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2 Years and No Ring?” Men Explain The Truth About Commitment · Love You Moore with Willie Moore Jr.

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  [SPEAKER_04]: Next, on the Love You More Shady, you've been married now for a very, very long time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What a long time.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, good stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, yeah, for 23.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, hey, man.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hold on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I got it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're eligible bachelor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're eligible bachelor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Sure.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're eligible bachelor.
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  [SPEAKER_06]: Are you your pass?
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  [SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What woman?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: would be the woman that you could marry now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What kind of woman could you marry now?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you got women looking at this show.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And they're saying, these are good dudes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They watch your content and the whole night.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What does she exist that could make you marry her now?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I mean, it has to be event process, but I'm looking for value.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, event process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, while I was event process, you said two and three years?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was saying about two years.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's the two years.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, she's is what you want now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and you're going to make it really to this.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey family, Willie Mojoon, you're here.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And welcome to another edition of the Love You More Show.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Now, it's time for an amazing episode.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Flat out.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey family, Willie Mojoon, you're here excited about this moment in time, because you are too into the love you more show.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Notice that I did not call it a podcast, because it is a show.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And if you call it a podcast, I'm gonna find you 50 books.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna put my cash app in the description.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Here's the thing.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm so excited to have you today for the other of you who are new to the show.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I wanna tell you this.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I really appreciate you.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And I really wanna make it clear to you who we are.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: We are the show that covers people who are getting through hurts, habits, hangups, breakups, and their journey to love them and say us more.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Listen, the Bible says this, that you are to love your label as you love yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: The issue is that you might not love yourself therefore your label may not be getting too much a love from you.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Come on, let's get that out of the way.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And today is a big big day because I'm doing something different and you can tell the set has changed.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I just realized I had a sipicum.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, I just realized I had a sipicum.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And so I'm probably gonna keep me just a little guy to the day.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna put this on the side and I'm gonna do it this way.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So we can, you know, so I can at least be a player with mine.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: We're gonna do it.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I heard some things before time to a pure hearted man.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think like that, but she is there everybody who bought the sipicum.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Yes, long.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So, you know, as we go into this new year, ladies, I've heard you cry.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Whether it was on the Fox Truth Talk show, or whether it's with the Willie Mow Jr. show, or just in my dehum, because the dehum is the poppin'.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna put somebody else back there so you're gonna keep it PG-13.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I promise you that But I been here from the ladies some are married and you're like I don't necessarily know how to support my man Anymore Into the single ladies who over the age of 35.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like hey, what these man way known like you know?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: We met on Tuesday.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: We need to be married by Saturday like what the hell are we waiting for right and then for others
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  [SPEAKER_04]: who had just said, hey man, I just went through a very traumatic time with my last man, like where do I go?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So I would like to fame this show as what in the do men actually want, right?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So I brought some of my guys who I actually love to life.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Starting to my left is my brother Ryan.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And he's part of the Harley initiating crew.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Time shine is here.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And my mid to a brother in Fred K.D.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Bow is in the house.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Ladies, here you go.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: So I'm Ryan Ketchens, a co-founder and co-host and part of the initiative.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: I would say it's a number one platform on our four faith based content and spiritual growth and relationship.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, all right.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I will leave you in peace, all right.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: We make it an impact.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: And we'll all just take a question.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, I guess I've been like conveniently forgot that one, but I'm happy to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, good stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, it's time showing Jackson second half of Harley initiated also I'm in a relationship right now
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That is a huge deal.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I'll tell you why later.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Congratulations, though.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I appreciate it.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: You know, this has been a journey.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I think Harley initiated as taught me a lot about myself and really motivated me.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: to go ahead and make that decision because I think it's a lot of confusion with men on why in the purpose of a relationship, why you would actually put yourself in a commitment like a relationship in 2025.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: So you know, the hard initiative helped me get that clear.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, that's dope.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Kati Bo, um, stride out shout out to the certified man podcast as growing really in power and me and ladies are even being extremely inspired, because I get them forget some of your clips from ladies.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: They're like, Hey, he was on it, right?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Talk a little bit about who you are, what you're doing, or relationship status as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Katie Boe, of course, know that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The voice.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Ma'er read, and my whole goal is to empower men and to make them the best version of themselves.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Help them heal from the wounds of their past.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We got them and just become the best version of themselves.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I walked away from radio was like four years ago.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To really give myself to this space of content creation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But the interesting thing was, man,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just feel like a month ago, God challenged my heart and said, boy, you're still hiding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're not supposed to be behind the camera all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when you're front of it, because I gave you something to give to the people.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm familiar with you, don't you, don't you, don't you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's why I'm there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I love what I do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I love this show.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I love what you're doing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Man, when you take the breaks up, man, and you do what you do, then I'm proud, bro.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That means proud words to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And these guys here, man, y'all are amazing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, thank you very much.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, they look hard, table, then.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm gonna get this messy, you know, right?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So the way I'm doing it today is honestly, I have a whole lot of questions, I'm not going to get my phone out first, but there are so many people that I pay tripped community.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: If you are not a part of our pay tripped community, I'm going to encourage you to do so, because you'll get an opportunity to ask questions to these amazing guests that we have.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Shout out to people who are watching this video, please subscribe to our channel.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: people have been there for a while.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: You got a chance to speak to Chris Tucker.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Through your messages, you have the opportunity to speak to Jayce Fortune through your messages.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: You got an opportunity to speak to David and Tamela Man through your messages.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So if you want to be a part of that community, traditionally I know that you do not read the description that I work so hard on a point with that chat GPT to put on as YouTube.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I know you're not reading, but if you read through that and go right past that, there's a link in Patreon, you can become a part of the community before coming to a city near you.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So one of our Patreon members, they just ask, wait, man, who you said you've been a half on there?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And I saw them on my hand, Katie Bowle, tie shot and ride from Hollywood, initiated and of course it's me.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And the first question was,
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  [SPEAKER_04]: are men really looking for in women because this particular woman she has been with somebody for the last two years and they've been actively dating and she's like listen I'm not getting no younger I don't have children I just turn 40 I love this guy I think he's great but like you know what am I doing wrong like why is he so afraid of the commitment um I'll tell us
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Flat out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They'll tell you straight up, this is what's going on, this is what's happening, this is what I want to do, this is my timeline.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you're really serious about somebody, you move differently.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not able to tell people that, you know, you're building a person for two years and you know, I'm married, leave them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not, I'm not living that space.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But I do think that you should get some answers about what it is that you want and ask them specifically.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How wanna be married?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What are your thoughts about that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if they don't say anything or they quiet, then that's a thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And pay attention to, hey, you know, I actually listen to you were no quiet.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is there a reason?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, because you lots of can hide in silence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as long as you get voice to it, then you can not have the boogie monster of what What if what?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you said that letters to podcast and what that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, you think it blots my bad to show me.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, this is true.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: We'll be more gentle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not the same.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: No worries.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: It's coming.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: It's in Tasha.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: You actively dated.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: How long will Tasha wait before he makes a strong commitment?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Is this woman younger?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Is she me?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: A little older than Tasha?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, what are your thoughts?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: What is it going to?
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  [SPEAKER_03]: You know, she's actually...
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I would say she pretty much my age.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: A year younger than myself.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: and it's interesting because when I first met the I'm at a pre-pocket as come on pre pre-pocket for the pre-account right right when the podcast was getting popped off okay so that's the good thing I don't shake it for no you know sort of thing
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  [SPEAKER_03]: But it's interesting because, you know, dealing with a woman up front, it was my intention was casual.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I mean, I was a whole different person.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, she actually was with me while I'm a chore and spiritually.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: you know, mature and mentally and just mature and as a man all together.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: So it's an interesting transition where a man, my intention is to see you and just purely led by lusts, now all of a sudden, especially because a woman with beautiful character and a beautiful heart, and my heart changing, all of a sudden, my intention is to change him with his woman.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And it's interesting because
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  [SPEAKER_03]: as a man who really takes providership seriously, a lot of times women would think that, you know, he's slow-poken because he doesn't want me.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: They'll internalize the decision-making, but a lot of times men who are very, that they take that role very seriously, they may want to over-prepared.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And as I literally had a conversation with my, I'm in pre-manor, actually.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And on the 101, that's one thing she said about, she said, I show her, I see this in your personal life, where are you having a business?
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I see this, where are you dealing with your family?
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And this is also what you know in your relationship.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: They, you really want to make sure you have all your ducks in a row.
