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Your Intuition and Shadow Work · Spunky Spirit with Cari Mugz

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  Welcome to the Spunky Spirit podcast. I'm your host, psychic medium, Carry
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  Mugs. This is where we learn all things spirit, everything from spiritual gifts,
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  always fun and spunky. I am honored to be on this virtual journey with
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  you, so make sure you get the subscribe button so you never miss an
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  episode. Hello and welcome to this episode of Spunky Spirit. I am our
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  host, psychic medium carry Mugs, and today we are going to talk about
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  trusting your intuition. So I know we've tapped on this a little bit before,
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  but today I'm kind of going to go in share some experiences and talk
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  about how it is so important to trust your intuition. And I know sometimes
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  you're like, I know, I've trusted it before and I was wrong.
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  Here's the thing. Your intuition is there to protect you, and so if
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  you make decisions based on your intuition, then it's somehow going to protect you
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  anyways. So even if you're wrong on it, or even if it was
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  slightly off, it's still there to protect you. Your intuition or your your
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  your gut feeling is there to protect you so always always honor it. It
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  means there is something there, there's something going on, and you need to
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  look into it, or you need to continue to look into it. So
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  sometimes it can be an anxiety, but sometimes it can start it can be
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  sometimes. So if the difference between intuition and anxiety is intuition comes just out
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  of the blue, like this is what's happening, or you need to check
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  on this, or this is what's going on, or you have this weird
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  feeling when you meet somebody. But a lot of times that intuition can turn
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  into anxiety because anxiety comes with feelings. Anxiety comes with worry and stress and
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  oh my gosh, lots and lots of like intrusive thoughts because the intuition can
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  So this is where it gets a little tough, because intuition is just like
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  do it. There's no emotion, there's no there's just this small voice just
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  there's something going on. There's something here, there's something. And I could
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  feel that when in one of my in my in my last, my first
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  marriage, I knew something was off. I knew something didn't feel right,
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  and I would feel weird. When I would meet certain women that would work
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  with him Now that intuition, though, kind of turned into anxiety because then
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  it was something I was constantly worried about, constantly stressing over. And so
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  things that come up or things that intuitively come up can be turned into anxiety.
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  And Spirit doesn't mean to do that. It's just that that's how we
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  work as humans. That's how if we feel like there's something going on that's
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  bad, then we'll kind of dwell on it or we'll kind of worry about
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  it. And that's okay too, because intell it it's to be so intrusive
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  that you can't function. And so that's when you need to take a time
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  out and you need to kind of like step back and wonder, you know,
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  ask Spirit, is what's really going on here? Or what's what's really
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  you know, what's my intuition, what's my imagination? What am I creating
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  that's worse? What is the fear? And what is the intuition? Because
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  it's really hard, especially when you go through like life changes or relationship changes,
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  or that's really hard to really decipher between your intuition and your anxiety,
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  because sometimes your intuition and those gut feelings can turn into anxiety or turn into
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  worry or stress, and so just know that that's normal, and it's really
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  hard to figure it out, even for the best psychics and the best mediums.
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  It's hard. I even had some incidences that happened last week that I
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  had a feeling, I had an intuition, I'd got feeling, and I
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  kind of just was like, no, they would never do that, that
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  would never happen. And then I just kept thinking, and then it just
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  started to like constantly bug me and bug me, bug me, and I
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  had to like I had to re rearrange, rearrange my thinking. I had
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  to not let it have intrusive thoughts or not let it bug me. And
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  then once I tried to figure that out and process that and figure out how
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  it's not going to I can't let it affect me like that the fear.
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  Then I validated. Something happened and it validated. Somebody came through and said
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  this is what's going on, and so then it was easy. It was
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  like, okay, done. So it was kind of that hard, like
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  long drawn out stress because I feel like, especially when it comes to relationships,
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  relationships with friends, family, relationships with siblings, relationships, relationships are
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  the hardest because here's this thing, and this is kind of going into we
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  always just think the best of people, right, we think the best of
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  people, and unless we're doing some we're going to talk a little bit about
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  some shadow work right here. So I was reading this book called not Nice
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  and it's awesome, and I don't remember the author, but I'll maybe post
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  it in the links. Because we are sometimes raised, when we're raised in
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  some trauma, we feel like we have to be nice all the time.
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  That's just what we're told, that's what we're taught. And so if we
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  think sometimes we don't have to be nice or we don't have to be nice
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  to people, then it's kind of screws with our brain. It screws with
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  us. But we have to have boundaries, and boundaries are there to protect
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  and our intuition tells us there's something up, so create boundaries. So even
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  if I would be like, oh, they would never do that or they
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  would never say that, and I kind of like, but I just continue
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  to have these intrusive thoughts about it or have these intrusive things about it.
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  So once I started to be like, Okay, I got to process this.
