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Capítulo 059: A Locatora Love Note · Locatora Radio [A Radiophonic Novela]

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  Speaker 1: Radio Radio Radio Commies a Myth and Bullshit, a radiophonic novella.
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  Speaker 1: Look Radio hosted by Malamn. Welcome to Season three of
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  Speaker 1: Local Radios. Because firm revenge has never sounded so sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Look at Our Radio is a radiophonic novella archiving the
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  Speaker 1: legacies and brilliance of women and fems of color. I'm
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  Speaker 1: Theos and I'm Mala, and we are less mommies of
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  Speaker 1: myth and Bullshit. Last Look Radio radiophonic novella, which is
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  Speaker 1: just a really really extra way of saying a podcast. Welcome,
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  Speaker 1: welcome back, welcome back. Last time on Look at Our Radio,
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  Speaker 1: we discussed Catholic guilt, our life as recovering Catholics, and
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  Speaker 1: vanity as a social construct. And as always, got Our
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  Speaker 1: Radio is recorded at IT Radio, Espasio here at nine.
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  Speaker 1: This is a community radio station um here in boil Heights.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you once again for joining us, Thank you for
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  Speaker 1: joining us. So we're gonna jump right in to some announcements.
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  Speaker 1: We have some exciting stuff we want to talk about.
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  Speaker 1: Um So, Mala, can you just start us off please? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: First and foremost read about us in Forbes Bitch number one.
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  Speaker 1: Literally read about us in Forbes. Thank you Vivian Nunez
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  Speaker 1: for reaching out to us, interviewing us, and putting out
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  Speaker 1: a beautiful feature of about us about our podcast in Forbes. Yeah. So,
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  Speaker 1: if we haven't checked out our article, it's four pieces
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  Speaker 1: of podcasting advice from this Latino podcast duo. So I
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  Speaker 1: was at work, oh my god, like teaching the youth
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  Speaker 1: of tomorrow, right, and then I get a text from Thesa.
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  Speaker 1: It was so hilarious because, Um, I was getting ready
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  Speaker 1: for work myself and I was, you know, checking our
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  Speaker 1: checking my email, checking our email, and I see that
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  Speaker 1: we have an email from Vivian and she says, hey, like,
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  Speaker 1: here's the link. It's live. And I'm freaking out, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm texting Mala and she's not replying, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, Mala, we're in Forbes. We're in Forbes.
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  Speaker 1: I'm texting her. I'm just like reading the article. I'm
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  Speaker 1: freaking out. I'm running to my mom's room. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: like literally going everywhere, and Mama, of course is in class.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like, well, you know, I'm just gonna post
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  Speaker 1: this now. So I like made the executive decision posted
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  Speaker 1: the article. Um and people were replying to it, and
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  Speaker 1: I was telling Joanna from The Unapologetically Brown Girl, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, Um, I'm freaking out because Mala's at work
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  Speaker 1: and she hasn't seen this text and all of this
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  Speaker 1: is going on. I couldn't have a reaction. I was dying.
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  Speaker 1: It was so exciting. We're still really excited. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: everybody who reposted it, who shared it, who read it. Um,
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  Speaker 1: we're in love with the article. I feel like it
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  Speaker 1: really captures us and what we're about, and it's almost
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  Speaker 1: like we retraced our steps, Like we look at the
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  Speaker 1: podcast and what we've created and we kind of just
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  Speaker 1: looked back and saw like, what's our journey and that's
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  Speaker 1: how we drew like those pieces of advice you know,
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  Speaker 1: for that article. Definitely, definitely, And I think it's so
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  Speaker 1: um well timed because we just had our workshop at
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  Speaker 1: the library so fun, you know, so fun and um
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  Speaker 1: so and I think that was our first time actually
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  Speaker 1: talking about our origins and giving advice to other, you know,
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  Speaker 1: folks that want to start a podcast and talking about
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  Speaker 1: what's worked for us and what hasn't worked for us.
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  Speaker 1: And it's really inspiring and affirming to to see that
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  Speaker 1: people are reaching out to us as authorities, like as
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  Speaker 1: podcast authorities because they respect what we've done and they
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  Speaker 1: see what we've done. So it just feels super affirming
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  Speaker 1: to to have this feedback. It feels good. It feels
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  Speaker 1: really good. And speaking of that podcasting workshops, so at
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  Speaker 1: the Memorial Branch over on Olympic we hosted our first
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  Speaker 1: of many made in l a podcasting one on one workshops.
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  Speaker 1: It was really fun. It was a full workshop. There
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  Speaker 1: were people there that we recognize, some listeners and look
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  Speaker 1: amotis shoutout to yeah, I know you're probably listening, um.
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  Speaker 1: And there was also like some male podcasters there. There
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  Speaker 1: were been there, there were men there. There were men there.
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  Speaker 1: It's always like when we see men come to our
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  Speaker 1: podcasting workshops, are just our workshops were always like okay,
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  Speaker 1: are you going to stay for all of this? Right?
