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HALF WAY MARK_ SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST _ EPISODE _98_ HOST SIMONE W YOUNG · DA CREW Podcast

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Good evening everyone, Thank you for tuning in once more to to the Nations
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the Prophets. Simon Williams Young, I'm so excited that you guys are joining
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me today. I'm so excited for the topic that we have. I'm so
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excited for the guests that I have on this evening. Hello, Shahet,
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thank you so much for joining your and Heila Kisha, thank you for joining
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well you guys. Today we are going to honor the widower. Hi,
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mom, We're going to honor the widowers today. And my special guest is
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actually my husband, a senior elder, Ruben Young, and he is also
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a purpose coach and before we were married, there is a point of time
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in his life where he uh became a widower and he did have to raise
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our son on his own for a while. And so I'm going to bring
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him on and so Hi, beg, how are you good? In you
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good? Good? So just telling the audience just you know, because we
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are honoring the widowers, uh you know, on this particular show, and
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uh the fact that you have already gone on this particular journey. Uh,
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and you know, putting people, you know, bringing awareness that there are
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men who are doing a lot. You know, we always show face,
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you know how women we have to do so much, we have to wear
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so many but there are men out there who do have to wear a lot
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of hats as well. And just trying to bring a little awareness and if
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you can in the audience a little bit of information about yourself, if you
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want to go in and go right into your journey with your experience of love.
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Okay, sure. First, I just want to make sure you can
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hear me, because getting some little feedback maybe on my end. So let
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me make a few adjustments and see if you can hear me clearly. Can
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you hear me clearly? I can hear you. Okay, great? Uh
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you said, tell the audience a little bit about me, Yes, tell
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a little bit a bit about you, and you know what you're doing right
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now. We'll be here all night. So the short version is right now,
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I am a full time ministry. I am All that I've been through
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has allowed me to have the qualifications and the skills and the abilities to be
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a leader, leading my family, leading God's people. I'm a husband,
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hopefully a good one. Y'all have to ask simone that later on when I'm
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off a grandfather or father, a friend of many, an enemy of none.
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I'm an author, I'm an entrepreneur, a business owner, and a
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dreamer. And I believe in family, I believe in structure, I believe
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in love. I'm a child to God. I'm a man of God mhm.
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And I would say, for the most part through all that, I'm
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a fighter. Yess, that's right, I see it. I see it
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every day. But uh, if we can go into briefly, you know,
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you know before we got married, you know, there was a point
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in your life. You know, you were married to Julia, our son's
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mom, and she ended up passing away and then which placed you in the
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position of having to be a father, you know, on your own,
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trying to, you know, make things happen. Can you just give us
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a little bit of a backstory on that. Yes, Revisiting that in my
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mind and my spirit kind of takes me to a place where all I can
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say it was a painful place, but necessary because it was out of my
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hands. And being a man of faith and being a spiritual man, that's
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the only thing that I can chalk it up to as being spiritual and something
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that was out of my hands. It was sudden she was sick with a
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few conditions. One of them was called sarcidosis, which the cells, the
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function of the red cells and the white cells no longer recognized one another and
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began to fight one another within the blood system. Which when she was diagnosed
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with sarchidosis, it was maybe in its deep or latter stages once it was
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recognized, and it had already entered the brain, which caused brain tumors.
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At this particular time, I was unaware of the diagnosis because she knew that
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I loved her, and she kind of kept the information from me. And
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also she was a woman of faith as well, so she didn't want to
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speak it into existence. But it was basically kind of like already in existence.
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God had already had the final say soul to you to transition her and
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allow her to graduate from this life onto the next. So we're visiting that
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place comes with a lot of mixed emotions, but with now a lot of
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understanding, and that understanding has given me peace, and it gave me peace
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at that time as a husband and as a father. The journey with our
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son will open up a lot of other things that I was unaware of because
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I was uneducated and ignorant to the ways of the world and the system.
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Okay, and it was a real rude slap in the face. Oh real
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quick, before we get into that part. I know on my last show,
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you know, I had shared about, you know, my experience with
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our pastor. Uh you know when when you know Ashton was killed, and
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you know how our pastor really you know, kind of held my hand and
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he kept he kept pushing, you know, the the type of man of
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God that we are under, you know, Chief Apostle Michael L. Rose
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of the Wrecking Crew, Can you give me a little bit of an experience,
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you know on that end, you know, with with our pastor,
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because I know, you know, he was pretty hands on with you.
