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- 0:00Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club, where being a
- 0:19Speaker 1: mom is the coolest place to be. Here in the
- 0:22Speaker 1: Mom's Club, we believe that what embarrasses you now will
- 0:25Speaker 1: make a great story later. And let's face it, you
- 0:29Speaker 1: don't laugh sometimes you're gonna cry. Join us in having
- 0:33Speaker 1: a good laugh together. I'm Monica Samuels. You are now
- 0:37Speaker 1: inside the Mom's Club, your private destination for all things mom. Welcome, moms,
- 0:49Speaker 1: Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host, Monica Samuels,
- 0:53Speaker 1: and I am here with my co host, Julie Orchid.
- 1:00Speaker 1: But yeah, last time I turned to this to the
- 1:03Speaker 1: usual seat, it was empty because you was gallivanting around
- 1:09Speaker 1: the world. Didn't bring me a souvenir. And as I
- 1:13Speaker 1: mentioned in my other show, that was going to be
- 1:15Speaker 1: a point of whether she got to stay. But you
- 1:18Speaker 1: know what, here she is. So we're so happy to
- 1:19Speaker 1: have you back.
- 1:20Speaker 2: I'm thrilled to be here.
- 1:21Speaker 1: Now tell everybody where you went.
- 1:23Speaker 2: Well, listen, I had my date with my children and
- 1:26Speaker 2: the Olympics and it was epic. I mean it was electric.
- 1:31Speaker 2: The vibe was so fun and I didn't know what
- 1:34Speaker 2: to expect. I mean, everybody tries to put the fear
- 1:36Speaker 2: of God in you that you know that's not a
- 1:38Speaker 2: good event. You shouldn't do that. I did all that
- 1:40Speaker 2: you did? She does, I warned her, Yeah, so I
- 1:43Speaker 2: shouldn't do it that it wouldn't be safe. It was
- 1:45Speaker 2: completely safe. I've never seen so many police. In fact,
- 1:49Speaker 2: we saw Los Angeles Police Department there. Yeah, so it
- 1:53Speaker 2: was they were getting ready, they're getting ready, they're they're
- 1:56Speaker 2: they're in training. So anyway, it was really fun to
- 1:59Speaker 2: be in a place where you got to see so
- 2:00Speaker 2: many dreams come true literally right before your eyes, regular
- 2:04Speaker 2: people doing extraordinary things, and you cried. It didn't matter
- 2:09Speaker 2: what country you were watching or where you were. It
- 2:13Speaker 2: was incredible.
- 2:14Speaker 1: It looked like a lot of fun. Now I have
- 2:16Speaker 1: a theory. I'd like to throw this out to the
- 2:18Speaker 1: Olympic Committee. I feel very strongly about this with the
- 2:21Speaker 1: Moms Club. I feel like when they give the gold medal,
- 2:25Speaker 1: that the mother should be standing at the podium and
- 2:29Speaker 1: perhaps even receive a medal herself. I mean, because, let's
- 2:32Speaker 1: face it, athletes who got you there, that's who drove
- 2:36Speaker 1: you to the pool. I mean who.
- 2:41Speaker 2: But for four am, Like these practices are from when
- 2:45Speaker 2: they're really young, so you're doing it all. I agree
- 2:47Speaker 2: with what you have to say about being on the podium,
- 2:49Speaker 2: but I also think the silver and the bronze oh though, oh.
- 2:52Speaker 1: Those people too. Yeah, well, have a separate, separate medal
- 2:55Speaker 1: ceremony for the parents, you know.
- 2:57Speaker 2: Because we're knowing it all.
- 2:58Speaker 1: Let's face it, you didn't drive yourself over to gymnastics
- 3:02Speaker 1: five years old.
- 3:03Speaker 2: Exactly did you think you were needed to be someone
- 3:05Speaker 2: in the Olympics growing up?
- 3:07Speaker 3: I did?
- 3:07Speaker 1: I did.
- 3:08Speaker 4: Well.
- 3:08Speaker 1: See, here's how my Olympic experience always worked. I was
- 3:11Speaker 1: a kid. I would watch the Olympics and that I'd
- 3:13Speaker 1: be inspired, and I thought, how can I get in
- 3:16Speaker 1: the Olympics, And I would go outside, I would do
- 3:18Speaker 1: all kinds of stuff, and then, well, my Olympic dreams
- 3:22Speaker 1: always died when they when the Olympic flame went out,
- 3:25Speaker 1: that was kind of the end of it, you know.
- 3:27Speaker 2: I listen, I thought I was Nadia Komen each there's
- 3:30Speaker 2: a lot of people that I was with, like my children,
- 3:32Speaker 2: why are you wearing that sweatshirt? I was like, you
- 3:34Speaker 2: just don't understand. Greatest movie ever, greatest story. And then
- 3:38Speaker 2: I picked up I'm very lely Retten, so clearly I
- 3:40Speaker 2: missed my gymnastics calling. But you know I was a dreamer.
- 3:44Speaker 1: I did not miss my gymnastics calling. I cannot do
- 3:48Speaker 1: a I have never been able to do a summersault.
- 3:51Speaker 2: Well, I think the whole point is about dreams and
- 3:54Speaker 2: following dreams and believing that you can.
- 3:57Speaker 1: Yeah. Now I did have one bad experience, of course,
- 3:59Speaker 1: when I call the shot put in seventh.
- 4:01Speaker 2: Grade, Monica has a weird flat Yeah.
- 4:03Speaker 1: I have a very weird story. Yeah, I have a
- 4:05Speaker 1: flat finger because I caught a shot put. It is
- 4:08Speaker 1: not recommended if you have a child in track and field.
- 4:11Speaker 1: Make sure that they know that that's not you don't
- 4:13Speaker 1: catch it.
- 4:14Speaker 5: Yeah.
- 4:15Speaker 2: So but yeah, no weird story.
- 4:16Speaker 1: When you have your dreams and you you know, like
- 4:19Speaker 1: when you go for it, when you go for something,
- 4:21Speaker 1: I just think that's so cool. Like people have, because
- 4:23Speaker 1: of various things I've done in my life, have said,
- 4:25Speaker 1: you know, why don't you run for office?
- 4:27Speaker 2: Well, I would vote for you.
- 4:28Speaker 1: Well you know what, I've always said, Nah, that's too
- 4:31Speaker 1: there's too much stress involved in it. Right, It's just
- 4:33Speaker 1: like people are mean and your family gets involved. It's
- 4:36Speaker 1: just not good. But you know what, now that I've
- 4:38Speaker 1: on the flip side. I look at like some of
- 4:40Speaker 1: the candidates out there these days, and I think I
- 4:43Speaker 1: could do that. And I'm not making an announcement here,
- 4:47Speaker 1: but I'm considering it. I'm going to form an exploratory committee, okay.
- 4:54Speaker 1: For I can't decide whether to call it Monica twenty
- 4:59Speaker 1: twenty eight or Mom twenty twenty eight, because wouldn't people
- 5:02Speaker 1: want to vote for their mom? Well?
- 5:04Speaker 2: Most people, most people. I can say that there are
- 5:06Speaker 2: some kids out there will be like, no.
- 5:07Speaker 1: That might not be a good thing. Yeah, you might
- 5:09Speaker 1: not want to put that on your bumper, sticker on
- 5:11Speaker 1: your carpet.
- 5:12Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 5:12Speaker 1: So I'm yeah thinking about that, Okay. But what I
- 5:15Speaker 1: admire people who don't only think about.
- 5:17Speaker 2: It, Yeah, who like take your fear out and just
- 5:19Speaker 2: do it exactly.
- 5:20Speaker 1: And so today we have one such person. We are
- 5:23Speaker 1: so so excited. She is an American TV personality, author
- 5:29Speaker 1: and musician. She is best known for her wrote her
- 5:33Speaker 1: time on reality TV breaking Bona Ducci if you remember
- 5:38Speaker 1: that show on VH one with her ex husband Danny Bonaducci,
- 5:42Speaker 1: with whom she has two children. But her latest claim
- 5:46Speaker 1: to fame is she ran for mayor of Bisbee, Arizona.
- 5:52Speaker 1: Please welcome mayoral former and possibly future mayoral candidate Retch
- 5:58Speaker 1: and Bonaducci. Welcome to Oh.
- 6:04Speaker 3: I'm so excited to be here.
- 6:07Speaker 1: Thank you for coming. I am so excited because I
- 6:09Speaker 1: just admire the fact that you jumped in there and
- 6:12Speaker 1: you did something that we all kind of say, well,
- 6:14Speaker 1: I should I don't like how that's working, I should run.