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  Speaker 1: What's yeah? There were what's going on? There were some
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  Speaker 1: white people who like stayed for the lecture portion, but
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  Speaker 1: when it came to like, you know, do the group
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  Speaker 1: work and outline like your own podcast, they got up
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  Speaker 1: and left. Some of them like complimented us, though one
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  Speaker 1: white man said that we were geniuses, thank god, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I know, that's how we're doing. That's
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  Speaker 1: literally why we're we literally archived the legacies and genius
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  Speaker 1: of ourselves. It's in the mission statement. Thanks for right, um.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean I think we didn't really know
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  Speaker 1: what to expect in terms of turnout for the library
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  Speaker 1: and like, I've never been to a library workshop in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of a Saturday, you know what i mean.
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  Speaker 1: So we didn't really know what to expect. So again,
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  Speaker 1: thank you to everybody that showed up. We had oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, we had a the daughter of a Dodger.
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  Speaker 1: She was there because she's starting a podcast and she
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  Speaker 1: wanted to come and she said she saw us, you know,
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  Speaker 1: an aalistical so she was like, I'm gonna go check
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  Speaker 1: out this workshop that they're doing. So that was really cool. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So she's sitting there talking about casually like when I'm
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  Speaker 1: starting a podcast for my dad, it's chill. My dad
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  Speaker 1: was one of the Dodgers, it's what EV's And I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, so who's your dad? Like she goes, Manny
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  Speaker 1: Mota and then we do our our due diligence, our
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  Speaker 1: research and not only did he play for the Dodgers, Dominican,
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  Speaker 1: but he was also a coach. He coached the Dodgers
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  Speaker 1: for a period of time, and he's also um what
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  Speaker 1: are they called when they like report like the live game,
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  Speaker 1: he's like one of the commentators, like the commentator when
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  Speaker 1: he does that for in Spanish, like for one of
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  Speaker 1: the Spanish networks. Yeah, so if you're listening, thanks for
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  Speaker 1: coming out, Thank you for coming. We love thee some
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  Speaker 1: like l A bitches. I don't really know the players,
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  Speaker 1: but I know that I support the Daughters because I'm
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  Speaker 1: in l A bitch. Absolutely, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: And I will watch them when they go to the
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  Speaker 1: World Series and I'll cry when they don't wait. Absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, wait this gave me a flashback. I
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  Speaker 1: went on a date with this guy once who was
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  Speaker 1: like such the like woke, the woke cheek like quote
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  Speaker 1: unquote that you enjoy the Daughters because n yes, it
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  Speaker 1: was so funny. We were we all know what you
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  Speaker 1: gotta like that. We were on a fucking date of
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  Speaker 1: first date girl, and we're talking about what we like
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  Speaker 1: to do for fun. I'm like, oh, I like Dodger games,
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  Speaker 1: and he goes, really, but what about Chavez Ravene what
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  Speaker 1: about imminent domain? Right, I'm like, what about it? Go blue?
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  Speaker 1: Like I love the Dodgers. I don't know what to
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  Speaker 1: tell you. What are you what are you going to do?
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  Speaker 1: What are you going to do about? Like? No, what
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  Speaker 1: are you well going to do? Now? I don't get it?
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  Speaker 1: So why is it your you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: My problem? I mean that you do or don't do
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  Speaker 1: isn't going to give people back their their home. They're
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  Speaker 1: stolen land, you know what I mean? Right, it was wrong,
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  Speaker 1: it was funked up. But what do you want me
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  Speaker 1: to do anyway? Whatever? And the other things. More announcements.
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  Speaker 1: So we also had our pop up so if you
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  Speaker 1: were there, thank you for coming out. Um it was
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  Speaker 1: super cute. It was so pink. We really took over
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  Speaker 1: lasts and made it very local, very very very fem
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of people came out. There was a
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  Speaker 1: lot of engagement. People brought their daughters, their kids. Um.
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  Speaker 1: There was a home girl there from U c. L A.
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  Speaker 1: On roller skates skating around the whole time. Shout out
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  Speaker 1: T was there. Shout out T, shout out sizzle, Shout
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  Speaker 1: out to my homegirl scarlet. She volunteered. She um worked
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  Speaker 1: our merch and was like super on top of selling
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  Speaker 1: and getting that for us. So shout out to her.
