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The Aggressive Hook: How Male Narcissists Are Created: The Origin Story · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So I get in, you want to know if it was mom's fault, right, or
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  it's dad's fault, or if they're just wired incorrectly.
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  They just made bad, right? Just bad wiring.
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  It made them who they are. You're looking for a reason to
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  stay or a reason to forgive this narcissistic person in your
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  life. And as someone that's diagnosed
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  with narcissistic personality disorder, I can just be, I'm
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  going to just keep it hot and ready with you, hot and ready
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  with you like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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  Finding out why they are the way that they are won't change what
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  they are doing. It won't change who they are,
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  right? And because like as a
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  narcissist, I was made in a specific way.
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  And today I'm going to talk about narcissism in males, how
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  narcissistic males are created. Could some of this stuff apply
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  to narcissistic women? Yes, absolutely it can.
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  My fellas, you can watch this video.
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  My women who love women, you watch this video as well because
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  a lot of the stuff could apply as well.
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  I'll do another video about narcissistic women here soon,
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  but we're going to talk today, y'all, Let's hop right into it.
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  No buffer, no buffer. Nature, the nature factor.
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  Nature does play a role in narcissism.
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  Like the genetic seed, like genetics can play a role, right?
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  Not every narcissist is absolutely going to be coming
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  from an abusive household, right?
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  Because you get some some people who are good parents, right?
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  Good parents. And they just like, how the hell
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  did my son become a narcissist? They've done everything right.
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  They've done everything. Like no parent, no parent is
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  perfect, but they've done everything that they could do.
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  Got him into therapy. Something just, the wiring is
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  just off, right? Something just disconnected,
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  right? Like the brain can just, I ain't
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  gonna say malfunction. The brain's just different.
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  You know what I mean? Like some people are naturally
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  born more sensitive, you know what I mean?
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  But narcissistic people tend to be born more sensitive, born
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  more aggressive or more driven. If you take that high octane
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  brain and put it in a toxic environment, you get a
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  narcissist, right? More sensitive, more aggressive,
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  more driven. I know people don't hear the
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  word sensitive and you automatically think about
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  empath. No, sensitivity does not
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  automatically equate to empathy. Sensitivity can equate to I.
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  I have a thin, I'm thin skinned and react very violently or very
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  quickly or very irrationally to criticism or perceives criticism
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  or slight does not necessarily mean empathy.
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  I know people will hear it sensitive like Lee, I'm
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  sensitive. I'm not a narcissist.
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  No, no. So if you put all of that with
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  that and put it in a toxic environment, you might get a
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  narcissistic person, right? And so also there's an empathy
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  gap like a lot of times, like research does show that for some
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  of us, the parts of the brain that process empathy just don't
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  light up the same way as other people.
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  As I don't know, I'm just use this word.
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  I don't necessarily use this word a lot, but normal people, a
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  person with a healthy brain, because what is normal?
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  What does normal really mean, right?
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  Normal people we are born with, like we're born with the right
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  hardware, but the software just never gets installed.
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  We have a brain. It's just like sometimes the
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  wiring is just off. We don't just the empathy just
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  doesn't light up the wire it. Look, it might spark up
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  sometimes. You know how you take two wires
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  and rub them together and sometimes they create that
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  little spark like, or like some jumper cables, you attach one
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  end to the battery and the loose end you just smack together.
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  Yeah, you, you. They start sparking.
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  That can happen too, right? This absolutely can happen in
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  these situations and whatnot, right?
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  That's something that you have to be prepared for and it can go
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  on. Like it's just an empathy gap,
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  right? So sometimes nature does play a
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  big role in it. It's just, it does happen.
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  But if nature plays a role, what about nurture, right?
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  What about Lee? If nature plays a role, what
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  about nurture? What about nature's little
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  brother nurture nature's little brother nurture oh little Nurch,
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  little little little nurch from down the street right so it's
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  it's like 2 pathways. So it's about path a, the
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  overindulged the golden child. I know y'all know y'all know
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  that word right there like 2 path path A is the golden child.
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  This is from the this is from the nurture aspect of things,
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  the golden child right. Some men are raised to believe
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  their literal gods among men. They are perfect little baby
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  boys. And could a narcissistic mother
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  or just a mentally deranged mother play a huge role in this?
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  Yes. Nurture, nurture.
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  They nurture them to think that they can do no wrong.
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  Could a narcissistic father play this role in her?
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  Yes. Could.
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  Coming from an affluent background where you never heard
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  the word no and you were spoiled brats, could they play a role?
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  Yes, you get raised and never hear the word no.
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  And now when you in your adulthood, you hear no, you lose
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  your damn mind. You crazy people set a boundary
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  on what the hell is. How dare you set a boundary on
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  me, your peasants. You see what I'm saying?
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  Nurture plays a role, golden child.
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  You get. You get raised to be a certain
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  type of way. Hell yeah like they are.
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  They never heard the word no. They are never held accountable
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  in their childhood, in their youth and even sometimes in
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  adulthood. You got enough money people,
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  people just don't testify. You get off Scott free for
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  unallowed. Remember that boy years ago that
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  in a car accident, like a drunk, it was drunk driving and took
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  four people's lives and he got off Scott free because of
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  affluenza. They say he came from a rich
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  house or a rich back, rich background.
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  He never had boundaries set so he didn't know how to say no.
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  So he wrecked and took the lives of four people and he got 10
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  years probation. He I think he am going to jail
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  for a couple of years, but nothing nothing major for
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  killing four people right? Look up affluenza.
