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This advice may save your marriage · truthunedited

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  Speaker 1: Marriage is supposed to be a picture of God's love, beautiful, strong,
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  Speaker 1: and unbreakable. But what happens when that picture starts to crack?
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  Speaker 1: When love turns into conflict, when communication breaks down, when
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  Speaker 1: trust is replaced by pain. One of our viewers reached
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  Speaker 1: out to us asking for a video on this very topic.
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  Speaker 1: She is praying for her marriage, believing for restoration, and
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  Speaker 1: standing in faith for her husband. Sister, if you are
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  Speaker 1: watching this, know that we've prayed for you. We see
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  Speaker 1: your heart, but more importantly, God sees you, and we
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  Speaker 1: dedicate this video not just to you, but to everyone
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  Speaker 1: who feels like they are fighting for their marriage alone.
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  Speaker 1: Because this is not just your battle. This is a
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  Speaker 1: battle many are facing right now. We live in a
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  Speaker 1: world where divorce rates are rising, where marriages are being
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  Speaker 1: torn apart by infidelity, addiction, resentment, and even the simple
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  Speaker 1: wear and tear of daily life. Maybe you've seen it
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  Speaker 1: happen in your own family. Maybe it's happening to you
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  Speaker 1: right now. The person you once held so closely now
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  Speaker 1: feels like a stranger. The home that once felt safe
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  Speaker 1: now feels like a battle ground. The vows you made
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  Speaker 1: before God feel like they are slipping away, and the
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  Speaker 1: question is, how do you fight for your marriage? How
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  Speaker 1: do you hold on when everything in you wants to
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  Speaker 1: let go. Most people will tell you to fight with
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  Speaker 1: your spouse, fight to be heard, fight to be right,
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  Speaker 1: fight to make them change. But here's the truth. This
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  Speaker 1: is not your fight. This is God's fight. And this
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  Speaker 1: is where many people get it wrong. They fight against
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  Speaker 1: their spouse instead of fighting for their marriage. They go
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  Speaker 1: to their friends and family venting about their problems, looking
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  Speaker 1: for advice, when in reality, the one person they should
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  Speaker 1: be talking to is God. That's why the movie war
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  Speaker 1: Room is such a powerful example. If you haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: it yet, we'll leave a link below. It's about a
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  Speaker 1: woman who thought her marriage was beyond saving until she
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  Speaker 1: learned that the real battle wasn't with her husband, but
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  Speaker 1: in prayer. She stopped fighting in the natural and started
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  Speaker 1: fighting in the spirit. She built a war room, a
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  Speaker 1: secret place where she went before God, declaring his promises
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  Speaker 1: over her marriage and letting him fight on her behalf.
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  Speaker 1: And guess what God did what she could never do
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  Speaker 1: on her own. This is what many people don't realize.
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  Speaker 1: Marriage is spiritual. The Bible tells us that we do
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  Speaker 1: not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers,
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  Speaker 1: against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against
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  Speaker 1: spiritual wickedness in high places Ephesian six twelve. Your spouse
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  Speaker 1: is not the enemy. Satan is the enemy. Hates marriage
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  Speaker 1: because marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church.
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  Speaker 1: If he can destroy your marriage, he can weaken your faith.
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  Speaker 1: If he can turn you against your spouse, he can
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  Speaker 1: block your prayers, if he can convince you to give up,
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  Speaker 1: he can stop the testimony God is trying to build
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  Speaker 1: in your life. So let me ask you, are you
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  Speaker 1: fighting the right battle? Are you letting God fight for you?
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  Speaker 1: Because here's the truth, you are not alone in this fight.
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  Speaker 1: God has a plan for your marriage. He has the
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  Speaker 1: power to heal, to restore, to renew. But you have
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  Speaker 1: to invite him into the battle. And that's exactly what
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  Speaker 1: we are going to talk about in this video. We're
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  Speaker 1: going deep into God's word, uncovering the spiritual truths that
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  Speaker 1: can transform your marriage. We'll talk about prayer, forgiveness, fighting
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  Speaker 1: the real enemy, and practice steps to restore what feels broken.
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  Speaker 1: If this is something you're walking through, we encourage you
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  Speaker 1: watch this video all the way through this might be
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  Speaker 1: the message that changes everything. And before we go any further,
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  Speaker 1: take a moment to share this Deep Bible Stories video
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  Speaker 1: with someone who needs it. May be a friend who
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  Speaker 1: is struggling, a family member who is losing hope, or
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  Speaker 1: even your spouse. You never know how one message could
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  Speaker 1: change a life. We also have e books and resources
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  Speaker 1: available to help you go even deeper. If you'd like
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  Speaker 1: us to turn this video into an e book with
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  Speaker 1: prayer points and scripture references, let us know in the
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  Speaker 1: comments it is our hope and prayer that this video
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  Speaker 1: awakens something in your spirit that instead of giving up,
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  Speaker 1: you will rise up. With that being said, let's get started.
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  Speaker 1: Most people enter marriage believing it will last forever, but
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  Speaker 1: somewhere along the way, life happens. The love that once
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  Speaker 1: felt effortless now requires work. The excitement fades into routine
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  Speaker 1: arguments replace laughter, and the person you vowed to cherish
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  Speaker 1: begins to feel like a stranger in today's world, when
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  Speaker 1: marriage gets hard, the world offers one simple solution walk away.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not how God design marriage. In the last section,
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  Speaker 1: we talked about how marriage is not a battle against
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  Speaker 1: your spouse, but a spiritual war that must be fought
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  Speaker 1: God's way. Now, let's go even deeper and uncover the
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  Speaker 1: true meaning of marriage, because one of the biggest reasons
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  Speaker 1: so many marriages are failing today is because people are
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  Speaker 1: entering into them with the wrong mindset. Society treats marriage
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  Speaker 1: like a contract, something that can be broken when it
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  Speaker 1: no longer serves you. But in God's eyes, marriage is
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  Speaker 1: not a contract. It is a covenant. A contract says,
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  Speaker 1: shall hold up my end of the deal as long
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  Speaker 1: as you hold up yours. A covenant says I am
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  Speaker 1: committing to you no matter what. A contract is based
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  Speaker 1: on mutual benefit. A covenant is based on sacrificial love.
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  Speaker 1: This is why Jesus compared marriage to his relationship with
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  Speaker 1: the church. In Ephesians five twenty five, Paul writes, husbands,
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  Speaker 1: love your wives just as Christ loved the Church and
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  Speaker 1: gave himself up for her. Think about that. Jesus love
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  Speaker 1: for the Church was not conditional. It wasn't based on
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  Speaker 1: how well we performed, how faithful we were, or how
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  Speaker 1: much we loved him in return. He loved us even
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  Speaker 1: when we failed. He loved us even when we turned away.
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  Speaker 1: He loved us so much that he gave his life
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  Speaker 1: for us. That is the standard God sets for marriage.
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  Speaker 1: But to day, many into marriage thinking as long as
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy, as long as my needs are met, as
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  Speaker 1: long as we don't have any major problems, I'm in.
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  Speaker 1: And when the challenges come, as they always do, people
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  Speaker 1: start looking for an exit. This is why divorce rates
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  Speaker 1: are sky rocketing. Marriage has been redefined as a convenience,
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  Speaker 1: not a commitment. In some countries, you can get a
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  Speaker 1: divorce with just a few clicks. Online celebrities joke about
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  Speaker 1: getting starter marriages, treating it like a trial run instead
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  Speaker 1: of a lifelong bond. But when God created marriage, he
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  Speaker 1: didn't design it to be something that could be thrown
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  Speaker 1: away when it got hard. From the very beginning, marriage
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  Speaker 1: was sacred. When God brought Adam and Eve together, he
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  Speaker 1: didn't say, try this out and see if it works.
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  Speaker 1: He said, for this reason, a man shall leave his
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  Speaker 1: father and mother and be united to his wife, and
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  Speaker 1: the two shall become one flesh Genesis two twenty four.
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  Speaker 1: One flesh, not two people sharing a house, not two
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  Speaker 1: people living parallel lives. One flesh. This means that when
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  Speaker 1: you get married, your souls are joined together in a
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  Speaker 1: way that no legal document can separate. That's why divorce
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  Speaker 1: is so painful. It's not just a break up, it's
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  Speaker 1: a tearing, a part of what God has made one.
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  Speaker 1: In Malachi two sixteen, God says, I hate divorce why
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  Speaker 1: because he knows how deeply it wounds both people involved.
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  Speaker 1: He knows how it affects children, families, and future generations.
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  Speaker 1: He knows that what he has joined together is not
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  Speaker 1: meant to be separated by man. Now does this mean
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  Speaker 1: God never allows divorce? Number? Jesus himself acknowledged that in
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  Speaker 1: cases of adultery and unrepentant sin, divorce may happen Matthew
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  Speaker 1: nineteen eight to nine. But God's design, his perfect will,
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  Speaker 1: is for marriage to be a life asking covenant, not
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  Speaker 1: a temporary arrangement. This means that when you say I do,
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  Speaker 1: you're making a promise before God that should not be
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  Speaker 1: taken lightly. But let's be real. What if your marriage
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  Speaker 1: is already struggling. What if you don't feel love any more?
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  Speaker 1: What if the hurt is too deep? What if it
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  Speaker 1: feels easier to walk away than to stay and fight.
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  Speaker 1: This is where God's power comes in if you treat
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  Speaker 1: marriage as a contract. Then when things go wrong, your
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  Speaker 1: only option is to get out. But if you understand
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  Speaker 1: that marriage is a covenant before God, then you realize
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  Speaker 1: that there is a third person in your marriage, God himself,
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  Speaker 1: and that changes everything because He is the one who
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  Speaker 1: can restore what is broken. He is the one who
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  Speaker 1: can heal wounds deeper than words. He is the one
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  Speaker 1: who can rekindle love that feels lost, but you have
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  Speaker 1: to surrender it to him. Too many couples spend their
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  Speaker 1: energy trying to fix see each other instead of bringing
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  Speaker 1: their marriage to the only one who can truly transform it.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we see so many testimonies of marriages that
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  Speaker 1: were on the verge of divorce but were restored through prayer, fasting,
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  Speaker 1: and surrendering to God. Because here's the truth. Your spouse
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  Speaker 1: is not perfect. You are not perfect, But God is
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  Speaker 1: perfect and when you build your marriage on His foundation,
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  Speaker 1: nothing can destroy it. So here's the challenge. Are you
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  Speaker 1: treating your marriage like a contract, only staying as long
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  Speaker 1: as things feel good, or are you willing to fight
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  Speaker 1: for your marriage the way God intended? Are you looking
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  Speaker 1: for a way out or are you looking for a
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  Speaker 1: way through with God leading the way? Because marriage is
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  Speaker 1: not about feelings. It's about faithfulness. And in the next
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  Speaker 1: section we'll talk about the real enemy of your marriage,
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  Speaker 1: because contrary to what you might think, it's not your spouse.
