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96: Q&A - Ashes to Ashes · Wine & Audacity

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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm gonna I'm gonna add that to
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  Speaker 1: my repertoire.
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  Speaker 2: I started using using this app called flex that that
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  Speaker 2: you it's like a it's like an AI app kind
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  Speaker 2: of sort of that can plan your workouts for you,
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  Speaker 2: or painting like what you do on a day, day
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  Speaker 2: to day basis, or track like you can put your
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  Speaker 2: own stuff in and track what you're doing. Because my
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  Speaker 2: issue with the gym is like I'll get in there
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  Speaker 2: and be like, what the fun I'm gonna do?
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  Speaker 3: M hm.
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  Speaker 2: So short of having like a trainer, which I actually
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  Speaker 2: once I get the money to be able to afford
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  Speaker 2: one again, I definitely will, you know, will want to
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  Speaker 2: utilize one. This is good to have an interim.
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  Speaker 4: I need to do something like that.
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  Speaker 2: Just start with walking.
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  Speaker 4: I was doing good for a little I don't I
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  Speaker 4: don't slipped off.
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  Speaker 2: Get you one of those those uh shoe box from
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  Speaker 2: the tax shop. Go get you one of those desk
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  Speaker 2: trip mills.
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  Speaker 4: I' gonn get there. And it's the stepper that I
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  Speaker 4: want that I want to want to get. That's supposed
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  Speaker 4: to be good too. When I give me a little change,
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  Speaker 4: a little change, forward me some stuff that I can easily, store,
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  Speaker 4: easily stoah, put it out the way. But yeah, yeah
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  Speaker 4: some ship like that. Yeah, I want that little cycle
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  Speaker 4: thing to go like under your desk. I go ahead
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  Speaker 4: and under my desk and work like and I can
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  Speaker 4: use it because you know, I need to still strengthen
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  Speaker 4: my leg from when I hit the surgery and stuff.
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  Speaker 4: I'm still working on it.
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  Speaker 2: You can just do simple stretching though you can do
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  Speaker 2: like like low bearing exercise.
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  Speaker 4: Like I do still legs stretches and stuff like if
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  Speaker 4: I'm laying in the bed and stuff. I still do those,
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  Speaker 4: but it still needs some He told me to take over.
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  Speaker 4: It's been a little more than a year, but I
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  Speaker 4: noticed on limp is much as I I was at
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  Speaker 4: one point. I'm starting to trust my leg a little
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  Speaker 4: bit more because I realized I was walking put most
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  Speaker 4: of my weight on my right leg because I got
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  Speaker 4: used to doing it.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, mm hmm, every little bit helps. Like I said,
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  Speaker 2: we're getting older, so I'm not.
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  Speaker 4: Trying to lose that's my issue. I got this trust
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  Speaker 4: stomach and I hate it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not trying to lose my mobility and my flexibility
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  Speaker 2: as I get older, So I'm still trying to do yoga.
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  Speaker 2: I'm still trying. I can still go out and walk
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  Speaker 2: five miles at a clip. When I would go outside
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  Speaker 2: for my walks, I could be on the stair mass
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  Speaker 2: start the gym for an hour and be perfectly fine.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to hold onto all of that as I
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  Speaker 2: get older, because that endurance noticing.
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  Speaker 3: But I noticed, and I'm losing a little bit of flexibility.
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  Speaker 2: Like the carportnos is just like Arthur.
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  Speaker 3: I mean it, maybe it could be authritist.
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  Speaker 2: Bro you big at this she checked out now before was.
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  Speaker 4: Coming to school with a long sleeves straight on.
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  Speaker 2: And gloves, flexibility in your finger.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like like you said, I start trying to
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  Speaker 3: do like yoga and everything and uction keep yeah, because yeah,
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  Speaker 3: once they I don't want. I don't want the resk
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  Speaker 3: of like you know, the risk to get like everything
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  Speaker 3: gets stiff, because then it'll be hard even if I won't
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  Speaker 3: go back to practice a massage and hard to maneuver it.
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  Speaker 3: Then I had to do everything for arms and I ain't.
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  Speaker 3: It's it's cool, but like the four arms is a
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  Speaker 3: good tool, but at the same time it's not. It's
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  Speaker 3: not as you know, you can't get as deep as
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  Speaker 3: if you use the fingertips. But but yeah, I'm also
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  Speaker 3: I mean I'll be running around like I'll be running
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  Speaker 3: around with the kids to the point where it worked
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  Speaker 3: to the point whereas though it's like I got them
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  Speaker 3: doing workouts just just for me to just you know,
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  Speaker 3: just says an excuse, you like for me to like
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  Speaker 3: do a little do a little workout and in it.
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  Speaker 3: And they were trying to do set ups. They were
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  Speaker 3: trying to push ups, but they doing them like they
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  Speaker 3: push ups look like handstands. I'm like, what do y'all doing?
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  Speaker 3: Like like like what what? Try and go now It's like, no,
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  Speaker 3: you gotta lay all the way down.
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  Speaker 2: Those young those days. Yeah, I want to work on
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  Speaker 2: being flexible and you know, being able to move, and
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  Speaker 2: I have issues with mobility or my body season up
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  Speaker 2: as you know, as we could do the slow creep
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  Speaker 2: towards forty. So that's why, like I said, I's trying
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  Speaker 2: to walk and under stand master's way faster for somebody.
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  Speaker 4: What's for? Fuck you bitch, I'm only three months older
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  Speaker 4: than you and not even a full three months.
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  Speaker 2: Again, I say, well, fuck you bitch, saying this is
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  Speaker 2: the only thirty seven year olds to take this Nick
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  Speaker 2: damn straight. I ain't turned thirty eight, check and I relished.
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  Speaker 4: the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life,
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  Speaker 4: and I hope no parent ever has to go through
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  Speaker 4: what I'm going through. My son and I used to
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  Speaker 4: be very close. My son came out to us five
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  Speaker 4: years ago and my wife didn't take it. Well. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: my wife comes from a traditional country and she's big
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  Speaker 4: on tradition. After that, she stopped speaking to him. That
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  Speaker 4: was our son, but I couldn't make her have a
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  Speaker 4: relationship with him. Polish, your wife's a bitch. I love
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  Speaker 4: my wife and she has a great relationship without other
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  Speaker 4: two kids. But this brought a lot of tension into
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  Speaker 4: the house. She just ignored him and still doesn't speak
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  Speaker 4: to and still doesn't speak to him. She didn't attend
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  Speaker 4: his high school graduation or anything. I won't say which one,
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  Speaker 4: but he got a scholarship and plays a sport at
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  Speaker 4: one of the service academies. My wife didn't come to
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  Speaker 4: see him off or go to his first day. Again,
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  Speaker 4: I say, your wife's a bitch. He started to cut
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  Speaker 4: me off and says I have to choose between him
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  Speaker 4: and my wife. I'm devastated. Man. He said, he resents
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  Speaker 4: me because I allowed her to treat him this way.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to text him I love you and this
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  Speaker 4: is the hardest thing I've had to do. But I'm
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  Speaker 4: not choosing between you and your mother. I went to
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  Speaker 4: all your games, supported you, taught you how to play
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  Speaker 4: the bass anytime you needed me. I have been there
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  Speaker 4: and I still will be. Your mother did a lot
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  Speaker 4: of things, but she never tried to make me pick
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  Speaker 4: between the two of you. I will not pick between
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  Speaker 4: you two. And if you feel you cannot talk to
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  Speaker 4: me because that, then I have to accept that. This
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  Speaker 4: is really hard because I love my son, But at
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  Speaker 4: least I take comfort that I did everything I could
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  Speaker 4: for him. I raised a great kid and now he
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  Speaker 4: attends to service academy. I know I was the best
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  Speaker 4: father I could be. I just gotta process this. That
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  Speaker 4: was it? Okay before y'all give y'all feedback, because this
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  Speaker 4: question bothered me because you know that we are all
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  Speaker 4: inclusive around here. Read don't cut people off for their sexuality.
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  Speaker 4: For then we caut him off the Trump supporters, that's different.
