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25 | These Reddit Stories Are Absolutely INSANE · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

• 0:04
  Let's talk Reddit hygiene. I started using hand cream at 34
• 0:09
  and I genuinely feel like I've been lied to my whole life.
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  You have, you have. Oh my God.
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  Body cream, face cream, hand cream, feet cream, all of it.
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  You need it. All of it, he said.
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  OK, so this is a little embarrassing to admit, but I've
• 0:25
  never used hand lotion. Not once.
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  I think I vaguely associated with something that wasn't
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  really for guys, which looking back is a pretty stupid reason
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  to walk around with hands that feel like sandpaper for three
• 0:36
  decades. A few months ago I was at a
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  mate's place and mentioned my hands are really dry and
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  cracked, especially around the knuckles.
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  He just handed me his hand cream without making a big deal of it.
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  I put a tiny bit on, mostly to be polite. 20 minutes later I
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  looked down in my hands and generally did not recognize.
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  They would look. Like normal human hands and not
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  something that have been left out in the sun for a year.
• 1:03
  I went and bought my own the same evening.
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  Nothing fancy, just the basic vacant free one from the drug
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  store. I've been using it every night
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  before bed and after washing my hands and I keep having this low
• 1:15
  grade background feeling that someone should have told me
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  about this when I was 16. Did nobody tell you no lotion?
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  You need lotion what I'm saying. The thing is, nobody in my
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  family used it. It was never framed as something
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  men do, and I think internalizing some vague idea
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  that caring about your skin was high maintenance or something.
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  It cost $4.00 and takes 30 seconds.
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  Right. I work with my hands a lot and
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  the difference in how they feel and look is genuinely
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  embarrassing to think about the terms of years lost.
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  Man, if you're also a guy who has been ignoring your hands for
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  decades, just try it. I feel slightly ridiculous
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  writing this out but also I I want every man to know and hear
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  it. You know, it's not just your
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  hands, it's your feet as well. It's every day.
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  You know, it's your elbows, it's your shoulders, it's your knees,
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  your neck. Like lay face, moisturize
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  yourself. It is an organ.
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  Thank you. You have to take care of that
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  organ, especially if you're like super manly, you got to work in
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  the construction or. Whatever you do, I don't care.
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  Just moisturize yourself. I don't understand how that felt
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  because if I wash my hands, if I'm out and about, because my
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  hand soap here at home is very moisturizing.
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  But when I'm out and about and they've got that nasty
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  antibacterial stuff and it dries my hands out within minutes and
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  I'm like, where is my hand cream?
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  Thank you. I need it.
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  Thank you. I cannot imagine going years
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  without it. But I guess if that's what
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  you're used to, you're like, I'm used to feeling like sandpaper,
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  sandpaper. How does that?
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  Feel you get cracks all the time.
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  I don't even want to know. Look, dudes being moisturized is
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  sexy, OK? If I see so a man walking by and
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  his skin is glistening, I'm like, look at you.
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  I like my Donuts. Glazed, this is my daughter.
• 3:05
  OK, reset caught me off guard with that one.
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  And that's why I don't use that. Right, exactly.
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  I won't objectify you, but all I'm saying is that moisture is
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  cute. Moisture is very cute.
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  But good for him for being like, I didn't know.
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  In case there's other dudes out there that don't know.
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  Yeah, moisturize. He needed to share it, so hear
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  it, please. Oh my God, I know.
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  I love that. Am I the asshole for telling
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  everyone how I really feel about my bully?
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  Oh no. I decided to take a breath.
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  This one is wild. I'm nervous.
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  OK, there's this girl who's always rude to me.
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  Let's call her Libby. She would make snide remarks
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  about how weird I was and how I walked weird.
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  Whenever I talked about my special interests, such as
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  animals, ancient Rome, etcetera, she would literally scream at me
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  to shut up. Excuse me?
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  Yeah. A couple days ago, Libby passed
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  away in a car accident. OK, Yeah.
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  All right. Continuing.
• 4:17
  It was announced over the school announcement system as well as
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  via e-mail. At school, her passing was all
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  anybody would talk about. Everyone was pretending to mourn
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  her and lying about what a wonderful person she was.
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  That's bad. Seeing everyone pretending Libby
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  was a St. made me sick so I honestly blurted out to my
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  friends in class. I don't care if that Libby is
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  gone. As a matter of fact, I'm glad
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  she's gone. She was always rude to me when
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  she was alive. I don't know why everyone is
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  pretending she is a St. now. My goodness, I mean, you're
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  right, but like. The way you sit like she stood
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  on business, 10 toes down, she said.
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  F Libby. Literally, she said.
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  I am glad. And she said you're a liar.
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  I mean, I get there lying. Is she not a St.
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  Oh? My goodness, recipes, Libby, you
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  know Everyone stared at me as if I were a monster.
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  I suddenly became the most hated person in class.
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  Even my friends who never really liked Libby called me heartless.
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  They said if I don't have anything nice to say, I
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  shouldn't have said anything at all, and what I said was hurtful
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  to people who actually liked Libby in life.
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  I pointed out that I was just being honest about how I feel
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  about her. Another one of my friends called
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  me an asshole that was just looking for attention and that
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  even if I didn't like Libby, I should have had the common
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  courtesy to be polite or stay silent for the sake of her
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  living friends. I pointed out that I was just
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  being honest about how I feel and passing away doesn't absolve
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  anybody of anything. My friends then refused to speak
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  to me for the rest of the day. Am I the asshole?
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  I don't have a definitive answer for this one.
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  I I actually don't because at the same time I get why she said
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  it. She was being bullied by her,
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  tortured by her when she was alive and everyone's acting like
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  that just doesn't matter when she died.
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  At the same time, if she had people that loved her.
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  She those people don't want to hear how she was a bad person
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  when she was here. Yes, that is really brutal.
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  It's it's my answer is yes, the asshole because of how she chose
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  to voice her opinion. Yeah, It wasn't about Libby, but
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  also Libby was an asshole as well.
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  And it's like, OK, you never want to speak I'll of the dead,
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  but then you have this point of living your life in such a way
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  that nobody's speaking about you like that when you pass away.
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  Yeah, and Libby clearly didn't think about that.
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  Not with the with the poster, yeah.
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  And so that's tough, that is. So tough I don't have a decent
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  answer for this because maybe she could have said it, but not
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  in the way that she did, right? I mean, she could.
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  Have journaled it. You know, if you needed to get
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  that off your chest, there are ways.
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  But she said announcements. Everyone listen up.
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  Libby wasn't a St. right? And why are you lying?
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  I hope she wasn't religious or anything.
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  Oh. Gosh, I I don't have a
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  definitive for that. I think that's a 5050 like how
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  you said, it definitely makes you one right?
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  But saying it? It wasn't the right thing to say
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  and the right time to say, but there's this thing on Reddit
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  where poo mode is activated when basically everybody's an
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  asshole, and I feel like poo mode might have been activated
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  on this one. Whoa, Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  That one's not a definitive. That's not black and white.
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  Yeah, please let me know what you think, because, my goodness,
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  because I get it. She was my bully, yes.
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  I'm not sad, but there's other people who were sad, and she
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  shouldn't have gone out of her way to be like, shut up.
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  Yeah, you're feeling so mad. Or because she bullied me.
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  Boom. I'm glad she's gone.
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  Like, whoa. Yikes.
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  A certain president would have said the same thing.
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  So, you know, Yeah. It's just how you choose to.
• 8:19
  The pool rolls down the hill, as they say.
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  I like that. So.
• 8:26
  There's a news article from back in 2016.
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  A woman got her 20 boyfriends to buy her iPhones and then she
• 8:33
  sells those iPhones to put a down payment on a house.
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  So not only am I not mad, I'm not mad.
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  Who is this queen, literally? I'm also like respect because
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  she made this hustle happen because it was 2016.
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  The iPhone 7 just came out, the one with the still with the
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  button. Do you guys remember buttons?
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  I don't do buttons anymore. I'm better than that.
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  But it came out two months prior.
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  So she got 20 boyfriends to buy her, what, 20 iPhones each in
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  which she sold for a mortgage in less than two months?
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  17 K total to get her down payment.
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  I mess with her $17,815.00 to put a down payment on house.
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  I respect her. I'm not mad at her because the
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  way I look at it, these men gave up their money of their free
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  will. You know it's not illegal.
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  No, I it's not illegal. She didn't steal their iPhones.
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  They willingly gave over the money.
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  Yes, this is not illegal and. That's what I'm saying.
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  They were her boyfriend. They were her boyfriends.
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  And so they were like, she was playing the field.
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  She had 20 boyfriends and she just so happened to ask each one
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  for an iPhone. They were like, well, sugar
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  daddy you and just give you 20 iPhones, the brand new iPhones.
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  And she said bet, wait a minute is.
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  That my escort business. No, what I'm saying is this is
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  OK what he said. If you couldn't hear him, he
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  said is this not an escort business?
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  I do not think that is because if it was one boyfriend and she
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  said can I have an iPhone and he gave her an iPhone, this is
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  fine. It was a gift, you know, I never
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  told you what I was going to do with the iPhones.
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  It's none of their business. It's none of their business.
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  I asked for an iPhone. Matter of fact, I asked for 20.
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  You gave me 20. Great.
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  I didn't tell you that I was going to sell it to buy a house.
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  That's none of your business. And now I have a house.
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  And now I have a house. I don't.
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  You were happy to give me a phone and now I have a house.
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  Is everybody not happy? No issues here.
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  I see no issues. I think she's a cool queen.
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  Yes. Love it.
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  Love it, you know. Oh God.
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  And to juggle 20 dudes. Respect.
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  Good for her respect. She made that happen, so I'm not
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  mad at it. Exactly you do.
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  You girl gave me some ideas. No anyway.
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  Oh my goodness, she all won today.
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  Y'all all right? Our favorite.
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  Well, I'm not going to speak for you.
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  One of my favorite things to talk about is my strange
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  addiction. OK, if y'all didn't watch this
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  week, don't worry, we're going to tell you everything every
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  single day. OK, so if you don't mind going
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  to my screen, this is Abigail. She's 25.
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  She's got chopsticks. What's she eating?
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  You my ass. Cat food.
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  Oh my goodness. Not the dry one.
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  It's the Pate chunk with gravy. Cat food.
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  She has been doing it since she was five years old. 20 years of
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  eating cat food now I love me some carne asada fries, right?
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  I don't talk about carne asada fries the way she talks about
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  cat food. Oh, she's in love.
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  Like it's the best thing in her life.
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  She takes that long nail of hers and put it all in the can.
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  And she was just oh, no, I haven't tasted this one.
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  It's it's it's creamy. It's extremely Pate.
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  I was like, girl, you know, shut up.
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  Like it's some gourmet. So disgusting.
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  So disgusting. I'm sorry.
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  She loves the pop of the can. Yeah.
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  Oh, she was like, can you hear that?
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  This is a good one. Like it's a bottle of wine.
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  I'm sorry, but she it might as. Well be it, might as well be it
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  really how she got into it was when she was feeding other cats
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  and she saw how excited the cats were to eat and she said I need
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  to get in on that. This is this is cat food girl.
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  Of course, what else do they get?
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  Because I know our animals, they be like the same thing every
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  single day and they're super happy to eat it.
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  Not once have I ever been like, you know what?
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  I think I'm going to try that. I think the closest I would get
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  is to the farmer's dog and it's because that's.
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  Real food, like it's human food that they put into a little bag.
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  This is cat food. This is made for cats.
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  The chemicals and preservatives and all of that inside of a can.
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  And she said, I mess with that. She was so excited.
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  Her sister and she sat down at dinner.