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  Speaker 1: It's time to fight the right fight, and it's time
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  Speaker 1: to let God lead the battle. Many couples believe that
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  Speaker 1: if they could just fix a few things, communicate better,
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  Speaker 1: manage finances more wisely, or rekindle romance, their marriage would
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  Speaker 1: be healed. And while those things matter, the real battle
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  Speaker 1: is much deeper. The struggle in your marriage isn't just
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  Speaker 1: about disagreements or personality differences. It's about something far greater,
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  Speaker 1: something happening behind the scenes, something that the enemy doesn't
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  Speaker 1: want you to see. This is why so many marriages
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  Speaker 1: fall apart over things that seem small at first. A
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  Speaker 1: little frustration turns into resentment, a miscommunication turns into a
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  Speaker 1: cold silence, a moment of neglect turns into a deep wound,
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  Speaker 1: and before you know it, what once felt like an
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  Speaker 1: unshakable love begins to feel fragile. The truth is, when
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  Speaker 1: a marriage is under attack, it's not just the two
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  Speaker 1: of you fighting, it's the enemy working through your emotions,
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  Speaker 1: through circumstances and through every open door he can find.
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  Speaker 1: In John ten ten, Jesus warned us about the enemy's strategy.
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  Speaker 1: The thief comes only to steal, and kill and destroy.
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  Speaker 1: I have come that they may have life, and have
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  Speaker 1: it to the full. If marriage is meant to reflect
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  Speaker 1: God's love for his people, then it makes sense that
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  Speaker 1: Satan would want to destroy it. A strong marriage brings
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  Speaker 1: glory to God. A broken marriage weakens families, crushes faith,
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  Speaker 1: and leaves wounds that last for generations. This is why
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  Speaker 1: Satan attacks marriages so aggressively. Many couples make the mistake
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  Speaker 1: of fighting each other instead of fighting for each other.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of recognizing the real enemy, they turn their frustration
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  Speaker 1: toward their spouse. They focus on what their spouse is
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  Speaker 1: doing wrong. They replay every offense, every failure, every moment
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  Speaker 1: of disappointment. But this is exactly what the enemy wants.
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  Speaker 1: He wants to keep you so focused on your spouse's
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  Speaker 1: flaws that you forget that the real battle is spiritual.
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  Speaker 1: In Ephesians six twelve, Paul reminds us, for our struggle
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  Speaker 1: is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers,
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  Speaker 1: against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world.
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  Speaker 1: And against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
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  Speaker 1: That means the anger, the division, the pain. It's not
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  Speaker 1: just natural, it's spiritual warfare. Satan doesn't have to show
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  Speaker 1: up in an obvious way to destroy a marriage. He
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  Speaker 1: just has to plant seeds, seeds of doubt, seeds of insecurity,
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  Speaker 1: seeds of selfishness. He whispers lies, you deserve better, Your
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  Speaker 1: spouse will never change. You are better off alone. And
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  Speaker 1: if you listen to those lies long enough, they start
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  Speaker 1: to sound like truth. This is why couples must recognize
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  Speaker 1: the difference between natural conflict and spiritual attack. Every marriage
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  Speaker 1: has disagreements. But when conflict keeps coming from nowhere, when
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  Speaker 1: it feels like something is always pushing you apart, when
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  Speaker 1: you begin to feel hopeless about your relationship, that is
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  Speaker 1: more than just miscommunication. That is the enemy trying to
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  Speaker 1: divide what God has joined together. Satan has been attacking
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  Speaker 1: marriages from the beginning. Look at Adam and Eve. Before
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  Speaker 1: Sin entered the world, they were united, walking with God
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  Speaker 1: in perfect harmony. But the moment Sin entered, division followed.
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  Speaker 1: Adam blamed Eve, Eve blame the serpent. Shame and brokenness
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  Speaker 1: entered their relationship, and from that moment on, Satan has
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  Speaker 1: been using the same strategy, turning husbands against wives, making
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  Speaker 1: them see each other as the problem instead of recognizing
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  Speaker 1: his deception. The same thing happened to Job and his wife.
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  Speaker 1: When Job was suffering. Instead of drawing closer to him,
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  Speaker 1: his wife turned against him. She told him to curse
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  Speaker 1: God and die Job two nine. But why because the
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  Speaker 1: enemy was behind the scenes orchestrating an attack against Job's faith,
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  Speaker 1: his family, and his future. The enemy is still doing
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  Speaker 1: the same thing to die. He is still twisting words,
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  Speaker 1: still sewing division, still trying to turn spouses against each
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  Speaker 1: other instead of against him. And if we don't recognize
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  Speaker 1: his tactics, we will continue fighting the wrong battle. So
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  Speaker 1: how do you stand against these attacks? How do you
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  Speaker 1: stop Satan from gaining control of your marriage? The first
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  Speaker 1: step is to stop fighting in your own strength. You
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  Speaker 1: cannot fight a spiritual battle with natural weapons. You can't
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  Speaker 1: argue your way into unity, you can't nag your way
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  Speaker 1: into change. You can't use logic to defeat an enemy
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  Speaker 1: that is only defeated through prayer and the power of God.
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  Speaker 1: James four seven gives us the blueprint. Submit yourselves then
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  Speaker 1: to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
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  Speaker 1: This means that before you fight for your marriage, you
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  Speaker 1: must first surrender to God. If you are not submitted
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  Speaker 1: to God, then your marriage will always be vulnerable to
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  Speaker 1: the enemy's attacks. Submitting to God means inviting Him into
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  Speaker 1: every part of your marriage. It means choosing prayer over pride,
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  Speaker 1: humility over stubbornness, and forgiveness over resentment. It means realizing
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  Speaker 1: that you cannot fix your spouse, but God can. It
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  Speaker 1: means closing every door that the enemy has been using bitterness, unforgiveness,
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  Speaker 1: comparison outside influences that do not honor God. And once
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  Speaker 1: you are fully submitted to God, then you resist the devil.
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  Speaker 1: You resist him when you refuse to let small offenses
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  Speaker 1: turn into big wounds. You resist him when you pray
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  Speaker 1: for your spouse instead of complaining about them. You resist
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  Speaker 1: him when you speak life over your marriage instead of death.
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  Speaker 1: Proverbs eighteen twenty one says the tongue has the power
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  Speaker 1: of life and death, and those who love it will
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  Speaker 1: eat its fruit. The enemy wants you to speak words
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  Speaker 1: of destruction over your marriage. He wants you to say
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  Speaker 1: things like this will never get better. I don't even
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  Speaker 1: love them any more. Maybe we made a mistake. But
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  Speaker 1: if you want to win the battle, you must start
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  Speaker 1: speaking what God says about your marriage, what God has
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  Speaker 1: joined together. Let no one separate Matthew nineteen six. Love
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  Speaker 1: is patient, love is kind. It keeps no record of wrongs.
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  Speaker 1: First Corinthians thirteen four to five. A chord of three
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  Speaker 1: strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes four twelve. The enemy
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  Speaker 1: cannot stand against the word of God. When you fill
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  Speaker 1: your home with prayer, worship, and scripture, you are building
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  Speaker 1: a spiritual fortress that Satan cannot penetrate. When you invite
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  Speaker 1: God into your marriage, he will strengthen what the enemy
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  Speaker 1: tried to destroy. So let me ask you, have you
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  Speaker 1: been fighting your spouse or have you been fighting the
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  Speaker 1: real enemy? Have you been trying to fix things in
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  Speaker 1: your own strength, or have you been letting God fight
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  Speaker 1: for you. This is not just another argument, This is
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  Speaker 1: not just another season of struggle. This is war. But
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  Speaker 1: here's the good news. God has already won. The next
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  Speaker 1: section will be the most important part of this entire teaching.
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  Speaker 1: Now that you know who the real enemy is, we're
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  Speaker 1: going to talk about the most powerful weapon you have
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  Speaker 1: to fight for your marriage, prayer, Because this battle is
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  Speaker 1: one on your knees. Most marriages struggle not because of
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  Speaker 1: a lack of love, but because of a lack of prayer.
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  Speaker 1: The moment prayer disappears from a marriage, the foundation begins
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  Speaker 1: to crack where there was once unity. Division creeps in
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  Speaker 1: where there was once patience. Frustration takes over where there
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  Speaker 1: was once peace. Bitterness and resentment settle in. But here's
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  Speaker 1: the truth. A praying spouse is the enemy's worst nightmare.
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  Speaker 1: A praying spouse does not fight in the flesh. A
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  Speaker 1: praying spouse knows that the battle for their marriage is
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  Speaker 1: not against their husband or wife, but against the forces
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  Speaker 1: working behind the scenes. We just talked about recognizing the
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  Speaker 1: real enemy in your marriage, Satan, not your spouse. Now
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  Speaker 1: that you understand that this battle is spiritual, you need
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  Speaker 1: to know your greatest weapon prayer. Prayer is not just
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  Speaker 1: a last resort. It is not just something to do
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  Speaker 1: when everything else has failed. Prayer is the battle strategy.
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  Speaker 1: It is the way you invite the power of heaven
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  Speaker 1: to fight for what the enemy is trying to destroy.
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  Speaker 1: Have you noticed how hard it is to pray when
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  Speaker 1: you're angry at your spouse. Have you noticed how easy
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  Speaker 1: it is to say everything to a friend, a co worker,
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  Speaker 1: or even a stranger online before you even think about
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  Speaker 1: bringing it to God. This is not an accident. The
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  Speaker 1: enemy will do everything he can to keep you from praying,
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  Speaker 1: because he knows that once you do, his power over
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  Speaker 1: your marriage is broken. In Ephesian six eight, Paul gives
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  Speaker 1: this instruction right after describing the full armor of God.
