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Big Birds Will Be The Death of Nick · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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  Hello, welcome to the Nick and Kristen in the podcast.
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  Podcast today, we've got to hold my beer and we're going to talk
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  about Lily's day. Anything about Lily's day?
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  Oh no, it's. Coming up soon, but first I feel
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  like I'm living in the foreshadow of my life.
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  Does that make any sense? Not really explain.
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  So have you ever seen La Bamba? Yes.
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  So you know how and throughout the movie, there's these phases
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  where he's like on a plane and he's like freaks out.
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  He's like, man, I hate planes. And it's foreshadow because he
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  dies on a plane. And so I'm, I'm now living in
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  moments that I'm like, is this foreshadow to the end of my
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  life? Yes.
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  Is this going to be the Canon event?
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  It's. Exactly, it's like this all
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  going to in the movie of my life.
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  Like will this be featured when they go?
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  We highlight this part because this is foreshadow into how this
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  is going to end. OK, well don't worry, no one's
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  making a movie of you. No, sorry, I'm not worried about
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  it. But like, as I'm running through
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  my movie in my head. And so I think that giant birds
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  have been distracting me more often lately.
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  And I think it's since we moved here, like, there weren't a lot
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  of birds in Vegas. There weren't a lot of birds
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  everywhere we go. I, I'm a bird nerd.
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  I love me some like birds of prey.
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  And so the first time I ever saw a bald eagle was here in the
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  Pacific Northwest. It was like my goal in life,
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  like #4 on my list of things I want to do before I die is see a
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  bald eagle in the wild. And I saw one and then I saw
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  two, and I see them all the time and they're still cool.
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  They're still cool to look. At the bald eagle fatigue is
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  real around for me. I almost hit one with my my car
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  the other day and I was like get out of the way.
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  Stupid bird. Get out of here, Don.
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  I don't want to say what I want to.
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  Say, yeah, so it's not only bald eagles, like I like Hawks,
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  Falcons, things like that. And so when I see a big bird in
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  the air, I stop whatever I'm doing and I appreciate it and
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  look. At Here comes the city bus.
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  Let's see exactly. Let's see if I can figure out
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  what kind of bird that is. Sometimes it's when I'm driving
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  and so like I have to like, well, give back like I have to
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  because I'll see it. I go, oh, what kind of bird is
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  that? I'm like, oh, pay attention.
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  Yes, please. Or like we were at, I was at the
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  park the other day and there's 2 bald eagles that live at our
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  friend's park. And I didn't know that.
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  And I've been seeing them there lately and I always forget until
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  I see when I go, Oh yeah, that's right.
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  And I was sitting, we were having conversation midway
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  conversation. An eagle like flies by.
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  And I'm just like, what we're talking about.
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  Like it was very much like I'm just, and then like while she's
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  talking, I'm just like, where'd the bird go?
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  Like it's, I don't know what it is.
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  And but I feel like that's going to be the end, I think.
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  You need to set aside some designated bird watching time so
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  that you can really immerse yourself in it.
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  You can enjoy the hobby and you can experience it, and you're
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  not putting anyone's life in danger.
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  I. Don't know if that would make it
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  worse. Like if I become a bird watching
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  hobbyists, Like first of all I have to invest a lot of money
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  so. No, you don't.
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  I. Have to buy a big land?
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  Get a sketchbook and go out to. A park.
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  I need binoculars and those aren't cheap because I can't see
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  the bird from far away. How am I going to do?
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  F and BA how? Am I going to draw?
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  So anyway, expensive hobby, that's for when I retire.
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  And then second, you know me, the more I get invested in
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  something, the more I'm like constantly invested in it.
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  And so I would be now focused more on the bird than I am now
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  because I would know more. And I'm like, Oh well, if you
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  look at the wings of the red. It's very much yes.
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  I mean, you just need to make time to look at birds in a safe
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  environment. I agree.
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  Where there's not me or Lily in the car and you're not in in the
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  middle of a conversation with somebody or you could say hold
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  that thought, need to look at this bird real quick.
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  That's weird. Back to it.
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  Like it's weird. To be, yes, it's weird, but if
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  you explain like I love birds, birds are my thing, Yeah.
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  Then, you know, let me have this moment.
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  Let me just appreciate this eagle.
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  I mean, I think everybody thinks birds are cool.
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  Yeah. I I never thought that birds
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  were cool. And I didn't think anybody else
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  thought that birds were cool except for you.
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  And then you downloaded an app where it's like it listens and
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  it tells you what the bird sound is.
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  So you, we know all the different kinds of birds around
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  in our area now because of Nick's app.
