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3 Levels of Commitment from Men | Feminine Energy Inner Work · Mindful Success Path

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  Getting commitment from a man is not hard once you understand the three levels of commitment.
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  And in this video today, that's exactly what we're going to be covering based on my 15 years of experience coaching women on divine feminine energy in different areas of their lives, and also using these principles myself to manifest my husband.
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  Within four months, within 90 days of my husband and I dating.
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  He was already flying 12 hours to go meet my entire family.
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  We were engaged not long after that, and we were married.
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  Not long after that because the truth is, is that it does not take men forever or years and years and years to determine whether or not they want to commit to you.
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  And that's exactly what we're going to be talking about today.
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  Welcome to this channel.
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  My name is Amanda, and what we cover on this channel is we cover how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  Lately we've been talking a lot about relationship dynamics, divine feminine energy.
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  Uh, what are healthy relationship dynamics, communication styles, all those kinds of things.
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  So if that's something that you're interested in.
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  Make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss a single video that we have coming out on this channel.
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  We currently have about three a week coming out on this channel, on all these different subjects, and as always, I always, always, always have extra resources for you guys, for those of you who wanna go deeper.
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  So for those of you who might be newer to this channel, I would recommend starting with the free Enhance Your Feminine Energy Guide, which you can download below.
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  And then for those of you who wanna go deeper on this specific topic today, in terms of commitment, this is something that I cover in my high value woman transformation.
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  Program, which is only$97, and I will leave the link for that below as well.
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  You go through about a five to six week transformation on how to become a high value woman from the inside out, because that is what triggers commitment from healthy masculine men.
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  So let's get into it.
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  Let's talk about.
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  These three levels of divine feminine energy and how they lead to commitment from healthy masculine men.
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  If you guys saw my last video where I broke down the whole SAUDIAN controversy, I went a little bit into this, but today we're gonna go deeper and of course I go much deeper into that course, which you can get for$97 below.
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  So level one is what I call attraction.
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  Without commitment, and this is where a lot of women find themselves these days.
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  So you might be going out on dates and men might be noticing you, but they don't stay.
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  So you might notice that you're like attracting the guy, but he's not staying.
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  Or if he does stay, he doesn't give you any level of commitment.
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  So you might be hearing things like, um.
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  Oh, let's just not put a label on this.
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  Let's just have fun.
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  Or a lot of women who also get stuck here have been with a guy for years and years and years and years and years, and they still don't have any level of commitment.
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  Those are the ones who reach out to me and they're like, Hey, I've been with this guy for like six years.
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  Do you think he's ever gonna talk about marriage?
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  Or, how do I, uh, get him to see that I'm the woman he should marry?
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  Like a lot of.
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  Women will get stuck here as well.
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  Or another way in this, in which this might show up is, uh, you're become intimate with a man and then he just kind of disappears.
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  Or another way in which this shows up is he breadcrumbs you or he ghosts to you, or he doesn't really pursue you.
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  He doesn't really take on that masculine role of pursuing.
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  So men are noticing you because.
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  Men are physical and men can easily go have sex with people that they're not actually emotionally bonded to.
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  But that doesn't mean that they're actually gonna stick around or even be in love with you.
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  It takes man, a man, an average of like three months to know whether or not he, you are someone that he wants to commit to.
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  And there's certain things that you gotta do at each level.
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  So if you're getting stuck here.
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  At level one, sometimes what's going on here is the woman herself is just way too masculine in the way that she, um.
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  Is behaving right?
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  So for example, she might be the one planning all the dates.
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  She might be the one pursuing.
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  A lot of times women will do a lot of these huge mistakes that actually kill attraction, but they're not doing it because they're trying to like destroy their relationships.
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  They just don't understand how the psychology.
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  Of men that actually work.
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  So for example, the nice girl will fall into this category.
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  The one who tries to prove herself will fall into this category, or the one who's too available usually falls into this category because in becoming very available, then she thinks like, oh, I have to be available.
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  Otherwise if I'm not available, he's gonna go find someone else.
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  Not realizing that.
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  Uh, when you're not that available is when you create a gap between the two of you, and that's when he starts longing for you and thinking about you and wondering what you're up to, and he's gonna be more attracted to you.