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  Everybody else is sitting there eating whatever they're eating.
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  And she was like, oh, this looks good.
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  Pushes it to the side and pulls a can of cat food out and starts
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  eating it in front of her family with chopsticks with.
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  Yeah, it doesn't. Smells horrendous.
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  Yeah, She went out to get coffee with her sister and she pulled
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  one out of her purse and her sister was like, oh, my God, the
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  smell. It just hit her in the nose.
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  But she is so obsessed with it and she thinks it's so normal
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  that she's always trying to convince people to eat it.
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  She's just like the beef and gravy.
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  She's like, it tastes like Salisbury steak.
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  Then just. Eat.
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  The steak, That's what her doctor said.
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  How about you eat Salisbury steak?
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  It's there. Why are you trying to get like
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  something to compare it to? It is there.
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  It is for you. This is for.
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  So she goes to the doctor under under duress.
• 13:51
  Yeah, right. And the doctor is like, look,
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  all your levels are are pretty decent.
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  Your cholesterol is high because this has high fat and high
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  protein because that's what these animals need.
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  They eat 100% protein diet all meat 100% and she was like oh
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  really? Because 60% of her diet is cat
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  food, she said. Because when the doctor asked
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  her to. What's your dialect?
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  She said, oh, you know, like tacos and hamburgers.
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  And I was like, girl, get to the cat, get to the point.
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  And she said, And then, you know, I ate some cat food and
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  doctor was like. Yeah, yeah, yeah, his face.
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  It's like y'all don't prep these doctors where they want, yo,
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  they have no idea. There's just.
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  Cameras there and they're like, sorry.
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  Say that again. Yeah.
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  She was obsessed. He asked if she would cut down
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  because if it's an addiction, she's been doing it for 20
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  years. There's clearly, like, emotions
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  attached to this since 5. She said, OK, if I'm going to,
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  if this is 60, I'll go down to 50.
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  So 50% of my diet will be cat food.
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  And he was like the doctor said, that's pure addict behavior,
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  pure addicts, barely even willing to.
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  But she didn't do that though, did she?
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  She continued as normal after the show.
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  She's perfectly fine. So this one, I think of all
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  three of the addicts of this week's episode, she was the
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  least crazy one maybe. What do you think?
• 15:13
  Yeah. No, I can say that for sure.
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  Yeah. Yeah, because the next one, this
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  is this is Tiara. She's 30.
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  And that white substance you see is not coke.
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  Kind of wish it was. That is cleaning powder like
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  Ajax like like. Get dirt and grime from the
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  bottom of. Your bathtub with floor type of
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  cleaning product. It's so harmful.
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  And as soon as she got on the screen, I was like, her eyes are
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  red as hell red. They were so red.
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  And she has a rash underneath her nose because she snorts it
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  all day every day. She keeps a little spoon with
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  her. I mean, I spoon a straw and a
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  little cup with a lid on it and she'd be just booger sugar.
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  Seriously. Wait, we're kind of in shock for
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  this one because she was talking about it like it was an actual
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  drug. I mean, I kind of wish it was
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  because we know how to treat. That you know.
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  We got stuff for that. I don't know what to do to help
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  you. I have no idea, but she does it
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  and she does it freely because she's a truck driver and they
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  drug test her every week. This doesn't come up on a drug
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  test. No, it does not.
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  So she's like, I'm going to keep going.
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  I love it. She says she gets high.
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  Well, first of all, she smelled it because she really liked the
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  smell. And then she was like, well,
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  this is fine. And it gives me lightheaded for
• 16:36
  just a couple of seconds. What would happen if I stored
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  it? So she started snorting it and
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  she was like, that's what I need, she says.
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  She gets lightheaded and dizzy and there's this like, really
• 16:46
  nice feeling she gets, she said. But also, my brain hurts.
• 16:50
  My skin hurts. But she said it in passing, like
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  it barely mattered. It's like, no, no, no, bring it
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  back. Your brain hurts your brain.
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  And she can't process things as quickly as she said that she
• 17:02
  used to. She said that was the thing that
• 17:04
  she's noticing now, that she's been doing it, what, two years?
• 17:07
  Yeah, 2 is it. I think it was two years.
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  And yeah, something's wrong, but The thing is the high, she said.
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  Only last two minutes. So one of those cans every day.
• 17:19
  Literally, she says she goes through what, 28 cans per month?
• 17:23
  That's basically a can a day. Are we kidding?
• 17:26
  Oh my goodness. The thing with a literal warning
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  label in the back that says do not consume, she is taking that
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  every day. Up the nose.
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  She said I figured I didn't die yet, I might as well continue
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  because she's seen that label, of course.
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  So she goes to the doctor and the doctors, like, I don't even
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  know what we're talking about here.
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  This is chemicals. This is not made to even be on
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  our skin, let alone in a side of our bodies.
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  And she looked up her nose and I just knew she's going to have
• 18:01
  holes in her nostrils, but she did not, which I was super
• 18:03
  surprised about, but they did her blood work and they were
• 18:06
  just like this. You could die immediately.
• 18:09
  You could on your next hit, sudden death, you're done.
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  And her eyes got big and she was just like, oh, And the doctor
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  said, so are you going to quit or at least try to quit?
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  And she said yes, but not today. I just bought a whole new supply
• 18:23
  of of cleaning powder and I don't want to waste my money.
• 18:26
  Girl, I love that excuse. I love that excuse.
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  Meanwhile I don't want to commit to anything.
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  Like are you kidding? I just bought some new stuff so
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  after this batch I promise I'll stop.
• 18:37
  I promise I'll stop, yes. Man not no, you ain't cleaning
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  not not a thing. They think she's like a a maid
• 18:45
  or something like know how often she girl girl to buy a.
• 18:51
  New and say I just got this batch.
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  I mean, I can't just like get rid of it.
• 18:57
  I'm like, well, you could use it to clean your tub, you know?
• 19:00
  Put it in the bottom of the sink where it's supposed to be.
• 19:03
  And leave it there. It's not going to go bad I.
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  Promise you it won't. How long?
• 19:06
  It takes to run. Through this tub, it's there for
• 19:10
  a long time and you clean. Regularly.
• 19:13
  Exactly. You clean even once a week?
• 19:15
  Yeah. He said how long it takes to
• 19:16
  stay there. Yes.
• 19:17
  It's supposed to be there for a long time.
• 19:20
  That is the purpose. You just use it every once in a
• 19:22
  while. It's cleaning products.
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  Not on her. And she's a truck driver too.
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  She sit up in her truck just snorting away.
• 19:29
  She says I do it all day, every day.
• 19:31
  Girl. Yeah, I'm concerned for her.
• 19:35
  I am too. I need an update on her.
• 19:37
  Like, hey, mind. Strange addiction.
• 19:38
  If you're watching TLC, give me an update of all these people in
• 19:42
  a year. You know I need it.
• 19:44
  You leave us with if they stopped or not.
• 19:46
  But what after? What happens?
• 19:48
  After what happened? I need to know.
• 19:50
  Yes, the coffee lady. I need an update on the
• 19:52
  underwear sniffer. Oh.
• 19:54
  My God, I. Need I need all of these updates
• 19:57
  yes, I'm telling you TLC, you got some stuff that's my
• 20:01
  addiction. I sit down on the couch.
• 20:03
  I'm sat I'm. Addicted to watching y'all's
• 20:06
  addiction? Exactly.
• 20:09
  There was one more in the episode I wanted to talk about.
• 20:12
  So this lovely gentleman with great skin, by the way, look at
• 20:14
  how glossy skin. See.
• 20:16
  Moisturize, gentleman James. Yeah, that was facetious.
• 20:21
  Yeah. He's 38, and he is addicted to
• 20:25
  eating butter. Just however he can get it.
• 20:28
  He will bite straight into a stick of butter.
• 20:31
  He will melt it and drink it. And everything he cooks is like
• 20:36
  boiling in butter. Like multiple sticks of butter
• 20:40
  up in there. Like it has to be dripping with
• 20:43
  butter. Yes, for him to even consider
• 20:45
  eating it. I can't believe it.
• 20:47
  He had a friend over Santiago. He was shook.
• 20:50
  Oh. Because he made some, what did
• 20:53
  he make? Some steak, some steak.
• 20:54
  And it was dripping like soggy. But The thing is, he's like, you
• 20:59
  know, when you cook with butter, sometimes the normal amount, not
• 21:01
  his amount. And there's some leftover butter
• 21:04
  in there. You throw that out, right?
• 21:06
  No, not him. He took it to the head pan,
• 21:09
  straight from the pan into his mouth.
• 21:11
  Are we kidding? He doesn't play about his
• 21:13
  butter. And he somehow convinced himself
• 21:16
  that this is. For his health, this is healthy
• 21:18
  because he said he was overweight and depressed before
• 21:21
  and so he discovered this and started doing it and now he's
• 21:24
  super healthy. He works out all the time.
• 21:26
  When I say super healthy, but wait, I want to talk about that
• 21:28
  in a minute, but he said something called health maxing.
• 21:32
  So there might be some some people out there who know that
• 21:34
  what that is. And I was like, what the fuck is
• 21:35
  that? So I looked it up.
• 21:37
  It's a Wellness trend focused on intensely optimizing physical
• 21:41
  and mental performance through extreme regimented routines.
• 21:44
  So he chose. Butter, it's not like health
• 21:47
  maxing slash butter like he was like no butter is working for
• 21:51
  me, OK, And everyone else who isn't eating butter like he is
• 21:57
  is wrong and they're unhealthy and you're going to die when
• 22:00
  you're 40. Like it's like, yeah.
• 22:01
  He was, he was, he said. Have you tried?
• 22:03
  I just eating butter to Santiago and something was like, I just
• 22:05
  had some of that steak and I don't like it.
• 22:07
  And he was like, well, you can't knock it until you try it.
• 22:09
  And he said fat is king, queen and everything in between.
• 22:13
  OK, I'll take that quote because James, James is a mess.
• 22:21
  And so Santiago asked him, have you been to the doctor?
• 22:23
  And he was like, yeah, eight months ago.
• 22:25
  And he said, and what did he say?
• 22:26
  He was like, he said I was healthy.
• 22:27
  He said my cholesterol was high, though.
• 22:29
  And he started smiling. He's like, why are you smiling?
• 22:31
  He was like because. It's a good thing.
• 22:34
  No, babe, it's not cholesterol. High cholesterol is not a great
• 22:37
  thing. And he was like, it's fine.
• 22:40
  It's fine. And he was like, I don't care
• 22:43
  because I don't care about the opinions.
• 22:45
  He didn't say the facts, the opinions of a doctor.
• 22:48
  I won't let that influence my life.
• 22:50
  It's like, so the years and years and years worth of
• 22:53
  science. Nope.
• 22:55
  Means nothing. Means absolutely nothing,
• 22:57
  because his own personal journey is fine and he feels fine.
• 23:01
  So he's like, this is great. Butter.
• 23:04
  Yeah. How much butter?
• 23:05
  Oh, yeah. He scrambled 6 eggs and half a
• 23:07
  pound of butter, which is a stick.
• 23:10
  He melted a whole stick. And then when the eggs were
• 23:13
  done, he took another stick and ran it over the top.
• 23:16
  Yeah, that's greedy. When I saw when I saw he put
• 23:19
  more butter on the top, like it was toast or something, I was
• 23:23
  like that is so terrible. Why are you eating eggs?
• 23:27
  You just eat the butter. Like why are we playing?
• 23:31
  You don't want this. This is just food is just a
• 23:33
  delivery system for butter for butter essentially.
• 23:36
  But part of them is a little ashamed about it because.
• 23:40
  He would if he had a choice. He would just eat the butter.
