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Searching for the Rock with Parisa Shifteh · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, everyone, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast. Today we
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  Speaker 2: are joined by Parisa Shifta. You may remember her as
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  Speaker 2: the cat Lady of this season. She also she talked
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  Speaker 2: about going home to her cat. She said it, I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: She also made a PowerPoint presentation showing Grant the life
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  Speaker 2: that they would live together if they were to get engaged.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, and welcome to the pod. Parisa.
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  Speaker 4: Hello, thank you for having me. And don't forget about
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  Speaker 4: my rock collection too.
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  Speaker 3: Oh the rock collection.
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  Speaker 5: That's right, all right, all right, this is great. I'm
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  Speaker 5: glad you said that. Let's start that out with this.
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  Speaker 5: You knew you were going to bring some shock waves
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  Speaker 5: with talking about a cat and your rock collection, right,
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  Speaker 5: like this was going to be like something that people
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  Speaker 5: spoke about afterwards.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't think so much about my cat, Sonny, because
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  Speaker 4: I feel like every year there's always someone who talks
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  Speaker 4: about their pet can.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, which is why I said, you're this year's catie.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, this year's But I don't recall there ever being
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  Speaker 4: someone even like a guy. I don't recall anyone ever
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  Speaker 4: having a rock collection or talking about the fact they
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  Speaker 4: have a rock collection.
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  Speaker 5: No, so why did you decide.
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  Speaker 3: To I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I spoke a lot about because you know, not everything
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  Speaker 4: gets shown, But I spoke a lot about just my
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  Speaker 4: interest in general and rocks. That just happened to be
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  Speaker 4: something that came up a lot because we were talking
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  Speaker 4: about traveling, and like that is something that's huge with me.
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  Speaker 4: When I travel, I love to like look up and
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  Speaker 4: see what types of rocks and minerals crystals are like
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  Speaker 4: really abundant in that country and or even like a state,
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  Speaker 4: and then I that's like my souvenir that I go
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  Speaker 4: and look for and I'll bring back from that country.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, and I just I think they're just fun
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  Speaker 4: and it's that's different. And yeah, so I just talked about.
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  Speaker 6: That a lot.
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  Speaker 2: What else did you talk about that didn't make air
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  Speaker 2: any any conversation that stood out to you like five
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  Speaker 2: months removed?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess a lot also about nature, animals and
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  Speaker 4: sex lizards. I told Grant, like during our time, our
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  Speaker 4: downtime at the mansion, there was just so many lizards,
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  Speaker 4: so it would be so fun just like kind of
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  Speaker 4: like walking around the perimeter and just like looking for
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  Speaker 4: just trying to, like, I don't know, catch some lizards.
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  Speaker 4: And there were a couple of girls that were down
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  Speaker 4: to catch lizards with me. It's Chloe and Natalie, So
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  Speaker 4: I knew I could always count on them.
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  Speaker 6: To like go in a nice little walk.
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  Speaker 4: But yeah, we talked about that and he said he
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  Speaker 4: was like, oh, that's cool, Like I used to catch
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  Speaker 4: lizards when I was younger, and so we talked about that.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, so so far we've established that you were open
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  Speaker 5: with Grant about your interests. Yeah, we love your cat, Sonny.
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  Speaker 5: We're big fans of rock collections. I have one. I
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  Speaker 5: actually have a rock tumbler.
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  Speaker 6: Oh does it work?
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  Speaker 5: It still works? Oh yeah, big tumble.
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  Speaker 2: No way, you have a tumbler dedicated to rocks.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah. It makes them real shiny and smooth and you
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  Speaker 5: can see what's on the inside.
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  Speaker 3: It's nice a tumbler.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it's a water bottles like.
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  Speaker 4: You can put in like the polish and then all
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  Speaker 4: the raw rocks and it just like tumbles them and
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  Speaker 4: it polishes them so it's smooth them out.
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay, So I just want to let you know
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  Speaker 2: what I thought when you said that. I thought that
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  Speaker 2: you had like a tumbler, like a website where you
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  Speaker 2: put all the pictures.
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  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, like after ten years or nine years of
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  Speaker 5: doing this whatever you say, we've done it for you
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  Speaker 5: just are now finding out that I blog about rocks exactly.
