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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Inhale. Exhale. Chin up. · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, it's Emily coming in to your feed with
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  Speaker 1: the first installment of.
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  Speaker 2: Five Minute Friday for season five.
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  Speaker 1: If you are new to hurdle, if you need a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of a refresher, On five Minute Friday, I
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  Speaker 1: share a story, something that's going on in my life,
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  Speaker 1: I offer up a thought prompt to take you into
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  Speaker 1: the weekend, and then I finish us off with a
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  Speaker 1: few highlights of the week, some content picks that I
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  Speaker 1: want to share.
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  Speaker 2: With you all.
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  Speaker 1: So this week, okay, this is a positive story, although
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  Speaker 1: it has a it was a hard week for me.
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  Speaker 1: I got many, okay for to be specific, emails that
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  Speaker 1: were kind of a letdown, just like hit after hit
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  Speaker 1: of work related news which just wasn't.
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  Speaker 2: What I wanted to hear.
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  Speaker 1: Whether it was, you know, one about a project that
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  Speaker 1: I literally poured hours and hours into over the holidays.
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  Speaker 1: No less, that project got canned because of a shift
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  Speaker 1: in the company.
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  Speaker 2: Strategy that I was working with.
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  Speaker 1: Another guest had to cancel a recording that I was
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  Speaker 1: really looking forward to and worked really hard to secure
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  Speaker 1: this opportunity. And then just some others that I won't
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  Speaker 1: get into now. But it just felt like I this week,
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  Speaker 1: like I would be running and it felt like I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't get my feet under me. And then I got
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  Speaker 1: knocked down, and then I got back up, and then
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  Speaker 1: I was moving forward and I finally felt like I
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  Speaker 1: was back in my groove again, and then I got
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  Speaker 1: knocked down. And I just know that, man, if you
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  Speaker 1: can probably relate to this feeling. So I'm sitting at
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  Speaker 1: my desk and I was looking out the window and
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  Speaker 1: thinking to myself about like the two different mindsets that
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  Speaker 1: one can often have in this frustrating scenario. Right, There's
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  Speaker 1: like the first mindset, which is like, Okay, let's focus
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  Speaker 1: on the positives here, get your shit together. It's really
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  Speaker 1: awesome that you have earned your seat at this table,
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  Speaker 1: that your name is even in the ring for these things,
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  Speaker 1: that your hard work is paying off. And you know what,
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  Speaker 1: like this one thing not going as you had hoped,
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  Speaker 1: it's okay because it's going to open up your energy
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  Speaker 1: and your time for like the thing that is gonna
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  Speaker 1: be the thing.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So that's headspace number one. Headspace number two, it's you know,
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  Speaker 1: woe is me? Why as just just sucking? I'm crying, Like,
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  Speaker 1: can I just feel sad for a little bit?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like that one.
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  Speaker 1: And I know I've told this story on the show before,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel like it's a great time to bring
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  Speaker 1: it back into the mix. When I was the fitness
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  Speaker 1: editor atself in twenty sixteen, I was working on a
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  Speaker 1: package for our Olympics themed issue and I interviewed a hurdler,
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  Speaker 1: a serious hurdler named Don Harper Nelson, and Don talked
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  Speaker 1: to me about the World Championships in Beijing in twenty
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  Speaker 1: fifteen when she tripped over the second hurdle in one
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  Speaker 1: of her races, and she was mortified and angry and
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  Speaker 1: understandably upset, and she literally jumped a couple offenses so
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  Speaker 1: that she didn't have to go toward where all the
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  Speaker 1: media were waiting to talk to the athletes. And I
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  Speaker 1: think she was in that process or thinking about undergoing
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  Speaker 1: that process, when she finally stopped for a moment and
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  Speaker 1: took a breath, and she realized in that moment, and
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  Speaker 1: it's something I'd come back to time and time again,
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  Speaker 1: which is why I'm sharing it with you possibly again,
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  Speaker 1: that she had the opportunity in this moment to be
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  Speaker 1: a upset for sure, that she knew she didn't work
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  Speaker 1: that hard to quote unquote fail. But she also understood
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  Speaker 1: that this was a teachable moment and that we have
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity in all of these moments when things aren't
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  Speaker 1: going as we had hoped to recognize the situation, take
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  Speaker 1: a deep breath and learn from it. Talk about a
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  Speaker 1: growth mindset, right. And So, as I was sitting here
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  Speaker 1: at my desk thinking about all of this stuff, I
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  Speaker 1: had my moment. I digested what was going on. I
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  Speaker 1: talked it out with a friend, and then I decided
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  Speaker 1: that headspace number one is just where it's at. I
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  Speaker 1: am talking to you about this because lately, for me,
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  Speaker 1: it feels as though the highlight reel is just in
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  Speaker 1: full effect, like everyone around me is succeeding and their
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  Speaker 1: life is all like glitz and glamor, even though they
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  Speaker 1: are also like working from home and everything is going
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  Speaker 1: right for everybody else, get me wrong, Like I love
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  Speaker 1: to be your cheerleader. There's literally nothing that brings me
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  Speaker 1: more joy. I love to see people succeed. I love
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  Speaker 1: to cheer you on. I want to hype you up.
