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Will a narcissist follow through with their threats? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, Beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be answering the question, should
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  you take the threats of a narcissist seriously?
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  Should you? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist here to bring you some validation and to help you
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  live a better life. Boom.
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  Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, yes. I feel like my intro gives me
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  the kind of like the superhero vibe.
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  I'm here. I'm the Super narcissist, you
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  know, super, super narc. But yeah, y'all.
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  So when you're dealing with a narcissist or toxic person or
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  whoever, whatever, you know, should you take that threat
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  seriously? There's a lot of like lot of
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  threatening narcissistic people out there, narcissist, toxic
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  person, sociopath, psychopath, whoever you're dealing with, you
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  know this. Let me say this right here,
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  y'all, because I know people are going to just go ahead and jump
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  over this. Threatening, threatening
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  someone, threatening to do something to someone,
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  threatening to break up with someone doesn't necessarily make
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  you a narcissist. OK?
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  I know people say, well, Lee, I threatened to leave the
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  relationship before. Does that make me a narcissist?
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  No, no, no. Have you been lying and cheating
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  and beating? Then maybe, maybe.
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  But if you, if you're the victim here, no, but that happens quite
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  a bit y'all. So should you take that threat
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  seriously? I'm going to say yes.
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  I, I, I, I will absolutely say yes right here, y'all.
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  But there, there's some nuance to it that I'm going to speak on
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  speak on later. So stay to the stay to the end.
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  But I'm going to say, yes, you should absolutely take the
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  threats of a narcissist seriously.
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  The toxic person that you with seriously, you should take them
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  seriously because narcissistic people like what I've learned
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  from talking and speaking to and interacting with thousands of
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  people over the last four years that I've been having this
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  platform is that I don't put anything past anyone.
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  I just don't do that. And neither should you.
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  Neither should you. You shouldn't put anything past
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  anyone because toxic narcissistic people will keep,
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  will keep doing the same things over and over to you again.
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  Yeah, because you, you just never know how someone will
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  react to what you do. Like if you are wanting to leave
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  them, if you want them to break up with them, whatever.
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  And they say, hey, you know, if you ever leave me, I will hunt
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  you down and, and take your life.
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  Take that seriously, don't take that as a joke.
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  I don't I don't care if they're smiling and being cutesy and
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  y'all just clap some cheeks or whatever.
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  Y'all lying there and post post courtus like you know you're
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  giggling. Y'all see you, you, you little
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  spoon like you being a little spoon and a big spoon threatened
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  to take your life if you decided to leave them.
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  Take that serious. They sound like a joke, but that
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  thought is in their mind. You know, I'm not saying that
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  they will do it, but I'm just saying take that serious.
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  Is is not cute. I know there's some people out
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  there which is like, well, they threaten me, so they must care
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  about me. No, no, no.
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  Threatens. Threatening you does not mean
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  they care about you. Threatening you means that they
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  think you belong to them, that they're claiming some type of
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  ownership over you. That's what threatening you
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  does. That's what threatening you
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  means. It's not that they that they
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  love and care about you so much to the point where there's a lot
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  of different things going on. Threatening you means that
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  they're claiming something on you or they're, they're claiming
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  ownership on you. But yes, so they're, they are
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  claiming a type of ownership on you.
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  Y'all. So those are not cutesy little
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  threats and whatnot. There are so many people that
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  right now are either injured or no longer with us, if you
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  understand, you catch my drift, that are either seriously
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  injured, seriously scarred or seriously traumatized and
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  whatnot, or no longer with us. That didn't take the threat
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  seriously. Oh, no.
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  They always threatened to hurt me or harm me if I left, but
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  then I didn't take them seriously.
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  I always thought they were joking because they had a smile
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  on their face when they said it. No, that type of stuff goes on
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  in the back of their mind and it's rattling around.
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  And the crazy thing and the crazy thing about it is that's,
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  that's the way it goes. You know, it is, is how they
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  look at it. They look at you as property.
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  A lot of times it shifts from them thinking that you know,
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  y'all are a great couple or y'all a power couple.
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  Y'all going to make it, y'all going to survive and it shifts
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  to them thinking you belong to them.