- 6:17Speaker 1: We can all run for office nobody.
- 6:19Speaker 3: That's literally what I did. I really didn't put a
- 6:22Speaker 3: lot of thought process into it. I saw same as
- 6:25Speaker 3: you people going on, I'm going to run. I'm like, look,
- 6:28Speaker 3: they're qualified, so am I. So I jumped in really
- 6:31Speaker 3: without thinking that much about it other than the fact
- 6:34Speaker 3: that I really feel like our town needed a lot
- 6:36Speaker 3: of change, and so I just went for it. And
- 6:39Speaker 3: it was such an experience. I definitely see now how
- 6:43Speaker 3: a lot of great people don't went around because you
- 6:45Speaker 3: do have to put up with a lot of crap.
- 6:47Speaker 3: Not gonna lie, just be prepared for that.
- 6:50Speaker 1: That's the negative side. Well, let's talk about how you
- 6:52Speaker 1: did it, because for those out there who all over
- 6:55Speaker 1: America who think well maybe I should run, let's let's
- 6:58Speaker 1: dig deep into this. So how did you how did
- 7:01Speaker 1: you you're not from Bisbee, Arizona. And that's always a like.
- 7:05Speaker 1: I have a place in Florida, and every once in
- 7:07Speaker 1: a while I think, oh, maybe I'll run for Congress here,
- 7:09Speaker 1: But I only visit there to go to the beach,
- 7:11Speaker 1: and I have a feeling that would be thrown up
- 7:13Speaker 1: against me later on. So tell us then it would
- 7:15Speaker 1: have it would So tell us how you came to
- 7:19Speaker 1: be in Bisbee, Arizona, which, by the way, I looked
- 7:22Speaker 1: it up, it's south of Tucson and eleven miles from
- 7:26Speaker 1: the Mexican American border.
- 7:27Speaker 3: Is that right, That is correct? Yeah, one of my
- 7:30Speaker 3: houses two miles from the border.
- 7:32Speaker 1: Oh wow.
- 7:33Speaker 3: So I see a lot of border patrol down there,
- 7:35Speaker 3: pulling people down of the bushes quite well. But I
- 7:39Speaker 3: love this town. It is the cutest little town. Uh.
- 7:42Speaker 3: It was formed in like the eighteen hundreds, late eighteen hundreds,
- 7:46Speaker 3: and it's so interesting because at the turn of the
- 7:48Speaker 3: century there were three stock exchanges in the United States,
- 7:52Speaker 3: New York, San Francisco, and Bisbee. If you can believe that,
- 7:55Speaker 3: we had so many people. Here was a huge mining town.
- 7:58Speaker 1: Wow.
- 7:59Speaker 3: And so I found the town because I really wanted
- 8:03Speaker 3: to leave La. I just didn't like the hustle and bustle,
- 8:06Speaker 3: and I didn't really go anywhere because you just kind
- 8:09Speaker 3: of stay in your neighborhood. It takes so long to
- 8:11Speaker 3: get anywhere else. So I decided to google mansions for
- 8:15Speaker 3: sale and this house came up, and I just fell
- 8:18Speaker 3: in love with it.
- 8:20Speaker 2: It's beautiful. Is are you in one of them right now?
- 8:23Speaker 3: That? Yeah? It's called Greenway Manor is the house that
- 8:27Speaker 3: I primarily live in. It was built in nineteen oh
- 8:30Speaker 3: eight by the mining company, and the head of the
- 8:33Speaker 3: mining company lived here and then the supervisors the people
- 8:38Speaker 3: had apartments. It's like a ten thousand square foot house,
- 8:42Speaker 3: ten bedrooms, eleven bathrooms. I was doing a lot of
- 8:45Speaker 3: the cleaning when I first moved here five years ago,
- 8:48Speaker 3: so thank god I've been able to hire some more
- 8:51Speaker 3: people for help. But it just sort of lent itself
- 8:53Speaker 3: to doing Airbnb because I had seven bedrooms, all with
- 8:57Speaker 3: little kitchen utes and private bathrooms. So I turned it
- 9:00Speaker 3: into this rock and roll airbnb, so all the rooms
- 9:03Speaker 3: are themed. I have a Beatles room, David.
- 9:06Speaker 1: Bowie room, and m that's fun.
- 9:08Speaker 3: So it's super cool.
- 9:10Speaker 2: What I have to say, I have a two part
- 9:13Speaker 2: question for you, What was your breaking point of leaving La.
- 9:17Speaker 2: There must have been the straw that broke the Camel's
- 9:19Speaker 2: back and then how busy is the bed and Breakfast
- 9:24Speaker 2: in Arizona.
- 9:25Speaker 3: Well, I ended up wanting to leave La. First all,
- 9:29Speaker 3: I never wanted to go to La. Shan's husband and
- 9:31Speaker 3: I were living in New York City and I loved
- 9:34Speaker 3: it there. I was really not happy when they said
- 9:37Speaker 3: we had to go to LA. But at the time,
- 9:39Speaker 3: he was in radio and when you get a job,
- 9:41Speaker 3: they just sent you where you have to go, and
- 9:42Speaker 3: you have to go. So I went there, and you know,
- 9:46Speaker 3: there was upside for sure. It's so beautiful every day,
- 9:49Speaker 3: so my kids could play outside. But I do think
- 9:52Speaker 3: raising your kids in LA is not the best idea,
- 9:55Speaker 3: especially if you have a famous parent. It's just kind
- 9:59Speaker 3: of a weird universe to put your kids in. So yeah,
- 10:03Speaker 3: I really wanted to lead. And there wasn't really a
- 10:07Speaker 3: straw that broke the camel's back. I just never wanted
- 10:10Speaker 3: to be there in the first place.
- 10:11Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm out.
- 10:13Speaker 3: Yeah, But you know the great thing about it was
- 10:16Speaker 3: I lived it like everyone wants to. You know, everyone
- 10:19Speaker 3: goes to La to be in show business. I was
- 10:22Speaker 3: at the Grammys that Emmy's the Red Carpet. So I
- 10:25Speaker 3: feel super fortunate that I lived in the La dream
- 10:28Speaker 3: that everybody wishes they could. But I don't think it's
- 10:32Speaker 3: a great place for kids. I really wish we would
- 10:35Speaker 3: have lived somewhere else and commuted back and forth into LA.
- 10:38Speaker 3: I think that would have been better for my kids.
- 10:40Speaker 2: I think there's some value.
- 10:41Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure. Now do you have any other connection
- 10:44Speaker 1: with Arizona other than you just found this place in Arizona?
- 10:47Speaker 1: Have you ever lived there before?
- 10:48Speaker 3: Or I have? Actually, Danny and I got married here.
- 10:52Speaker 3: He was a DJ in Phoenix when we met, and
- 10:55Speaker 3: my parents were living here as well. I grew up
- 10:58Speaker 3: I'm from Chicago, but I grew up in Tennessee. Like
- 11:01Speaker 3: my high school years, I lived in Chattanooga. They were
- 11:05Speaker 3: in high school there. So that was really hard to
- 11:07Speaker 3: move from the North to the South. Uh. And in
- 11:10Speaker 3: high school on top of it, you know, being very
- 11:12Speaker 3: awkward and not knowing anybody, and you know, my accent
- 11:16Speaker 3: was weird. They'd all just be going, hey, you want
- 11:18Speaker 3: something pop everyone. I'm like, yeah, so you picked up
- 11:23Speaker 3: a southern accent really fast, you know, I started saying, y'all, y'all,
- 11:28Speaker 3: and and you know, I had guys come up to
- 11:31Speaker 3: me and go, my mama would die. I brought home
- 11:34Speaker 3: a Yankee, but I'd sure a lot to take you out,
- 11:37Speaker 3: So you know that was kind of uncomfortable. Yeah, I would, Yeah,
- 11:42Speaker 3: but you know, I've lived all over I lived in Germany.
- 11:45Speaker 3: I lived in San Francisco, which was fortunate for me
- 11:49Speaker 3: because we moved so much that I really didn't have
- 11:52Speaker 3: any connection, you know, so it was kind of easy
- 11:55Speaker 3: for me to pick up and move.
- 11:57Speaker 2: Yeah. I moved a lot too, so I am familiar.
- 12:00Speaker 2: You just keep going and you pick up where you are,
- 12:02Speaker 2: you learn what's in the town, and you know, make
- 12:04Speaker 2: new friends and go.
- 12:05Speaker 3: And I think that if you're outgoing, it's a lot easier.
