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DLHS Hour 2 | Mom wants dad to bring the money not the clothes · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: If you were here for the last debacle. Everybody listen.
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  Speaker 1: A woman asked her baby daddy for school money for
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  Speaker 1: school clothes.
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  Speaker 2: He gets the school clothes, she gets upset. Here here
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  Speaker 2: you go, right here?
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  Speaker 3: What a money at Chris? When at the clothes you
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  Speaker 3: said my son needed, I say give me the money
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  Speaker 3: and I go get what you mean?
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  Speaker 4: No, that's not how it worked. You said my sun
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  Speaker 4: and the clothes. So I bought my slant clothes. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not giving you no cash to spend on whatever you're
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  Speaker 4: gonna spend it on. I bought my slin clothes.
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  Speaker 3: Are you serious right now? I'm there serious?
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  Speaker 4: But I went to got my son and stuff that
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  Speaker 4: he needed for school, and you go to clothes where
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  Speaker 4: he's gonna take it tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Just give me the receipt. I take him back myself.
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  Speaker 4: You receive so you can take my son stuff back.
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  Speaker 4: And spending stuff on what you want to spend.
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  Speaker 3: Does not mean something myself. If he gonna get some stuff,
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  Speaker 3: what do you mean.
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  Speaker 4: I'm here to take care of my son. I'm not
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  Speaker 4: here to take care of you. My job is to
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  Speaker 4: take care.
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  Speaker 1: Of him, because kid down its despite the way we
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  Speaker 1: were waylaid that last second, I don't know where that
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  Speaker 1: came from. But what do you think uh is the
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  Speaker 1: proper response? Do you think that she should be mad
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  Speaker 1: or do you think she like what? Because her getting
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  Speaker 1: mad at leave me to believe that.
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  Speaker 5: You don't have to lead to believe because even if
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  Speaker 5: you when you listen to them them arguing, and she
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  Speaker 5: let it slip that she wanted to get her nails
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  Speaker 5: done to and doing something else that I should be
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  Speaker 5: able to. But it was a whole lot going on.
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  Speaker 5: He was like, yo, you asked for clothes, I got
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  Speaker 5: you closed with you, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And they could take that to the judge to say
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  Speaker 1: this is counsels money.
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  Speaker 6: I guess.
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  Speaker 5: She was like, you got the receipt, nine, you ain't
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  Speaker 5: taking the receipt like she just wanted money. And on
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  Speaker 5: this particular case, I understand where you come from jazz.
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  Speaker 2: At this, I don't.
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  Speaker 7: I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what a lime green tampon has to
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  Speaker 2: do it, any of it, but not that part. But
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  Speaker 2: stupidity sometimes think some more.
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  Speaker 1: But you have your well, I was the oldest now yes,
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  Speaker 1: eighteen eighteen, yes, so close are pretty expensive?
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  Speaker 2: Right close? Yes? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: So do you think I thought he did a solid
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  Speaker 1: thing by like, first off, I think that you should
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  Speaker 1: give uh them the money, child's boy. You shouldn't have
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  Speaker 1: to itemize it. They should just here's the money you owe.
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  Speaker 1: They shouldn't have to get. But when you specifically ask
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  Speaker 1: the money for a thing, and it should be for
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  Speaker 1: that thing, and you're going to do said the thing,
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  Speaker 1: I'm totally if you get child supporting, nobody should be
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  Speaker 1: able to tell you what to do. But if you
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  Speaker 1: ask for a thing for a thing, it should be
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  Speaker 1: for that thing.
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  Speaker 3: Correct.
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  Speaker 2: So I feel like he's not like them as dejection
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  Speaker 2: she just did. I feel like he's winning. He's up.
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  Speaker 2: He actually should get a cake. Yeah the last time
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  Speaker 2: your daughter money? Why that part?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, hold on, hold on, men don't even
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  Speaker 2: want to go into the mall.
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  Speaker 3: We don't, we don't.
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  Speaker 2: We don't need you to attack this brother because he's
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  Speaker 2: going him. What are you talking about? Is your blowgun?
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  Speaker 8: Dude?
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  Speaker 9: Like he's shouts, you ain't got to do it like
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  Speaker 9: you would do a hedgehog.
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  Speaker 7: Like you would.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like he's I feel like.
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  Speaker 10: I feel like he's up in my in my estimation, yes,
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  Speaker 10: because he just he took he took. He took initiative
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  Speaker 10: to me and went ahead, and you got the call because,
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  Speaker 10: like you said, most of us don't want to go
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  Speaker 10: and do that. So the fact that he said, let
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  Speaker 10: me go and do this, and we don't know the
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  Speaker 10: sizes and all that. All we know is that the
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  Speaker 10: man had the money and we.