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  Speaker 1: And pray in the spirit on all occasions, with all
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  Speaker 1: kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be
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  Speaker 1: alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people.
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  Speaker 1: Prayer is the final weapon in your spiritual arsenal because
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  Speaker 1: it activates everything else. You can read every marriage book,
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  Speaker 1: go to counseling, and try your hardest to fix things.
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  Speaker 1: But without prayer, your marriage will remain vulnerable to attack.
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  Speaker 1: Look at the story of Hannah in First Samuel I.
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  Speaker 1: She was barren, ridiculed, and deeply hurt. She could have
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  Speaker 1: fought back with her words, lashed out at those around her,
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  Speaker 1: or become bitter toward her husband. Instead, she went into
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  Speaker 1: the temple and poured out her heart before God. In prayer,
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  Speaker 1: and because of that her situation changed. Look at Daniel
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  Speaker 1: in Daniel six, a law was past forbidding prayer, but
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  Speaker 1: Daniel kept praying anyway, and because of that God shut
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  Speaker 1: the mouths of lions. Look at Jesus. Every time he
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  Speaker 1: faced a major moment in his life, he covered it
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  Speaker 1: in prayer. Before he went to the cross, he prayed
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  Speaker 1: so intensely that he sweat drops of blood Luke, twenty
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  Speaker 1: two forty four. Before choosing his disciples, he spent all
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  Speaker 1: night in prayer Luke six twelve. If prayer was that
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  Speaker 1: important to Jesus, why do we think we can build
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  Speaker 1: a strong marriage without it. There's a reason why the
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  Speaker 1: movie war Room was so powerful. It showed the reality
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  Speaker 1: of spiritual warfare in marriage. Elizabeth, the main character, was
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  Speaker 1: frustrated with her husband. She was trying to change him
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  Speaker 1: in her own strength. She nagged, she argued, She felt
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  Speaker 1: like she was losing him. But then she met an
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  Speaker 1: older woman who taught her how to fight the right way.
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  Speaker 1: She stopped arguing, She stopped trying to fix him. She
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  Speaker 1: started praying. She wrote down scripture based prayers for her
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  Speaker 1: husband and taped them to the walls of a small
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  Speaker 1: closet she dedicated as her war room. She stopped fighting
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  Speaker 1: with her words and started fighting in the spirit, and
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  Speaker 1: slowly things began to change, not because she forced them to,
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  Speaker 1: but because God moved in ways she never could. This
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  Speaker 1: is the power of prayer in marriage. It does what
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  Speaker 1: your efforts never can. But the enemy will try to
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  Speaker 1: convince you that nothing is happening, that your prayers are useless,
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  Speaker 1: that your spouse is never going to change, that your
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  Speaker 1: situation is beyond repair. And if you believe that, you
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  Speaker 1: will stop praying. This is why you need a war
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  Speaker 1: room mindset. You need to decide that giving up is
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  Speaker 1: not an option. You need to know how to stand
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  Speaker 1: in faith even when you don't see the results yet.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you start praying for your marriage the
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  Speaker 1: right way? First, be intentional. Don't just pray when you
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  Speaker 1: feel desperate. Make it a daily habit. Set aside a
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  Speaker 1: time and place where you will pray without distraction, even
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  Speaker 1: if it's just five minutes in the morning. Start somewhere. Second,
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  Speaker 1: pray for your spouse, not against them. It's easy to
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  Speaker 1: pray God change them, make them see what they're doing wrong.
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  Speaker 1: But real prayer sounds like this. God soften my heart. First,
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  Speaker 1: show me how to love them as you love them.
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  Speaker 1: Heal the wounds I cannot see. Help me to be
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  Speaker 1: the spouse you have called me to be. And Lord,
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  Speaker 1: work in my spouse's heart. Draw them closer to you,
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  Speaker 1: Restore the love between us. Third, use scripture as your weapon.
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  Speaker 1: The enemy cannot stand against the word of God. Here
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  Speaker 1: are some powerful verses to declare over your marriage. What
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  Speaker 1: God has joined together, Let no one separate you nineteen six.
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  Speaker 1: A chord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes
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  Speaker 1: four twelve. Love is patient, love is kind. It keeps
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  Speaker 1: no record of wrongs. First Corinthians thirteen four to five.
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  Speaker 1: Write them down, tape them to your mirror, speak them
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  Speaker 1: over your home. Fourth, fast for your marriage. Some battles
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  Speaker 1: are only one through fasting Matthew seventeen twenty one. If
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  Speaker 1: you feel like your marriage is under heavy attack, set
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  Speaker 1: aside a time to fast. Fasting humbles you, refocuses your
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  Speaker 1: heart on God and invites his power into your situation. Finally,
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  Speaker 1: refuse to give up. The enemy will tell you that
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  Speaker 1: prayer isn't working, that nothing is changing, that you should
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  Speaker 1: just stop trying. But the Bible says in James five sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
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  Speaker 1: Your prayers are doing more than you can see. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: some of you feel like your marriage is beyond saving.
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  Speaker 1: You feel like you have prayed and nothing has changed.
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  Speaker 1: But let me tell you this, God is still working.
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  Speaker 1: He is still fighting for you, He is still moving
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  Speaker 1: behind the scenes, and he is still able to restore
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  Speaker 1: what seems impossible. This is not the end of your
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  Speaker 1: marriage's story. If you want to fight for your marriage,
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  Speaker 1: start on your knees. If you want to break the
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  Speaker 1: cycle of conflict, speak life over your marriage. If you
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  Speaker 1: want to see real change, surrender the battle to God.
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  Speaker 1: So let me ask you, are you willing to fight
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  Speaker 1: the right way? Are you willing to stop using your
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  Speaker 1: words as weapons and start using prayer as your greatest defense,
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  Speaker 1: Because when you do, the enemy loses. Too often we
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  Speaker 1: try to fix everything ourselves, but real victory comes when
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  Speaker 1: we surrender the battle to the Lord. Because this fight
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  Speaker 1: is not yours, it belongs to God. When you hear
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  Speaker 1: the words fight for your marriage, what comes to mind?
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  Speaker 1: For many people, fighting for their marriage means endless arguments, begging, crying, trying,
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  Speaker 1: to fix things in their own strength and doing everything
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  Speaker 1: possible to get their spouse to change. They think if
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  Speaker 1: they just try harder, say the right things, or force
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  Speaker 1: their spouse to see their mistakes, everything will work out.
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  Speaker 1: But the truth is fighting for your marriage and your
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  Speaker 1: own strength will leave you exhausted, discouraged, and empty. Too
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  Speaker 1: many people are trying to hold their marriage together by themselves,
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  Speaker 1: as if it all depends on them. But marriage was
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  Speaker 1: never designed to be held together by human strength. It
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  Speaker 1: was designed to be built on God, and the moment
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  Speaker 1: we try to take control and force things to work
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  Speaker 1: our way, we push God out of the process. The
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  Speaker 1: Bible gives us a clear picture of what happens when
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  Speaker 1: we try to fix things without God. Look at Sarah
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  Speaker 1: and Abraham. God promised them a child, but when years
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  Speaker 1: passed and nothing happened, Sarah took matters into her own hands.
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  Speaker 1: She convinced Abraham to have a child with her servant Hagar,
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  Speaker 1: thinking that this was the solution to their problem. But
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  Speaker 1: what happened. Instead of bringing peace, her plan brought jealousy, division,
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  Speaker 1: and pain. How often do we do the same thing
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  Speaker 1: in our marriages. We get tired of waiting for things
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  Speaker 1: to change, so we take control. We try to fix
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  Speaker 1: things our way instead of waiting on God's way. We
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  Speaker 1: think that if we just push a little harder, demand
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  Speaker 1: a little more, or manipulate the situation, we can make
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  Speaker 1: things better. But the truth is our efforts without God
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  Speaker 1: only make things worse. Proverbs three Colun five dsh Six
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  Speaker 1: gives us a simple but powerful instruction. Trust in the
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  Speaker 1: Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your
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  Speaker 1: own understanding in all your ways. Submit to Him and
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  Speaker 1: he will make your paths straight. Trusting God with all
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  Speaker 1: your heart means letting go of control. It means realizing
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  Speaker 1: that your marriage is not yours to fix, it is
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  Speaker 1: God's to restore. But surrendering your marriage to God is
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  Speaker 1: not giving up. It is giving it over. It is saying, Lord,
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  Speaker 1: I cannot do this without you. I have tried everything
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  Speaker 1: in my strength and it has only led to frustration.
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  Speaker 1: I choose to place my marriage in your hands. I
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  Speaker 1: trust you to fight for me. When the Israelites stood
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  Speaker 1: before the Red Sea with the Egyptian army chasing them,
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  Speaker 1: they had no way out. They could have tried to
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  Speaker 1: fight the Egyptians, swim across the sea, or run in
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  Speaker 1: different directions, but none of those would have worked. They
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  Speaker 1: needed a miracle, and in that moment, God spoke through
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  Speaker 1: Moses in Exodus fourteen forty and said, the Lord will
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  Speaker 1: fight for you. You need only to be still. This
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  Speaker 1: is what God is saying to you right now. Stop
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  Speaker 1: fighting in your own strength. Let me fight for you.
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  Speaker 1: Let me be the one who heals what is broken.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me with your marriage. One of the biggest reasons
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  Speaker 1: people struggle to surrender their marriage to God is fear.
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  Speaker 1: They are afraid that if they let go things will
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  Speaker 1: fall apart. They are afraid that if they stop controlling,
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  Speaker 1: they will lose everything. But the reality is, when you
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  Speaker 1: hold onto your marriage in fear, you are not really
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  Speaker 1: holding it together. You are slowly breaking it apart. When
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  Speaker 1: we try to fix things on our own, we usually
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  Speaker 1: do it out of fear, frustration, or pain. But when
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  Speaker 1: we let God take control, he operates out of wisdom, love,
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  Speaker 1: and divine power. So what does it really look like
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  Speaker 1: to let God fight for your marriage first? It means
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  Speaker 1: praying more than you speak, instead of trying to convince
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  Speaker 1: your spouse to change, start bringing your concerns to God,
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  Speaker 1: stop arguing, and start interceding. Let your spouse hear your
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  Speaker 1: prayers for them more than your complaints about them. Second,
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  Speaker 1: it means trusting God's timing. Sometimes God doesn't bring immediate
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  Speaker 1: change because he's doing a deeper work in both of you.