- 12:08Speaker 3: Like my brother wasn't and I think it was a
- 12:10Speaker 3: lot harder on him. But I'm so friendly. I mean,
- 12:14Speaker 3: that was one of the criticisms my ex husband always
- 12:16Speaker 3: said about you like everyone. It's not a compliment because
- 12:20Speaker 3: you and I can't help, but I do like it's
- 12:23Speaker 3: sort of toxic.
- 12:24Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 12:25Speaker 2: I think I've heard that from my ex husband too,
- 12:27Speaker 2: So don't worry.
- 12:29Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with liking.
- 12:31Speaker 2: You out going, don't talk to you, match, don't laugh
- 12:33Speaker 2: too loud.
- 12:33Speaker 1: Yeah that's not but yeah, when you mentioned Phoenix. So
- 12:36Speaker 1: I worked and I interned for a congressman from Scottsdale, Arizona,
- 12:41Speaker 1: and that's where I learned a lot. Eldon Rudd, he's
- 12:44Speaker 1: sure he's no longer with us, But the funny thing
- 12:47Speaker 1: I learned about that's when I first learned about politics
- 12:49Speaker 1: and kind of what you were getting into. They had
- 12:51Speaker 1: me run the reception desk one day and they told me, Monica,
- 12:55Speaker 1: whatever you do, the congressman is not here. He is
- 12:58Speaker 1: not here, no matter who comes in here. Well, his
- 13:00Speaker 1: office was like to the left, right by the door,
- 13:03Speaker 1: So I said, okay, okay. So this little cute family
- 13:06Speaker 1: from Scottsdale comes in, they want to meet their congressman.
- 13:09Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm sorry, he's not here. He's not here.
- 13:12Speaker 1: Just then he walks out the door, shakes all their hands,
- 13:16Speaker 1: and walks out. And then it became clear to me
- 13:18Speaker 1: they didn't know who he was, which just goes to
- 13:20Speaker 1: show we don't all know you know, who's who's running things.
- 13:25Speaker 1: So now you go to.
- 13:27Speaker 2: Bisbee, yep, and your five years hell did that.
- 13:30Speaker 1: So how big is Bisbee? How many people this question?
- 13:33Speaker 3: Five thousand? So it's the tiny little town and every
- 13:37Speaker 3: one knows everything about everyone. So that's one of the
- 13:40Speaker 3: downsides of living in a down in a small town,
- 13:43Speaker 3: but more so because there's like a kernel of truths
- 13:46Speaker 3: to everything, but most of it's not true. So you're
- 13:49Speaker 3: dealing with that a lot.
- 13:51Speaker 2: Oh yeah, So what were some of the issues that
- 13:54Speaker 2: you saw that you talked about. You're like, I had
- 13:56Speaker 2: a lot of issues that I thought needed to be fixed.
- 13:58Speaker 2: We're dying to know about, you know, this town and
- 14:01Speaker 2: the people there, and give us some tidbits on that.
- 14:04Speaker 3: Okay, Well, first of all, when I decided to run,
- 14:08Speaker 3: I had to go to city hall and you had
- 14:11Speaker 3: to get signatures, and you had to have a certain
- 14:13Speaker 3: amount of signatures to qualify. So that was the first
- 14:16Speaker 3: step I had to do, and I was easily able
- 14:19Speaker 3: to do that, except for I made a mistake. That's
- 14:22Speaker 3: the one thing that was so great about me running
- 14:24Speaker 3: this time. I kind of learned all the mistakes and
- 14:26Speaker 3: if I decide to run again, I won't make them again.
- 14:29Speaker 3: But I thought that if I was getting the signatures,
- 14:33Speaker 3: that I didn't need to sign the back of my
- 14:36Speaker 3: petitions only if I was having other people do it. Well,
- 14:39Speaker 3: that turned out not to be true. I needed to
- 14:41Speaker 3: sign back, which I did not, lesson learned, so then
- 14:49Speaker 3: I oh so, then some of the people in the
- 14:52Speaker 3: city council tried to get me out by suing me
- 14:55Speaker 3: and saying she didn't sign so she can't run. So
- 14:58Speaker 3: I hired an attorney and fought in. And I guess
- 15:01Speaker 3: it's a common mistake to make that. A lot of
- 15:03Speaker 3: times people just forget it's it's not a big deal,
- 15:06Speaker 3: but when they don't really want you to run, they'll
- 15:08Speaker 3: look for any way to get you out. So just
- 15:10Speaker 3: be prepared for that if you decide.
- 15:12Speaker 1: That is true. Yeah, that's common. I'm also an attorney,
- 15:15Speaker 1: so I'm well, I'm very familiar with that.
- 15:16Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, yes, So luckily we had.
- 15:19Speaker 3: A great attorney and the judge decided in my favor,
- 15:23Speaker 3: so I was able to move forward. Douse me. I
- 15:26Speaker 3: have really bad allergies. So oh.
- 15:30Speaker 1: So, tell you talked about the people. Five thousand people,
- 15:33Speaker 1: there's like everybody knows everybody's business, so what's the scuttle?
- 15:38Speaker 1: But they're in Bisbee, like who are There's like little
- 15:41Speaker 1: cliques or you said the city council. Are they all
- 15:43Speaker 1: in a little like they're all kind of you know,
- 15:47Speaker 1: related to each other, or what's the story there? What
- 15:50Speaker 1: give us some color of what Bisbee's like.
- 15:53Speaker 3: Well, Jablin, there's little cliques. It's a very artistic community.
- 15:58Speaker 3: We have a lot of musicians, a lot of artists.
- 16:01Speaker 3: It's just the most charming little town. If you look
- 16:04Speaker 3: it up, you will see and so I call it
- 16:07Speaker 3: the Island of thisbit Toys. There's a lot of weirdos
- 16:10Speaker 3: here and that's one of the things I love love
- 16:12Speaker 3: about the town. And also it's a tourist town, but
- 16:18Speaker 3: there's a lot of retirees, so you're kind of fighting
- 16:20Speaker 3: against that because they get their pension and their social security,
- 16:24Speaker 3: so the last thing they want is more tourists to
- 16:27Speaker 3: come in or more people with money to come in
- 16:29Speaker 3: and drive prices up. But unfortunately, we are a tourist town.
- 16:33Speaker 3: So that's one of the things. As a businesswoman, I
- 16:36Speaker 3: employ sixteen people in this town, and if we don't
- 16:39Speaker 3: have tourists, I don't have jobs for those people. So
- 16:42Speaker 3: I am constantly promoting the town as much as I
- 16:46Speaker 3: can to try to bring in more people. My airbnbs
- 16:49Speaker 3: do really well, Like I figured out the niche for
- 16:53Speaker 3: the Rock and Roll Airbnb, and then I have a
- 16:55Speaker 3: house at the airport where you can fly your plane
- 16:58Speaker 3: in and pull it into the house. There's a hang.
- 17:00Speaker 3: So I did pretty well. But they also started making
- 17:05Speaker 3: it really hard to have airbnbs, which you know in
- 17:07Speaker 3: California they were doing that too, so true. So now
- 17:11Speaker 3: they're much stricter, like we have to have the fire
- 17:14Speaker 3: marshal has to come in once a year, and someone
- 17:16Speaker 3: has to come through once a year and go through
- 17:18Speaker 3: all your fire extinguishers, and you have to pay a fee,
- 17:23Speaker 3: and so there's a lot more to it than there
- 17:25Speaker 3: used to be, which I think is a good thing.
- 17:27Speaker 3: You know, we just had a fire in old Bisbee
- 17:30Speaker 3: and two of the old buildings burned down, and so
- 17:33Speaker 3: it's super important because his buildings are old, that we
- 17:36Speaker 3: have the fire department totally on top of it constantly.
- 17:40Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Now I saw you in I saw you
- 17:43Speaker 1: in a candidate forum and it saw the mayor. He
- 17:47Speaker 1: looks like he's I don't know, older retired. Bisbee is
- 17:51Speaker 1: one of those.
- 17:52Speaker 3: Yeah, he was a fireman, interestingly enough, and I know
- 17:56Speaker 3: I Dan for the Legislature in Utah. A couple of
- 17:59Speaker 3: times ran here. Once didn't win and then he won,
- 18:03Speaker 3: and he won. This time, I came in second and
- 18:06Speaker 3: he won, but he was the incumbent. I also was
- 18:09Speaker 3: running as an independent and he was running Democratics, so
- 18:13Speaker 3: he had all that force behind him in a lot
- 18:15Speaker 3: of donations. But I don't know. For me, I like
- 18:18Speaker 3: to be able to vote however, I think is the
- 18:20Speaker 3: best way without having from a party.