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  It's actually the exact opposite, but women who get stuck at level one, they don't know these things, um, about men.
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  The other thing that happens at level one is that, let's say a woman, uh, is finding these types of, uh, situations.
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  In her life.
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  Then what might end up happening is she starts Googling online, right?
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  About how to date men and all that kind of stuff.
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  And she falls into perhaps some of the pink pill content.
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  There's red pill, there's pink pill.
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  I just heard about Clear pill, right?
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  So many pills going around these days, but a lot of times, um, that falls into the realm of manipulation.
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  Or they're only focusing on external looks or your voice tone or flirting.
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  I was speaking with a woman a few months ago that she said she was working on her voice tone and how to speak more softly, uh, and those kinds of things.
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  So there is a, an a focus on the external.
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  A a lot of time when you're getting stuck at level one.
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  In terms of your looks, or maybe I don't look a certain way or maybe I need to do my hair like this, or maybe I need to lose weight.
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  So there's a lot of that conversation that goes on, um, at level one.
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  And the other thing that happens in level one, which I kind of alluded to already, is that her energy.
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  Feels very performance based.
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  Uh, and it's inconsistent, right?
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  So it's this proving energy of like, look how great I am.
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  Or another time the, the way that this comes out is the cool girl.
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  So you try and be like really laid back and cool, right?
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  But really you're a mess.
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  Uh, which brings me to the next point of level one, is that internally.
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  You're a mess.
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  Uh, for most women, what that looks like is an anxious attachment style.
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  Those of you who are into the attachment styles really recommend diving into those.
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  I can do other videos.
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  On that.
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  But for a lot of women, they fall into that anxious attachment style where they're constantly in this approving energy and they will get thrown off, um, by stress.
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  So for example, we saw this with Saudi Khan and I said, Saudi Khan is getting stuck here.
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  And now it's all really coming out where she's focused on all the external stuff.
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  But internally, her energy is performance based.
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  It's inconsistent and it's obviously very easily.
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  Thrown off by stress.
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  So if you're a woman who's getting stuck here, um, either healthy men.
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  To be honest, healthy men probably don't even see you if you are getting stuck at this level, uh, because healthy women don't behave in this way.
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  Uh, healthy women with a high value mindset, which we're gonna go into these levels and what that looks like once a man is becoming committed, uh, they don't, they don't behave in this way.
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  They've already.
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  Worked through, um, a lot of these things and they've moved up on these levels of being a high value woman.
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  And in doing so, uh, the men also move up in the levels of commitment.
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  But yes, most women are stuck here because they do not understand the psychology of men.
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  They don't understand polarity.
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  Um.
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  A lot of times they're well-meaning they don't realize that they're doing anything wrong.
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  They feel like they're being a good person.
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  That happens and at the absolute worst, they're like manipulative and going off on people, um, and all that kind of stuff.
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  So that's level one.
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  And Level one does not get commitment from a man.
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  Right?
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  Level one attracts unhealthy feminized men, which I've done a lot of videos of.
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  Um, and if a.
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  Healthy man does come around by any chance, like she sabotages it.
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  That's what the level one woman does, which means you're gonna get a level one level of commitment, which is attraction without commitment.
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  Now let's move on to level two.
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  So a level two woman, as I mentioned in the last video, is already starting to focus on emotional safety and nervous system regulation.
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  And what happens is that her external world.
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  Starts to change as a result of it.
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  So she starts moving from more of an anxious attachment style to more of a secure attachment.
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  Style, right?
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  And when you start moving into more of a secure attachment style, then your emotions don't get the best of you anymore.
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  The anxiety doesn't get the best of you anymore.
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  You've started to work through a lot of those core wounds.
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  There's actually five core wounds that drive people crazy in relationships.
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  And again, in that high value woman transformation program, which you can get below, I go deeper into those five core wounds because I don't have time to do it in this video today.
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  But you can find it there'cause there's five of them.
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  And those five core wounds, um, are not necessarily running the show anymore.
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  So you've learned to identify what your core wounds are, you've identified what your triggers are, and you're starting to become a high value woman from the inside out.
