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Comment Section Crash Out · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to untraditionally, Laala, Hello, gorgeous,
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to untraditionally, Lala. If you guys recall, I did
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  Speaker 1: an episode I want to say last week about the
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  Speaker 1: drama with Taylor Frankie Paul. And you know, I like
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  Speaker 1: to think that I'm a compassionate person. I like to
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  Speaker 1: think that I've lived some life so I can speak
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  Speaker 1: from experience. But I also like to think that I'm
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  Speaker 1: not soft. And with my upbringing, you know, my mom
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  Speaker 1: babied us, but she was always the person who said,
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  Speaker 1: you may have gone through a lot of stuff, but
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  Speaker 1: you better rise to the occasion. You cannot fault anybody
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  Speaker 1: or anything because you are responsible for your emotions, you
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  Speaker 1: are responsible for your actions. And so I lead with that,
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  Speaker 1: and I lead with that in the conversation about Taylor
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  Speaker 1: Frankie Paul and her hurling furniture, I was shocked to
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  Speaker 1: my very core when I looked in the comments section.
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  Speaker 1: You guys were going in on me for basically saying,
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  Speaker 1: this woman needs the help. And I didn't condone her
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  Speaker 1: throwing steel fucking barstools in the direction of another person
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  Speaker 1: while her child was present. I was defending this tiny,
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  Speaker 1: little five year old, which I have. I have a
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  Speaker 1: five year old, like I can literally think of a
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  Speaker 1: five year old and go, oh, I have that. So
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  Speaker 1: I know exactly like the type of little human and
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  Speaker 1: little personality that a five year old is. Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: I'm defending this five year old, which should be a
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  Speaker 1: no brainer. I truly could not believe what I was reading.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all want to talk about the trauma and then bring
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  Speaker 1: me into it. That was the greatest part was I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to say. I was in a spiral over
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  Speaker 1: the comments. Shocked over the fucking comments. These are some
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  Speaker 1: of them. These are some of them. Okay, Lala, you
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  Speaker 1: have no position to talk? Why, bitch? Why do I
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  Speaker 1: have no position to talk? Because I was a drunk
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  Speaker 1: and have been sober for seven and a half years
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  Speaker 1: and not once hurled furniture, but have definitely gotten physical
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  Speaker 1: in my past when I was intoxicated, which led me
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  Speaker 1: to get sober. I think I'm the perfect candidate to
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  Speaker 1: fucking talk, bitch. That's right, I'm fucking heated. Wow. I
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  Speaker 1: used to love you, but you got this all wrong,
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  Speaker 1: and you're the least wholesome person in the world, even
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  Speaker 1: as a mother. This is my favorite.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: I used to love you. You you never loved me
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  Speaker 1: because you don't know me. You watch me on television.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate you thinking you know what love is. But
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  Speaker 1: the fact that you could love me watch a thirty
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  Speaker 1: second clip and not love me, that's not love. Also,
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  Speaker 1: I never claimed to be wholesome. I'm on a podcast
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  Speaker 1: talking about blow jobs and eating ass like duh, no shit,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not wholesome. Also, Wow, I used to love you.
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  Speaker 1: But you've got this all wrong. You guys, some of
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  Speaker 1: you saying you don't know the facts. You don't know
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  Speaker 1: the whole story. Neither do you. You weren't in the room,
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  Speaker 1: you weren't taking the police report. Y'all are watching and
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  Speaker 1: reading the news just like I am. How much more
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  Speaker 1: informed could you be than me? We're all reading the
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  Speaker 1: same shit. So drunk, La La was an angel, no bitch,
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  Speaker 1: That's why I'm sober seven and a half years. So
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  Speaker 1: I am sober seven and a half years. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I'm sober for seven and a half years. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how much more clear I could make this. I
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  Speaker 1: was not proud of my actions when I drank so
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  Speaker 1: I got sober. I'm gonna lose all my listeners after this,
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  Speaker 1: but truly I was angry. I'm like, these are the comments,
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  Speaker 1: These are the comments Laala on her high horse, acting
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  Speaker 1: like she's never acted that way. Yes, that's why I'm
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  Speaker 1: seven and a half years sober. Fuck Anyway, I called
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  Speaker 1: to the haters. I was like, you know what you
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  Speaker 1: guys want to talk about it, Let's talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: And again we posted the haters i Instagram story to
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  Speaker 1: call all of you to the forefront. And it was
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  Speaker 1: like crickets again. Some of you are very click happy,
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  Speaker 1: but then when it comes to facing off with me,
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  Speaker 1: you run scared. We even reached out to some of
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  Speaker 1: the haters like, hey, we saw your comment, would love
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  Speaker 1: to have you on the episode Crickets. But then a
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  Speaker 1: wonderful hater came through. All right, I'm so excited to
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  Speaker 1: have you. Hi, Meredith, I'm Lala. I'm so did you
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  Speaker 1: write in or did we reach out to you?