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  Speaker 5: That's blasphemy, but that's different. But with so many other
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  Speaker 5: reasons to dislike people and to distance yourself from people,
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  Speaker 5: their sexuality should never be one of them.
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  Speaker 4: And especially a parent cutting that child off. You don't
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  Speaker 4: have to agree with their lifestyle. You don't, and that's
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  Speaker 4: you're right, But you are not to demean them and
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  Speaker 4: cut them off because you don't agree with their lifestyle
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  Speaker 4: and you want to blame it on tradition and all
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  Speaker 4: that stuff. I'm sure you've done some ship that's not
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  Speaker 4: within your tradition.
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  Speaker 2: When people say that.
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  Speaker 4: People tradition, oh, they want to use God, don't you know.
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  Speaker 2: I hate when people use the whole agreement for lifestyle thing.
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  Speaker 2: That's it's stupid to say because you don't apply that
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  Speaker 2: to any other thing.
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  Speaker 4: You don't.
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  Speaker 2: People don't apply that ship to any other thing another
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  Speaker 2: person may do.
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  Speaker 4: You don't have to like it.
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  Speaker 2: Who can? Is like, how would you feel if somebody
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  Speaker 2: came to you and said, I don't agree with your
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  Speaker 2: lifestyle of being a single mother because you have children
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  Speaker 2: not a wedloine?
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  Speaker 4: They look, yeah, like I did, because I've heard that before.
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  Speaker 4: And you don't have to deal with it. You don't
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  Speaker 4: have to live with it, but you don't have to
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  Speaker 4: agree with Well goddamn thing. Y'all want to always bring
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  Speaker 4: up stuff being sins and all this other stuff, But
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  Speaker 4: ain't judging the sin, just not less she be your peers.
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  Speaker 4: That's body modification, right, clothing the mixed fabrics you ain't baby,
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  Speaker 4: that's probably an esther you got on right there. You
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  Speaker 4: shall listen that. You gotta watch what you put the
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  Speaker 4: iron on. It was gonna burn. Yes, you eat showfish,
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  Speaker 4: you have tattoos. You slept with their lady husband around
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  Speaker 4: the corner and you think we oh, no.
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  Speaker 2: You were also in the house with your with your
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  Speaker 2: partner on your cycle, or he wouldn't she was on
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  Speaker 2: her cycle. You work on Sundays, that's the Sabbath, right,
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  Speaker 2: So how can you not.
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  Speaker 4: Pick and chewes? But y'all want to go against I
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  Speaker 4: don't like nothing about it.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not mad at this father because he didn't cut
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  Speaker 4: his child off, and he was still there for his child,
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  Speaker 4: and he's still attended stuff for his child, and I
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  Speaker 4: appreciate it. I think in the way that child is
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  Speaker 4: hurt and he doesn't even though, yeah, you've still been
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  Speaker 4: there for me, are you standing up to her? So
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  Speaker 4: I get where the sun is coming from, But I
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  Speaker 4: think you should accept the people that are supporting you
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  Speaker 4: still there for you? Are they? I think he's just emotional,
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  Speaker 4: he's and his feelings. I think anybody who has a
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  Speaker 4: parent who disowns them turns their back on them will
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  Speaker 4: feeling like way because you current you within your wound.
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  Speaker 4: I'm the first person to hear your heartbeat from the inside.
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  Speaker 4: And this is how you're treating me because you don't
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  Speaker 4: you don't like my sexuality.
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  Speaker 2: But people, some people utilize their religion or their religious
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  Speaker 2: beliefs weapon to weaponize it against other people and thinks
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  Speaker 2: that they may not believe in things in life that
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  Speaker 2: they do that they don't agree with and it's unfortunate,
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  Speaker 2: but they some people use God or allow whatever did
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  Speaker 2: to you believe in to hate people. We see it
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  Speaker 2: all the time.
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  Speaker 4: It is not of God and it's not the kingdom.
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  Speaker 2: It's unfortunate that the mother has disowned her child because
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  Speaker 2: of their sexuality.
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  Speaker 3: And her and her own personal I mean not personal,
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  Speaker 3: but the tradition and the beliefs.
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  Speaker 2: Based off of beliefs in the tradition and people people
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  Speaker 2: come from Muslim countries or countries wherever the super religious
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  Speaker 2: countries are. Conservative women have less rights. Gay people have
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  Speaker 2: no rights, Like I understand that, and some people just
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  Speaker 2: can't see anything beyond that because that's all they know.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't excuse her. But I also agree with Seanna
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  Speaker 2: when she says that making the making the father choose
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  Speaker 2: between them or the mother is like, well, I'm I
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  Speaker 2: don't agree with her, but I'm not gonna end my
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  Speaker 2: marriage or walk away from my wife because she doesn't
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  Speaker 2: support you when I do and your siblings do.
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  Speaker 4: Now, if the mother just messed up stuff and starts
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  Speaker 4: treating like like being a beautiful towards you and all
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  Speaker 4: that the other stody, then that's something different because this
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  Speaker 4: is not the person I'm married. Yeah, I can't do this.
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  Speaker 4: The fact that she's not trying to turn the father
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  Speaker 4: against you. According to the father, she's not trying to
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  Speaker 4: turn me against you, hopefully, she's not trying to turn
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  Speaker 4: the siblings against you and all of that other stuff.
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  Speaker 4: That's the only credit I'm gonna give her. But I
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  Speaker 4: don't respect anybody that that turns their bag on their
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  Speaker 4: children because they may not agree with something that they
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  Speaker 4: have done. He's not a rapist, he's not a murder
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  Speaker 4: something that's not anybody else. Yeah, he's who he's sleep with.
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  Speaker 4: Don't make you come. It ain't none of your business.
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  Speaker 4: So let him be him, let him be happy. And
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  Speaker 4: he's probably been waiting for years to talk about those feelings,
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: but were scared for this exact reason. Hold on to
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: your daddy that's supporting as.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: A married man and you know, and now having a
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: child and like and I even told him, like I
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: even told him now and told him, like you know,
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: three months old, like listen, you try yo, you try her,
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna beat your ass, like listen. And and it's no,
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: and it's and it's nothing and there's nothing against like, oh,
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: it's nothing. And I understand, you know what that being
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: my son is Like, Yo, I understand that you hurt,
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: but Yo, you're not gonna make me like Yo, You're
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: not gonna make me choose between the tour, like between
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: the tour y'all, because I mean, you know, at the
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: end of the day, it's always gonna be her first,
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: and right is right and wrong is wrong, right and
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: you and regardless and yo, because that's between y'all, Like,
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: that's between y'all. As Shawn to say, Yo, that's what
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: I mean for me, that's between y'all. I got you
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: don't even worry about that shit over there, Like don't
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: you don't. You don't got nothing to worry about over there.
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: And I'm doing I'm doing the best that I can
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: to make sure that that doesn't like whatever this is
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: over here, that's not leaking, that's not leaking to our relation,
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: like our relationship. So, like I said, understanding, you hurt,
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: but you' you are, But you're wrong for trying to
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: make you know, he wrong for trying to make the
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: day choose like his father choose between his wife and
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: his kid.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: That's always gonna be an unfair. That's always gonna be
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: an unfair bias. That's always gonna be an unfair choice
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: because the demand is always gonna choose his wife.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: He may not choose his wife. But I think it's
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: an unfair question to even ask, because again, if I
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: support you, and you know my feelings towards your mother
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: about how she feels, and I've tried to talk to her,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: I've tried to say, like what it is, and she
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: doesn't want to budget it sucks, but she's within her
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: right to feel that way, and it doesn't make it right,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: but she can feel how she wants to feel. What
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: you all you can, folks, And like you said earlier,
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: it's about a person being he's in his feelings rightfully.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: So you know, feel how you feel, feel how you feel.
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: But Joe, feel how you feel. But Joe, you don't
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: have like you can take the high role. Joe, you
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: don't got to be disrespectful.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: There's also it could be an age thing, like he
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: seems relatively young, So I mean you've eighteen nineteen your
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: brain still forming like it's hard because again as long again,
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: like I think, like Seanna said earlier, as long as
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: the mother isn't like trying to poison people or trying
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: to turn other people away from you, and she's not
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: actively causing you harm or trying to abuse you, maybe
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: mentally emotionally with her absence, or causing other people to
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: do that. This let it rock.