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  So that's what I'm just saying. Y'all take it seriously.
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  Take the threats seriously. I don't care what the threat is.
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  I'm going to like I said, take it like that.
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  Or there are some threats out there that are just like little
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  minor threats. You know, I'm going to leave you
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  if you do this, I'm going to leave you do that.
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  I'm going to take the kids. I'm going to, you know, I'm
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  going to do this. I'm going to do that.
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  Yeah, there are some threats right there this should take
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  seriously. But you know, remember the
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  nuance I told you I was going to bring into it?
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  Take the threats seriously. Take the threat seriously.
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  But ask yourself this question right here.
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  If it's something not not involved in like taking your
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  life or something like that, like if they threat, if they're
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  threatening you to take the kids full time, like I'm going, I'm
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  going to file 100% custody, I'm going to do this, I'm going to
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  do that. If they're threatening to
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  actually do something like that, like take the kids full time,
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  ask yourself the question like, does following through with this
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  threat benefit them? And is this something that they
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  actually want to do? Because a lot of times, I'll say
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  this right here, a lot of times with narcissistic people, the
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  power is in the threat, right? The power is in the actual
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  threat, the power is in the threat.
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  The power is like not following through with it because
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  following through with it, the power is gone, right?
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  So they want to hold on and maintain that power.
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  So they'll just be consistently threatening you to instill some
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  fear in you. Like following through with the
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  threat could ruin their life or it could actually be something
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  that they don't want to do. If you like, ask yourself the
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  question, like taking full custody, part of it right there,
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  right? This is just an example, taking
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  full custody of the kids, like I'm going to file for full
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  custody. Ask yourself this question right
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  here y'all they haven't, they don't know how to change the
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  diaper. They ain't changed the diaper.
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  They haven't done anything else right?
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  They haven't been involved in your kids lives.
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  They they just pay for some stuff here and there.
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  They just y'all been living together.
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  You know, you have married a single parent and in a lot of
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  these situations, right? They don't know your kids school
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  teachers or anything like that. They going to file for full
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  custody. Like they they love going to
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  play golf and you know going to hang out with their friends and
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  going to get mimosas every single day.
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  You think they want you actually think they want full custody.
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  They want to go from zero time to 100% time.
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  No, but they know that. They know that that that threat
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  right there puts fear into your heart and that threat right
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  there could activate some keep you from acting on something.
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  You actually have the power, but they want to their their power
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  is in the actual threat. They don't want to follow
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  through with it because following through with some of
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  these threats like that, I'm going to take the kids, I'm
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  going to do this. I'm going to do that.
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  It actually relinquishes all the power to you.
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  They don't really want to do that.
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  You know, ask yourself, because if they're not being parents
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  right now, they don't know how to do anything parenting wise.
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  They don't know how to do anything scheduling wise or
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  finance. I'm going to take, I'm going to
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  take the business if I'm going to run the business like they
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  don't have. Yeah, they don't know the 1st.
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  Thing about running the business, if they want to take
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  it from you, I'm going to take it and run it.
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  To the ground. That's what they're going to do.
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  They would take it and run it into the ground.
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  They're not going to take it and have any type of success with
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  it. So the thing about this right
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  here, I'm not telling, I'm not telling you to not take every
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  single threat seriously, but work your way backwards from it
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  sometimes, like reverse engineer the threat.
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  Is this actually something that they want or are they trying to
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  instill fear in me because they know I have the power, because
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  they're threatening you? You know, a lot of people don't
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  have to. If they actually wanted to do
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  something, they they don't have to threaten you or they would
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  just do it right. If they are in, if they have all
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  the power, they have all the control, they wouldn't just
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  threaten you, they would do it. I'm going to I promise you, if
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  you if you tell people I'm cheating on you or I'm beating
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  on you, I'm going to divorce you.
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  What that's going to happen anyway.
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  So I'm going to you're like, you're going to divorce them
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  regardless. You you're going to leave them
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  regardless. That is threatening to divorce
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  you. If you if you leave me, I'm
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  going to release this our our SEX tape, our S3X tape.
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  We're going, it's going to be online somewhere.