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  [SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And I think a lot of men feel that way, especially the ones that take provide a ship seriously, because it takes a lot to lead a family and a woman for the rest of your life.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And for men that really take that role seriously, I don't think women understand all the things we consider before we make that decision, because that is the biggest decision we make.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: So, you know, right now, I mean, I'm trying to get my relationship right with God.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm trying to get my paper and my money right.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: You're filming.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm really trying to get my paper in my money.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Come on, Sam.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Well, but I'm really trying to get my money right in my money, right?
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  [SPEAKER_03]: That's like what you're saying.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: That's very real.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Praise the Lord.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, there's just certain areas that I personally have, that have nothing to do with this woman.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: It, I personally have to get to a place of stability before I can comfortably make that commitment myself without being fresh about a woman.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So, the question becomes, is, do you have to wait, though?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Because I know a lot of me, it's a lot of guys out there that I met and I'm hanging out with and I'm just like, yo, like, I saw much better and it became so much more enhanced once they connected with the right person.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, the Bible says in your weakness, he's made strong.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: But sometimes we're in our weakness, we just like, I don't feel strong.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: But that could be the best opportunity for guys to maybe send a mate to help.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, what are your thoughts about that?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Because I know we put a lot of focus as me and like I got to have that bread before I do what I do, but I met a guy He didn't have the bread, but I knew he loved the warming and he was like, man I don't even got enough money to really do the dirty and I'm not bragging on myself And I'm like how much you got?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: How much does it cost?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Let's go to the store today And let's get it done.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: They've been married now for 18 years And he built with her everything and they have a bond and I'm just like
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Man, that was pretty good, and that being divorced.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, man, somebody should have probably bought my rings.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: It's not that bad.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: By man, there he was.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, there's just different scenarios.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: So is it individual things mean from, like, each man is individual?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Or is that something that means we're also considered building with a woman as they grow through their go through?
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  [SPEAKER_05]: I think it should be a goal to be able with the woman as you grow.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: And I also don't think there's anything wrong with Dayton 1 for 2-3 years before you decide to give it a lifelong commitment.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: I actually think that's ideal.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, I think that's ideal.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: We actually had Dr.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Spirit on the show, and she, you know, renowned there, she mentioned that a minimum of 18 months to 2 years.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: So I think 2-3 years is reasonable.
• 14:51
  [SPEAKER_05]: But not 2-3 years if you come up and on 2-3 years and now you're still inquiring in this the right person I should be dating.
• 14:57
  [SPEAKER_05]: So before you can even know if a man is serious about you you have to really, you know, trust that he is serious about himself And any man that's not a providing the vision for the person he's spending the most time with can not possibly be serious about itself And I think that's something that that women often confuse when they spend time dating the man because it can be so easy to get wrapped up in how you feel about things But I always tell this to women Lust and impatience is an enemy of the assignment
• 15:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: So if you are born and cater with a man and you are impatient about what his intentions are or what the next movie is It's no way you can make a proper decision on if that man is the right man for you the alongside investment And then so you say that you're like right now Actively dating what are some of the things that turns right off when you're speaking to somebody So you're actively dating what have been some of the best opportunities and one of some of the opportunities where you text I shot and said what the hell did I just give myself into?
• 15:51
  [SPEAKER_05]: You know, it's so crazy because I meet so many women and we get women who DM us, email us, some women even find my phone number online and they reach out to me.
• 15:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: But I always take time to speak to them and hear about how they feel.
• 16:02
  [SPEAKER_05]: And it's unfortunate because I rounded me young women.
• 16:05
  [SPEAKER_05]: And when I say young women, I don't mean age.
• 16:08
  [SPEAKER_05]: I mean young and spirit.
• 16:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: Because what happens is women get so caught up in the negative relationships and the negative past experiences that they had, that that is what you read on them,
• 16:20
  [SPEAKER_05]: And it's in that attitude, it's in how they carry themselves, it's really their entire demeanor.
• 16:25
  [SPEAKER_05]: And that's what I tell women, you have to think about keeping yourself young forever.
• 16:29
  [SPEAKER_05]: So that's building your character, that's having a piece of mind, that's loving yourself, that's happiness, that's joy, that's all of the really the fruits of the spirit.
• 16:37
  [SPEAKER_05]: So if you allow past relationships to dictate how you show up in the present, then you're going to come off as old.
• 16:43
  [SPEAKER_05]: And that's the most important thing.
• 16:45
  [SPEAKER_05]: If you want to be young, you have to keep, you have to be young entirely and has nothing to do with age.
• 16:50
  [SPEAKER_05]: So when I speak to women, I realize I'm white men.
• 16:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: You, you're just not in the place.
• 16:54
  [SPEAKER_05]: You're not in the right mindset.
• 16:55
  [SPEAKER_05]: Your subconscious is not set to where you are able to show yourself presently and be open to learn new things, to enjoy the man to care for men.
• 17:04
  [SPEAKER_05]: And actually spending your time studying and showing appreciation for your men.
• 17:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: So how do we respond when you get up?
• 17:12
  [SPEAKER_05]: I mean, it's crazy, sometimes it leads to tears because I don't give it to them as direct as that.
• 17:18
  [SPEAKER_05]: I tell you not the record.
• 17:19
  [SPEAKER_05]: Well, I give it to them as I know they can handle it.
• 17:23
  [SPEAKER_05]: And when I ask questions when I get feedback, a lot of times it becomes a very emotional moment because then those women start to think about what's actually in your mind.
• 17:30
  [SPEAKER_05]: And you really have to think because I hear a lot of, you know, women say they desire a good man.
• 17:35
  [SPEAKER_05]: But you have to first understand what desire is.
• 17:38
  [SPEAKER_05]: Desire is expressed through action.
• 17:41
  [SPEAKER_05]: Now, the greater your expectancy is for that desire, the greater the desire of a combs.
• 17:46
  [SPEAKER_05]: But if you truly don't expect, if you truly don't expect to find a good man, then you have no desire.
• 17:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: So if you have no desire, you have no action.
• 17:55
  [SPEAKER_05]: And that is the key because every problem is first solved in the mind.
• 17:59
  [SPEAKER_05]: So if you want to find a good man, you literally have to create a good man in your mind first.
• 18:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: So, well, because I don't want to take all of this here, but most men just listening to them, they often say that this expected man that you created in your damn head, he's not reality.
• 18:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: He is a superhero that you've created in your heart and your head, but what you believe is if they create that man in their head, somehow that person will exist.
• 18:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Will that be to a T?
• 18:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Will there be 20 or 10% kind of off?
• 18:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, how does that look?
• 18:32
  [SPEAKER_05]: This is the thing, we have to understand that, when it comes to relationship, when it comes to the things that you want, we are here to live a life of health and abundance.
• 18:40
  [SPEAKER_05]: It is a woman's right to find a good man, but you really do have to manifest it.
• 18:44
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I'm not talking about a man's external possessions.
• 18:47
  [SPEAKER_05]: That's not what you created your head.
• 18:49
  [SPEAKER_05]: You create the internal possession that you want to amen that.
• 18:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: And by creating it, you actually have to live it.
• 18:54
  [SPEAKER_05]: You have to become that person for you to attract that person.
• 18:57
  [SPEAKER_05]: So if you're not the person you want to be, there's no way it's going to appear from you.
• 19:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: And Katie, you've been married now for a very, very long time.
• 19:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: And you know, from the beginning, you know, you guys, you know, you built your relationship.
• 19:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: Did she see you and her heart and her head?
• 19:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Were you something that she built?
• 19:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: You been married now for over two years?
• 19:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: What?
• 19:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was 20 years.
• 19:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you were a long time ago.
• 19:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: Come on, 15, 15, 20, 20.
• 19:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: OK, this girl will be there for 23.
• 19:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
• 19:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, hey, man, hold on.
• 19:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: I got it.
• 19:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: You are eligible bachelor.
• 19:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: You are eligible bachelor.
• 19:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sure.
• 19:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: You eligible bachelor, are you your pass?
• 19:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
• 19:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: What woman would be the woman that you could marry now?
• 19:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: What kind of woman could you marry now?
• 19:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you got women looking at this show.
• 19:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And they're saying, these are good dudes.
• 19:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: They watch your content and the whole night.
• 19:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: What does she exist that could make you marry her now?
• 20:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I mean, it has to be a very process.
• 20:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm looking for value.
• 20:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm a process, okay.
• 20:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: So while I was developing the process, you said two, three years?
• 20:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would say about two years.
• 20:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's the two years.