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: I mean you can't.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: You can't. Everybody isn't going to be for you. Be
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: it family, be a friends, being at your parents. You you
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: could do something that could put somebody off today or tomorrow,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: and they could choose to walk out of your life.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: We know you do, shut up, you said. But in
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: the same in the same instance, if other people choose
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: to have maintain a relationship with that person, that's their business. Now,
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: some people, we all know people who have friends who
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: were friends are falling out and their friends that say,
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: you need to choose either you're gonna be friends with
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: her or you're gonna be friends.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: With me, And the person who ain't make me choose
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: that right, because you.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Were friends with two people. And if two people have
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: a fallen out, as long as you're not talking to
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: me about her and you're not talking to her about me,
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: it's not I don't care your friendship, especially if the
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: friendship is a long term friendship. If y'all were friends first,
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: or we all were friends since we were kids, I'm
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: not gonna and nobody did anything to cause somebody home.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: That's why I appreciate y'all too cool now. I'm her
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: and Twain because when they were when they wouldn't be,
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: they didn't hit us with No. It's it's either it's either.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Me or her.
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: No, she tried to look like she was stupid.
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: I don't remember that.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Of course you don't.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: I don't remember that about half I.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Came back from Chicago. I remember this like it happened yesterday.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: When I came back from Chicago. This was two thousand
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: and three. No, it was two I spoke to Aaron
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: and Keen the hallway, and you saw it and didn't
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: care for it. You chased me down the hall You're right.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: I did have my r TC uniform woman, and you
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: hit me in the back of me. I said, bitch,
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: I don't want you talking to her. I said, I
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: don't give a fuck what you want.
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: I remember that I was. I was in my feelings.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: You can be in your feelings. I was. I can't
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: toss you over them steps.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: I get it.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: It's like it's like, you know, we only are like
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: I did.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: I was. I was definitely and my feelings I was hidden.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: But but to bring it back to the question and
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: change and.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Like you said, when you walk away and if you
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: get brought back together, then it was meant to be.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: And it was meant three and y'all my family sold.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: That's all that made is Yeah, but you're saying that,
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: and that's that's a good thing. It's like, y'all still family.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: I'm making Yeah.
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: I don't know what the funk you said, but I
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: felt like it was some patty.
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: Ship shut her. I didn't, actually I didn't.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: But to bring it back, let's just hope that forgiven
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: it extence to all people and certain people make up
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: they haven't keep going.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm. I heard that at the time. I'm not
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: the problem in that. You never seen, never say nothing.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: It'll come back together eventually. Okay, that's fine.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Ain't got that good good m M.
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: You are here for the previous conversation. She wouldn't know
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: what I do.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: That y'all bumping person.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: This has been this has been my dad. See the podcast,
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: y'all was bumping purses. Wow.
• 23:23
  Speaker 5: Wait, a minute, y'all was just to get them dudes
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: to leave us alone that day. Pay the issue.
• 23:33
  Speaker 6: Oh my god, you're so damn like a table ring Brott.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: Come on so we can get get a few more questions.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: It's like five second.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: Jesus fix it.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: But to break it back, bring it back to the
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: original question. Guess I'll still family.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: I think I got the episode turn y'all listen to
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: a family and the sister sisters Jesus Christ.
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: Says, and sister talk about a girl talk twister.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Shaking up the family tree, best friends, just saying O MG,
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: since like since like oh three.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: Gee me Christmas, y'all so damn dumb.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: But y'all still But yeah, like I said, you know
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: you you you You're wrong for make you trying to
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: make your father choose because you're at the end of
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: the day, y'all still family, Okay.
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: As long as he's still there for you, that's all
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: this man.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: And that's that's the only mother you got you. Eventually,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: she don't even know what I'm saying. Eventually she gonna
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: come around. Ship.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: She might be on right now, she might be on
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: her deathbed, but I doubt she will. But I mean
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: she will. We don't know what.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: She's staunching that religion, her religion, her religions, and her traditions.
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: It's like you need the one she needs to take
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: care of you else, but feel like I wouldn't.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't cut my father off because he he doesn't
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: want to have a relationship he wants to continue his
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: relationship with my mother because their relationship does not have
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: anything to do with me. And I wouldn't give up
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: my support system, the support system I do have, because
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: they maintained relationships in this in this specific instance, with
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: the person that chose not to have a relationship with Agreed, Yes,
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I agree. Next question, Next question, Next question.
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: We are going to Brandon's favorite thread six brown Chicks. Yes, yes,
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: yes we are. Stop you know where you like it.
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: Following the rules, Working multiple jobs and networking got me nowhere.
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: I was always broke. When I found myself searching my
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: old personal weed money, I decided, I'm sorry, this is funny.
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: I decided to become ruthless. The only person in my
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: orbit with money was Sonya, and she was dating the
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: intellectual proper for the attorney I met with him about
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: developing ati a beauty. Brutie in Gloorally came up a
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: beauty product line, and soon I was sleeping with him.
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: I dated him hard and convinced him to help me
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: steal and develop Sonya's brand. She has a nice skin
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: kid brand, but she's not doing anything with it. I
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: could run it better. He tauged me five hundred dollars
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: for filing fees, but promised to do the legal work
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: pro bono. I gave him five hundred dollars my car
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: note money, and I launched new social media channels to
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: take over Sonya's brand. Long story short, he took Sonya
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: to dinner with my money. I tried to follow complaint
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: with the Ball Association, but he's not listed as an attorney.
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: He's a scammer. How do I tell Sonya her boyfriend
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: is a fraud without revealing what I did. She is
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: my friend and he may be scamming her too. I
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: mean this with the highest level of disrespect that I
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: can find. Girl. Fuck you, you got what you deserved. No, no,
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: all that, And I hope song was in on the scam.
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: Yo world talk. You said following the rules and doing
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: all that got you nowhere, and you was always working
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: multiple jars and you was always broke.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Bitch, you don't you have.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: Poor money management.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: She got poor pussy managed.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: Like take us back, take us back to a pretty
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: take us back, yo, when we're talking about something wrong
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: with your coach, something.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: Something's wrong with the twizzy not the twizy, something wrong
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: with it.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: You hear me cul how you hustle backwards.
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: Hustle back ons and now you're called about to get repossessed.
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: You're about to lose your friend. Because if she found
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: out what the hell is going on around mom, I
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: hope she popped in the.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: Mouth, probably be like, oh see how much you can
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: get from that bitch?
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she probably know most people know that some of
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: the people that they know ain't shit. So there's that
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: how much can you get from that bitch? There's that
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: you know, she won't be your sugar mama.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Fuck it, let's go, let's go.
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: She ain't want to be the sugar MoMA. She thought
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: he was gonna be her sugar daddy. And then you tried.
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: You say she your friend, but you tried to steal
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: her brain because she wasn't doing nothing with it.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: So what they got to do with you?
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: So they ain't got shit to do with you. Like
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: I got a friend who had a brand that would
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: have probably did well if she would have stuck to it.
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: She ain't do nothing with it. I ain't gonna go
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: behind her and do something with it. I know what
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: was in her.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: Convetently. She had a skinnycare brand too, and a bodycare brand.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: I didn't go behind her and try to do anything
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: with it.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: But I had somebody who I discussed my plans with
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: when I wanted to start doing dinners and stuff like that,
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: and that bitch went behind my back and started doing
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: shit all of a sudden. Baby, you can't even cook
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: that well. Everything you may come out of a box.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: And she tried to. And matter of fact, Key Brandon
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: found out about it first, and they weren't gonna tell
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: me at first because they thought I was gonna get
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: mad with brand. I think Brandon ended up telling as
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: far as I know, her shit ain't up and running
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: no more. But that's neither there, here nor there. But
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: of course not, because that's the and the words of
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: lerneath the Elaks. You never win me playing dirty, So
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: you found up fucked around. The found out says, go
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: join the rest.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: Of them child.