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  Speaker 1: The Israelites had to walk through the wilderness before they
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  Speaker 1: reached the promised land. God didn't take them on the
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  Speaker 1: shortest route because they weren't ready. The same is true
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  Speaker 1: in marriage. Sometimes the breakthrough you are praying for is coming,
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  Speaker 1: but God is first preparing you to receive it. Third,
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  Speaker 1: it means focusing on your own growth instead of your
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  Speaker 1: spouse's mistakes. In Matthew seven three to five, Jesus asked,
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  Speaker 1: why do you look at the speck of sawdust in
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  Speaker 1: your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank
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  Speaker 1: in your own eye? We are often so focused on
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  Speaker 1: what our spouse is doing wrong that we never allow
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  Speaker 1: God to refine us. When you truly surrender your marriage
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  Speaker 1: to God, your prayer becomes Lord, Start with me, change
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  Speaker 1: my heart, show me where I need to grow, Make
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  Speaker 1: me the spouse you have called me to be. Fourth,
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  Speaker 1: it means releasing the outcome to God. This is the
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  Speaker 1: hardest part. When you truly surrender your marriage. You are saying, God,
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  Speaker 1: I trust you with whatever happens. I trust you with
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  Speaker 1: my spouse's heart. I trust you with my future. I
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  Speaker 1: believe that no matter what, you are working all things
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  Speaker 1: for my good. This kind of trust is not easy,
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  Speaker 1: but it is necessary. The moment you let go of
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  Speaker 1: control and hand it over to God, peace replaces anxiety.
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  Speaker 1: You no longer have to carry the weight of fixing everything.
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  Speaker 1: You no longer have to live in fear of what
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  Speaker 1: will happen next. You can rest in knowing that the
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  Speaker 1: same God who parted the Red Sea, who shut the
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  Speaker 1: mouths of lions, who raise Jesus from the dead, is
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  Speaker 1: fighting for your marriage. So let me ask you. Are
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  Speaker 1: you exhausted from trying to fix everything yourself. Are you
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  Speaker 1: frustrated that nothing seems to be working. Are you ready
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  Speaker 1: to let God take control and do what only he
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  Speaker 1: can do because he is ready. Isaiah forty thirty one says,
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  Speaker 1: but those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength.
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  Speaker 1: They shall mount up with wings like eagles. They shall
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  Speaker 1: run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.
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  Speaker 1: When you wait on God's timing, he will renew your strength.
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  Speaker 1: When you surrender to his plan. He will carry you
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  Speaker 1: through and when you let Him fight for you, you
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  Speaker 1: will see victory that you could never achieve on your own.
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  Speaker 1: This is not the end of your marriage's story. It
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  Speaker 1: is the beginning of something new. But first you have
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  Speaker 1: to let go. You have to stop trying to control
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  Speaker 1: what only God can change. You have to stop fighting
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  Speaker 1: with your spouse and start fighting for your marriage by
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  Speaker 1: letting God fight for you. And in the next section
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  Speaker 1: we will talk about what comes after surrender, the practical
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  Speaker 1: steps to rebuild, restore, and strengthen your marriage once God
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  Speaker 1: has taken over the battle. Because letting God fight for
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  Speaker 1: you does not mean doing nothing. It means aligning yourself
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  Speaker 1: with his will and following the path He has set
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  Speaker 1: before you. And when you do that, you will see
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  Speaker 1: what He can do when he is the foundation of
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  Speaker 1: your marriage. Surrendering your marriage to God is the first step.
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  Speaker 1: But what comes next Once you have let go control
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  Speaker 1: and allowed God to take the lead. There is something
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  Speaker 1: that must take root in your heart if true healing
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  Speaker 1: is going to happen. That thing is forgiveness. Without it,
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  Speaker 1: even the strongest prayers will feel empty without it. Even
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  Speaker 1: if God is fighting for your marriage, you will still
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  Speaker 1: be holding on to the very thing that keeps you
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  Speaker 1: stuck in the past. Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood,
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  Speaker 1: most difficult, and yet most powerful things in any marriage.
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  Speaker 1: It is not just a feeling. It is not saying
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  Speaker 1: that what happened was okay. It is not pretending that
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  Speaker 1: wounds don't exist. Forgiveness is a choice to release the
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  Speaker 1: pain so that God can bring healing. And make no mistake,
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  Speaker 1: the enemy hates forgiveness because where there is unforgiveness, there
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  Speaker 1: is bondage. Many couples remain stuck, not because they don't
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  Speaker 1: love each other, but because as they are chained to
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  Speaker 1: past hurts, words that were spoken in anger, actions that
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  Speaker 1: betrayed trust, wounds that were never fully healed, and little
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  Speaker 1: by little, unforgiveness turns into resentment, bitterness, and emotional distance.
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  Speaker 1: In Ephesians four twenty six to twenty seven, Paul warns
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  Speaker 1: us in your anger, do not sin, do not let
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  Speaker 1: the sun go down while you are still angry, and
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  Speaker 1: do not give the devil a foothold. Did you catch
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  Speaker 1: that unforgiveness gives the enemy a foothold. It gives him
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  Speaker 1: a space to operate in your marriage. It allows him
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  Speaker 1: to turn small offenses into major wounds, and minor disagreements
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  Speaker 1: into full blown separation. The enemy is crafty. He won't
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  Speaker 1: always attack marriages through big, dramatic events. Sometimes he works slowly,
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  Speaker 1: planting seeds of offence, replaying old arguments in your mind,
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  Speaker 1: making sure that every time you look at your spouse
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  Speaker 1: you see them through the lens of past mistakes instead
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  Speaker 1: of through the grace of God. If you hold on
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  Speaker 1: to unforgiveness, it will consume you. It will rob you
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  Speaker 1: of joy, keep you from intimacy, and make sure that
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  Speaker 1: every prayer you pray feels hollow. Jesus made it clear
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  Speaker 1: in Matthew six fourteen to fifteen, for if you forgive
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  Speaker 1: other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father
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  Speaker 1: will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive
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  Speaker 1: others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
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  Speaker 1: Forgiveness is not an option for a Christian marriage. It
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  Speaker 1: is a command. But how do you forgive when the
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  Speaker 1: wounds are still fresh? How do you let go when
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  Speaker 1: you still feel the weight of what was done to you?
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  Speaker 1: How do you show grace when your heart is struggling
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  Speaker 1: to trust again, the answer is not in your strength,
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  Speaker 1: it is in God's Look at Joseph in the Bible.
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  Speaker 1: His own brother betrayed him, sold him into slavery, and
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  Speaker 1: ruined his life for years. But when he finally had
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  Speaker 1: the chance for revenge, what did he do? He forgave them.
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  Speaker 1: He told them in Genesis fifty twenty, you intended to
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  Speaker 1: harm me, but God intended it for good. Look at
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  Speaker 1: Jesus as he hung on the cross after being beaten, humiliated,
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  Speaker 1: and abandoned. His first words were not condemnation, but forgiveness. Father,
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  Speaker 1: forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.
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  Speaker 1: Luke twenty three thirty four. Forgiveness is a choice that
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  Speaker 1: breaks chains. It frees you before it frees the other person.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you start walking in forgiveness and grace? Daily?
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  Speaker 1: One make the choice to forgive, even if you don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like it yet. Forgiveness starts as a decision. If
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  Speaker 1: you wait until you feel like forgiving, you never will
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  Speaker 1: ask God for the strength to forgive and choose to
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  Speaker 1: release the offense even when your emotions haven't caught up yet. Two.
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  Speaker 1: Stop replaying the past. The enemy will try to keep
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  Speaker 1: the wound fresh by making you relive it over and
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  Speaker 1: over again. He wants to keep the offense alive in
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  Speaker 1: your mind every time he brings it up. Counter it
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  Speaker 1: with the word of God. Declare, I have chosen to forgive.
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  Speaker 1: I will not let this define my marriage. Three. Pray
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  Speaker 1: for your spouse. It is impossible to stay bitter towards
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  Speaker 1: someone you are genuinely praying for. When you pray for
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  Speaker 1: your spouse, not just for them to change, but for
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  Speaker 1: God to bless them, heal them, and draw them closer
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  Speaker 1: to Him, it shifts your heart. Four. Set boundaries, but
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  Speaker 1: don't build walls. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring problems. It
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  Speaker 1: does not mean tolerating abuse or allowing someone to continue
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  Speaker 1: hurting you. But there is a difference between setting wise
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  Speaker 1: boundaries and building walls that block reconciliation. Five. Trust that
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  Speaker 1: God is the ultimate healer. Some wounds in marriage don't
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  Speaker 1: heal over night. They take time, prayer, and intentional action.
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  Speaker 1: But when you surrender your pain to God, he can
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  Speaker 1: restore what seems impossible. Right now, many of you are
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  Speaker 1: carrying pain in your marriage. You are struggling with unspoken hurts, disappointments,
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  Speaker 1: and resentment that has been building for years. But here's
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  Speaker 1: the truth. You cannot move forward in your marriage if
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  Speaker 1: you are still holding on to the past. You cannot
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  Speaker 1: experience real love. If bitterness is filling your heart, you
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  Speaker 1: cannot see what God is trying to do, if you
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  Speaker 1: are still focused on what was done to you. Forgiveness
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  Speaker 1: is the key that unlocks the next level of your marriage.
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  Speaker 1: It does not erase the past, but it releases its
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  Speaker 1: power over your future. So let me ask you, what
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  Speaker 1: are you still holding on to? What past hurt, what offense?
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  Speaker 1: What moment keeps replaying in your mind? What is keeping
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  Speaker 1: you from truly walking in freedom? What is stopping you
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  Speaker 1: from giving your spouse the same grace that God has
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  Speaker 1: given you. Jesus did not forgive you because you deserved it.
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  Speaker 1: He forgave you because He loves you, and He is
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  Speaker 1: calling you to extend that same love in your marriage.
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  Speaker 1: If you want real healing, you must release the pain.
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  Speaker 1: If you want real restoration, you must let go of
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  Speaker 1: the past. If you want God to do a new thing,
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  Speaker 1: you must stop holding on to what was and trust
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  Speaker 1: Him with what is to come. Next, let's talk about
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  Speaker 1: the power of love in action, because forgiveness is just
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  Speaker 1: the beginning. True transformation happens when you learn to love
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  Speaker 1: your spouse the way Christ loves the Church, and that
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  Speaker 1: kind of love changes everything. Forgiveness is a powerful step
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  Speaker 1: toward healing in your marriage, but something else that can
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  Speaker 1: either build your marriage up or completely tear it apart.