• 20:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: So she is what you want now.
• 20:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you're going to make it way too years?
• 20:15
  [SPEAKER_05]: No, no, I see.
• 20:16
  [SPEAKER_05]: I didn't say that you're going to go out and find everything you want, right thing.
• 20:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I'm going to give it to you.
• 20:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: So there's some pitcher to you.
• 20:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: She is what you want now.
• 20:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: But the time you've been 66 months, you haven't had the great time has been amazing.
• 20:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: I guess my point is this, I want to put you in a pitcher pitcher, no.
• 20:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I still think that it is as simple as we make it when it comes down to women.
• 20:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because any woman's gonna go, just be it.
• 20:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: Now how amazing she is.
• 20:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna be to get your attention right away and get you to marry her, to put a ring on her finger.
• 20:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that that's the challenge that we're faced with.
• 20:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because the thing is, if you still try to get yourself together, why are you dating?
• 20:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm coming kind of strong here, but I'm trying to be funny here, but I'm saying, you said, hey, man, I mean, you know, two, three years.
• 20:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: You just kind of ruled me for two or three years.
• 21:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, let's kind of see how it works out.
• 21:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: What does that mean?
• 21:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: What does that mean?
• 21:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's no guarantee.
• 21:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, what does that look like?
• 21:06
  [SPEAKER_05]: That'll be a test.
• 21:07
  [SPEAKER_05]: I mean, you can't do no test.
• 21:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: You can't know somebody's character until you've experienced a lot of the seasons that come with life.
• 21:14
  [SPEAKER_05]: How am I supposed to know you a good person if we never went through hardship together?
• 21:17
  [SPEAKER_05]: How do I know that you want to continue to fall in line with your commitment if there has not been time to have surpassed.
• 21:23
  [SPEAKER_05]: So you can meet someone from on the outside.
• 21:26
  [SPEAKER_05]: They appear to have the character.
• 21:28
  [SPEAKER_05]: But character has to be tested.
• 21:30
  [SPEAKER_05]: That's the only way you can prove that it exists.
• 21:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone, when you're talking about season seasons is a year.
• 21:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: for four seasons.
• 21:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I mean, it's this.
• 21:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you don't know what she's going to be like when she has menopause.
• 21:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you don't.
• 21:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, when she's like, when we're going to get the mom and dad dies, and we, you know, there are seasons that are going to arise.
• 21:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: I think that it's got to be, this conversation has got to be, it'll have to be anything.
• 21:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I would suggest that maybe if we have the conversation, then is there some tangible seasons that we absolutely have to have?
• 21:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because if we say I got to see what all seasons is, it's not realistic.
• 22:02
  [SPEAKER_03]: Man, that's a really good point because pretty much what you're saying is we need to clearly establish what we're looking for Yes, we need to have clear tangible things that we're vetting in the woman.
• 22:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yes, so we know exactly Is he that I think that's the problem when it comes to dating because
• 22:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: A lot of women have experienced men where they've been with them for two to three years, but it's in a very unintentional two to three years.
• 22:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: Spirit.
• 22:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I personally spent time with women unintentionally.
• 22:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: And a lot of times, it may be for different reasons, whether that brother is just purely in a relationship for sex, whether because the brother is purely ignorant, and literally has no idea how to vet him when some guys truly believe.
• 22:49
  [SPEAKER_03]: Most of us, man.
• 22:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: They believe that because we just have a good, we have a couple good dates.
• 22:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: Every line again and a weekend, we call on a phone and check in.
• 22:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: this is us betting a woman.
• 23:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: We a many of us have no idea what to look for or how to test character.
• 23:05
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, because essentially that's what the betting process is.
• 23:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's a test to carry.
• 23:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: That's all it is.
• 23:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, I'll be honest.
• 23:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: I got it wrong initially because it was a business deal.
• 23:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, I'd be very, very honest with you.
• 23:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: It just made you sense.
• 23:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, okay, well, you know, I'm over-restaker.
• 23:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna make money.
• 23:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're an accountant.
• 23:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're very responsible at 24 years old.
• 23:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: I have my own property.
• 23:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: You have your own property.
• 23:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're a little different than any other woman that I met because you made some financial decisions.
• 23:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's same very, very responsible, right?
• 23:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: But what I did not do is I didn't investigate the little girl in the heart.
• 23:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I think in the vetting process and we got to consider that everybody has a little boy, everybody has a little girl, and we got to kind of find out what those idiots secretes are because after that, they're just like my dear brother Ryan said, when you go through these different seasons, you see how they handle conflict and the real question becomes, it does that little girl.
• 24:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: Does she disrespect the little boy that said you because there has to be a beautiful balance between the two when I see that little girl show up And I know that she needs to be love and she's being very disrespectful to the little boy in me can that man stand up and say hey, I got you boo
• 24:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then when my little boy shows up, can the woman in her side?
• 24:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is not the time for me to go back and forth with you because I see insecurity.
• 24:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I see problems, see vulnerability, see intimacy, says, intricacy, says, intimacy, into me, see.
• 24:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Into me, I allow you to see.
• 24:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: And when I let you see what you trash me, what you hurt me, what you degrade me, what you make me feel messed up the man.
• 24:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: And here's the thing.
• 24:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's not just women who're going through it.
• 24:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: Man, I know for a fact that I'm traumatized.
• 24:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so I'm very, with the one that I'm dating and speaking to, I tell her all the time, hey, this is my rendition and baby.
• 24:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: because my heart is starting to protect itself.
• 24:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so sometimes, if it's not my condition of, this is my rendition of begging.
• 24:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: So if it's a taste message or if it's just a voicemail, I don't know how to beg, cause probably I never let me do it.
• 25:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't know about these 90s R&B dudes.
• 25:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: I sound like a song, but I never did the song.
• 25:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: I grew up on a vicious Snoop Dogg saying, my holes and trees.
• 25:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: So that's all in your heart.
• 25:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's something that the society put in me.
• 25:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I don't even know how to be vulnerable because I'm protecting myself.
• 25:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so in the vetting process, I think it's not just vetting the woman.
• 25:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's saying that you have to be this.
• 25:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: You gotta look at these little small things on the inside of us because when the rubber hit the road, you can be totally dismantled if you're disrespected and you haven't told me here.
• 25:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it's always a fight.
• 25:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so now what I'm vetting is, okay, when your look girl show up,
• 25:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, well my little boy show up like how do you like how do you handle that because as far as priest provided and protecting I think that just comes so they would consist and see it being true to the calling that you have on your life Like I believe that money is a bright product of you just being consistent having the right systems And doing what you have to do just that down with Marcus Barney.
• 26:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: I tell you what the way he looking money saying so simple I said even a five year old can do this
• 26:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: But when it comes to a woman who you're going to spade your life with, you got to realize that if you can't really move in that direction, comfortably knowing that there's a vulnerable part to you that have to land, then I think you got to kind of poke the breaks a bit.
• 26:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: Can I kind of tell you something, bro?
• 26:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: Um, they're part of me.
• 26:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: They would have never existed.
• 26:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: had it not been for the friction that I encountered from my marriage, from that woman.
• 26:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would have been just a regular dude, I would have been just, you know, I wouldn't have been then wrong with me, but the growth came because I was able to see myself in her eyes.
• 26:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: I can see how my touch,
• 26:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: my presence caused a certain reaction with her that caused a reaction with me.
• 26:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: I saw the little boy in me from the my reflection in her eyes.
• 27:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you're right, man.
• 27:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not telling you, listen, I'm not telling you that you get into a toxic situation just for the sake of getting into a
• 27:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's be clear, let me be clear, since I want to be single.
• 27:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: I do.
• 27:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh God.
• 27:22
  [SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
• 27:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh God.
• 27:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh God.
• 27:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: The views of Katie Bow might not be the views of the Harvey and this is what he's doing.
• 27:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is what he's doing.
• 27:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what he's doing.
• 27:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: But you know, I can imagine she would say the same thing.
• 27:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I think the challenge is, man, what you're saying, Willie, that just touched me so much, man, that...
• 27:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: We don't know that that little boy is existing many times until we get in situations where we realize, oh snap, you have been there all along since long as you're getting your way, people doing what you want, long as you've got money, long as you can move in and out of circles everybody's cool, but the moment somebody says no, yes, and you need that no to be a yes, and the only way to get that no, it's just keep knocking at that door.
• 28:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: when you're single, you can bust down the door.
• 28:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: Or you can outsource it, you can get something.