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  Speaker 5: That's cool. And then you're into lizards. Okay, this isn't
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  Speaker 5: exactly and I think it's very I think it's awesome.
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  Speaker 5: What I love about the show is all the unique
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  Speaker 5: stories that come out of this. But it's not exactly
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  Speaker 5: how you lead off. Most people would lead off on dating, like,
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  Speaker 5: it's not exactly what you reveal on the first couple
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  Speaker 5: of dates. So what kind of guy are you looking
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  Speaker 5: for now?
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  Speaker 6: Uh?
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  Speaker 5: Like, would he have to have these similar interests? Do
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  Speaker 5: you want to teach him about these things? Are you
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  Speaker 5: hoping to teach Grant about these things and hoping he
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  Speaker 5: would at least find an interest enough to chase lizards
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  Speaker 5: around the yard with you?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, it's more like the guy that I'm
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  Speaker 4: looking for, he obviously doesn't need a rock collection or
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  Speaker 4: you know, any of that. It's more of just someone
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  Speaker 4: who's down for new experiences and down for adventure, because
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  Speaker 4: that's how I am too, you know, anytime again, like
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  Speaker 4: planning trips. I just love to be spontaneous and I
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  Speaker 4: love new experiences. It's sometimes it's fun to not plan,
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  Speaker 4: you know, your full day when you're on vacation because
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  Speaker 4: you just kind of see what you want to see
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  Speaker 4: where you know, life takes you, you know, in a
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  Speaker 4: new environment. So just someone who's just down for new
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  Speaker 4: experiences and who can easily adapt.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, did you truly think that he was it like
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  Speaker 2: he could have done that with you?
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  Speaker 4: He Actually, he seems pretty adventurous and he's he's just very.
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  Speaker 6: Open to new things.
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  Speaker 4: Then he like when we would have conversations about traveling,
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  Speaker 4: like we talked about going on a safari that's high
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  Speaker 4: on his list right now with travel and I was like, oh, wow,
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  Speaker 4: like that's incredible because I mean that's like not the
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  Speaker 4: most fabulous vacation going, you know, to a safari with
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  Speaker 4: all these bugs and dangerous animals that you know could
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  Speaker 4: attack you at any second.
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  Speaker 6: So yeah, I mean he really does seem like that type.
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  Speaker 5: Well I appreciate about you is your interest in things
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  Speaker 5: that not everybody else is interested in. I think that
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  Speaker 5: is I could ask you a thousand questions about how
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  Speaker 5: you got into it and why you do it. But
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  Speaker 5: I think it's very very cool, and I think it's
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  Speaker 5: something that somebody someday is going to say, Hey, let
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  Speaker 5: me join in on this. It's a great quality, is
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  Speaker 5: my point here. Speaking of great qualities, though, we do
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  Speaker 5: have to dig into Grant a little bit, and so
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  Speaker 5: here it's almost famous podcast. We love the franchise. We
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  Speaker 5: feel like we haven't gotten to know Grant at all
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  Speaker 5: watching this season. We feel like there's something missing, that
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  Speaker 5: his whole story isn't either being told or he's not
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  Speaker 5: communicating it effectively. So we're hoping you can fill some
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  Speaker 5: gaps for us from your experience with Grant and the
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  Speaker 5: time that you were there and the conversations that you had.
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  Speaker 5: What do you know about Grant that maybe the audience
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  Speaker 5: isn't seeing good and bad? Just help us make sense
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  Speaker 5: of him as a human.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, good question, And you think, because I want to
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  Speaker 4: give you a really good.
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  Speaker 5: Answer comes to mind, Like your first thoughts when you
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  Speaker 5: think of Grant ellis you're with him, You're on a season.
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  Speaker 5: And here's here's my first response to your hesitation. It's concerned.