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  Speaker 1: It's not always the arguments, it's not always the major betrayals.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's as simple as who you are talking to.
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  Speaker 1: When marriage gets difficult, the natural reaction is to look
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  Speaker 1: for someone to confide in. We want to be heard,
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  Speaker 1: we want validation, We want someone to tell us you're right,
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  Speaker 1: they're wrong. And in those moments of frustration, pain, or
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  Speaker 1: even just confusion, we go looking for the wrong voices.
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  Speaker 1: The enemy knows that bad advice can destroy a marriage
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  Speaker 1: just as quickly as sin can. He doesn't always need
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  Speaker 1: to tempt you with unfaithfulness. He doesn't always need to
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  Speaker 1: push you into major conflict. Sometimes all he needs to
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  Speaker 1: do is place the wrong voices in your life, voices
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  Speaker 1: that will steer you away from God's plan. This is
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  Speaker 1: why Proverbs thirteen twenty says walk with the wise and
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  Speaker 1: become wise, For a companion of fools suffers harm. Who
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  Speaker 1: you talk to matters. The voices you allow into your
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  Speaker 1: heart shape your perspective. The advice you take can either
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  Speaker 1: push you closer to God or pull you away from
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  Speaker 1: His will. One of the biggest mistakes people make in
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  Speaker 1: marriage is sharing their struggles with the wrong people. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's a bitter friend who has given up on their
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  Speaker 1: own marriage and constantly tells you you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: deal with that, just leave. Maybe it's a family member who,
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  Speaker 1: instead of encouraging reconciliation, keeps a record of everything wrong
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  Speaker 1: your spouse has done and fuels your frustration. Maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: a coworker or social media connection that seems to listen
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  Speaker 1: and understand you better than your spouse, leading you toward
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  Speaker 1: emotional attachment and temptation. The truth is not everyone deserves
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  Speaker 1: access to the intimate details of your marriage. Your marriage
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  Speaker 1: is sacred, and every time you spread your problems to
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  Speaker 1: the wrong people, you are giving others permission to speak
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  Speaker 1: into something they were never called to fix. The Bible
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  Speaker 1: gives us clear wisdom about this. Look at Adam and
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  Speaker 1: Eve in the Garden of Eden. Eve had direct access
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  Speaker 1: to God, yet she chose to listen to the wrong voice,
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  Speaker 1: the serpent, instead of standing on God's truth. She entertained
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  Speaker 1: a conversation that ultimately led to sin, shame, and separation
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  Speaker 1: from God. How many marriages have fallen apart because one
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  Speaker 1: or both spouses were listening to the wrong voices. Marriage
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  Speaker 1: is not meant to be navigated alone. But you have
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  Speaker 1: to be intentional about who you allow to counsel you.
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  Speaker 1: So who should you share your struggles with? First? Bring
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  Speaker 1: everything to God first, before you pick up the phone,
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  Speaker 1: before you vent, before you seek advice, Go to the Lord.
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  Speaker 1: Pray first, ask for his wisdom. Many times the answer
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  Speaker 1: you are looking for is already in his word. James
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  Speaker 1: one five says, if any of you lacks wisdom, you
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  Speaker 1: should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault,
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  Speaker 1: and it will be given to you. God is not
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  Speaker 1: withholding wisdom from you, but you have to ask Him
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  Speaker 1: before you seek it from any one else. Second, seek
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  Speaker 1: godly counsel from the right people. Proverbs eleven fourteen says
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  Speaker 1: where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in
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  Speaker 1: an abundance of counselors there is safety. But notice the
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  Speaker 1: key word counselors, not just friends, not just anyone willing
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  Speaker 1: to listen. Counselors, people who are walking in wisdom, people
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  Speaker 1: who are spiritually mature, people who will lead you toward
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  Speaker 1: God's will, not just their opinions. This might be a
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  Speaker 1: Christian mentor, a pastor, a biblical counselor, or an older
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  Speaker 1: couple who has a strong godly marriage. These are the
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  Speaker 1: voices you need, voices that will challenge you to seek God,
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  Speaker 1: not just validate your emotions. The problem with seeking advice
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  Speaker 1: from the wrong people is that most of them will
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  Speaker 1: only hear one side of the story. And when people
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  Speaker 1: hear only your side, they will naturally take your side.
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  Speaker 1: They will confirm your frustrations, they will support your feelings.
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  Speaker 1: But what you need is truth. You need people who
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  Speaker 1: will push you back to God. So what does godly
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  Speaker 1: counsel sound like? Instead of you don't have to deal
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  Speaker 1: with this, just leave, a wise mentor will say, what
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  Speaker 1: does God say about this situation? Instead of you're always
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  Speaker 1: right and your spouse is always wrong. A godly counselor
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  Speaker 1: will say, let's seek biblical wisdom for both of you,
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  Speaker 1: instead of you deserve to be happy no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: A spiritual leader will say, let's pray and see what
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  Speaker 1: God is doing in your heart through this. Choosing the
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  Speaker 1: right voices is about choosing accountability. It's about surrounding yourself
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  Speaker 1: with people who will challenge you to walk in faith,
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  Speaker 1: not just in feelings. And this is where many people
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  Speaker 1: struggle because wise counsel will not always tell you what
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  Speaker 1: you want to hear. Maybe you want someone to confirm
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  Speaker 1: your anger, but God sends someone to tell you to forgive.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you want someone to validate your bitterness, but God
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  Speaker 1: sends someone to tell you to humble yourself and pray.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you want someone to agree that your spouse is
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  Speaker 1: the problem, but God sends someone to tell you to
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  Speaker 1: look at your own heart first. This is why you
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  Speaker 1: must be willing to hear the truth. The right voices
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  Speaker 1: will not sugarcoat things for you. They will tell you
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  Speaker 1: when you need to repent, when you need to change,
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  Speaker 1: when you need to surrender, and if you resist that,
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  Speaker 1: you will find yourself going in circles, listening only to
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  Speaker 1: the people who tell you what you want to hear
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  Speaker 1: instead of what you need to hear. Right now, some
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  Speaker 1: of you are struggling in your marriage, and part of
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  Speaker 1: the reason is because you have been letting too many
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  Speaker 1: voices into your situation. You have been letting the world's
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  Speaker 1: advice shape your decisions. You have been feeding your frustration
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  Speaker 1: with conversations that do not lead you closer to God.
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  Speaker 1: And God is saying to you to day, be still
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  Speaker 1: and know that I am God, Psalm forty six ten.
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  Speaker 1: It's time to clear out the noise. It's time to
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  Speaker 1: stop seeking validation from the wrong people and start seeking
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  Speaker 1: wisdom from the right ones. It's time to stop allowing
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  Speaker 1: others to have more influence over your marriage than the
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  Speaker 1: Holy Spirit does. So let me ask you who have
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  Speaker 1: you been listening to. Who has been shaping the way
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  Speaker 1: you see your spouse? Who has been feeding your frustrations
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  Speaker 1: instead of pointing you back to God? Because if you
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  Speaker 1: are constantly hearing voices that are leading you away from healing,
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  Speaker 1: you will never experience the restoration that God wants to bring.
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  Speaker 1: It's easy to love when things are good. It's easy
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  Speaker 1: to serve when your spouse is kind, when the marriage
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  Speaker 1: is peaceful, when everything feels like a fairy tale. But
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  Speaker 1: what about when it's hard? What about when love feels
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  Speaker 1: one sided? What about when your spouse is distant, cold,
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  Speaker 1: or even hurtful. What about when you don't feel like
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  Speaker 1: giving any more. This is where most marriages begin to crumble,
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  Speaker 1: not in the moments of celebration, but in the daily grind,
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  Speaker 1: in the unseen struggles, in the small choices to either
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  Speaker 1: love or withdraw. And if we are honest, many of
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  Speaker 1: us have been guilty of loving conditionally. We love when
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  Speaker 1: our spouse meets our needs. We love when it feels good,
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  Speaker 1: we love when it's convenient. But biblical love, the love
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  Speaker 1: that restores, strengthens, and transforms a marriage, is not based
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  Speaker 1: on feelings. It is based on commitment, and this is
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  Speaker 1: exactly how Jesus loves us. Ephesians five twenty five says, husbands,
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  Speaker 1: love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and
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  Speaker 1: gave himself up for her. The love of Christ is sacrificial.
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  Speaker 1: It does not wait for the other person to deserve it.
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  Speaker 1: It does not demand perfection before giving itself fully. It
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  Speaker 1: does not keep score. It serves, It sacrifices, and it
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  Speaker 1: chooses to love even when it's hard. Think about the
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  Speaker 1: way Jesus loved. He washed the feet of Judas, knowing
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  Speaker 1: Judas would betray him. He forgave Peter, knowing Peter would
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  Speaker 1: deny him. He endured the cross for you, knowing you
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  Speaker 1: would sin again against him. That is love. That is
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  Speaker 1: the kind of love we are called to show in marriage.
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  Speaker 1: But let's be real. How do you love like that
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  Speaker 1: when you're hurt? How do you serve your spouse when
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  Speaker 1: you feel like they don't appreciate you? How do you
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  Speaker 1: keep giving when you feel empty? First, you stop looking
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  Speaker 1: at love as a transaction. The world teaches us that
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  Speaker 1: love is a give and take, that you should only
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  Speaker 1: pour into someone if they pour into you, that you
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  Speaker 1: should only give as much as you get. But Jesus
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  Speaker 1: never loved that way. Romans five eight says, But God
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  Speaker 1: demonstrates his own love for us in this while we
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  Speaker 1: were still sinners. Christ died for us. Jesus loved before
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  Speaker 1: we deserved it. And this is how you are called
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  Speaker 1: to love your spouse, not as a reaction to their love,
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  Speaker 1: but as a reflection of God's love in you. Second,
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  Speaker 1: you serve even when you feel unnoticed. One of the
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  Speaker 1: biggest struggles in marriage is feeling unappreciated. You pour your
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  Speaker 1: heart into loving your spouse and they don't seem to notice.
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  Speaker 1: You do the little things, and they don't say thank you.