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  Speaker 2: Just wanted her plan.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if she said she wanted to get
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  Speaker 1: you some other stuff beside shopping.
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  Speaker 11: He said right now, that part I didn't hear. Listen,
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  Speaker 11: if we go back to my initial statement, Okay, what
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  Speaker 11: I said was I'm going to push back just a
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  Speaker 11: little bit here because.
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  Speaker 2: I shut up.
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  Speaker 11: The boy I was making was if he went and
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  Speaker 11: bought the clothes, perhaps they didn't fit, maybe the shoes
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  Speaker 11: you need, the receipts turned over making some stuff up.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, she was going to use it. I'm not wanted.
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  Speaker 2: She don't know that. We do know what she said.
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  Speaker 1: She said, well, now we're talking about I was hoping
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  Speaker 1: to do some other stuff. She got mad because she
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  Speaker 1: was going to use that money to do something other
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  Speaker 1: than she is.
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  Speaker 11: I said, I'm going to push back a little bit.
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  Speaker 11: I didn't say I totally disagree with you. You always
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  Speaker 11: said was I'm going to push back to Well, first
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  Speaker 11: of all, I'm going to take chicks side or a
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  Speaker 11: dude's side, if I believe in what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, the great thing about what you've just done for
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  Speaker 6: Show.
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  Speaker 11: Because they don't they're not and they don't come.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't care what they are. I don't care.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care what they are.
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  Speaker 1: All I know is you can't wear them when what sinners?
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  Speaker 2: I know that.
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  Speaker 1: So the question we asked a woman to ask her
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  Speaker 1: baby daddy for money for clothes, He gets the clothes.
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  Speaker 1: You say gets the clothes instead of giving her the money,
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  Speaker 1: she gets upset.
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  Speaker 2: Listen to this, what a.
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  Speaker 3: Money at Chris? What money that got the clothes? You
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  Speaker 3: said my son needed? I say, give me the money,
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  Speaker 3: and I go get what you mean? You know that's
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  Speaker 3: that's not how it works.
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  Speaker 4: You said, my slend andy clothes. So I bought my
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  Speaker 4: slant clothes. I'm not getting you no cash to spend
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  Speaker 4: on whatever you're gonna spend it on. I bought my
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  Speaker 4: slam clothes.
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  Speaker 3: Are you serious right now? I'm did serious, But.
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  Speaker 4: I want to at my son and stuff that he
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  Speaker 4: needed for school and go to clothes or even gonna
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  Speaker 4: take it tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Just give me the receipt I take back myself.
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  Speaker 4: Give you a receipts so you can take my slim
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  Speaker 4: stuff back and spending stuff on what you want to finish.
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  Speaker 3: I need something, my stuff if he gonna get some stuff.
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  Speaker 4: What you mean, I'm here to take care of my son.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not here to take care of you. My job
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  Speaker 4: is to take care of him.
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  Speaker 12: I saw you and tell you I need money to
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  Speaker 12: get him some clothes.
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  Speaker 3: You bring me a bag of you just say you
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  Speaker 3: need it clothes. I want to go get what he needed.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not giving you no money.
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  Speaker 4: Say you're gonna spend it on you and your your
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  Speaker 4: do you got a whole man at the house, which
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  Speaker 4: you want me to do?
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I did it before
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  Speaker 3: for you, before he spent all the cast. Continue to
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  Speaker 3: do it. No, I'm not taking care of you.
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  Speaker 4: Know my woman her, get my clothes, put that on
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  Speaker 4: him to go to school, and call when he needs
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  Speaker 4: something else.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not I'm not worry about it. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: what you say to take her.
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  Speaker 2: My son is now, who do you think is wrong?
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  Speaker 2: We're going to poms.
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  Speaker 13: That woman ought to be a shame of herself. You
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  Speaker 13: ask the money to get your child some clothes.
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  Speaker 12: He bought the town some clothes.
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  Speaker 13: You want to set aside. She wants to do something
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  Speaker 13: else with their money. It's too many kids out heard
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  Speaker 13: their daddy tried to do for him and the mama
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  Speaker 13: stopped him from doing for him.
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  Speaker 14: That's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 2: That's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 15: My mother, when my daughter was three years old, they
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  Speaker 15: had uh Elizabeth Taylor collection of dresses at everything that
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  Speaker 15: Matt and most men know they they baby mother and
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  Speaker 15: my mother bought it was eighteen hundred dollars for.
