1:04:25
  error and you took their money and and spent it.
• 1:04:28
  Well, who gave me the money though?
• 1:04:29
  Well, that's who would give me the.
• 1:04:31
  My point? Being is as soon.
• 1:04:32
  As you see a deposit you don't recognize, you should call the
• 1:04:35
  bank and say what's this money for?
• 1:04:37
  And then they say you work. I'm like, OK, well, and that's
• 1:04:41
  our fault. Oh well, you wouldn't call the
• 1:04:43
  bank for your work, you'd call your job for your work and say
• 1:04:45
  I'm getting. No, I wouldn't call the bank.
• 1:04:46
  No, no saying why if. You had a mysterious deposit.
• 1:04:49
  Yeah, I would ask the bank where did I get this from?
• 1:04:52
  And they said if it's from work then Oh well.
• 1:04:54
  Well then, then you got to go to work and talk to them.
• 1:04:57
  That's we just got through talking about this.
• 1:05:01
  That's different. That's $1,000,000.
• 1:05:04
  All right. Is that like instead of $3 more
• 1:05:07
  than I'm making an hour, $1,000,000?
• 1:05:10
  Yeah, keeping it. I'd quit on the spot right
• 1:05:15
  there. They can do anything about it
• 1:05:16
  now. You take the money out and just
• 1:05:19
  live, live off cash for the rest of your life.
• 1:05:21
  Yeah, I'm like, yeah, I'm gone. I don't really like the job.
• 1:05:23
  Can I withdraw $1,000,000 and close my bank account?
• 1:05:26
  No, I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
• 1:05:28
  OK, Withdraw $1,000,003.12. Ha ha ha ha funny ha ha ha ha ha
• 1:05:35
  ha. Right.
• 1:05:38
  Yeah, anyway. I still got to call them.
• 1:05:42
  I keep forgetting speaking about me forgetting stuff.
• 1:05:48
  Well, you know what, Speaking of that, I'm curious, have you
• 1:05:51
  checked that account at all? No.
• 1:05:54
  You haven't. I haven't opened USAA in a
• 1:05:56
  while. We'll do it after do it.
• 1:05:58
  After, well, I'm just curious real quick here.
• 1:06:00
  OK. Anyway, so.
• 1:06:04
  Yeah, it's because I haven't used an account in so long.
• 1:06:10
  Oh, it's 3:15. Wow.
• 1:06:11
  As I thought I was like 312 or 315.
• 1:06:14
  We we left that just we leave a minimum amount when we're not
• 1:06:17
  using accounts. He has a different account he
• 1:06:19
  uses. Yeah, it's 312.
• 1:06:21
  I'm sorry, that was off by three cents.
• 1:06:23
  I just want to show you the number.
• 1:06:25
  That's that's why it's relevant. Yeah.
• 1:06:28
  Would have any other accounts 50 cents $0.50 Thirty cents yeah,
• 1:06:32
  just. Whatever the years, he would say
• 1:06:34
  that much. No, we don't.
• 1:06:35
  But yeah, so anyway, near here nor there, let's let's talk
• 1:06:41
  about real quick about those actionable steps we can take to
• 1:06:45
  help us during the review, OK? Now that the foundation is laid,
• 1:06:58
  let's cover the actionable steps you can take to manage your
• 1:07:01
  review season effectively. Keep a running wins and lessons
• 1:07:05
  log throughout the year to capture specific metrics and
• 1:07:08
  anecdotes while they are fresh, preventing recency bias from
• 1:07:12
  skewing your evaluation. Review your job description and
• 1:07:16
  annual goals regularly to ensure your daily tasks actually move
• 1:07:20
  the needle on the KPI's your manager cares about most.
• 1:07:23
  Ask clarifying questions during the meeting and take detailed
• 1:07:27
  notes on requested improvements so you have a concrete action
• 1:07:30
  plan for the next 6 months. Connor, how do these mapped out
• 1:07:34
  steps transform an intimidating corporate meeting into a
• 1:07:38
  strategic career discussion? I don't.
• 1:07:41
  Know I'm getting tired of it already.
• 1:07:49
  I told you, yeah. So keep a running list of the
• 1:07:52
  list. We already talked about this.
• 1:07:53
  Now preventing recency bias. Have you ever heard of that
• 1:07:56
  term? Before no.
• 1:07:57
  Recency bias is they do an evaluation based on what you've
• 1:08:02
  done recently. So like let's say you have a
• 1:08:04
  perfect year, a perfect year, and the week before the
• 1:08:08
  interview you do a a major error when you do the interview.
• 1:08:13
  How should that be weighed? I don't.
• 1:08:19
  Know OK if you have 51 weeks of doing good in one week of bad.
• 1:08:24
  Your interview needs to reflect that.
• 1:08:26
  You need to talk about all the good stuff, and there's one bad
• 1:08:28
  stuff. Oh yeah, 1 bad day, bad week,
• 1:08:32
  whatever you want to call it, right?
• 1:08:35
  So reason C bias is something is that's real and you got to avoid
• 1:08:39
  that by bringing up the other 51 weeks.
• 1:08:42
  Review your job description and annual goals regularly to ensure
• 1:08:45
  your daily tasks move the needle on the KPIs.
• 1:08:51
  Now. I love that KPIs.
• 1:08:54
  Any idea what that means? No key performance indicators.
• 1:08:59
  Oh. All right, Review your job
• 1:09:02
  description and annual goals and readily ensure your daily tasks
• 1:09:05
  actually move the needle on the KPI your manager cares about the
• 1:09:10
  most. So if you know they're looking
• 1:09:12
  at something specifically, make sure you're doing those things
• 1:09:15
  and the rest of your job, but make sure those are prominent,
• 1:09:18
  OK? Yeah.
• 1:09:20
  And last but not least, ask clarifying questions during the
• 1:09:22
  meeting and take detailed notes on requested improvements.
• 1:09:25
  So you have a concreted action plan for the next 6 months or a
• 1:09:29
  year or three months or whenever the next one comes, right?
