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You've Got Decisions: Platonic Intimacy · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 3: But oh yeah, no, I.
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  Speaker 2: The listener puts the subjects mommy wants more.
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  Speaker 3: Hi. I've been a part of the horre Hive since
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  Speaker 3: twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 2: I love y'all and am so grateful for the safe
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  Speaker 2: conversations y'all have shared. Being a listener to sexually liberating
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  Speaker 2: conversations in my early twenties was so necessary.
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  Speaker 3: I am very grateful for this space.
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  Speaker 2: And have always wanted to submit some homemail, and here.
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  Speaker 3: It is, after all this time.
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  Speaker 2: I hope y'all are able to read this and help
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  Speaker 2: a young mama Sita out. So I am a twenty
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  Speaker 2: six year old with a two year old and I'm
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  Speaker 2: still with my baby daddy. I recently went on a
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  Speaker 2: solo five day trip to New York with some good friends.
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  Speaker 2: It was so special and perfect. Although it was my
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  Speaker 2: two girlfriends and one guy. Best friend, I spent the
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  Speaker 2: majority of the time with him let's call him go No.
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  Speaker 2: Me and Gon spent every day together and we even
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  Speaker 2: shared a bed. We sent the attention of platonic Cuddling
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  Speaker 2: girl and it felt really sweet. He is good friends
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  Speaker 2: with my baby daddy. Let's call him DJ girl.
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  Speaker 3: What are we doing?
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  Speaker 1: Wait a minute, Mommy needs some what What the fuck
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  Speaker 1: was this?
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  Speaker 3: Mama wants more, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hold you. Sometimes I feel like y'all
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  Speaker 1: might think these are fake because they're crazy, and I
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  Speaker 1: agree with you.
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  Speaker 3: Bro.
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  Speaker 2: The emails there and I'm not gonna tell you your government name,
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  Speaker 2: because that's there too. Anyways, this he is good friends
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  Speaker 2: with my baby daddy, and we gonna call the baby
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  Speaker 2: daddy DJ so go No is like an uncle to
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  Speaker 2: our child, and we are close back home as well.
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  Speaker 2: But this trip felt different, bitch, maybe because you introduced cuddling.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we had the best time and definitely deepened
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  Speaker 2: our friendship. We stepped more into physical touch, but like respectfully,
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  Speaker 2: like leaning our heads on.
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  Speaker 3: Each other's shoulders on the train, or holding.
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  Speaker 2: Hands after a long night of clubbing and walking back
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  Speaker 2: to the house.
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  Speaker 1: Holding Oh bit, you were really felt.
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  Speaker 2: Really pure, and I was trying to step into how
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  Speaker 2: I would treat my girlfriends and show my love that way.
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  Speaker 2: I think we have so many conditioning around male and
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  Speaker 2: female connections that limit us from feeling safe and diving deeper.
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  Speaker 2: But there's something so healing about stepping into platonic intimacy
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  Speaker 2: with the opposite sex. I definitely can see where it
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  Speaker 2: could get tricky for a lot of people, though, if
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  Speaker 2: they take the sexualized conditioning too serious.
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  Speaker 3: Like uh, maybe me.
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  Speaker 2: So it was all innocent and very child like expressions
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  Speaker 2: of love until you fucking we all did Molly and
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  Speaker 2: went to Nowadays girl?
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  Speaker 3: What are you me? Do I know this girl? Weezy?
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  Speaker 2: I know you've had a night at Nowadays so good.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, I dance gray, that's what she wrote. Yeah
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  Speaker 3: she did write that. Oh but yeah, I danced so
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  Speaker 3: hard and sexy.
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  Speaker 2: It was like I was reclaiming my femininity and my
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  Speaker 2: body again.
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  Speaker 3: We were dancing all night, and at one point I
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  Speaker 3: ended up dancing with Gono.
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  Speaker 2: And when I say we were dancing, we were grinding.
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  Speaker 3: And dipping, hands on hips and all.