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  This is kind of messy. Then some validations start coming through through other
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  people, and I knew that I wasn't crazy, but at the same time,
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  there's that you know, that one feeling. And I teach this all
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  the time, always trust your gut, always trust your intuition. And I
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  still have times when I'm like, gosh, is that just me? Or
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  now when I'm doing readings for other people, then that's completely different. That's
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  a whole that I see things in that those things come through. But when
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  I am trying to figure out stuff for my own self, that's when it's
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  a mess. That's when it's chaotic, that's when it's hard to process.
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  So just know, when you're you're trusting your intuition on your own things,
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  it can be kind of a mess. It can be kind of hard.
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  And I want you to forgive yourself and give yourself some grace on this,
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  especially when there's intuition about people mistreating you or people not being nice to you,
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  because you because we as people, those of you that are impass and
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  people pleasers and want to think the best of everybody, think no, that's
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  not going to happen, or no, that doesn't happen, and then we
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  get sucked in and it does happen and then we figure it out and it's
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  kind of too late or it's already caused damage. So just know that if
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  you have an instinct that's something's up, it's more than likely something is up.
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  And when you and then it can turn into it can turn into intrusive
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  thoughts, and it can into turn into anxiety. So just kind of watch
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  that because you need to honor that, but you also need to stay healthy,
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  and you also need to combat the atrusive thoughts and the anxiety and the
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  oh my no is it just sorry, and the interestive thoughts and the mental
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  health part of it. So it's kind of like it's one of those things
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  where it can cause some stress. Your intuition can cause some stress, but
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  you really got to trust that there's something going on here, and you've got
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  to kind of set aside the stress and the anxiety and really listen. And
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  when it comes to things like mostly relationships, things like jealousy stuff like that,
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  it's kind of hard. Or comparing or things like that, it is
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  kind of hard. So I want you to know you don't have to be
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  perfect, and I want you to give yourself some grace because and you can
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  think you can think bad things about people sometimes that's what shadow work is.
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  So I used to say that shadow work. So I just want you to
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  know that you can always change your mind. So stuff that I say two
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  or three weeks ago can change because of experiences or things that happen and readings
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  that I can be like, oh wow, I was wrong on that,
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  or things have changed. Lots of you know, mediumship in the beginning has
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  completely changed now with you know, different kinds of styles that medium ships have.
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  Mediums have, so things can change. This spiritual stuff is not cut
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  neatly and tidy in a box. It's all messy and chaotic and nobody knows
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  really how it works. So shadow work, I used to think that it
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  was like a trauma, that something right now would make me mad and then
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  I would be like, Okay, where did that come from. I'd have
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  to go figure it out, and then I would have to process that past
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  thing. But that's not entirely all of shadow work. That is some of
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  it. But shadow work is loving who you are, regardless of your bad
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  thoughts, especially towards other people. Because I was brought and my belief system
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  was you have to be nice, you have to please people, you have
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  to be nice. You have to go out of your way, you have
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  to sacrifice who you are to help other people. And that is not how
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  it works. So I'm gonna do a little fredient Frodian, I think is
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  what it. But Freudian on you psychology. There's the ID and your super
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  ego and your ego. The ID is your child. Now this is coming
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  from the book that I read, so it was kind of an AHA moment
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  for me. But your ID is your inner child that wants to do all
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  the bad things, the child that doesn't want to share, the child that
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  wants to yell and scream, the child that wants to think bad thoughts about
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  people, think that people are mean and not be nice to them. The
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  child that wants to yell out once they have been hurt or hit. The
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  person the ID, the ID personality inside you is your shadow. That's your
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  shadow. Now, your super ego over on this side is the nice person,
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  the one that was taught that you have to always be nice all the
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  time. You have to always do the best you can. You have to
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  get grid good, good grades, everything that you were taught. You have
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  to be this person. And if you're this person over here, the ID.
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  Then you you're bad, you're labeled bad, and this person's labeled good.
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  And then you've got your ego in the middle, who's trying to balance
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  both, trying to because cover the ID because they're trying to make things.
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  Your ego is trying to balance and keep you safe, right, keep you
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  safe. And so the ego gets involved and balances out, and then the
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  super ego it says, be nice. You can't question, you have to
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  you can't speak up. You have to do all the things that make you
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  normal and presentable to you earth right, you have to do all the things
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  so people will like you. People will have to like you. And so
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  what happens is the ID over here gets neglected and it gets it gets frustrated,
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  and it gets mad, and it gets all of these things because it's
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  being ignored, right, all these bad things. So because you're just like,
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  oh, I don't like this person, and I can't be like that
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  because I have to be nice, and I have to like everybody, and
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  we all have to be one, and we all have to be together because
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  we're all part of each other. And so I have to shove this over
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  here, and I have to be super ego over here and be like,
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  oh, I love everybody. Everybody's so nice, and this is how we
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  are. But then there's some people that balance their ego and they still kind
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  of stay in the end and they're kind of mean and they're rude and they
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  don't care what people think. But is that really a bad thing? Is
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  it really a bad thing to kind of want to protect yourself or or they're
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  just building boundaries, right, And so when you start to build some boundaries,
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  that's when the ego's like saying, Okay, we're going to protect because
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  super ego is just getting hammered and hammered and hammered. So we got to
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  let it in a little bit to compensate. So I realize that you can
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  have bad thoughts. You can have as long as you don't hurt anybody,
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  and as long as you don't like post it all over media and you don't
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  you just have these thoughts and you think. Usually the time, you think
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  I'm a bad person because I think these things honor and honestly you're not.