• 1:09:35
  What do you think about that? Taking notes during your
• 1:09:37
  performance interview? I mean, and your manager says,
• 1:09:42
  what are you writing? You say I'm taking notes on what
• 1:09:45
  I need to improve, right? Can you go in there and say, I
• 1:09:50
  want to record this meeting just so I don't have to take notes?
• 1:09:53
  You know, like AI scribe, they don't want anything on record.
• 1:09:58
  Right. So sometimes managers see you
• 1:10:00
  writing and they're like, hey, what are you writing?
• 1:10:03
  Careful, You know what I mean? I'm just writing notes on how to
• 1:10:09
  improve. But it could also be writing
• 1:10:11
  notes on what they're saying about you.
• 1:10:12
  Like, for example, walking into the job interview and saying I
• 1:10:14
  didn't have, he didn't have a feel that when I walked in,
• 1:10:17
  could have gone to my boss and said that and got him in
• 1:10:18
  trouble. Yeah, totally.
• 1:10:22
  They'd do it. Notes and not pity like that.
• 1:10:25
  But yeah, avoid Regency bias, keep your list of wins and
• 1:10:30
  you'll see things will get better.
• 1:10:33
  OK, I I'll tell you what it is 1110.
• 1:10:37
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• 1:10:39
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  Sorry. During the break, we had some
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  packages delivered. I'm getting a new camera and I
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  know you can't see this, but there's no measurements on it,
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  right? So if you look here on this
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  right here, this is a little camera.
• 1:16:26
  It's my little 4K camera. OK, I'm upgrading our system and
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  we got this this box about this big right?
• 1:16:37
  And I told Connor, look at the picture and it looks like it
• 1:16:40
  says the controller, right? Like ATV controller.
• 1:16:43
  I mean, yeah, but at the same time, obviously it's not going
• 1:16:46
  to be the same size. Why?
• 1:16:48
  Well, OK, a little bigger maybe, but it's not as big as it looks
• 1:16:54
  anyway, so that's what we're joking about right now.
• 1:16:57
  Stay locked in. All right, so we've been, we've
• 1:17:01
  been talking about the the steps you can take and the terms we've
• 1:17:09
  used. Let's talk about those pitfalls
• 1:17:11
  that we can have in our statement called Where You'll
• 1:17:14
  Get Burned. It is just as important to
• 1:17:25
  understand the common pitfalls that might occur so you can
• 1:17:28
  avoid trouble during your evaluation.
• 1:17:30
  Going in blind without data, making it impossible to advocate
• 1:17:35
  for raises or promotions as you'll be relying entirely on
• 1:17:38
  your manager's memory of your work.
• 1:17:41
  Getting defensive when hearing critique signals a lack of
• 1:17:45
  professional maturity and can discourage mentors from
• 1:17:48
  providing the honest feedback you need to level up.
• 1:17:52
  Ignoring actionable feedback post meeting creates A
• 1:17:55
  stagnation cycle where the same issues reappear in every review,
• 1:18:00
  eventually limiting your career trajectory.
• 1:18:03
  Connor What makes professionals fall into these exact emotional
• 1:18:07
  traps year after year? Go ahead, do I have to answer
• 1:18:17
  it? Yeah.
• 1:18:21
  I don't even know. Just not communicating with
• 1:18:24
  anyone, OK. That's honestly the big thing
• 1:18:28
  that everybody falls through is just not communicating.
• 1:18:31
  Not communicate. Not communicating wins, right?
• 1:18:34
  Or just anything. Well, yeah.
• 1:18:37
  All right, so go in and blame without data makes it impossible
• 1:18:39
  to advocate for raises or promotions when your boss says
• 1:18:42
  what have you? How have you seen yourself in
• 1:18:44
  the last six months? If I go in there and say, well,
• 1:18:47
  I haven't met my numbers, but I've been in a really good job.
• 1:18:52
  How would you have a good job or how are you doing a good job if
• 1:18:55
  you don't have good numbers? When I was counselling, I got
• 1:19:00
  the numbers right. Yeah.
• 1:19:04
  Of how many people I saw, if I didn't see enough people or
• 1:19:08
  enough time, I'd have bad numbers.
• 1:19:12
  Doing a good job as a counselor, just not able to see as many as
• 1:19:15
  I wanted to. OK.
• 1:19:18
  Right. So when she says so why are you
• 1:19:22
  so low? And I said I don't know.
• 1:19:29
  I don't know man, you tell me. I, I, I didn't lie to him when
• 1:19:37
  they believe the system or anything, you know what I mean?
• 1:19:39
  Yeah. There was Co worker who did and
• 1:19:44
  I caught him one day and I reported him and they didn't do
• 1:19:46
  anything. Then later on he got fired.
• 1:19:48
  I'm like after I left. So again, after I leave,
• 1:19:51
  everything comes out clear because I, you know, I bring
• 1:19:53
  stuff up and nobody listens to me.
• 1:19:55
  But I end up getting fired too. So, but yeah.
• 1:20:01
  You, you want to be prepared, you want to have your data so
• 1:20:03
  you know what you've done. If you, if you have a job that
• 1:20:05
  requires numbers, you want to have the numbers.
• 1:20:07
  If a job requires evaluations, you want your evaluations to be
• 1:20:11
  good, right? So what they would do with us is
• 1:20:15
  after we close the case three months later, they would call in
• 1:20:19
  and say, how is your child doing?
• 1:20:21
  And most of the time I got pretty good reviews.
• 1:20:23
  Every now and then I have one parent say he didn't help me,
• 1:20:26
  right? And my boss said, what do you
• 1:20:28
  think? Shawna said.
• 1:20:28
  I'll tell you what, do me a favor and call that kid.
• 1:20:31
  And ask them and ask the kid Or is it the whole point to ask how
• 1:20:37
  the counselors is doing and the job?
• 1:20:39
  Yeah, but they're calling the parents, not the kid.
• 1:20:41
  Oh, well then, yeah. And I said, do me a favor.