- 18:23Speaker 1: So was Wanda the Republican? Who how did that shake it?
- 18:27Speaker 1: I saw Wanda was the other candidate.
- 18:29Speaker 3: On one is a Democrat.
- 18:31Speaker 1: Oh so there are no Republicans.
- 18:32Speaker 3: And I ran as an independent.
- 18:34Speaker 1: Yeah, which makes sense.
- 18:35Speaker 3: I mean, I just want to vote the way I
- 18:37Speaker 3: want to, you know. I don't want to have someone go, well,
- 18:40Speaker 3: the whole party is voting this way, you know, so
- 18:43Speaker 3: you have to vote that way. I'd rather not have
- 18:46Speaker 3: that pressure. But it does make it a little more
- 18:47Speaker 3: difficult when you don't have a party behind you and
- 18:51Speaker 3: extra money. Like I didn't want to take money from
- 18:53Speaker 3: anybody because I didn't know if I could win, So I,
- 18:57Speaker 3: you know, sort of put my own into it for
- 18:59Speaker 3: this time, and if I decide to run next time.
- 19:02Speaker 3: I might take money, but we'll see. Like, I'm not sure.
- 19:05Speaker 1: Well, it's impressive that you were you came in second,
- 19:09Speaker 1: I have to say. I mean, it's tough to knock
- 19:11Speaker 1: off the incumbent. You're right, the incumbancy they kind of
- 19:15Speaker 1: control everything at that point. So that's rough.
- 19:17Speaker 3: Well, I have the support of the ex mayor, the
- 19:20Speaker 3: X City attorney, A lot of people were supporting me,
- 19:24Speaker 3: a lot of business people. Most of the business people
- 19:27Speaker 3: voted for me, so because they get it, you know,
- 19:30Speaker 3: I think, guy, we had five businesses closed in July
- 19:33Speaker 3: because they couldn't make it. There weren't enough tourists.
- 19:36Speaker 2: Yeah, if it wasn't for people like you, Gretchen, that
- 19:38Speaker 2: town made just slowly. Yeah, you know what I mean.
- 19:41Speaker 1: So you're right, exactly what you should.
- 19:43Speaker 3: I'm going to keep pushing and pushing as much as
- 19:45Speaker 3: by camp. But you know, I am up against the
- 19:47Speaker 3: people that don't want more tourists here. But I think
- 19:51Speaker 3: in the long run, things keep going this way and
- 19:53Speaker 3: more businesses go under, next time, I'd have even more support.
- 19:57Speaker 3: You know, they'll get it that it is what we are.
- 20:00Speaker 3: I know, you don't want to be a tourist town,
- 20:02Speaker 3: people that have been here for twenty years. And it's
- 20:05Speaker 3: strange because the people that have been here for generations.
- 20:09Speaker 3: When the Mind closed in the seventies, it almost did
- 20:12Speaker 3: turn into a ghost town. And so they get it
- 20:15Speaker 3: that the tourists are the people that are keeping it alive.
- 20:17Speaker 3: So you know, I'm just going to keep pushing for that,
- 20:21Speaker 3: and I don't want to see that happen in my town.
- 20:23Speaker 3: I love it so much. And yeah, people and the artists,
- 20:26Speaker 3: and you know, the more people that come in, we
- 20:28Speaker 3: can let the musicians play more and there's more tours
- 20:32Speaker 3: to tip them so they make better money. And you know,
- 20:35Speaker 3: a lot of them can't live here in Bisbee anymore
- 20:38Speaker 3: because they can't afford the rent. So that's one thing
- 20:40Speaker 3: I try to do is have three of my places
- 20:43Speaker 3: for locals and try to keep you know, keep it
- 20:46Speaker 3: reasonable for them, and then rent the rest out to
- 20:49Speaker 3: the tourists.
- 20:50Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, that's that's great. Well, you're right, because basically,
- 20:53Speaker 1: if you're not a tourist town, do you still want
- 20:55Speaker 1: to be a town because you're not going to be
- 20:56Speaker 1: a rent You're right, it'll be a ghost town.
- 20:58Speaker 2: So what are your kids think? Of you up and
- 21:01Speaker 2: moving to Bisbee. I mean, what did they? I mean,
- 21:03Speaker 2: we all have kids here, so we're interested in knowing
- 21:06Speaker 2: what their thoughts are on your you know, gusto to
- 21:09Speaker 2: get up and do this.
- 21:11Speaker 3: Well, my daughter lives in Europe, and I knew she
- 21:13Speaker 3: would never come here because she's super gothy and she
- 21:16Speaker 3: doesn't like the fun, so I probably not see hurt
- 21:20Speaker 3: here very often. She's married to a professor in Brighton University,
- 21:24Speaker 3: oh yeah, and lives over there and she loves it.
- 21:27Speaker 3: And my son came here because I said, I'd rather
- 21:30Speaker 3: you move here and learn how to drive than try
- 21:33Speaker 3: to learn in Los Angeles. So yeah, so he came here,
- 21:37Speaker 3: learned how to drive, left and lived in Denver. He's
- 21:40Speaker 3: a chef, so he was working at Red Rocks in Denver,
- 21:45Speaker 3: and then went to Thailand for a while to study
- 21:48Speaker 3: Ui Thai. And now he's back here as a chef
- 21:51Speaker 3: and he's going to be working in a vineyard in Sonoita,
- 21:54Speaker 3: which is about an hour from here. So so I
- 21:58Speaker 3: mean he's still They're both proud of me. You know
- 22:00Speaker 3: that I make decisions and just make it happen. And
- 22:04Speaker 3: you know, I literally had no real I mean, I've
- 22:08Speaker 3: waited tables, so I've had restaurant experience. I also own
- 22:11Speaker 3: two restaurants here on top of the airbnbs. Oh my god,
- 22:13Speaker 3: but I really didn't have I'm the worst cleaner in
- 22:17Speaker 3: the world. Honestly, I'm really, really, really bad. So I
- 22:20Speaker 3: had to learn to be great. And my cleaning ratings
- 22:24Speaker 3: are really good, so so that was nice. But yeah,
- 22:27Speaker 3: I think they're proud of me that, you know, I
- 22:30Speaker 3: am self made. You know, I moved here, didn't know
- 22:33Speaker 3: much of anything, opened to airbnbs, and now my restaurant
- 22:37Speaker 3: expanded to another town. So I just love to work,
- 22:41Speaker 3: I really do. But it is starting to catch up
- 22:43Speaker 3: to me. I'll be fifty nine in a couple of weeks,
- 22:47Speaker 3: and I try to keep up, but I'm like, darn,
- 22:51Speaker 3: I can't keep doing this. Ohopping every day.
- 22:54Speaker 1: You're gonna be fifty nine. You don't even dare thirty nine? Well,
- 23:00Speaker 1: the show should be more about how you look so great?
- 23:04Speaker 1: We need to have a fault.
- 23:05Speaker 3: It's a group effort now. Luckily, going over the border
- 23:08Speaker 3: into Mexico is really inexpensive to have botos. There's a
- 23:14Speaker 3: tip my friends here and we caravan down, we walk
- 23:17Speaker 3: over we go boom boom boom or or whatever. Then
- 23:22Speaker 3: we walk back over the border.
- 23:23Speaker 2: Listen, I feel a road trip coming on for many reasons.
- 23:26Speaker 2: We can take a plane, we can go to Mexico
- 23:29Speaker 2: for botox.
- 23:30Speaker 1: I want to check out Bisbee, That's that's for sure.
- 23:32Speaker 2: So I have a quick question because I my daughter
- 23:34Speaker 2: majored in Spanish. Are you bilingual?
- 23:37Speaker 3: I am not embarrassingly enough. I am not enough. That
- 23:41Speaker 3: is something I have to work on for sure.
- 23:43Speaker 2: Okay, I was just curious. You live so close and
- 23:46Speaker 2: you say you're walking into Mexico. I'm wondering, you know
- 23:49Speaker 2: how you know communication sometimes?
- 23:52Speaker 3: You know, I usually have someone with me that can
- 23:54Speaker 3: speak Spanish, so I haven't had a problem yet. Yeah.
- 23:57Speaker 3: You know, there's a lot of dentists down there that
- 23:59Speaker 3: are also inexpensive. So a lot of Americans go over
- 24:02Speaker 3: the border. We go into Agua Creete, but there's also
- 24:05Speaker 3: Naco Mexico. Oh and yeah, it's like a quarter to
- 24:09Speaker 3: a third of the price that it is the United
- 24:11Speaker 3: States or anything, Like fifty units of botox in Mexico
- 24:16Speaker 3: is two hundred and fifty dollars. That'd be like eight hundred.