• 23:42
  He would just eat the. Butter.
• 23:43
  I think he has to act like a normal person, so he buys the
• 23:47
  egg. Buys steak, yadda yadda yadda.
• 23:49
  Just eat the butter. Just eat the butter.
• 23:51
  He made a charcuterie board for his friend and everything and
• 23:53
  put sticks of butter on there. Sat there, I was like, bro,
• 23:56
  what's in butter? And he was just chomping on him
• 23:58
  like. And looking at him directly in
• 24:00
  his eyes, like challenging him, It was it was the weirdest eye
• 24:04
  contact ever. Like I swear I was like, this is
• 24:07
  kind of intimate. He was just like.
• 24:10
  Like, calm down. Honestly.
• 24:17
  Insane. I look at his skin though,
• 24:19
  because like I said, his skin is glistening and I feel like it's
• 24:22
  because butter is coming out of his pores.
• 24:24
  Oh yeah. Like I was waiting for him to be
• 24:28
  like. I even rub it on my skin.
• 24:30
  He might, I mean, I wouldn't be surprised.
• 24:32
  He might, because his favorite is the salted butter, right?
• 24:35
  Because he named all the assortments of butter, which is
• 24:38
  OK. Yeah, OK.
• 24:39
  But his favorite was the salted butter, right?
• 24:41
  So he goes, he sweats a little bit.
• 24:43
  He works out plenty I guess According to him and just chomps
• 24:47
  on butter. And it's no big deal.
• 24:49
  Yeah, listen. Oh God.
• 24:51
  Yeah, I need an update on him in a year.
• 24:53
  TLC that's are probably insane. Oh my gosh.
• 24:58
  Well, Speaking of updates, Netflix came out with a, well,
• 25:04
  it's a documentary, but I didn't really like certain parts of it.
• 25:07
  But yeah, it's a documentary about America's Next Stop model.
• 25:10
  And this one had Tyra Banks on it.
• 25:12
  It's called Reality check, America's Next Stop Model if we
• 25:14
  can go to my screen. So Tyra was a part of this one.
• 25:18
  They interviewed a lot of our main people, the the main Jays,
• 25:22
  the Nigel Tyra, multiple of the winners, like everyone and it's
• 25:28
  it was a hard. Watch.
• 25:30
  It was a hard watch, I mean. Because if you were on TikTok or
• 25:33
  on the Internet in 2020, people rediscovered the show and
• 25:37
  basically noted all of the problematic elements of it.
• 25:41
  The blackface challenges. What happened, I don't know,
• 25:44
  multiple changing races, like you're going to be such and such
• 25:50
  like what so problematic? What happened to the Jays, the
• 25:53
  firing Nigel, what happened to them?
• 25:55
  What happens to the winners after they win?
• 25:57
  How they're like basically blacklisted from like modeling
• 26:01
  in general. Because you came from a reality
• 26:03
  show. Exactly.
• 26:04
  It was all so problematic, but like, they had the Jays on there
• 26:07
  and their whole like relationship and everything.
• 26:10
  They were, apparently. Close they were.
• 26:13
  But. The way it happened was iffy.
• 26:17
  Yes, it was. And as someone who is old enough
• 26:20
  to have watched it on the first run, the first several seasons,
• 26:26
  yes, times were different. Early 2000s aren't a real time,
• 26:29
  you know, it just feels like a fever dream, you know, because
• 26:34
  the Internet was really ramping up, reality TV was ramping up.
• 26:37
  So the stuff that was on TV was bullshit, OK, but it was
• 26:41
  interesting and we were all set and we were watching.
• 26:45
  But looking back on some of the things, it is just like, I can't
• 26:50
  believe that that was even on the air exactly.
• 26:52
  And so if I don't want to give away a ton of things, but if you
• 26:56
  watched it, let us know and we can talk about it in the
• 26:59
  comments section talk. About everything.
• 27:01
  Oh my gosh y'all like there's stories from the winners and the
• 27:06
  stories from the models that were on the show were mind
• 27:10
  blowing. I honestly had no idea how that
• 27:13
  was even allowed Yeah heartbreaking because yeah we're
• 27:16
  not going to get into it because it's just going to make me mad,
• 27:18
  but please go watch it. It was insane.
• 27:22
  I think I have a couple more pictures yeah everybody knows
• 27:25
  it. Yeah, it.
• 27:26
  Was fruity for you? That's how they promoted the
• 27:29
  documentary, by the way. They were like, in case you
• 27:31
  remember this moment. And then finally, just watch so
• 27:36
  you know what's going on with Jay, Miss Jay and their life.
• 27:41
  But yeah, it was a interesting documentary.
• 27:44
  Apparently they're coming out with another documentary, right,
• 27:46
  With models only. So that should be interesting
• 27:49
  because this one was Tyra and a lot of her perspective as much
• 27:55
  as they could. So it's interesting to see it
• 27:59
  what will happen when she's not involved and.
• 28:02
  Oh, I will be sat for that one as well.
• 28:03
  So yeah, that was interesting. Thank you.
• 28:05
  But yeah, so in case y'all want to talk about that, we want to
• 28:10
  talk about it too. So drop it in the comments.
• 28:13
  Please. Please.
• 28:14
  Like, I'm itching to talk about it, literally.
• 28:16
  But one more story. This one is the lottery.
• 28:19
  I don't know what the lottery is now, but it must be big.
• 28:22
  Anyway, so back in 2019, there was a guy, his name is Mike
• 28:26
  Wierski. He won $273 million five months
• 28:31
  after he divorced his wife. That he just said it's a win.
• 28:41
  That's insane. Because let me say I'm just
• 28:44
  like, that's insane because let me provide some context.
• 28:47
  We need context here. That's insane.
• 28:49
  He said that's a win. OK.
• 28:50
  So apparently he and his wife, Eileen Murray, they were married
• 28:54
  for 15 years. Eileen was the primary
• 28:57
  breadwinner of the relationship. So after they divorced, she was
• 29:02
  ordered to basically pay alimony for five years.
• 29:05
  Yes, you see where I'm going with this.
• 29:08
  So Eileen now is a little upset that she has to pay this alimony
• 29:14
  when essentially he's doing better than she is.
• 29:16
  Exactly. It's like pocket change.
• 29:19
  He's like wiping his ass with her alimony.
• 29:21
  But to make it literally, but to make it even better, listen, to
• 29:27
  make it even better, the convenience store that he bought
• 29:30
  the ticket in is the same convenience store that he
• 29:33
  proposed to his wife in. Stop.
• 29:36
  You prefer you proposed in a convenient door.
• 29:40
  Let's be so. For real, the Harley-Davidson
• 29:42
  like it tells us everything we need to know.
• 29:46
  I don't think you should be surprised here.
• 29:48
  Of course he. Proposed in the convenience
• 29:50
  store. Yes, he did.
• 29:51
  And that's where he won the ticket.
• 29:52
  So she was like like, I am not upset about this at all.
• 29:56
  I'm kind of like, oh, why do I have to keep paying alimony?
• 29:59
  But it's fine, whatever. Do what he wants with his money.
• 30:02
  Exactly. But I'm his good luck charm,
• 30:04
  essentially. Because isn't she?
• 30:07
  Isn't she? And she's not asking for his
• 30:09
  money. I don't want y'all to think that
• 30:10
  she's asking for his money. She's not.
• 30:12
  She's saying that. OK, well, now this is hurting
• 30:14
  me. I could use that money now.
• 30:16
  Exactly. Straight like, He's good, he's
• 30:18
  good. It doesn't need me anymore.
• 30:21
  Yeah, that's not how it works. You can't.
• 30:23
  You can't like come back and like maybe re negotiate the
• 30:28
  terms of the divorce and the alimony.
• 30:30
  Can't you like? OK, I don't like.
• 30:35
  That I think situations are different, we should revisit.
• 30:39
  I agree. Yeah, that's unfair because if
• 30:41
  she lost her job, you know, but I don't think that matters.
• 30:44
  So I'm not super familiar with this, but if you all understand,
• 30:48
  let us know. Is there?
• 30:49
  A way for her to be like OK he's good now but sorry I forgot this
• 30:53
  one part. Mike was asked about the
• 30:55
  situation and he said quote it's over with.
• 30:58
  I just want her to stop being in my life.
• 31:00
  So not only did you went to under this everything
• 31:04
  $1,000,000, I'm not even asking for any of it.
• 31:06
  I'm just saying I don't want to pay you alimony.
• 31:08
  You came back trying to be all smart.
• 31:12
  Yeah. I just want you to stop being in
• 31:14
  my life. OK then.
• 31:15
  All. Everything out of your life, my
• 31:18
  money should be out of your life too, you know.
• 31:21
  But he being all selective with it.
• 31:22
  OK Mike, enjoy your money and your little alimony.
• 31:28
  Good for you bro. I know women, 1000. 1,000,000
• 31:36
  trillion men one literally he was like here's women, here's
• 31:39
  men 1 and I think it's like 3. Quarters of a win because he
• 31:43
  wanted to be smart at the end. Yeah, yeah, we could.
• 31:46
  We could still be a hater. I want to be a hater.
• 31:50
  Thank you. So this story shocked me.
• 31:56
  I was really, really surprised. So Mickey Barreto, he is on my
• 32:00
  screen. He basically squatted in The New
• 32:03
  Yorker Hotel and then tried to claim ownership of the whole
• 32:07
  building. Yeah.
• 32:10
  So I wrote a lot of notes because I did not want to mess
• 32:12
  this up. Oh my goodness.
• 32:13
  OK, so he and his boyfriend in 2018.
• 32:17
  Yes, boyfriend paid $200 for one night to rent A room in The New
• 32:22
  Yorker. OK, so then after the one night,
• 32:26
  they went to the management and they requested a lease claiming
• 32:29
  that his one night stay entitled him to protections under a city
• 32:32
  housing law that applies to single room occupants of
• 32:36
  buildings constructed before 1969.
• 32:39
  So he went in with receipts. He knew, found a loophole, found
• 32:42
  a loophole, right? Because a lot of these laws are
• 32:45
  poorly written and they leave loopholes.
• 32:47
  And so if you're smart enough, sometimes you can get up in
• 32:50
  there, right? And so they went back and forth
• 32:54
  and they were like, Nah. And so he wasn't going to leave
• 32:56
  his one room. So they said, fine, you will go
• 32:59
  to Mickey said we'll go to court.
• 33:01
  Guess who didn't send a lawyer on their behalf?
• 33:03
  You're you're kidding. So the judgement went to Mickey
• 33:08
  and he was awarded possession of the room.
• 33:11
  You're kidding? Yes.
• 33:13
  They didn't care enough and now he has the room.
• 33:15
  They did not take him seriously. So he got possession of the one
• 33:19
  room, right? So then that was not enough.
• 33:23
  Don't be greedy. Don't be greedy.
• 33:27
  So he uploaded a fake deed to the city transferring ownership
• 33:32
  of the whole hotel to himself because he said, let me see the
• 33:38
  judge who granted him possession of the room indirectly gave him
• 33:41
  the entire building because it had never been subdivided.
• 33:46
  You're. Lying.
• 33:48
  So when you said you have access to this room, he was like,
• 33:50
  actually, I have access to this whole building.
• 33:55
  It's mine. You're lying.
• 33:56
  No, he what? He is the king of loopholes.
• 34:02
  Loopholes, right? So then he not only did that, he
• 34:06
  tried to collect rent from a hotel planet.
• 34:09
  You're doing too much. You are doing too much.
• 34:12
  Way too much. Way too much.
• 34:15
  And then he goes to the hotel and demanded that they transfer
• 34:19
  its accounts to him. You just, you just wait, be
• 34:23
  happy with the room. You should have left it at the
• 34:25
  room rent free, you know, right. So he kept.