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  Speaker 1: You try, and it feels like they don't care. But
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  Speaker 1: let me remind you of something. God sees what they don't.
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  Speaker 1: Colossians three twenty three to twenty four says, whatever you do,
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  Speaker 1: work at it with all your heart as working for
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  Speaker 1: the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that
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  Speaker 1: you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward.
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  Speaker 1: It is the Lord Christ you are serving. When you
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  Speaker 1: serve your spouse, you are serving God. When you choose
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  Speaker 1: to love even when it's hard, you are honoring Him.
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  Speaker 1: And when you keep sowing love, God will bring a
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  Speaker 1: harvest in due time. Third, you replace bitterness with grace.
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  Speaker 1: One of the biggest killers of love in marriage is bitterness.
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  Speaker 1: Over time, small offenses build up, unmet expectations turn into resentment,
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  Speaker 1: and instead of seeing your spouse as a gift from God,
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  Speaker 1: you begin to see them as the cause of your frustration.
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  Speaker 1: But what does scripture say? First Corinthians thirteen, Colon five
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  Speaker 1: says love keeps no record of wrongs. That means love
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  Speaker 1: chooses grace. Love lets go of the scorecard. Love does
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  Speaker 1: not hold past mistakes as weapons in future arguments. This
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean you ignore problems. It doesn't mean you tolerate mistreatment.
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  Speaker 1: But it does mean that, instead of holding on to offenses,
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  Speaker 1: you release them to God. Instead of trying to make
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  Speaker 1: your spouse pay for their mistakes, you surrender the pain
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  Speaker 1: to the one who can truly heal. Fourth You express
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  Speaker 1: love in small, daily actions. Love is not just about
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  Speaker 1: grand gestures. It's about the small, intentional choices you make
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  Speaker 1: every single day. A gentle response instead of a harsh reply,
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  Speaker 1: a kind word when it would be easier to be silent,
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  Speaker 1: A prayer for your spouse when you feel frustrated with them,
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  Speaker 1: a hug, a smile, a simple I appreciate you. These
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  Speaker 1: things may seem small, but they build the foundation of
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  Speaker 1: a strong marriage. If you wait until you feel like loving,
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  Speaker 1: you will always find an excuse not to. If you
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  Speaker 1: wait for your spouse to change first, you may never
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  Speaker 1: start at all. But when you decide that your love
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  Speaker 1: will not be based on their actions, but on Christ's example,
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  Speaker 1: everything shifts. Right now, some of you feel empty. You
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  Speaker 1: feel like you have given everything and there is nothing left.
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  Speaker 1: You feel like you have tried and it's not working.
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  Speaker 1: You feel like you are carrying the weight of the
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  Speaker 1: marriage alone. But let me remind you you are not alone.
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  Speaker 1: God sees your effort, he sees your heart, He knows
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  Speaker 1: your pain, and He is the one who fills you
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  Speaker 1: when you are empty. Isaiah forty thirty one says, but
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  Speaker 1: those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
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  Speaker 1: If you are weary from loving, go back to the source.
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  Speaker 1: If you are tired of giving, go to the one
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  Speaker 1: who gave everything for you. If you feel like you
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  Speaker 1: can't love any more, let God love through you. So
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  Speaker 1: let me ask you. Are you willing to love like Jesus?
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  Speaker 1: Are you willing to serve even when it's hard. Are
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  Speaker 1: you willing to forgive even when it's undeserved? Are you
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  Speaker 1: willing to love beyond your feelings and trust God with
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  Speaker 1: the results, Because this is what will truly restore and
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  Speaker 1: transform your marriage. Now, let's talk about how to rebuild
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  Speaker 1: trust and restore intimacy in a marriage that has been broken,
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  Speaker 1: because love is the foundation, but trust is what keeps
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  Speaker 1: it strong. And if God can resurrect the dead, he
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  Speaker 1: can resurrect a broken marriage. But it starts with using
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  Speaker 1: to love like Christ. Loving like Christ is the foundation
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  Speaker 1: of a strong marriage. But what happens when trust has
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  Speaker 1: been broken? What happens when love is still there, but
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  Speaker 1: so is the pain. What do you do when betrayal,
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  Speaker 1: deep wounds, or past mistakes seem too heavy to overcome.
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  Speaker 1: This is where many marriages fall apart, not because love
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  Speaker 1: is absent, but because the hurt feels too great to
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  Speaker 1: move forward. And the enemy knows this. He knows that
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  Speaker 1: if he can convince you that your marriage is beyond repair,
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  Speaker 1: you will stop fighting for it. But let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you something right now, nothing is beyond God's ability to heal.
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  Speaker 1: If you are carrying the weight of betrayal, disappointment, or
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  Speaker 1: wounds that seem too deep. This is for you. And
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  Speaker 1: before we go any further, let me remind you of
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  Speaker 1: something powerful. The Lord is close to the broken hearted
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  Speaker 1: and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm thirty
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  Speaker 1: four eighteen. God sees your pain. He is not distant
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  Speaker 1: from your suffering. He's not ignoring your tears. He is near,
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  Speaker 1: and if you allow him to, he will walk you
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  Speaker 1: through the process of healing, one step at a time.
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  Speaker 1: But healing after betrayal is not instant. It is a process,
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  Speaker 1: and that process requires God's strength, not just human effort.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you do when trust has been broken. First,
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  Speaker 1: you acknowledge the pain, but you don't let it control you.
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  Speaker 1: One of the biggest mistakes people make after being hurt
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  Speaker 1: in marriage is trying to suppress the pain instead of
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  Speaker 1: dealing with it. You tell yourself it doesn't matter. You
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  Speaker 1: pretend it's not a big deal. You try to move
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  Speaker 1: on as if nothing happened. But the problem is unhealed.
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  Speaker 1: Wounds don't just go away, they grow. Ephesians four twenty
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  Speaker 1: six to twenty seven says, in your anger, do not sin,
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  Speaker 1: do not let the sun go down while you are
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  Speaker 1: still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
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  Speaker 1: When you ignore deep wounds, bitterness begins to take root,
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  Speaker 1: and the longer you hold on to it, the more
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  Speaker 1: it poisons your heart. This is why you must bring
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  Speaker 1: your pain to God before you talk to your spouse,
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  Speaker 1: before you try to fix things in your own strength.
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  Speaker 1: Lay it all at the feet of Jesus. Second, you
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  Speaker 1: choose forgiveness, not because they deserve it, but because you
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  Speaker 1: deserve freedom. Forgiveness is not excusing what happened. It is
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  Speaker 1: not saying that betrayal is okay. It is not pretending
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  Speaker 1: that deep wounds don't hurt. Forgiveness is releasing the right
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  Speaker 1: to hold on to resentment so that you can be free.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus said in Matthew six fourteen fifteen. For if you
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  Speaker 1: forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly
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  Speaker 1: father will also forgive you. But if you do not
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  Speaker 1: forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
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  Speaker 1: Why did Jesus put so much weight on forgiveness because
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  Speaker 1: unforgiveness is a prison. It locks you into the past,
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  Speaker 1: keeps you from healing, and gives the enemy control over
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  Speaker 1: your emotions. But hear me, forgiveness is not the same
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  Speaker 1: as trust. Trust is rebuilt over time. It is restored
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  Speaker 1: through consistency, accountability, and godly wisdom. If trust has been
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  Speaker 1: broken in your marriage, it may take time to rebuild,
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  Speaker 1: and that's okay. But forgiveness is a choice you make now.
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  Speaker 1: It's a decision to say I will not let the
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  Speaker 1: past control my future. Third, you surrender your healing process
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  Speaker 1: to God. So many people say I will heal when
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  Speaker 1: I see change in my spouse. But if if you
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  Speaker 1: wait for the other person to change before you begin healing,
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  Speaker 1: you will stay stuck in the pain forever. Healing is
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  Speaker 1: not about them, It's about you and God. Isaiah forty
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  Speaker 1: one ten says, so do not fear, for I am
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  Speaker 1: with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
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  Speaker 1: I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold
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  Speaker 1: you with my righteous right hand. God is the one
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  Speaker 1: who heals hearts. He is the one who restores broken trust.
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  Speaker 1: He is the one who takes the ashes of your
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  Speaker 1: pain and turns them into something beautiful. Forth, you set boundaries,
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  Speaker 1: not walls. After deep wounds, many people either become too passive,
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  Speaker 1: pretending nothing happened, or build emotional walls, refusing to ever
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  Speaker 1: let their spouse in again. But neither of these lead
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  Speaker 1: to healing. Boundaries are different. A Boundaries say I love you,
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  Speaker 1: but rebuilding trust will take time. Boundaries say I'm choosing
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  Speaker 1: to forgive, but I also need accountability. Boundaries say we
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  Speaker 1: cannot move forward the same way things were before. We
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  Speaker 1: must do things God's way now. Jesus was full of
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  Speaker 1: grace and truth. He forgave, but he also called people
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  Speaker 1: to repentance. He showed love, but he also challenged people
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  Speaker 1: to change. This is what real healing looks like. Fifth
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  Speaker 1: you surround yourself with godly support. Proverbs fifteen twenty two
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  Speaker 1: says plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many
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  Speaker 1: advisers they succeed. Healing is not meant to be done alone.
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  Speaker 1: You need godly mentors, Christian counselors, or wise believers who
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  Speaker 1: will walk with you through this season. People who will
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  Speaker 1: point you to Jesus, remind you of his promises, and
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  Speaker 1: help you stay on the path to healing. But be careful.
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  Speaker 1: Not every voice is a Godly voice. Be intentional about
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  Speaker 1: who you allow to speak into your marriage. Choose voices
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  Speaker 1: that will push you toward God's will, not just your emotions. Finally,
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  Speaker 1: you let God do what only he can do. At
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  Speaker 1: the end of the day, only God can truly heal.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot force your spouse to change. You cannot fix
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  Speaker 1: everything over night. You cannot carry the weight of restoration alone.
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  Speaker 1: But you can surrender. You can say God, I cannot
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  Speaker 1: do this in my own strength. I give you my pain,
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  Speaker 1: I give you my marriage, I give you my heart.