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  Speaker 2: Did?
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  Speaker 1: I did write in?
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  Speaker 2: I wrote in as a former hater, current Lala lover.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well let's talk about the hate because it's the
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  Speaker 1: Hater Podcast. What made you not dig me?
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, when you first came on in season four, I
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  Speaker 2: thought you were kind of airheaded and vapid and just
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  Speaker 2: like this holier than that personality. That's how they portray
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  Speaker 2: trade you on the show, not saying that's how you were,
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  Speaker 2: but that's how it kind of came off that you
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  Speaker 2: were just angsty, my shit don't stink kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of I don't even watch season four, so I
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  Speaker 1: can't watch it so much since then, so I'm so embarrassed.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, who is this person? Anyway? Keep going.
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  Speaker 2: And while and it's just kind of like hit me
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  Speaker 2: the wrong way of like, oh, I don't like this girl.
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  Speaker 1: There's something, there's something off about this.
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  Speaker 2: And then just like as you progressed, you kind of
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  Speaker 2: were very combative and like anytime you had issues with people,
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  Speaker 2: it was just like punch it, base on, like take it.
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  Speaker 1: And I know you were super young and.
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  Speaker 2: Naive and just went through this new experience, but right
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  Speaker 2: out the gate, I was like, well, I don't like
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  Speaker 2: La La. And then I used to be a Katie fan,
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  Speaker 2: and when you had issues with Katie, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: pump the.
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  Speaker 1: Brakes, right, I love this.
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  Speaker 2: But then the first time that I was like fan
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  Speaker 2: Laala was when Jax was trying to pull bullshit with
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  Speaker 2: you and trying to lie about things that were being
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  Speaker 2: said with and try and tell Brittany that, oh no,
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  Speaker 2: it was all you, that you were the bad person,
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  Speaker 2: not him, And I was like, wait a minute, no,
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  Speaker 2: that's not.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's bullshit. Balas got the papers to prove that,
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  Speaker 1: and you did.
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  Speaker 2: And eventually Brittany saw the season and was like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you were telling the truth.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what? I always wonder because I feel
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  Speaker 1: like he had been doing What season was that was
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  Speaker 1: that four? I think that was four? It was like
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  Speaker 1: right out the gate. Yeah, when he was like saying
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  Speaker 1: he didn't have a girlfriend, and yes.
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  Speaker 2: Ok, that was like right when she was coming around
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  Speaker 2: and he was between him trying to hang out with
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  Speaker 2: you and hanging out with her.
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  Speaker 1: And by the way, people still think to this day
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  Speaker 1: that he and I hooked up. I mean, open book.
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  Speaker 1: I would totally be open and honest if we had
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  Speaker 1: hooked up. We never did so much as hold hands
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  Speaker 1: or kiss each other ever he wished. But it was
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  Speaker 1: so wild that he had been doing it for so
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  Speaker 1: long and didn't ever think like this is going to
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  Speaker 1: come out in a few months and she's going to
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  Speaker 1: see the behavior. I don't understand people like that.
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  Speaker 2: He wasn't in the mindset of, oh, this is what's
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  Speaker 2: going to be shown. He's just playing on his lies.
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  Speaker 2: Like what he does is hold down the lies.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and like I think people like him think I'll
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  Speaker 1: deal with this later. Yes, Oh, I'll just handle it
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  Speaker 1: like put it, sweep it.
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  Speaker 2: On in the moment and put it to the back
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  Speaker 2: burner and when it comes back up again, we'll roll
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  Speaker 2: something else.
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  Speaker 1: Right, and we'll go down the line of you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not perfect. I got a lot of work to do.
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  Speaker 1: And then Andy calling him out saying, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: every season you're talking about how you're a work in progress.