• 28:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: But now you gotta get what you need from this conduit and it comes from knocking on this door and then he's adjusting yourself.
• 28:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: And he's humbling yourself and he's pulling yourself back.
• 28:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you wanna be loud, you can't be loud right now.
• 28:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's different, bro.
• 28:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: Listen, I gotta get to another person.
• 28:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is care from Hannibal, Missouri.
• 28:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Never forget her because she is making money.
• 28:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: And she was very honest with me.
• 28:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: She said, Willy, I make seven figures plus my family owns a nurse at home and we have multiple nurse at home.
• 28:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: So we have a plane.
• 28:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: And she, I was like, okay, what you're doing really good with your life, she said the problem is that a lot of men are intimidated because I, because I do so well financially.
• 28:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm not attracting the right people because I'm like, I don't care about this stuff.
• 28:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: I had this stuff, you know, my dad started this stuff.
• 28:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: And she's like, how do you find a man who can,
• 29:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Maybe not be doing as well as I am.
• 29:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's still feel comfortable to be a man.
• 29:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're thoughts?
• 29:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: I would like to have a conversation with Ken.
• 29:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: Right.
• 29:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: I would like to really have a conversation with Ken.
• 29:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I'll come within the first five to 10 minutes and speaking to Ken.
• 29:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 29:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: It really gets to the root cause.
• 29:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: It was really really going on.
• 29:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because it ain't that.
• 29:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: It ain't that.
• 29:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: It ain't that.
• 29:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: That role and timidated situation.
• 29:24
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, let me tell you.
• 29:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: First of all, if you look at the comment, we just had a whole debate about this whole 50, 50 situations on our planet, who was crazy.
• 29:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: And the men are saying, listen, I like my one of the latest.
• 29:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's what actually wouldn't upset because it's a myth that men do not want they woman with some bread.
• 29:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, that's not true
• 29:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: But when you get that bread, what does that, what does it do to you?
• 29:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 29:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: Right.
• 29:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: How to now does that bread make you puff your chest up?
• 29:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 29:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: And talk to men who may not have it the same way you do.
• 30:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 30:01
  [SPEAKER_03]: So a lot of times, it has nothing to do with the amount of money you're missing your bank account while you're moving away.
• 30:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's about what that money does to you.
• 30:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: And we already see, we already see what the money has done to her.
• 30:12
  [SPEAKER_05]: For her to make the declaration that men are intimidated by me.
• 30:16
  [SPEAKER_05]: You've already resigned to the fact that men are timidated by you.
• 30:20
  [SPEAKER_05]: So that is, that is fact.
• 30:21
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's hurt truth.
• 30:23
  [SPEAKER_05]: And even when you vocalize it, that's what you're going to continue to bring going on you.
• 30:26
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I think Tasha is right.
• 30:27
  [SPEAKER_05]: Because listen, men are not concerned about how much money you make.
• 30:31
  [SPEAKER_05]: Your value is intrinsic when you are born.
• 30:33
  [SPEAKER_05]: The fact that you have a wound gives you value.
• 30:35
  [SPEAKER_05]: Your dating value comes in your character.
• 30:38
  [SPEAKER_05]: it comes in you being a good woman.
• 30:40
  [SPEAKER_05]: So a man is not concerned about how much money you make, but if you make it all of that money because you're stuck in a paradox, should I become a man versus should I go out and find a good man?
• 30:49
  [SPEAKER_05]: If you allow that money to consume you, then it will come out in the way you speak.
• 30:55
  [SPEAKER_05]: It will come out in your tone of voice, it will come out in your actions, it will come out in your thoughts.
• 30:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: And you can say all you want to that you want to find a good man.
• 31:02
  [SPEAKER_05]: But if you are condemning other women for finding a good man,
• 31:04
  [SPEAKER_05]: And if you are stated that you won't find a good man, if you allow jealousy and envy and all these negative things to creep into you, then you are doing the exact opposite of a track demand.
• 31:14
  [SPEAKER_05]: Because condemnation says what you want to the exact other side.
• 31:19
  [SPEAKER_05]: is just very important that you just don't speak these things you have to have faith and expectancy.
• 31:25
  [SPEAKER_05]: So when she changes the way she speaks, right, which you can only change that way by changing the way you think, then she will actually have prospects of being able to get a good man and it has nothing to do with how much money you make.
• 31:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: Now it's real, shout out to Ron and Harley initiated podcast.
• 31:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let me tell you how this, I do got to ask this, just we're talking about money in the dating phase, right?
• 31:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I have friends right now and they may be dating women and it's like, how much do you spend to do you support the woman in your dating phase?
• 31:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: If you've been dating for about a year or so, like, do you start to take care of bills?
• 31:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: Do you start to really support?
• 32:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, what do your thought process is?
• 32:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: Is that after commitment or is that doing the dating phase
• 32:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: because one of my friends right now, he told me he's like, man, I know we only been dating for like in the months, but man, you know what, I mean, we've been together and I think I'm dead, I've 15 grand.
• 32:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like what the hell was you doing?
• 32:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like I was doing, like I was doing.
• 32:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, it's like, now it's a vence and I was flying and you know, just playing to this, there's another and he's seen it wrong with the course he can make him breathe, but I was just like,
• 32:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: So, okay, this is what you want to do.
• 32:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: He's like, do you think I'm a little off-weighty?
• 32:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was like, you go in the hole I first three months.
• 32:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't make it hard for him to come behind you, but I don't know if you can maintain that type of behavior.
• 32:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: What do you thought to the daddy phase of taking care of over here for someone that you care about?
• 32:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: So, I mean, we just talked about the purpose of the dating phase is to test character.
• 32:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: So the money that we spend in shall all be aiding, the testing of the character.
• 32:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Now don't give me wrong.
• 32:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: Every brother not different, because 15 grand or one brother's not 15 grand.
• 33:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, so that's true.
• 33:01
  [SPEAKER_03]: So again, this is all relative, but it's right, right, so what's going down?
• 33:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: 15 grand, right.
• 33:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 33:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: I know a lot of guys, I understand how people move, but essentially the most important thing again, when you're talking about figuring out if a woman is qualified to be a lifelong partner.
• 33:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: Are we financing the...
• 33:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: of the experience, right, are we using the money as a veil to create and manufacture a connection between me and a woman, right, is that what the money is doing or am I authentically with the money?
• 33:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: Even with the money being involved still able to genuinely see if this is my woman.
• 33:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: So a lot of times we just got to be careful using money to try to shore up these experiences with these women because the greatest experience I've ever had with a woman a lot of times it was when I went, I walked the park with, I went, I picked Nick with the young lady, I sat down and had a glass of wine at the house and we just chat all night.
• 34:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: So you think he's all the kind of side for something that he doesn't necessarily possess?
• 34:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely.
• 34:20
  [SPEAKER_05]: The two biggest things to failure and relationships is lack of confidence and literally just doing too much.
• 34:25
  [SPEAKER_05]: So when I hear a man is spending 15,000 dollars within the span of three months, you are doing too much.
• 34:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, what depends on how to see move without the date.
• 34:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Does he just spend like that anywhere?
• 34:37
  [SPEAKER_05]: If you intend to get a woman for to be committed to the person you are, not your resources,
• 34:43
  [SPEAKER_05]: You need to be working on it's cheaper ways to build connection.
• 34:47
  [SPEAKER_05]: Sure.
• 34:48
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's ways that cause real effort.
• 34:50
  [SPEAKER_05]: Because spending some money, that's no effort in that.
• 34:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: You just being extra.
• 34:53
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's the same thing as a woman who doing a bunch of, man, what's she was part of the mission.
• 34:59
  [SPEAKER_05]: She's doing a bunch of screw in and boom.
• 35:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, you just said, you won't talk.
• 35:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, I'm just trying to change it.
• 35:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm just trying to change it.
• 35:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm just trying to make her my land.
• 35:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to show.
• 35:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: She's doing a bunch of stuff.
• 35:08
  [SPEAKER_05]: Okay, okay.
• 35:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: She's doing a bunch of stuff.
• 35:11
  [SPEAKER_05]: And a bunch of cleaning and cooking for a man, she only been with for three months.
• 35:15
  [SPEAKER_05]: And you got a man who's spending all his money on the woman, she's only been with for three months.
• 35:19
  [SPEAKER_05]: That is you accepting husbandly duties and it's something wifey to do these two early.
• 35:23
  [SPEAKER_05]: Now, I'm not saying that you spend the weekend with me and you use a ball, my tissue, I got a barbecue for us, you know what I mean?