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  Speaker 1: Heal what I cannot heal, Restore what I cannot restore,
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  Speaker 1: Do what only you can do. And when you do that,
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  Speaker 1: when you truly let go and place your healing in
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  Speaker 1: God's hands. You will begin to see His power at
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  Speaker 1: work in ways you never imagined. Right now, some of
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  Speaker 1: you are standing at a cross roads. You have been hurt,
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  Speaker 1: you have been betrayed. You are holding on to pain
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  Speaker 1: that seems impossible to let go of. But God is saying,
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  Speaker 1: give it to me. Let me make what is broken
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  Speaker 1: and make it whole. Let me take what has been
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  Speaker 1: shattered and restore it in a way only I can.
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  Speaker 1: So let me ask you, are you ready to heal?
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  Speaker 1: Are you willing to let go of the past so
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  Speaker 1: that God can restore your future? Are you ready to
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  Speaker 1: step into a new season where pain does not define
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  Speaker 1: you but God's grace does. Because your story is not over.
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  Speaker 1: God is not finished with your marriage, and in the
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  Speaker 1: next section, we will talk about how to rebuild intimacy, trust,
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  Speaker 1: and love in a way that honors God and strengthens
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  Speaker 1: your relationship. Because healing is only the beginning, God wants
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  Speaker 1: to do more than just repair, He wants to completely restore.
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  Speaker 1: Healing from deep wounds is a critical part of restoring
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  Speaker 1: a marriage, but there's another key element that determines whether
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  Speaker 1: a marriage will thrive or struggle. That element is spiritual alignment.
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  Speaker 1: You can rebuild trust, you can work through challenges, but
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  Speaker 1: if you and your spouse are not spiritually aligned, you
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  Speaker 1: will always feel like something is missing. Spiritual alignment is
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  Speaker 1: about more than just going to church together. It's about
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  Speaker 1: walking in the same direction, seeking God together, and allowing
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  Speaker 1: your faith to be the foundation of your marriage. Amos
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  Speaker 1: three three asks a simple but powerful question. Can two
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  Speaker 1: walk together unless they are agreed? The truth is marriage
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  Speaker 1: is a journey, and if two people are walking in
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  Speaker 1: different directions, they will never reach the same destination. But
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  Speaker 1: what happens when one spouse is stronger in faith than
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  Speaker 1: the other. What happens when one person is growing spiritually
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  Speaker 1: while the other seems distant. What happens when you feel
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  Speaker 1: like you are fighting for your marriage alone. First, you
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  Speaker 1: must understand why spiritual alignment is crucial. In Genesis two
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  Speaker 1: twenty four, God established marriage with these words. That is
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  Speaker 1: why a man leaves his father and mother and is
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  Speaker 1: united to his wife and they become one flesh. Marriage
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  Speaker 1: is not just a physical bond, It is a spiritual covenant.
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  Speaker 1: When two people come together in marriage, they are joined
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  Speaker 1: before God. This means that their spiritual lives are not
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  Speaker 1: just individual anymore. They are connected. When both spouses are
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  Speaker 1: seeking God together, praying together, and growing together, their marriage
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  Speaker 1: is strengthened. But when one is pursuing God and the
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  Speaker 1: other is not, it creates spiritual distance. It's like rowing
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  Speaker 1: a boat together. If both of you are paddling in
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  Speaker 1: the same direction, you move forward. But if one person
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  Speaker 1: stops rowing, the other is left trying to move the
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  Speaker 1: boat alone, and eventually they get exhausted. So what you
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  Speaker 1: do when you and your spouse are not in the
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  Speaker 1: same place spiritually, First, you lead by example, not by force.
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  Speaker 1: One of the biggest mistakes people make is trying to
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  Speaker 1: force their spouse to be where they are spiritually. They nag, pressure,
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  Speaker 1: or criticize, thinking that if they just say the right thing,
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  Speaker 1: their spouse will change. But that's not how God works.
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  Speaker 1: One Peter three one to two gives this wisdom. Wives,
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  Speaker 1: in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands,
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  Speaker 1: so that if any of them do not believe the word,
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  Speaker 1: they may be one over without words by the behavior
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  Speaker 1: of their wives when they see the purity and reverence
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  Speaker 1: of your lives. Did you catch that without words? This
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  Speaker 1: applies to both husbands and wives. You don't win your
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  Speaker 1: spouse over by constantly telling them what they should do.
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  Speaker 1: You win them over by showing them Christ through your life.
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  Speaker 1: Your love, your patience, your kindness, and your unwavering faith
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  Speaker 1: will speak louder than any any sermon you preach to them. Second,
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  Speaker 1: you pray for them daily. Prayer is the most powerful
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  Speaker 1: tool you have. You cannot change your spouse, but God can.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of spending your energy on frustration, spend it on prayer.
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  Speaker 1: Pray for their heart, Pray for their relationship with God.
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  Speaker 1: Pray that the Holy Spirit will awaken something inside them
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  Speaker 1: that no human words ever could. James five sixteen says
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  Speaker 1: the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
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  Speaker 1: God sees your prayers, he hears your cries for your spouse,
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  Speaker 1: and even when it feels like nothing is changing, God
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  Speaker 1: is working behind the scenes. Third, be patient with their journey.
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  Speaker 1: Not everyone grows at the same pace spiritually. Some people
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  Speaker 1: come to faith quickly, while others take time. Some have
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  Speaker 1: deep wounds that make it harder for them to trust God.
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  Speaker 1: Some have experienced church hurt, which makes them resistant. But
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  Speaker 1: remember God is patient with us, so we must be
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  Speaker 1: patient with others. Philippians one six reminds us, He who
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  Speaker 1: began a good work in you will carry it on
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  Speaker 1: to completion until the day of Christ. Jesus. God is
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  Speaker 1: still working on your spouse. Don't give up on them
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  Speaker 1: just because they're not where you want them to be.
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  Speaker 1: Yet forth, find ways to grow together spiritually. Even if
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  Speaker 1: you and your spouse are not on the same level
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: of faith, there are still ways to grow together. Invite
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  Speaker 1: them to pray with you, even if it's just for
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  Speaker 1: a minute. Share what God is teaching you, but without pressure.
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  Speaker 1: Read a devotional together, even if it's just one verse
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  Speaker 1: a day. Worship together, even if it's just listening to
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  Speaker 1: worship music in the car. These small actions create unity
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  Speaker 1: and open the door for God to work. Fifth, trust
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  Speaker 1: that God is the one who transforms hearts. At the
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  Speaker 1: end of the day, it is not your job to
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  Speaker 1: change your spouse. That is God's job. Your job is
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  Speaker 1: to be faithful, be patient, and love them like Christ
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  Speaker 1: loves you. Right now, some of you are discouraged. You've
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  Speaker 1: been praying, waiting and hoping for your spouse to grow spiritually,
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: and it feels like nothing is happening. But let me
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  Speaker 1: remind you God is never inactive. He is always working,
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  Speaker 1: always drawing people to himself, always fulfilling his promises. Galatians
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  Speaker 1: six' nine, says let us not grow weary in doing,
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  Speaker 1: good for at the proper time we will reap a
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  Speaker 1: harvest if we do not give. Up don't give up
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  Speaker 1: on your. Spouse don't give up on your. Marriage god
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  Speaker 1: is not finished. Yet so let me ask. You are
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  Speaker 1: you leading by example or are you trying to force?
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  Speaker 1: Change are you praying for your spouse or just complaining about?
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  Speaker 1: Them are you Trusting god's timing or are you growing?
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  Speaker 1: Impatient because here's the. Truth god cares about your spouse's
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  Speaker 1: spiritual growth more than you, do and when you surrender
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  Speaker 1: the process to, him you will see him do what
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  Speaker 1: only he can. Do and the closer you both get To,
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  Speaker 1: god the closer you will get to each. Other there
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  Speaker 1: comes a moment in every struggling marriage where one or
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  Speaker 1: both people wonder is it even worth it any? More
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  Speaker 1: maybe you've, prayed maybe you've fought for. It maybe you've
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: tried everything and nothing seems to be, changing and now you're.
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  Speaker 1: Exhausted maybe you're tired of waiting for your spouse to.
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  Speaker 1: Change maybe you're tired of feeling unseen and. Unheard maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're tired of fighting for something that seems broken beyond.
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  Speaker 1: Repair but hear. This god is not finished with your.
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  Speaker 1: Marriage the enemy wants you to believe that it's, over
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  Speaker 1: that there's no, hope that your story has already been,
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  Speaker 1: written and the ending is, divorce, heartbreak or life long.
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  Speaker 1: Disappointment but let me remind you of Something god has
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  Speaker 1: the final. Say jeremiah thirty two twenty seven, SAYS i
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  Speaker 1: am The, lord The god of all. Mankind is anything
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  Speaker 1: too hard for? Me your marriage is not too broken
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  Speaker 1: For god to. Heal your spouse is not too far
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  Speaker 1: For god to. Reach your love is not too damaged
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  Speaker 1: For god to. Restore this is Why jesus tells us
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  Speaker 1: In luke eighteen one that we should always pray and
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  Speaker 1: not give, up because breakthrough happens when we. Persist right,
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  Speaker 1: now some of you are at the edge of a,
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: miracle but you don't see it. Yet you're at the
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: doorstep of, breakthrough but it's still behind the, curtain and
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: the enemy is. Whispering just give. Up nothing is. Changing
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  Speaker 1: but what if you're closer than you. Think what If
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  Speaker 1: god is working behind the scenes in ways you cannot
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  Speaker 1: yet at. Sea let me tell you about a couple
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  Speaker 1: Named michael And. Sarah michael had been addicted to pornography for,
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  Speaker 1: years and it slowly tore his marriage. Apart sarah felt, betrayed,
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  Speaker 1: unloved and completely disconnected from her. Husband she tried talking to,
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  Speaker 1: him but nothing. Changed she, prayed but nothing. Changed she
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  Speaker 1: was ready to give. Up one, night in, tears she Told,
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  Speaker 1: GOD i can't do this any. More but instead of walking,
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  Speaker 1: away she Felt god, whisper let me fight for. You
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  Speaker 1: she stopped trying to Fix michael herself and started fighting.
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  Speaker 1: Differently she prayed daily for her. Husband she, fasted she
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  Speaker 1: wrote scriptures all over their, house believing That god's word
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  Speaker 1: would begin to change. Things for six, months nothing seemed to.
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  Speaker 1: Change but then one, Night michael came home from work
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  Speaker 1: and sat on the cow coach. Weeping he Told, SARAH
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  Speaker 1: i don't know what's, happening BUT i feel Like god
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  Speaker 1: is breaking me from the. INSIDE i can't live like this.