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  Speaker 5: It's well, you should know this, like you just got
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  Speaker 5: off of a show with him where he was the
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  Speaker 5: lead of your season, you should be able to be like, hey,
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  Speaker 5: this is what I know about Grant. Instead, you had
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  Speaker 5: a little hesitancy. So I want to know if that's
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  Speaker 5: coming from your like you having a hard time answering
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  Speaker 5: it where you're like, I don't really know how to
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  Speaker 5: answer that, or are you just wanting to phrase it perfectly?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I want to phrase it perfectly. It seems like
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  Speaker 4: he genuinely was looking for you know. Yes, he kept
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  Speaker 4: saying a wife, but that was more defined as like
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  Speaker 4: a best friend, you know, you know, and he would
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  Speaker 4: ask all the girls about all about themselves, like what
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  Speaker 4: do you like to do? You know, where do you
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  Speaker 4: want to travel? Just to find those common similarities as
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  Speaker 4: well as, you know, learning more about them and their
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  Speaker 4: background and where they come from. But I feel like
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  Speaker 4: he wanted to find someone that he really connected with,
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  Speaker 4: had both that emotional connection, physical connection, just his best
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  Speaker 4: friend that he can you know, do life with and such.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like a lot of the conversations were always
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  Speaker 4: around that of like where can we be in the
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  Speaker 4: future together?
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  Speaker 6: Like how do how do you see the future with me?
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  Speaker 6: How do I see the future with you? So kind
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  Speaker 6: of I feel like that's what he was looking for.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, that's great, that's on this show. But do you
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  Speaker 5: feel like you got to know him through this problems?
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  Speaker 6: Oh no, and he didn't really get to know me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, we're down to Latia and Juliana. Now, did
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  Speaker 2: there those girls stand out to you as being the
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  Speaker 2: front runner that he was? He always looking at them
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  Speaker 2: when you guys were in a group setting.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not surprised that it's both of them, you know.
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  Speaker 6: I it's obvious.
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  Speaker 4: We see like every episode Lati is always called first,
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  Speaker 4: you know, in the rose ceremonies, and.
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  Speaker 6: With Juliana as well. You know, it's funny.
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  Speaker 4: I would always tell the girls anytime, like I would
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  Speaker 4: kind of sneak up around the corners sometimes and like
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  Speaker 4: just like kind of watch if like a girl whoever
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  Speaker 4: is with Grant, because I just love to just watch.
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  Speaker 4: I love to watch how the girl's looking at him
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  Speaker 4: and how Grant's looking at the girl, and I just
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  Speaker 4: I don't know then I like kind of you know,
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  Speaker 4: like you just piece things together.
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  Speaker 6: So that was something I would do. And I remember.
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  Speaker 4: In Madrid, I like sneaked up on Juliana and Grant
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  Speaker 4: and then I told Juliana. I was like, oh, like
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  Speaker 4: that looked really good. And I just I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I see things and you can just I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not I guess I can just say I'm not
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  Speaker 4: surprised with the final two.
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  Speaker 5: It's always fun to have an upfront seat at during
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  Speaker 5: the show. Jared Ashley's husband and myself used to watch
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  Speaker 5: often and be like, this is crazy. Nobody's gonna believe
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  Speaker 5: this is happening, and we're sitting here watching it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: it is fun. So now that you watch during the
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  Speaker 5: season and now you're watching it back, what has kind
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  Speaker 5: of been your response as you see it on TV,
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  Speaker 5: especially the weeks you aren't there, Is there anything shocking
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  Speaker 5: to you?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because even during my time there and then watching
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  Speaker 4: those episodes, we never none of us knew what was
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  Speaker 4: going on behind closed doors when you were having the
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  Speaker 4: private one on one conversation with Grant, So that was
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  Speaker 4: always always interesting to watch. It'd be like, oh, like,
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  Speaker 4: that's what they were talking about, or that's what that was.
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  Speaker 4: And yeah, now too with not being on any Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I I a lot of it.
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  Speaker 6: It's I guess it's it's.
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  Speaker 4: Interesting to see now, like their relationships, how far they
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  Speaker 4: have come since my time there.
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  Speaker 2: Now, you guys don't have a bachelorette? Do you were
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  Speaker 2: when you found out that news that there was no bachelorette?
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  Speaker 2: Was there like an explosion in the group chat where
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  Speaker 2: you guys were like, uh so sucks for us.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we were shocked, and I guess everyone was more
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  Speaker 4: like concerned, like why why isn't there going to be
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  Speaker 4: a bachelorette? But yeah, that that was news.
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  Speaker 5: It's interesting you're bummed, Like everybody's pretty upset.