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  And when you start becoming a high value woman from the inside out, you're less triggered, you're more present, your energy is automatically softer.
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  Uh, you're breathing better, right?
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  Um.
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  And you don't fly off the handle as much because your anxiety isn't what's taking over.
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  In addition to that, what I have found, particularly with women that I've coached privately, is that one of three things starts to happen at this level.
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  So if a woman comes to me and she wasn't dating at all, right?
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  And if she was dating, perhaps it was a little bit of dating, but the men were not healthy men, sometimes what happens here is those, those unhealthy few men that she was dealing with before now try to get her attention.
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  Right.
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  It's almost like a little test from the ego, so that's one thing that can happen.
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  The second way I've seen this happen is, let's say a woman comes to me and she's been dating like crazy, um, and she's got a bench, right?
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  Part of what might happen here and usually is that the toxic men start to totally fall away, and sometimes a woman gets very nervous.
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  When this starts to happen.
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  'cause she's like, oh my God, I was talking to 10 guys and now I'm like down to two.
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  Well, girl, be happy that you're down to two, because those other eight probably weren't that into you to begin with.
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  So that's a thing that can happen here.
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  Or, uh, when women start going back into the dating pool after having not been in it for a while.
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  They might compare it to when they were a level one woman and they'll be like, oh my gosh, I was getting like 30 responses and all that kind of stuff.
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  And now you're getting less responses, um, from men.
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  Again, consider yourself lucky, especially if you're on dating apps, because dating apps are probably one of the worst places, uh, to go find a mate because it's a lot of people with insecure attachment styles that are hanging out.
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  On dating apps, and quite frankly, there's also a lot of prostitution on dating apps and all, all kinds of crazy mess.
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  Um, if you really wanna go find a healthy man, the best way to do it is actually through your social networks, through your family networks, perhaps through your professional networks.
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  That's actually been statistically proven to be one of the best ways to find long-term partnership, not these apps.
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  So for those of you who were on the apps and you were getting a ton of responses from these guys.
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  When you start moving into this level two, you might start to notice that those guys, um, you're not getting as many responses right.
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  And again, that's a good thing.
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  The other thing that starts happening to the level two woman is that she starts becoming more discerning about who she is giving her time to.
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  When you are a level one woman, basically what happens is you will give your time to anybody.
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  You will give it to a broke man, you will give it to a man who treats you like crap.
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  You will give it to a man who keeps kicking the can down the road and not wanting to commit to you.
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  Uh, you'll be working two jobs.
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  While he doesn't do that much at all, a lot of women who are level one actually end up attracting a lot of super feminized men.
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  Um, but when you start moving into level two and you start taking your time and your energy more seriously and you start to realize this is important'cause this is what my private clients start to realize, that your feminine energy is literally the most powerful thing you have, and quite possibly one of the most powerful.
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  Energies in the entire planet.
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  You start taking that a lot more seriously.
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  And when you start taking that a lot more seriously, you start becoming a lot more discerning about the kind of men that you begin to entertain.
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  Now, what happens when you're at level two in terms of commitment?
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  I already gave some examples of how the toxic men start to fall off.
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  Well, here's the other thing that starts to happen.
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  The healthier men now have room to start coming in and healthier men like it.
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  When women are discerning about who they give their time and energy to.
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  Healthy men like it when a woman is really good at receiving.
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  'cause when we get to level two, the woman also starts becoming better at receiving common theme I've been seeing in the YouTube comments and also with private clients and students.
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  And is that, um.
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  Y'all really have a hard time receiving.
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  Okay?
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  Like the guilt is strong with you guys when it comes to receiving, and that's level one behavior.
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  When we get to level two, you're getting a lot better at it, and there's practices that it put a lot of my private clients through and any training that I've done, you guys have heard me talk about receiving.
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  Because healthy men love to give to women, and this is when you start getting better at it and you might start seeing men wanting to give to you more.
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  Uh, they're moving towards you more.
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  They're pursuing you more.
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  Now, if you weren't, again, caveat, if you weren't dating that much to begin with and you were just dealing with a couple of dudes and they were toxic, they're gonna try and get your attention one last time, right?
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  So just, just a caveat there.
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  So that's level two.