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  Speaker 1: That was like his go too, oh yeah, oh yeah, yep,
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  Speaker 1: you know. I I know that there are there are
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  Speaker 1: people like Jacks or who have issues with addiction, but
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  Speaker 1: there are there are things that even if you get sober,
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  Speaker 1: they don't change, Like you still are who you are,
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  Speaker 1: then side is still there. Yeah, And I think do
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  Speaker 1: you watch the Valley at all? Yes? I think this
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  Speaker 1: is the first season. Because I came on to vander
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  Speaker 1: Pump Rules season four, I was not a confident person.
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  Speaker 1: I think when people watched me. I seemed very much
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  Speaker 1: like you said, vapid and holier than now. But I
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  Speaker 1: think it was a defense mechanism.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think it was a combination of drinking and also
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  Speaker 1: being very guarded because I knew if this group saw
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  Speaker 1: who I really was and how I felt about myself,
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  Speaker 1: they would eat me alive.
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  Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, because they were established and you were the
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  Speaker 2: new one coming in very much.
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  Speaker 1: So I just guard myself. Yeah. I was not a
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  Speaker 1: confident person, and I think that's why I started drinking
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  Speaker 1: as well, because that kind of numbed that feeling, and
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  Speaker 1: then I could go out into the world and feel
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  Speaker 1: uninhibited and then you know, cut to I get sober,
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  Speaker 1: I get engaged, I have a baby, and then that
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  Speaker 1: ends as quickly as it started, right, And so I
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  Speaker 1: was kind of reeling from that and trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: out my own identity. I had never gone out and
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  Speaker 1: dated sober.
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  Speaker 2: Which is the season that I loved you on. That
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  Speaker 2: was when I started being team Lalla, because right when,
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  Speaker 2: right before everything before you had Ocean and for all
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  Speaker 2: of the craziness with He who shall not be named,
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  Speaker 2: I became a mom. So it changed my whole perspective
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  Speaker 2: in life, and I began to look at you, like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: she's going through stuff, she's struggling, she's dealing with sobriety,
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  Speaker 2: she's dealing with being pregnant, going through all of this
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  Speaker 2: garbage with your ax, and then coming out of that
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  Speaker 2: was like, you're kind of like a rebirth for you
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  Speaker 2: of like everything dropped on you and then your dad
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  Speaker 2: passing and all the stuff that was just like boom
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  Speaker 2: boom boom for you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know, every single person on the planet
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  Speaker 1: has gone through things that are life changing, and those
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  Speaker 1: those moments who shift, they shift who you are, right
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  Speaker 1: And I try to remember that when I'm dealing with
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  Speaker 1: people and like, there's there's a reason why we're having
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  Speaker 1: a differing opinion or our perspectives are different because we've
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  Speaker 1: experienced things in life that have shaped us and we
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  Speaker 1: have different triggers. But I feel like this season on
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  Speaker 1: the Valley, because after vander Pump was over, I really
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  Speaker 1: did have to take a hard look at myself and
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  Speaker 1: go from Okay, I was living off of adrenaline, going
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  Speaker 1: through a custody battle, I'm sober and a single mom. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this is not how I wanted my life to go,
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  Speaker 1: and then I went too far the other way where
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I can't be so guarded that I
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  Speaker 1: don't let anyone in, and then I was almost too soft.
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  Speaker 1: It was very confusing. And I feel like this season
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  Speaker 1: on the Valley, after you know, two and a half
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  Speaker 1: years of just sitting with myself and being a mom
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  Speaker 1: and really laying roots of my own where I'm I'm
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  Speaker 1: really excited to just see it felt different because I
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  Speaker 1: had been on vander Pump for quite some time and
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  Speaker 1: it was my It became my safe space, right and
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  Speaker 1: it was comfortable. Now I'm in a new group and
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  Speaker 1: I don't really know my place, but for the first time,
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  Speaker 1: we'll see how it plays out. Right, But from my perspective,
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  Speaker 1: from what I feel like exactly, I feel like I
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  Speaker 1: sat back and was like, I'm going to hear people
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  Speaker 1: out before I react, and when they say something that
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  Speaker 1: maybe I don't like, I'm either going to repeat it
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  Speaker 1: to make sure I got this correct before I react.
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  Speaker 1: And that felt really good. I was like, that's not
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  Speaker 1: like me. I'm a reactor, which I.
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  Speaker 2: Think, oh yeah, absolutely, Which I think is where a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people didn't like you is because you had
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  Speaker 2: valid points.