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  Speaker 1: She's actually my homegirl from high school from the convents,
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  Speaker 1: from the convent that the escaped from. Yeah, that I survived, right,
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  Speaker 1: So thank you to everybody who came out. I think
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  Speaker 1: that we should do it again. Yeah, I think we
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  Speaker 1: need to do pop up again. So I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: look out for those announcements in the future. Definitely it's
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  Speaker 1: So so at this point, Mala, we go out to
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  Speaker 1: La La and that's it. That's about it. Or on
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  Speaker 1: my way to leave l A, my way out right
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  Speaker 1: right right yeah bye. Don't want to get on all
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  Speaker 1: text message early in the morning, so I had I
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  Speaker 1: usually got to therapy in the evening beings on like
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  Speaker 1: my day of the week, and um, this session, I
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  Speaker 1: had to schedule it in the morning. So I was
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  Speaker 1: waking up, you know, earlier than usual, and I'm telling
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  Speaker 1: my mom like, oh yeah, I'm going to leave for
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  Speaker 1: therapy and a little bit, and my dad comes into
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  Speaker 1: my room freaking out because he had no idea that
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  Speaker 1: I see a therapist. Even though I talk about it
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  Speaker 1: all the time, I'm very transparent about it, so he
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  Speaker 1: had no idea he freaked out. He asked me if
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  Speaker 1: I'm okay, He asked me if I need help like
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  Speaker 1: all these things, and I'm like, well, this is why
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  Speaker 1: I see a therapist, right. And then this is where
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  Speaker 1: it gets really intense and really deep. He says, well,
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  Speaker 1: do you see a therapist because of me? And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, wow, the thing, I'm going to therapy right
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  Speaker 1: now because I was not ready to answer that question.
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  Speaker 1: I was still asleep, but me and the hangarst in bed, right,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And then you know, it's like, Dad, if
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  Speaker 1: you're asking the question, you must know that, you must
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  Speaker 1: Now you know? All right, So we're going to move
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  Speaker 1: on to our next segment, our favorite segment. Oh yeah, look,
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  Speaker 1: as have you ever ended a toxic friendship? Who you
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  Speaker 1: want to go first? No? I don't, Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I think. I think that any toxic
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  Speaker 1: friendships that I've had have sort of just dissipated on
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  Speaker 1: their own just naturally. Um. I have never had like
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  Speaker 1: a bad blow up friendship breakup that was like official
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  Speaker 1: or that was like intentionally ended. Sometimes things just fizzla
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  Speaker 1: on out and you let them and you don't perform
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  Speaker 1: friendship CPR on them. And that's what I've experienced. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I agree. Um, I think the same thing. I've never
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  Speaker 1: had an actual breakup. But UM, I think one one
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  Speaker 1: instance in particular that really hurt, but it made sense
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  Speaker 1: was a friend that I was really close to, but
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  Speaker 1: I was only close to her because she was my
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  Speaker 1: ex as sorority sister. So I knew whenever, like I
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  Speaker 1: knew in the back of my head, like if this
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  Speaker 1: relationship would end, we're not going to be friends anymore.
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  Speaker 1: And I knew that, and that was like okay, but
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  Speaker 1: it's still hurt, you know, the friendship ending, But it
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  Speaker 1: made sense. It was a natural progression of phasing out.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm not going to stay friends with her obviously. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And the same thing, like all of my friendships, either
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  Speaker 1: I've outgrown them, maybe they've outgrown me. We've grown in
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  Speaker 1: different directions, we've grown distant, and it happens. It happens. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I just like, you know, a true good friendship that
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  Speaker 1: had meaning in my life. Um, I haven't had any
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  Speaker 1: kind of rupture as far as an authentic friendship that's
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  Speaker 1: long lasting, um other more superficial um surface level friendships. Sure,
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  Speaker 1: But I think it's also good to point out that,
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  Speaker 1: like your friends can be really toxic, you know, and
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  Speaker 1: they're not actually your friends, so more like people can
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  Speaker 1: be toxic in your life that aren't just relationships, you know.
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  Speaker 1: So that's I think important to to think about. You know,
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  Speaker 1: is this person celebrating you when you accomplish something right?
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  Speaker 1: Is this person, um, you know, maybe giving you bad
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  Speaker 1: advice or actually likes to see your relationships go poorly
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like, I think that's definitely
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  Speaker 1: something to pay attention to. Yeah. Or Also I think
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  Speaker 1: what's also been important is even me recognizing what if
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  Speaker 1: I'm the toxic element in a friendship and if things
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  Speaker 1: are fizzling out. There's also like I try and give
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  Speaker 1: people their space, Like I don't try and force friendship
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  Speaker 1: onto folks, or like if someone is clearly not trying
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  Speaker 1: to hang out with me, or is not responding or
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  Speaker 1: things like that, I let it be like, I don't try.
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  Speaker 1: I don't demand closure or explanations from folks. I sort
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  Speaker 1: of if you wanted to fizzle, I'm gonna let it fizzle,
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  Speaker 1: you know. Um, And I think that's important too. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I echo that because there was like a recent friend
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  Speaker 1: group or kind of just like naturally just fizzled out
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  Speaker 1: and I couldn't see it happening, and I just very
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  Speaker 1: much felt like, well, I'm not going to put any
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  Speaker 1: effort into hitting you up so that we can hang
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  Speaker 1: out if you're not doing it either, So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: just let it go. Yeah, totally totally agree. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: thank you for that. That question. Next question, Um, So
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  Speaker 1: this one came up a lot, so I think it's
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  Speaker 1: important that we answer address. Um, what are your thoughts
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  Speaker 1: on friends with benefits? Okay, here's my fucking thought. What
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  Speaker 1: the fund is? The benefit is what I want to know?