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  Speaker 8: The three dressing and my baby mother took him back
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  Speaker 8: and went to Walmart and bought cheap outfits, but she
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  Speaker 8: got the eighteen hundred back from North Streets.
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  Speaker 16: Both men know their baby mother, and he knew if
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  Speaker 16: he gave her the money should probably.
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  Speaker 15: Go buy two outfits and be done with it. So
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  Speaker 15: he did the right thing. And most women all they
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  Speaker 15: want is the money. That's what they pretend like they
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  Speaker 15: want the money for clothes, but they really want it
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  Speaker 15: for their self.
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  Speaker 12: I also have a slight sensh back, and it ain't
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  Speaker 12: no John ass thingness that I agree, Like, yes, okay,
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  Speaker 12: you don't mind y'all buying clothes. However, maybe, just maybe
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  Speaker 12: he could be cheap or be coranty, and I have style,
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  Speaker 12: like maybe she wanted to buy something in.
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  Speaker 7: Particular in regards to the clothes, and.
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  Speaker 12: I have a chief skate children's father. That's how I'm
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  Speaker 12: saying it, Like, you know, sometimes we want our kids
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  Speaker 12: to look at certain way. He don't care.
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  Speaker 7: He'll shot at st move or.
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  Speaker 12: You know, wherever bargains, he'll bargain hunt and it'll be
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  Speaker 12: looking like you know, back in the seventies or like, yeah,
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  Speaker 12: they won't be looking right, like oh, yes, it's not.
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  Speaker 12: It's nothing wrong with giving her the money. I don't
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  Speaker 12: mind you lasting for her seat. But everybody don't necessarily
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  Speaker 12: want you to particularly buy their kids food. So it's
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  Speaker 12: like a catchy chip.
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  Speaker 16: The young man find find the clothes was a good idea.
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  Speaker 16: Maybe in the past he's given her money and the
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  Speaker 16: clothes never ride to the kid, and so this particular
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  Speaker 16: time he decided to buy it on.
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  Speaker 7: On his own.
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  Speaker 16: And uh, I'm in support of that. I bought my
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  Speaker 16: children clothes, even though I did give my h the
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  Speaker 16: amount of money.
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  Speaker 12: To well, honest believe you know that the guy buying
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  Speaker 12: the child clothes is no problem. That's actually awesome because
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  Speaker 12: we find a lot.
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  Speaker 17: Of these guys don't even want to take care of
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  Speaker 17: their kids.
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  Speaker 18: So for her to have a problem.
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  Speaker 3: With her, I'm not giving her the money.
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  Speaker 17: It's obvious that she has some other plans with the money.
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  Speaker 17: Now in regards to I'm sorry, I can remember her name,
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  Speaker 17: her comment, and regard to him not buying the right
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  Speaker 17: thing or whatever, it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 4: Guess what you can always return didn't get the right day,
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  Speaker 4: But it's all it's.
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  Speaker 17: All about him taking the initiativeto to get his style,
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  Speaker 17: you know, the cloth for school or whatever.
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  Speaker 12: The occasion was him being a day.
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  Speaker 7: So that's what we us women.
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  Speaker 4: Need to realize and get to the point that when there's.
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  Speaker 3: A man that's wanted to be involved in it and
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  Speaker 3: in their.
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  Speaker 17: Child's life, don't make it difficult for these guys.
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  Speaker 16: Not all guys I did be dead.
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  Speaker 1: So the question we asked a woman to ask her
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  Speaker 1: baby daddy for money for clothes, he gets the clothes.
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  Speaker 1: Instead gets the clothes instead of giving her the money
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  Speaker 1: she gets upset.
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  Speaker 2: Listen to this.
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  Speaker 3: What a money ain't Chris? What money? Got the clothes
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  Speaker 3: you said my son needed? I say give me the
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  Speaker 3: money and I go get what you mean?
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  Speaker 4: No, that's not how it worked, you said, my son
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  Speaker 4: and the clothes. So I bought my slain clothes. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not getting you no cash to spend on whatever you're
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  Speaker 4: gonna spend it. I bought my slant clothes.
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  Speaker 3: Are you serious?
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  Speaker 7: Right now?
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  Speaker 3: I'm dead? Seriously.
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  Speaker 4: I went to got my son and stuff that he
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  Speaker 4: needed for school, and he goes to clothes where he's
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  Speaker 4: gonna take.
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  Speaker 7: It to night?
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  Speaker 2: Now, who do you think is wrong? We going to foes.