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  Speaker 2: It was really horny, but definitely because of the molly
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  Speaker 2: and just the sexy vibe of the club and music.
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  Speaker 3: It was so hot.
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  Speaker 2: I keep thinking about that night and how in sync
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  Speaker 2: our bodies became.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, this is where the.
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  Speaker 2: Platonic perspective started getting tricky for me.
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  Speaker 3: Nothing happened, and we've sent.
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  Speaker 2: And we've since had conversations about how we obviously want
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  Speaker 2: to stay friends and honor boundaries and respect my partner DJ,
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  Speaker 2: because we both love it respect. It was just a
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  Speaker 2: fun night with movement and drugs. When I came home,
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  Speaker 2: DJ felt so cold, going from a trip where everyone
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  Speaker 2: was loving so deeply, then coming home to him, the
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  Speaker 2: contrast was striking We talked about it, and he said
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  Speaker 2: he was feeling envious of go No and seeing us
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  Speaker 2: together through pictures just made him feel weird. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's valid, but we also wanted him to be there
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  Speaker 2: on the trip that he chose not to come on,
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  Speaker 2: so we all still went. I felt a little guilty,
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  Speaker 2: but as I've been sitting with it, I recognize that
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  Speaker 2: I haven't done anything wrong.
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  Speaker 3: Bitch, we'll get there, huh.
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  Speaker 2: I allowed love to flow through and it didn't cross boundaries,
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  Speaker 2: and conversations have and conversations have been had to eliminate
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  Speaker 2: any romanticism. But this whole experience just showed me how
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  Speaker 2: much I want to love on my people, and I
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  Speaker 2: want to dance freely, and essentially, I don't feel like
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  Speaker 2: I aden she's twenty six. I don't feel like I
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  Speaker 2: can without guilt because of the expectations that come with monogamy.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like this experience just awoke something in me
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  Speaker 2: that I'm confused about and would appreciate your perspectives. He
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  Speaker 2: has since become really insecure about my friendship with Goo,
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  Speaker 2: and it's been frustrated. It's been frustrating because I understand
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  Speaker 2: it's insecurity, but it also feels so fear based. I
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  Speaker 2: genuinely only want Gono as a friend, but his role
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  Speaker 2: sparked a lesson for me about what I feel I
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  Speaker 2: wanted my relationship. I feel trapped by monogamy, and I
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  Speaker 2: feel like my body and the way my love flows
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  Speaker 2: has to be channeled through a man's expectations of me.
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  Speaker 2: Do y'all have any advice on how to move through
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  Speaker 2: this and what steps I can take?
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to be selfish and make.
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  Speaker 2: Rash decisions, but I also don't want to be tied
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  Speaker 2: to something that feels like I have to push parts
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  Speaker 2: of myself down.
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  Speaker 3: Help. Okay, Sorry, Mandy, I know you don't like long emails,
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  Speaker 3: but I love y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for reading this far if you have,
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  Speaker 2: wishing y'all the best, and of course, she shared her
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  Speaker 2: ig for Wheezy, I'll give it to you later, Wheezy.
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  Speaker 1: Let me talk to you, young Molly girl. The phase
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  Speaker 1: that you're in right now gives non monogamous only because
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  Speaker 1: you don't really want to be in a relationship sometimes. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: when we're in this mode of partying and having fun,
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  Speaker 1: you made a comment about wanting to dance and express
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  Speaker 1: your love and blah blah blah. That actually doesn't give
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  Speaker 1: non monogamy to me. That gives non monogamy starts. You
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  Speaker 1: don't need to be out and want to exercise it.
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  Speaker 1: Non monogamy is thoughts that you could have sitting at home.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you could validate this, Mandy, but like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel non monogamous when I'm tempted. I feel
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  Speaker 1: non monogamous in my being right, Like I don't need
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  Speaker 1: to see a fine as a nigga outside to be like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe I'm no monogamist. That doesn't happen. What I think
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  Speaker 1: is happening is your mom. You've got, you know, things
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  Speaker 1: that make you feel tied down at home to where
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  Speaker 1: you want to be just so free and expressive. But
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  Speaker 1: that's single girl shit, because if you're not feeling it
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  Speaker 1: necessarily when you're at home. Here's some other things too
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  Speaker 1: that I want all the listeners to understand when it
• 9:39
  Speaker 1: comes to nominogamy. Your boredom as a mom or as
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  Speaker 1: a wife. If you're listening, boredom doesn't make you no monogamous. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Wanting to go out and party doesn't make you nominogamous.