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  Speaker 1: It was just how you were saying it. Oh my god, girl,
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  Speaker 1: I just had this conversation with my mother this morning
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  Speaker 1: and yesterday She's like, it's not about what you're saying,
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  Speaker 1: it's your delivery and your tone. Yep. Looking back on it, yep,
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  Speaker 1: that is a conversation, Meredith, I have with my mother
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  Speaker 1: on a daily basis. It's not what you're saying, it's
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  Speaker 1: your delivery and your tone. And I'm like, fuck, I
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  Speaker 1: really got to work on that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's where sitting back and just taking a moment
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  Speaker 2: can give you that perspective.
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  Speaker 1: We'll see well when you watch The Valley, you know,
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  Speaker 1: episode one airs tomorrow, which it's laying the groundwork. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm really excited to wait hear your thoughts on it. Absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait. I loved this, Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: And I loved your beef by the way, it was
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  Speaker 1: so nice to hear something different than I usually hear.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, My beef was early on, and as
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  Speaker 2: I've seen you change through all the seasons, especially after
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  Speaker 2: season eight and then into season nine, it was like,
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  Speaker 2: all right, team Ala. She's been going through a whole
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  Speaker 2: bunch and this explains.
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  Speaker 1: Why I love this and How old is your baby now?
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  Speaker 2: He is six six Yeah, he turned seven in September.
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  Speaker 1: Why is he a Rgo baby? He is, yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was his birthday September fourth. He's born on the
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  Speaker 1: same day as Beyonce. Yep, he's a Burgo. I love
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  Speaker 1: this well. I'm happy that we could venture in a
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  Speaker 1: motherhood around the same time. Thank you for not being
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  Speaker 1: afraid to like face off with me. I hope you
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  Speaker 1: have the best day. I was more surprised to be
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  Speaker 1: reached out to. I love it well. Welcome. I hope
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  Speaker 1: you're still a fan after this and we'll talk soon.
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  Speaker 2: All right, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: You're welcome by babe. Hi gorgeous. By this lighting is
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  Speaker 1: fucking fantastic. Where are you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm in my car.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, there we go? You got that? You got that
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  Speaker 1: good natural light going? Yeah. Yeah, welcome.
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  Speaker 3: I'm happy to be here.
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  Speaker 1: Are you Are you nervous?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Are you?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't be nervous. It's so funny that every time
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  Speaker 1: someone comes on here, they're like, I'm so nervous. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: you have nothing to be nervous about. So did we
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  Speaker 1: reach out to you or did you reach out to us?
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: I reach out to you wow, a bitch with some ovaries.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. Okay, what's your beef with me?
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  Speaker 3: It was early La La on vander pump Roles watching you.
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  Speaker 1: Are we talking like season four? Like first came on season.
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  Speaker 4: Four maybe five, I think is when this happened. I
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  Speaker 4: believe just the the and I love it now, like
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  Speaker 4: i've as things have gone on, I've learned it's very
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  Speaker 4: endearing about you. Just that sharp tongue was a little
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  Speaker 4: off putting to me in the beginning, and I just
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  Speaker 4: couldn't relate.
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  Speaker 3: When you talked about I can see everyone here hasn't
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  Speaker 3: been working on their summer bodies.
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  Speaker 1: It was like so fucking rude, and I was so slammed.
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  Speaker 4: And I know obviously, I yeah, I followed your journey,
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  Speaker 4: so I've learned kind of where you were at in
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  Speaker 4: that time, in this headspace you were probably in. I mean, now,
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  Speaker 4: I don't think everyone was the nicest to you either,
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  Speaker 4: but just the reaction it was hard for me to
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  Speaker 4: relate to and so I had a hard time and
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  Speaker 4: things took a turn in season seven for me with you.
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  Speaker 1: Season seven, okay, so I think that I believe that
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  Speaker 1: that was the season I lost my dad. I think, yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: and you started to like me that seasons season.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that was yes, No, I know, I know you
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  Speaker 3: still had it there.
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  Speaker 4: But the thing was is I had lost my grandmother
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  Speaker 4: and then eight months later lost my grandfather, and so
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  Speaker 4: I felt like I could understand you and where you
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  Speaker 4: were coming from.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, it was crazy. I was like, I get it.
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  Speaker 3: I get what she's going through the process.
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  Speaker 4: And obviously it's nothing like losing a parent, but like
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  Speaker 4: I was like, I understand how she's reacting this way.
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  Speaker 4: I get it because it's it's a wild thing, the
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  Speaker 4: grieving process.