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: Next question, we don't know about robertson times staying on
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: six brown checks. Uh, it's cold outside, and I snagged
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: me one of those strong independent women who don't need
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: no man. Yes, I do the bad minimum and minimum,
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: and I'm living my best life. I look for a
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: job online while she's at work, and I get allowance
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: from her to go on a few job interviews quotes
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: quote unquote, which is really my sneaky links. Well, my
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: pull out game failed me, and she's pregnant and wants
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: to get married. I said yes because it's called outside
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: and I've got a good situation going. But I don't
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: like her like that, and I sure hell don't want
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: to want nobody advice. You fucking bumb you fucking hoboseexual.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: That's exactly what he is, a hobo sexual, You fucking bomb.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: You should have been swallowed, oh god, or spitting to
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: a tissue swallows.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: They got him messing the first place.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: You ain't wrong about that friend, no, because if she
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: would have just swallowed him, she wouldn't be in this situation.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: Yo can't get pregnant from swallowing.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, I mean, okay, here we go, youse a clown, Sir,
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: you're a clown.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: Why do y'all niggas do that?
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: Ladies?
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: I can push it down and stop giving pussy the
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: bum as niggas don't nobody eat for free? Fuck that
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: fuck rom y'all a man kind of foolishness. How dare you?
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: How do you as a man look at yourself in
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: a mirror knowing that you got somebody you laying off
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: up living off some goddamn body.
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: First of all, to use her like if you don't
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: got no attentions on, you ain't got no attentions on
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: doing all that shit?
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: Yo?
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: Why are you going in raw?
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: He's gonna give a fuck? He canna for condoms, broke
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: ass niggah. I'm more mad at her because while you
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: letting him going, don't let no jobless as Nigga put
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: his row dicking you. You don't let the job as
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: Nigga put his dicking you at.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: All don't work, I might say, yeah, according to better
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: According to Urban Dictionary, they be the ones that give
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: you that, that be putting it down because.
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: They gotta work hard. They working for their next meal. Ship.
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: Nigga got I'm going for itself, can get off mediocre
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: dick every now and somebody.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: It brought me to it. It brought me something like
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: I remember having a conversation with the coworkers and they
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: was talking about like you don't work with a bunch
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: of women, and they say they be the ones. He
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: was like, Yo, niggas with money, you know, niggas with money,
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: you you'll put up a mediocre dick. But the nigga
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: ain't got ship you, boy, you better knock the bottom out, the.
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: Whole bottom, cause fuck you. Sorry.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: Sure he's talking to the dog y'all mm.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: Hmm, because she's sitting there looking at him like y'all
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: having conversation about.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: No, you go ahead, just you tell your little stuff
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: down over that.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: You homosexuals are dangerous, very dangerous. If you if you
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: want to funk on one, be my guest, but don't
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: do that. They don't do that your house, yousa?
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: Why are your sneakers in my closet? What is going
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: on right now? Nia? Why do you have it? Why
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: is your electric tooth brush here? Not a disposable one
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: that I had to guess? Why is your electric tooth
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: brush here?
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Baby? You ain't gonna let me stay?
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: Absolutely the fun now go back to where the you
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: was ad Bye bye? Why are you here?
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: What the fuck?
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: What the fuck? Devastation? All right, y'all were moving on
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: over to that? Am I an asshole?
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: Threat?
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Am I then asshole for following my late sister's wishes
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: and kicking our brother out of her funeral? Okay, let's go.
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: My sister passed recently at the long illness, and before
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: it happened, she made very clear instructions regarding her funeral.
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: She specifically did not want our brother John to attend
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: or receive any of her asses. To provide some content.
• 33:29
  Speaker 4: Growing up, my sister wasn't kind to John. John also
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: was not great. They fought like cats and dogs. As
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: an adult, she sought therapy, recognized the damage she had done,
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: and tried to make amends. She apologized multiple times and
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: reached out with John refused to reconcile. He was clear
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: that he didn't want a relationship with her. This is
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: not where I thought this was going.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, huh.
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: He was clear that he didn't want a relationship with her, But.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: Why did he want a relationship? Then I miss something?
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: Yes, I think you may have.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I'm looking my phone is done to make she's listening, but.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: I'm something ante.
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Can you start that over because I think I'm missing something? Yes, okay, my.
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: Sister, Sorry, y'all. Thing adjusted on me. My sister passed
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: recently after a long illness, and before it happened, she
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: made very clear instructions regarding her funeral got that she
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: specifically did not want our brother John to attend or
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: resee any of her ashes to provide some content. Growing up,
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: my sister wasn't kind to John. John also was not great.
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: They fought like cats and dogs. As an adult, she
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: sought therapy, recognized the damage she'd done, and tried to
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: make amends. She apologized multiple times and reached out, but
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: John refused to reconcile. He was clear that he didn't
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: want a relationship with her.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: That's fair.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: When she became ill, my sister made one last attempt
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: to reconnect X and John to visit her. He declined, again,
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: stating that he had no interest in repairing the relationship
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: even as she was suffering. This hurt her, and she
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: made it clear that if he didn't want to see
• 35:04
  Speaker 4: her while she was alive, she didn't want him at
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: her funeral or receiving any part of her.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Remains, but didn't say he would have been.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: In I was saying the thing in my mind. In
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: her view, if he couldn't show up for her in life,
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: he had no right to be there. John showed up
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: at the funeral uninvited. I think our uncle gave him
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: the Dayton time in line with our sister's wishes. He
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: was supposed to say outside, but it says in line
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: I think transcripted it, but outside of my sister's wishes.
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: I asked him to leave. Oh no, no, no, okay, so
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: they forgot a period, So it says I think my
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: uncle gave him Daton time a sposed to be a
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: period there, in line with my sister's wishes, I asked
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: him to leave. He became angry, caused the scene, and
• 35:47
  Speaker 4: accused me of being cruel and preventing him from saying goodbye.
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: Several family members have since criticized my decisions, saying I
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: should have let him stay for closure, saying that funerals
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: off of the living, but I pointed out that that
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: was her last wish. He thinks I'm an asshole and
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: I'm refusing to give him anything of hers. Still, the
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: family is mostly split. Am I the asshole.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: No, you're not to answer, because if you are, you
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: are following your late sister's wishes. She made multiple attempts
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: to connect with your brother after therapy, after growing up,
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: multiple attempts before she got sick of it, even after
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: she got sick, and he refused all that time to
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: have a relationship with her.
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: So why would he even come to the funeral?
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: If you may show up, right, if you made it
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: clear that you didn't want a relationship with me, even
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: if even when you knew I was sick and I
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: asked to spend time with you and you still said no,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: I'm confusing. So why he would even go to the
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: funeral in the first place, Because.
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: That's a good question, because she felt the way she said. Okay, yeah,
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: we both did things to each other, but I got therapy,
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: I writed my wrongs, I apologized, I tried to make amends.
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: You didn't want anything to do with me while I
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: was living. So I don't see why you need to
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: closure or you need to say goodbye. What do you
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: need to say good bye to me?
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: For?
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: In my mind, I'm thinking you're about to come in
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: there and kick my fucking casket over or not took
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: the ashes and throw them in the air or some shit,
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: or take and put them in your hand and blow
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: them bitches, Like, I don't know what your intentions are.
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: So if me and my sister who I had a
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: good relationship with, asked me not to allow you there,
• 37:17
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to allow you there. My question is
• 37:19
  Speaker 4: I'm wondering whether they didn't Really she didn't mention parents,
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: but I'm wondering how the parents felt about that, or
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: if she gave this Because for how to give the
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: sister the wishes, it had to be a specific reason,
• 37:27
  Speaker 4: and she gave them wishes to the sisters are gone
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: to for something.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: Sister, the person who was in charge of setting up
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: the funeral making it right.
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, she was her power of attorney or her executive,
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: her will, her estate or whatever else. You are not
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: wrong for honoring your sister's wishes. And I'm not going
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: to say that your brother is wrong for coming to
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: say goodbye. Maybe he had some kind of instant regret,
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: but sometimes it is too late, you know what, It
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: is too late. You just had to go make peace
• 37:56
  Speaker 4: with it in a different way.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: When yo, the the thing that the thing that upset
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: me is when I die. That's when that's when you
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: feel some kind of way like that's when that's when
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: you really that's when you want to do it, like.