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  Speaker 1: And a lack of sex in your life with your
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  Speaker 1: current partner doesn't make you nominogamous. These are things that
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  Speaker 1: kind of lack from your life. They are making you
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  Speaker 1: think no monogoure me could fix it. I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: you all the way, aren't. I'm just saying the instances
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  Speaker 1: you're bringing up don't coincide with how non monogamy works.
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  Speaker 1: So I think that because you're twenty six in a mom,
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  Speaker 1: you haven't had those years to fuck off and get
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  Speaker 1: fucked up and go to fucking nowadays and whatever, whereas
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  Speaker 1: a lot of us who didn't have kids early got to.
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  Speaker 1: So I think you're in a phase of needing to
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  Speaker 1: play around and have a good time while also respecting
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  Speaker 1: your relationships and wanting to respect yourself as whether that
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  Speaker 1: whatever that looks like as a mom. But what you're
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  Speaker 1: doing with his own boys so fucking.
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  Speaker 2: Wrong, I actually, and bitch, I'm gonna respectfully try not
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  Speaker 2: to read you ful phil oh me no though.
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  Speaker 3: Hear me out.
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  Speaker 2: You are lying to yourself, yep, and you are lying
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  Speaker 2: to your partner. And I say that because you did
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  Speaker 2: not introduce this as a woman who has a two
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  Speaker 2: year old with her partner or boyfriend. You started this
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  Speaker 2: and was like, I'm a mom, yep, and I'm still
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  Speaker 2: with the baby daddy. The way that you even referenced
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  Speaker 2: the baby daddy was interesting to me because it didn't
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  Speaker 2: seem like you were happy in your relationship. Another reason
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  Speaker 2: why I don't feel like you were happy in your
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  Speaker 2: relationship was because as soon as you got away with him,
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  Speaker 2: disrespecting the relationship that he has with this man that
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  Speaker 2: you're on a trip with, you chose intimacy, physical intimacy
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  Speaker 2: with another man, which makes me believe that you are
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  Speaker 2: lacking that at home. Thirdly, in this entire email, you
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  Speaker 2: referenced the conversations that you and Gono had the friend
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  Speaker 2: about how you're gonna not make this romanticize.
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  Speaker 3: I would love to know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, rather you if your daddy or your partner.
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  Speaker 2: Knows that you were cut up holding hands and sensually
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  Speaker 2: bumping and grinding with his cousin.
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  Speaker 1: Terrible, terrible, terrible, Like.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like you said that he was jealous, because.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, there were cousins, bro, that says cousin.
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  Speaker 2: God, I forgot you mentioned that he was cold because
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  Speaker 2: of the pictures and because he didn't attend the trip.
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  Speaker 2: You did not say, hey babe. While I was on
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  Speaker 2: this trip, Me and your cousin cuddled, Hey babe. While
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  Speaker 2: I was on this trip, Me and your cousin held hands,
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  Speaker 2: Hey babe. On this trip, I also was bumping and
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  Speaker 2: grinding on your cousin and it felt a little less platonic,
• 12:44
  Speaker 2: but we didn't take it all the way. So your
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: idea of non monogamy, I also think is semming from
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  Speaker 2: the fact. Did you know you've actually crossed the boundary
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  Speaker 2: and pretty much cheated sit with if you would be
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  Speaker 2: okay if your baby daddy did this with your cousin.
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  Speaker 2: Is your baby daddy allowed to platonically cuddle with a bit?
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  Speaker 3: Is your.