• 1:20:45
  Can you call that kid? And she's like, and what am I
• 1:20:50
  going to say? Say, you know, at randomly I'm
• 1:20:54
  picking cases to call myself just to see how things are
• 1:20:57
  going. You know, how how do you think
• 1:21:00
  Sean helped you? You know, and kid comes back
• 1:21:03
  with an amazing story. Or sometimes you have kids that
• 1:21:06
  go He tried, you know, sometimes just have kids that go Nah, he
• 1:21:12
  didn't help anything. My parents are still the same,
• 1:21:15
  you know, OK, but I said go. Whenever I had those negative
• 1:21:19
  situations like that, I would always tell her to call the kid
• 1:21:22
  because the kids McClain, the family is too, but the kid is
• 1:21:24
  the one I'm working for. A very protective kids, you
• 1:21:28
  know. We're just good, yeah.
• 1:21:31
  Yeah, getting defensive when hearing critique signals the
• 1:21:35
  lack of professional maturity and can discourage mentors from
• 1:21:38
  providing the honest feedback you need to level up.
• 1:21:43
  Why would they talk to you if you're having an attitude toward
• 1:21:45
  them, right? And last but not least, ignoring
• 1:21:48
  actionable feedback post meeting creates A stagnation cycle where
• 1:21:52
  the same issues reappear every review.
• 1:21:54
  OK. And one of the questions that
• 1:21:57
  they would ask me is what have you done to improve your
• 1:22:04
  counseling with a certain type of case like kids who are
• 1:22:08
  rebellious because I I wasn't too good at it.
• 1:22:14
  Do you know I wasn't too good at it?
• 1:22:16
  Well, I mean, you weren't supposed to do kids well first
• 1:22:19
  place for a job. So, OK, but yeah, well, yeah, I
• 1:22:22
  didn't go to the training for kids.
• 1:22:24
  You're right, but that's not the point.
• 1:22:25
  But I don't know. Because it was me, I was
• 1:22:29
  counselling because I was a bad kid, right?
• 1:22:35
  So I'd see these kids and they would trigger me, and my boss
• 1:22:38
  knew not to give me those cases when possible, right?
• 1:22:43
  When possible, but there's still some that.
• 1:22:45
  Yeah, I had to take him and I tried my best and, you know, but
• 1:22:48
  it was the same issue over and over because I got better.
• 1:22:50
  I just, I always felt that was my my kryptonite, you know, and
• 1:22:55
  you've heard me say, like with all the things we've been
• 1:22:58
  through, I'm getting back to my normal and now I'm, I'm beyond
• 1:23:02
  back where I I was, right. But yeah, you want to be able to
• 1:23:08
  do that and have your your boss review you and give you feedback
• 1:23:16
  and accept it. Now you don't have to agree with
• 1:23:18
  it. You can say, OK, I'll change
• 1:23:20
  that. But I don't think that's what
• 1:23:22
  the problem is. And the next question was going
• 1:23:24
  to be what? So what do you think the problem
• 1:23:26
  is? And that's where the solution
• 1:23:27
  comes in. OK, makes sense.
• 1:23:32
  Yeah. All right, let's talk about
• 1:23:34
  those heat Shields that are going to protect us from getting
• 1:23:36
  burned and falling to those pitfalls.
• 1:23:47
  Now that we know where you can get burned, let's talk about the
• 1:23:50
  strategies you can deploy to protect yourself during the
• 1:23:53
  evaluation. Active listening without
• 1:23:56
  emotional reactivity protects your professional reputation and
• 1:23:59
  helps you uncover the hidden needs of your department.
• 1:24:03
  Structured post review goal setting turns vague feedback
• 1:24:06
  into a timed checklist, ensuring you show measurable growth
• 1:24:10
  before the next check in. Connor How do these Shields keep
• 1:24:14
  our listeners cool under pressure?
• 1:24:19
  They keep the listeners cool because we're showing them what
• 1:24:24
  to do for the next day. OK, something like that.
• 1:24:30
  You're trying. I'm trying.
• 1:24:32
  The thing is again, for those of you.
• 1:24:34
  Who? This is odd Genuine.
• 1:24:35
  This is not scripted at all. He didn't know I was going to be
• 1:24:38
  calling on him every episode, every slide.
• 1:24:41
  When I heard the first one, I was like, is going to be a well,
• 1:24:44
  all the sides are going to say something, Huh.
• 1:24:45
  And he was like, I don't know, maybe Guess we got to find out.
• 1:24:52
  What did I, what do you remember when the first episode I turned,
• 1:24:55
  Tina said something like Abrilski, what's up or
• 1:24:56
  something? And you're like, what?
• 1:24:59
  It was back in the other house, Yeah, because I was on my phone
• 1:25:04
  and then. Oh yeah, that's what it was.
• 1:25:06
  We. Usually talk about it after so I
• 1:25:08
  don't really pay attention to the voice over.
• 1:25:10
  It's not his job to do those podcasts, right?
• 1:25:11
  He's helping me with the production and everything.
• 1:25:14
  But he you know, I need someone to talk to.
• 1:25:16
  Yeah, and he adds some stuff once in a while that I don't
• 1:25:20
  know of. Yeah, so don't, don't make it
• 1:25:23
  look bad on him, but I'm I'm messing with him.
• 1:25:25
  I'm not expecting to know any of these answers, but I will say
• 1:25:28
  this intentional preparation and pre search your achievements
• 1:25:33
  against what the bosses need. So like for example, if the
• 1:25:35
  bosses are saying what are your quarterly reports every week,
• 1:25:38
  I'm asking you, what's your weekly report?
• 1:25:39
  What's your weekly report? Popcorn.
• 1:25:41
  Then you have a monthly report and then you have a quarterly
• 1:25:43
  report, right? Yeah.
• 1:25:45
  You can actually set it up that way.
• 1:25:47
  Here's all my weekly accomplishments.
• 1:25:49
  Here's what I've done month, week, monthly, and here's what I
• 1:25:51
  did for the quarter, Right, because you're using their
• 1:25:55
  evaluation. When I was in the Army, I, I get
• 1:25:58
  inspected for my NBC stuff, nuclear, biological, chemical
• 1:26:01
  stuff. And the way I had it set up was
• 1:26:04
  I got the, the assessment from the person, right?