- 24:20Speaker 2: That chip is going to happen sooner than patr Monica.
- 24:22Speaker 1: Yeah, a spot.
- 24:23Speaker 3: I'm having to be free down because I had lumineers
- 24:26Speaker 3: many years ago. I'm only supposed to last a certain
- 24:28Speaker 3: amount of time. I think when I did it fifteen
- 24:31Speaker 3: sixteen years ago, I paid like ten it's like thirty
- 24:34Speaker 3: eight hundred for all goodness.
- 24:36Speaker 2: Oh you guys, hurry come back. Wow, I get accused
- 24:39Speaker 2: about you know. Georgia's like, you just need to learn
- 24:41Speaker 2: Spanish and quit using my skills. So I just had
- 24:44Speaker 2: to ask. I was like, who's helping you?
- 24:47Speaker 3: Yeah, nobody, but I need to learn.
- 24:49Speaker 4: You know.
- 24:50Speaker 3: I can say a few basic phrases, but uh one,
- 24:54Speaker 3: I'm just so busy. It's so hard for me to
- 24:57Speaker 3: go even go anywhere because you know, the four businesses,
- 25:01Speaker 3: six businesses, really with the four air beating, it's hard
- 25:04Speaker 3: for me to give control over to somebody else.
- 25:07Speaker 2: So yeah, my question of like what is it a
- 25:10Speaker 2: day in the life of you? But I think I
- 25:12Speaker 2: have a pretty good idea of how busy you are
- 25:14Speaker 2: if you have four businesses, Yeah.
- 25:15Speaker 1: You are on the Spanish front. I totally I studied Spanish.
- 25:20Speaker 1: I never could speak it no matter what I did
- 25:22Speaker 1: and recently we had somebody that one of the people
- 25:25Speaker 1: that works was helping us. He was Spanish speaking, and
- 25:30Speaker 1: he went on this other man's property that's our neighbor,
- 25:33Speaker 1: and the guy's not particularly friendly. So I was trying
- 25:36Speaker 1: to explain to the guy how he shouldn't be over
- 25:38Speaker 1: there and you should. This is a podcast, so I
- 25:40Speaker 1: can't demonstrate all of.
- 25:41Speaker 2: The Yeah, we don't visuals I did.
- 25:44Speaker 1: It's dangerous over there. Yeah, so that's kind of hard
- 25:48Speaker 1: for we all have. Well, I want to hear about
- 25:50Speaker 1: your I'm gonna go back to your campaign really quick
- 25:52Speaker 1: because I heard you had a stand up comic. Was
- 25:55Speaker 1: your campaign manager? Is that true? I mean, h helped
- 25:58Speaker 1: you with this. Besides the other business people in Bisbee.
- 26:01Speaker 2: Like who I did?
- 26:03Speaker 3: I somehow convinced aug Stanhope, who is a brilliant comic,
- 26:08Speaker 3: to help me along. At first, we were going to
- 26:10Speaker 3: run against each other, but he felt like that would
- 26:12Speaker 3: upset the community too much, so he didn't want to
- 26:15Speaker 3: go down that road yet I was willing to do it,
- 26:19Speaker 3: so he helped me out a lot. We had so
- 26:21Speaker 3: much fun. He came up with absurd ideas, which because
- 26:25Speaker 3: it's such a weird town. I thought possibly they could work,
- 26:28Speaker 3: you know, well, being.
- 26:30Speaker 1: A weird town. Who is Tamala Turtle?
- 26:33Speaker 2: Is this a tamil is our?
- 26:37Speaker 3: I colored the Bisbee b York like every day she's
- 26:40Speaker 3: in the craziest get ups. She's a performance artist, a singer.
- 26:46Speaker 3: She's brilliant. Actually she's very very good. So they were
- 26:50Speaker 3: helping me out. Like the day we went to put
- 26:52Speaker 3: up my campaign signs. Oh that's the other thing I learned.
- 26:55Speaker 3: You have to put paid for an approved buy. I
- 26:58Speaker 3: didn't do that on my find The next day I
- 27:00Speaker 3: had to go and get a bunch of printed up
- 27:02Speaker 3: and then go slap them on up on this stick.
- 27:04Speaker 3: That was the second mistake I made.
- 27:07Speaker 1: I'm taking you I'm aware of all these because yeah,
- 27:11Speaker 1: that's how you get people out of the race, that's
- 27:13Speaker 1: for sure.
- 27:13Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and they were looking that one of these
- 27:16Speaker 3: we were going to report me for we're a dark
- 27:18Speaker 3: Sky's community. But yet I own Airbnbs, so I have
- 27:22Speaker 3: to make sure my guests are sitting, so I have
- 27:24Speaker 3: lights and they're supposed to be facing down, so you know,
- 27:28Speaker 3: because you can see the Milky Way from here. Sure
- 27:31Speaker 3: it's so beautiful, but I cannot help it if my
- 27:34Speaker 3: guests turn it back up. I was gonna get in
- 27:36Speaker 3: trouble for that, so you know they were looking to
- 27:38Speaker 3: get me in trouble.
- 27:39Speaker 1: Any Yeah, No, that's that's a common Yeah, that's a
- 27:43Speaker 1: part of American politics.
- 27:44Speaker 2: I talk about how Arizona's got its own little Marfa.
- 27:47Speaker 2: We're from Texas, and I feel like that's what she's described. Well,
- 27:50Speaker 2: the milky way, the music if you've ever heard of,
- 27:54Speaker 2: very similar thing is we don't have what do you have?
- 27:58Speaker 3: A prodest o there? We don't have, but I think
- 28:00Speaker 3: you got us on that.
- 28:01Speaker 1: I bet you could get a produ of there, just
- 28:03Speaker 1: like the one that store.
- 28:05Speaker 2: They could do you anyway.
- 28:09Speaker 3: I'm gonna ask. I'm gonna ask or anyone.
- 28:12Speaker 1: The way you're the way you're you know, doing your
- 28:14Speaker 1: business in that part of the Arizona I why why
- 28:18Speaker 1: be mayor? That's kind of a tougher job. I could
- 28:21Speaker 1: see you and given a come of the candidates governor, senator,
- 28:25Speaker 1: I mean, well, Arizona, I don't think that's I think
- 28:28Speaker 1: that's doable, not at all.
- 28:29Speaker 3: Here's what I have to do. First. I'm on the
- 28:32Speaker 3: museum board, I'm on the committee for the Mariacci festival.
- 28:36Speaker 3: But all that, you guys should come down. We have
- 28:39Speaker 3: the Mariacci Festival coming up on November second, and we
- 28:44Speaker 3: were able to get Did you guys watch American Idol
- 28:47Speaker 3: at all? Yeah, there was the candidate McKenna Brianholds and
- 28:53Speaker 3: her mother was from uh Bisbee. Well, I don't think
- 28:58Speaker 3: she's from here, but that was at the story on
- 29:00Speaker 3: American Idol. Well, I was able me and my people
- 29:04Speaker 3: in the committee were able to get her to come
- 29:05Speaker 3: for the Mariashi first of all November second, So she's
- 29:09Speaker 3: going to be our special guag. But we're kind of
- 29:11Speaker 3: a town of cosplays. We have crazy parties. We have
- 29:14Speaker 3: Alice and Bisbee Land where everybody comes dressed up like
- 29:17Speaker 3: Alice in Wonderland. I throw Elvis and Bisbee Land, so
- 29:21Speaker 3: you have to come dresses Alabash. My birthday party in
- 29:24Speaker 3: two weeks is Bridgerton. Uh. We have, I mean just
- 29:28Speaker 3: so many crazy parties.
- 29:29Speaker 1: Well, Bisbie sounds like a ton of fun on top
- 29:33Speaker 1: of everything. And we have some women who may want
- 29:36Speaker 1: to come visit your airbnb and and party there with you.
- 29:40Speaker 1: And they are our Zoomer moms and today's special future
- 29:44Speaker 1: Zoomer daughters so welcome Zoomer moms and Zoomer daughters. You
- 29:48Speaker 1: welcome to the Mom's One. Well, ladies, I'm just gonna
- 29:55Speaker 1: introduce you and tell us a little bit about yourself
- 29:58Speaker 1: and do you have a question for Gretchen. Let's start
- 30:00Speaker 1: with Cricket. Welcome to the Mom's Club.