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  Everybody thinks those things. Everybody has somebody they don't like. Everybody has somebody
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  that's rubbed them wrong. Way. Everybody has been hurt or broken up with
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  or cheated on and have had these thoughts of getting your revenge. Everybody has
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  done this, but we hide it and we go on to super ego and
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  say we have to be nice, we have to do this all the time
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  twenty four seven. So he wrote in this book to get a shadow work
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  diary, because usually when you write in your diary, your journal, like
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  I would be like, oh, I write in my journal, but I
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  would write things thinking someone's gonna find this someday. So I can't be completely
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  honest because someone So I can't be my authentic self because if I wrote what
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  I really felt about this moment, somebody's gonna find this diary if I pass
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  over or I transition, and I'm gonna feel bad that they feel bad.
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  So what I started doing is I started, I got I started a little
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  no book, and every morning I write all the bad things that I come
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  through, all the bad things that my my that are just like, Okay,
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  I don't like this, and I am jealous of this, and this
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  is frustrating to me, and I can't handle this, and I wish this
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  person would stop doing this and everything all of my emotions, all of the
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  all of the stuff that I'm feeling. That's that's like it over here.
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  My inner child, screaming and yelling and yelling, is writing all this stuff
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  down, and then I rip the pages out and I put them in the
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  shredder because I don't want anybody to see that. And then it's so freeing
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  because I vented. I got it out, and then my ego can be
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  like, oh this, this got out. This got out a little bit.
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  And then I can realize. My ego can be like, Okay,
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  I really don't like this and I don't like how I'm being treated here,
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  So I can't build. I can't build boundaries, and my super ego doesn't
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  have to be super nice all the time. She can be like, you
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  know what, I'm going to protect these egos and IDs, and I'm just
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  going to I'm going to start protecting and creating boundaries. Boundaries aren't to keep
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  people out. Boundaries are to keep you safe. So if you have intuition
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  and you know something's up, then you better follow it. Don't let it
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  make you crazy, and don't let it let it, you know, grab
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  you by the horns and just like and make you like don't let it consume
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  you. That's what I'm saying because when I was going through my divorce and
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  I had this intuition before I could validate all of the stuff I was thinking
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  was happening, I did let it consume me. I did let it consume
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  me, and I did want the revenge and I did want all of those
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  things, and I hated myself for it. I didn't want to be that
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  person. And it was because I was constantly I needed to have the proof,
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  right, I needed to have proof that this was happening before I could
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  leave because I was crazy or I was and I didn't need proof. You
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  know what, the relationship wasn't great as it was without all of that,
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  So I didn't need proof to leave, and so I didn't need to find
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  all that proof. I didn't need to make myself crazy. I could just
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  go off my intuition and say, you know what, this isn't working for
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  me. I want out. So instead, I worked for a year and
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  a half trying to figure out what was going on and all this stuff,
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  and it made me mentally mentally not okay. And now I'm working on all
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  of that stuff that I did to myself not that he did to me,
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  because I don't care about that, but what I did to myself because I
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  mentally was super nice to everybody, even the girls that I thought maybe were
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  involved with him, because that's what I thought I had to be. And
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  so I just want you to know that trusting your intuition, trust it,
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  trust it, trust it. But there is a fine line between kind of
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  getting scared and worried. You have to if it's starting to cause you to
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  have intrusive thoughts and it's starting to have and it's starting to make you question
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  your mental health, get help, get counseling, maybe get on some medicine
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  for a little bit. If you're not, maybe anything that you can do,
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  whatever helps to get you through that moment. But if you're having a
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  gut feeling, if you're like, Okay, something is up, then something
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  is up. Something is up, and you need to honor that. You
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  need to somehow honor it without all the stress and the anxiety and the intrusive
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  thoughts, which is really really hard and sometimes not doable because the intrusive thoughts
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  and the anxiety will come. So it is spirit warning you. It is
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  spirit, spirit telling you things. But sometimes because of our situation or the
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  mental health. We make it bigger than it is, right. I made
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  it so huge back then. I made it such a big deal. It
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  consumed men, assumed every one of my days. And now I look back
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  and I think, oh my gosh, I wasted so much energy on that.