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: Give me my flowers while I'm here. You love me now.
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: Ke Keith's Graham don't come following all.
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: My kid his grandmother past past when she was when
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: she was young, and the kids they know, they would
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: tell me, you know, they're her, and the sisters always
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: tell me, like the story like her uncle came up
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: from Virginia and when once he came up and this
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: nigga or this niggas going up and down, fucking up
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: and down fucking North Avenue, like oh my god, they
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: done took my mom. And it's like, why you're doing
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: all of that? And then it's like, yo, that guilt
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: is right. That guilt kills you to eat you alive.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: It's like yo, even and and it's funny to me
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: because it's like that's what that's what I feel like.
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: That's what I feel like going on, Like the brother,
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: like the brother trying to show up and the brother
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: trying to be a part of it. But it's like, yo,
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: she tried to reach out, do you and yo, you
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: and it's like you blew it off every time. And
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: maybe you blew it off because you felt like she
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: was always going to be there, but you knew she
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: was said you knew, and you still and then it's
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: like my wine promised for none of us.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: But I look at it to pay you back off
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: of what you said, and you you made me think
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: of this. If she respected your wishes, and even though
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: she continued to make the effort to reach out and
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: express her interest to wanting to reconnect, she didn't impose
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: herself onto him. If she respected your wishes in life,
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: you need to respect her wishes and death agreed, like
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: you said, maybe he had to come to Jesus moment
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: or he degreed. H it hit him after she passed,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: and it's sometimes it does happen. But I feel like
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: in that instance, if she tried and you rebuked all her,
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: all her efforts to reconnect and make amends with you,
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: you got to live with it. You gotta live with that.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: That's that's his cross to bath for the rest of
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: his life. But also you at this moment, nobody can
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: Nobody saying you can't go to the cemetery on your
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: own after the fact and try to talk to it.
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: But for the cemetery, for the the funeral, herself wishes
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: for you, for you to not be at the ceremony.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: You gotta accept that.
• 40:05
  Speaker 4: Period when you can't go to the cemetery because you
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: got cremated. So well, yeah, better sit down and have
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: come to Jesus moment. I remember being told to write
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: a letter and didn't burn it.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: Or go to your parents' house with which they keep
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: a little bit of the ashes of your sister's house
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: and have a conversation with the ashes and let that
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: be that say a little prayer and you know, but
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: I mean, you gotta respect the wishes that upset because.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: I know, I know you that's what.
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: That's what they write it and burn it will rip
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: it up.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Ashes.
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: Maybe you can keep the ashes from that.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: That's the episode title, Q and A Ashes to ashes.
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: Never got find to find We had to find the
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: song that got something to do with fire As I
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: walked through the valley and take no, I say, we
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: do fire by Ohio plates, But do.
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: We use that rat for something else? Hold on, we
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: did fire yourself?
• 41:14
  Speaker 4: Got about fire yourself? I forgot about her something I
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: was gonna say girl on fire by at least, but
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: they say that we're talking about somebody being cremated, we
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: probably shouldn't use said yeah something that's oh, let's use
• 41:29
  Speaker 4: I should let it burn.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: No, think of something, keep going, keep going, we'll think
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: of something. Jesus not.
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: It's all jokes. It's all jokes. It's all jokes. It's
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: not about the leady being cremated. I was talking about
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: the letter. Sorry, it's all jokes, all right, Next question,
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: staying on? Am I asshole? Am I an asshole for
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: refusing to spend my savings to bail my sibling out
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: of debt? No? No, you're not. No, you're not say
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: it again. Am I the asshole for refusing to spend
• 42:05
  Speaker 4: my savings to bail my sibling out of.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: The question.
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: My siblings recently approached me axing for financial help. Apparently
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: they wreaked up a ton of debt over the past
• 42:19
  Speaker 4: few years from emergency purchases and lifestyle choices. They've been
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: struggling to manage it, and now it's at a breaking
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: point where creditors are contacting them NonStop. I've been careful
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: with my money, working hard and saving for years to
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: build up a bit of a safety net for myself.
• 42:35
  Speaker 4: I'm not rolling in cash, but I've got enough set
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: aside to feel secure. When my sibling asked me to help,
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: they weren't looking for a small loan. They wanted me
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: to clear out nearly all of my savings to cover
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: their debt. They argue that family should help each other
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: and implied that I was selfish for not wanting to
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: help them get out of this mess. Bitch called me, no,
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: I ain't finished, call me shellfish, the selfish bitch. I
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: don't give a fuck fuck that. I tried suggesting other opinions. Sorry, y'all,
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: I am dyslexic today. I tried suggesting other options, like
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: talking to a financial advisor or consulting consolidating that that,
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: but they brushed those off, saying they take too long
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: and that I was their only real option. They even
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: got my parents involved, who are now pressuring me, saying
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: that family is more important than money and that I
• 43:32
  Speaker 4: should do this because I'm the responsible one. That was
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: my question. I feel for my sibling, and I understand
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: that they're in a tough spot, but it doesn't feel
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: fair to me to sacrifice everything I've worked hard for,
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: especially when I had nothing to do with their financial choices.
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: Now I'm being called heartless and cold by my family,
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: and I'm starting to wonder if I'm being selfish for
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: holding them to my savings. Am I the asshole for
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: refusing to use my savings to bail out my sibling?
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: Ye? Absolutely the fuck fuck no?
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: Who didn't have a.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: And in an emergency on your part? That's not constitute
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: on mine? Bitch. I didn't rape, I didn't build this
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: debt up. I didn't make horrible financial decisions. It is
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: not my job to bail out another adult from the
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: mess they made drowning your debt, file for bankruptcy. Fuck you,
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: and fuck mommy and daddy.
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna what he said, the late great, the late
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: great Burning Max said, you should have called me today
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: after not? When not? When not? When you like you
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: knee deep and the ship.
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: It's one thing to ask about one hundred dollars need
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: to cut my savings account to.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: Help you pay off the debt?
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: Pay off the debt that you didn't courage?
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: Now?
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Is this a loan? Am I just wassed to give
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: you the money and just say, oh, well, I guess
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: I gotta start saving.
• 44:49
  Speaker 4: Tell you it's alone. They'll tell you it's alone in
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: a minute. Hell, and then a month goes by, and
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: two months go by, and six months go by.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: No, here's the litmus test. If you were in a
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: bind or in a financial emergency, would this person come
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: through for you and no questions asked.
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: That's a lesson that I had to learn bailing folks out.
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: I've done it. I've given people what I did not have,
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: and they always tell you not to loan what you
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: cannot afford to lose. You are not the so mommy
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: and daddy doesn't go take a loan out and help them.
• 45:19
  Speaker 4: If the family supposed to help family, that that's one
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: of I hate. I hate that when people say, that's
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: still your family. Family supposed to look out for family. Okay,
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: well you look out for them, then you give them
• 45:30
  Speaker 4: your heart earned coins that you I made sacrifices and
• 45:34
  Speaker 4: better financial decisions, and then you did. And now I'm
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: supposed to step in and help you. Absolutely not. You
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: better file for bankruptcy.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: You better go next month.
• 45:45
  Speaker 4: I don't know. You better eat beans and franks, And
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: I ain't talking about the good franks. I'm talking about
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: them chicken oot dogs. The one says a dollar, they
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: say on dollar.
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: Try not the not the not the multi medium.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: They taste like struggle.
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: Oh god, absolutely not.
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: No, I am not giving you the money that I
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: worked hard to save because you fucked up.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: No, no, absolutely not. An emergency on your part does
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: not constitute one on mine. Facts, you ran that debt up, bitch,
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: you paid off. Fact, it's not my job to bail
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: you out of a mess you created. Agreed, because then
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: I give you my savings, and then what happens if
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: I have an emergency?
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: Exactly now my money is gone, and.
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: Now I try to pour the same logic on you
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: both Family helped family, Well, sorry, family, I ain't got it.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: Girl pal saying yeah, oh no, but what's so what
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: you about to do? M hmm because my money, my
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: money's at my bank account. So I got my savings
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: because I saved, so that you ain't going good luck.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: Hopefully they cut you a little break or something.