• 1:26:08
  Because they use all the same 1. And I lined up all my books or
• 1:26:14
  bookmark folder, what are they called binders, all my binders
• 1:26:19
  together. And about halfway through, I had
• 1:26:23
  some doughnuts and some coffee, and then more binders.
• 1:26:27
  So people would come in and they would look at the report, and
• 1:26:30
  it's the first time, right? They'd be like, hey, where can I
• 1:26:33
  find this in the first binder, OK.
• 1:26:34
  And they'd look at it and put it back.
• 1:26:36
  OK, next thing, next thing, next thing, you know, OK, where's
• 1:26:38
  that binder here? All right.
• 1:26:42
  And by the third time they were coming by, they were like, OK,
• 1:26:45
  binder #1 they just open up the binders in order.
• 1:26:48
  And there was like, in order, exactly what they were looking
• 1:26:51
  for, right? Always got great reviews.
• 1:26:58
  When I left the the guy who took over for me, he did his his
• 1:27:03
  review and he did OK. He didn't really do great, but
• 1:27:07
  the the person in the review complained there was no Donuts.
• 1:27:12
  You got to, you got to sweeten the deal a little bit, right?
• 1:27:15
  Just a little bit. All right, so active listening
• 1:27:18
  without emotional reactivity protects your professional
• 1:27:20
  reputation and helps you uncover the hidden needs.
• 1:27:24
  OK and structured post review goal setting turns vague
• 1:27:29
  feedback into a timed checklist, ensuring your measurable growth
• 1:27:34
  before the next check in. If you're not working on it, if
• 1:27:38
  you don't have these, OK, these are my goals.
• 1:27:39
  You don't know what you're what you're trying to get to, right?
• 1:27:43
  Yeah. I have to do certain things.
• 1:27:45
  These are my goals. True.
• 1:27:47
  OK, let's see what path I need to take to get there.
• 1:27:56
  And you can do it, OK? It's not that hard, right?
• 1:28:00
  Yeah. But it it takes effort.
• 1:28:05
  It takes effort, right? So let's talk about the episode
• 1:28:11
  today and our questions for reflection in our segment called
• 1:28:15
  the Afterburn. Before we wrap up, we need to
• 1:28:27
  reflect on the key questions that will help you internalize
• 1:28:30
  today's lesson. Looking back at the last 12
• 1:28:33
  months, what specific project am I most proud of and how did it
• 1:28:38
  directly contribute to the team's success?
• 1:28:41
  When I look at past critiques, what recurring themes emerge,
• 1:28:45
  and what does that tell me about my professional blind spots?
• 1:28:49
  If I could master only one new skill this year to radically
• 1:28:53
  increase my market value, what would it be?
• 1:28:55
  And what is the first step toward that mastery?
• 1:28:59
  Connor, which of these reflection prompts do you think
• 1:29:02
  hits hardest for professionals early in their careers?
• 1:29:07
  I would have to say honestly, someone that doesn't work.
• 1:29:16
  I don't know. I would say the second one
• 1:29:18
  looking at the past critiques. Well, recurring things emerge.
• 1:29:21
  That's that's one thing if you're not fixing.
• 1:29:22
  That's the most important. Thing if you're not fixing the
• 1:29:25
  problem I I agree with you on that if.
• 1:29:27
  You keep seeing there's a problem, then obviously that's
• 1:29:30
  going to worry you, so you have to fix it first.
• 1:29:32
  Right. So let's let's look at the first
• 1:29:35
  statement though, looking back to 12 months, what specific
• 1:29:38
  project are you most proud proud of and how it did directly
• 1:29:41
  contribute to the team's success, Right.
• 1:29:45
  Knowing what you do good starting with that is important.
• 1:29:50
  OK, When you look at pass critiques, what recurring themes
• 1:29:53
  emerge? Can you turn off notifications
• 1:29:56
  please? Yeah.
• 1:29:59
  When you look at pass critiques, what recurring themes emerge and
• 1:30:01
  what does it tell me about my professional blind spots?
• 1:30:05
  And you can master one new skill is here to radically increase
• 1:30:08
  your market value. What would it be and what was
• 1:30:10
  the first step toward the mastery?
• 1:30:11
  OK, so First off, looking at those blind spots, if you
• 1:30:19
  actually go in there, do yourself assessment, go into the
• 1:30:22
  review, get a good feedback, make a plan for growth.
• 1:30:26
  Those blind spots should slowly go away right yesterday.
• 1:30:34
  Well, let me let me finish the last question.
• 1:30:36
  What new skill do I want to learn?
• 1:30:38
  OK. A year ago I took on this
• 1:30:41
  project, if you will, this podcast, and I had to learn a
• 1:30:46
  lot of new skills. Can you agree on that?
• 1:30:48
  OK. Yeah.
• 1:30:51
  I'm not done learning, I'm still working on it.
• 1:30:54
  Yeah, we're trying new stuff. But when I started my business a
• 1:30:57
  couple of weeks ago, I decided to make a job for me as an MC
• 1:31:06
  and host of parties, right? And this one lady saw me at a
• 1:31:10
  meeting and she's like, I want to work with you.
• 1:31:12
  It's great. Do you have a business card?
• 1:31:13
  And I just started. I don't even know what I'm doing
• 1:31:15
  yet, right? I went to the dance hall.
• 1:31:19
  I met her family, father and daughter.
• 1:31:21
  They all work together. And then on Sunday last week,
• 1:31:25
  she calls me and she's like, are I need your help?
• 1:31:28
  We have an event. And I said, OK, I'll swing by to
• 1:31:31
  on Tuesday, you know, and we talked and everything.
• 1:31:34
  We were there for that meeting. I went back yesterday because I
• 1:31:38
  need to get the USB from the guy because I'm going to be doing
• 1:31:42
  some video editing for the for the quince.
• 1:31:45
  And he was like, yeah, you said e-mail it.
• 1:31:49
  I, I, I really don't know how to attach files.