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  Speaker 1: But it's just hard to not fall into the comparison trap,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Still, I know that everyone
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  Speaker 1: is dealing with their own struggle, their own things that
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  Speaker 1: we're not seeing on social media. And so I open
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  Speaker 1: up with you here because I want you to know
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  Speaker 1: if there is something that you are struggling with, that
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  Speaker 1: you are not the only one in the struggle, and
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  Speaker 1: you will never be the only one in the struggle,
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  Speaker 1: and neither well I. The fact is that we need
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  Speaker 1: to show up and be honest with one another so
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  Speaker 1: that we can destigmatize this idea that everything is supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be roses and flowers all of the time, because
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  Speaker 1: I mean, don't get me wrong, like I would love
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  Speaker 1: roses and flowers all the time, but life doesn't work
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  Speaker 1: like that. And so I know that I'm not the
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  Speaker 1: only person here sitting in her gray jumpsuit. And I
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  Speaker 1: say that also because I'm sure that you were all
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  Speaker 1: targeted for the very gray jumpsuit that I'm sitting here
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  Speaker 1: wearing from old Navy. I know I'm not the only
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  Speaker 1: person sitting here in her jumpsuit at her desk feeling
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  Speaker 1: some kind of way. And I also know that I
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity to think about how I feel and
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  Speaker 1: use that energy, use this frustration to level up to
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  Speaker 1: go after the next thing.
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  Speaker 2: That it is that I want and what a beautiful
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  Speaker 2: opportunity that is this week.
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  Speaker 1: For the prompt, I am asking you to get grateful
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  Speaker 1: and come back to the idea.
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  Speaker 2: Of focusing on the good.
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  Speaker 1: So, what are three things that happen for you this
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  Speaker 1: week that are your silver lining?
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  Speaker 2: Again?
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  Speaker 1: What are three things that happen for you this week
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  Speaker 1: that are your silver lining highlights of the week. All
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  Speaker 1: of this stuff links to the content can be found
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  Speaker 1: in the show notes. First up, watch you knew this
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  Speaker 1: was coming. Framing Britney spears Man this documentary it blew
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  Speaker 1: my mind. I feel like I've heard about a lot
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  Speaker 1: of these things over the years in all of the
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  Speaker 1: news coverage, but unless you have been living under a rock,
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  Speaker 1: you know that. This week the New York Times released
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  Speaker 1: a documentary that goes into the backstory of Britney spears
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  Speaker 1: It details the circumstances surrounding her conservatorship, which we've heard
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  Speaker 1: a lot about in the last few years, and the
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  Speaker 1: quote unquote free Britney movement, and it really dives into,
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  Speaker 1: you know, what she was going through, how she was
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  Speaker 1: battling with all of these paparazzi, and the lifestyle that
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  Speaker 1: came with being so famous at such a young age
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  Speaker 1: and how that transitioned and kind of unfolded over time.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, this documentary was fascinating, so I would definitely
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  Speaker 1: recommend it.
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  Speaker 2: Another watch for you.
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  Speaker 1: I got suckered into Firefly Lane, like I'm sure some
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  Speaker 1: of you have as well. Firefly Lane is a series
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  Speaker 1: on Netflix. It's with Catherine Heigel and Sarah Chuck and
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  Speaker 1: it's the story of their friendship which starts when their
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  Speaker 1: neighbors as young girls and preteens and goes into now
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  Speaker 1: as they are older and with families and establishing their careers,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, it's just a good, feel good binge.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of situation. Listen, I don't know where I have been.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I've been under a rock, but Spotify does a
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  Speaker 1: TVT playlist, and maybe.
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  Speaker 2: I've been living under a rock.
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  Speaker 1: But one of my Brooklyn track club teammates tweeted about
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  Speaker 1: this yesterday, and this week's is awesome. I mean, it
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  Speaker 1: starts off with my Boo by Usher, It's like all
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day themed We've got like at Last by Edna James,
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  Speaker 1: I Want to Know by Joe Adorn by Miguel Love
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  Speaker 1: on Top Beyonce like these are the hits, and the
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  Speaker 1: fact that it also caps off with Angel of Mine
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  Speaker 1: by Monica like No Brain or for Me last highlight
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  Speaker 1: to bring you this week. Listen how to Do Nothing
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  Speaker 1: with Jenny Odell on ten Percent Happier. If you're the
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  Speaker 1: kind of person who feels externer pressure to be constantly productive,
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  Speaker 1: It's a theme that we talk about a lot on
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  Speaker 1: the show.
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  Speaker 2: You are not alone.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sitting here like raising my hand, and that's really
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  Speaker 1: what they're diving into here on ten percent Happier. Jenny
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  Speaker 1: Odell is a lecturer in the Stanford Department of Art
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  Speaker 1: in art History. She's also a best selling author of
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  Speaker 1: the book How to Do Nothing, and in this conversation
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  Speaker 1: she talks about the importance of planned or unplanned moments
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  Speaker 1: where you do nothing and how they can be really
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  Speaker 1: beneficial for you.
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  Speaker 2: So give that a listen. Let's wrap about it. In
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  Speaker 2: the DMS, I Am all Ears.
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  Speaker 1: We're getting closer to the end of the month, which
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  Speaker 1: means that we are getting closer to our book club.
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  Speaker 2: The sign up for that is in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: We are reading Bravy by Alexi Papas and Last Call
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  Speaker 1: to Action. If you haven't entered the giveaway yet for
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  Speaker 1: the season five kickoff. You can do some until Monday,
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  Speaker 1: weary fifteen, so head on over to my Instagram at
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  Speaker 1: Emily a Body where you can get all the details
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  Speaker 1: on that and do not forget, of course, to follow
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle over at Hurdle Podcast. Happy love day, y'all. I
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  Speaker 1: appreciate you. Another hurdle concord. Catch you guys next time.