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't say upset, maybe a little bummed.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's kind of it's I mean, I had a
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  Speaker 5: different scenario, I guess, but I think I would have
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  Speaker 5: enjoyed seeing somebody from my season like become the Bachelor
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  Speaker 5: if it wasn't me, Like it's fun to watch that
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  Speaker 5: play out, like, oh, I know that person and I'm
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  Speaker 5: rooting for that person, and yeah, it's kind of that
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  Speaker 5: way with me in Paradise. I've always enjoyed watching people
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  Speaker 5: I know go on Paradise and seeing their stories play out,
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  Speaker 5: which brings us to Paradise because Paradise is still existing
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  Speaker 5: as far as we know at this point, would you
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  Speaker 5: go on Paradise. Does that feel like someplace that you
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  Speaker 5: could find somebody? Have they called you?
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  Speaker 4: If the opportunity comes up, Yes, it would be really nice.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like there is a higher success rate with
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  Speaker 4: couples coming from Paradise. And I mean, as you guys,
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  Speaker 4: but now, and I mean that's very that's inspiring, and
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  Speaker 4: I definitely am I am looking. I mean, I was
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  Speaker 4: trying to find the best way to word it. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not getting any younger, and I have been looking for
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  Speaker 4: a while for like my best friend and you know,
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  Speaker 4: someone that I can stay young with. And so if
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  Speaker 4: that opportunity comes up, I feel like that would be
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  Speaker 4: like I think it would. I would be very appreciative
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  Speaker 4: of it, and it would be a blessing because like
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  Speaker 4: looking at the setup of Paradise, I like the fact
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  Speaker 4: that you are taken away from like your everyday life,
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  Speaker 4: no distractions, and you're just thrown on this island, you know,
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  Speaker 4: girls and guys, and then it's just like okay, let's
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  Speaker 4: just see what happens. And it's nice not having like
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  Speaker 4: social media as a distraction work just like the every day,
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  Speaker 4: every day the troubles, there's nothing coming in and distracting
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  Speaker 4: it's just you and that other person and the time
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  Speaker 4: to develop a connection, And I mean, you don't really
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  Speaker 4: get that here.
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  Speaker 6: I mean that's not really interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Have you been a fan of the show. Do you
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  Speaker 2: have any guys that you would like to put on
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  Speaker 2: your list for the producers to bring on down to
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  Speaker 2: Paradise for you?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was thinking about it, but then I feel like, too,
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  Speaker 4: I have a thing like, I don't know, I feel
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  Speaker 4: like just looking back with dating, I can I can
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  Speaker 4: tell you like five different times I've gone to my
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  Speaker 4: girlfriend's and I was like, Oh, I think.
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  Speaker 6: This guy's cute, or oh I kind of want to
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  Speaker 6: pursue this guy, and.
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  Speaker 4: Once I speak it out into the universe, I just
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  Speaker 4: jinx myself or something happens and it's just like, oh, okay.
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  Speaker 3: So you don't want to say names? Yeah, no, come on,
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  Speaker 3: give us a name.
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  Speaker 5: Just one name. This is a good place to do it,
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  Speaker 5: because we just had Mercedes came on and just threw
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  Speaker 5: it out there and he hit her up afterwards.
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  Speaker 6: Like that's so scary to think about.
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  Speaker 5: No, you're going on a dating show. This is the
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  Speaker 5: easiest part. They're not even here. So one name of
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  Speaker 5: somebody from the franchise that sit out to. He doesn't
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  Speaker 5: mean you gotta it's got to be the guy, but
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  Speaker 5: it does mean that you'd say you're looking pretty good
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  Speaker 5: on the beach.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, that I will say a name. But I
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  Speaker 4: also want to throw out there that I really don't
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  Speaker 4: know much about this guy, his personality, you know, his
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  Speaker 4: dating history. So all I know is what I've just
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  Speaker 4: seen on Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, let me guess it's Greg Oh no, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: who Blake Blake minds okay.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, just very adventurous and you know, love to travel.
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  Speaker 6: I feel like we would get along very well. But again,
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  Speaker 6: I don't know, you know, his personality.
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  Speaker 5: And it would be wild if he came back. Now
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  Speaker 5: I'm not saying it won't happen. It very easily could happen.
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  Speaker 5: He would be competing with Chrisky Bukowski as the most
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  Speaker 5: appearances on any season ever.
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  Speaker 3: He would he would?
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  Speaker 5: I mean he has a longevience.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, you would have three, so he'd be tied
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  Speaker 2: with Nick and me.