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  And, and you were mentioning this like as a like, oh shucks,
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  I have this bird app thing to our, our former her boss.
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  And he was like, what? I'm downloading this today.
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  And then like throughout the day, he was sending us
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  screenshots of the birds that he heard.
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  So like, I think that birds are a thing.
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  Is it a male thing? I don't know, dude.
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  I don't know any women that are really into birds.
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  Anyone that I know that's into a bird is a man.
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  That's a good point, yeah. What?
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  Is it about that? I don't know, like I've always
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  just wanted to fly. OK, that's quite the jump.
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  Oh, no, 'cause like I like, I like Superman, I like birds.
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  Like I've always just, I've been been fascinated.
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  I was fascinated with things that could fly.
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  I don't see any posters of the Wright Brothers around my house.
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  I I do see, I don't. Care about people flying, like I
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  want either superheroes or birds.
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  Like I don't care about people trying to get in the air.
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  So yeah, it's, it's always been a thing, but I, it's like super
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  triggers. I don't.
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  I'm not diagnosed with ADD obviously.
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  I have a therapist in the house that could probably say some
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  things that I may. Have some?
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  Tendencies but it's super triggering for my ADD to see a
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  bird and I I didn't realize that until I got older and I had a
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  therapist's wife so I had always just been pushing around like
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  everybody says they. Have ADDD but.
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  Yeah, ADHD, like of course I can't pay attention.
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  Like how hard is? That no, you're, you're there.
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  I think it it's pretty diagnosable at this point.
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  It's that's, it's a small, it's a little ADHD, right?
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  Yeah. I mean, so like like anything
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  else, there's a scale, right? And like some people have it
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  really extreme and I've seen that and some people have it
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  really mild. I think I have somewhat of a
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  form of either a mild form of ADHD as well.
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  Yes, possible. Maybe spectrum?
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  Is it a millennial thing? Like maybe no.
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  I think we distracted easily. No, I think we just know a lot
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  more about it now and we're able to like diagnose that and, and,
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  and work around it, right? Like, so I mean it, you can live
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  very, very normal lives. I'm not saying medication is
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  necessary for every case. It's just kind of knowing like,
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  hey, I get triggered by birds. That's something that really
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  fascinates me. It's going to stop me in my
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  tracks. Let me make sure I'm not driving
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  right. That's the the thing that we
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  want to inject into that life. And I don't know if it's gotten
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  worse because I'm getting older or it's gotten worse because
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  there's not a lot of. Birds.
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  There's a ton of birds. Like I see all them all the
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  time. I'm like, oh, that's a big bird.
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  And I try to point it out with enthusiasm, but.
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  Nobody I know. I'm sorry but I'll try not to
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  kill us, but if I die watching a bird, just know I predicted
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  that. He died doing what he loved.
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  It was in the other. Things doing things.
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  So Lilies Day approaches and you're probably reacting the
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  same way that everybody reacts when we say Lilies Day.
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  Yeah, we will give you the brief history.
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  I feel like I've been talking like Kristen.
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  Just a brief, brief history of. Lilies.
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  So Lilies day, Yeah, you're all going to judge.
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  So it all happened around because Mother's Day and
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  Father's Day kind of happened really quickly.
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  And but Lily was like, well, when's Kid day?
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  And I was like, there's no Kid Day.
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  We had celebrated Mother's Day, we had celebrated Father's Day.
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  She's like, when's Kid day? And I'm like, you don't get a
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  Kids day. She goes, well, I think that's
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  unfair. And I go, well, you have your
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  birthday. She goes everybody has a
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  birthday. And I said, well, you have
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  Christmas and she goes, everybody has Christmas and
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  she's like, but you guys have a Mother's Day and a Father's Day
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  and there's no Kid day. She goes.
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  There should be a Lily's Day. Every day is Lily's.
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  Day. And we thought, we thought,
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  yeah, like every day is Lily's day.
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  But we were like, you know what? Like this is the level of whimsy
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  we didn't have of his children. And like, she feels safe enough
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  to kind of say this to us. And we said, let's have a.
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  Lily's day, it was a hell of an argument.
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  Like, why? Like, it was like, yeah, she
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  presented her case really well. I'm like, yeah.
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  OK, Lily's day. Yeah.
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  Sure, and she picked the day. Shoot, it's April 19th.
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  Yeah. Because it's really close.
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  It's like in between her birthday, really.
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  Essentially, yeah. And it's.
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  Before Mother's Day or father this right she gets.
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  Celebrated. Get something first, right?