• 34:28
  But what he did wrong was uploading that fake D to the
• 34:31
  city. There you go.
• 34:32
  And that's how they got him. And they said he basically was
• 34:35
  evicted in 2024. Mind you, he moved in in 2018,
• 34:40
  Yes. And he was charged with felony
• 34:44
  fraud, but they said that he was not fit to to stand trial.
• 34:50
  Because actually, I disagree with that.
• 34:55
  I think he's the smartest guy. Ever so smart, right?
• 34:59
  So then he ended up pleading guilty for forging those
• 35:02
  property records and he had already served the six months in
• 35:05
  prison that he was sentenced to, and he had five years probation.
• 35:10
  So for eight years free rent, would you serve six months in
• 35:13
  prison? Absolutely shame me up, officer.
• 35:17
  Eight years, right? Absolutely.
• 35:20
  I'm not mad at him. I'll serve my time and then
• 35:23
  probation. I just don't have to.
• 35:24
  What? Commit another fraud?
• 35:26
  No. No.
• 35:26
  Crimes? No.
• 35:27
  None. None.
• 35:28
  None. Why am I acting like this?
• 35:31
  Is you're like none. Now let me think about this.
• 35:33
  You know we're getting. No jaywalking, nothing.
• 35:37
  No jaywalking, nothing. I'm mad at him.
• 35:41
  I am not mad. Again, like the woman with the
• 35:44
  phones. They're just mad that he found a
• 35:46
  loophole. Exactly.
• 35:48
  And there's so many loopholes. I mean, I don't know how much
• 35:50
  time you've spent looking at law, but when you read them,
• 35:54
  they are just like, well, I can interpret it this way.
• 35:57
  It has to be written in a way that there's no interpretation.
• 36:00
  But if you leave it open, you get a Mickey.
• 36:04
  I'm not mad. He had a room, a nice little
• 36:08
  home, rent free for eight years. For eight years in The New
• 36:11
  Yorker. I'm not.
• 36:13
  Mad it's a it's AI. Don't know, it's a New Yorker
• 36:16
  girl and he was up in there, but he wanted the whole thing.
• 36:20
  He said F your room, everything. He got greedy, he got greedy,
• 36:23
  tried to charge rent. He would have been up in there
• 36:26
  still. If he didn't get greedy exactly,
• 36:28
  nobody would have come for him. It's just one room.
• 36:30
  They know that's Mickey's room. Don't go in room 216 you know,
• 36:34
  because he going to be in there. The win bro.
• 36:36
  It's in The New Yorker, too. Yes.
• 36:38
  Take the win. Oh, he got greedy, Mickey, No.
• 36:43
  Oh well, but he already served his time and now he's out
• 36:45
  probably coming up with a new scam.
• 36:48
  Five years, Wait five years and wait.
• 36:50
  Another great story. All right, I have a Reddit rant.
• 36:59
  All right, Ready. My neighbor has appointed
• 37:03
  himself the unofficial package guardian of our street and I am
• 37:06
  losing my mind. It started about a year ago.
• 37:11
  I ordered something, it didn't show up and when I asked the
• 37:13
  delivery app it said hand it to resident.
• 37:16
  I knocked on my neighbor Rand's door and he opened it holding my
• 37:19
  package completely unbothered and said yeah I grabbed it for
• 37:22
  you, didn't want it sitting out. Oh OK fine.
• 37:26
  Kind of him I guess. I said thanks and thought it was
• 37:28
  that. It was not that Ron has now made
• 37:32
  this a permanent part of his personality.
• 37:34
  Any package that gets delivered within a three house radius of
• 37:38
  his home, he collects. Oh my God.
• 37:39
  No notes on your door, no text, nothing.
• 37:42
  You just come home, see no package, panic for 20 minutes
• 37:45
  taking it was stolen, and then remember you have to go knock on
• 37:48
  Ron's door like a medieval peasant collecting rain from the
• 37:52
  Lord. Please, please Sir, may I have
• 37:54
  my? Package in exchange for this
• 37:56
  coin like. Who told you to do this?
• 38:00
  Ron, And why are you on top of it?
• 38:02
  Yeah, does he not work? Ron, I swear to God, the part
• 38:07
  that gets me is that he's not always home when you have to
• 38:10
  pick it up. I've knocked three times on
• 38:12
  Saturday for a package I needed that day, and he wasn't there
• 38:14
  until evening. My package was just sitting in
• 38:17
  his hallway all day. I could see it through the
• 38:19
  glass. Panel next to the store, you see
• 38:21
  that would make me so. Mad I could.
• 38:23
  See it like if I really need that I'm breaking in.
• 38:26
  I'm like please, I need it. Oh my God.
• 38:31
  I've told him nicely twice that I preferred my packages left at
• 38:34
  my door. He nodded and said of.
• 38:36
  Course, of course. The next week he took a package
• 38:39
  of mine that contained medication I needed.
• 38:41
  I had to text him to please bring it over and he's replied
• 38:44
  just come over, whatever. I don't even think he's trying
• 38:47
  to be difficult. He didn't.
• 38:49
  He genuinely believes he's providing a service.
• 38:51
  That might be the most frustrating part.
• 38:53
  About all of this Oh my God it's medication and come over
• 38:58
  whenever or you could have just left it where it was.
• 39:00
  Why are you the package guardian and he just decided one day when
• 39:04
  were they having like people stealing from the neighborhood
• 39:09
  like he just. Decided, he said.
• 39:11
  This is my job now. I am.
• 39:14
  So I would be pissed because I mean, we have a notification
• 39:18
  system and it's like you have a package.
• 39:19
  Yes, I've been waiting for this and I run over to go get it.
• 39:22
  But if I have to go to somebody's house, I don't want
• 39:24
  to talk. To you, I didn't ask for a third
• 39:26
  party. I did not ask.
• 39:28
  Don't have to be sociable to just to get my package.
• 39:31
  Exactly what? What has sent me over the edge
• 39:33
  of seeing my package in your home and I can't reach it?
• 39:37
  Oh, I'm hot. What do you mean I'm hot?
• 39:40
  I think if I broke your door. Justified, but yeah, yeah.
• 39:45
  It's a little valid, you know? Yeah.
• 39:49
  I know. No, I don't like that at all.
• 39:51
  Like Ron? Respectfully, you're doing too
• 39:53
  much. You really?
• 39:54
  Are nobody asked for this? Come on, Ron.
• 39:59
  My God I know. Am I overreacting?
• 40:04
  I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now
• 40:07
  he says I'm unstable. OK, is this rage bait?
• 40:12
  I can feel it. I can feel it.
• 40:14
  Yes. Prepare yourself.
• 40:16
  I'm prepared. OK.
• 40:17
  I, 32, female and my husband, 33 have been married for four years
• 40:22
  and last year we decided to finally try for a baby.
• 40:25
  When she was born I felt like the happiest woman ever, but at
• 40:28
  the same time I was exhausted physically and especially
• 40:31
  mentally. For the last three weeks I have
• 40:33
  not slept more than two hours straight.
• 40:35
  I get it. Dang, last night at 2:00 AM,
• 40:38
  Alice, our precious little girl, would not stop crying.
• 40:42
  I was pacing the hallway bouncing her whispering please
• 40:45
  please just sleep while my husband was snoring like a boar
• 40:49
  on the couch because he said he had a long shift at the
• 40:51
  warehouse and needed real rest. Swear.
• 40:58
  Something in me snapped. Valid.
• 41:03
  I woke him up and said I need one night, just one.
• 41:07
  I want to book a cheap hotel downtown, sleep alone, order
• 41:10
  room service and not hear anyone scream for 12 hours.
• 41:14
  I was not yelling but I was shaking, practically begging
• 41:17
  him. He looked at me like I had just
• 41:19
  confessed a crime and said what kind of mother wants to leave
• 41:24
  her newborn? Oh my goodness, like you're not
• 41:28
  here to This is my only job. Right.
• 41:31
  Yes, yes. Then he calls his mom and puts
• 41:36
  her on speaker. She told me that hormones are
• 41:39
  not an excuse to abandon my responsibilities and that when
• 41:43
  she had babies, she did not run off to hotels.
• 41:47
  This is what you signed up for. I signed up to parent with my
• 41:53
  partner this child that we both wanted.
• 41:55
  Yes. Are you kidding me?
• 41:58
  Yep. I love how you called your mom
• 42:01
  though. You are such a punk.
• 42:03
  I'm. Sorry that you are.
• 42:05
  I hate it. I hate it.
• 42:07
  And I'm sorry. I'm getting loud now.
• 42:09
  Yeah, like boy moms. The worst.
• 42:13
  The worst. OK, I never said I was leaving
• 42:17
  forever. I wanted one night to feel like
• 42:19
  a human being instead of a walking milk machine.
• 42:23
  My husband says I embarrassed him by making it sound like he
• 42:26
  doesn't help, which he does, but I'm the one being default parent
• 42:30
  who deals with this every minute of the day.
• 42:32
  Part of me wonders if asking for space makes me a selfish bitch.
• 42:36
  Another part of me thinks if I do not get a break soon I'm
• 42:39
  going to completely burn out. Am I overreacting for wanting
• 42:42
  one night away to sleep and breathe?
• 42:44
  No, it's one night and he's acting like he'll never see you
• 42:50
  again and you're leaving him alone with this baby that he
• 42:53
  helped create. I think he's scared.
• 42:56
  I think he will not know what to do if he's left alone with this
• 42:58
  kid because she said helps out. But do we need to like, hand me
• 43:02
  a diaper while I change? You know, do you know how to
• 43:05
  change the baby? Do you know how to?
• 43:07
  Make a bottle. Carried for nine months and
• 43:11
  she's asking for one night, 12 hours and you called your mom.
• 43:15
  To shame her. First of all, you shamed her.
• 43:18
  Yes, and then mom shamed her like I never needed.
• 43:22
  OK I feel bad for you because you should have deserved one
• 43:25
  night. Yes, because you didn't get it
• 43:26
  doesn't mean it makes it right. Exactly.
• 43:28
  And the fact that she was strong enough to even.
• 43:30
  Ask for that. Yeah.
• 43:31
  Because a lot of women feel like they need it.
• 43:33
  They feel overwhelmed. You, you see, with postpartum,
• 43:37
  there's so many things that can happen to the mother and to the
• 43:39
  child. And she was strong enough to
• 43:41
  say, look, this is I need this. I need this just for one day.
• 43:44
  I need you to help me. And he was like, what kind of
• 43:47
  mother are you? Single dude?
• 43:50
  Yeah. Instantly.
• 43:55
  Instantly. Cause what you're not going to
• 43:56
  do is call your mom to help you shame me.
• 43:59
  I'm just, I'm stuck on that. Why are you calling your mom?
• 44:03
  Who? Brought up mom.
• 44:05
  No one said her name. Why are you?
• 44:08
  My mom did it right. Let me let her school you and
• 44:12
  there's a lot she did not. I'm seeing a lot of men, young
• 44:17
  men online talking about how not even young, but just talking
• 44:21
  about how older generation women they were.
• 44:24
  They did it right. They didn't complain, they
• 44:26
  didn't work. They you know, they took care of
• 44:27
  the kids and they blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 44:29
  And it's like you're not taking any of the context into you
• 44:33
  know, they couldn't have their own bank accounts, they couldn't
• 44:35
  buy a home. They didn't have jobs.
• 44:37
  They put up with shit and one thing that I do know because I
• 44:41
  looked up the stats, once women were allowed to do no fault
• 44:45
  divorces, the amount of husbands who died unexpectedly went down.
• 44:51
  Oh. My God died unexpectedly.