• 35:29
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I bought coffee and dinner and we go out to a movie that you shouldn't help me follow some clothes or do a little bit of cleaning.
• 35:34
  [SPEAKER_05]: What I'm saying is, as a woman, if you are taking responsibility for a man's clenliness and putting food in his stomach and you are not married, that's you doing wife reduces.
• 35:46
  [SPEAKER_05]: If he doesn't even let you cook, that's you doing wife reduces.
• 35:48
  [SPEAKER_05]: If his place is not clean, unless you clean, that's you doing wife reduces.
• 35:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: If you are paying bills and her rent does not get paid, unless you pay it.
• 35:56
  [SPEAKER_05]: you are doing husbandly duties.
• 35:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: And that already is getting the relationship confused.
• 36:01
  [SPEAKER_05]: You can not evaluate somebody's true character if you are confusing them with the over-investment and doing too much of these at a just not required.
• 36:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, Katie, I think it's a perspective.
• 36:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I think that that is a perspective and I think it's a valid perspective.
• 36:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: Another perspective is, hey, man, I'm bringing you into my world.
• 36:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how I move, I move like this, I move, and however I spend a lot of money, I'm very generous, I personally, I'm a very generous person.
• 36:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: However, I also want to move in your world as well.
• 36:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you invite me into your world, how do you move?
• 36:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you move without spending any money, but you're authentic, you move by cooking everything, you do your own thing.
• 36:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: I am okay with that.
• 36:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I think that we should just come to the table with the level of authenticity, with whatever we have.
• 36:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if $15,000 is all your money, you're right.
• 36:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're doing too much.
• 36:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're doing too damn much.
• 36:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if it's just how you move, you're probably the plan you're doing, whatever.
• 36:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, man, yeah, you decide you're gonna, I'm gonna invite you in the my world.
• 36:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I want you to be as authentic as you could possibly because I'm gonna be.
• 37:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: But when there are times of what's I'm moving to your world, I want that same thing.
• 37:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you cook and you clean and you,
• 37:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: However, I want to experience the authenticity of your work, but I just think that that's how I'm going to genuinely see who you are.
• 37:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying that what you're saying is incorrect.
• 37:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: I just think there's another perspective.
• 37:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, I start with.
• 37:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: It sounds good.
• 37:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, the one thing that I understand is that if a man has a true plan financially,
• 37:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, if your money is really working for you, if you're very intentional to do with the Bible says as it pertains to, oh, and no man, nothing but the dead of love, you should have your money moving in streams that are number one, of course, multiply.
• 37:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then secondly, you got to have a debt player.
• 37:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: I looked at this mound of death, and I was like, what in the hell was I thinking?
• 37:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: But then still having to live your lifestyle, create new opportunities, and then when you're in a Christian world, whenever you get a little dirt on your mind, anybody calling you to go speak preach and teach, because right now you just have to be said that, right?
• 37:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so when you're looking at this mound of death, and you have this money movement in the right direction, and you're like, okay, cool, then you gotta find outside ways to really put more money in to create new opportunities for different things that you wanna do.
• 38:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like trying to date and take care and still try to do out there.
• 38:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's just a lot, do you want to do that?
• 38:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: Now, here's what I would say to that because I think a lot of times, men, we overvalue the value of money.
• 38:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: That part, as it relates to a woman, because there's so many aspects to provide a ship outside of money that we can showcase with a woman.
• 38:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I'm realizing this now.
• 38:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: Because I think before our brother thinks about paying a woman's rent, and managing all of her bills with his own income, one of the biggest things you can do is really involve yourself in a woman's plan and her life here and involve yourself in her day to day.
• 38:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: Help her manage what's in front of her, help her be a take, you take responsibility for her vision.
• 38:59
  [SPEAKER_03]: Like what we got to do, what we got to do is figure out how to see if we can merge our visions prior, more so than merge our finances.
• 39:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: I see that's a big difference, because to merge my vision with this lady, I'm going to be doing with certain things with her.
• 39:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: We might be putting family events together, very early upon.
• 39:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: We might be hitting personal goals together.
• 39:22
  [SPEAKER_03]: We might be reading together, we might be working out together.
• 39:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: we might be hitting the, I'm seeing how well we work together as a team and that already is probably a better metric than whether or not I'm able.
• 39:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: You can be financially dependent upon me because financial dependency if anything just creates is a high.
• 39:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: And we are no longer logically making decisions on whether or not we work together because now we need each other.
• 39:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: We don't want each other.
• 39:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: So we got to really understand as men all the other ways we can provide and build and take responsibility for a woman outside of just our bread.
• 40:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: And how do you create opportunities inside your opportunity for your wife throughout these different chapters that Katie's both life?
• 40:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean, from radio to television to BET's Sunday's best.
• 40:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: And all the stuff that you've been involved in and now podcast, like how do you to create opportunities within the opportunity for each other?
• 40:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I came to the situation man incorrectly.
• 40:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: I was wounded, I was broken, I was that guy, that just did all the wrong things, said all the wrong things.
• 40:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then when I started healing, I realized that I'm treating her like a project.
• 40:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: And not just because she was a project, it was because I needed a project.
• 40:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had so much man just self-moving and self-heat for myself that I just needed to just create issues.
• 40:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: So to answer your question, now, man, it's more about what you say.
• 40:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about allowing her and understanding on this side of vision, who I am and what I bring to the table.
• 40:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it?
• 40:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: Damn table again.
• 41:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: or leaving space for her to answer that same question because you have to bring something to the table.
• 41:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: Right.
• 41:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: And not just saying, well, don't worry about our cover it.
• 41:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's how we die too soon, bro.
• 41:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: You married a able-bodied person.
• 41:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: You have to bring something to the table that is in line with the purpose of God gave you.
• 41:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: So for me, the best thing I can do is give space for her to flourish and become the best person she could be and I've water it and whatever ways I can.
• 41:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: And she does the same thing for me.
• 41:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the best thing that we can do.
• 41:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I think fear is handed me a whole lot with one woman in particular, that's really amazing.
• 41:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: And it's like, she and fear of what?
• 41:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just fear, just, I want to do some stuff.
• 41:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, when you're sitting in the cart courtroom, and you see a person that you've given a lot to, and you see that, although that's her body, that's just no longer who she is.
• 42:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's just so shocking.
• 42:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so it's like, my heart is like, I say somebody be so good, but then I say this so bad.
• 42:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then you almost like, okay, God, like true little cast out all fear.
• 42:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yes.
• 42:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: And that's just what I'm believing.
• 42:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then you like question yourself, like, okay, well, then why come on, it's still fearful.
• 42:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
• 42:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, like I said, let me just have this crazy tug of war and I know that is something on the inside of me that's saying, I do want love.
• 42:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: I do want commitment.
• 42:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: I do want to be loud about you.
• 42:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to do all of those things, but it's like for me, however, not a book, because I think that negates everything, however, because I've been down that road, like I'm seeking God and seeking counseling so much for my heart to be able to heal enough.
• 42:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so I had a big test this past week, just be honest with you.
• 42:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: But this week, in big test called the energy was off a little bit.
• 42:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I was like, I'm not going to respond correctly, so I'm going to go home.
• 42:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm going to just get some rest.
• 42:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so the next day, of course, it's like World War 3, like how did you going to go home?
• 43:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: And we all have time to understand another.
• 43:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I was like, no, I knew that that little boy was going mess up everything.
• 43:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: He was going to be so offended that you weren't excited that he was going mess up everything.
• 43:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: So the next day was like, I got the little boy in shit in the man appeared and she's like, well, keep that away.
• 43:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: You won't do that.
• 43:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I got to deal with that.
• 43:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: But then the man stepped up and seen it.
• 43:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: Now that's your little girl.
• 43:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm still girl.
• 43:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm still be there to help you.
• 43:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: And like those are some of the tools that I'm using to say, this little boy is not going to keep me so traumatized because of what another woman did.
• 43:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: Take this out if you want.
• 43:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: Man, don't apologize again.
• 43:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: You will apologize to enough.
• 43:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: If we ever know, they know, I know you're hard.
• 43:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the people that are closest to you, they already know who you are, bro.
• 43:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no more apologies.
• 44:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: Listen, I'm not, I'm never really, really cursed.
• 44:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the other part is this.
• 44:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, the man has to talk to that little boy.
• 44:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes the little boy responds to the little girl, you know, but the man has to talk to that little boy and get him right one of the best things that I've learned how to do so they get up in the morning and I look in that mirror and I talk to that little boy and I tell him I'm proud of you.