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  Speaker 1: What is the benefit? I saw this tweet I know
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  Speaker 1: which one you're talking about, saying she was like, she
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh I feel scammed friends with benefits. The
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  Speaker 1: benefits I thought would be like insuring and dental. It's
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  Speaker 1: just sex. What the fuck? That's not a benefits benefiting
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  Speaker 1: And it's not a benefit because of you suckers canceling
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  Speaker 1: any type of dick to save your own fucking lives,
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  Speaker 1: never mind benefit me in any kind of a way.
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  Speaker 1: So that phrase, I don't even know what it means.
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  Speaker 1: At least I have never entered into a beneficial like
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  Speaker 1: friendship in the way that that phrase is usually used to,
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  Speaker 1: like suggest we're friends that hook up sometimes and the
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  Speaker 1: sex is the benefit. I mean, I had one of
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: those m and it ended obviously, um and um. I
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: think the issue like, aside from that that like men
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: actually don't really deserve us, I think, right, I think.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: I think also like at some point, like one of
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: you is going to catch feelings, you know, and it's
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: gonna be yours fall in love and I can't help that, right,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: you know what It's like, there's like this meme or
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: something like when you're trying to be a home but
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: you just catch feelings, you know, and then you're like crying,
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: you know, and that and that can happen, you know.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: So I personally don't think that friends with benefits can work,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: especially if it's an actual friendship that you have. It's
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: one thing where it's like oh you guys, me and
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: you decide you don't want to date, but they're still
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: new to your life, and then you decide to hook up.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: But like taking a friendship and then turning it into
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: friends of benefits doesn't work. I don't think so. I
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: think maybe a friendship to relationship can work. But one
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: of you is going to get hurt. Somebody's going to
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: get hurt. It's probably going to be you going to
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: be it's not going to be the man. It's not
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: going to be the man that gets hurt. Sure, if
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: you're if that's the type of hetero relationship that you're
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: in between queer folks, I think that it happens a
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: lot because our community is so small, so we end
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: up sucking our friends and then we have no friends
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: and we have no community. So don't do that either.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I mean, in my opinion, that's been my experience. I'm
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: not friends with any of my friends from college anymore
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: because guess what, I dated my friend, right, and now
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I have no friends, you know what I mean? Like
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I literally experienced that, So it's a slippery you know.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: So I don't know. I just also want to say
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: that when it comes to we were just talking about
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: this before we started recording. The dating questions that we
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: get are so interesting because we are not dating experts. Like, bitch,
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: I want to know too. I have the same question.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: I need help, but not damn spicy fix my life
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: had spicy body? Where you at? Girls? Like when I
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: tell you I couldn't give you the name of a
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: crush if I wanted to write, like my d MS
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: my phone are bone dry, bitch arid. Okay, it's been
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: a drought. What rain? Spicy? What rain? Could you know?
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: What I mean? Like right right with the dating questions,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: I'm like, that's a that's a good question, right, I'm
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: trying to fire right right anybody out the spicy spicy buddy.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: She the dating consultant, she's a guru, and she actually
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: gave us these spicy dating questions. So you asked them
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: on the first day, and they're typically questions that you
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: don't you don't want to ask. So my partner and
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I actually did ask them, and we learned to like
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: some stuff about each other when we did it. Oh goody,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: it was hopeful. Check her out, spicy muddy um. Next question,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: Next question, Okay, another dating just started dating? What are
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: good for you? Bitch? We're all very happy for you. Know,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: we are happy for you. But this question, what are
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: some good slash bad signs? Let me count the way, right?