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  But you know what, I did what I did, and I love
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  myself anyways because I just did that person did what they could to get through
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  that moment. So that's what I'm telling you. Trust your gut. And
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  if you just feel like it's a mess, or you feel like it's chaotic
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  and you feel like it's so hard, or there's some something going on process
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  it, give yourself some grace and know that there's no perfect way to get
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  through hard things. There's no perfect way to get through hard things. And
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  your intuition is just there to tell you something's not right here, something needs
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  to be fixed. There's no anxiety when intuition comes. There's just a feeling.
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  There's a just a feeling that something is off. You create the You
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  can create all of the anxiety that comes from that. And so that's where
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  and believe me, I know I know it's hard because I can easily sit
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  here and say, try to stop the intrues of thoughts, try to stop
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  this. But you know what, sometimes you can't. You can't. It
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  consumes you. And so when it starts to do that, then ask for
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  help. It's okay to ask for help, because you know what, our
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  child over here would love to ask for help. Kids, kids all the
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  time ask for help. But our super ego is like, no, I
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  don't want to bother anybody. I don't want to create something bad for them.
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  I don't want to bug them. And our ego's going, okay,
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  we got to give into this. Then we got to give into this.
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  How do we do it without without rocking the boat and keeping us safe and
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  not having anybody be mad? So put them all together and honor all three
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  of them. Honor the ID, the ego, and the super the super
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  ego. Now I could be totally blowing this out of the wrong way,
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  but this is what I got when I was reading this book. This is
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  what I got. This is what I got to help me, And I
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  thought, you know what, if I'm getting this to help me, then
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  I'm sure it's going to help other people out there too, especially when I
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  have readings all the time about things that are going on in marriages, things
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  that are going on in relationships, and people think they're crazy, things that
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  are not just romantic relationships, other things like other relationships, sibling relationships,
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  family relationships, and people think they're crazy, and I think and I say,
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  no, you trust your intuition, and then they trust their intuition.
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  And it has its way of working out. It has a way of working
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  out. I just want you to remember that. It always has a way
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  of working out. So so I hope that helps you. Next week,
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  I don't know if I'm going to be doing a podcast or not a podcast
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  episode, because the infection of the tumor is back, and I'm going to
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  go in this week and get it completely removed. So last time they just
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  cleaned it out. They just took the tumor, and they were hoping that
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  that was going to be done. But it has come back. The infections
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  come back, so we're going to go in and remove the tooth, remove
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  it all, and so it'll be done. And that's another thing about my
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  intuition. I thought, this is this is this is not right. I
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  feel like it's coming back. But I thought no. They said, my
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  nasle looks good, but I just knew, and so we went in and
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  we did see a little bit of an infection, and so we're gonna go
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  get it before it gets any worse. So next week, I don't know.
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  I don't know if I'm going to be doing a podcast that depounds on
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  how I feel, so I'll keep you posted about that. So I do
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  have an event on May sixteenth. It is all sold out, but I
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  just want you to know. This is an event where I do readings for
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  two hours for a room of like thirty people. And I will be doing
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  more of those coming up, and I will be doing some bigger ones at
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  some different bigger venues because these ones are selling out super fast. And so,
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  and I do have a manifesting class that's going to come up in May.
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  It's going to be Manifesting Magic. It's probably gonna be towards the end
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  of me because I want to heal from my surgery that I'm having this week,
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  So probably towards the end of May, we're going to do a Manifesting
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  Magic class. My classes are awesome. I love the students that come.
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  It will be an in person class, so be prepared for that. And
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  I just want you to know that I love you. I know I wouldn't
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  be here without you. I owe everything to my clients, and I'm so
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  grateful for all of you, and I'm so grateful that this helps you.
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  And there's going to be awesome things still coming. I have more merch that
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  we're trying to make, and I also have a retreat I've been. I
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  was actually in Island Parked this last weekend, kind of just taking a chill,
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  getting ready for the surgery and getting back to nature. You guys know
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  that one of my favorite spiritual places is is Island Park So I needed to
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  go there and I had a lot of validation about some of the intuition things
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  I was having about my own life, and so it was an amazing experience.
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  And I will be going down to Saint George down or up. I'll
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  be going to Saint George to check some retreat stuff there. So if you
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  have any ideas of where you would like to join me on a spiritual retreat,
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  let me know. You can DM me, you can message me,
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  you can email me, let me know where you would like to go with
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  me on our retreat. It's going to be awesome. So I love you.
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  Guys so much. And remember you have everything you need inside of you
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  already, so you are so so magical. And with that, I will
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  say I will see you guys next Oh. If I don't see you next
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  week, I'll see you the week after that. Love you, guys,
• 23:37
  and I'll talk to you later