• 1:31:52
  And you said, you know, put in the cloud and share your folder
• 1:31:55
  with me. I don't even know what that
• 1:31:56
  means. And you know, and we started
• 1:31:58
  talking and I said, do you e-mail?
• 1:32:02
  Well, yeah, but. Only on Sky.
• 1:32:05
  Do you have a website? He's like, no, I was like, how
• 1:32:10
  are you promoting your your hall?
• 1:32:13
  Why pay for it? Whatever.
• 1:32:14
  OK, Because you need a website. And I said, you know, and he's
• 1:32:18
  like, I don't know about any of that stuff.
• 1:32:20
  I said, I can teach you. That's not hard.
• 1:32:22
  If if you really want to learn, it's not hard.
• 1:32:24
  You just have to get used to how to do it because it's a little
• 1:32:26
  different. And he's like, OK, and he says,
• 1:32:32
  and you're going to edit the video.
• 1:32:34
  Yeah, if you're a production, something I do, he's like, oh,
• 1:32:37
  we can add that to your package. I'm not that.
• 1:32:39
  I'm not a professional. I can do little stuff.
• 1:32:42
  And then we started talking about doing comedy and stuff in
• 1:32:45
  the show. And I tell him I'm doing my
• 1:32:46
  trivia now. And, you know, he was like, man,
• 1:32:49
  we got to sit on like for lunch and then just talk.
• 1:32:52
  I said, yes, we've definitely got to do that.
• 1:32:57
  So I tell him, you know, maybe next month we can get together
• 1:33:00
  and see what's up. You know, yeah, let's see how
• 1:33:03
  tomorrow goes for the event. Yeah.
• 1:33:05
  And then, yeah, we'll see if he still wants to talk to you or
• 1:33:07
  not. Yeah.
• 1:33:08
  Right. But he was like, you know, as
• 1:33:10
  soon as the lady came in and told me what I needed, I knew
• 1:33:14
  you could do it. I just didn't know if you could
• 1:33:15
  do with the time frame. I said that's a Sunday and I
• 1:33:18
  don't have anything around Sunday night.
• 1:33:19
  So except Sunday Night Football for next week, Could you mind if
• 1:33:24
  I have my phone with me? And what's going to be funny is,
• 1:33:28
  you know, I'm going to ask any football fans here.
• 1:33:30
  Yeah, Well, the score of the game is this.
• 1:33:31
  Oh, thank you. You know.
• 1:33:32
  Imagine. Not imagine I'm going to do it
• 1:33:35
  because I like to be funny. Sean What?
• 1:33:37
  There's no game Sunday. The first game of the week is
• 1:33:41
  Wednesday. It's next week, dude.
• 1:33:47
  Again, All right, so nevermind, I won't do that.
• 1:33:55
  That's funny. First game of the week is on
• 1:33:59
  Wednesday guys. Next Wednesday.
• 1:34:02
  This Wednesday. Well, yeah, this Wednesday.
• 1:34:05
  You're right, Connor. Hey, you said it.
• 1:34:10
  You said it. I did.
• 1:34:14
  That's always like, uh, no, no, it's not.
• 1:34:17
  It's Wednesday. Anyway, so, but he's like, you
• 1:34:23
  can definitely be, you know, do some stuff here and there.
• 1:34:26
  So. But I learned all these new
• 1:34:27
  skills and I'm constantly learning and evolving and
• 1:34:31
  getting equipment and upgrading. I'm at the point now where I'm
• 1:34:35
  like, OK, I got some really awesome cameras and they're
• 1:34:39
  going to be really cool. Yeah, but we'll have those set
• 1:34:47
  up in a couple weeks because I got to do some other stuff.
• 1:34:51
  But if we can do this, that it's going to be really cool.
• 1:34:52
  It's going to be really cool, right?
• 1:34:56
  Yeah. All right, so let's talk about
• 1:34:59
  Speaking of technology, Let's talk about the digital inferno.
• 1:35:01
  All right, this is where we talk about technology that will help
• 1:35:05
  us in our performance reviews. So pay attention.
• 1:35:18
  Finally, let's discuss the technology and software
• 1:35:21
  available to help you streamline your review preparation and
• 1:35:25
  career tracking. Use Notion or Evernote to build
• 1:35:28
  a searchable brag book that allows you to tag achievements
• 1:35:32
  by skill set, making review preparation a 5 minute task.
• 1:35:36
  Dedicated Slack and e-mail folders for archived praise act
• 1:35:40
  as a source of third party validation that can be
• 1:35:43
  screenshotted and shared during performance discussions.
• 1:35:47
  Automated weekly reminders for progress updates force you to
• 1:35:50
  reflect regularly, ensuring no project or milestone falls
• 1:35:54
  through the cracks over a long year.
• 1:35:57
  Connor How do these digital tools take the guesswork out of
• 1:36:00
  tracking your career progression?
• 1:36:10
  What? No, I'm just laughing because
• 1:36:11
  it's back at you. It's always back at me, isn't
• 1:36:14
  it? I don't even know.
• 1:36:18
  Yeah, I don't know. Again, guys.
• 1:36:20
  So notion. Genuine Notion in Evernote to
• 1:36:24
  build a searchable database with your skill sets.
• 1:36:26
  You know. Have you gone on LinkedIn at
• 1:36:28
  all? Con, I don't think you have
• 1:36:30
  right. Do I even have an account so I
• 1:36:34
  don't know the e-mail? You know, we talked about that.
• 1:36:40
  This is your question, doesn't. IT parents don't do everything
• 1:36:42
  for their kids, right? Anyway, you can have skill sets
• 1:36:47
  added to your profile so when someone looks for that skill
• 1:36:50
  set, your information pops up OK.
• 1:36:53
  You can also use that on Evernote and Notion to build it
• 1:36:56
  yourself. Dedicated slacker e-mail
• 1:36:59
  folders? What?
• 1:36:59
  What does that mean? Well you can make a folder that
• 1:37:02
  anytime you get a new e-mail about appraise, you move into
• 1:37:09
  that folder so you can review it at the end of the year.
• 1:37:12
  I have my folders at school by year and semester.
