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Unlocking the Secrets to Health, Wealth, and Happiness: Your Ultimate Guide to True Personal Freedom · The James Granstrom Podcast - Super Soul Model series

• 0:02
  Speaker 1: Do you ever feel a shortage of freedom in your life?
• 0:04
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's in the area of health or finances, or even in relationships.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Freedom is a state of being, it's a state of mind, and in this episode, I want to help you tune back into your natural inner state of freedom.
• 0:16
  Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to the james grans from podcast super soul model series.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: In this episode, I'm going to share with you a guide to creating personal freedom.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: There are three parts to well-being, and that is freedom, growth and joy, and these are the tenants that make up your life.
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: Most people want these things in their life and they really want freedom, they really want joy, but growth can be a bit difficult.
• 0:50
  Speaker 1: But freedom is a big part for us as human beings and if, for some reason, you're lacking any freedom in your life, I want to share with you some ideas that will help you guide yourself back into a state of personal freedom, because when you begin to feel free, the world will open up to you and offer you opportunities where you feel fantastic.
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: But it's when you feel confined that you say I want freedom, but you actually don't have it.
• 1:17
  Speaker 1: So the universe is always responding to the energy that you're sending out.
• 1:21
  Speaker 1: So if you say you want freedom and it's coming from a position of I don't have it, the universe can only give you more of what you are currently emitting.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: So that's why I really want to tidy this up for you and I want to share with you some principles and strategies that will help you find your own freedom.
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: I used to think that freedom came by making choices of doing whatever I wanted when I wanted, and that seems quite natural to think that freedom came by making choices of doing whatever I wanted when I wanted, and that seems quite natural to think like that.
• 1:49
  Speaker 1: But I was wrong, and I was wrong badly, because I made some good choices and there were consequences to that, and I made some bad choices and there were some consequences to that.
• 2:00
  Speaker 1: So I want to kind of shift the word freedom, or finding freedom within, by changing it, to finding peace within, because that is what I had to come to through going through years of making serious mistakes and having to pay the consequences for some of the choices and actions that I took.
• 2:30
  Speaker 1: But to have freedom it just requires two things that you can do on a day-to-day basis, and that is practice self-control and have self-discipline, and it seems as though it's the exact opposite of what freedom is having self-control and discipline, but that's exactly how it works.
• 2:50
  Speaker 1: If you want to have freedom, you've got to have disciplines in place.
• 2:54
  Speaker 1: If you want to have freedom, you've got to have self-control, because life is always looking to give more to those who have a state of responsibility where they can say that's enough and I can say no to this.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: Or you can say no to yourself, or you can say no to others, or you can say no to being a slave to something.
• 3:14
  Speaker 1: And most of us are slaves to something because we have attachments to things, places, material goods and people, and until we relinquish the attachments to that, we will never actually be free.
• 3:29
  Speaker 1: So life is always a process of letting go of certain things so you can feel more free, more light and more full of joy, because that's what you are at your core.
• 3:38
  Speaker 1: The word responsibility is something I used to run away from, because I was taught by grown-ups who were doing the best they could that responsibility isn't fun and they were coming from a place of not necessarily understanding.
• 3:53
  Speaker 1: The natural law, which is the universe, gives more to those who show responsibility, and even though it might not be fun because you're having to have self-control.
• 4:05
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's like living on a budget for a while.
• 4:07
  Speaker 1: Or maybe it's having self-control saying you know, I'm working on making sure that I get in fantastic shape right now.
• 4:14
  Speaker 1: Or there's certain foods that I'm going to refrain from right now whilst I'm getting in shape.
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: Or even in relationships, I'm going to refrain from going out with those people right now, even though it would be really fun because I'm trying to save some money.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: Or I'm refraining from going out with those people because I don't want to drink right now.
• 4:31
  Speaker 1: All of these things are demonstrating self-control and self-discipline.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: Not feel freedom from choice at that moment of doing what you'd really like to do.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: What you're actually doing is creating something amazing for later, which will be immense freedom, and that will be freedom with a state of I'm healthy and I can do certain things that my physical body allows me to do, like go on big hikes and do some really fun sports.