- 30:05Speaker 3: Hi, Cricket, Hi, I had to unmute. Thanks. That what
- 30:09Speaker 3: a wonderful interview. You guys do a great show.
- 30:11Speaker 4: For sure.
- 30:13Speaker 6: I'm retired, semi retired, living in Los Angeles, out of
- 30:18Speaker 6: the entertainment business as well, and have three children, one
- 30:22Speaker 6: by birth and two by marriage. And what always occurred
- 30:26Speaker 6: to me you talked about moving them out of Los
- 30:28Speaker 6: Angeles to raise your children, and we lived in Malibu
- 30:35Speaker 6: at the time, and there was a lot of influence
- 30:38Speaker 6: from celebrity out there, So I wondered, what were the
- 30:41Speaker 6: benefits there? Do you think what are the lessons that
- 30:44Speaker 6: they learned by moving them out of LA I.
- 30:49Speaker 3: Think that it was just really hard for my children.
- 30:52Speaker 3: And then on top of it, you also add in
- 30:54Speaker 3: social media. You know, when you grew up, we didn't
- 30:57Speaker 3: have that. You didn't have that constant pressure to compare
- 31:01Speaker 3: ourselves to people, and so on top of being a
- 31:05Speaker 3: child of a celebrity. I mean, look at all the
- 31:08Speaker 3: smart ones moved out. Julia Roberts, you know, she moved
- 31:10Speaker 3: to New Mexico, Sandra Bullock. You know, if you knew
- 31:16Speaker 3: the temptations and the pressure the smart people, I think
- 31:21Speaker 3: when and just kind of commuted back and forth, and
- 31:24Speaker 3: I just feel like for kids in the show business people,
- 31:26Speaker 3: that's what I'm saying. I'm not saying people just live
- 31:28Speaker 3: there and just live there and aren't in the business.
- 31:32Speaker 3: I think it's a fine place to grow up, but
- 31:34Speaker 3: I do think the pressures of having a famous parent
- 31:38Speaker 3: and living in LA with the trappings and all that,
- 31:41Speaker 3: it's just I think difficult for them to grow up
- 31:45Speaker 3: and have a normal experience. You know, it's just not normal.
- 31:48Speaker 3: Not as much community.
- 31:50Speaker 1: Yeah, Jeanette, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a
- 31:55Speaker 1: little bit about yourself, and do you have a question
- 31:56Speaker 1: for Gretchen?
- 32:03Speaker 3: Can you hear me?
- 32:04Speaker 2: We can.
- 32:06Speaker 3: Hi. I'm Janine. It's such a pleasure to meet you.
- 32:09Speaker 3: I do have a question. My husband and I host.
- 32:15Speaker 7: Monthly dinners in our home, so we've dabbled, I guess
- 32:17Speaker 7: in the hospitality line for a bid and so we've
- 32:23Speaker 7: had high moments and some that were a challenge and
- 32:28Speaker 7: were learning experiences. And since you've been in Arizona, you
- 32:33Speaker 7: have several businesses that you're juggling, and I assume you
- 32:37Speaker 7: were not an airbnb owner in the past or.
- 32:42Speaker 3: A restaurant owner.
- 32:44Speaker 7: So as far as learning curve some of the big
- 32:47Speaker 7: lessons that you learned, can you pinpoint a couple that
- 32:51Speaker 7: you could share for sure?
- 32:53Speaker 3: Well, I was a restaurant owner in Los Angeles for
- 32:58Speaker 3: a brief period of time. My husband and I invested
- 33:01Speaker 3: into a restaurant and the guy just ran it into
- 33:03Speaker 3: the ground. So that's the first thing I learned is
- 33:05Speaker 3: you have to be so hands on on a restaurant.
- 33:08Speaker 3: And the other thing is the restaurant that we bought
- 33:10Speaker 3: had been here thirty years, and we bought it during
- 33:13Speaker 3: COVID because we knew it had been established, it had
- 33:16Speaker 3: been here for thirty years, and the food was so delicious,
- 33:19Speaker 3: like we do homemade pies, keish sandwiches, salads, homemade cookies,
- 33:25Speaker 3: The menus incredible and it's very simple, and so we
- 33:30Speaker 3: just took it over because we knew we couldn't lose.
- 33:33Speaker 3: And the greatest thing we learned. Wow, we didn't learn.
- 33:36Speaker 3: But the day we closed was the day they let
- 33:39Speaker 3: you go to full tables because remembers during COVID they
- 33:43Speaker 3: spaced everything out so you could only I am half
- 33:45Speaker 3: your capacity, and so I knew it was the right choice.
- 33:48Speaker 3: The day we open, when they go, hey, you can
- 33:50Speaker 3: put all your tables back in, I'm like, oh my god,
- 33:52Speaker 3: get it to the attic, bring everything down. So but
- 33:56Speaker 3: I learned you have to be super hands on, and
- 33:58Speaker 3: so my partner and he does all the grocery shopping. Luckily,
- 34:03Speaker 3: we have a manager who's been there for ten years,
- 34:06Speaker 3: so she knows it kind of runs itself. In Busbee,
- 34:09Speaker 3: our new establishment has been a little more difficult to
- 34:13Speaker 3: deal with because it's a way bigger town. There's forty
- 34:17Speaker 3: thousand people, so we thought we should be able to
- 34:20Speaker 3: easily do what we're doing in Busbee just by sheer number.
- 34:23Speaker 3: There's a lot more people. But we have a commercial
- 34:26Speaker 3: kitchen there, so we have to transfer the food out there,
- 34:30Speaker 3: and so it took us a really long time for
- 34:32Speaker 3: the Hell Department to sign off on that, and then
- 34:35Speaker 3: we had to buy like a van that was completely
- 34:37Speaker 3: cleaned out because I guess the person we bought it
- 34:40Speaker 3: from was driving the food over in her car, which
- 34:43Speaker 3: you're not allowed to do, which she never told us,
- 34:45Speaker 3: So you know that's an unexpected expense. But yeah, you
- 34:50Speaker 3: just have to be really hands on. And I think
- 34:52Speaker 3: with Airbnb, as long as you keep things are really clean,
- 34:57Speaker 3: Like people get really mad when there is a toilet
- 34:59Speaker 3: paper in the room them and they get not happy
- 35:02Speaker 3: at all if there are towels, so you know, you
- 35:05Speaker 3: justus they do. Yeah, And you know that was in
- 35:11Speaker 3: the beginning because I hadn't run one. Sometimes I would
- 35:13Speaker 3: make that mistake where I just was doing a final
- 35:17Speaker 3: walkthrough and something would get by me. So that's what
- 35:20Speaker 3: I tell all my crew.
- 35:21Speaker 2: Now that would so be me. I'd be like, oh,
- 35:23Speaker 2: you need toilet paper.
- 35:25Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh I'm do you need toilet.
- 35:29Speaker 2: You need okay, okay, hold on, Yeah, it's.
- 35:31Speaker 1: One of the things you may forget you don't think of.
- 35:33Speaker 1: You know. I want to just say right here, I
- 35:35Speaker 1: have met Jeanine. She's even been on our show before, Yes,
- 35:38Speaker 1: and I called her Jeanette, which just shows that my
- 35:40Speaker 1: eyesight is it's the menopausal brain, I guess. And I apologize.
- 35:45Speaker 3: Janine.
- 35:45Speaker 7: I know you so I'm wearing I'm shares of glasses
- 35:49Speaker 7: getting over surgery on my eyes, and so I completely
- 35:54Speaker 7: get it.
- 35:55Speaker 1: Well, I was trying to be all, you know, fashionable.
- 35:58Speaker 1: I didn't want to wear glasses, but I should, so
- 36:00Speaker 1: I apologies. Well, our next week today we have we
- 36:03Speaker 1: have Zoomer daughters, which is so exciting we have not
- 36:07Speaker 1: had before. And in this interview so far, we have
- 36:13Speaker 1: not mentioned much about Danny Bonaducci, who was Gretchen's ex
- 36:19Speaker 1: husband who was on the Partridge Family. And part of
- 36:21Speaker 1: the reason, I suppose is because last night we were
- 36:24Speaker 1: at dinner and we we talked about who we're going
- 36:25Speaker 1: to meet today and we mentioned it to a young
- 36:28Speaker 1: man who's twenty three, and he said, the what I
- 36:32Speaker 1: never heard of the part What. I don't even know
- 36:34Speaker 1: what you're talking about.