• 1:37:18
  It's more so when a kid comes in and says, hey, Mr. Murphy,
• 1:37:22
  whatever, whatever. I'm like, oh, I have that in
• 1:37:24
  this. Excuse me, I have it on this
• 1:37:27
  e-mail. OK.
• 1:37:29
  And last but not least, automated weekly reminders of
• 1:37:31
  progress updates. You, you want to keep that, keep
• 1:37:34
  track of those things that you're doing, right?
• 1:37:38
  A project you're working on or something, right?
• 1:37:40
  Yeah. You can say, OK, my deadline is
• 1:37:42
  this, how's it? How am I doing?
• 1:37:44
  My deadline is this. How am I doing?
• 1:37:46
  OK. Once you do that, you'll keep
• 1:37:51
  track of it a lot better, right? Yeah.
• 1:37:55
  No. So any other technology you can
• 1:37:57
  think of that would do that? No.
• 1:38:01
  No, I don't think so. I think you could also use like
• 1:38:04
  calendar and and put in your the day today.
• 1:38:07
  This happened today, this happened today.
• 1:38:10
  This like a journal sort of I. Mean, yeah, but Oh yeah, you
• 1:38:14
  could look at the list. Yeah, you can, yeah.
• 1:38:17
  But I don't know, I don't think the calendar app would be used
• 1:38:20
  for that. You could just make a list of
• 1:38:22
  word or something, right? Google doc or whatever.
• 1:38:24
  Like a like a journal Like this week or this day, Sunday, August
• 1:38:31
  26th, 2020, Sixth. You know, a journal is something
• 1:38:38
  that I'm going to put it is good to have, but people don't like
• 1:38:46
  to do it. You don't have to talk about
• 1:38:48
  your emotions or anything like that, but a journal for all your
• 1:38:51
  wins, not just you know, of your day, how it went.
• 1:38:54
  No, it's like today. This happened with this guy.
• 1:38:57
  This happened with this girl. This happened with, you know, or
• 1:39:00
  I did this. Hey, I'm really proud because I
• 1:39:02
  solved this problem. You know, right.
• 1:39:05
  That's that's not that's the kind of journal I'm talking
• 1:39:07
  about. Not like all today I was sad
• 1:39:10
  because. Today you woke up feeling
• 1:39:12
  depressed. Yeah, it's a Monday.
• 1:39:15
  Right. And I don't want to go to work,
• 1:39:19
  but yeah, So think about those things, OK?
• 1:39:23
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• 1:39:28
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  I'm so sorry, Connor. I'm so sorry.
• 1:44:45
  I interrupted you. Go ahead.
• 1:44:47
  What were you saying? I don't even know anymore.
• 1:44:50
  Find us on Roku channel. I don't know.
• 1:44:55
  Yeah. You thought I forgot to say
• 1:44:56
  that, right? Yeah.
• 1:44:57
  Yeah, I know. I forgot you.
• 1:45:00
  I thought that was the last one. Not Yeah.
• 1:45:02
  I was like, yeah, guys, trivia. Well, I'm going to put them all
• 1:45:06
  together now, but. That's so funny.
• 1:45:09
  I've been working on another project.
• 1:45:10
  I haven't been worried about the radios, but so, yeah, you know,
• 1:45:14
  we've been talking about this performance review and how you
• 1:45:16
  can improve and how you can be prepared for it.
• 1:45:19
  There's no correct answer here, OK?
• 1:45:21
  You can literally do it any way you want to do it.
• 1:45:25
  Keep that in mind. OK, these are tips that I
• 1:45:29
  researched to bring to you. Now, one thing I will tell you
• 1:45:33
  is there's a guy on TikTok, his name is George Stern.
• 1:45:37
  He he does use a lot of adult language.
• 1:45:39
  Just giving you a heads up on that.
• 1:45:41
  But he reads text messages between the boss and an employee
• 1:45:47
  and they're always horrible text messages.
• 1:45:50
  Like I know it's late, it's 10:45, but I need something for
• 1:45:53
  tomorrow morning type thing, you know what I mean?
• 1:45:56
  Like. Yeah, and then the one with the
• 1:45:59
  wife. Oh well, yeah.
• 1:46:02
  God, dude. Your your wife is having surgery
• 1:46:06
  or having a baby. Yeah, she's going to labor,
• 1:46:08
  guys. You, you, you can.
• 1:46:09
  You can work until the baby gets there, right?
• 1:46:11
  Like what? What do you mean no?
• 1:46:13
  I'm going to take some time and make sure my wife is good, but
• 1:46:17
  he says he's going to be there doing nothing.
• 1:46:19
  Might as well work, right? No.
• 1:46:21
  Yeah, or like, hey, I'm going to have to take some time off every
• 1:46:25
  Friday afternoon because I, I want to be with my wife at
• 1:46:27
  chemo. Well, why do you want to be with
• 1:46:30
  her at chemo like? OK, I can't believe people
• 1:46:35
  actually asked. Oh my God, watch this George
• 1:46:37
  Stern. I don't want to watch it.
• 1:46:39
  You watch this stuff and it's dumbfounding how many managers
• 1:46:43
  are out there that don't know what they're doing.
• 1:46:44
  And he tells you like, I hope this person is is planning on
• 1:46:49
  leaving or he reads between the lines and he says he just called
• 1:46:52
  you out, you know, So that's what makes it funny.
• 1:46:54
  It's good. It's cool to watch.
• 1:46:56
  But if you have a chance, go watch George, George, George.
• 1:47:01
  George Stern. If you have a chance, go watch
• 1:47:05
  George Stern's channel on managers and employees and text
• 1:47:09
  message and threads and everything.
• 1:47:11
  That's what I got a lot of my stories today for, you know,
• 1:47:14
  really. Yeah.
• 1:47:15
  I say, I saw TikTok about this, this, I'm talking about him in a
• 1:47:18
  lot of them. And you know, and you can say,
• 1:47:22
  oh, they're all fake. You know what?
• 1:47:23
  I don't care if they're fake or not.
• 1:47:24
  They could be, but people would actually do that.