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  Speaker 2: To hold hands and party and grind and do all
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  Speaker 2: the physical platonic intimate moments you had with his cousin.
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  Speaker 2: Would you feel betrayed to find out he did that
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  Speaker 2: with another woman.
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  Speaker 1: Here's also the thing I'm forgetting that her woman by
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  Speaker 1: throwing me in your face. I also want to bring
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  Speaker 1: up something about nominogamy. So when I jumped and said
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: when with this release, we'll post this because I want
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  Speaker 1: to bring up something that happened last night that's related
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: to this engagement. Okay, so if you all got to
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: see my Instagram today, you now know I'm engaged. Yay, cool,
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  Speaker 1: the post is out.
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  Speaker 3: Were great.
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  Speaker 1: I went to a dinner for Shanbooty last night.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: He is the new chief intimacy officer of a vibrator
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  Speaker 1: company called Plus one, and the dinner is for cousin
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  Speaker 1: poulitinan shout out shambooty love shampoodie. At the dinner, I'm
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: gonna text you who the girl was. Okay, there was
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  Speaker 1: another person at the dinner. You notice this, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, all eyes on her, blah blah blah, She's
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  Speaker 1: so hot. Okay, So I start talking to the girl
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  Speaker 1: and Cammy and Nina Parker were like, damn.
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  Speaker 3: Bitch, did you've been engaged for like seventy two hours?
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, so, I'm still excited and in
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  Speaker 1: love with him, Like what the fuck does this have
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  Speaker 1: to do? Like y'all act like I'm cheating because I'm
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  Speaker 1: having this moment with him body.
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  Speaker 3: And it's funny.
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  Speaker 1: Because when I got home, I called him and said.
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  Speaker 3: The same thing, and.
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  Speaker 1: I realized that was when my nominogamy really hit me.
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  Speaker 1: Because as I was leaving the dinner, I.
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  Speaker 3: Seen this nigga that was so far bady.
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  Speaker 1: It is so crazy too. He's like, have we met?
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  Speaker 1: We have never met. I was like, no, da da da.
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  Speaker 1: So then we shay and and I'm like, yo, I'm obsessed.
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  Speaker 1: Can't wait for this wedding. I can't wait for this
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  Speaker 1: moment in my life. I would have babies and live
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  Speaker 1: a halfway ever after and shit change. And that is
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  Speaker 1: at my highest point and peak of happiness. For you
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  Speaker 1: to consider non monogamy in moments of unhappiness, yep, you
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  Speaker 1: know you want to cheat. This is where we get
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: the Klay Thompson's This is where we get the niggas.
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  Speaker 3: It ain't there. We always talk about, oh maybe i'm pollamorus.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe this right.
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  Speaker 1: And so I just want to say this honorably for
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  Speaker 1: people that are monogamous that should just leave their partner.
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  Speaker 1: That's what makes it worse, besides the fact that you
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: be in trifling on some other shit. Do you bring
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: up nom moinogamy actually as an insult to all of
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  Speaker 1: us that are ethical about it.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Because That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: She left out like nothing in here says and I
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  Speaker 2: had to sit down with my partner about how intimate
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  Speaker 2: I was with his cousin. You didn't say that part,
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  Speaker 2: so like you're starting off this idea of nonminogamy, lying and.
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  Speaker 3: Distruthful to your partner. And I agree.
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  Speaker 2: I think that those intimate moments with his cousin, that
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  Speaker 2: physical touch is perhaps what you're lacking in your own relationship.
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  Speaker 3: I agree with that. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that this was probably not me and Mandy agree,
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  Speaker 1: but really I think it's just hurtful because low key.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I know you wrote in I know
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  Speaker 1: you're only twenty six, I know you've got a kid.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to drag you, but this is the
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  Speaker 1: shit that you making bities like us look bad.
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  Speaker 3: Bro. Well, no, let's be fair too.