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  And and it's evolved from just like, oh, let's go out to your
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  favorite dinner that night to like, oh, let's grab a thing of
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  ice cream to now. It's like she thinks it's like a
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  birthday party, like she expects streamers up or balloons or she
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  and she expects presents. And it's like we're getting a
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  little too wild with the Lily. 'S.
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  Day right and that's what she's saying she's like, will you guys
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  get presents? Mother's Day, Father's Day, we
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  always do a card like I should have that also on Lily's Day.
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  And so we have. We've been honouring it.
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  Element. We've been honouring it since
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  she was, I mean, very little. Yeah, she made, I think it was
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  like 5. Yeah.
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  And she picked the date randomly.
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  I know she was just like April 19th.
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  We're like, OK, all right, I guess that works.
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  But yeah. So we still, we still haven't
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  told her that we don't have jobs, right.
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  Like we're still she mentioned it the other day.
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  I don't know if I told you about.
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  This she mentioned it to me too. She was sitting here and she's
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  like, it looks different in here.
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  Yeah. And I go, yeah, so.
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  Yeah, I, I told her, I said we got rid of the banners.
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  Yeah. And daddy like redid the the
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  screen and she goes, why? And I go because he wanted it to
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  look different in here. Yeah.
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  And then we were sitting on the couch the other day and she
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  goes, are you and Dad ever gonna work again?
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  And I was like, like, you mean on the radio?
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  And she goes, yeah. And I go, well, you know, we're
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  in, we're, we're taking some time off.
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  Yeah, well, she was. She goes.
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  OK. Yeah, she was sitting here and I
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  was, and I told her I'm like, well, I think mommy and daddy,
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  we're just not gonna be the on the wolf anymore.
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  Oh, you did say. That she's like, oh, no.
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  And I was like, no, I think we're gonna find a different
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  station. She's like.
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  Oh, I didn't know this. OK, that's interesting.
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  She's like, why? And I'm like, sometimes you grow
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  out of places. So I didn't tell her we were
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  got. Lost.
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  They grew out of us. Yeah, I said.
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  We didn't grow out of that. So she she don't get like as
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  long as I don't say the word fired.
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  Or unemployed. She's fine.
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  Yeah. She's like, all right, whatever.
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  You'll figure it out. So yeah, Lily's day with an
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  unemployment thing. So like, yeah, I am working.
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  Yes, I am working. I'm I'm working as a therapist.
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  I am, I'm trying to get as many clients as I can.
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  And then all of a sudden I'll have a nice full schedule and
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  everybody cancels and I don't get paid unless you show up.
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  And that's hard for me. So like it'll go from like an
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  $800 day to like a $300 day depending on how many clients I
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  see. So I have money coming in to
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  spend on Lilies day. But yes, it's going to be less
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  than what it was. Yeah.
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  And but if you're thinking that your kid, if you have more than
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  one kid that's not going to work, don't do it.
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  But if you have one like maybe start a Lily's Day.
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  I mean, I think it's fun. Like, yes, it's kind of a pain
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  in my ass a little bit, but at the same time it's like she's
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  only young once. Yeah, it's only it's fun.
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  You know, I like celebrating stuff too.
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  I've been. Seeing so much stuff like that
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  lately where it's just like, I feel bad every time I look at
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  the kid now and she's like playing with me and I'm like,
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  no. And then she's like playing with
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  me. I was like, she's never going.
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  To ask me, I know there's. Like it always comes down to
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  like, there's going to be a day where she doesn't want me to
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  play with her. Well, did I I sent you the
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  TikTok of the guy that was like, I asked my kid, what are they?
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  I was doing a target run and I asked my kid if they needed
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  anything and they said buy me a stuffy.
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  And I said you have a ton of stuffies.
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  And she was 7. And he's like, and then I saw a
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  big Easter Bunny and he's like. And I realized like she's asking
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  for stuffies. Like she's asking for something
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  to hug and cuddle and he's like, and I think she has too much.
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  Like there's going to come a day where she's going to throw all
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  this away and like. Don't want a stuffy from the
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  store? Anymore.
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  And you know what? Like I'm going to get a darn
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  stuffy. And that's the death of me, man.
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  Like, it's happens to me all the time where I'll like it.
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  Well, that whole thing, like it started with the the last time
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  you picked them up video. Have you seen that?
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  Yeah. Like you never realized the last
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  time you picked your kid up. And like.
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  And so people were like picking their kids up after five years.
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  Like now I can remember the last time and I saw it.
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  I was like, God, why did you do this to me?
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  And so ever since then, it's been like, whatever.
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  I like, I'm starting to cry right now because, like, it's
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  hard for me to pick little up now because she's like 60 lbs.