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  Speaker 5: He's only done Paradise once.
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  Speaker 4: Actually yeah, oh, he was only a Paradise ones.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, okay, So as we kind of wrap up, you're
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  Speaker 5: interested in Paradise. Let's make sure everybody hears that. Who's listening.
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  Speaker 5: The producers of the show are going to be listening.
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  Speaker 5: You're interested in Paradise, you'd be open to relationship in Paradise,
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  Speaker 5: and you're willing to throw names out there of people
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  Speaker 5: you would want to see in Paradise. That's a great start.
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  Speaker 5: You're doing great. That's awesome. As we close up, I
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  Speaker 5: want to go back then to Grant season. Okay, viewers
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  Speaker 5: I think have had a mixed relationship with this season.
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  Speaker 5: I think it's gone where viewers have really wanted to
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  Speaker 5: root for the season and then kind of they've they've
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  Speaker 5: been lost, and now they're kind of going to come back,
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  Speaker 5: I believe for the final episode. It's always a big episode.
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  Speaker 5: If you were to give a sales pitch on why
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  Speaker 5: viewers should tune in, knowing Grant and knowing the two
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  Speaker 5: women left, what would be your sales pitch to them, like,
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  Speaker 5: how do we get viewers to tune into this episode?
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  Speaker 5: Why should they and why should they be rooting for
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  Speaker 5: Grant and whoever he picks at the end.
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  Speaker 6: Not a great question, or.
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  Speaker 5: Your answer could be I don't think they should and
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  Speaker 5: that's fine too.
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  Speaker 4: Oh no, no, I like this stuff. But see I
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  Speaker 4: don't have a background in sale, so like that thought
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  Speaker 4: processing skill is very slow.
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  Speaker 6: Okay when you think about.
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  Speaker 2: It, well, I will have another question that could be
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  Speaker 2: perhaps you don't need the sales degree for I'm thinking
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  Speaker 2: that I would love to know your opinion on if
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  Speaker 2: Grant should have picked someone. If in the end and
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  Speaker 2: he was as torn as he is to the point
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  Speaker 2: in which there are rumors that he might flip a
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  Speaker 2: coin to decide.
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  Speaker 6: I know, so I guess with that.
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  Speaker 4: I like to be very specific with words and like
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: emotions and everything, so like feeling torn, I feel like
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: that word it can mean so many different things, Like
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: I feel like immediately when someone hears the word torn
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: in the situation, they're like, he just doesn't know who
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: he wants to pick.
• 18:26
  Speaker 6: It's like fifty to fifty.
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: But I feel like it could mean so many other things,
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: Like it could mean I don't know. It can mean
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: that he's he's scared, or it's.
• 18:37
  Speaker 6: Not I don't know. I don't know what I'm trying
• 18:39
  Speaker 6: to say.
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: But I feel like we mean it in the sense
• 18:42
  Speaker 5: of conflicted. I cannot decide between the two people in
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: love with both emotionally just torn, Yeah, because how do
• 18:54
  Speaker 5: you say goodbye to somebody that you love to say
• 18:57
  Speaker 5: hello to somebody else?
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: And I think looking back to it other seasons, I
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: mean it's with whoever is the bachelor, you do spend
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: so much time, like you know, with like the final two,
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: where of course it's I think it's easy to develop
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: such strong feelings for both of them, and now it's
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: getting hard. You know, you're coming down to the decision
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: of okay, like yes, I you know, could potentially see
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: myself with both of them, but now I need to
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: think like long term, you know, taking this relationship that
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: was that developed in a fixed environment. It's you get
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: torn to think, Okay, now I'm going to take it
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: out into the real world, like will this love in
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: the real world?
• 19:45
  Speaker 6: Will it make it? Like we'll make it, you know,
• 19:47
  Speaker 6: with our busy lifestyles.
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: And so I feel like it's just the back and
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: forth of like thinking, going through those thoughts. And it's
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: scary too, because what if sometimes I don't know, but
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: like has a bachelor have they ever thought like, Okay,
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: this is the girl that I want, But what if
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: she says no?
• 20:05
  Speaker 6: It's like it's that fear too. I feel like, yeah, it.
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: Goes through all all all of the leads thoughts at
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: some point. I don't think there's one lead that's like, yeah,
• 20:14
  Speaker 5: she's gonna say this, look at me. Well, I actually
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: I can't say that. There's probably been something that's like,
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: I I've got this thing shirt up.