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: I remember? That's so funny that we're answering this question
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: because literally this morning I was thinking about the time Alla,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: when I was telling you about someone I was dating,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: and I told you something horrible that he did for
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: his partner, remember very vividly and goes fosa. He's showing
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: you all his flags. He's literally being like, look at
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: all my flags are they are here, they are for you,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: and I still look the other way, you know what
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I mean. So, Okay, here's a bad sign. If he's
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: living with his girlfriend and cheating on her and going
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: out with you, that's a bad sign. There's like there's
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: like this meme where it was like you should maybe
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: not see him anywhere. I've seen this meme floating around
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: where it's like, sis, that married man is not your
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: soul mate. It's so true, and yeah, if he's married, no, yeah,
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: so bad sign. He hides his family from you, hides
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: his significant other, puts his phone down face down, um,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: has stuff on, do not disturb, has messages muted, has
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: wild incognito windows everywhere on every device and ship. Let
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: me see what else. Um, Yeah, his stories just don't
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: seem to match up. Don't give him the benefit of
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: the doubt. He's lying. Yeah, he's likely, he's a liar.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I think a good A good thing is to just
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: assume that he's lying. Assume that he's lying. Let's start there.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Whatever I start talking to a new guy, I always
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: assume that he has a secret family and a wife.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: I just start there because then I can only it
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: can the news can only get better if he doesn't. Historically,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: that's what's happened. Right, We have all of us dated
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: these people that have had secret double lives. I just
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: triggered myself. Lord, alright, if I listen, people, listen, everyone like,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: come closer, come closer, listen, tell us well, and tell
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: us warm your ears by this fire. Listen. Nearly every
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: fucking woman that I know has dated multiple guys who
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: ended up having a newborn baby somewhere, a fiancee somewhere,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: a pregnant wife or girlfriend somewhere, us a live a
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: live at home, a stay at home significant other. The
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: list goes on and motherfucking on to this day. Bitch,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: to this day, it's a mess out there. So when
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: we talk about like a good signs bad signs, I say,
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: proceed with caution on I mean, okay, not to scare you,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: to scare you, so good signs. I'm going to hear
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: some good signs. Has a job. Um, let's see taxes. Um. Okay.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: When I first started dating my man, I knew that
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I wanted to make you my man good. Yes, good,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: because I felt like he Um. I did obviously, of
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: course proceeded with caution. I wasn't like trying to get
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: to invest it in this person too early on. But
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: I knew that there was something different about him, you know.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: And this was also like my first real real relationship
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: with a man. They hit man. So I was really
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: confused the whole time, you know. I was just like,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: I don't get that this is all new. I felt
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: like I was sixteen, you know what I mean, like confusing.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: It was very confusing. Um. And I don't know. A
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: good sign Um, if they take you around your their friends,
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I think that's a good sign because they're not hiding you, right.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: If they If they take you to work events like
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: my man has, you know, works for the city so
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: like I go to some work events stuff, you know, like,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know if they're trying to keep these like
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: really clear divisions and not including you in their life.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I think that that's early on. I think that that's
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: a bad sign. I think that's a bad sign. I
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: went back to the bad signs. So they're doing it,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: then that's a good sign. Okay, Good Signs, Good signs.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Good Signs is respectful of your time. Yes, UM is
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: supportive of your career and educational like goals, pace for dinner,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: pays for dinner, pace for dates, pay for date, picks
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: you up, picks you up. Is not stingy all that
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: good stuff. UM compliments you, compliments you, does not compare
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: you good good if he doesn't compare you to his
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: previous situation, right right, right? And I think also UM,
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: for me, what was difficult is that my my partner
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: isn't word of affirmations are not his thing. I remember this, right,
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: So life for us was like we really had to
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: work at it, really had to work at it. But
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: that was like something I was willing to invest in,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: like how do we both learn how to love each other?
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Absolutely Good Signs is willing to hear about feminism and
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: is willing to hear about men being trash in plain
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: language without getting um, you know, hysterical and throwing up
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: sucking tantrum right, important tantrums. That is also I think
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: another like question that we've got on a lot is
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: like how do I talk to my sis head boyfriend
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: about feminism? Like, I don't know, if they're not willing
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: to like talk about or listen to what you're going through,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's not a good sign. That's not a
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: good sign, you know, Yeah, yeah, because it's not just
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: it's not just like, oh, feminism is like this theory.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, it is a theory, but it's also our
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: lived experience. That's you know what I mean, Like day
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: to day, this is what we're experiencing. The street harassment,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: the internet harassment, all of it, even like the very
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: subtle imgressions. Yeah, we can't escape it, you know, I
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: can't walk down the street. So if you're not willing
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: to hear about it, then well that's not a good sign.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Then he doesn't care about your ass, bitch, Okay, but
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: we care about your asket all right. Um, let me
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: see what else? What else? What else? What else? Because
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I know that there's more. Um oh no, this just
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: reminds me so like the one time I went out
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: in North Hollywood, like I went with Melissa, And there's
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: a reason I don't date white guys, y'all. Oh my god,
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: I remember this story. Let me count the ways. I
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: don't know if I've shared this story on the podcast,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: but share it again. It's a funny story. It's a
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: good story trauma. So I go, we go out to
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: the valley and this white man like comes up and
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: is buying his drinks and talking to us. First of all,
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: white men are on like some other ship. Because he
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: starts showing us his various like cryptocurrency apps and investments,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: and he's like showing us his cryptocurrency stocks and ship.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, what the fun is he on? Like?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: And then, because I like to test the waters when
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I'm talking to men that I don't know, I start
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: talking about men being trashed. I don't know how we