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  Speaker 1: It is wild, and I don't think I don't think
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  Speaker 1: it matters whether it's a grandparent, you're a friend. Like
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  Speaker 1: we all have such personal relationships with certain people, right,
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  Speaker 1: and we're all affected differently by the grieving process. I
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  Speaker 1: noticed that during that time, which I shouldn't have I
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't have gone back. I had lost my dad three
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  Speaker 1: weeks before cameras picked up, you know, yeah, and it
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  Speaker 1: was just, I mean, earth shattering, and I was in
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  Speaker 1: the stage of just being so fucking mad and just
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  Speaker 1: angry at life. And that was an intense season. And
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think my hair matched how I was
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: feeling like I was jet black. I was trying not
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  Speaker 1: to drink because I didn't want to be chaotic. Turns
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  Speaker 1: out I was chaotic even without drinking. And then there
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  Speaker 1: were times where I'm like, I'm just gonna like slip
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  Speaker 1: some champagne, maybe a whole bottle or two, and it
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  Speaker 1: was intense. Yeah, So I'm I'm actually shocked that that
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  Speaker 1: was the turning point for you, because actually I think
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  Speaker 1: that's the season where I actually lost a few people too.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I know, and I feel like I'm actually on
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  Speaker 4: the side of things where and I honestly completely was
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  Speaker 4: behind you in your last season of Vanderpump And I
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  Speaker 4: hear that that was you talk about.
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  Speaker 1: That I like you, I like you.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I was like, I love this, Yeah
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: I don't.
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm all for asking all the things
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: and saying all the things that to me, I was like,
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: I want to know, I want to hear these are
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: the things I want to see you.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: I dig you, And it's not just because of what
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: you're saying to me. It's just it's just such a
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: different perspective. Like I usually get people on here and
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: they say the same fucking things like you lost me
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: at this point in time, and I'm like, okay, yes,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: the same as everyone else. This is like refreshing. I
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: dig this.
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: And I think as a as a viewer, as a
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: someone like I love Brava watch all the shows. I
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: have tried to really figure out the audience because sometimes
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: I just don't fall in line with what everyone thinks.
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: And I just I at that point I could relate
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: to you in season seven and your grieving process. I
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: was like, I know how she's feeling because I've gone
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: through that, and yeah, there are times where you do
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: things and you're just like you don't even know, You're
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: just trying to go through life and just survive. Everything
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: is exactly that is the word survive. And it really,
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: it really was connected. It was like I could connect
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: with your story at that time, and so it made
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: me turn from your early seasons where I was like,
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: I don't know, I just those things, the things she's saying,
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: I just can't connect.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: I can't imagine why. I mean, I look, I can't
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: even go back and watch even people who you know,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: maybe didn't like me at the time, and then you know,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: over time things become like iconic moments like Bambi eyed
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: Bitch in the moment I was dragged to filth and
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: then it became like an iconic line. But I can't
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: even go back and watch because I don't even recognize
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: that human. And every time I do an interview where
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: someone asks me your number one regret, it is when
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I did the Summer Bodies thing, because I'm like, that
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: is just so foul And I was not raised that way.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: But I'm telling you, when I get backed into a
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: corner and there's alcohol in my system, I am not
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: a nice person, you know.
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And I definitely like getting to know, Like I've
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: always listened to the podcast, so like hearing you speak
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: and talk about your experiences and stuff, I know that
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: that's not who what you believe in, like you're that's
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: not the person that you are. But it came off
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: and yeah, a lot of other things coming into a
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: little boiling point.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I remember telling my mom that I said that,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: and she she was like very disappointed, and I said,
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: you know, they're not nice to me, and she was like,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: you can't. Again, I was raised in this way. If
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: you can't control anybody else, you can only control yourself.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: So when someone says something to you or does something
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: to you and you feed into it and react, it
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: is now your issue. This is now your fault because
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: you can't allow people to get you to that place
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: like you're a grown woman.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: So even though I may have been treated in a
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: certain way, I could have I could have handled things
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: a lot differently, but I didn't. And that's why you know,
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: they had had me back on is I was a
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: loose cannon.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: I was gonna say it made for entertaining.
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: I know some things that are entertaining, you know, kind of,
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: but you know, in the end, vander Pump lived a
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: long life.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: You know what. It was so iconic. Do you watch
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: The Valley? I do.
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: I'm so excited. I can barely wait for it air.