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Yes, excuse me. The leadership and the mentoring aspect from our spiritual father,
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excuse me, it intensified. He may sure that other men such as
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Pastor Earle being one at the time and Pastor Tony being another one at the
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time, really kind of be there for me and look out from me.
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He understood that I needed strong brothers. He decerned that the leadership that was
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in them and the brotherhood that we had formed at the time, because the
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name of the church artillery that we had at the time was a brotherhood.
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We had a brotherhood ministry at the time. So he made sure there were
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capable of strong men and leaders around me to encourage me and to keep me
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focused. And he understood what I've already had in me. But he knew
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that something as strong and as serious and important as losing a spouse, he
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didn't want to leave any room for the enemy to come in and try to
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play on the weakness and the hurt and my Christian integrity as an end of
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God in my weakened and vulnerable state. Yes, so he made it I
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was surrounded by strong, capable, wise men. When he couldn't be around,
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he made sure they were around to come and check on me as he
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did as well. So the leadership that me being a part of at that
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time and still a part of right now to this day, helped mold and
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shape and kept me in a certain place where I needed to be, especially
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through that time of trauma and tragedy. Yes, yes, And at the
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same time absolutely and that's one thing I know is that you're a man of
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You're a man of prayer. In prayer is important, and having a village
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is important, you know, uh, you know, when you know through
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through that particular journey, your your village around you makes a big difference on
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the experience or or you know that that you will have in that journey.
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And so that's why it's also really important not to push your village away,
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you know, when you're going through themes of that particular nature, because you
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need your village when you're going through grief. Absolutely. Okay, if we
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can go ahead and get a little bit into you know, I've heard over
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the years, you know sometimes men, you know, I hear it through
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the grapevine, I guess you can say where men will say, you know,
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women, you have it so much easier. You guys have all the
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resources, you know, when you know you don't have, uh, you
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know, uh, a male person to help take care of your child.
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The systems normally gear things to helping women, but I have heard down the
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line men also say, you know, we don't get the same thing that
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you guys get, or they run us through the loop harder. You know,
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a little harder when it comes to men receiving help and receiving services.
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You know, when you are a single father, a single not just a
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single father or a widower, but a full time father, you know,
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doing it by yourself. So can you go into a little bit of what
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your experience was like, you know, when you had to when it came
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time to get some help and get some resources, you know, because now
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you are on your own and you know, trying to figure this thing out.
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If you could kind of give us a little bit about that experience,
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yeah, sure, concerning the help and the resources. I found out real
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quick that I had to wake up early, and I had to get ourselves
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dressed and motivated and inspired to tackle whatever day was in front of us.
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Because I knew that we would have speaking of me and my son when he
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was in school at the time, or he would say and I have to
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go to the daycare. I basically had to bring him and carry him with
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me. And so at the time at the time, I had had to
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get up early and make it out to the bus. He has to use
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the restaurant, We have to go back in the house, we have to
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come back out and then wait on the next bus to get to where we're
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going, which all this at the same time was new to me because of
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course, when his mom you know, was living at the time, you
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know, we would all basically be together, or I would go ahead and
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go to school, school or go to work. At the time, I
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think I had to do both. I was in school and I had a
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job, and he was only basically like a pre k, so I had
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to get him the pre k. Then I had to go catch my bus
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to go take care of the business where he didn't have to be present,
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so I fly. I quickly became a FIUL clerk. I checked with the
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Department of Social Services, which provided was willing to provide aid because I had
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the birth certificate and the Social Security card and I had the death certificate.
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That I had all the documents and the files that I needed. So I
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had to become a file clerk with handling and making sure that I had everything
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that they needed so that the process wouldn't be as frustrated and xtreenuous as it
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could have been. I just done along lines early in the morning. I
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had to quickly become a patient man in a system where they are not in
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a rush at all because of the many people that has to be serviced,
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and then it's a possibility that you not prepared properly and they can turn you
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away or either deny you. And I didn't have the time to waste.
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I didn't have the time for small mistakes or errors or to forget ABC and
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X, y Z of things that I needed to get the resources and the
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help that I needed. And even a little bit before that, if I
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may rewind just a little bit, I had to basically know that I needed
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help to help me and my son, and that burden wasn't necessarily just on
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me, but it was. But I knew that I didn't have the education
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or the wisdom and the knowledge or knew the resources that I needed to care
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for my son as a single father and a widower. So I had to
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recognize and realize that I needed help, and I needed help for my son
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as well as him needing help. So I had to differentiate all those different
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realms of who needed help, why, and where it was going to come
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from. And at one time I understood that my strong prayer life and my
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faith was only part of the help, and the large part of it.