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: got on that subject. This white man took his white
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: hand and covered my mouth with his white hand. When
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: I said men are trash, he took his white hand
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: and covered my mouth with it. And it was some
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: wild ship. And this is why I don't date white guys.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: So if he does that and physically silences you when
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: you talk about men being trashed, he's not the one, girl, right,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: thank you for that question. All right, well that was
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: our ted talk um. Next question, this is our last question. Okay,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: this one's important. You'll pay attention. How do you know
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: when a guy is no longer worth chasing? First of all,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: don't chase men? Never worth chasing? Never ever? Ever? What
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: is what is chasing me? Like? Pursuing them because they're
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: showing no interest in you? Because if that's the case, no,
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: or um, Because you know, these motherfucker's love attention and
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: they will dangle themselves. Men are little hussy's, bitch men
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: are little attention seeking hussy horrors. They are, you know,
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: and I know. I know because I am one too,
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: so I can identify the patterns of behavior when I
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: see them. So some sometimes these guys will instigate a
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: chase and they will dangle themselves. You do, girl, yes,
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: you do. Most of my friends they will instigate a chase,
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: and they will instigate like the conditions to get you
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: to like fawn over them, and this set or the
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: other right and again. Next thing, you know, wife and
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: kids and the whole other ship. Right, don't chase them, ever,
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: it's all a trap. Don't don't do it. I mean,
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: you can be bold and express interests and put your
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: intentions out there that That's what I did with current
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: Boom did with my partner. I will, like made it
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: very clear, these are my intentions. I want to date you.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I even kissed him first, because it's fool would not
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: kiss me because he was trying to be respectful, and
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: I was like, disrespect me, damn it, make out with
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: me already goad anyway. So I mean, like I was
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: very utter than the beginning of that relationship. Um, and
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: then I stepped back because I also needed to be wooed,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: you know, and like I am also you know, the gold.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I am the prize. You know, you get to date me.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: You're very lucky, you know, and that's important to remember,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Like you're the commodity, not that you're an object, but
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like they're really lucky to
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: have you. Whoever this person is, just remember that you
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: are the prize, you know. And so I think it's
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: sometimes it's just better to like sit it out and
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: just chill. You know and let it come to you
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: because it will. They will find you. They always do,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: they always do. Yeah, speaking of um, my man finally
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: paid for my nails finally, I'm like you must have
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: listened to because we were talking about nail sponsors. So
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: that leads us to our next segments vision. So we
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: are now needing to get on the same nail cycle, right.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: We need our menstrual cycles to match up, and our
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: nail cycles also need to sync up, right. I mean
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: we're both on birth control, so that would happened awkward, right,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: but this is the only cycle that we can get
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: to sync up right now, right is so what are
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: you doing today with? Okay? So today I am doing, um,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: a nude. I wanted something you know, sometimes like a
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: really pretty nude can be really sexy, you know. So
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: I got my claws beautiful shaped, you know, so they're
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: even points here them before and I really liked them.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: And then I also got some jewels. They're adorable. Um
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: it's like a subtle but still kind of flashy look,
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: you know. And I so the women that did my nails,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: she's also at the Wittier Beauty Collective and her I
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: g is clawed by Jojo and she does bomb mass nails.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: They're gorgeous and they do look very pointy. They're very sharp.
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: I'm really happy with Yeah, I got mine. They're not
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: quite as fresh as I would like them to be.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I got them about a week ago. But I did
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: like a Matt Matt salmon. Yeah. I like the Matt too.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: This is my first time getting Matt and I'm into
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: them and I really like the color. They're a salmon.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I did a simple nail this time because last time
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: I had like flex the flex. Yeah, So I like
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: going to gloss on Sunset Yessica's spots. She recommended me there.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: And it was funny because when I sat down and
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: got this set done, the tech who was doing my nails,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: she goes, oh, your friend, yesgo was here yesterday. So
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: we talked about yes ago though. It was cute. Yes, perfect.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: So this has been vision vision alright, So, um, we
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: are going to go into a songbreak or and and
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: and and and and and and and and and and
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: and and and and and and um um um um
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: um um um um um of it and ship. So
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: there's a lot that's been going on out in the world. Um,
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: today we're gonna do a little bit more pop culture
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: analysis than we usually do. We don't have a guest
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: or really like a super specific theme for today, but
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: some things have been going on in the world that
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: you know. Of course, we can talk about as far
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: as like multidimensional host ship look up pistemology ship, victim
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: blaming survivor center type ship. So I think something that's
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: on everybody's mind is the situation with Jordan Woods and
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: the Kardashians and Tristan Thompson and all that bullshit. So
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: I just want to say that we are a team
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: Jordan Would. We're in support of Jordan's um. She's a
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: young woman, twenty one years old. From my understanding, I
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: watched a couple of clips of that Red Table talk
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: that Jordan did with Jada Pinkett, and based on Jordan's
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: first of all, she look gorgeous. She looks so good,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: makeup was flawless. Jordan's beautiful. She's very beautiful. Number one UM,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: and I hope she gets a lot of work from
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: the Scandal tvh Like, I hope she gets hired because
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: you already know that they're going to try and black
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: ball her. Oh yeah, they will, So I hope she
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: flips it and makes it work for her, and I
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: hope that Jordan's like lands on her feet and creates
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: her own brand independent of the Kardashians after this. This
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: is maybe the break that she needed, end of a
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: toxic friendship. There's a theme the friendship. Yeah, there you go.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: But according to Jordan Woods, her accounting of what happened
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: that fateful night at Tristan Thompson's home, that everyone had
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: been drinking, blah blah blah blah blah, She's on her
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: way out leaving the place, and that Tristan Thompson went