• 44:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: I tell him I love you, I tell him, hey man, you smart, you intelligent, you know the world wanted to get everything from your man, but they ain't going to do it today.
• 44:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's me being proactive when I get up in the morning, and I just will not
• 45:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: This kid in me, because I don't want him to grow up, bro.
• 45:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I need him to stay a kid.
• 45:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because that's the best part of me, you know?
• 45:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the best part of me.
• 45:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's parts of me, that's the man.
• 45:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't even need to be a man, but then there are parts of me, man, it's a kid.
• 45:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want him to play.
• 45:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want him to fire curiosity, I want him to enjoy himself, you know?
• 45:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes that boy got a listen to that man, tell him, you are right, man.
• 45:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're safe.
• 45:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: You will make some mistakes, that's cool, what I'm here.
• 45:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: And go and know where.
• 45:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: And we got friends that are around us, man, that will be with us through thick and thin.
• 45:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: Call the other people, man, is trying to tell us otherwise.
• 45:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: They're always going to be in the comments, shall we?
• 46:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: But as long as we stay in this space of authenticity and transparency, man, we're going to be OK, bro.
• 46:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, no, man.
• 46:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'm being the guy, I must say it.
• 46:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
• 46:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: The journey is okay, I'm not going to be there tomorrow and it's okay.
• 46:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: Did it?
• 46:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be okay with where I am and I'm going to continue to move here.
• 46:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so yeah, we're going to mess up and we're going to have to give us a ourselves space to mess up and I can stay on that forever.
• 46:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: But, good.
• 46:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, thank you for sharing.
• 46:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: Thank you for sharing.
• 46:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, last thing, just a, you know, is like a real moment.
• 46:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's like a moment.
• 46:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: That was a moment.
• 46:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: That was a moment.
• 46:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: That was a moment.
• 46:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: Right, I mean, here.
• 46:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: Take it.
• 46:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 47:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's how I got to ask you this, like, you are now kind of doing pre-marital, right?
• 47:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's really, really dope.
• 47:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Thank you for sharing.
• 47:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: Thank you for being safe enough to share that what are you learning in pre-marital?
• 47:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's a lot different than any other therapy and counseling that you've done.
• 47:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: What are you learning about yourself?
• 47:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: Man, like, the breath, like, who can you know, it's interesting because it's some things, you know, people always say, you know, working yourself, I think, working yourself, I think, it's some things that you can only learn about yourself with a woman.
• 47:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 47:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's, it's certain parts of personal development that only comes with a woman.
• 47:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's that only job trade, that's trade.
• 47:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: So the thing about it is, I've learned that over these past few years, whenever I've gotten too close, we're got a little too emotional, or I felt the bond getting too strong, I would literally pull away from women.
• 48:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: I would literally run away from that.
• 48:18
  [SPEAKER_03]: I would do something to stifle that growth,
• 48:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: You know, I'm, I'm probably a little more agitated with you.
• 48:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: Just unaware, just not even knowing.
• 48:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: So God said, this is what I'm doing.
• 48:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, now I'm in a situation where I'm with a woman that I actually want to be with.
• 48:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: And when,
• 48:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: problems occur, which is typically where when problems occur, bro, that's when I'm just, like, listening to green.
• 48:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
• 49:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: But now, I'm really having to stand in there and face that, to stand in there and face that problem, which is so painful to deal with with me.
• 49:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: Now, it's a whole new pain that I'm learning and I can't do what I'm single, because when I'm single, I don't, I can't experience that obstacle unless I'm in a relationship.
• 49:22
  [SPEAKER_03]: So in premarital, it has taught me
• 49:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: What it does is streamline the most important conversations.
• 49:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: Honestly, pre-marrad is, we should be in pre-marrad or college stuff from the time you meet up on it.
• 49:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: you should literally be your own premarital counselor from start to finish.
• 49:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: The reason we get premarital counseling is because unfortunately we don't have the right conversations with the woman from the time we meet her.
• 49:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: So I'm blessed to say that premarital counseling has allowed us to really look at ourselves very honestly, very deeply our strengths, our weaknesses,
• 50:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: We want to, how do we want to, how do we want to build with these circumstances right in front of us, and, you know, when you put yourself through that, you know, it gives you a very objective view of the relationship and the decision you making and what I found for myself because now I mean at this point, it's, it's on me because that's the thing about these relationships.
• 50:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: The lady's been ready.
• 50:33
  [SPEAKER_06]: That's great.
• 50:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: The lady's been sweet doing.
• 50:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: They ready.
• 50:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, we doing.
• 50:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I know what I mean.
• 50:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: I've realized that the next step is more about me than the woman at this point.
• 50:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
• 50:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's more about me making sure I'm ready to deal with absolutely everything that comes with this decision that is made.
• 50:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: And that's really something you got to pray on.
• 50:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: You got to settle on because listen, I'm going to host the holiday initiative.
• 50:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: The last thing I'm trying to do is come on and give a damn divorce testimony.
• 51:01
  [SPEAKER_03]: So I think just even unknowingly, the platform puts a level of pressure on me and responsibility because the last thing I even want the brothers of the channel seeing in a sea, I told you that he's still the boy, Maris don't worry, he's just exactly the same.
• 51:22
  [SPEAKER_03]: I really feel like there's such a responsibility that I have.
• 51:26
  [SPEAKER_03]: to do it the right way.
• 51:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I'm just taking it very seriously.
• 51:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: So, pretty mad, again, it gives you that objective eye at what it is you really taking on with that woman.
• 51:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 51:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: So, just final thoughts for everybody.
• 51:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: I hope you're enjoying this.
• 51:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't even tell you to subscribe.
• 51:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: I haven't been chatting with you to do anything, because I just been so engulfed into this conversation.
• 51:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: Ladies, listen, if any points are really touching, you make sure you leave it in the comments.
• 51:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: Of course, you know, I continue as we look at those comments.
• 51:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: And to my Patreon family, thank you.
• 51:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: I hope this conversation is being curated the way we talked about, I really do appreciate it.
• 51:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: So just find it thought.
• 51:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, fellas, vision is just so important.
• 52:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: The biggest thing in the world for a man is to have vision.
• 52:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: And, you know, just in these final moments, you know what, it's the future look like as we move into, you know, your lives.
• 52:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, the one thing that I always tell people is the reason why I can be a little bit more relaxed at my age now because I built this guy in my 30s.
• 52:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm always 10 years ahead of the game.
• 52:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: So now I'm looking at like, what my life is gonna look like in 50.
• 52:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: And what I wanna see, now I got knocked off my rocker with this divorce thing because I was like, man, I didn't see this coming.
• 52:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, so it's like I had to start it three years ago.
• 52:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, okay, now what do 50?
• 52:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: Three?
• 52:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
• 52:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: What does that look like?
• 52:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I just kind of want to know like the vision for yourself that you have.
• 52:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: The vision that you will be bringing the woman into.
• 52:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: And light is missing.
• 52:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: This ain't no life.
• 52:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, I could be a part of that.
• 52:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I just want to know where my brothers stand.
• 52:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: It holds their brothers who are watching.
• 52:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: They can say, man, I don't really, you know, I'm saying, I don't really, I really see it like that.
• 52:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: I know I should be thinking so far.
• 53:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, what are your thoughts, Katie?
• 53:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: Man's images begins with authenticity, bro.
• 53:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: Just be real with yourself, be open with yourself, and be honest with yourself.
• 53:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's so many things, man, that we as black men, we don't even say out loud.
• 53:11
  [SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
• 53:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: And with their things that we feel, but we just don't feel comfortable left to express it.
• 53:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because far too often, we are viewed, our value seems to be our worth, seems to be tied to our utility.
• 53:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's what we really do, what we can provide, and we can provide it for.
• 53:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: But in truth, man, just,
• 53:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: best thing that I can tell brothers today is man to love you, bro.
• 53:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like love you, love you more.
• 53:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, you can we make sure we get that sound by you got that thing coming.
• 53:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: That thing coming.
• 53:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: You will hear it everywhere.
• 53:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: We got a KB bold drop.
• 53:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just, you know, kind of huge, what are your main goals, focuses that you really have going on?
• 53:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, what do you see, what do you see yourself?
• 53:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: What's happening next?
• 53:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Man, the biggest thing, and it's been the theme of this year, which has taken my, I feel like it's taken my life to the next level, really prioritizing.
• 54:04
  [SPEAKER_03]: my spiritual growth.