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A greater percentage of it, and I understood that other departments and other foundations
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and other systems was going to provide the other half of the help for myself
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and my son. So I had to step up as a man all around,
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because I told myself. I had a conversation with myself, and I
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told myself, we took a loss, but we don't have to lose everything.
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It does not have to tear down the whole house just because we took
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a loss. We don't have to lose what we have just because we lost
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her. We don't have to lose everything. Everything doesn't have to be destroyed
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just because our hearts felt destroyed. So it made me step up the middle
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of a crisis as a man of faith and as a man of God,
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and as a father. It made me step up in the storm and not
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allow myself to become intimidated when it was intimidating stepping into doors and having to
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speak to people and represent myself as a widower and a single father right just
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lost his wife, and to actually questions that I didn't know particularly what to
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act. So I was always placed in front of someone that always wanted to
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know what happened. So I had to vivid and revisited every single time,
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and that very administrative telling them and to them what happened, the who I
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feeled in the blanks of the who, what men were, how and why
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with everyone that they placed in front of me. And it was still hard
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services and the things that I needed because of the gender factor of being a
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man. So that sent me into more research. I had to find out
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and dive into the computer and learn the computer. I was bad at computers,
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basically less than entry level. Wow. So I purchased a laptop and
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I had to do my prep work and my homework at home before I even
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leave the house to go position myself to go and find out about these organizations,
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these foundations in this system that they have in place to assist those families
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and individuals that are like me or in the position that I'm in. And
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it was so hard that all the numbers that I called and the places that
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I wanted to go see because they just wanted me to show up so that
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they can hear my story for them to tell me, this is what it
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felt like for them to tell me that I don't qualify for anything because there's
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not enough things out there to help assist or service a man because they understand
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that he is capable. They understand that he has what it takes to survive
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in this land. So they didn't create anything to assist in the work that
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he has to do. So it molded my mind to be proactive and engaged
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in such a way that I never had before. And it allowed me to
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continue to recognize the fight that has always been in me. So I understood
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my opponent. I understood my adversary. I understood what was so called basically
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against me to try to stop me and hold me down from succeeding. So
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it shaped my mentality, and it shaped my attitude, and it grew and
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enhanced my faith and empowered understanding wisdom and knowledge moving forward that I need to
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be empowered. I need to get educated. I need information, and I
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need knowledge and wisdom to help me fight what's trying to like and stop me
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from being a successful, single, widdowed father and a man. Well there's
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also you know, that's and and that's a shame because you know, there
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should be more, there's there should be more out there for men who are
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trying to uh, you know, just basically you be able to use the
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help as a stepping stone until life realigns itself, you know, a justice
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though, because that's a first. It's a big blow, you know,
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to have to be put in the position. You know, First, your
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heart is aching because the person that you love so much, you know,
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you had to watch them stuffer and then eventually pass. And then your heart
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is breaking because you also have to watch your child ah, you know,
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you know, and I know he was really small, so I know that
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there were moments where it was like, where's mommy? I want my mom?
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You know, where's this? So you kind of have to go through
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for okay, yeah, so you kind of you have to go through that,
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and then you have to watch your child hurt, and then you have
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to go against the system throughout all that hurt, go through a system you
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know that's basically have red tape and and urious different things, you know,
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and I know it's not like you you know, you're trying to use the
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system forever, but just to kind of have that stepping stone so that you
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can kind of put the pieces back together and then you can fly. You
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know. There's a period of time that I know that we had talked about
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before in which I think it's important to talk about for other men who has
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to had to kind of go through losing a wife or losing, you know,
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a mother of their child. It's recognizing when your children needs a little
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extra help in this, you know, noticing that there's some things that your
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children are actually going through, and you know, stepping back and say,
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hey, this is this is out of my expertise, out of my area,
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out of what I know about, and then reach out and try to
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get some assistance with that. Can you kind of go over that over that
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moment, because I know our son, you know, had had those moments
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where you know, he is his mother's death took a toll on him and
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you had to come to that realization that further help was needed. Can you
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kind of let the people know about that time period. Yes. One of
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the first things that it brings me to mind is he grew up in church,
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so church was basically church school was the only two things that he really
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knew. So with him being a preacher's kid and me being the example,
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he understood that it was something extraordinary going on with himself and with his family
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because he's always been in church and in service, and you know, the
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kind of service when we church. We church, and he spent a lot
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of time in the spirit as far as in the presence of God, without
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really fully understanding what all that he is, but still experiencing it. But
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I knew that it was something that worked for us, and he is working
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will continue to work. But I had to separate that from the other doors
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that God had opened up and other means that God had out there and opportunities
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that He allows us to utilize. That it may be the kind of help
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that he needed. So a lot of his behavior would come out while he's
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at school, and I understood what a lot a large part of it was.