• 1:47:27
  Right, like. Wouldn't be surprised.
• 1:47:30
  There's a a new trend on TikTok. I don't, I don't think you've
• 1:47:33
  seen them, but they had like customer service agents talking
• 1:47:36
  to the customer about errors and problems.
• 1:47:39
  And they've you, you, you see their side of the conversation.
• 1:47:43
  You hear their side. You don't hear what they're
• 1:47:45
  really talking about. But like, it's funny.
• 1:47:48
  This one person says, I got charged $18,000 for a boat.
• 1:47:52
  I never bought a boat. You know, I'm, I'm disputing the
• 1:47:55
  charge on my credit card. And the girl's like, OK, so
• 1:48:00
  there's a contract that had to be signed and it was signed by
• 1:48:02
  you. Oh, someone forged your
• 1:48:03
  signature. They had to present an ID.
• 1:48:07
  The ID looks a lot like Hugos. There must be a forgery too.
• 1:48:13
  OK. And they use your credit card.
• 1:48:16
  They actually swiped it there or tapped it, whatever.
• 1:48:19
  He's like, they they must have cloned my card, you know, and
• 1:48:25
  she's like, oh, they cloned your card.
• 1:48:27
  You know, you don't hear their side of the conversation, but
• 1:48:29
  she repeats what they say. And it's it's funny because I
• 1:48:33
  know this is real stuff. And what's saying Connor if if
• 1:48:35
  you know? Look up Red Nickel Comedy.
• 1:48:45
  What? Red Nixle comedy and then put
• 1:48:49
  Bill I want I want to try to get his name right.
• 1:48:54
  I I hate this computer. My computer keyboard.
• 1:48:57
  Bill Burr. No, not no, not Bill Burr.
• 1:48:59
  Bill and. Angle.
• 1:49:02
  That's right. Angle.
• 1:49:03
  He has a skin. He has about.
• 1:49:05
  Here's your sign and he talks about all the stupid things and
• 1:49:10
  he has this this video, this this thing like this lady walks
• 1:49:14
  into and he drives into a a tire shop and the person states the
• 1:49:20
  obvious. The tire go flat.
• 1:49:22
  He was no, I was driving around the other three just swelled
• 1:49:24
  right up on me. You know, but he talks about
• 1:49:29
  warning signs on labels right, like a hair dryers dryer.
• 1:49:34
  Do not use in the shower like to us some common sense.
• 1:49:39
  There's just some people that well well, I'm I'm washing out
• 1:49:43
  dry my hair. Try to kill two birds with one
• 1:49:46
  stone. Not really.
• 1:49:47
  They'll electrocute him. If you have a chance watch
• 1:49:52
  billing. We'll go look him up.
• 1:49:54
  He's funny as hell, but his here's your science skit talks
• 1:49:58
  about the stupidity of people and George turns TikTok talks
• 1:50:04
  about this the media managers. So keep that in mind.
• 1:50:08
  Yeah, people are idiots. Yeah, I'll tell you.
• 1:50:11
  That. Surprises me also.
• 1:50:13
  What surprises you that they can be that stupid?
• 1:50:14
  Yes, honestly. Or they just don't care and they
• 1:50:20
  just ruins it for everybody else.
• 1:50:24
  I mean, because they might not be stupid.
• 1:50:26
  They might. They know what they're doing and
• 1:50:28
  they just don't care. But for us, since, you know, we
• 1:50:32
  follow the rules, it's like, wow.
• 1:50:35
  You know, you, you say we, we follow the rules for the most
• 1:50:38
  part. We do have a we have a pretty
• 1:50:39
  good moral compass. Can you agree on that?
• 1:50:42
  We know we want to treat people right.
• 1:50:44
  Yeah, but people are just being stupid like that and then almost
• 1:50:50
  injure us or act stupid towards us.
• 1:50:53
  Then obviously you know that compass goes down.
• 1:50:56
  We, we have a, we have a friend that came from California and he
• 1:51:00
  says, you know, one thing that about El Paso that really amazes
• 1:51:03
  me is how safe your streets are. And I said, how long you been
• 1:51:09
  here? It was about 3 months.
• 1:51:12
  Ever heard of fit Fan? If you guys don't know, I mean
• 1:51:15
  mostly not from El Paso but go to Fit Fan El Paso and it's like
• 1:51:20
  the gossip of El Paso. Yeah, it's the news for El Paso,
• 1:51:24
  for like, small businesses, traffic crashes.
• 1:51:29
  The major news gets broken there first.
• 1:51:32
  Yeah, before. Like Kay Fox.
• 1:51:33
  Yeah, before any of the major news outlets and they have bad
• 1:51:37
  drivers, they have stories of what happened ahead of time.
• 1:51:40
  I'm trying to think what wasn't the most recent one.
• 1:51:46
  I'm trying to think there was a story that we were talking
• 1:51:48
  about. Deranged man at Jefferson
• 1:51:52
  shooting by Andrews, stabbing at America's.
• 1:51:58
  No, there was, there was something we were talking about
• 1:51:59
  Stupid. Did you see this video by this
• 1:52:01
  person? Oh the cop on the side of the
• 1:52:03
  road, Remember he was giving a ticket and the car hit got hit
• 1:52:06
  from behind. Oh yeah.
• 1:52:08
  If you see Patrol live, you can go back and there's this El Paso
• 1:52:11
  cop that does it, but he's literally talking to the guy.
• 1:52:14
  And it's funny because he drives up and he's singing the song
• 1:52:16
  and, you know, talks to the guy and he says, do you know why I
• 1:52:21
  pulled you over? And at that moment, a car hits
• 1:52:23
  him from behind and hits the car.
• 1:52:26
  The cop's fine. You know they were joking and
• 1:52:27
  also like they were actually like making small conversation.
• 1:52:30
  And the cop turns around and you see there's a space between his
• 1:52:34
  motorcycle and the guardrail where the car could have hit
• 1:52:40
  him. You know, like that little bit
• 1:52:42
  of space. They were off the freeway.