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  That's literally they made some shit up to let him get out of
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  jail right? They never get held accountable
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  and they are praised for things that they didn't even do things
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  like especially if you grow up. Imagine growing up a narcissist.
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  Like they grew up thinking the world is a damn a golden golden
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  child spoiled brat grows up thing in the world is a vending
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  machine that owes them endless narcissistic supplies.
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  You get praise for things you didn't do.
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  Like I'm not saying this specifically about the Walton
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  family, the people who own Walmart, but they get praise for
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  in Walmart and their their grandparents or parents started
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  it like it's passed down. Like you get, what is it
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  nepotism? You get like nepotism, like, Oh
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  my goodness, you, you're such a, you come from such a good
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  family. You're such an amazing person.
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  Just you have a certain last name, right?
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  This is crazy. This is Golden child.
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  This is how like go like this is all a lot of times how races are
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  created, like the golden child races.
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  Like I think I'm better than you.
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  You're a perfect little certain race, so you automatically makes
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  you better than other races. That's crazy as hell.
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  Y'all are stupid as hell to think that type of shit.
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  That's crazy. Yeah, as y'all can see, they
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  they set me off a little bit. So let's get off the point of
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  the golden child because that's how you can make a narcissist by
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  nurturing them to damn death when that hold them accountable.
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  No boundaries, no nothing, never telling them no.
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  And y'all, you get this person in adulthood in a relationship
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  that you have to deal with like they get parented horribly and
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  now you have to damn near unparent them, right?
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  Path B, the second path, the under love, the emotional
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  desert. Y'all call them the scapegoat
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  right? The scapegoats, the other side
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  of the golden child. This is more common though,
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  right? A young boy or girl is neglected
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  right? They get shamed or abused.
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  Neglected, shamed or abused. Like he realizes that early on
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  that his true self isn't safe. He can't be himself.
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  He has to create this mask, he has to, to protect himself,
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  right? So he kills off that vulnerable
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  boy and builds a Titan, a mask that cannot be hurt.
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  Like the, the that mask is the narcissist.
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  That's more along the lines of how this narcissist was made
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  right here, right? I was under love and neglected
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  by a certain parent who looks like me, but same might same
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  weight, right? Same color, same team color.
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  You know, me, My, my, my father was around.
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  Yeah. He was just super neglectful.
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  He just, I was under love and I was not, could not be vulnerable
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  around him. So I created the mask, you know
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  what I'm saying? To become this person, the
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  person that I was before I started this platform and stuff
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  like that. That's what scapegoat right
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  here. You know what I mean?
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  That's what ends up happening. But the last thing we thought
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  about y'all, I'm going to get about it.
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  Everyone make this too long is the like the societal factor,
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  the alpha trap. You hear about the alpha male
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  crazy ass shit, the reward system like think about it like
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  this in business, in sports and even in dating, we versus we as
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  society reward men who are arrogant, dominant and ruthless.
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  Andrew Tate weirdo. You see what I'm saying?
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  These people were just crazy said we call it.
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  We call it being an alpha male for a man with narcissistic
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  traits. Society is telling him keep
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  doing exactly what you're doing and you're going to get paid off
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  This, the payoff is coming. Why change something if the
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  world rewards you a trophy for it?
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  Like why change something that you get rewarded for?
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  Why change a bad behavior even when you get rewarded for?
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  And that right there extends into adulthood right there.
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  Why would I change something that I benefit from?
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  Why would I change something that people tell me I'm good at?
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  Even if it's being horrible, even if it's being toxic and
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  masculine, even as being abusive and yelling and out of control?
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  Why would I change it when I get a reward for it?
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  Think about that right there. Y'all think about it like that,
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  like Andrew Tate, one of those famous people in the world, even
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  though he's a horrible person, horrible human being, why would
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  he change it? He gets money, he gets rewarded,
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  he gets women. It's still see who he is and
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  still go fuck him and they get what they deserve.
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  You something, you see this type of person, you go fuck with him,
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  that's on you. You may you like oh he's nice
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  and evil, Something's got to be going on to the women who mess
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  with him like that. There's something going on up
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  here. You see what I'm saying?
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  There's something going on up there that's on to go get some
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  therapy so society can help create narcissists as well,
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  because it doesn't reward going to therapy.
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  You're weak if you go to therapy.
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  You're a baby if you go to therapy.
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  You a beta male if you go to therapy, if you if you stand on
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  the alpha tip, you're beta if you go to therapy and get help.
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  You sound crazy. That sounds how stupid that
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  sounds right there. Yeah.
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  So in conclusion, like I know how I got here, how I was made.
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  I was a neglectful scapegoat, right?
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  I know the trauma and the environment they created.
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  They created Lee Hammock. I understand that I just told
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  you all little bits and pieces of it, but that doesn't mean I'm
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  not responsible for who I am. That doesn't that doesn't mean
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  I'm not responsible for who I am today and what I do today, my
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  behaviors and my actions. I'll see.
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  I put the work in. I put the word now I use the
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  therapy now. Now I use the therapy.
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  Like so don't let a narcissist use their sad story as a reason
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  to let them keep hurting you, to keep abusing you, to keep
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  treating you like shit. Don't let the reason, like don't
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  let that be the reason you stay in a relationship because they
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  used all these excuses I made. I just, I can't, I put on her.
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  Don't you? Don't let them use that as an
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  excuse to keep being abusive. Y'all, if you like this video,
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  subscribe button if you haven't. And it's always y'all.
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  Mental illness is out. Peace.