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So I would go to these meetings at the school to talk to the
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teachers and the principles and the administratives at the schools, and once again I
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would have to have to explain to them the story and why the family of
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the youngs, father and son coexist without a mom. And I would have
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to ask questions and try to find out or they would just tell me,
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well, we have these programs and this and that that can help him or
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help you, only to this extent. We may not be able to help
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you with a B and C, but we can help you with X,
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Y and Z, and hopefully this is something that you would take advantage of
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because we believe that it can help. So I had to let the help
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help in those areas where I truly believe, Yes, you know, prayer
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and the Word and being in church and God and Jesus and all these different
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things, you know, is our everything because of the way that we live
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and stuff like that, Because I was already a minister before I got married,
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So I was already a minister before we eventually had Rubn Junior, so
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that it was already my lifestyle and this is the way that I lived.
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But I couldn't be so tunnel vision based on that and stubborn or looking at
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myself like I'm deficient or dysfunctional or not capable, and all these different things
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that tried to play on my ego at the time. And I had to
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let the help help, and I had to let with the professionals be the
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professionalists, and the experts be the experts, and specialists be the specialists and
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do what they do. So the wisdom and the understanding of that was opened
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and kicked in in my mind. So I felt paperwork and I met all
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the appointments, and I sat and talked to all the people, and stood
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in all the long lines, and set in all the meetings, and wrote
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all the stuff and the behavior and analys assessments, and sitting from the psychiatrists
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and therapists, and they trying to diagnose this and diagnose that, and they're
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trying to say this and say that, and prescribe this and prescribe that,
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and just that whole battle of them basically trying to take control of you and
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your child in that situation instead of just keeping it at assisting and rendering a
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service. They were basically trying to find fault with my fatherhood. They were
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just basically trying to find fault with the way that I'm raising my son.
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And they want to come visit. They want to come in, they want
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to look, they want to record, they want to take pictures, they
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want to rewind, they want a store, they want to replay, and
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they just want to critique and stereotype and all these different things to where it
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seems like getting to help. It was more almost like an attack, like
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an invasion, because I guess they were so bewildered in their mind. Excuse
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me, that we're dealing with a man a father and his son, and
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a strong man at that, and a man of faith where words of wisdom
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it's coming out of his mouth. And we keep asking him does he smoke?
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Does he when the last time he did drugs? And he doesn't do
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none of that, And we can't find anything to get us proactive and get
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us started to act where we used to or where we've been conditioned and where
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we've been good at to strip to strip or tear apart or separate this family
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to where he's presented a united strong front of strength and power and understanding,
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to where he's placing us and forcing us to do our job and do what
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we said we were able to do and produce what we said we're able to
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produce because he's engaging, he's present, and he's active, and he has
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his files, he has he has everything lined up, and we can't do
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anything but give him what we told him. He qual fires for, so
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we have to do it. But that tax didn't stop. The tax was
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every meeting. Have you had anything to drink? Have you had anything to
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smoke? No, I'm in church. I don't do none of those things.
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But I understand that there may be people that do so they have to
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check, but just at that time, at that place in my life where
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I was, it just felt like an attack, like they was trying to
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really find fault concerning my parenting and all that kind of stuff. So I
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eventually took parenting in and got a certificate, and they turned around and wanted
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me to work for them and asked me had I worked for the county before
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I eventually started working with them in the mail room in the Beverly County DPS
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as a mail clerk for the county. They gave me a certificate that they
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employees usually would have to go to college and take a course for because I
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already came in tools of an intake work being a part of the county and
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the gain system trying to gain employment. One of the hindrances why I had
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to go that route is being a single father in the widow yes at the
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same time, but I was fighting having a criminal record, so I had
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to have get my certificate of rehabilitations and have my rights restored and go through
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all that from four felonies, so I qualified for four certificates of the of
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having my rights restored the four certificates of rehabilitation to have my rights restored.