• 54:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: I've never done it in my life.
• 54:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: I've only focused on master myself as much as it gave me whatever material success I was chasing and I don't even want to make that sound airy fairy when I say my spiritual growth.
• 54:23
  [SPEAKER_03]: What I really mean by that is purely mastering myself,
• 54:28
  [SPEAKER_03]: conquering my flesh, purifying my mind and my heart.
• 54:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: Because I don't even have, at the top of this year, I don't even have the heart and the mind of a husband.
• 54:39
  [SPEAKER_03]: Like my thoughts were not a thought of a husband.
• 54:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: My desires were not desires of a husband.
• 54:45
  [SPEAKER_03]: And not even just a husband in the sense of a husband to a woman, but a husband to anything in my life.
• 54:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: But I need to be a great husband to my business.
• 54:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: I need to be a great husband, you know, properly husband my family.
• 54:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I mean, that the verb husband husband these different areas of my life.
• 55:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: So,
• 55:04
  [SPEAKER_03]: My spiritual growth is key to me being able to.
• 55:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: Prioritize the things in my life that's gonna be able to really produce those results that I really want to right now.
• 55:20
  [SPEAKER_03]: And because I think I was chasing, that's why I get it man.
• 55:24
  [SPEAKER_03]: I seek you first to kind of when we chase everything outside of that.
• 55:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: We think we're getting what we're going fast.
• 55:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: We think this is the shortcut.
• 55:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: There's not the shortcut.
• 55:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's not the shortcut.
• 55:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: So now I'm understanding what that really means and I'm that's I'm just so full of go right now.
• 55:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's so good.
• 55:43
  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, I'm really on the along the same lines.
• 55:47
  [SPEAKER_05]: Man, it's so crazy.
• 55:49
  [SPEAKER_05]: Even I was so nervous to come up here to speak.
• 55:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: Poor.
• 55:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: I mean, when Tasha initially told me about it, he can tell you over the phone.
• 55:55
  [SPEAKER_05]: I tried to make excuses.
• 55:57
  [SPEAKER_05]: Why was over the phone?
• 55:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: I was not going to be available.
• 55:59
  [SPEAKER_05]: But I was aware of that, and that's the difference between the me of now and the me of the past.
• 56:07
  [SPEAKER_05]: I appreciate that, and I feel great that I came to.
• 56:10
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I had to realize that it's really only two fears that you borrow.
• 56:13
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's only two natural fears, and that's the fear of heights.
• 56:16
  [SPEAKER_05]: When you go to a ledge, you feel it in your shoulderplugs, right?
• 56:19
  [SPEAKER_05]: And the fear of loud noise, you actually have a bodily reaction.
• 56:22
  [SPEAKER_05]: And you return your alertness to the attention of where the noise is coming from.
• 56:26
  [SPEAKER_05]: anything outside of that is literally a mental manifestation.
• 56:30
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's something that you've created and now that I understand that when I acknowledge that they're not become aware of it, I immediately decide to attack it, because fear going to long for stifles me.
• 56:40
  [SPEAKER_05]: Right?
• 56:41
  [SPEAKER_05]: Instead, it's not a call to action.
• 56:43
  [SPEAKER_05]: So when I realized how terrified I was to come here and share the platform with you, I was like, this is exactly what I need to be doing.
• 56:50
  [SPEAKER_05]: And that's just where I'm at in my life.
• 56:52
  [SPEAKER_05]: I think outside of Christ, I think self-control is the choice religion there is.
• 56:56
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I've really changed my life.
• 56:57
  [SPEAKER_05]: I stopped fornicating.
• 56:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: Man, I was sexing everybody.
• 57:00
  [SPEAKER_05]: I was sexing everything.
• 57:02
  [SPEAKER_05]: I stopped smoking.
• 57:03
  [SPEAKER_05]: You know, I was smoking like a chimney every day, four times a day.
• 57:08
  [SPEAKER_05]: I have changed everything about the actual person.
• 57:12
  [SPEAKER_05]: that I could just be honest with women, verbally be honest with women, and form a case with women, and that was not indicative of my character.
• 57:20
  [SPEAKER_05]: But I understand that every decision you make is a test, and indicative of your character, and who you are.
• 57:26
  [SPEAKER_05]: So to me, it's no longer about all of the material success.
• 57:31
  [SPEAKER_05]: It's about spiritual growth and maturity, because we are,
• 57:34
  [SPEAKER_05]: spiritual beings first and foremost.
• 57:36
  [SPEAKER_05]: And now that my mind is focused on exactly the only, I'm talking about the narrow role.
• 57:42
  [SPEAKER_05]: Not a my mind is focused, man.
• 57:44
  [SPEAKER_05]: I know that I can literally achieve everything.
• 57:46
  [SPEAKER_05]: So I would say that to anybody out there.
• 57:48
  [SPEAKER_05]: If you have an issue, you have to first work on yourself.
• 57:51
  [SPEAKER_05]: I know people say that all the time.
• 57:53
  [SPEAKER_05]: But if you try to find, but you know, you try to, you know, solve spiritual problems.
• 57:58
  [SPEAKER_05]: with material solutions, you're not going to make it.
• 58:01
  [SPEAKER_05]: And you will always be in the same place.
• 58:03
  [SPEAKER_05]: So these conversations, I think, and I love this platform, I love Harvestion, I'm so proud of you, bro.
• 58:09
  [SPEAKER_05]: The growth lights.
• 58:10
  [SPEAKER_05]: I've invested in that coffee shop, though, right?
• 58:13
  [SPEAKER_05]: And I've been like, oh, Tasha, should we be afraid that we're gonna take our business?
• 58:19
  [SPEAKER_05]: Should we be afraid that he's gonna take over our market share?
• 58:22
  [SPEAKER_05]: But this is how I know my mind has developed because man the best thing you can do the best thing I can hope for use for you to get better because of our hope for the many blessings to shine the tip to shine the point You it's gonna it's undoubtedly gonna come back to me.
• 58:35
  [SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, and that's just where I'm man.
• 58:36
  [SPEAKER_05]: Oh, I know
• 58:37
  [SPEAKER_05]: You cry to you because I'm getting emotional man.
• 58:40
  [SPEAKER_05]: I'm nearly listening.
• 58:41
  [SPEAKER_05]: I just I'm just so blessed.
• 58:43
  [SPEAKER_05]: I'm so appreciative, man And yeah, that's it, bro.
• 58:46
  [SPEAKER_05]: I'm I'm happy man.
• 58:46
  [SPEAKER_05]: I'm happy man.
• 58:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna cry next.
• 58:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah Yeah, it's opening me up.
• 58:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'm gonna be honest.
• 58:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna like my number three Maybe two weeks ago, and I was like I don't have a vision
• 59:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: For the first time in my life, I didn't have a vision.
• 59:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: Everything that I ever did was for my children.
• 59:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: Every day.
• 59:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wanted to be the best husband for my own.
• 59:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wanted to show them how to be the best husband.
• 59:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I get it.
• 59:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, people may say, well, you, but you're so successful.
• 59:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: You was doing this and you doing that.
• 59:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was like, when that whole broke up,
• 59:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think I spoke to me and then I just started fishing and I just didn't know exactly what I was going to do.
• 59:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: And for the first time the man who was telling everybody what they should do was clueless and I started leaning on my talent and I hear behind it for a very, very long time.
• 59:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't leave me wrong.
• 59:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: I gave me a vision to love you more like because this is not about me, it's for the people on the other side of the camera, we may be going through hurts, habit, break us, divorce, and just be able to hear somebody on the other side of just feel good.
• 1:00:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: You just because I didn't have this too hardly initiating what in the round when I was going through it.
• 1:00:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: Maybe I wasn't there.
• 1:00:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: Maybe I was on that break when y'all was trying to get everybody on the outfit.
• 1:00:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I'm like, yeah, messing up.
• 1:00:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't think up.
• 1:00:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wouldn't have to be here.
• 1:00:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
• 1:00:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: But they got to end.
• 1:00:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: Um, but finally, as I was on my number three.
• 1:00:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: guy said intentionality.
• 1:00:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I was like, what does that mean guy?
• 1:00:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: And he was like, I have you in every room, but I just need you to be intentional with every room that I put you when I need you to be intentional with every relationship that I allow you to be a part of.
• 1:00:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: I need you to be intentional.
• 1:00:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: And like, then he starts showing me with the rooms and the people that I'm sitting at the table with a lot of great influence is this stuff.