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: I don't know to tell you, show me. I don't
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: know to tell you, like I don't know tell you. Sorry,
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: Oh well.
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: You'll be all right.
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: It's it's well, it's terrible. I mean, it's terrible.
• 47:06
  Speaker 4: What's you the best?
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: I mean, it is a terrible.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna wait with you, like.
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: For me, for me on Like I don't like that ship.
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: I don't like I don't like that.
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: Spelled people out before. I've been there, done that, got
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: the T shirt and the stickers in the PTSD. No,
• 47:22
  Speaker 4: absolutely not. No, you're not wrong. You're not the ass whole.
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I hate it because I mean branding right, Or
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: if I if I needed you, if I needed you,
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: if I needed you, would you would you like? Can
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: I come higher let you for the same ship or
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: is this a loan because if it is, if you're
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: telling me this alone, bitch, we gotta get We gotta
• 47:40
  Speaker 3: get some ship in writing with.
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: A notary and you can't pay me back with your
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: income Texas. And I'm gonna put something in there said,
• 47:47
  Speaker 4: don't never never never let somebody pay that. But you
• 47:49
  Speaker 4: ain't come text because you ain't never gonna see it.
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: And I'm gonna be all the way real. And if
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: you can't pay that ship back, you're paying me back interest.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna go to the highest rated interest I can
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: go to you. No, you're not the asshole they are.
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: Next question, going back to six Brown Chicks. Dwan was
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: engaged to my younger cousin that's a fuck boy name.
• 48:15
  Speaker 4: We met at our family reunion several years ago. We
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: fucked for months. I told him I'm a wife, not
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: a side chick, and he left my cousin for me.
• 48:23
  Speaker 4: When we got engaged, my drama queen cousin tried to
• 48:25
  Speaker 4: commit suicide. This has caused a huge split in my family.
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: I married Dwan and we have three kids. We were
• 48:34
  Speaker 4: meant to be. I'm a thick woman and I'm proud
• 48:36
  Speaker 4: of it. I used to hit the gym three times
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: a week until I twisted my ankle. For a year,
• 48:40
  Speaker 4: I've been working from home, making Little Debbie zebra cake smoothies,
• 48:44
  Speaker 4: cooking buttered drinch, going mad burgers, and gaining weight like
• 48:47
  Speaker 4: a champ. I own that it's my fault. Dwan told
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: me he's not attracted to me anymore. He asked me
• 48:53
  Speaker 4: to join the gym with him, but I refuse. I'm
• 48:57
  Speaker 4: still the woman he married, no matter what I look like.
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: He was hell, so I cut him off too, not
• 49:01
  Speaker 4: that he was asking for it. Six months into my
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: sex strike, I went to the gym to make amends
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: with my husband and improved my health physical appearance. I
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: was completing the membership application when my husband Duan emerged
• 49:17
  Speaker 4: from the locker room and a young booty enhanced female
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: was waiting on him. Dwan was adjusting his print and
• 49:23
  Speaker 4: the female was blushing like a schoolgirl in love. I Shouteddwan,
• 49:27
  Speaker 4: name him, what are you doing here? Louts a shout
• 49:31
  Speaker 4: in the name called ensued where U should outside with?
• 49:34
  Speaker 4: Dwan said, you forced me to see someone else. He
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: has apologized. We're in counseling. D One says, for the
• 49:40
  Speaker 4: sake of our marriage and our kids, we shouldn't divorce,
• 49:42
  Speaker 4: and I need to accept his decisions to see other women.
• 49:44
  Speaker 4: I believe he just opened our marriage, and I think
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: that gives me options to write what to do, Fight
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: for him or let it go, ma'am.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: Let it go, Let it go.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: Stop fucking with these fucks niggas. Hope.
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: This is another example of you getting what you deserved
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: because he was with your cousin and you decided to
• 50:06
  Speaker 4: fuck on him, and not only let you fuck on him,
• 50:09
  Speaker 4: but then he left the cousin to be with you.
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: Always remember that when you are upgraded from side chick
• 50:14
  Speaker 4: to main chick that just open you because you married
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: him and gave him babies, that he was going to
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: do right by you. It was nothing special about you
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: that made him leave the cousin for you. He probably
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: saw some stupidity or some shit in you that he
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: can get away with stuff with you that he couldn't
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: get away with the cousin. The fact that you called
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: your cousin a drive and Conene was trying to underlive
• 50:32
  Speaker 4: herself it's bull right. I hope that the cousin is
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: thriving and doing much much, much, much much much better
• 50:39
  Speaker 4: than you, big mama.
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: And yeah, oh shit, I just thought about something.
• 50:45
  Speaker 4: And just because he opened the marriage on his end
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: don't mean it's open on your. And I bet you
• 50:49
  Speaker 4: if you go and told him you humping on somebody else,
• 50:51
  Speaker 4: he gonna drop you as like a bad habit. Uh So, yeah, No,
• 50:56
  Speaker 4: I don't feel bad for you. You got what you deserved. Sorry,
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: So what I but a zebra cake smoothie man who
• 51:03
  Speaker 4: thinks of ship like that?
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: A zebra cake smoothie when they tell because why when
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: they tell you that, like Brandon said, Yo, when you
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: you just said you move up from the man from
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: from a side to a main dish. He still needs
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: his mac and cheese to go with that. You feel me,
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: and it's like mm hmm, that's what happens. That's what happens.
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: When I around and find out, dude, they take it
• 51:31
  Speaker 3: back on how you get him and how you lose them.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: Well, that part, that's all I got.
• 51:37
  Speaker 4: Next, that's it.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 51:40
  Speaker 4: No, No, that was it for that question. Okay, I
• 51:43
  Speaker 4: say that's different. Staying on six brown Chicks. Two years ago,
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: I went on a date with this super nerdy guy
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: from work because he kept offering to take me to
• 51:53
  Speaker 4: dinner and I was hungry. He works in it, he
• 51:57
  Speaker 4: has money, but he's not my type, not at all.
• 52:00
  Speaker 4: He took me to this fancy spider he's players. On dinner,
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: I listened to him talk about work, but I didn't
• 52:05
  Speaker 4: talk much because I was eating. Also, I made eye
• 52:09
  Speaker 4: contact with a sexy guy sitting across from us at
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: the bar. My date went to the bathroom. Sexy guy
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: approached me and said, join me for dessert, so I
• 52:18
  Speaker 4: left with him. I never did anything like that before.
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: Best late ever, the following Monday, I apologized to my
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: coworker and told him I had an allergic reaction to
• 52:28
  Speaker 4: dinner and had to leave. My coworker said, I know
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: where you went. He's my friend and you failed the
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: character tized. I felt that shit, but whatever. A few
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: months later it guide dates the new girl at work,
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: flowers on her desk, lunch deliveries, cute private conversations, and meetings.
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: One day we hit a huge storm. I watched him
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: fetch her car and pull up to the front door
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: so she didn't have to walk in the rain. He's
• 52:53
  Speaker 4: giving her a soft life. I deserve this. He's dressing
• 52:56
  Speaker 4: better and looking better. They had an engagement party. I
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: wasn't invited. Wedding plans are set. Other co workers are invited,
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: but not me. Here's the thing I've grown since that
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: night we went out, and I see what a good
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: man I could have had. How did I get back?
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: How do I get back with him before he gets
• 53:14
  Speaker 4: married to this girl he chose me first. I know
• 53:16
  Speaker 4: he still wants me. Advice, girl, go ahead.
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: What is the delusional fuck? If the man is on
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: the verge of marrying somebody, that means he's in a relationship.
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: Clearly so and your whore.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: Y'all know that gift for Darren Fleet. When he's at
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: the bar and he sees people over in the corner door.
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: Something he looks like, who chav. I don't know if
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: this is true or not, but.
• 53:57
  Speaker 4: Who cham I hope so, ma'am, that's what you get
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: for judging the book bos cover. First of all. That's
• 54:06
  Speaker 4: what you get for trying to use that man for
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: a free meal. Second of all. And now he found
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: somebody who truly liked him, wanted to go. He truly
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: truly likes him, and he sees value in this woman.