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  Now when we get to level three, now we get to devotion and provision, which is what most of you want.
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  Now, this is when a woman is very much in tune with her body.
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  She's really good at receiving.
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  She's really good at pleasure.
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  She takes her time super seriously.
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  She takes her energy very seriously.
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  She's good at communicating in a feminine way, which is both soft, but also has boundaries.
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  And she's good at communicating those boundaries.
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  So she's not going around yelling about her boundaries.
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  That's level one women who go around doing that, but she's very good at communicating them in a feminine way.
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  She knows how to speak to the king of a man.
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  Um, she's really learned how to master a lot of the feminine energy when it comes to dating and courtship, um, and long-term partnership.
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  And her as a result of that, right?
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  Her nervous system is regulated, her presence is calm.
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  She becomes very magnetic and attractive.
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  And here's one of the most important things she's anchored in her values.
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  So let me give you an example of what a level three woman would do in dating.
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  A level three woman would let a man know early on that she's interested in marriage and children.
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  A level one woman would try and play it.
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  Cool, not talk about it.
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  Let's see where he takes it.
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  Let me try and like perform.
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  That's what a level one woman would do.
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  A level three woman would've, the guy would've known that she wants to get married and have kids by like date three, A level three woman.
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  If a guy doesn't reach up to her standard, she would've let him go.
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  By date, three.
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  A level three woman receives from the masculine energy all around her.
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  A level three woman, uh, again, knows how to communicate and knows how to regulate her nervous system.
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  She knows how to express her boundaries gracefully, not defensively.
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  And guess what starts to happen to the level three women?
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  They naturally attract provider protector men who want to commit because healthy men are going to want to give to you, and healthy men are going to want to protect you because they understand how precious you are.
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  As a woman, they understand your value as a woman.
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  They understand the value of feminine energy and they want to provide for that, and they want to protect that.
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  So when you become a level three woman, commitment from a man becomes very easy, and I'm telling you, by day 90, they already know whether or not they want to commit to you.
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  Because on average, that's how long it takes for a man to figure it out.
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  It does not take years for a man to figure out whether or not.
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  He wants to commit to a woman.
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  Um, so those are the three levels of the high value woman mindset in alignment with the three levels of commitment from men.
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  It's the level three woman who gets married.
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  It's the level three woman who gets engaged.
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  Uh, it's the level three woman who gets commitment.
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  It's the level three woman.
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  That men are not really going to try to play, and it's the level three woman that gets the provision and the protection, not just from the man who ends up being her husband, but from men all around her.
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  I will give you an example.
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  I was just talking to my husband about this last night, right?
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  Where I was like, if you're not around for whatever reason, like you're in town or whatever, like because I'm in my feminine energy, people will just want to help me.
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  Right.
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  They're just gonna offer to help.
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  I'm not even gonna have to ask.
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  Um, and then he started laughing because he knows, um, that's true.
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  Everybody wants to help Amanda because Amanda and everybody wants to give to Amanda because Amanda spends most of her time, uh, in her feminine energy.
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  That is part of the power of you really understanding how this works, because your life is gonna become easier as a result of it.
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  You're gonna get provision and protection and commitment from healthy men as a result of it.
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  And in addition to that, you'll make more money to boot because all these opportunities and all this provision is going to start coming your way.
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  So those, like I said, three levels of a high value woman mindset in conjunction with the three levels of commitment that you're going to get from men as you start evolving more as a high value woman who really learns to live.
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  In her feminine energy.
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  I go a lot deeper into this whole process in my high value woman transformation.
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  You can find the link for that below.
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  Those of you who wanna work with me privately, you can apply for that below as well, uh, because this is basically the process that I put women through.
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  First and foremost, before you even go out into the dating pool or before I have you expanding your circle, your social circles, this is the thing that you need to understand and this is what you.
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  Need to be anchored in and it will change your entire life.
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  I know there's a lot of confusion out here about what's going on with men and women and dating and it's just insanity out here.
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  So make sure to share this with a woman who needs to hear it.
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  'cause I know that most of you.
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  Did not hear this, uh, growing up, and it's really important that you understand it because it will drastically improve not just your relationships, but every area of your life.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one.