- 36:34Speaker 3: So isn't that crazy? I know that the younger people
- 36:38Speaker 3: and they go, well, I've heard of the Beatles. They go,
- 36:41Speaker 3: you've heard of the Beatles.
- 36:43Speaker 1: They barely heard of the Brady Bunch. But we kept
- 36:46Speaker 1: throwing shows out to them and they're like, yeah, I
- 36:48Speaker 1: kind of think I know that. So I don't know
- 36:50Speaker 1: what kind of questions you're going to get from the
- 36:52Speaker 1: next generation. But our first Zoomer daughter is Julie's own daughter. Yes, Georgia.
- 36:59Speaker 1: So Georgia, welcome to the mom's club and said, nice,
- 37:05Speaker 1: you have a question for Gretchen.
- 37:08Speaker 3: Yes, I do him. I'm Georgia.
- 37:11Speaker 2: I'm super excited to be here today.
- 37:14Speaker 5: My question for you, I have a few, but I
- 37:16Speaker 5: think I wanted to ask about what it was like
- 37:19Speaker 5: doing reality TV and if they if you were able
- 37:23Speaker 5: to be yourself and kind of what your reflection is
- 37:26Speaker 5: of that process.
- 37:28Speaker 3: Oh okay, wow, that's a great question. I It was
- 37:32Speaker 3: a mixed blessing because the show that we shot was
- 37:35Speaker 3: supposed to be rock and roll dinner party and it
- 37:38Speaker 3: was rock stars came over. It was a pot luck,
- 37:40Speaker 3: and it was supposed to be funny and zany. We
- 37:43Speaker 3: came right after the Osborne Show. I don't know if
- 37:46Speaker 3: you're familiar with the Osborne Show, but it was such
- 37:48Speaker 3: a smash hit that everyone was looking for the next
- 37:51Speaker 3: Osborne's and so, you know, the show that we thought
- 37:55Speaker 3: we were going to be doing was a funny, hilarious,
- 37:58Speaker 3: bringing up our kids, pot luck with rock stars, but
- 38:02Speaker 3: it turned into a really dark show because what was
- 38:05Speaker 3: happening my husband and I were actually really struggling, and
- 38:09Speaker 3: it was actually capturing the implosion of our marriage, which
- 38:13Speaker 3: was not at all what we were going to be shooting,
- 38:17Speaker 3: and another reason I would not have put my kids
- 38:18Speaker 3: on TV had I known that was the direction the
- 38:21Speaker 3: show was going to go. But I'm super proud of it.
- 38:24Speaker 3: I mean, we were able just to help a lot
- 38:28Speaker 3: of people who were struggling with infidelity and drug issues
- 38:32Speaker 3: and anger issues and alcoholism. You know, we dealt with
- 38:36Speaker 3: all of that, and so it was a really dark
- 38:39Speaker 3: subject and so I wish that it hadn't gone that way,
- 38:43Speaker 3: but yet I'm kind of proud of it. I don't
- 38:45Speaker 3: think we would have been brave enough to do it
- 38:48Speaker 3: had we known that's the way it was going to go.
- 38:50Speaker 3: But I do feel like it was probably the most
- 38:53Speaker 3: real TV show that was ever on because there was
- 38:57Speaker 3: nothing stage. And actually I'm also a really bad actress,
- 39:01Speaker 3: so they're so reality. TV was like one time they go,
- 39:05Speaker 3: oh my god, we didn't get you going out of
- 39:07Speaker 3: the building. Could you go back in and come back out?
- 39:10Speaker 3: So I did and they were all laughing. I'm like,
- 39:12Speaker 3: what's so funny? They go, that is the most unnatural
- 39:15Speaker 3: want you've ever seen. So they never asked me, well.
- 39:20Speaker 2: I'm just gonna want to ask.
- 39:21Speaker 3: I wish I could, but I can just be me about.
- 39:24Speaker 2: I'm an interject on what you just said, because I
- 39:26Speaker 2: think it's really important. You didn't know the show was
- 39:29Speaker 2: going to go take that route. But I am going
- 39:31Speaker 2: to say, by you bringing up talking about some of
- 39:33Speaker 2: those issues, you probably helped a lot of people, and
- 39:37Speaker 2: you gave it a lot less power by bringing it
- 39:40Speaker 2: to the surface and talking about it and releasing it.
- 39:43Speaker 2: So you probably did a lot of good, you know,
- 39:45Speaker 2: with the reality TV show.
- 39:47Speaker 3: So I did get a lot of great feedback, and
- 39:50Speaker 3: I know the producers were laughing at me because I
- 39:53Speaker 3: said from the start, I would like the show to
- 39:55Speaker 3: make a difference. Yeah, you know, I don't. I don't
- 39:57Speaker 3: want to go Remember when you said that and then
- 39:59Speaker 3: I I said this, let's do that again. You know,
- 40:02Speaker 3: I really didn't want any of that. And I know
- 40:04Speaker 3: they were like, oh, you're so cute. It's wanting to
- 40:05Speaker 3: make a difference on your TV show. But the mail
- 40:09Speaker 3: that we got after, I know we did and yeah,
- 40:13Speaker 3: I mean I would definitely want to do another one,
- 40:16Speaker 3: but a fun one.
- 40:19Speaker 2: Right, I mean one that doesn't make you pit sweat
- 40:22Speaker 2: every second that they're filming.
- 40:24Speaker 1: It's something that's reality, but in a positive happen right
- 40:27Speaker 1: and a fun way.
- 40:28Speaker 3: Yeah, one that I would want to put my kids
- 40:30Speaker 3: on again. And I even told my son, you know,
- 40:33Speaker 3: if you want to be on this, you are welcome,
- 40:36Speaker 3: but I need you to go in with your eyes open.
- 40:39Speaker 3: You know, this is going to be a way more
- 40:41Speaker 3: fun show if I ever get one to go. But
- 40:43Speaker 3: you also are going to have to deal with criticism,
- 40:46Speaker 3: and I want to make sure you know. I think
- 40:48Speaker 3: people that can't handle that well should not be on
- 40:51Speaker 3: reality shows because people are vicious.
- 40:54Speaker 1: We well, we actually have interviewed quite a few people
- 40:57Speaker 1: that have done reality TV, and for some reason, we
- 40:59Speaker 1: keep you get the villains a lot and when they
- 41:01Speaker 1: could show up here because they want to, they actually
- 41:03Speaker 1: want to redeem them. We met one. We loved her.
- 41:07Speaker 1: She was the nicest person. And before the show, my
- 41:10Speaker 1: husband watched the series, He's like, oh, she's I don't know,
- 41:13Speaker 1: you don't want her on your show? I said, I
- 41:15Speaker 1: talked to her on the thunt. She was super nice.
- 41:17Speaker 1: She's very nice. Her show is still.
- 41:21Speaker 3: Going you in ways, but I feel like when people
- 41:25Speaker 3: are disappointed, like I was fine. I felt the way
- 41:27Speaker 3: they caught me was fine. I had no issues with it.
- 41:30Speaker 3: But you know some people feel like they get villainized
- 41:35Speaker 3: and uh maybe, but I also feel like, well, did
- 41:37Speaker 3: you do that? Did you say that? Then you did it?
- 41:40Speaker 3: So how can you complain?
- 41:42Speaker 5: Yeah?
- 41:42Speaker 1: That is true, but I will tell you because your
- 41:44Speaker 1: political career is still you know, we expect you to
- 41:46Speaker 1: run from mayor again. Just everything you say, they can
- 41:49Speaker 1: cut it in a way that and then they'll they'll
- 41:52Speaker 1: twist it where that's not really in all what you meant.
- 41:55Speaker 1: But there's a huge ad that says, oh yeah, she's
- 41:58Speaker 1: pretty tough, she's done hate dogs and children. Oh well,
- 42:02Speaker 1: I was like, whoa you know, so, yeah, you gotta
- 42:04Speaker 1: gotta be a word.
- 42:05Speaker 3: That's true. But because I have the reality show backlash
- 42:09Speaker 3: experience that nothing else. Yeah, I scoff when people, Oh,
- 42:14Speaker 3: I'm gonna say something mean about you to busy people,
- 42:17Speaker 3: I'm like, come at you and have an opinion.
- 42:22Speaker 2: Well, I'm one hundred percent. Georgia would be like, mom
- 42:25Speaker 2: zero reality TV got it.
- 42:27Speaker 1: My children have already told me that's non things, not
- 42:29Speaker 1: an option. Yeah.
- 42:31Speaker 3: Well, and my daughter would not ever be on a
- 42:33Speaker 3: show again.
- 42:34Speaker 2: Under any so I can understand.
