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Ep 11: What if the "Fairytale" isn’t what you really want? · Magic Divorce Club Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Magic Divorce Club podcast.
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  This is your space to successfully navigate your divorce with
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  confidence and create
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  SPEAKER_00: a roadmap to the life of your dreams.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host Hannah Harvey.
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  I'm the author of How to Divorce Sober and I have helped
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  thousands of women to
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  SPEAKER_00: process the trauma of divorce and step into an exciting future.
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  SPEAKER_00: for a host of other support tools.
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  hello and welcome to the magic divorce club it's me hannah oh
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  and today i would
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  like to talk about the fairy tale so this is like i guess you
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  take disney plus the
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  SPEAKER_00: 90s and all of the things that we were sort of
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  I don't want to say trained,
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  but trained to want and believe was the right path to take.
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  And this is no shade on anybody who wants it because I was
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  fully there as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I still completely believe in love.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe in spending your time with somebody who...
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  SPEAKER_00: you know, completes you, quote unquote, air quotes going on there.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I do believe in all this stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what happens when you either get the dream that you want and realise,
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  SPEAKER_00: oh no,
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  SPEAKER_00: this is not what I wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or somebody snatches it away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's basically what we're dealing with in divorce is going...
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  huh,
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  I thought I wanted something or I really wanted something and I
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  don't have it anymore.
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  So I wanted to sort of look at that today and also I really
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  want to take you
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  through a visioning exercise because I know when you have this
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  dream either
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  SPEAKER_00: snatched away or you're like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want this anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can feel very sticky and uncomfortable.
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  And you might feel like you can't imagine a world or a life
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  where you're happy again.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I want to take you through this kind of visioning exercise where,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you go into it,
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  SPEAKER_00: you might start to get this glimpse of,
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  SPEAKER_00: oh,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe there is something better after all of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's what we're going to do today.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are driving or whatever,
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  then maybe save the last little bit for when you're not driving
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  because I don't
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  SPEAKER_00: want you to close your eyes or crash.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: My personal story around this is I was literally living in my dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, it was even bigger than my dream house.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was more than I could ever have possibly imagined.
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  SPEAKER_00: And some of this was the dream of my ex-husband.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like, I want to have the biggest house in the area.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to do it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to make it amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then we're going to live there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, it had the view.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a great two-star listed building.
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  SPEAKER_00: And...
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  SPEAKER_00: We spent a lot of time and money.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when I had my youngest, who is now six, she'll be seven soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were right in the middle of a renovation project.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when she was born,
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  we had like the old kitchen and a couple of bedrooms to live in
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  and the rest of the
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  SPEAKER_00: house was just rubble and plaster and just a nightmare.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was not a fun time.
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  SPEAKER_00: But by the time it was finished, it was exquisite.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, just Pinterest, eat your heart out.
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  SPEAKER_00: We had amazing like parquet flooring.
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  SPEAKER_00: The kitchen was this extension with like a big glass window.
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  SPEAKER_00: The nicest kitchen I'd ever seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: The irony is that by the time that kitchen was finished,
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  SPEAKER_00: So were we.
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  And literally the next day the house went on the market to be
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  sold because we were done.
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  SPEAKER_00: But boy, did I try and make that situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wanted it to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I desperately wanted to be happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I would do so much work around
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  SPEAKER_00: Like feeling gratitude and feeling grateful and being like,
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  SPEAKER_00: if I can feel grateful,
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  SPEAKER_00: I can make this work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can make us work.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I just didn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like the more we lived in that house and the more we got into our story,
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  SPEAKER_00: the number and more lost and more anxious and more depressed I felt.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just...
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  couldn't connect I don't know what it was about that whether it
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  was the house or
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  just our relationship but I just couldn't connect the two to
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  being oh I feel really
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  happy here and to be honest like if you've read my book you'll
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  know that there was
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  a lot of things going behind you know on in the background
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  around drugs and alcohol
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  SPEAKER_00: um so I couldn't really feel safe and so uh yeah it came that kind of um
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  SPEAKER_00: I connected it to,
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  SPEAKER_00: like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in that fairy tale house and it was so beautiful,
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  SPEAKER_00: but the fairy tale,
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  SPEAKER_00: sadly,
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  SPEAKER_00: was Bluebeard.