• 20:22
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: At the end of the day, it is, it's just
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: so tricky and like it's so hard to get into
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: someone's mind and really know everything and how they're feeling,
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: and all that you can do is just you know,
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: hope for the best for them, and hope that they
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: are you know, really happy, and you know.
• 20:39
  Speaker 6: And just you know, wish them the best.
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: Okay, Well, I got one final question for you. Okay,
• 20:47
  Speaker 5: you mentioned past seasons. So my assumption is that you've
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: been a fan of the show or you've watched past
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: seasons at some level. You've now a part of the
• 20:58
  Speaker 5: Bachelor alum. It's on your resume. It is a degree
• 21:02
  Speaker 5: you have. So are you happy you did it? Did
• 21:06
  Speaker 5: it live up to all of your expectations and thoughts
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: outside of finding love? Was it everything you hoped it
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: would be?
• 21:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it actually was.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: It was a really great experience for me. It helped
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: me just become more comfortable with who I am. I
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: remember coming back home after filming and you know, like
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: you're back on your phone, back on social media, and
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: I remember going on my Instagram and I was like, wow,
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: this feels different my page because all the pictures posted
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: on my page there are pictures that I want to
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: post to show everyone of like who I am, and
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: like it was never the real me because I always
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: felt like before The Bachelor, I never actually told anyone
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: about my rock collection that I have an interest in nature, animals,
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: and sex all that. Like, no one, only my best
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: friends and my family knew that about me. And so
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: when I came back, I'm like, oh, I don't really
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: like that, Like I don't like how I you know,
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: wasn't showing who I was previously. Because my whole time
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: on the show and you know, with the girls, I
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: was so accepted and everyone was so nice and asking
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: me questions about my travels or just my experiences, asking
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: me about my rock collection all that stuff, and like
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: even you know, when I'm walking around like the MANSI
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: if I pick up a spider, any bugs, anything, I
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: would tell them like oh, here's.
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: The fun fact.
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: And there was even a snake that like came out
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: by the pool and I was inside and everyone's screaming
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: for me to come out. I'm like, oh my god,
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: I'm like, don't touch it, I'm coming, and I ran
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: out and I wanted to pick it up, but then
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: I wasn't allowed to.
• 22:47
  Speaker 6: But it was just like things like that.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: I'm like, it's just so nice, like feeling accepted, and
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: then it made me just so coomfortable. I'm like, you
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: know what, there's no point for me to like hide
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: these things and you know, not speak up about like
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: who I am in my intro. So I I think
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: like this experience really brought all that out of me.
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: And now I'm like more confident to be like, yeah,
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: I have rock collection, so what you.
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: Know, lean into it. I'm telling you, it's one of
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: the greatest things that happens from being on this show
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: is the revelation of what you've been hiding for so long,
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: and what you've been maybe ashamed of or not talking about,
• 23:23
  Speaker 5: or maybe not even knowing how to put words to it.
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: Lean in to this new level of confidence. I wasn't
• 23:31
  Speaker 5: kidding when I said I think it's very interesting. I
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: think it makes you you.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: It is.
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: It is unique. It's unique, which is exactly what people
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: are attracted to, is uniqueness. And so lean into it
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: and have fun with this kind of new season of life.
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: I hope it brings you a ton of joy. I
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: hope we see you on the beach.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: You're perfect for it.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: I can see picking up all the reptiles and all
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: the crabs.
• 24:00
  Speaker 5: Everything Ashley complained about. You're gonna be like it.
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: It's gonna be like crabs in my bed. Heck, yeah,
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: I will.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: I will help anyone who's scared. I will pick them up,
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: you know, gracefully and let them back, let.
• 24:12
  Speaker 6: Them go outside.
• 24:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's gonna be great. Hey, thanks for coming on
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: the podcast. We appreciate having you here. Again. For anybody listening,
• 24:21
  Speaker 5: tune in pay attention to who's the cast is gonna
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: be for Paradise. You've gotten to hear from a few
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: people that were rooting for in the last few weeks.
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: Uh is one of those that were thrown in that bucket.
• 24:35
  Speaker 5: So until next time, I've been Ben.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: I've been Ashley.
• 24:38
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• 24:42
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