• 44:58
  Arsenic in the coffee. Oh there, you just fell down the
• 45:02
  stairs. That stat is insane.
• 45:04
  These women were were handling business, but quietly and so if
• 45:08
  you need to, they need to get out.
• 45:11
  Because, you know, because if you didn't cook your own food,
• 45:15
  you don't know what I put in the food.
• 45:17
  You didn't make your own. Coffee.
• 45:19
  Then you don't know what I put in the.
• 45:20
  Coffee. So allegedly.
• 45:23
  Allegedly. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 45:25
  allegedly. So you need to quit playing with
• 45:27
  these women and give them what they asked for, because they're
• 45:30
  not asking for the world, they're asking for help.
• 45:32
  Oh my gosh, help. And they get all surprised when
• 45:35
  something happens to the mom or when something has to happen to
• 45:38
  the child. Yes, you know.
• 45:40
  It's like that irresponsible for you to not see it or to see it
• 45:43
  and to ignore it. Yes, because people act like
• 45:46
  having a baby is literally nothing.
• 45:48
  First of all, what it does to your body physically, but
• 45:51
  hormones are huge. You take a dip, you take a this,
• 45:56
  and your actions are not your own for a long time.
• 46:01
  And so quit playing with her. You know, give her 24 hours.
• 46:06
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. She was only asked for 12.
• 46:07
  Give her a whole day. So.
• 46:11
  Yeah, delete your. Mom's phone and your number.
• 46:15
  You don't need her. I promise.
• 46:18
  All right, Reddit confession pretended to be my dad's ghost
• 46:23
  and may have inadvertently saved my brother's life.
• 46:27
  OK. All right.
• 46:29
  My dad died when I was 13 and my brother was 15.
• 46:32
  A few weeks or months after his death, I got the weird urge to
• 46:36
  pretend to be his ghost so that my mom and brother would feel
• 46:39
  comforted. My brother and I had both had
• 46:42
  the same brand stereo so both of our remotes were interchangeable
• 46:46
  and there was a crack between his door and frame that allowed
• 46:48
  me to control his stereo from the outside from the door with
• 46:51
  my remote. So I got the idea to tiptoe to
• 46:54
  his door one night and play my dad's favorite song, Stand By
• 46:57
  Me, Benny King. Great song, great song.
• 47:01
  I had gone into his room earlier that day to check the CD to see
• 47:04
  which number the track was, so I did it 3 or 4 times in a row and
• 47:07
  then went to bed. He doesn't mention anything the
• 47:10
  next day and I pretty much forget about it until about 15
• 47:12
  years later when my brother and I were talking about the
• 47:15
  depression and suicide. One day he confessed that he
• 47:18
  almost shot himself right after dad died.
• 47:20
  I asked him what pulled him back and he looked at me dead in the
• 47:22
  face and said that he had the gun in his hand when all of a
• 47:25
  sudden Stand by me started playing.
• 47:27
  I sat there frozen. Oh my God.
• 47:32
  What's even more spooky is that he continues to tell me that the
• 47:35
  first time I played that night, he unplugged the stereo and then
• 47:38
  the plug was in his hand. It played again and again.
• 47:41
  To this day, I haven't told him and I won't ever tell him.
• 47:44
  Oh my God. That's so sweet.
• 47:47
  I know. And really sad.
• 47:49
  Really sad. There he was there.
• 47:52
  And I mean, talking about ghosts.
• 47:54
  I mean, you were an Angel in that moment.
• 47:57
  I mean, why would you even do that?
• 47:59
  You were compelled to do that and do it at that moment.
• 48:02
  Oh my goodness. I know I'm sorry to bring the
• 48:05
  mood down, but I was like, this is insane that is.
• 48:07
  Because you were. There for your brother and you
• 48:09
  had no idea. Wow, I know.
• 48:14
  Yeah, I don't even have anything to say it was.
• 48:17
  Amazing he had to confess that he saved.
• 48:19
  His brother's life. That's so special, right?
• 48:22
  I love that. All right, Am I overreacting?
• 48:28
  My best friend gave me a fake Louis Vuitton bag for my
• 48:31
  birthday and lied about spending $7000 on it.
• 48:35
  Girl, this is serious right here, not the LV.
• 48:39
  The LV. All right, I've been friends
• 48:41
  with Chloe for six years, Genuinely one of my closest
• 48:45
  people. Last month, for my birthday, she
• 48:47
  gave me what she said was a Louis Vuitton capu scene.
• 48:51
  Oh, I don't know, I may be right.
• 48:53
  Maybe. Yeah.
• 48:54
  Tell me how to pronounce it in the comments.
• 48:55
  Right bag and I'm talking. She made a whole thing of it.
• 49:00
  She told me she'd been quietly saving up because it'd been a
• 49:03
  brutal year and she wanted to do something meaningful for me.
• 49:06
  I literally cried. I felt so seen.
• 49:09
  Here's the thing, though. I live somewhere with a pretty
• 49:12
  high theft rate and I'm not exactly rolling in money, so if
• 49:16
  I'm going to be carrying around something worth $7000, I need it
• 49:19
  on my renter's insurance. Period.
• 49:21
  So I took it to a consignment shop just to get it appraised.
• 49:26
  If you would go to my screen, I have a picture of the the bag.
• 49:29
  No way. The woman there kind of paused
• 49:32
  and said it was a replica, a really high tier one, but still.
• 49:37
  She pointed out the made in Italy stamp.
• 49:40
  Apparently real Capu scenes are made in France.
• 49:45
  Oh. My God.
• 49:48
  It even came with like, the bag and everything.
• 49:51
  So I mean, it was super high end.
• 49:53
  Oh my God. But yeah, I wasn't even furious
• 49:56
  at first. I was just confused.
• 49:59
  Like, why would you lie about saving up $7000?
• 50:02
  That's such a specific emotional lie.
• 50:05
  I mean, I would totally be OK if she gave me this quality
• 50:07
  replica, but with telling the truth, right?
• 50:10
  I pulled Chloe aside and just asked her about it, genuinely
• 50:12
  not accusatory, and she lost it. Called me ungrateful, said I was
• 50:17
  materialistic for vetting a gift.
• 50:19
  She whipped out her phone and pulled up WhatsApp with a high
• 50:22
  end seller and shoved it in my face.
• 50:25
  She literally gave me the seller's contact info and told
• 50:28
  me to verify it myself so I could see that she still spent
• 50:30
  $410 on the replica. She started screaming that I'm
• 50:35
  ungrateful because 410 is still a massive birthday present and
• 50:39
  the fact that I'm focused on it being a Rep proves I only care
• 50:43
  about the label. Now she's going around telling
• 50:45
  our mutual friends that I'm brand obsessed and that I made
• 50:48
  her feel like a criminal for trying to do something nice.
• 50:52
  Some of our friends agree with her, others think the lie is
• 50:55
  weird. I don't even care that much
• 50:57
  about the bag itself. It's the fake story about saving
• 51:00
  up that's messing with my head and my overreacting, no?
• 51:03
  And why are you making it such a big thing all?
• 51:06
  I asked. I don't care.
• 51:07
  No, you gave me a gift. You thought of me.
• 51:10
  That was the base of it. And also 7000 to 400.
• 51:13
  That's insane. Like like she looked it up.
• 51:16
  She knew it cost 7 grand, but why come up with this whole
• 51:19
  life, everything, and then when I come for you, you start making
• 51:23
  this way bigger than it needs to be?
• 51:25
  Yes, I don't care. It's I don't care.
• 51:28
  And I was not checking on. I was like, girl, if I'm gonna
• 51:29
  be carrying around this $7000 bag, I need to put it on my
• 51:32
  insurance. Valid.
• 51:34
  But you telling the friends, the friends saying, oh, she's
• 51:36
  materialistic. It's like, what are we talking
• 51:39
  about? Please?
• 51:40
  You're materialistic. Yeah.
• 51:41
  Like you think that it matters. Like if a friend give me a bag
• 51:44
  that cost $400.00 a bag girl Are you sure 400?
• 51:48
  It's like you're just you're my friend.
• 51:50
  I couldn't care less. I don't.
• 51:52
  But her being all offended is insane.
• 51:54
  Like you had a rough year, so I saved up $7000 to spend on you.
• 51:59
  It feels like she wanted that kind of validation from her
• 52:02
  friend and so that she was getting that out of it.
• 52:06
  And so when she called her out on it, she was like, it felt
• 52:09
  some type of way. Girl, it's OK, and you don't
• 52:13
  need to be embarrassed. 400 is still a lot for a bag, for a
• 52:16
  gift in general, just for a friend, you know?
• 52:19
  Yeah, it wasn't about that. But she went there.
• 52:22
  Yeah. And no, you're not overreacting.
• 52:25
  Good Lord. Still a really cute bag.
• 52:28
  Calm down. Good Lord.
• 52:30
  Read it off my chest. My dad told the family he has no
• 52:34
  son anymore. We don't speak now.
• 52:36
  He needs my kidney and I still love him.
• 52:40
  Context please. My cousin called me three months
• 52:43
  back to tell me a story about my dad who I don't speak with
• 52:46
  regularly. My dad took my cousins out to
• 52:48
  the ranch, had a couple beers and haunted, only for him to
• 52:51
  express his displeasure in my way of being with everyone there
• 52:54
  once they started getting things off their chest.
• 52:57
  For context, essentially I'm the disappointment child in his
• 53:00
  eyes. I don't want to go into why that
• 53:02
  is as I don't want to veer into my identity or what have you,
• 53:05
  but I discress. Essentially he expressed how he
• 53:08
  has no son and how I've gone off to doing crazy things.
• 53:12
  Nothing new out of his mouth of course, but what's new is him
• 53:15
  saying this to extended family. Usually he keeps his insults
• 53:19
  toward me and me alone. I don't like him.
• 53:22
  I know now since that's off the table, he's sharing his opinion
• 53:25
  of me to others. My cousin found it deeply
• 53:28
  disgusting that he had said that and thought that he had to let
• 53:31
  me know. Little did he know is that I
• 53:33
  already understood this. I felt deep rejection from my
• 53:36
  father ever since I was a little boy.
• 53:38
  Now that I'm a nearly 30 year old man that rejects and hurts
• 53:41
  much less. Yet now my dad is calling, he's
• 53:44
  wanting to chat or talk about sports or hunting, things I
• 53:47
  don't enjoy but I will entertain him as we literally can't talk
• 53:50
  about anything else. I found it odd that he wanted to
• 53:53
  go do this. Come to find out, he has his
• 53:56
  right. Leg amputated above the knee and
• 53:57
  needs a kidney transplant due to complications with diabetes.
• 54:01
  Oh OK wait, hold on. He's trying to connect with you
• 54:04
  now because he knows he's going to need something from you and
• 54:07
  he's not even bothering to know what your things are.
• 54:10
  He's like here, let's still just talk about my shit.
• 54:13
  Exactly. I know I get the ick, I can put
• 54:17
  the puzzle pieces together, but I'm conflicted.
• 54:20
  A part of me is deeply angry that he's choosing to interact
• 54:23
  with me only when he needs a literal organ of mine.
• 54:26
  Another part of me is happy that my dad is treating me like a
• 54:28
  human being, which is far from what I've experienced from him
• 54:31
  growing up. I love him, but I've experienced
• 54:34
  so much from him already and attempt to construct my identity
• 54:36
  to fit his expectations, which I eventually stopped doing.
• 54:39
  As it turns out, living inauthentically breeds severe
• 54:42
  mental illness. Heavy on yes.
• 54:45
  After years of putting in so much effort and attempts to
• 54:48
  appease him, at the end of it all I was still dejected by him
• 54:52
  now, though he'd loved to go get dinner sometime.