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: I'm so excited.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited too. I've seen by the time this airs,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: you will have seen the first episode two. The first
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: episode is is really cute and fun, and they laid
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: the groundwork of what the season will be. We did
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: press the other day and they've seen through season or
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: through episode three, and they were like, it's really good.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: So I'm so excited for you guys to watch it.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: I'm so excited to see you and Tom back on
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: the screen.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear what you guys think. I'm
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: gonna have to have you back on to give all
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: that thoughts.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: I know, and I love Tom. I actually got to
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: meet him at Pride one year.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: And sir great, He's such a wonderful human. He's just
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: like a bright light. So I think you guys will
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: really enjoy it. I'm so thrilled that you came on, Erica.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're welcome. Thanks for having me on.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Of course, anytime we'll chat soon.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: Okay, bye, babe.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: All right, that was so much fun. I actually every time,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: every time, the two times that we've done the Hater episodes,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: it's kind of the same type of thing that's brought
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: to me, and I'm like, we got to move on
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: from this. Like I'm over it. I'm bored. I've had enough.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Not that I'm bored with you guys, but like, I know,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: the drill I know when I lost you, the fact
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: that we had people on where they talked about how
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: they were not a fan from the jump season four
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: and just talking about my drinking and my I still
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: have a foul mouth, I'm like a fucking sailor. But
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: just the way that I would talk to people and
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: approach people, it was just like so off putting, and
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: like I'm aware of that. I don't look back at
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: those moments and go, actually, there are times where I'm like,
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: she was fucking cool because she didn't care about anything,
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: But that was the booze. You know, I didn't care
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: because I was drunk. My point being is these haters
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: that we had on when I lost them was when
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I was, you know, pretty deep in my alcoholism and
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: just not a kind person and unhinged and unmanageable, and
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: there was no telling when that turning point would hit
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: where I would be in a rage cut to when
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: these haters say that they started digging me. It was
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: the point in time where I had to look within
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: and get sober. And I know I've stated this a
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: million times. I'm seven and a half years sober, and
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: it's something that I'm very proud of. And for anybody
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: in the comments section, especially when I posted that Taylor, Frankie,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: Paul clip of Eesa and I talking about our thoughts,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: for anyone to sit back and try to discredit the
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: work that I have put in to my own life,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: my own self had to sit back and not place
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: blame on anybody and then walk into a room and
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: identify as an alcoholic. That is a humbling experience that
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: not many people experience. And that's why when you walk
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: into those rooms, those are your people, because we all
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: see each other. You're defeated, you're disgusted in yourself, you're ashamed.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: So for anybody to sit here and say, like your past,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: what was good, It's like, I'm aware, which is why
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: I am where I am right now. We can talk.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Take Taylor, Frankie Paul out of it. Put anybody in
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: this situation. I understand that there are traumas that happen
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: that lead you down a path. I will never condone.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: I don't give one fuck about anything that you've been through,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: your trauma. If you're under the influence when there is
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: a child involved, you have lost me. And for those
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: of you who want to defend her behavior, I want
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: you to take her kid out of the equation and
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: replace that child with your own kid. And let's say
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: that she was huck in a chair with your child present,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: what would your reaction be? Then it's not okay. If
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: you are so traumatized by what you have been through
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: that you are capable of hucking furniture with your child there.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: You need to be in a fucking padded room by yourself, solo.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: And I can't believe I have to like sit here
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: and defend this child because you guys want to defend
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: this grown woman. And I understand the like everyone that
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: I've seen in the top comments, it's like, you don't
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: know what it's like with the domestic violence situation. I
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: don't not to that level. I mean, I've never experienced
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: what you guys are saying, that level of just toxicity
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: where people are going toes, and granted I've gone toes,
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I have been a human that I'm not proud of
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: the moment a child's brought into the mix. You better
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: pull your shit together, check yourself in, find a therapist
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to get sober if you need to. You no longer
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: get to be the victim of your circumstances because the
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: moment that you feed into the victim mentality, you have
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: now traumatized your child. And guess what, the cycle continues.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: Break the fucking cycle. We've all been through. Shit. I
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: love you, guys, Thank you so much to my haters
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: who have written in called in faced off, I absolutely
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: adore the set of ovaries that you guys possess. I'm
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: gonna catch you guys on Wednesday for a regular old episode.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: Remember Thursday nights at nine pm An Unlikely Affair with
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: Yours Truly and Amber Childers drops and again on Monday
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: for a bonus episode, Love y'all, Bye,