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  so if you know the story of bluebird beard he's like the young
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  girl marries the
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  wealthy man and he gives her the keys to every room in the
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  house except he says you
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  can go in any room here are the keys you just can't go in the
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  room where this key
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  fits and it's like a little scary skull key so obviously when
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  he goes out she is
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  SPEAKER_00: like
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to go find that room.
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  SPEAKER_00: So she goes around the whole house,
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  SPEAKER_00: tries to find the room,
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  SPEAKER_00: unlocks the door,
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  SPEAKER_00: and inside is every dead wife this guy has ever had.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as soon as she's unlocked the door,
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  SPEAKER_00: the key gets this stain on it that she just can't remove.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when Bluebeard comes home, he's like, you've been in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: But luckily, somebody comes and rescues her.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's all good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yeah,
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  SPEAKER_00: the idea is that the room represents a place within us,
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  SPEAKER_00: our psyche,
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  SPEAKER_00: where we won't let ourselves go.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can go everywhere else, but you're not allowed to go in this room.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is kind of what the fairy tale became for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like,
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything's amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything looks lovely on the inside and on the outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I will not allow myself to go into that room where I'm not happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  where I'm kind of silencing myself and not being true to myself
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  and keeping secrets
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  and keeping shame because I didn't want to own the fact that I
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  wasn't happy and I
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  SPEAKER_00: needed to move on.
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  So if you're in that place right now where you're like,
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  why am I not happy with this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I should be.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is everything I ever wanted.
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  And I still feel empty or I still feel like I'm not enough or
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  doing enough or being enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're allowed to feel these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it doesn't mean that the fairy tale wasn't yours.
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  It just means there's certain things that you're maybe not
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  owning right now or
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  SPEAKER_00: allowing yourself to look at.
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  You know,
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  once I did look at this stuff,
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  I'm like,
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  oh yeah,
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  I'm really not happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not my fairy tale anymore.
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  And I am ready to give up all of this in order to live the life
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  that I'm supposed to be living.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not an easy thing to do.
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  It's not easy to,
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  quote unquote,
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  have it all and then go,
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  no,
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  I've got to get out of here.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's not a popular choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's definitely for sure.
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  You know,
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  with the people that you're with,
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  getting divorced is,
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  it's hard,
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  isn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like the stuff that we're going to have to do that just is so difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: But
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  so worth it it's so worth it to have a life where you feel so
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  connected to yourself
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  that you're no longer numbing like I would numb with alcohol
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  with food I would then
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  starve myself and then you know like all of this stuff to try
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  and distract from the
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  fact that I wasn't living the life that I was meant to live and
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  now it's a nice
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  SPEAKER_00: little three up three down like it's
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  It's okay that the dream can change from something huge to
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  something small.
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  And now I talk to you from a place where I'm trying to dream up
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  my next house
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  SPEAKER_00: because I would like to blend my family with my boyfriends.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not an easy transition to make.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's what I'm trying to manifest.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is going to be easy.
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  So what I started to realize as I was moving through my divorce
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  is that being,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: solely driven by the stuff that you're surrounded by,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: it doesn't matter if I'm unhappy because at least I've got all this.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's never, ever, ever going to be sustainable.
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  SPEAKER_00: because we have to be happier on the inside as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that comes from the connections that we make,
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  SPEAKER_00: the experiences that we have,
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  SPEAKER_00: the people we surround ourselves with.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't come from stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the crucial thing I found is that it's important to have goals.
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  It's important to have things that you're striving towards so
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  that you,
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  it gives you momentum.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes you move.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes you take steps forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: but it's not actually about the destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: You kind of have to let go of like, that's the thing that I want.
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  It's actually the process of trying to get to the thing where
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  the magic really,
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  really happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where the cool stuff happens.
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  So if I think about when I was trying to find love,
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  so when I was properly going,
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  right,
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not working using the old dating apps.