• 54:54
  He'd loved to watch that movie. I like it.
• 54:57
  Makes that little boy me who wanted to make my dad proud beam
• 55:00
  when he says those things. But then echoing are the words
• 55:03
  that he said not even three months back.
• 55:05
  And of course the words shared with me while I was raised.
• 55:09
  I don't want my father to die. I also don't want to feel this
• 55:12
  obligation to give him my kidney just for him to ostracize me
• 55:16
  again. That part taking my childhood
• 55:18
  mental stability and now organs too.
• 55:21
  This sucks. I don't want him to die.
• 55:23
  Maybe the donors on the list will help, not sure.
• 55:27
  That's tough. Yeah, 'cause first, how selfish
• 55:31
  are you? Yeah, you don't want your son
• 55:33
  around because of who he literally is, but who he
• 55:38
  literally is is. Good enough when you want a part
• 55:40
  of it, when you want part of that body.
• 55:42
  Wow, that's insane. I am not just there for spare
• 55:45
  parts like that part. We're supposed to have a
• 55:48
  relationship and he's trying to do that.
• 55:50
  I say trying in quotes. See a movie, go have dinner
• 55:54
  like. Talking about sports and hunting
• 55:56
  and he's like, I don't care about none of that, any of that.
• 55:58
  But his trauma is like, oh, this is all I've ever wanted to hear
• 56:04
  from you. But it's not real.
• 56:05
  It's not. It's only temporary because once
• 56:08
  he gets that kidney, if he gets the kidney, it's probably going
• 56:11
  to go back to normal, normal. Am I petty?
• 56:16
  I'd be like, what I'm saying is that he's right.
• 56:18
  There's a, there's a list of people who can get on that list.
• 56:23
  You can call me to see what happens.
• 56:27
  You know, like, I don't think he deserves that from me.
• 56:29
  No, no, and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way.
• 56:32
  No Dang. I know, I know, that sucks.
• 56:38
  I'm offended. Am I overreacting?
• 56:43
  My boyfriend tricked me into eating meat.
• 56:46
  Oh, is she a vegan? That's not fair.
• 56:49
  I-21 female, have been a vegetarian my entire life.
• 56:53
  My mom raised me and my brother vegetarian and taught us to
• 56:56
  respect animals. My brother started eating meat
• 56:59
  every now and then once he was in college, but I have never in
• 57:02
  my life eaten meat. Not only am I vegetarian, but I
• 57:05
  care a lot about animals. I literally feel horrible if I
• 57:08
  accidentally step on a bug even though I know I'm crazy.
• 57:12
  That's cute. My boyfriend of three years, 25,
• 57:16
  is not vegetarian and he eats meat regularly.
• 57:18
  His family is Dominican so it's a large part of his culture and
• 57:21
  diet. I have no problem with him or
• 57:23
  his family eating meat. When we have dinner at his
• 57:26
  parents, I simply avoid dishes with meat in them and opt for
• 57:28
  plantains or rice and beans. He has always known and
• 57:32
  respected my feelings around meat and animals and make sure
• 57:35
  to cook his food on different pans if he's making a dish with
• 57:38
  meat while making me a vegetarian version.
• 57:40
  Sounds really sweet, yeah. I have never expected him to
• 57:44
  stop eating meat as he has mentioned that he could never
• 57:47
  give up meat. He has never once tried to turn
• 57:50
  me or convince me to try it. Even when we first met he was
• 57:53
  very respectable. About two months ago he started
• 57:56
  asking me questions about how I get proper nutrition and overall
• 57:59
  questions about my diet. He asked about protein sources
• 58:02
  and how often I eat. I didn't think much about it,
• 58:05
  but I was happy to explain anything he was confused or
• 58:07
  curious about. About 3 to 4 weeks ago I noticed
• 58:10
  he was starting to eat less meat when we were eating at
• 58:12
  restaurants or at his parents. I asked him about it and he told
• 58:15
  me he was going to try to give up eating meat because he knew
• 58:18
  how important it was to me. Oh, that's sweet.
• 58:21
  I was ecstatic. I never expected him to give up
• 58:23
  something that means so much to him.
• 58:25
  After he told me, he started making us both vegetarian meals
• 58:28
  frequently and commenting on how he thinks he's actually becoming
• 58:31
  healthier. Oh.
• 58:33
  This. Is sweet.
• 58:34
  While I was in class he texted me to ask if I wanted him to
• 58:38
  make Aspergers for dinner. I said yes and honestly got very
• 58:41
  hungry. I assume this is a veggie
• 58:42
  burger. I could hardly stop thinking
• 58:46
  about it. When I got to my apartment after
• 58:48
  class, the table was set and he was sitting excitedly at the
• 58:50
  table. I even noticed the box the
• 58:52
  veggie burgers came in sitting in the recycling bin.
• 58:55
  When we started eating, I noticed the burger tasted
• 58:58
  differently than I usually does, but I hadn't had burgers in a
• 59:01
  bit so I figured I either misremembered or the change was
• 59:05
  because my boyfriend had add some extra things into the
• 59:07
  burger, so I ignored it. I had about half the burger when
• 59:11
  he started giggling. I asked him what was so funny
• 59:16
  and he said he asked if I noticed anything different about
• 59:19
  the burger. I told him told him it tasted a
• 59:22
  bit different. He asked if it tasted better
• 59:25
  than usual. Honestly it really didn't but I
• 59:27
  didn't want to insult him so I said yes.
• 59:30
  He started laughing louder which is when I got the sinking
• 59:32
  feeling in my stomach. I asked what's so funny and he
• 59:35
  said I knew you'd like meat more.
• 59:37
  Doesn't it taste so good? Oh, why would you do that?
• 59:41
  It's not funny. It's not funny.
• 59:44
  You were missing out on so much. He said to me.
• 59:47
  I started feeling sick so suddenly that I immediately ran
• 59:49
  to the bathroom and threw up like 3 times.
• 59:51
  I could still hear him laughing in the other room while I sobbed
• 59:54
  my eyes out. I'm writing this still sitting
• 59:57
  on the bathroom floor. I heard the door open and close
• 1:00:00
  about 10 minutes ago, but I still can't even stand up
• 1:00:02
  without feeling nauseous. I know I might be being
• 1:00:05
  dramatic, but I usually pride myself on being a perfect vegan
• 1:00:08
  in quotes because I'm the only one in my family to have never
• 1:00:11
  eaten meat. Yeah I feel so betrayed.
• 1:00:14
  He was seriously lying about wanting to become a vegetarian
• 1:00:18
  and about not caring about my diet for three years.
• 1:00:20
  I feel like I'm going crazy. He's texting me like 5 times but
• 1:00:23
  I only read one that said when you stop crying like a baby over
• 1:00:26
  a burger let me know. This is seriously embarrassing
• 1:00:29
  for you. Am I overreacting?
• 1:00:32
  No, you are not. Can I fight him?
• 1:00:37
  Are you serious? It's not funny and that's so
• 1:00:39
  rude. And he got pleasure in making
• 1:00:41
  this a joke and tricking her and then calling her a baby
• 1:00:46
  afterwards? If something is so important to
• 1:00:48
  you, you don't just trash on it. He stepped all over this.
• 1:00:51
  Yes, and that's the problem. I could have the stupidest hobby
• 1:00:57
  you know desire, but if my partner shits all over it then
• 1:01:00
  you are not the person for me because you should know how
• 1:01:03
  important it is to me, period. And that should make it
• 1:01:07
  untouchable. Exactly what's important to you
• 1:01:10
  is important to me automatically.
• 1:01:13
  But he tricked her. It's the tricking part for me.
• 1:01:16
  It's like you. You made me believe like you
• 1:01:18
  wanted to adopt the same type of lifestyle.
• 1:01:22
  I trusted you enough to make food for me and you tricked me
• 1:01:26
  into eating meat that. What?
• 1:01:27
  Why? That's the thing you just said
• 1:01:29
  trust. Like she probably has made her
• 1:01:33
  own meals or whatever she said. Sometimes he makes her meals,
• 1:01:36
  but I'm like, Oh my God, to to and to derive so much joy after
• 1:01:41
  playing this long con. Like this was a long con.
• 1:01:44
  Like, I don't understand why you would even do that.
• 1:01:47
  She never tried to pressure you to eat the meat.
• 1:01:50
  Or to not eat the meat and so why would you pressure her the
• 1:01:53
  other way? It was so rude.
• 1:01:55
  And to laugh while she's crying and she's throwing up.
• 1:01:59
  How do you not know this wasn't a serious situation?
• 1:02:02
  She's never eaten meat in her life.
• 1:02:03
  She eats meat burger. How do you know that didn't mess
• 1:02:06
  her up like physically? Like there's so many things that
• 1:02:10
  he just did not consider or didn't care for and then called.
• 1:02:12
  Her a baby if it was. A restaurant.
• 1:02:16
  If it was a restaurant, she could sue.
• 1:02:18
  Exactly. Exactly.
• 1:02:19
  But because it's her boyfriend, she's just supposed to get over
• 1:02:21
  it. No XXX, Yeah.
• 1:02:25
  Yeah I know y'all on TikTok that taught me that if he messes up
• 1:02:28
  once it is X. Y'all are quick with it right?
• 1:02:34
  I love it. All right, well, I conveniently
• 1:02:37
  have another one that's like, honestly in the same vibe.
• 1:02:40
  Really. OK, conveniently read it off my
• 1:02:43
  chest. My mother-in-law hates that I'm
• 1:02:45
  an artist but I'm not offended and my husband just shrugged it
• 1:02:49
  off by saying mom's right. It's just creating mean,
• 1:02:52
  meaningless creations. Meaningless.
• 1:02:56
  I-28 female. I go by Valerie, and I've been
• 1:03:00
  an artist for as long as I can remember.
• 1:03:02
  Not in the cute hobby way, but in the way that feels stitched
• 1:03:06
  to your identity. I draw when I'm stressed.
• 1:03:08
  I sketch what I'm thinking. I spent years practicing,
• 1:03:11
  improving, taking small commissions here and there.
• 1:03:14
  It's just something I do. It's something that keeps me
• 1:03:16
  grounded. My mother-in-law, 57, female
• 1:03:19
  Linda, has never really liked it.
• 1:03:22
  She's never been outright cruel, but her tone always carries that
• 1:03:25
  subtle dismissal. At family dinner, she'll say,
• 1:03:28
  are you still drawing? The way someone might ask if
• 1:03:31
  you're still playing pretend? She's made comments about
• 1:03:34
  stability, about real careers and how passion doesn't pay
• 1:03:37
  bills. I didn't take it personally.
• 1:03:40
  I genuinely didn't. She comes from a generation and
• 1:03:43
  a mindset where security means everything.
• 1:03:46
  To her, art probably looks risky and practical, probably even
• 1:03:49
  childish. I understand that perspective,
• 1:03:52
  even if I don't agree with it. But hurt wasn't her.
• 1:03:55
  It was my husband, Leo, 29, male.
• 1:03:58
  The other night, after one of her usual comments about me
• 1:04:01
  needing something more meaningful, I laughed it off.
• 1:04:04
  Later, when we were alone, I told him I didn't mind what his
• 1:04:07
  mom said, but I didn't ask him if he actually agreed with her
• 1:04:09
  either. He shrugged.
• 1:04:11
  Literally just shrugged like nothing and said I mean Mom's
• 1:04:15
  right, it's just creating meaningless creations.
• 1:04:19
  Oh my goodness. He said it so casually, like it
• 1:04:21
  wasn't something that would sit in my chest for hours.
• 1:04:24
  That word stayed with me. Literally stayed with me.