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  Speaker 18: I think the woman is wrong And the reason why
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  Speaker 18: I think that she's wrong is because she if she
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  Speaker 18: wanted something more for the kid than she should have
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  Speaker 18: asked for that specifically and not just ask for the money.
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  Speaker 6: The father got exactly what she asks for, and that
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  Speaker 6: was clothed and Jasmine. What I want to know what
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  Speaker 6: Japmine is what type of men are do she mess
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  Speaker 6: with that she feels that they are not competent enough
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  Speaker 6: to buy a kid clothes If real men aren't in
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  Speaker 6: their kids' life I assumed that they would know what
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  Speaker 6: size shoes, what size clothes, and all that kind of
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  Speaker 6: stuff they wear. I know, I do well.
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  Speaker 17: I kind of get what the young lady saying, because
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  Speaker 17: my husband bought my daughter to the babyshit or with.
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  Speaker 13: Her cover offs on backwards once.
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  Speaker 14: But all the young lady had to do was get
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  Speaker 14: the receipt off of the do and if she ain't
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  Speaker 14: liked the clothes, take them back and exchange them.
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  Speaker 12: I've had my son be.
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  Speaker 14: Sued for child support and the girl want money.
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  Speaker 18: So when she say the baby.
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  Speaker 17: Need clothes, we go buy the clothes, keep the receipt
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  Speaker 17: and make a copy of the.
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  Speaker 8: Receipt so that he could show he's doing his part.
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  Speaker 17: And if she don't like it, then take the receipt
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  Speaker 17: and go back and get your own stuff.
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  Speaker 3: But a lot of times when we give them girls stop.
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  Speaker 12: Money, them babies don't get them clothes.
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  Speaker 19: She wrong, She's very wrong. She would be grateful that
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  Speaker 19: a guy did something, because guys out here really don't
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  Speaker 19: do things for their kids. If he want to go
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  Speaker 19: to store and go buy the clothes, let him buy.
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  Speaker 19: If he bought the wrong clothes, like your partner said,
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  Speaker 19: she said, only he might bought the wrong side of
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  Speaker 19: this and that long as he tried.
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  Speaker 18: And that's the key of it.
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  Speaker 2: Because you got dead bee fathers out here.
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  Speaker 12: I would be that.
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  Speaker 17: Young lady meaning that we don't know the background of
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  Speaker 17: that conversation in particular. But my son, his dad would
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  Speaker 17: go buy the items and the items would be too small,
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  Speaker 17: or he wouldn't get exactly what the child asked for,
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  Speaker 17: and then when we would see him, he would have
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  Speaker 17: on the Jordans that the child asked for, but never
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  Speaker 17: get him anything that he asked for directly. So with
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  Speaker 17: my other kids, when it comes to them, I just
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  Speaker 17: tell the dad and he's able to go get exactly
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  Speaker 17: what the kids need and it's never an issue. If
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  Speaker 17: he can't get it, then he'll give me the money.
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  Speaker 17: But that oldest one, he never gets what the.
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  Speaker 12: Child asks for it all.
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  Speaker 17: So I can see questioning, hey, why didn't you give
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  Speaker 17: me the money so I can go get the thing
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  Speaker 17: instead of you getting them because they never fit or
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  Speaker 17: it's never anything that he would actually wear anyway.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, I just want to say it's a very interesting thought.
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  Speaker 7: What it is is that this is a lesson in
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  Speaker 7: maturity for the baby daddy, like as a teenage parian
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  Speaker 7: or whatever. You assume that the mom is going to
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  Speaker 7: spend the money serviously on herself, and the reality is
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  Speaker 7: that their mama takes care of that child twenty four
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  Speaker 7: hours a day. That child is taken care of without you,
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  Speaker 7: So the money that she gets from you, she can
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  Speaker 7: spend it however she wants to, cause the child is
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  Speaker 7: going to be taken care of regardless. You're getting a
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  Speaker 7: break by not having to watch the baby. If she
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  Speaker 7: asks for the money, give it money. Some care with
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  Speaker 7: the money. I don't even don't even ask where it's going.
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  Speaker 7: Just don't overdo it, but just do your part.
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  Speaker 14: The first thing I heard the chicks say was give
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  Speaker 14: me my money. She didn't say, give me the kids money,
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  Speaker 14: give me my money. So I don't have a problem
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  Speaker 14: as long as she's buying my kid. You know that
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  Speaker 14: the quality of clothes and my kid is happy with it.
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  Speaker 14: I'm cool with it. But that chick wanted that money
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  Speaker 14: for herself because she said, my money