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: But that's how it starts. They and it's not just
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: many and women, it's relationships in general. You may not
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: want somebody because you don't think they can meet your
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: standards or do for you, but when you see them
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: treating somebody the way you just think you deserve to
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: be treated because you passed on them. They move on
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: to the next person, but you see them making the
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: other person happy. They you know, and they seemingly in
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: a good space. Now you want to try to circle back. No,
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: ain't no take back seas bitch.
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: Now you're sitting there looking stupid, but your dumb ass,
• 54:50
  Speaker 4: and you're talking about I deserve this. No you don't
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: I put I put my brain and hat on. You
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: showed him exactly who you are.
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: So no, no, no, no, no, I'm talking about I just put
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: my brain and head on. You know how you like
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: take the pick the mic up and he takes off.
• 55:14
  Speaker 4: I can't stand you bitches.
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: I cannot stand women like you who just use a
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: nigga for a meal. If a nigga say like, let's
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: go get something to eat, and you'd be like okay,
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: and then you turn around and then it's like this
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: nigga went all out for you. They went to a
• 55:34
  Speaker 3: nice restaurant, pulled off all the stops just to you
• 55:37
  Speaker 3: be like, thanks for the snack.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: Got the song should on the first date?
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: He should have he should have let you eat good
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: in the neighborhood on the first day.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: God damn, I got the episode the song fist. Episode
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: got to it's gone a boy, Jay Jackson.
• 55:53
  Speaker 4: There we go that a lot. You did see.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: Bitch you dizzy bitch, dizzy bitch.
• 56:03
  Speaker 3: That's the problem. But he was showing interest in you,
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: and he clearly was talking to you, and you was talking.
• 56:08
  Speaker 3: You was listening to him in the conversation, but you
• 56:10
  Speaker 3: was only listening so you can get that meal, and
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: then right after you ate and sending this niggas about
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: to pay for the check you ran off. I'm so
• 56:18
  Speaker 3: sorry you didn't shut up.
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: Oh well, good luck, good luck to your co workers.
• 56:25
  Speaker 4: And now I wish nothing but the best.
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: Congratulations, no nuptials rather than nuptials, and I wish you
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: all a long, safe, happy, homeless marriage.
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: And beautiful babies, beautiful healthy babies. Stupid while she sit
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: over there, and I hope she started collecting cats.
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: Fuck you girl standing outside, standing outside of the wedding
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: chapel and the rain, talking about how doesn't beauty.
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: You're gonna try to keep doing? Come in there thinking
• 56:55
  Speaker 4: congratulations by Vesta.
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: Don't forget to write bitch? Are you happy? Fuck you?
• 57:04
  Speaker 4: Question? Yeah, this was going to be the second to
• 57:06
  Speaker 4: the last question. I was gonna be the last question.
• 57:09
  Speaker 4: Actually sorry, my bad. Yeah, okay, last question. I'm going
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: back to a. My asshole? Am I the asshole for
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: refusing to drop my ex husband's last name? I fifty
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: six female, divorced my husband two years ago after twenty
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: six years of marriage. We had four kids and the
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: split was amicable. He came out as gay and we
• 57:31
  Speaker 4: mutually agreed to part ways. Changing my name wasn't priority.
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: Updating these legal documents and bank accounts would be a
• 57:40
  Speaker 4: huge hassle. I still use his last name on official documents,
• 57:45
  Speaker 4: but go by my maiden name socially. Recently, he got
• 57:48
  Speaker 4: engaged to a wonderful guy. I've been supportive of their relationship,
• 57:51
  Speaker 4: but during my grandson's birthday party, my excellently ex if
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: i'd consider dropping his last name. His fiance chimed in,
• 58:00
  Speaker 4: saying it makes him uncomfortable that I still use it.
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: I was caught off guard and equally joked that unless
• 58:05
  Speaker 4: they want to spend hours in line at various government offices,
• 58:09
  Speaker 4: I wasn't going to change it. My ex didn't laugh.
• 58:12
  Speaker 4: He insisted it's about starting a new chapter and wants
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: me to move on. The whole situation felt bizarre. For
• 58:19
  Speaker 4: two years, it's never been an issue, and now they're
• 58:22
  Speaker 4: teaming up on me. After the party, my ex called
• 58:26
  Speaker 4: and argued that keeping his name makes it hard for
• 58:29
  Speaker 4: his fiancee to feel like they're starting a fresh life.
• 58:32
  Speaker 4: I counted that our kids still use the same name,
• 58:34
  Speaker 4: and it would feel strange for me to be the
• 58:37
  Speaker 4: odd one out. Were really hurt was learning from my
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: youngest son that his fiance feels threatened by my name,
• 58:43
  Speaker 4: assuming I'm clinging to some claim on my axe. I
• 58:46
  Speaker 4: made it clear I have zero interest in rekindling anything,
• 58:49
  Speaker 4: but it feels like I'm being pressured to erase a
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: part of my identity. My ex admitted his fiance is
• 58:54
  Speaker 4: uncomfortable because he sees me keeping the name as a
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: power play golf for a while. I feel like I'm
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: caught but between trying to keep peace and being forced
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: into something just because his fiance is insecure. They want
• 59:05
  Speaker 4: me to go through the hats who have changed and
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: everything for their comfort. I told my ex that I'll
• 59:09
  Speaker 4: consider it later, maybe after they're married and settle. But
• 59:11
  Speaker 4: now he's furious, saying that I'm being petty and selfish.
• 59:14
  Speaker 4: Call me petty the bell bitch because I ain't doing
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: what I want to do. My ex thinks that I
• 59:19
  Speaker 4: should stand my ground, but my kids are divided. One
• 59:22
  Speaker 4: things I should just give in to keep the peace,
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: while the other agrees that it's ridiculous to change it
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: just because his fiancee feels insecure. I'm frustrated. I don't
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: see why I name on some legal documents. Is such
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: a big deal, but they're making me feel like the villain.
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: So am I the asshole for refusing to drop my
• 59:37
  Speaker 4: ex husband's last name even though he's getting remarried.
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: No?
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: Again, So I've seen this story before, but it was
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: a man. It was a woman with her ex husband,
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: and the new younger girlfriend felt the type of way
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: about the ex wives or having a name. No, I
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: feel like at this point, they were married for several years,
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: they have children. A lot of when a lot of
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: women get divorced, they want to retain the same last
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: name as their children, especially if you were married to
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 2: somebody for years and years and you've built a professional life,
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: has you has your name on your advocations in that work,
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: and you know you've gone ten, twenty thirty years under
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: one last name, what would be the point of changing
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: it back?
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: You are to Shana Smith.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: God, damn it.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: I've been there. I've been Smith. I've been Smith for
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: twenty six years.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 4: She used to go back to joints.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 7: I asked that question to people before, like like like,
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 7: for example, for example, unless you my mother and is
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 7: like yo, everything asks out, everything ain't And.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 4: Some people do they don't want to go over. They
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: don't want no connection to that person more especially if
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 4: they don't have any children anything together.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: There.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 4: I get that, But a lot of women do you
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 4: keep the last name because of their kids. I'll give
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: you an example, a real one in a one that
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 4: I've seen on TV. So a real example is Andrea Kelly.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 4: She's still going by Kelly because and she everybody. People
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 4: always ask her, oh, you just keeping their name because
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 4: of who you were married to. You, if you was
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 4: married to a regular person, you wouldn't have kept the
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 4: last name. Maybe that's true, maybe it's not. But a
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: lot of people are concerned about her. People their last
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: name because she's because the who it's attached to. You,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 4: And I get that. I probably would have changed my name.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 4: I ain't gonna hold you. I wouldn't want no dealings
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 4: with him. But again, her children do have that last name,
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 4: even though they had grown. Now that's her children's last name.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 4: I got a cousin her husband divorce. Her husband the divorce,
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 4: she never changed her last name, and she said her
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: reason was, even though their son is grown, she kept
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 4: the last name because it's been her last name for
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 4: so many years. That's still her son's last name if
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 4: she wanted to keep their last name. She earned the
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 4: last name. She didn't destroy her marriage. He did so right.