• 1:04:27
  Meaningless art might not have life saving surgery, it might
• 1:04:32
  not be engineering or finance. But meaningless.
• 1:04:35
  The portraits I've done for people who have cried when they
• 1:04:37
  received them, The sketches that helped me through anxiety, the
• 1:04:40
  commissions that paid for small but important things.
• 1:04:43
  The hours of discipline and focus.
• 1:04:45
  That doesn't feel meaningless to me.
• 1:04:47
  I didn't argue with him, I didn't explode.
• 1:04:49
  I just went quiet. And here's the strange part.
• 1:04:52
  I'm still not offended by my mother-in-law, but I feel
• 1:04:54
  disappointed in my husband. Not because he wants stability,
• 1:04:58
  that's fair. Not because he wants money,
• 1:05:00
  that's valid. But because he's reduced
• 1:05:02
  something that is deeply personal to me into something
• 1:05:05
  trivial, Right. I'm not naive.
• 1:05:07
  I know art is competitive. I know it's hard to make
• 1:05:09
  sustainable income from it. I'm not pretending it's easy.
• 1:05:13
  I've always been realistic about balancing passion and
• 1:05:16
  responsibility. But I've never thought that the
• 1:05:18
  person I married would see that what I do is meaningless.
• 1:05:22
  Now I'm sitting with this uncomfortable realization that
• 1:05:25
  maybe he's never truly respected this part of me.
• 1:05:28
  Maybe he tolerates it. Maybe he thinks I'll grow out of
• 1:05:31
  it. And that hurts me more than any
• 1:05:33
  comment his mom could ever make. I'm not angry.
• 1:05:36
  I'm just thinking. Because if the person you choose
• 1:05:38
  to build a life with doesn't see value in something that defines
• 1:05:41
  you, what does that mean long term?
• 1:05:44
  I don't know yet. I'm not making dramatic
• 1:05:46
  decisions. Not yet.
• 1:05:47
  I think I just know I can't unhear what he said.
• 1:05:50
  And you shouldn't. And I'm about to rant for a
• 1:05:52
  little bit because. As I knew, I knew.
• 1:05:56
  A house full of artists here in our home.
• 1:05:59
  And as someone who worked really hard to have my career, I have
• 1:06:05
  heard that. How's your little writing go
• 1:06:07
  going? It's a little side hobby.
• 1:06:09
  It's a little thing you do on the side.
• 1:06:11
  But then once you start making actual money, it's like, Oh well
• 1:06:15
  then. All of a sudden, it's important.
• 1:06:17
  Exactly. Then it is a career.
• 1:06:19
  Then it is a way to support yourself.
• 1:06:21
  It is a stable way. And I don't like that because if
• 1:06:25
  you're not going to support me as I'm struggling, just like
• 1:06:30
  drawing on napkins and doing portraits for a little bit of
• 1:06:33
  money on the side, then don't come for me later when I'm doing
• 1:06:38
  these huge projects and I'm mentioned on, you know, in the
• 1:06:42
  news or something. But even that's not a measure of
• 1:06:44
  success. She's successful right now
• 1:06:47
  because she leans into this thing that she's so passionate
• 1:06:50
  about. And for him and everybody in his
• 1:06:53
  family to be like, just brushing it off, girl.
• 1:06:56
  Run, run. Because it's not going to get
• 1:06:58
  better. No.
• 1:06:59
  And they're always watching, aren't they?
• 1:07:01
  Like it's not like it's a your little thing.
• 1:07:04
  I know it's not going to go anywhere.
• 1:07:06
  It's like your little thing, but I'm a be there just in case it
• 1:07:09
  turns into something and just in case I can get something out of
• 1:07:12
  this. Yes, it's always for their own
• 1:07:15
  benefit too. Absolutely.
• 1:07:16
  That's just like Dang. And no, I agree with her.
• 1:07:20
  Art is so important. You see all those like end of
• 1:07:24
  the world movies and stuff, They always grab, you know, all the
• 1:07:28
  arts, the arts, sculptures and everything.
• 1:07:30
  It's like, OK, but you want to protect those and you want to
• 1:07:32
  preserve those and keep those moving forward.
• 1:07:34
  Because when it was 2020 and we had nothing to do.
• 1:07:40
  All we were doing was consuming art, movies, music, painting,
• 1:07:44
  drawing. Like what?
• 1:07:46
  It was art, yes, reading books, like don't act like art doesn't
• 1:07:50
  make the world go round. Because I remember when people
• 1:07:53
  were saying that when the writers and the actors went on
• 1:07:55
  strike a few years ago, they were saying this isn't brain
• 1:07:59
  surgery. You're not, you know, saving any
• 1:08:01
  lives. And people were giving accounts
• 1:08:04
  of when it did save their life. My mom was dying of cancer and
• 1:08:08
  all she did was watch television and we watched old TV shows
• 1:08:11
  together and it kept her spirits up while she was suffering.
• 1:08:15
  Like you can't tell me it's not important.
• 1:08:17
  Like no, it's not brain surgery, but what else is brain surgery
• 1:08:20
  but brain surgery? Like let things be what they are
• 1:08:23
  and they and art is important and you cannot tell me otherwise
• 1:08:26
  because I will fight you. Yeah, it gets people out of
• 1:08:29
  depression, like it saves their lives.
• 1:08:32
  And for you to put it down into something that's just.
• 1:08:36
  Minute and doesn't matter is so disrespectful.
• 1:08:39
  Yeah, don't do that. Yeah, it's never going to get
• 1:08:42
  get get better. So if you want to keep drawing
• 1:08:45
  and you want to have any bit of respect, you're not going to get
• 1:08:47
  it from this side. No, but I do.
• 1:08:49
  Not like the art that. They're making no one can
• 1:08:51
  recreate art because it's the humanity aspect of it.
• 1:08:54
  It's the struggle, it's the passion, things that go into it.
• 1:08:58
  It's like, that's why we love an album.
• 1:09:00
  When someone just broke up, it's like it's yeah, it's passion
• 1:09:04
  literally coming. Out of you.
• 1:09:05
  That is what art is. It's just you putting it into
• 1:09:08
  physical form. That's what it is.
• 1:09:11
  It's your soul, yes. So for you to say it doesn't
• 1:09:14
  matter, it's just like, OK, So what are we doing on the planet?
• 1:09:16
  Then right. And that would be the same
• 1:09:18
  person that's sits down every Wednesday, you know, at 8:00 PM
• 1:09:22
  to watch a show and who reads books on the train and who
• 1:09:26
  listens to music while they clean their house.
• 1:09:28
  Like don't tell me that, please. Then stop consuming art if it
• 1:09:31
  doesn't matter you. Bye.
• 1:09:35
  Yeah, we're a. Little feisty over here.
• 1:09:36
  You know, OK, so I have my last. One and it has an update so yes
• 1:09:43
  yes, all right. Am I?
• 1:09:45
  Overreacting. For calling off my engagement
• 1:09:48
  after my fiance admitted his family secretly tested me to see
• 1:09:52
  if I was a gold digger. All right, I-24 female.
• 1:09:59
  Have been with my fiance 27 for almost 4 years.
• 1:10:02
  He has a really well paying job in tech and I make pretty
• 1:10:05
  average money. We've always split things fairly
• 1:10:08
  and I've never asked him for expensive stuff or trips or
• 1:10:10
  anything. I honestly thought money was a
• 1:10:13
  non issue for us. I never was interested in him
• 1:10:16
  for his money anyways. We genuinely click so well and I
• 1:10:19
  love his personality. We are into the same nerdy
• 1:10:22
  things and his family really seem to like me.
• 1:10:24
  I never thought I would have to worry about our relationship
• 1:10:27
  going South until now. A few days ago my fiance sat me
• 1:10:32
  down. And said he had something.
• 1:10:34
  He wanted to tell me and he was smiling like it was good news.
• 1:10:37
  He basically told me that his family has been secretly testing
• 1:10:40
  me for 11 months to make sure I wasn't a gold digger.
• 1:10:45
  He said they were worried I only liked him for his income and
• 1:10:48
  wanted proof before we got married. 11 months.
• 1:10:52
  Oh my God. The.
• 1:10:55
  Test that. They had all made it seem.
• 1:10:57
  Like he was struggling financially and might lose his
• 1:11:00
  job, his mom would casually bring up layoffs, his dad talked
• 1:11:03
  about how unstable tech is and slowly it turned into he might
• 1:11:08
  actually lose his job and you guys might have to really
• 1:11:11
  downsize. At one point his mom even told
• 1:11:14
  me I should be prepared to financially help him if it came
• 1:11:17
  to that. I never wanted to bring up the
• 1:11:19
  possibility of a layoff for him because I didn't want to stress
• 1:11:21
  him out. I wanted to be prepared to
• 1:11:24
  support him if needed. So I started budgeting more,
• 1:11:27
  saving money, cutting back on random spending, skipping stuff
• 1:11:31
  I wanted, and just genuinely trying to prepare for the worst.
• 1:11:34
  I constantly reassured my fiance, encouraging him, told
• 1:11:38
  him we'd be fine, that I didn't care about money, that I just
• 1:11:41
  wanted us. But this whole thing was fake.
• 1:11:44
  His job was never in danger, his income never changed, there were
• 1:11:48
  no layoffs. His family literally planned
• 1:11:50
  this whole thing together. They kept it going for almost a
• 1:11:53
  year. That's messed up.
• 1:11:55
  I'm sorry. That's messed up.
• 1:11:57
  Yeah. Apparently this all started
• 1:11:59
  because his older brother went through a really messy divorce.
• 1:12:02
  He now now pays a ton in child support and his ex-wife got a
• 1:12:06
  lot of money in the divorce and his family fully blames her and
• 1:12:09
  thinks she was a gold digger. So now they're super paranoid
• 1:12:12
  about any woman who dates one of their sons.
• 1:12:14
  Oh God. The thing is, I've.
• 1:12:17
  Actually met her. The brother's ex-wife and I did
• 1:12:21
  not get gold digger vibes from her and honestly it makes me
• 1:12:24
  feel uncomfortable how much they demonize her.
• 1:12:28
  My fiance said his parents finally told him that I.
• 1:12:30
  Passed. And that they felt comfortable
• 1:12:32
  with him marrying me now. He said he wanted to tell me
• 1:12:35
  because he thought I'd be relieved to know he actually
• 1:12:38
  isn't struggling financially and that it shows how much his
• 1:12:41
  family cares about protecting him.
• 1:12:45
  Go on and go home with these. Mama's boys, Jesus Christ.
• 1:12:48
  Right now. Then he tells me that to
• 1:12:51
  celebrate, he upgraded our honeymoon to a nice luxury
• 1:12:54
  resort in Hawaii. I mentioned this resort when
• 1:12:57
  initially honeymoon planning but deemed it too expensive so
• 1:13:00
  settled for a more modest option.
• 1:13:02
  But I feel weird about it. I don't want to be rewarded for
• 1:13:04
  being manipulated. No man, like good job we tricked
• 1:13:08
  you. You were so gullible you
• 1:13:09
  believed it. Here's a nicer vacation.
• 1:13:11
  Exactly. No, thank you, I told him.
• 1:13:14
  I felt manipulated. Embarrassed and honestly
• 1:13:17
  humiliated that his whole family was watching my reactions and
• 1:13:19
  judging my character behind my back for almost a year.
• 1:13:22
  He said I'm looking at it wrong and that I proved I'm not with
• 1:13:24
  him for his money and that this should make me feel more secure
• 1:13:27
  in our relationship. His family is acting like this
• 1:13:31
  is totally normal and that I should be proud of myself.