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  Speaker 2: And I think I talked about this with the what
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  Speaker 2: you McCall it. We are now being introduced to these
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  Speaker 2: words in a way that you're just wanting to excuse
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  Speaker 2: your behavior and put it under an umbrella of something
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  Speaker 2: that sounds good. But you're going about it the wrong way,
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: the same way weasy you said, Clay, you can't sit
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  Speaker 2: here and say you think you're non monogamous after cheating.
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  Speaker 3: This is exactly what this listener did.
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  Speaker 2: You cross the boundary that in your mind you know
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  Speaker 2: you did, but now because it felt good and you
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  Speaker 2: liked it, although you didn't tell your partner, you're like,
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  Speaker 2: I want to feel this again. But it's probably because
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: you're just lacking something and you don't know how to
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: effectively communicate to your boyfriend that you're lacking this.
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  Speaker 3: But now you really can't communicate that you got it
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: from his cousin Braniel. True, I'm not gonna lie. My
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: advice would be to first be honest with him.
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  Speaker 1: This is very Jerry Springer by the way, Now this
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: is crazy. I saw a Ringmaster a few weeks ago,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: and I don't know if anyone ever saw the Jerry
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: Springer movie. Is so funny and cute. Not cute, it's ghetto.
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  Speaker 1: But this is very like I'm fucking flirting with my
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  Speaker 1: baby daddy's cousin, Like, are you crazy?
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  Speaker 3: Bitch? Talking about you? No monogamous?
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  Speaker 1: How can I practice this? But you think because we
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: both do Molly and go to nowadays, I'm on.
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  Speaker 3: Your snide yep, she do.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: When you guys write in and I want everyone to
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: understand this, and I mean this deeply. You bitches right
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: in and make me side with the man. What a
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: disappointment to my life in my career. You know you
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: got to be fucked up. Yeah, y'all know that's my job.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: That's my job. Decide with the man, y'all.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Mandy and Sarah font to not y'all bitch aside with
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: that's how you know?
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: You really right up here? Said Molly, went to nowadays,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: and how do I now? You're not gonna loop me
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: in with Sarah. Bruh, that's what we're not gonna do, bitch,
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: because I did not agree with a lot she's.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Oh no, I agreed with Sarah a few weeks ago.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: She's basically had a clip and I was like, I'll
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: see what she's saying. She was like posting swim souit
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: picks and stuff like that a woman in a relationship,
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: like it's for.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: The beach in the pool.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: You can't just be up in a bathroom like posting
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: your shit. I was like, I feel that, but then
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: they make you laugh. I put on a sportsbra and
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: a pair of underwear and I was like, damn, I'm
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: looking good, and I started taking picture in the patrol.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: You can't do that and then I have.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: I mean, you can send it to him, but yeah
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: you can, I mean, but that's but you know what
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: you can't bit you can't if your nigga says it
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: doesn't bother him, fuck the internet, be like my nigga,
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: don't he don't mind.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: But it's like the message you But what message can
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: I send?
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: Bro? I'm mean in an E and M relationship where
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: I don't fuck with his cousin. How about that?
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Anyways, Hopefully this helped. I think you need to talk
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: to him. You need to set boundaries. But before you
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: even do that, you have to be real with yourself
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: if this is a relationship that's fulfilling, because as long.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: As it's not, non monogamy is not the answer.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: You need to make sure that this is a healthy
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: relationship before introducing another person or other people within this dynamic.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Hope this helps.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: Hope you look more into the definitions of these words
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: and understand that you cheated this platonic intimacy that made
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: you and the cousin have to halt. The romanticized elements
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: of this means that it went too much. You did
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: too much.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Anyways, and keep in mind everyone else that's listening to
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: this episode has the exact same opinion as us, so
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: you don't need to write it anywhere else. Don't even
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: tell a friend be embarrassed.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: Anyways, if you want to send your letter, and send
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: it to decisions pod at gmail dot com. Again, thank
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: you everyone who showed up to the one night only
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: show last week. We enjoyed seeing the horb. It was
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: a reunion babe, and uh, thank you guys so much
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: until next time, see you next Wednesday.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: Hum Day plus says hope.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Love y'all bye.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: Can bad can be consisted