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  Speaker 1: Anymore god broke the chains of addiction that. Night it
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  Speaker 1: wasn't Because sarah, Nagged it wasn't because she pushed him.
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  Speaker 1: Harder it was because she prayed and refused to give.
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  Speaker 1: Up that's the power of. Persistence james five sixteen, says
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  Speaker 1: the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and. Effective
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  Speaker 1: your prayers matter even when you don't see results right,
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  Speaker 1: away even when it seems like nothing is. Happening every
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  Speaker 1: time you cry out To god for your, marriage he hears.
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  Speaker 1: You but the problem is we often give up too.
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  Speaker 1: Soon think About joshua and the walls Of. Jericho god
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  Speaker 1: told them to march around the walls for seven. Days,
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  Speaker 1: Now imagine if they had stopped on day. Six imagine
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  Speaker 1: if they had looked at the walls and, said we've been,
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  Speaker 1: marching but nothing is. Happening this isn't. Working but the
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  Speaker 1: walls didn't fall because they felt like it was. Working
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  Speaker 1: the walls fell because they kept going until the breakthrough.
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  Speaker 1: Came and that's what you must do for your. Marriage
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  Speaker 1: some of you are on day, six some of you
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  Speaker 1: are one prayer away from a. Breakthrough some of you
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  Speaker 1: are closer than you. Think The bible is full of
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  Speaker 1: real testimonies of. Restoration hoseiah's wife was unfaithful over and over,
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  Speaker 1: again But god told him to keep pursuing, her and
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  Speaker 1: their marriage was. Restored as a picture Of god's, faithfulness to.
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  Speaker 1: Us the prodigal son walked away from, everything but the
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  Speaker 1: father never stopped waiting for his. Return peter Denied jesus three,
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  Speaker 1: times But jesus restored him. Completely restoration is What god.
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  Speaker 1: Does that doesn't mean it's. Easy it doesn't mean you
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  Speaker 1: won't feel tired or. Discouraged but it does mean that
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  Speaker 1: if you keep Trusting God, god keep seeking, him and
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  Speaker 1: keep fighting the right, way he will be. Faithful now
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  Speaker 1: let's be, clear this doesn't mean staying in an abusive.
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  Speaker 1: Situation if you are in, danger seek, help protect. Yourself
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  Speaker 1: god's plan for marriage is, healing not. Harm but if
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  Speaker 1: you're just struggling through broken, trust, distance or deep, wounds
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 1: don't quit too. Soon galatians six' nine, reminds us let
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  Speaker 1: us not grow weary in, doing good for at the
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 1: proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not.
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  Speaker 1: Give up your marriage is worth. Fighting for your spouse
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  Speaker 1: is worth. Fighting for your love is worth. Fighting for
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  Speaker 1: so let me. Ask you are you willing to? Keep
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  Speaker 1: going are you willing to keep praying even when you
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  Speaker 1: don't see? Results yet are you willing to Trust that
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  Speaker 1: god is working behind the scenes even when your spouse isn't.
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  Speaker 1: Changing yet are you willing to Believe that god is
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  Speaker 1: bigger than, your struggles stronger than, your pain and able
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  Speaker 1: to restore what? Seems Lost because. He is and in
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  Speaker 1: the next section we will close with a final prayer for,
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  Speaker 1: your marriage a prayer, of breakthrough a prayer, of restoration
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  Speaker 1: a prayer Declaring that god is not, finished yet so don't.
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  Speaker 1: Give up god is still writing. Your story we have
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  Speaker 1: spent this time diving deep into the reality of, marriage struggles, facing,
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 1: betrayal disappointment, spiritual disconnection and the temptation to. Give up
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  Speaker 1: but one truth has remained at the center. Of everything
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  Speaker 1: god is not finished with. Your marriage he Is the god,
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  Speaker 1: of restoration the one who breathes life into, dry bones
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  Speaker 1: the one who turns brokenness. Into beauty and right now
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  Speaker 1: we are going to surrender your Marriage to him. In
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  Speaker 1: prayer maybe you've prayed before and nothing seemed. To change
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 1: maybe you've cried Out to god but the situation still.
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  Speaker 1: Looks hopeless maybe your heart is weary from carrying the
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 1: weight of. It all but, hear me this prayer. Is
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  Speaker 1: different this is not just a request. For help this is,
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  Speaker 1: a declaration a declaration that you are stepping out of
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  Speaker 1: the battle And letting god fight. For you a declaration
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  Speaker 1: that your marriage belongs to the one who, created it
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  Speaker 1: a declaration that what the enemy meant, For evil god
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  Speaker 1: will turn. For, good so wherever you are, right now
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  Speaker 1: take a, deep breath let go of the tension in.
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  Speaker 1: Your heart if, you can close, Your eyes if you're with,
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  Speaker 1: your spouse grab. Their hand and if you're, standing alone
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  Speaker 1: know that you are not. Truly alone god is right there.
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  Speaker 1: With you Let's Pray. Heavenly father we come before you,
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  Speaker 1: right now broken and desperate for. Your, Presence lord you
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  Speaker 1: see the pain in. This marriage you see the tears
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  Speaker 1: that have been cried behind. Closed doors you see, the loneliness,
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 1: the misunderstandings the deep wounds that feel impossible. To heal
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  Speaker 1: and yet you Are the god of. The impossible your
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  Speaker 1: word Says in mark. Ten, nine Therefore what god has,
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  Speaker 1: joined together let no. One, separate lord we stand on
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  Speaker 1: this promise. To day we declare that this marriage is
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  Speaker 1: not in the hands of, the world not in the hands,
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  Speaker 1: of emotions not even in the hands of, our mistakes
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  Speaker 1: but in Your. Hands father for the spouse who, is
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  Speaker 1: weary who feels like they've done everything. They can who
• 1:18:39
  Speaker 1: is exhausted. From fighting be. Their strength remind them that
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 1: you carry the burdens they were never meant to. Bear
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  Speaker 1: alone your word Says in matthew eleven. Twenty eight come,
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  Speaker 1: to me all you who are weary, and BURDENED and
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  Speaker 1: i will give. You Rest, law lord bring rest to
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  Speaker 1: the weary hearts in. This marriage remind them that they
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  Speaker 1: do not have to fix everything on. Their own for
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: the spouse who has hurt, the other who, has betrayed
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  Speaker 1: spoken words, they regret or built walls instead. Of, bridges
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  Speaker 1: god we ask for, true repentance not, just words but.
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  Speaker 1: Real change you Are the god who. Transforms hearts take
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  Speaker 1: the hardened places and make them. Soft again take pride
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  Speaker 1: and replace it. With humility take defensiveness and replace it
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  Speaker 1: with a willingness to. Love again for the spouse who's,
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  Speaker 1: been wounded who carries the scars, of, betrayal rejection or
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 1: years of, Unmet expectations lord be. Their healer only you
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  Speaker 1: can touch the places that human effort. Cannot reach your
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: word Says in psalm one hundred, forty seven. Verse three
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  Speaker 1: he heals the brokenhearted and binds up. Their wounds, right
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  Speaker 1: now we ask you to bind up, these wounds heal what. Is,
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: broken lord remove, the bitterness, the resentment the hurt that
• 1:20:14
  Speaker 1: lingers even after apologies have. Been, made father we rebuke
• 1:20:19
  Speaker 1: every attack of the enemy against, this marriage every lie
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  Speaker 1: that says it's, too late every whisper that says divorce
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  Speaker 1: is the, only answer every scheme that has tried to
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: divide what you have. Brought together in the Name, of
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  Speaker 1: jesus we cancel every plan of. The enemy this marriage
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  Speaker 1: will not be. Another statistic it will not be another
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  Speaker 1: casualty of the culture's way. Of thinking this marriage belongs. To.
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  Speaker 1: You god we declare that the love that seems lost will,
• 1:20:52
  Speaker 1: be rekindled the trust that was broken will, be restored
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: the wounds that run deep will, be healed and the
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 1: end enemy's plans. Will, fail lord remind us that love
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  Speaker 1: is not just. A feeling it is, a choice a choice,
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 1: to serve, to forgive to, extend grace to walk, in
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 1: patience a choice to fight not against, each other but
• 1:21:14
  Speaker 1: against the real enemy who seeks. To. Destroy father for
• 1:21:18
  Speaker 1: those who feel like they don't even know where, to start,
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  Speaker 1: show them speak to them through, your word lead them
• 1:21:26
  Speaker 1: to the. Right counsel the, right resources the right community
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 1: of believers who will stand with them. In faith help
• 1:21:33
  Speaker 1: them to turn away from worldly advice that says to,
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 1: give up and instead seek wisdom. From you for those
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 1: whose spouses seem, Spiritually, distant lord we pray for. An
• 1:21:45
  Speaker 1: awakening only you can soften a. Hardened heart only you
• 1:21:50
  Speaker 1: can draw someone back. To you do what only you,
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 1: can do stir something deep within them that they. Cannot Ignore,
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 1: and lord teach us how, to love not the shallow
• 1:22:01
  Speaker 1: love of, the world but, the deep unshakable Love. OF
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 1: christ a love THAT says i will serve you even
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 1: when you don't. DESERVE it a love THAT says i
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  Speaker 1: will stay even when. IT'S hard a love that reflects
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 1: your love, for, us, sacrificial unbreakable and filled. With grace
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  Speaker 1: we surrender this marriage into. Your. Hands lord we lay
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 1: down our, own ways our, own timing our, own expectations and,
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 1: we say have. Your way we, Trust you we believe in,
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 1: your power and we declare that this marriage will be
• 1:22:43
  Speaker 1: a testimony not of what we, have done but of
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 1: what you. Have Done In jesus. Mighty name, We, pray
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  Speaker 1: amen if you prayed, THAT prayer i want you to
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  Speaker 1: take a moment. And breathe the weight you've been carrying
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 1: it does not belong to you. Any more god is holding,
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  Speaker 1: it now and as you continue to walk, this journey
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 1: keep your eyes. On him this is not. The end
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: this is the beginning. Of restoration and if this prayer has,
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 1: touched you if You believe god is going to move in,
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 1: your marriage share this video with some one else who.
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 1: Needs it let's stand together in faith And watch. God work,
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  Speaker 1: stay blessed