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  Yeah. And so when I do, it's like, and
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  it's like, I don't remember the last time I just like, threw her
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  over my shoulder. Like I don't have that memory.
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  This is like. Piggyback rides and stuff like
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  that. And like I have to like I say no
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  and they're like no, let's do it.
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  I know She said I got like super weird about it 2 days ago where
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  I was just like and gave her whatever she wanted.
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  I was like, yeah, let's go for a piggyback ride.
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  Yeah, let's do this. Let's ride bike.
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  And we were walking up the stairs to take a bath.
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  She's like, you've been weird today.
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  I was like, what do you mean? She's like, I don't know.
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  She's like super weird today. And I was like, is that just
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  like, no, it's just, it's just different.
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  I was like. Yeah, seven stop talking to.
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  Me and I, And I've done that too because it's like I'm working a
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  lot more now and I'm coming home exhausted.
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  Yeah. And I'm feeling very much like
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  the dad in the 1950s when he came home from work and was
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  like, how come dinners not on the table?
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  I need 20 minutes to relax. Yeah.
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  And it's like, it's like, no, like, I need to jump in.
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  Like I need to be an active participant.
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  I need to be energetic when I get home, like, because you've
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  been home with her. And it's like, this is my 20
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  minutes that I get with her before she goes to bed.
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  And I don't want her to Remember Me as like, oh, Mom was always
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  tired, you know? Anyway, hunger kids, everybody,
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  it's time for all my beer. All right, make me laugh, clown.
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  Well, it's not going to make you laugh.
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  It might make you angry, though. Hey, Tennessee boards.
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  Tennessee school board member is in deep trouble.
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  Well, I'll let you watch the video.
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  My God, you're hot. Do you know that?
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  Where do you go to school at? I have a Crockett all right.
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  That is a student board member and a board member on this
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  school district. And he looks over at her as
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  they're trying to figure out what the students want to do
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  with their money or whatever. And he goes, God, you're hot.
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  What school do you go do? Check his hard drive.
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  I thought you might appreciate. That what?
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  What gives? Where do men find the audacity?
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  It was during a live stream and and now there was like everybody
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  laughed it off. Yeah.
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  And then? Immediately after, there was a
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  petition to remove him from. The thank God, all these people
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  laughing it off because they're uncomfortable need to channel
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  that energy and to go, yo, man, that was weird.
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  That's the grossest thing I've ever heard.
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  Like the fact, yeah, Oh my gosh, we did this.
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  Not a time for decorum. When somebody says something
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  like that, it's disgusting. So there was a media petition
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  made to remove him from the board for the safety of the.
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  Children, thank goodness. It had 2500 signatures on it and
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  they're reviewing it now but like.
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  Check his computer, I thought. I like and it's such a, it's
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  such a boys club thing to happen.
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  Like, I don't think, I mean, I'm trying to, I don't want to
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  defend him, but like, it's such a way we are taught when we're
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  growing up, especially as millennials and older
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  generations. It was very much OK then.
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  No, that's wasn't. And that's the thing.
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  No, no, no. Let me jump in because I know
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  you're going to. I know you're going to try to
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  correct yourself. I know you're going to try to
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  correct yourself. But it's never been OK.
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  It's never been OK. OK.
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  You guys have been running the show for far too long, all
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  right? You've been running the show,
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  and we're sick of it. And so now we're reminding you,
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  hey, you're being creepy and weird and none of that is OK.
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  And this whole like, oh, we need to stop being so sensitive and
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  go back to the good old days. The good old days were only good
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  for you, OK? We had to suffer in silence as
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  women, as young women, as children, we've had to take the
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  brunt of your grossness, OK? And we've all collectively said
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  we're not doing that anymore. And now you guys are offended.
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  How about, and I'm not, and I'm not talking about you.
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  I know that you're you're a good one.
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  You're all right. I like.
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  Women. But at the same time, it's just
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  like it's not appropriate. It's never been appropriate.
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  And that uncomfortable laugh shows how ingrained we are with
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  just sweeping things under the rug.
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  Immediately, everybody, all the men there should have gone yuck.
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  Get out of here. But nobody wants to say anything
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  because nobody wants to offend. Let's bring back shaming.
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  Let's bring back offending. Let's bring back OK, like tar
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  and quartered, like that's not appropriate and we're not
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  accepting that anymore. Thank you for listening to the
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  podcast for the little time that you did.
• 16:18
  I hope you come back to the next episode.
• 16:20
  Sorry. That's fine.
• 16:22
  Like and subscribe and be back tomorrow.