- 42:35Speaker 3: I wouldn't even ask her because they don't feel like
- 42:38Speaker 3: she felt it was positive for her, and I felt
- 42:41Speaker 3: bad about that. Yes, that's understandable, bad that I, you know,
- 42:45Speaker 3: put her in that position. And I even said to her, well,
- 42:49Speaker 3: you have a really good point. Maybe you should go
- 42:51Speaker 3: to Screen Actors Guild and talk to them about people
- 42:56Speaker 3: when they're young being on TV and not really being
- 42:59Speaker 3: consulted about it. They were paid. I made sure that
- 43:02Speaker 3: when they votes were eighteen, they had a lot of
- 43:04Speaker 3: money because I paid them for you know, being on
- 43:06Speaker 3: the show. I put them on a salary. But there
- 43:09Speaker 3: is an argument for maybe there's some kids that shouldn't
- 43:13Speaker 3: do it, and maybe the parents' motivation is wrong. Well,
- 43:17Speaker 3: you know, so that's so I don't know the answer,
- 43:19Speaker 3: but I do feel like my daughter had a point.
- 43:22Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's actually a good point. And in the
- 43:24Speaker 1: history of Hollywood, obviously with kids actors, that's been a
- 43:27Speaker 1: huge thing. In fact, I think there's an organization. One
- 43:29Speaker 1: committed suicide years ago and another group of them started
- 43:33Speaker 1: an organizations to support for kids.
- 43:35Speaker 3: Well, there was that whole movement in the nineties, the
- 43:37Speaker 3: whole next Child started going bad, you know, with Danny
- 43:41Speaker 3: being in trouble, Dana Plato, who's you know, ended up dying,
- 43:46Speaker 3: and Todd Bridges was in trouble. I mean, there was
- 43:49Speaker 3: just a bunch of a lot of the Corey Haying,
- 43:52Speaker 3: Cory Fellas. Yeah, a lot that. It's an argument definitely
- 43:57Speaker 3: to say it's a lot in the parenting. That you
- 44:01Speaker 3: don't have good parenting, you're definitely gonna have problems with
- 44:04Speaker 3: your kids.
- 44:04Speaker 1: Yeah, mine and kid.
- 44:06Speaker 3: It's such an unnatural thing, you know, being a famous
- 44:09Speaker 3: person when the world loves you and then going home
- 44:13Speaker 3: to a crappy family. I don't think a kid has
- 44:15Speaker 3: a chance under those certain things. I think you're a well,
- 44:19Speaker 3: you know, rounded adult.
- 44:22Speaker 1: Well, we have one more Zoomer daughter here. She is
- 44:26Speaker 1: not my daughter. She's actually my niece, but close enough.
- 44:29Speaker 1: She's like a daughter because I have no daughters. Emily,
- 44:32Speaker 1: Welcome to the Mom's club.
- 44:33Speaker 7: Do you have a question.
- 44:39Speaker 4: So my question for you is about your book and
- 44:43Speaker 4: what the process was of writing that and whether that
- 44:46Speaker 4: was a cathartic experience for you, and just if you
- 44:49Speaker 4: could talk a little bit about that.
- 44:51Speaker 3: Well, you know, it's so funny that you asked that,
- 44:53Speaker 3: because honestly, all the things I'm doing now, I had
- 44:56Speaker 3: no experience. I had zero experience in writing. As a
- 45:00Speaker 3: matter of fact, I get criticized on my social media
- 45:03Speaker 3: all the time. I'm a spell stuff or I use
- 45:07Speaker 3: the wrong I'm really bad and accept and accept, but
- 45:11Speaker 3: I look, I'm too busy people, I'm riding sick, and
- 45:13Speaker 3: give me a break. But I decided to write it
- 45:17Speaker 3: myself because I was singing about bringing in a ghostwriter,
- 45:21Speaker 3: but I'm kind of greedy and I didn't really want
- 45:23Speaker 3: to pay somebody. But I'm like, you know what I'm
- 45:25Speaker 3: going to see? So I told her a story and
- 45:28Speaker 3: I said write it then send it to me. And
- 45:30Speaker 3: it totally didn't sound like me. So I'm like, you
- 45:32Speaker 3: know what, I can do this, And so I just
- 45:35Speaker 3: was very disciplined. Every day I sat down and I wrote,
- 45:38Speaker 3: and I didn't even try to put it in an order.
- 45:40Speaker 3: I just tried to write story, story, story, until then
- 45:43Speaker 3: I could try to put it in an order. And
- 45:45Speaker 3: so that's kind of how I did that. And I
- 45:48Speaker 3: was lucky enough to find a publisher who was willing
- 45:51Speaker 3: to put it out and it definitely was cathartic. It
- 45:55Speaker 3: was a lot of work, but I'm very proud of
- 45:58Speaker 3: that because out of all the things I'm doing, I
- 46:00Speaker 3: probably had the least amount of experience, you know, to
- 46:03Speaker 3: write a book. And uh yeah, so I really enjoyed
- 46:07Speaker 3: doing it. And the book's called Surviving Agent Orange and
- 46:11Speaker 3: other things I learned from being thrown under the Partures family.
- 46:14Speaker 3: But and the reason that it's called Surviving Agent Orange.
- 46:17Speaker 3: That was our code name, my assistant and myself for Danny.
- 46:20Speaker 1: Yeah, she'd be like.
- 46:21Speaker 3: Agent Orange just pulling into the driveway. So it just
- 46:25Speaker 3: was a funny name we called Danny.
- 46:28Speaker 1: That's good. Nice, Well, thank you so much, Gretchen. This
- 46:31Speaker 1: has been so much fun.
- 46:33Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 46:33Speaker 2: I've inspired by your fearlessness.
- 46:35Speaker 1: I'm just going for it writing books.
- 46:40Speaker 2: Say that again, Gretchen, Sorry I said, or my stupidity.
- 46:43Speaker 3: Wow, no no, no.
- 46:44Speaker 2: No, that's not true.
- 46:46Speaker 3: You are just people have said to me, did you
- 46:49Speaker 3: ever worry that you were going to fail? And I
- 46:52Speaker 3: just don't have that ship in me. I should have
- 46:54Speaker 3: worried more than I did. And somehow I've been able
- 46:58Speaker 3: just by shared tanasa and not willing to fail to
- 47:02Speaker 3: pull through. And and you know, pull all the stuff off.
- 47:05Speaker 3: So if I can aspire anyone, you know you can
- 47:09Speaker 3: do it. I did it.
- 47:10Speaker 1: Well, yeah, crazy, you are as we say here on
- 47:13Speaker 1: the Mom's Club. You are amazing, amazing, and so are
- 47:17Speaker 1: our amazing Zoomer mom. So thanks for joining us moms
- 47:21Speaker 1: and daughters today. Yes for being on the show. Guys.
- 47:25Speaker 3: Yeah, so much fun. I appreciate all of you being
- 47:28Speaker 3: on here and having me and you guys have an
- 47:31Speaker 3: open door. We do the most strange things like I
- 47:34Speaker 3: have seances here, we do sance dinners and.
- 47:36Speaker 1: Oh I love that, you know.
- 47:38Speaker 3: Like I said, all the all the crazy dumb parties
- 47:40Speaker 3: that we love to do. Uh. And you guys are
- 47:43Speaker 3: welcome to come and bring some outfits and uh and
- 47:46Speaker 3: we'll have fun.
- 47:46Speaker 1: Well, thank you. That sounds fun. So where can our
- 47:48Speaker 1: audience find you on social media? And how can they
- 47:51Speaker 1: find your make a reservation? How did Yeah?
- 47:55Speaker 3: I'm mind Airbnb, Verbo, booking dot com on all the
- 48:00Speaker 3: platforms for booking hotels. And my restaurant is the Cornicopia Cafe,
- 48:06Speaker 3: the main ones in Bisbee and then I have the
- 48:08Speaker 3: new one in Sierra Vista, and I'm hoping if things
- 48:12Speaker 3: go well we'll roll that one out to Tombstone, which
- 48:14Speaker 3: is a half hour from here. And also, oh yeah yeah,
- 48:18Speaker 3: I'm Gretchen Chander all my social media and I would
- 48:22Speaker 3: love for you guys to come any time, so come visit.
- 48:25Speaker 2: That'd be It sounds like an adventure.
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- 50:05Speaker 1: it just flies by expacinitely when you're here, so when
- 50:08Speaker 1: you run off on vacation, it takes a little longer.
- 50:12Speaker 1: So so happy that you were back and so much fun.
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