• 1:00:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: And my dear brother Ryan Cameron loves life.
• 1:00:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: He's like, so what do you see for yourself?
• 1:00:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: And they was like, well,
• 1:00:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was like, I just think I'm just going to be served before the while until he gives me a vision because because of the mantle that's on my life, because I can communicate, I can be sending people down, it's really long and roll that we get to a stop sign and be like, well,
• 1:01:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: This one the way he wanted me to go, and I don't want to lead people in the wrong direction.
• 1:01:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so the only thing I see now is strong the tensionality.
• 1:01:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: I do see partnership for me.
• 1:01:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm probably going to be the best husband that the world will ever see once I get over this fear.
• 1:01:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I want to take care of my children, but I actually guys just so I can be
• 1:01:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: just so I can be inspired from what you see because I'm still seeking God on what he like really like I need you here.
• 1:01:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't get me wrong.
• 1:01:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: We don't do real estate.
• 1:01:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: Of course, you know, we don't make some money.
• 1:01:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: That would do with markets.
• 1:01:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, bro, we about to do that.
• 1:01:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
• 1:01:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna talk to them about that.
• 1:01:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm saying, I usually know where I'm gonna land and I can feel highs don't feel when I get there.
• 1:01:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I live in that feeling.
• 1:01:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: But just at this moment, if I can be honest, preferably we can come back to the table in the next 30 to 60 days.
• 1:01:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: with their word and tensionality, God is saying, this, this and this.
• 1:01:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm not a Russian, I'm not, I've read in the face and grace.
• 1:02:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, I'm, every room that I go in, I'm just like, well, it's a new opportunity to represent him and whatever comes with that, he's just sustaining.
• 1:02:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so to my fellas out there, I wanted to be very vulnerable with you.
• 1:02:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I wanted to show you that at a table full of vision, I'm a man who has a vision, you know, for finances and all this stuff.
• 1:02:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I'm talking about like the true partners, you know, for years I thought it was just going to be pasturing and radio and then speaking and all of that.
• 1:02:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I wanted you to be able to see a man vulnerable and be honest with how a lot of brothers.
• 1:02:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because sometimes Broadway really got to have it together.
• 1:02:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: We just got to have people who know what you're going through.
• 1:02:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: So they can pray about it and assist you with it.
• 1:02:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so the second thing that I always add at the end of it, because I do this with a lot of people, I just want one of us to pick one of the guys and I want you to affirm what you see in a brother and like I just want to be able to say, hey, this is what I see.
• 1:02:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I'll start off, Katie, what I see with you is that I see that you're going to
• 1:03:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: By doing this today, you're going to get a lot of attention from the wires that you say it, but this time it's not going to go into your heart and your head and it's not going to be something that KDD.
• 1:03:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: What you now represent is a man who's been through so, so much and you're so relatable and you're a breeze to so many me and I see that you're going to be able to speak.
• 1:03:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: to thousands of thousands of men in particular, a lot of women are going to be so thankful when they get the opportunity to send their man to you because when they come back, they'll be better.
• 1:03:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it's going to be top-flight secret, baby.
• 1:03:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: And the women they don't even really want to know exactly what was going on.
• 1:03:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: That was just like, when the next time you're going to go see that thing, because you came back, cleaning up.
• 1:03:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: They're gonna really do that, so I see that for you.
• 1:03:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: Tasha, I really, really, really, and I'm a heart think that you're gonna probably be one of the best husbands that the world has ever seen.
• 1:03:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: I know that there have been plenty of men in your life who have done it wrong, and there have been a whole lot of men who have done it right, and you've been able to balance the scale, to find a happy medium.
• 1:04:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think that when you two really get the opportunity to become one, though she doesn't wanna be in front of cameras, she's not a person who has gone really be one to be seen and all that stuff.
• 1:04:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: because she's a sweet girl who wants to be by your side.
• 1:04:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I do see that around that you guys will get the opportunity to do some things together.
• 1:04:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I just appreciate that, man, and I'm going to drop hope from you because I do see that they're moving a little faster because it's like your hardest posture for it.
• 1:04:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: So guys going to give you the desire of your heart.
• 1:04:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: After you get through this premarital, you just have steps, your systematic, and I appreciate that.
• 1:04:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I just think great things are going to happen in that.
• 1:04:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: Right now, I appreciate you putting down those things because you would always have this annoying thing that you have on your life right now.
• 1:04:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, I think you always would have this annoying thing.
• 1:04:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: But the Bible says, don't throw away your confidence because it'll be richly rewarded.
• 1:04:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: And those outside things will take it away your confidence.
• 1:04:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: So now when you show up, you show up.
• 1:04:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'm talking about you show up not the version that used to show up that thought you had to be something the version that now that comes into a room that says not because of him I am who I need to be You become a man and I do see that this Bible study is going to grow and find a natural as when churches across the country start asking you to come don't be afraid don't say you not a speaker whatever they ask you to do just say yes
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, like you said, yes, today this is practice.
• 1:05:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: But when Bishop TD Jakes said, I need you to come sit on a pedal.
• 1:05:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't make your boot shape.
• 1:05:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm going to be around on these people.
• 1:05:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: The Lord is telling me right now, even as I speak to you and I say this like, humbly.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: When your words come out, it will not be you and will be here.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Every single time you won't stutter, you go ahead and write words.
• 1:05:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: You won't even have to think.
• 1:05:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's almost like you're going to regurgitate everything that he's poured into you in this time of exile.
• 1:05:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: This wilderness season is not over for you, mentally.
• 1:05:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: And this time, we move on to the prospecting that you've already seen in your heart and your head.
• 1:05:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so I appreciate you, brothers, man.
• 1:05:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: I know we run it out of time.
• 1:05:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: I would have liked for everybody to do it, but I want to just take you to time because my editor's there ain't probably going to be like, well, let's switch the minutes, the new method.
• 1:05:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're going to charge me in the extra.
• 1:06:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: But you know, I just love you guys.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Thank you so much.
• 1:06:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: This was sucked it.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Let me say this to the camera.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I called them last night.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm in the car.
• 1:06:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, I got this vision, man.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to get to me.
• 1:06:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because I know we don't want to know what they have.
• 1:06:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: And I just, I'm just thankful their brothers would have blinds.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: To say yes.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I know I got a lot going on.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Then boy probably gonna be laughing three more hours tonight.
• 1:06:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: Cause they are.
• 1:06:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'm gonna be all if you love him.
• 1:06:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't take a man, I don't like him.
• 1:06:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, we still cry, don't we?
• 1:06:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: What do we miss?
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  [SPEAKER_04]: But I appreciate you.
• 1:06:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: And thank you, thank you guys for being so vulnerable to that man.
• 1:06:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: I thank you for being vulnerable to that.
• 1:06:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, this is so genuine and natural for us.
• 1:06:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it's time for everybody on the outside to feel how naturally it is when brothers get together and they have the opportunity to be hot.
• 1:06:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm this open and transparent.
• 1:06:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Make sure you subscribe to this channel until two people about this.
• 1:06:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: Share this as much as possible and do me a favor.
• 1:06:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just make sure more than anything that you start prayer for your male ladies.
• 1:07:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like you can pray what you can say if you know it offensive, you can take it to the mega fashion which is Jesus Christ.
• 1:07:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: And you would say, God, touch it's heart, touch it's mind.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't agitate him in this particular season.
• 1:07:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't let your pride overshadow who you really are in your character.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: Man, you will pray and watch God transform that man.
• 1:07:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: My daddy is 93 years old.
• 1:07:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: My mom is 83 years old.
• 1:07:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I still see her at night while she's making his silence.
• 1:07:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Prayin' for his mind.
• 1:07:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, she'd get up in the morning and cuss his hands up.
• 1:07:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then I said, mom, how you going to fight for him at 11 o'clock, and then Cuss has answered at 830, and she said, because he's because he got to keep his mind.
• 1:07:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: I said, what do you mean?
• 1:07:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: She said, because when I'm aggressive with him, it makes him think I don't know what I do if he loses his mind.
• 1:07:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: Sometimes God will make you pray.
• 1:08:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: And if you can respond the way God is telling you to do that, not sometimes it might not be our passive and cute, but if you pray what you can say and you do first and you follow Holy Spirit, he'll give you strategy on how to make sure that that man continues to be the man that God is calling to be.
• 1:08:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just want to challenge you today ladies and gentlemen, I pray that you are in a
• 1:08:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I will be more diligent.
• 1:08:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: I encourage you to love yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I will.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Flatter.