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  I'm going to start out only fans with your with your picture on
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  it. I'm going to tell I'm going to
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  be selling your videos. I'm going to sell this online.
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  I'm going to embarrass you. I'm going to put your naked
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  pictures out there. Will some people do that?
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  Yes. Some people will absolutely
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  follow through that threat. But ask yourself, do they just
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  want to? Because a lot of people will
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  know that most people lost them. Like, yeah, most people in your
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  circle would know that that person did it.
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  And, you know, most, I think most states or cities would ever
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  have those revenge corn laws out there to protect you from that
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  type of stuff happening. So is this something that they
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  actually want to do or is it something that they, they are
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  just saying to mess with you to, to keep you right where you are?
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  These are questions that you have to ask yourself because
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  narcissistic people, they thrive on fear.
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  They feed on fear. They get fueled from your fear.
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  So they love it when you don't take action.
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  They love it when you stay stagnant.
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  They love it when you, when you, when they can instill that fear
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  in you leave. I want to leave, but they keep
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  telling me they're going to ruin they going to, they going to do
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  this, do that, do that. Like do they, do you think they
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  really want to do that? I know I said the possibility
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  exists that they will follow through, but what if they do?
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  What if they do? What if they do get 5050
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  custody? You mean because those days are
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  going to allow that anyway. I'm going to take 50 custody,
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  You know, I know you don't want that.
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  Do they actually want 5050 custody?
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  Do they actually want full control over something?
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  Do they actually want to take on a burden of finances and stuff
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  like that? Most times the answer to their
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  question is going to be no, they're just threatening you.
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  Take it seriously. Make it if they start
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  threatening, y'all, if they start issuing threats to you,
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  I'm going to divorce you. I'm going to tell their friends,
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  I'm going to sleep with your friends and family.
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  I'm going to tell you this, I'm going to tell this, I'm going to
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  spread rumors about you. Y'all understand that once they
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  once that threat is, if they follow through with that threat,
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  they can't do it again. They can't do the same thing
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  twice. You know, it's like double
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  jeopardy. These threats are double
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  jeopardy. They can't threaten the same
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  thing twice. A lot of time.
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  So once the threat is followed through, they have no power.
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  You know what I'm saying? A lot of times they have no
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  power. Once they follow through with
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  the threat, the power is gone. So they have to find they have
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  to try try to shift and transition.
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  You know, they have to try to do so many other things.
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  They have to try to move so many move.
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  They have to try to do so many other moving pieces and things
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  of that nature. They just want to follow through
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  with it. So this is what I'm telling
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  y'all right here in this situation that you have to
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  empower yourself, you have to stand packed.
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  You have to stay strong. You have to do that.
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  You know Dang it, man might keep coming off, but that's something
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  like that. I I will tell everybody that you
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  have to like take the threat seriously, of course, but don't
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  let the threats keep you from taking action.
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  Threatening you is not cute. They'll they'll they'll cover a
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  threat with a joke. You know I'm just playing with
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  you. I mean I would do that thing
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  like that. There are so many tombstones
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  with people out there in the cemetery that they actually did
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  do that. So it's not cute if they're
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  sorry if they ever threaten you like they say you took out you
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  had to stand up for yourself. Y'all, I'm going to hurt you or
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  harm you like you know you, if you do that, you know
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  something's going to happen to you, whatever.
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  You know, I'm, I'm saying to threaten them back, but just
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  say, hey, look, don't say that again.
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  There's not, I don't take that as a joke because so many people
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  out there have, have lost their lives, have lost their
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  livelihood, have lost their arms and legs and, you know, have
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  lost their sanity and things of their nature when people have
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  said this type of stuff and they follow through with it.
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  So please don't, please don't joke like that.
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  We don't, we don't joke like that.
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  And that's a boundary. They do it again.
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  You have to enforce that boundary and dip sometimes.
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  Don't be afraid to leave somebody that threatens you in a
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  joking way. It never y'all.
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  There's some truth to every but people say there's some truth to
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  every joke. There's a little there's a
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  splash of truth in every joke. So take it seriously.
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  Protect your peace, protect yourself.
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