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Narcissists Are Everywhere. Here’s Where You Will Find Them. · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So where are the most narcissist going to be located?
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  Where are you going to find the most narcissist?
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  Where, where is the narcissistic like patch?
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  Where, where, where are they? Where, where are they hurting
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  that that's what we talked about today, y'all.
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  Where are you going to find the most narcissistic people?
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  If you're new here, my name, this is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist myself and welcome to another
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  episode of the Narcissist Code. Sorry, I do crack myself up
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  sometimes. Like I don't know what I'm going
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  to say. I this is part of what I have
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  going on. This is part of my what part of
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  what makes my channel my channel.
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  I just I have a topic and I just go I just go on it right, But
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  I'm about to start the podcast up.
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  in person or online, the link is in the description of every
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  video that I do and podcast every video and podcast that I
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  do. I both Spotify everywhere,
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  YouTube. But yes, y'all, where are you
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  going to find the most narcissist?
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  You're going to find the most narcissist you're going to find
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  I'm going to get scientific with you.
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  You're going to find the greatest concentration of
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  narcissist where the impacts where, where the resources are
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  right you go. You're going to find them around
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  the watering hole. Your your, your closest
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  empathetic watering hole is where you're going to find the
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  most narcissist right now, I'm joking, but I'm not going to say
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  not but but seriously, narcissists are everywhere.
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  Let's be real. And it's become more prevalent
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  nowadays because of social media, because like the, the
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  light has been shined on narcissistic people because of
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  social media, because of situations like that, right?
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  Because it's everywhere you see it, it's put in, it's put into
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  our faces, it's put into your face, it's put into my face.
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  Like I probably said the word narcissist probably 50,000 times
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  for the last few years. Seriously, it's crazy 'cause I
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  say I say it multiple times per video, of course right, But
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  that's part of it right. That's that's a big piece of it.
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  That's a piece of what I have going on and what I've been
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  experiencing, but I've noticed that most narcissists are going
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  to be like you're going to find them everywhere, y'all, You're
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  absolutely going to find them everywhere.
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  The greatest concentration, of course, is going to be places
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  where you can get supply from the greatest concentration of
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  narcissist. The people.
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  Like if you ask me, if I had to put it like I do, y'all know,
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  I've been doing my one-on-one coaching over Zoom for the last,
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  for the last four years. It's been over 4 years now that
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  I've done my coaching and whatnot over Zoom and people ask
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  me where. What do you think the most
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  narcissists are in the United States?
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  And y'all do not take offense to this, but geographically
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  speaking in the USI feel like I've done more coaching calls
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  with people in Texas than anywhere.
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  Y'all back in the day when I was doing a lot more calls than I am
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  right now, one day I did 6 calls and every single person was from
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  Texas. This is back when I owned my you
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  know, this is back when I owned my laundromat in High Point, NC.
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  I had a laundromat in High Point, NC called B&D Coin
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  Laundry over off of North Centennial.
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  And I did. I was in the back of the
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  laundromat and I did 6 calls one day and each one of the calls,
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  every single one of the calls was in Texas.
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  I was like what the hell? I had a couple in Houston, I had
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  a couple in, I had one in Austin, had a couple in Dallas.
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  I had one in like I think Brownsville or somewhere.
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  It was crazy. I was like, Texas is a hot spot
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  for narcissistic people. It just is.
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  I know, I know it's a red state politically, but it's red on the
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  map from narcissism as well. But then you go from, yeah, this
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  is all anecdotal, right? But then you go from Texas to
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  Cali. Of course the big states, the
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  big states, the bigger states are going to have more
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  narcissism because it's a greater population, right?
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  But I think if people have to ask me, I would say California
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  because of the acting, because of California because of the
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  acting and the modeling and just the, the is the pompousness of
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  it or whatever you want to say is going to be upper Cali is at
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  the right after Texas is Cali. If they're not hand in hand,
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  they're not foot in foot, right? If they're not, you know, if
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  Texas ran a 4-5, A 4.5040 yard dash, California is running a
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  4.51. It's right behind it.
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  It right in line with it because the actors in Hollywood, the
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  models, the reality TV stars, the social media creators, they
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  just the nature of Hollywood wood in California just in
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  general is going to breed. It's going to create the perfect
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  environment for narcissists, right?
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  It, it really just is. Because think about it, in
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  Hollywood, narcissism is damn near a prerequisite to getting
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  anywhere, especially on social media.
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  Like narcissism is a prerequisite for, for, for
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  success, it seems like, doesn't it?
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  Let's keep it real. It seemed like you have to be a
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  narcissist to make it in Hollywood.
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  You seem like you have to be narcissistic to make it and do
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  anything like that in the, in Hollywood or whatever the case
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  may be. Or enacting and modeling Texas.
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  I just, I don't know what it is about Texas.
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  Texas just, you know, it just, it was just one of those States
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  and whatnot. And I've my, my biggest
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  workshops have been in Texas as well, right?
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  I haven't been to Cali yet, probably be in Cali this year.