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: up and like kissed her and she wasn't expecting it,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: she wasn't asking for it. It's not something that had
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: happened before. It's not something she was looking for. So
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: when I hear that description, I hear, uh, like she
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: was sexually her asked or kissed without her consent. She's
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: much younger than him, he's much older than her. She
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: had been drinking, and I'm not here for the victim
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: blaming shit right, no, right, And you know, um kim Alan,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: my favorite like fem scholar, artists, writer, everything she tweeted
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: and I wanted to read this, she tweeted. Jada Pinkett
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: handled the conversation with so much grace and forgiveness, the
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: kind that is usually only afforded when white boys commit
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: actual crimes. She made a point to remind Jordan that
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: she has loved, she has family, and this is not
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: all that will define her. And I think that's really important,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: especially for black women. Right. The Kardashians have profited, made
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: an entire empire off of like taking the black culture. Yeah,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: this actual black woman is being harassed, sent death threats,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: her sister can't go to school, her mom can't go
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: to work. I don't know what I mean, like over
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: a kiss. Right, And then folks are also blaming um
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: the end of the Chloe's marriage with Tristan, when we
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: know that that's not that was not the end. You know,
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: this was not the marker that defined the end of
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: their relationship. Now and Chloe, my dear, my sweetie, you
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: lose him how you got Yes, let there be a
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: lesson for everybody, and you will lose him the exact
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: same way that you got on. Sweetheart, you are not
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: the exception. He's not going to change for you. That
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: fairy tale does not exist. Don't believe the hype. You
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: took him from his pregnant like girlfriend fiance. Right, This
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: is his pattern, This is what he does. This is
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: his m O. Right, so we can't expect anything else.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Going back to what are the good signs and the
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: bad signs? If he leaves his pregnant fiance to be
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: with you, that's bad. He will do that to you.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: He will do that to you, guaranteed. Just don't wait
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: for it to happen to you. Right. So, anyway, pro
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: Jordan's Jordan, I'm in support of Jordan. I'm not here
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: for any of the bashing of her, the victim blaming.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: She didn't do anything wrong. In my opinion, Jordan Woods
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: did nothing wrong and she didn't deserve this backlash. Well, okay,
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: so I guess I have been following it, and it's
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: so funny because yesterday I don't know. I'm also not
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: a Kardashian follower fan. I don't even follow any of
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: them on social media. You know what, if you do whatever,
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: But I have been following this, and probably because Jordan
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: would is in it, and I actually had never heard
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: of her until this all happened. But I was at
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: so for her. Yesterday and the women were talking about it.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: The makeup artists were like, I don't know why I'm
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: so invested in this drama, but I've been following it.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: Everyone around me has been talking about it everyone, So
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: I think I think that's also why we wanted to say, like,
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: you know, we support Jordan Woods, and like people are
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: really going to try and drag her through the mud.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: And it's so much easier when it's a woman of color,
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: especially a black woman, to just try and tarnish her
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: name and her reputation, like ruin her. And we had
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: we've talked about this in depth. We have an entire
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: episode about and this sort of pathologizing that happens when
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: you are classified and put into the spot of being
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: the other woman or the mistress. It is this marginalized
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: like social positioning. We can talk about Monica Lewinsky, we
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: can talk about all these different women historically who have
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: just been trashed and just thrown, you know, dragged through
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: the mud, like you're saying, their involvement with an ancient
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: man who was doing something he was not supposed to
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: be doing to begin with, the blame is always placed
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: on that woman and this is just another instance, you know,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: and history repeats itself, and it's just so wild that
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: like we love falling into this, like we love throwing
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: stones at like a wayward woman that we think did
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: something she wasn't supposed to do. It's like this like
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: social sport that we engage in, and it's fucked up.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: I'm not here for it. I think. Also, we like
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: love a villain, and we love when the villain is
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: a beautiful woman. You know. I think any any opportunity
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: to really like tear a woman down, we will see
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: social media do it at all levels, like women doing it,
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: men doing it, of course, men doing it, like calling
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: her a hoe, calling her all kinds of names. Any
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: opportunity to really be a misogynist, they'll take it, take it,
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: you know. So there, so there, I think, um, And
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: I wanted to say something. I've heard some people saying
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: things like Jordan's like, oh so much to the Kardashians,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: because as if like Jordan's is like poor and impoverished
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: when she comes from like an elite black family and
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: comes from her own like wealth separately and apart from
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: the Kardashians, which I think was also so I really
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: liked the way Jada framed the conversation of like we're
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: still we're your family, and like we're here to protect you,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: and like, you know, let's be honest, and you know,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: we've all made mistakes. And I love that Jada said,
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: like I have been there in one way or another,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: you know, because we've all done something shady at some
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: point in our lives, especially a sucking twenty one. Let
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: me not even I don't even want to get into it.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I can't get into it for legal reason. Literally we
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: shall not get on record and not talking about that,
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: but nice try, right. I think also like the Kardashian family,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: like we've talked about them before when we have our
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: don't leak my nudes episode, like Rob Kardashian leaking Black
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: China's New you know, like they're not like some holier
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: than now family, you know that, like poor me, I
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: don't feel bad for them. I don't look at them
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: as like upstanding members of the community that are like
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: an example of ethical and moral behavior at all by
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: any stretch of the imagination. It's really fucking weird. Anyways,
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: um x out, Chloe, You're being a dumb bitch. I'm
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: just saying it's not cute. It's too much. It's not cute,
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: and it's not cute. Get your man, No, don't get
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: your man. Believe him, you know, get your kid. Keep going, like,
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: stop trying to bring this young girl. You know you
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: can send down. You can send out a public tweet
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: talking about your cheating husband. She did, actually she did.