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  I am dating absolute idiots who are breaking my heart and not
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  being what I deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so me going, right, I want to find the love of my life.
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  The process of trying to get to that destination actually took
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  me on the wildest ride.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I finally leaned into it and stopped searching...
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  SPEAKER_00: that's when the most amazing things happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have made so many friends from that journey.
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  And it was things like,
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  I just had a really strong calling to get in the sea.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would get in the sea every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I started to make really beautiful friendships and connections.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then yes, in the end, I did find love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was very specific about exactly what I wanted to find.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I would never have got there
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  SPEAKER_00: And had all of this amazing stuff happen in the middle.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I hadn't just gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And going to give up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like fixating on the destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just follow the urges.
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  SPEAKER_00: Follow the nudges of the universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what you need to do next.
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  SPEAKER_00: And really leaning into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it genuinely is.
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  SPEAKER_00: The journey not the destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: And often when you're doing things like manifesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: People will say this or something better.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that you aren't.
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  fully attached to it has to be this one thing so as we kind of
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  you know as you're
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  moving through your divorce you might feel like you're totally
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  losing the fairy
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  tale that you thought you wanted or you might still be attached
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  to it you might be
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  going well that didn't work with this guy so maybe if I go with
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  that guy it will
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  SPEAKER_00: work like
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  It's okay to let some of that stuff go and go,
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  I was brought up in the 90s.
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  Perhaps the fairy tale I thought I wanted actually isn't the
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  one that is going to
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  SPEAKER_00: serve me as a woman with gorgeous children in 2025.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's okay to let that vision that you thought you wanted go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have to be completely.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember sitting in therapy and crying my eyes out because I was like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I had this,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why,
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  SPEAKER_00: I had this vision of like a man standing by the fridge,
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  like next to a notice board or something and actively being
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  involved in me and my
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  SPEAKER_00: kid's life.
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  And I remember sitting there crying and thinking,
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  that's what I really want.
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  imagine i want someone who is also going to hold the mental
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  load of all of this
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  stuff we're trying to do for our kids god i cry in every bloody
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  podcast but it was
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  that moment and realization because i was going no i don't want
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  that anymore these
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  these guys don't exist i'm just going to be on my own forever
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  and then realizing no
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  SPEAKER_00: i really do want to do life with somebody else but it can't be
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  SPEAKER_00: on the old fairy tale terms.
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  SPEAKER_00: It needs to be on this new one where it's a partnership,
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  SPEAKER_00: not just two people coexisting and breaking each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I would really love for this,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: for the rest of this little episode is just to take you through
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  SPEAKER_00: a bit of a visioning idea around letting some of this stuff go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I know at the beginning of divorce,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's like,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's just heartbreaking knowing that the promises you made,
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  SPEAKER_00: the dreams that you had have been crushed and shattered.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, one of my clients this week was like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I just feel like I'm going to be on my own forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know that feeling, but you're not.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just you're, you know, letting go of certain ideals right now.
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  So what I invite you to do is to get yourself into a
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  comfortable position.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it's safe for you to close your eyes, then do.
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  If it's not,
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  continue with what you're doing,
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  but just try and soften yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: your shoulders down into your lower back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just gently going inside.
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  And just with every exhale,
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  allowing your shoulders,
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  your jaw,
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  the sides of your neck to relax.
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  SPEAKER_00: And taking slow, comfortable breaths.
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  SPEAKER_00: Staying connected to your breath for a few more moments.
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  You may be listening to the sound of your breath going in and
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  out of your nose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you can see colors as you breathe in and out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Perhaps you're connected to the way that your breath feels
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  SPEAKER_00: as your chest rises and falls.
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  Just noticing the contact with the ground,
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  feeling gently held and secure.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you'd like to come into the magic divorce clubhouse,
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  SPEAKER_00: imagine it like a huge building surrounded by a protective layer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you walk inside,
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  you feel any connections or things that don't belong to your
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  body fizzling away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you immediately feel protected and safe as you walk inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: You find your space with your name on it.