• 1:52:45
  I I, you know, I don't even know how it all happened, but that
• 1:52:48
  broke that that video was out so fast on fit fam.
• 1:52:52
  You know, it's like you hear the all the stuff that happens
• 1:52:54
  before it breaks the news. You know, people have dash Cam.
• 1:52:57
  They have, you know, here's the video what happened last night.
• 1:52:59
  You know they can't show that on the news, but they can show it
• 1:53:02
  on fit fam, right. But the stupidness of people.
• 1:53:08
  You can see it on fit fam, can't you?
• 1:53:12
  So watch fit fam El Paso, you guys so recommended billing
• 1:53:15
  involved. Here's your sign, George Stern,
• 1:53:18
  poor managers and fit fan El Paso for all the Cheeseman El
• 1:53:22
  Paso. All right, let's get let's hear
• 1:53:25
  today's final burn. Before we end the show, here is
• 1:53:37
  our final burn for today. Feedback isn't failure, it's
• 1:53:41
  fuel. Walk in prepared, walk out
• 1:53:44
  empowered, and use every single note to sharpen your
• 1:53:48
  professional edge. Oh wow.
• 1:53:52
  I told you, not all of them. The last one, OK.
• 1:53:57
  And this one he was actually prepared for.
• 1:53:58
  He was reading. He's like, OK, I'm listening
• 1:54:00
  and. I know I'm like, I wonder.
• 1:54:02
  I wonder what he's going to ask me now.
• 1:54:06
  So remember going into the meeting, don't look at it as a
• 1:54:08
  negative thing, OK? You know, if you're doing a good
• 1:54:10
  job, you know you're doing a bad job.
• 1:54:12
  OK? If you're doing a bad job, be
• 1:54:13
  prepared to hear some bad stuff. If you're doing a good job, be
• 1:54:16
  prepared to hear some good stuff and a little bit of bad.
• 1:54:18
  But walk in prepared. Come out empowered.
• 1:54:21
  I love that statement. What about you, Connor?
• 1:54:24
  Yeah, like that. It's pretty cool, huh?
• 1:54:26
  A. Little bit, yeah.
• 1:54:27
  You know, that's really it for today's show, you know, do you
• 1:54:36
  have any questions, Connor, or anything you want to point out?
• 1:54:38
  No, not really. Do you have any questions?
• 1:54:40
  I. Was going to ask you, do you
• 1:54:42
  think what we talked about today prepares you for your
• 1:54:45
  performance review? Kinda, yeah.
• 1:54:52
  Well, you remember when you need it.
• 1:54:53
  Probably not. Probably not, but I don't know.
• 1:54:58
  I never had a performance review like I remember my manager would
• 1:55:04
  coming to the office. Like I sometimes ask him about
• 1:55:08
  like stuff that happened or something.
• 1:55:10
  Yeah, to get, you know, because he wants communication and
• 1:55:12
  feedback you. Know, but if it's anything like
• 1:55:14
  after hours, like when we're closing up and all that, then
• 1:55:17
  we're just talk there. Yeah.
• 1:55:18
  And see that's that's. I mean it, I only went to the
• 1:55:21
  movie theater. Nothing bad really happened.
• 1:55:24
  Right, you know, but like, there was one day he had a really bad
• 1:55:30
  day. Which one?
• 1:55:34
  When you saw that woman walk in. Oh yeah.
• 1:55:39
  And it reminded him of his mom. And he just told his boss, I
• 1:55:44
  need to, I need to get out of here.
• 1:55:46
  Like, I just need to leave. I don't even think you told him
• 1:55:50
  why that moment until after the fact.
• 1:55:53
  No, I told him. I was like, I need a break.
• 1:55:55
  Like I was tearing up almost. I was like, my eyes are glossy
• 1:55:59
  so they saw it. Yeah, but he didn't be like, no,
• 1:56:01
  you have to work when you get the, you know, you know what I
• 1:56:03
  mean? Because they know I'm I'm like
• 1:56:06
  that and they could do it also. I mean, and how do they?
• 1:56:08
  Know that because you've been telling them.
• 1:56:09
  They talk to you and they keep interacting with you, and the
• 1:56:11
  bosses know what you were good for.
• 1:56:13
  So when you need a moment, they give you the moment.
• 1:56:15
  That's what good management does.
• 1:56:17
  And they think I'm slow because I had so many like customers in
• 1:56:19
  my life. No, just everybody choose me
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  because I'm the fastest. Oh yeah, you know, you, you
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  cycle through. So did you ever do numbers to
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  see who brought in the most? No.
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  Because you could ask that. No.
• 1:56:30
  No, they'll tell you which register brought the most in.
• 1:56:34
  Oh well, yeah, sometimes we do that, but it it depends.
• 1:56:38
  But I'll tell you what. I think I did have the most
• 1:56:41
  another thing about it, yeah. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you did.
• 1:56:44
  I wouldn't be surprised if I didn't.
• 1:56:45
  But then I'll ask you, were you always balanced?
• 1:56:47
  And the answer is no. I don't know how, dude, I don't
• 1:56:51
  know how I lose. Like I've been a cashier too.
• 1:56:54
  It just, it happens and you don't even know what you're
• 1:56:55
  doing. But are you?
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  There's a couple cents here and there, sometimes $10, you know,
• 1:56:59
  you give a 10 instead of A1, whatever, you know.
• 1:57:01
  Oh no, never that bad. No, I'm just saying that things
• 1:57:04
  like that happen. Yeah, I remember one time I was
• 1:57:06
  like down 20 bucks. I don't know how you.
• 1:57:09
  Probably gave an extra 20 to someone by mistake, you know?
• 1:57:13
  I, I don't know. I don't know.
• 1:57:14
  I know I didn't because, I mean, I'm like careful with my money.
• 1:57:19
  That's what just shocks me. I was like, damn, yeah.
• 1:57:22
  But then I would remember later on.
• 1:57:24
  Oh yeah I did like exact change and I messed up on the how to
• 1:57:26
  charge them again. Well, I hope you've learned your
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  lesson from everything and well, that's it for today I.
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  Don't have that job anymore so I learned your lesson.
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