• 1:13:34
  His mom literally said most girls wouldn't have handled that
• 1:13:37
  so gracefully. OK I told him I need space and
• 1:13:41
  I'm seriously considering calling off the engagement but I
• 1:13:44
  honestly don't know what to do. I love him and this is so out of
• 1:13:46
  left field and now everyone is acting like I'm blowing this out
• 1:13:49
  of proportion and being dramatic.
• 1:13:51
  Part of me wonders if I am but another part of me feels like my
• 1:13:54
  trust is completely broken. Am I overreacting?
• 1:13:58
  No, absolutely not. That was your warning, girl.
• 1:14:01
  You know how they always give you a nice little warning before
• 1:14:04
  you're about to jump into something?
• 1:14:05
  That's horrible. Run.
• 1:14:07
  Yeah. Because it's not just him, It's
• 1:14:09
  the whole family. Because you're not marrying him,
• 1:14:11
  you're marrying the family. I hate when the families are
• 1:14:14
  like that. You know, you're like, I'm
• 1:14:15
  taking everyone with him. It's like, I didn't like you.
• 1:14:18
  I like him, I like him. So now you come.
• 1:14:22
  It's a package deal. Terrible.
• 1:14:24
  But then also they're. Warning you what might happen
• 1:14:26
  if. This relationship won't work.
• 1:14:27
  You'll become old girl, ostracized and demonized and
• 1:14:31
  being like especially if you have.
• 1:14:32
  Children. Oh my God, don't do it.
• 1:14:35
  Run. Yeah.
• 1:14:36
  Red flags, Red flags. 11 months, 11 months.
• 1:14:39
  And the fact that they all got together and planned.
• 1:14:41
  This plan this. So every time I come around,
• 1:14:45
  they're like, OK, you mentioned that Tech is unstable.
• 1:14:47
  You mentioned that he might get laid off.
• 1:14:49
  Like what? Like it's a game that's really
• 1:14:53
  scary. It's giving what is it, Knives
• 1:14:56
  Out? Oh yeah.
• 1:14:58
  I feel like they're this rich family and.
• 1:15:00
  She's just like there and she needs to run.
• 1:15:02
  Now it's like this is going to get even worse even.
• 1:15:06
  Worse, most girls would have handled this terribly.
• 1:15:09
  OK, well I'm about to be most girls.
• 1:15:10
  I'm about to be blowing this up. What do you mean?
• 1:15:14
  Oh, seriously? And the fact that.
• 1:15:17
  Like let's say let's say the husband cheats, right?
• 1:15:20
  And she leaves. She's.
• 1:15:21
  Still going to be demonized because they're still going to
• 1:15:23
  look at him like the, you know, the sun shines out his ass and
• 1:15:26
  and she was a gold digger for even being with him.
• 1:15:29
  It's like, you know, there's no winds here.
• 1:15:31
  There's no winds. And also that's what happens
• 1:15:33
  unless you got a prenup. Oh boy, if that was an option
• 1:15:38
  you should have done that. Looks like he didn't so she took
• 1:15:42
  half, right? Exactly.
• 1:15:43
  That's what happens when you get a divorce.
• 1:15:45
  Like I don't know, if you didn't want that, then maybe put in
• 1:15:49
  some things in place that are there to help you.
• 1:15:51
  Exactly. If you have a problem but it's
• 1:15:53
  her fault, yes. So like I said, I have an
• 1:15:57
  update. All right so this happened a
• 1:15:59
  couple days ago. I'm still staying with my fiance
• 1:16:02
  right now but things are tense and I feel anxious pretty much
• 1:16:05
  all the time. He knows I'm upset and needs
• 1:16:07
  space so he hasn't tried to talk to me about it since.
• 1:16:10
  He knows I'm considering calling off the engagement, which I
• 1:16:13
  which is why I think he's been so sensitive around me the last
• 1:16:16
  few days. He hasn't been acting like it's
• 1:16:18
  a positive thing anymore and seems pretty remorseful since I
• 1:16:21
  told him how much it hurt me. This morning I asked him if he
• 1:16:24
  knew about it the whole time and he told me that his parents
• 1:16:27
  started making the comments without his knowledge and after
• 1:16:30
  he overheard a comment they made to me while over at his parents
• 1:16:33
  house. He asked them privately why they
• 1:16:35
  said that and they explained they were testing me.
• 1:16:37
  He decided to let them continue just to see what I would do.
• 1:16:44
  From past interactions with his parents, I also know he has a
• 1:16:47
  hard time standing up to them or disagreeing with them, so it is
• 1:16:51
  honest. So it honestly makes sense that
• 1:16:52
  he didn't call them out and just started going along with it.
• 1:16:56
  They told him that they were offended when I suggested an
• 1:16:59
  expensive resort for the honeymoon and made a comment
• 1:17:02
  insinuating that his parents would be paying for it.
• 1:17:05
  They got it in their head that I was just expecting them to
• 1:17:08
  shoulder the cost of an expensive resort without
• 1:17:10
  question, which isn't true. I happily accepted a more modest
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  option when they suggested because I didn't want to seem
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  pushy or entitled. Plus typically the groom's
• 1:17:20
  family plays pays for the honeymoon, so I didn't know they
• 1:17:23
  were offended by that. Maybe I really did come off as
• 1:17:26
  entitled, but that was honestly never my intention.
• 1:17:29
  Regardless, I don't think that justifies testing me like this
• 1:17:32
  for 11 months. He does not.
• 1:17:34
  He wasn't the mastermind, but he never.
• 1:17:36
  Stopped them and didn't see. Why it was wrong or manipulative
• 1:17:39
  until I told him how upset I was.
• 1:17:41
  A part of me wonders if he was manipulated by his parents to
• 1:17:44
  think this was acceptable. I'm torn between calling it off
• 1:17:48
  or having a conversation with him and asking him to go to
• 1:17:51
  couples counselling and set boundaries with his parents.
• 1:17:54
  I don't know. I don't know what I'm hearing,
• 1:17:57
  the whole. Time is that he is not going to
• 1:17:59
  defend you ever, ever, ever. He will have his family's back.
• 1:18:04
  Or do whatever they tell him to. Do yes, you are on your own.
• 1:18:08
  Yes, exactly. I don't think that's a safe
• 1:18:10
  situation for you. Because you're just getting
• 1:18:13
  started. Were they?
• 1:18:13
  Early 20s, Yeah, no. Like 20 years in, you still
• 1:18:18
  going to be in the background to whatever his parents want
• 1:18:21
  exactly because they're going to tell him and he's going to do.
• 1:18:23
  And if he's that easily manipulated to not realize that
• 1:18:26
  something bad is something good or backwards or something good
• 1:18:30
  something bad, then this is never going to.
• 1:18:33
  It's no, and you're not going to be comfortable or safe or.
• 1:18:38
  Yeah, you're gonna have to be fighting the entire time you're
• 1:18:40
  in this. Family, I don't think that's.
• 1:18:42
  Good. So no, this is your chance to
• 1:18:44
  leave. Yeah.
• 1:18:44
  You're not married yet. Yeah.
• 1:18:46
  You don't have kids. You can have a clean break.
• 1:18:49
  Run. Now that's horrible, I know.
• 1:18:52
  He is, but at least we got an update finally.
• 1:18:54
  I know updates, I love Reddit. Me too.
• 1:19:00
  It's. Wild.
• 1:19:01
  All right, so in case y'all didn't know we.
• 1:19:04
  Offer story submissions on the show, so if you're watching on
• 1:19:08
  YouTube, go to the description, but if you're listening to us,
• 1:19:10
  go to rtgems.com. But someone submitted a story
• 1:19:14
  submission and it wasn't like like a Reddit thing or anything.
• 1:19:19
  I think he was just confessing but I wanted to read it
• 1:19:21
  completely anonymous but I thought it was interesting.
• 1:19:24
  I haven't read it yet. It was titled Chasing Warmth
• 1:19:30
  which was very poetic. It says I am a 30.
• 1:19:34
  Five year old man who has been living.
• 1:19:36
  Out of his car since August 16th, 2025.
• 1:19:40
  It wasn't an impulse decision. It was a decision for peace.
• 1:19:44
  I was living in a house that didn't feel like home.
• 1:19:47
  I barely had access to the kitchen.
• 1:19:49
  Using the bathroom felt like it could spark an argument.
• 1:19:52
  The environment was tense, unpredictable, and at times
• 1:19:55
  unsafe. My mother has a history of
• 1:19:58
  extreme behavior, including once searching the house for a gun
• 1:20:01
  over something as small as grease left on the stove.
• 1:20:04
  That's just one example. I was working making 1990 an.
• 1:20:09
  Hour paying rent. And a car note trying to
• 1:20:11
  survive. There was no support for my
• 1:20:13
  family. Not emotionally, not
• 1:20:15
  financially. I've always had to stand on my
• 1:20:17
  own. While my older brothers are
• 1:20:19
  treated like gold. I've often felt like the
• 1:20:21
  outsider. They have families and children.
• 1:20:24
  I have none. All I've ever wanted was simple,
• 1:20:27
  go to work, go to the gym, and live in peace.
• 1:20:30
  So I left. Since then, I've spent
• 1:20:33
  Thanksgiving and Christmas in my car.
• 1:20:35
  On Thanksgiving morning, a police officer knocked on my
• 1:20:37
  window because he thought I was dead.
• 1:20:39
  Damn, I know. Open the window.
• 1:20:43
  Right. Meanwhile, my family.
• 1:20:46
  Gathered for. Holiday dinners without.
• 1:20:48
  Even checking on me. But that's what I've learned.
• 1:20:51
  Winter weather. May be cold, but.
• 1:20:53
  Nothing is colder than living in a house where you are not
• 1:20:55
  wanted. Today I work as a phlebotomist
• 1:20:59
  for the Red Cross. I'm rebuilding, I'm stable, I'm
• 1:21:02
  surviving, and more than that, I'm choosing peace over chaos.
• 1:21:06
  Sometimes walking away isn't failure.
• 1:21:08
  Sometimes it's freedom. Oh my goodness, I think that's a
• 1:21:12
  great. Submission, thank you so much
• 1:21:15
  for. Feeling comfortable enough to
• 1:21:16
  submit that to us. Yes.
• 1:21:19
  Wow, that's beautiful. I honestly agree because a lot
• 1:21:22
  of the Reddits that we read are people having to come to
• 1:21:27
  strangers because their family, their blood is treating them
• 1:21:31
  horribly and they're wondering and they're conflicted because
• 1:21:34
  they're like, this person is my family.
• 1:21:36
  I should feel safe with them. I should feel yadda yadda,
• 1:21:40
  yadda. But that word, that family word
• 1:21:43
  seems to be ruining people. You know what I mean?
• 1:21:46
  So I think like found family or choosing yourself, yourself
• 1:21:49
  sometimes it's so important. So well said.
• 1:21:52
  Yeah, very well said. Because you have to.
• 1:21:55
  Choose yourself all at at all times.
• 1:21:58
  And if there's something else that's making it so choosing
• 1:22:01
  yourself feels bad, you feel guilty.
• 1:22:04
  You know, it's a lot of gaslighting going on out there,
• 1:22:08
  which we noticed with these Reddit posts.
• 1:22:10
  But for you to be like, I'd rather sleep on the on the
• 1:22:13
  street. I'd rather be in my car than
• 1:22:16
  have to deal with this in a warm home, that speaks volumes,
• 1:22:21
  volumes. And yes, thank you so much for
• 1:22:24
  sharing that with us. And I am wishing nothing but the
• 1:22:27
  best for you because wow. Yeah, thank you again.
• 1:22:32
  We appreciate you. And thank you everybody for
• 1:22:35
  watching. We love y'all we'll.
• 1:22:37
  See you next week.