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And it took the four felonies through the court system to restore my rights and
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it got rid of the felonists. So I had to basically use the system
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against the system while in the system for them to kick me out of the
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system and I could become more independent and deepending up on God and other reasons
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as a full citizen that has its full rights. Right. Do you think
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they with you getting the help? Do you think they dabbled into your past
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a little bit and maybe try to use some of that against you? Maybe
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why they kind of you know, the red tape a little bit, all
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the things that they were taking you through. Yes, no doubt. Because
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when you fill out any applications of any for any services or any help or
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any monies or whatever like that, they want to basically know everything about you.
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And the questionnaire excuse me that they have is have you ever been incarcerated
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or have you committed a crime? Do you have feelments? So I had
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to fill out this paperwork correctly, But what they didn't realize is basically real
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realitates was caused by way of salvation. So I had accepted salvation, and
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I took my salvation serious. So the salvation allowed allowed the rehabilitation, and
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rehabilitation is change. So I had allowed change to come to my life because
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of salvation, which in turn allowed me to have a resume and allowed me
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to have a portfolio of working with gang intervention at Resuth, being a part
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of church and the ministry, working with the community. So all that I
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understood that I was building a resume of works. I was building a resume
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of labor, and I was building a resume that they would have to under
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my labor as a changed man instead of looking at my criminal background from the
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old man. So I had to represent a file at my portfolio of who
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I am and who I was at that time versus the criminals background. So
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I had to present to them documents. I got letters from the jobs that
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I had in the schools and the professors that Saturday class and allowed them to
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teach me. I got character letters and collected character letters from these individuals that
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I knew that had something good to say about me. I asked them because
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they put it in a letter form, because I have some work concerning my
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image. So I allowed the good things that I was doing in my life
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at that time, to work with me concerning the system to change my image
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which presented my rehabilitation in the eyes of the criminal justice system and the court
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system in the world of my image of being a former feeling to a noun
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upstanding citizen. I'm kind of glad the conversation kind of went there because I
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wasn't going to even go there roll as far as you know, your ass
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having to play play a part in that. But which is good because you
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know life life, you know, sometimes we make mistakes, we make choices,
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and sometimes some of those choices and things uh were rearest head in your
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in the future, even though you know we may have made some changes.
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But it's good that we're bringing it up because this this could happen to anyone,
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and it's called being being prepared for the inevitable, you like, like
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using your experience. There could be another father who could have gone through a
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background and and maybe have had, you know, a criminal background and various
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different things, and they're in a position to now have to take care of
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a child for whatever reason. You know, the mother could have passed and
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I see it, you know, and just because you have a past,
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does not mean that you're not a father who will take responsibility for their for
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your children and eventually become a better man. But sometimes the system, because
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of the things that have happened in the past, will kind of, you
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know, come against you when you're trying to do the right thing. You
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know. Yeah, and so and so I'm glad that you brought some light
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to that because that can you know, give hope to some men who are
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trying to be a better band, a better father, you know, for
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their children, and just to let them know, hey, yes you may
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have some opposition along the way, but be prepared, get your everything in
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order, get some character, let us, you know, create you a
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file. It's like basically staying one or two steps ahead, you know,
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because if you know you have a pass, some of these things can eventually
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come up in something, and so start start getting your you're due to the
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row because you know you have this. Then okay, start doing some community
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service, you know, get yourself in church, you know, and start
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creating you a foul because you never know what can happen. We would like
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to think things are not gonna happen, but there, you know, there's
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some sacrifices that's gonna have to take place once you know where you messed up
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and you have to clean up. So some sacrifices that you're gonna have to
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make is this. You may have to become a volunteer for a season,
40:45
show up for thirty minutes or an hour somewhere to do a service. You
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may have to do some check for work and not get paid for it.
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But the but the but the understanding comes here and you negotiated with whoever the
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head administry that is, I'll come clean up your yard, I'll clean up
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your park, I'll help clean your facility. Not for payment. If you
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want to pay me, that's fine. But I would like to show up
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an hour every other day, twice a week or something to do some community
41:15
service work, volunteer to wash some walls or whatever like that. And the
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only thing I want you to do is document these times and check my work
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rate, my work and keep them in a letter or in a folder,
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these scheduled times and my work performance, my attitude performance, how I work
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well around others, how I work well with people, how I carry myself,
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and all these descriptive terminology concerning how it will to work around me and
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be around me. I need. I just need this documented so that because
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I need to build a portfolio, I need to build a resume of some
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services that I have to take care of concerning my past. And I'm seeking
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to be abilitated so that my rights as a US citizen can be restored.