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  But just overall in general. But then like Lee, what's #3 you
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  got to say you got to, I live in North Carolina.
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  Of course narcissist are in North Carolina.
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  Narcissist are everywhere. But I would say New York, Yeah,
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  because New York has the same kind of vibe that California
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  does, right? They narcissistic people, right?
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  It doesn't, it doesn't really have anything to do with
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  political alignment. When you come to do this spaces,
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  you know, can it can political alignment influence narcissism?
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  Hell yes, absolutely right. But I just feel like this the
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  environment is cultivated in New York and whatnot in California
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  and whatnot and then in Texas, then so on and so forth.
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  Then you got then you got Georgia, not Florida.
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  It'll be Florida next. Those are the top 4.
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  It's Florida as a boy, Florida be killing it, right?
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  For narcissistic people. It's again, it's creating this
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  breeding ground, this environment for narcissistic
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  people to thrive in, to get rewarded for your narcissism, to
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  get rewarded for your toxicity. So why wouldn't it be these
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  bigger states be more influenced by narcissistic people, by toxic
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  people, so to speak? You know what I mean?
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  That's a big piece of it right there.
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  It really is. So there's something you have to
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  consider. I'm not telling you to avoid
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  these states. I know that I know we in the
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  North in the, in the United States right now, we got travel
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  advisories and whatnot for just if people in general don't come
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  to the US, don't come to the US because of certain things that
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  are going all right, but also just about putting the travel
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  advisory on these things. I'm just saying be careful where
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  you go because narcissistic people are ready to pick you
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  off, You know, especially when you're traveling, when you're
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  vulnerable, like you go on a trip.
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  I just broke off my boyfriend. I'm going on a trip.
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  I'm going on a trip to, to, to, to, to Dallas to watch the
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  Cowboys play. And then you get wrapped up in a
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  rodeo with a narcissist. I'm going to Cali narcissist.
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  You see what I'm saying? Got to watch where you go.
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  But again, at the end of the day, narcissists are everywhere,
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  especially online. You're going to meet them
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  everywhere, y'all? You're going to meet
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  narcissistic people everywhere. It's just you can't avoid them,
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  right? You can't.
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  Even if you go build a house in Montana, in the, in the, in the,
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  in the, in the woods of Bozeman, Mt, you go build a house out
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  there in the middle of nowhere, the one neighbor you have within
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  10 miles is going to be a narcissist.
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  They're everywhere. I'm telling you, they're
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  everywhere. We're everywhere.
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  I'm a narcissist. We're everywhere.
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  But it's just like, it's not. I know, but people are like,
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  well, Lee, how the hell can we avoid them?
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  Is of course, avoiding narcissistic people would be
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  good, right? But it's impossible, right?
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  So you want to get to the point where you, you can recognize it
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  and deal with them accordingly. Like if I'm on a first date with
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  somebody and I, I'm, I'm seeing the, the red flags.
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  If I'm on the first date with somebody and the red flags are
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  flying in from all different directions, like they're hitting
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  me in the face, they're in the, you know, it's my, my napkin is
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  a red flag or whatever the case may be.
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  Like if I'm seeing all of this stuff happening and all this
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  stuff transpiring, then I can get up and leave and do I I make
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  a reason to leave. This would be the only date that
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  we have. It's about pattern recognition,
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  recognizing the person might be narcissistic or toxic overall,
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  right? It's not necessarily trying to
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  avoid them, which would be great, but but there's no
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  narcissist goggles you can put on like here you go the meta Ray
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  narcissist the the meta Ray bands the spot narcissist 00.
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  These are amazing. Oh, you toxic as hell.
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  Hell no, you can't. No, you cannot Take Me Out.
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  No, but this is what happens though, y'all?
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  I feel like this is part of what you have to understand.
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  Like narcissists are everywhere and social media has cultivated
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  that environment that narcissists are going to be
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  everywhere, right? They're just, they are, they can
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  fly. I've heard the story of they
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  going from Cali to to they go from Georgia to Cali.
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  You know what I'm saying? They fly in.
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  They, they fly, they will fly into you.
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  They will fly in to be around you and and and so on and so
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  forth, right. They want to be in, they want to
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  be involved with you. They absolutely do.
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  They want to find a way to be around you, to be involved with
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  you and so on and so forth. This is the space that
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  narcissistic people fall into like social media again, you're
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  going to find them online on dating sites.
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  I can, no matter, no matter where I am, I can pretend to be
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  whoever I want to be, regardless of my location.
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  My location does not. Yeah, my, my location cannot.
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  It does not determine who I am, right?
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  Of course, on social media, I can.
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  Damn. There be anywhere and
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  everywhere, right? It really, really can't.
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  I can. Like I said, social media allows
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  me to be any anyone I want to be wherever I want to be, you know,
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  so it doesn't it doesn't put a hindrance on me.
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  But if I say you going to find the most narcissist where you
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  look underneath the underneath the in a, in a, a cold, wet,
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  damp, moist environments where you find the most narcissist,
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  right? That's not like you're hunting
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  for them brown recluse instead of a narcissist, right?
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