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: I actually saw it this morning because she shared it.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: She said, what's this is? This morning? Literally March second.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: What's been harder and more painful is being hurt by
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: someone so close to me, someone who whom I love
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: and treat like a little sister. But Jordan's is not
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: to be blamed for the breakup of my family. This
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: was Tristan Well, good b thank you for acknowledging. Yeah,
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: because people were tweeting at her yesterday because she tweeted
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: something stupid, so she had to come and correct herself backpedal. Lord. Yeah,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: the drama. It's true. It's also like a obviously like
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: a large scale example. This is a very public thing
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: that happened. But literally like your partner, you know, you
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: being married him and having a kid with with him,
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: with whomever this partner is, and then like cheating on
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: you like, it's a very real example. It's happened to us,
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: it's happened to our mom's, it's happened to someone in
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: our family, our friends, you know what I mean. And
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: the woman is not to be blamed really truly, it's
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: not her fault, you know. Yeah, now, yes, yes, absolutely,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: because she didn't make the wedding value. She's not in
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: a relationship. Like if you really want to get mad
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: at someone, you need to get mad at the person
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: who actually betrayed you and broke your trust and had
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: an agreement with you. We can have our feelings, you
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: know about the folks that are significant others leave us
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: for We can have those feelings, your internal to your feelings.
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: But why the public dragging, Why the scarlet letter? Why right?
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: Why any home? Go Jordan's I'm here for you and
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: you look great, girl, she does look great. So this
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: has been another has been a we're wrapping up now,
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: we are wrapping up. We have said a lot today today,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: thank you for listening. So we wanted to end with
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: some March announcements. We have a lot of stuff happening. Yes,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: so we have our Sun Valley Library Branch workshop. Sorry
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: to pull the date one on. So on March fourteenth,
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: we will have our Sun Value Workshop at five thirty
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: pm and that is actually a three part series. So
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: we will be having three workshops at Sun Valley Library
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: Branch and that will be the first of three and
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: that's podcasting one oh one, So unlike the other library
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: branch podcasting one o one workshops, that one is going
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: to be broken up, so it's going to be sequential, right,
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: so you can come to the first workshop and get
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: the first piece of information and then the second workshop
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: is a follow up and continuing the info. Right, So
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: planned to come to all three. We will post all
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: three dates um and we're gonna teach you how to
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: build your podcast in chunks like that, so please join us.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: It's going to be cute. And then the following day, Friday,
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: March fift we are going to FEMC at the Echo,
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: so we're really excited. It's their Women of Gumbia events,
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: their takeover and we love this party with them seed
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: this you know Women's Takeover at once before and it
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: was a good fucking time and we cannot wait for
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: so much fun. It's going to be amazing. Their lineup
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: is incredible, so they are going to be featuring different
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: DJs from across the U s So DJ ben Bona
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: from New York is so fucking amazing, Gracie Chavis from
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: the House, our favorite l A, DJ Sizzle, Fantastic, Funky Garamello,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Killed by Synth, and our resident DJ Zuti We're really excited,
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: and a live performance by It's gonna be a night,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: it's going to be an event. It's going to be
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: an occasion. We're gonna go and party and have a
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: good time. Start planning your outfits. Start planning your outfits,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: bring your friends, think about what you want to drink.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: There's going to be vendors come ready to shake your ass.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: It's going to be cute, you know. Also, the last
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: we don't really remember. We don't really remember their December
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: one there, but that's all right. That's how that was
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: sent off. I didn't necessarily want to remember, right right
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: right right right. So that's what you need. This is
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: the party for you, the party for you. So much
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: is so much fun. Definitely roll through, get your crew,
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: get your home girls. Ye is my safe space, yes absolutely, yeah, alright,
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: so so so um. Once again. You can follow us
• 45:25
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• 45:31
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• 45:34
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• 45:40
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• 45:42
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• 45:46
  Speaker 1: Look on what is