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 4: I earned that name. I worked too hard for it.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 4: I'm keeping my name. She had every right to do that.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: I was watching if anybody ever watched all of us
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: back in the day with Dwayne Martin and Lisa Ray
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 4: and Alis Niel on it. And she kept her last
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 4: name after her and Dwayne Martin's Lisa Ray's character kept
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 4: her last name after her and Dwayne Martin's character got divorced.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 4: And when his current fiance asked her why she still
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 4: signed that, I think she has signed something in her place,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: because she forgot to sign something and she signed it
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: with her maid name. And she said, oh, I just
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: assumed you were going back to your maid name. She said,
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: why would you assume that? She said, I'm keeping that
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 4: name because that's my son's last name, and I don't
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: want nobody questioned her brother. I'm his mother because I'm
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 4: signing a different last name. I call through it all
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: the time with my son. My son got his father's
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 4: last name.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 4: And when they send me messages to school and stuff,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 4: they referring to me, it is you know my son's
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 4: last name, because so they automately assume that that you know,
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 4: we hit the same last name, but we don't. But
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to say that. I can't say what
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 4: I would have done if I had married his father,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: if I would have changed my name back to my
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 4: maid name. More than like that, I probably would hyphenate
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: him damn name anyway, you know what I'm saying. I
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 4: know people did that. My cousin just got married. She
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 4: hyphenated her name. Some people do that so professional reasons,
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 4: some for other reasons.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: I didn't. I just feel like this person, this to
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: me is a red flag because again I could see
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: if we just got divorced, or the person in their
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: spots got divorced a year ago, and you hopping on
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: the back end like whatever by this person may potentially
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: for some type of way. But again, if they divorced
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: for several years and they have amicable, it was amicable,
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: didn have a choice because he didn't want right.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 4: But if if.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: You can't force a person to change their name if
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: they don't want.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 3: To, Yeah, I find I find it. I mean to
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 3: find it fucked up. It is jo like what you
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: think it's a power play.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 2: For what power?
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 3: And what? What?
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: What person think about what you said? Now, I would
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: make them literally sit here and think power play for
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: what what do I gain from having this last name?
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: Your last name is not Vanderbilt. You're in a Kardashian right,
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 2: What do I gain from having Jones as a last name?
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 4: You gotta baby be happy. I don't want them, right,
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 4: he's yours.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: And then I would have posed the question, So I'm
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: not changing my last name. But if I tell you
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: I'm not changing it, now what You're not gonna marry
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: because of me? A person who was a non factor
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: and would be here either whether or not you were
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: still here's around with the same last name as you,
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: while you man, why are you insecure?
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 3: Sis?
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 4: That's your man, your man, your man.
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: I don't want them there because if I did, I
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: still have I still haven't and would and did, and
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: I'd still be either way, I'll still be indipicdure with
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: the same last name as him, and my children so
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: and would. So now what you want, but you.
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 4: Can't.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: You can't deal with people in their insecurities because when
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: you attempt to show them logic or show them why
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: they're thinking it's flawed and say then what they have meltdowns?
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, I can't believe this.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 4: You're such a petty, selfish me. You're jealous, you want
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 4: my life, you don't even want your life. I wanted
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 4: for face.
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: Cairl Pam saying barefoot anything else? Nope, anything else, And
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: I hope.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 3: You stand on. Hope you stuck on the little badfoot bitch.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 4: I've done that in the middle of the night. Woke
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 4: me straight up out my sleep.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: But that would be a kid. That would be funniest shipping,
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: like the kid's version of soft they ever did one,
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: instead of falling to a pit of needles.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 4: To be a legos Marla. Ways, if you listening, put
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 4: that in a scary movie and give us credit for it.
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: If they put On Warwick in scary movie six, I ain't.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 4: Gonna be no good, no good, because when I seen
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 4: that tweet almost peed on myself. I said, d on,
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 4: this is the kind of auntie I would want to
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 4: hang out with. She seemed like she's fun. I like her.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 4: She seems like she sit there and sit her yet
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 4: and make comments and you sit there like Auntie. What
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 4: I said, listen, if y'all hear this, I said, little prayer.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: We need, we need d On Warwick, we need Jane Hubert,
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 3: we need like we need, and Jennifer Lewis and of
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 3: course Jennifer Lewis.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 4: That's everybody's favorite Auntie, Auntie Jennifer. If you listening, I
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 4: want to meet you in person.
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 3: Just just just put them in.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: Make them O L G and scary movie.
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  Speaker 2: If you think about it, one thing, listen, let me
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  Speaker 2: finish one thing I'm thinking of. They could legitimately relaunched
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  Speaker 2: the Golden Girls.
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  Speaker 4: That's what he's about to say.
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  Speaker 2: Janet Hubert with Janet Hubert, Jennifer Lewis, h who who
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  Speaker 2: played basically Will's mothers and aunt from Freshman's Belly.
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  Speaker 4: So Jenney Hubertt, Jennifer Lewis.
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  Speaker 2: His mother who was also on Sholer VI.
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  Speaker 4: VI.
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  Speaker 2: But what was her Her face is Ernie Watson. That's
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  Speaker 2: Ernie Watson. And then the other aunt Charlene I forget
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  Speaker 2: her real name, who was married. She's made Frank the
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  Speaker 2: White Yeah. Yeah, but they did Golden Girls. Those four
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  Speaker 2: they already have chemistry because they worked.
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  Speaker 3: Together and then they don't have them and had them
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  Speaker 3: when to enter the room.
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  Speaker 4: I would love to see a black version of Girl.
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  Speaker 4: That would be absolutely hilarious.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I just got a picture of Golden Girlfriends in
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  Speaker 2: my in my head doing the walk like they did
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  Speaker 2: in the in the My Golden Girl for me, We're doing,
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  Speaker 2: We're done, We're done Golden Girlfriends.
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  Speaker 4: That would be so fucking awesome.
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  Speaker 2: talk about that, you know.
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  Speaker 4: Next week for the child and the final episode next week.
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  Speaker 2: The final episode, Rapper is the Light twenty twenty four
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  Speaker 2: will be here next week as we prepared to wrap
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  Speaker 2: up our final episode or two, depending on how long
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  Speaker 2: we talking run our mouths for the year. So with
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  Speaker 2: that being said, Aaron and Shawn, I appreciate your niggas.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks for a good birthday. Shoutouts again again when we
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 4: do it the first time? Oh yeah, I thought I
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  Speaker 4: did at the beginning. I ain't doing oops anyway, Happy
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 4: birthday to my first child, my my little brother. Brian
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  Speaker 4: birthday is on the sixth, and happy birthday to our
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 4: homie show. Her birthday is on the eighth birthday. Shall
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  Speaker 4: she was on go back and listen to the episode
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  Speaker 4: parts and she was on No Parts off and Ju
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  Speaker 4: and Brian. Brian has been in the background or on
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  Speaker 4: an episode or two. Okay, happy birthday, y'all. Love y'all know.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: Maybe shall we be back for No Parts twenty twenty five?
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 4: She already says she's coming back.
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 2: We're gonna turn that into a series.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 4: Already said.
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  Speaker 3: Spelled backwards.
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  Speaker 4: It's no parts.
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  Speaker 2: With that being said, we thank y'all for listening. We
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 2: love y'all. Happy December, Happy sagittary season, my niggas, it
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 2: is the best season of y'all. Don't be a hate
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: all your life for ago. We thank y'all for listening,
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: We love y'all, and we will be back next week
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: with our final episode or two for the year. Anything
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 2: else else saying no, okay, great, not trying to breathe
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: like a serial killer on into the mic.
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 4: Oh lord, is that it? I know you did.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: But but that being said, we thank y'all for listening.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: We love y'all. We will see y'all, or rather talk
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: to y'all next week for the wrap up. Be easy
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: to be safe and see y'all. Then, bye, y'all.
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 4: Bye.
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: The festive titties t tis holiday titties, tintal titties, Christmas light.
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 4: Titties, icicle titties because it's cold outside.
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  Speaker 2: Broke titties, Oh don't forget them, bunch nips, Bye y'all.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 4: Five