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  And you settle down in that space wrapping yourself up in a
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  blanket which is made
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  SPEAKER_00: of compassion and loving kindness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you settle down and allow yourself
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  to feel safe and held next to you there's a photo album you
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  pick it up and place it in your lap
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you open the first page, you see an image of yourself.
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  And you're completely free of this constant pressure to hold it
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  all together.
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  You're smiling and you can tell that this was taken when you
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  could sleep really well.
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  SPEAKER_00: and you're enjoying having time with your kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's more images where you look calm.
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  You look like you're not second guessing yourself anymore and
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  you look so confident.
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  And this is taken at a time when you could open an email from
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  your ex or his lawyer
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  SPEAKER_00: and not spiral.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just put it back in its box and continue with being there for your kids,
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  SPEAKER_00: knowing exactly what you need to do next.
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  SPEAKER_00: These pictures of you with your family
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  your friends where you're no longer afraid of your future you
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  look certain and
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  proud of yourself and you look excited about what's next and
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  there's a picture of
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  SPEAKER_00: you doing something that you could only dream of now
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  SPEAKER_00: You've achieved one of your biggest goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you look so happy and proud.
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  And you know this was only possible because you liked yourself
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  again and you stood
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  SPEAKER_00: up for what you deserved.
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  SPEAKER_00: You proved to yourself that you could do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could create this beautiful new life for you and your kids.
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  Allow this feeling to seep into your body,
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  drawing it in through your heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you exhale, sending that energy to every cell of your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because this is not a fairy tale.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your life.
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  And this is completely possible when you start to give yourself
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  permission to go for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Drawing your hands up to your heart space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just take a few more breaths.
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  SPEAKER_00: Arriving back in your space, in your room, wherever you are right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keeping this feeling with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then gently blinking open your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may want to write down what came up.
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  SPEAKER_00: What could you see?
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  SPEAKER_00: What were the dreams that you saw yourself achieving?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love to do this and I did it every day going through divorce.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would do it as if it's already happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'd write down gratitudes for the stuff I wanted as if it's happened.
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  I am so happy and grateful that my kids are happy and safe and
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  they are surrounded
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  SPEAKER_00: by people that love them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am so happy and grateful.
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  I have written a book and created a community of women who are
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  supporting each
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  SPEAKER_00: other and going on to create the life of their dreams.
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  I literally write this stuff down because that's what I want to
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  do and achieve in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to support you guys through it too.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'd love to hear what came up for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just send me a little email saying this is what I saw or
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  SPEAKER_00: This is for a moment I got a glimpse of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you want to write to me and say I couldn't see anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's okay.
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  This is a process that takes time to allow your body and your
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  mind to truly believe
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  SPEAKER_00: that it's possible for you,
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  SPEAKER_00: that you can change your fairy tale and get a new one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you are not going to be on your own forever unless you choose to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that is also a choice that is available to us now.
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  We don't have to have a man or a woman or whoever it is that
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  you're into in your life.
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  You can go on and have an incredible life and be an incredible
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  parent to your kids on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that is something you can choose.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need anybody else to make you enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: You already are enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let go of anything that's no longer serving you.
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  And,
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  you know,
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  this is your invitation to step into a future that you get to
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  choose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would love to support you in this if you would like me to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week, I'm opening up one-to-one spots.
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  SPEAKER_00: I haven't got many, like there's limited spaces available.
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  But I really want to work with people on a one-to-one level
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  with this stuff and
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  really get to know you and your situation and how we can turn
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  this around and get
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  SPEAKER_00: you to that life of your dreams,
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  even if you don't know what that life of your dreams looks like
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  right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you'd like that support with building your confidence,
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  SPEAKER_00: your clarity,
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  SPEAKER_00: feeling calm through your divorce,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know where I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay,
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  SPEAKER_00: my darlings,
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  SPEAKER_00: have a lovely rest of your week and yeah,
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  SPEAKER_00: hopefully see some of you for Magic Monday on Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you could subscribe and leave a review, that would be amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: For all of your tips and tools,
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  head over to magicdivorceclub.substack.com and you can find
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  everything that you
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  SPEAKER_00: need there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got this and I've got you.