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So you may have to need it because because you may have a job to
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where the supervisors don't like you, so you may not be able to use
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your job, so you have to do others. You gotta go basically go
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to the extreme. And all these things are the tools to help you fight
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the fight that you have to fight, and you can win. You can
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do it. You just have to get the knowledge and the information and use
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wisdom and discretion for an ego and pride or a shame and all these different
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things to come upon you because people may see you sweeping around a church,
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or people may see you sweeping around the facility of painting some walls or picking
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up some trash and all that or concept, Know that you're doing this for
42:49
a reason, Know that you have a why, Know you that you have
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an aim, Know that you have a reason why you need to do these
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things for the greater goods. So you may have to can fight some time
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and sacrifice some turn up and sacrifice some parties and sacrifice some business here and
43:06
there to rebuild yourself, re estat yourself, and work on your as a
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man. Right. Wow, that's that's good boy. Time flies when you're
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having a good conversation. So we are coming to the end of the show.
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But I did want you to just leave a little word of an encouragement
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for our men today. Uh. You know another father who may be going
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through the same situation as you. Uh, just leave a little bit of
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an encouragement for them so that you know they can say, hey, I
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can make it too. Yes, I will say today you may find yourself
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in a deep, dark pit, but if you look up, you'll see
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like and you can get more. And the more they put dirt in that
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pit, you begin to raise up. But you have to want to get
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up. That pit is not permanent, it's only temporary. And because it's
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temporary, change it's gonna come, but you have to want it, you
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have to embrace it, and you have to go after that change, not
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receiving anyone's permission, but yours and your permission you've given yourself permission to get
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about that pit, and the strength and the hope and the faith to raise
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yourself up out of that pit. It's all you need. You're not too
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deep in that pit where God cannot raise it. Put his hand down and
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raise you up out of that pit. You have to want it, so
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you may have to raise your hands up while your hands is down by your
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side and your head is down while you in that pit. Look, get
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up, chests out, cheerin up, look to the sky, and raise
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your hands and cry out, Jesus, my Lord, I need your help.
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And not Ben declared that today it is not a warranty, but a
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guarantee. He will harken too the voice of your cry and hear you and
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raise you up out of that pit. Well, the only way you will
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ever even return to the pit is to help another man, or help another
45:46
brother out of that pit. And I'll leave you with this today, and
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I hope that encourage any man, any father's, single father, wad or
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brother that finds us of down in any kind of pit. Get up,
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cheatin up, chest out, look up, and hands up, and cry
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out to God so that he can raise you out of that fit for that
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situation that you will because he declares that he's a very president in the time
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of trouble. Yeah, see encouraged. Yes, Oh that was wonderful.
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Well, we're coming to the end of the show. But I did want
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to say our next show would be uh two weeks from now on a Wednesday,
46:36
so I won't get the opportunity. But our anniversary is coming up,
46:42
our third year and the wedding anniversary, y'all will be married three years had
46:52
all these teeth, So happy anniversary, babe, and I thank you and
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everyone who has viewed. And I'm gonna have to have I'm gonna have to
47:02
have you back. And my husband has so much information bottled up on the
47:07
inside of him that is you can't get it all out at one show.
47:10
So so thank you for tuning into Yeah, thank you for tuning in to
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to the Nations with prophets Amona Williams Young, I pray that something was said
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that ulifted your spirit. I pray that something was said that help you stay.
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I too can walk this journey and just know that with the help of
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God, greater is he that is in you than he that is in the
47:44
world, you can do anything that your mindsets to do. I'm not a
47:47
widower, I've ever been a widower, but I know how it is to
47:52
lose somebody special. So I pray your strength on today, and men,
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we love you, we love you, and we are here for you.
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Quick thing, babe, don't just get you anybody man, get you a
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her and that's all I gotta say. Anybody her, get you, well,
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get you alrighty well, this conclude our show, and I thank you
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everyone for tuning in and I appreciate you all. And you guys have a
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wonderful night. Somebody said on last, Hold on Last, Come on again,