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Ep. 343 | Frame Challenges as Growth Opportunities · The Family Teams Podcast

• 0:05
  Hey, what's up guys? Welcome back to 5-Minute Fatherhood. It's been a little bit since we've talked to y'all. Jeff and I are back. Yes. And hey, just so you guys understand, we are going through a little transition on the podcast. We are going to turn the 5-Minute Fatherhood podcast into the Family Teams podcast with 5-Minute Fatherhood segments.
• 0:24
  be kind of sprinkled throughout. So we want to deliver to you guys a little bit more long-form content on this podcast. Also some from, you know, wives or different women that can really speak to the more mother side of the equation. But we also want to be continuing these five-minute segments because it's been helpful for a lot of people. So
• 0:44
  That's what we're doing and excited to jump back into this with you guys. Jeff and I are going to chat a little bit about how to frame challenges as growth opportunities. One of the things that Viktor Frankl wrote in his awesome book, Man's Search for Meaning, he says, when we are no longer able to change a situation...
• 1:00
  We are challenged to change ourselves. So one of the things that we as fathers can do is we can make sure that we are framing a challenge as a growth opportunity as opposed to a loss, because all of these opportunities to grow, every time we face a challenge, it creates resilience and maturity. And this is something you have to believe a lot as a father, but this is something that kids do not naturally believe.
• 1:30
  something that is in a negative, as we would sort of by default. It actually takes some amount of sort of training or reminding or even framing, and I really like that word, it's like framing, and oftentimes when you frame challenges as an opportunity for growth or something exciting or something to create resilience or maturity, it'll help you really help your kids push through much more difficult challenges.
• 1:57
  But it'll also help them grow more because when you frame a challenge as something that is attacking you or a negative thing, your resilience, your endurance just plummets. But when you really face it as a growth opportunity, then it really can increase your passion and your resilience. So, yeah, Jeff, what are your thoughts on the framing?
• 2:18
  Yeah, I mean, I totally agree. And one thing I would say, too, is it reminded me of a book I'm reading right now. Think Again, Adam Grant. You know, he's a famous, I almost consider him like the, you know, step below Malcolm Gladwell in the sense of like they kind of run together, write similarly. But his new book, Think Again, I forget the three P's he goes through, but he said he basically talks about it's all about thinking fresh and renewing your mind and has some really good principles, but how to like rethink ideas and not just get stuck in kind of your beliefs.
• 2:43
  And he talks about how most of us fall into three categories that are bad. And that's – it's three Ps. I forget the last one, but the first two are prosecutor and politician. So prosecutor is you either like go on the attack mode when someone kind of like starts bringing a new idea to you. Politician, you kind of wane and wax about it, you know what I mean, and kind of like manipulate. And I forget the other one. But he talks about – why this reminded me of it is his kind of word he uses for –
• 3:09
  What is the right view is kind of what he calls a scientist, you know, and what he means by that is a scientist tend to welcome failure. There's something about failure that actually scientists see as growth. Exactly. We're talking about like it's, you know, other people. The failure is like, no, no, I'm going to do anything I can to make that not feel like a failure or admit it's not true or whatever.
• 3:28
  When he goes through all these different, you know, examples and even the Wright brothers with inventing the airplane and some of these other people that like kind of these anyone with a scientist mentality tends to actually be very high achieving. And he shows that many times over. And essentially the core of it is they welcome failure.
• 3:45
  They almost kind of smirk at failure because it's actually just they know the key to keep getting farther and farther down the path of insight and knowledge. So this reminded me of it in a different way, but I think it's totally, totally true. I love that idea. Yeah. So you want to really be watching out for letting your kids think about failure not as a huge negative, but, hey, this is a part of a process and that you actually did take ground.
• 4:10
  And when you frame it that way, they will embrace taking challenges or embrace the challenge of risk-taking in a much different light. And we have a lot of influence over that kind of framing as dads.