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8-Minute MindShift Wk 9 · Mental Health and the Mission of the Church

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey everybody.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Hope you're having a good week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is week number nine of the eight minute mind shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just want to keep going in this theme about what's stopping you, what's stopping me, what's keeping us from living the life that God wants for us, the life that we want for ourselves and for the people around us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, the Bible says the thief, John 10, 10, the thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy Jesus, but I came to give you life and that life more abundantly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how are we being stopped?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I believe the enemy's involved, but I believe it's important for us to understand how we work and how this thing works so that we can not make his job so easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So last week we talked about those who receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Romans 5, 17 says, those who receive the abundance of grace and the gift of righteousness.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the bottom line is I believe everything in life that we want is a gift, and it's received and or not, and that's kind of the whole point.
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  SPEAKER_00: That some of us are better receivers than others, and uh to a large degree it's not necessarily our fault.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what what sets or limits our capacity to receive?
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  SPEAKER_00: I got a little illustration I'm gonna use for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to imagine that this represents everything God wants you to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: This represents the relationships, the health, the finances, uh the impact, uh, living a life that makes a difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is everything God wants you to have, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want you to imagine that this is your capacity to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now the bottom line is if I threw this to you, you're gonna, number one, you're gonna have a hard time catching it, and you're definitely gonna have a hard time keeping it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So what tends to happen is, you know, here's not everything God wants us to receive and walk in and enjoy, but uh a good bit of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um it affects how much of life we enjoy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So still we got a problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, here's what unfortunately happens so often.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is like not, not, not, not everything God wants you and I to enjoy, but this is our container, and so we can receive it, we can hold it, we can enjoy it, but it's not all that God intended.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what happens is what if we can enlarge our container?
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  SPEAKER_00: If we enlarge our container, that one's easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one, not too bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one, we're still gonna have a little bit of trouble getting everything God wants us to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about this one?
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  SPEAKER_00: I just picked something out of the kitchen, to be honest with you, big old thing here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Easy to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Easy to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Easy to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is this container?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is what is this thing about us, within us, around us, that affects what we're able to receive?
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh I would say it's your heart beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Last week we uh introduced a formula, and uh the formula is just think of these all as capital letters B plus T plus F plus A.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you believe drives what you think, what you think drives what you feel, and what you feel affects how you act, and BTFA together produces the results we experience in life, whether they're the ones we want or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's look at this whole concept of higher beliefs because here's the thing if you can understand these simple, clear, I think, really clear principles or concepts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, like Romans 10 says this that if you believe in your heart and confess with your mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm not shifting into a you know some kind of a super spiritual thing here, but but there's truth in this.
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  SPEAKER_00: In other words, what I believe in my heart is gonna come out of my mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I believe in my heart is going to come out of my mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I believe in my heart and what predominantly, consistently comes out of my mouth, represents my container.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's my container.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I believe, and the reason I'm stressing it coming out of your mouth is that's one of the ways we're going to talk about as we get down the road a little bit, about how you figure out what are your core beliefs so that you can decide whether you want to keep them or change them.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, so let me just talk to you a little bit uh about some core beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your heart or core beliefs are the basic concepts you live by.
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  SPEAKER_00: They form your picture of yourself, a portrait of your flaws and strengths, your abilities, your worth and value, your relationship to the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your heart beliefs are your identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: They define how you feel about yourself, the emotional tone of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: They influence everything from whom you choose as a spouse to whether you deserve the pleasure of a long hot bath.
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  SPEAKER_00: They establish the limits of what you can achieve, and I believe life is received, not achieved.
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  SPEAKER_00: They determine who you feel worthy to pursue for friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: They define what you can expect from life in the form of nourishment, satisfaction, and emotional well-being.
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  SPEAKER_00: Heart beliefs are a really, really, really big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me give you a couple examples.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's a guy named Simon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Since childhood, he's seen himself as flawed and unworthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: To compensate, he works hard to construct an acceptable facade or mask.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tailored suits, expensive jewelry, a modulated speaking voice, a firm handshake, a warm smile.
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  SPEAKER_00: But he's convinced that anyone who really gets to know him intimately will see through this mask to the frightened, empty person underneath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because of his unworthiness, Simon feels like an imposter all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's decided that he can't risk getting close, that the sense of loneliness and deprivation that he feels must continue.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not will, but must continue because he's so flawed.
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  SPEAKER_00: No one who really knew him, he thinks, could ever love him.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sounds like Genesis 3.10.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your heart beliefs kind of form the your self-identity, your self-image.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they here's a couple of really important thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_00: They affect almost virtually every important life decision you make.
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  SPEAKER_00: They operate outside of your conscious awareness.
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  SPEAKER_00: In other words, they've been a part of you for so long, you're almost not aware they're operating in the background.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh what we're gonna do is talk about how you can learn to connect to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these your heart beliefs influence your life in two major ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is what we're gonna talk about as we go forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: They they influence your life in two major ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first thing is your beliefs establish rules for survival and coping.
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  SPEAKER_00: In other words, you developed a set of beliefs about how the universe really works.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I have to do to get love, give love, to feel safe, to nourish my soul?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I have to do to earn people's uh respect and love and all those kinds of things?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it creates a set of rules.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the second thing is they set the tone for your inner monologue.
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  SPEAKER_00: In other words, what you believe in your heart creates this monologue in the back of your mind all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh I believe, like for myself, you've I've told you before, my father would say you're lazy and you'll never mount anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what happened is I had this kind of monologue playing in the back of my mind, even though I wasn't consciously aware of it, that I just really didn't expect things to go well.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't believe I deserved it, and I didn't believe I was doing enough to get from people and from situations uh what I what I wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just kind of accepted what life threw my way, and you could sort of say, live from the crumbs, live off of the crumbs from the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what we're gonna do as we go forward the next couple of weeks is we're gonna talk about how you can identify, how can you pull those subconscious background beliefs up so that you can look at them and decide what you want to do with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, we're gonna be talking about that as we go forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bless you guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love ya.