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: If you are demonstrating that you're responsible with your money, you've saved some money, you've invested you some money and then you can do some things and go to some places and go on some amazing travels because you've put yourself in a position to be able to do that, or you've demonstrated in your relationship that you can spend some decent amount of time by yourself rather than going from relationship to relationship.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: Because when you get to know yourself and you find happiness within and you find peace within, you're going to be mirrored by the universe to a beautiful, intimate relationship because you've taken time to be happy by yourself before jumping into another relationship.
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: People often make these mistakes, so freedom really comes from activating self-control and self-discipline.
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: So let's look at finding freedom wherever you're at, because that's the most important part.
• 5:56
  Speaker 1: Wherever you're at is good enough, and sometimes we demand or want freedom, but we're just not feeling it.
• 6:03
  Speaker 1: So how can we find a sense of freedom and fulfillment when we're just not feeling it?
• 6:05
  Speaker 1: So how can we find a sense of freedom and fulfillment when we're not really feeling it?
• 6:09
  Speaker 1: Well, that requires a mindset shift and that's what I want to share with you now.
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: The basis of your life is freedom, and the real freedom that you have comes from the thoughts that you think and taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your life.
• 6:23
  Speaker 1: And as soon as you come from this point of view, this perspective, you're coming from a conscious, evolved perspective, because you realize that everything that's happened to you or is happening to you is serving you in some kind of way, whether it's a good thing or a negative thing.
• 6:42
  Speaker 1: Either way, it's serving you to grow, and this is really powerful.
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: But whilst your body may be confined, whilst you may be confined by what you're able to do with your finances right now, maybe you're confined in your health right now because of some health condition that you may have.
• 6:59
  Speaker 1: Whatever you may be experiencing, or even a relationship that you want isn't going the way you'd like it to, freedom comes when you're able to look at it from a different perspective, seeing it as a setup and seeing that you have the power to change your thoughts first, before your conditions change.
• 7:20
  Speaker 1: As human beings, we have to learn to become more unconditionally loving.
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: No-transcript a long time ago.
• 7:54
  Speaker 1: That I love to keep sharing on this show is that the way you think and the way you feel is what you're attracting.
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: And if you don't like your circumstances, you have to practice to feel better before your conditions can change.
• 8:08
  Speaker 1: And if you don't like your conditions, what you need to do is practice feeling what you want to feel, which is a sense of freedom, before your actual conditions can change.
• 8:20
  Speaker 1: Most people want to wait for everything to change before you can feel better, but that's not how this works.
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: You are a powerful creator.
• 8:28
  Speaker 1: You are so powerful, but you need to be reminded time and time again, which is why I love doing this show to remind you of your power, so that you can practice some of these strategies and principles that will transform your life for the better.
• 8:42
  Speaker 1: Nothing will change until you change first, and Nothing will change until you change first, and nothing will change until you change the way you think about it first.
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: So you have to take ownership, you have to take responsibility for all the good and all the bad that's happening in your life right now, because at some level, you are the main actor in your life and that's a very liberating thing to know that you have the power to change that with your thinking.
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: Nelson mandela was in prison for 25 years and it took him 25 years to find peace before he's actually released.
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: And he made peace being in that cell for all those years and came out a different man than the man he went in and it says that in his memoir, and it's amazing that just spending so much time with yourself, you can find a way to forgive what's happening.
• 9:33
  Speaker 1: You can find a way to make peace with whatever's happening, no matter how difficult it may seem, and you can find a way to make peace with your circumstances, whatever they may be.
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: But simultaneously, whilst you're finding peace, you can also find thoughts that produce different feelings that will eventually change your circumstances.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: That's empowering and that's also the way that you find personal freedom.
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: So let's look into the three main areas of where you can find personal freedom and perhaps what strategies that you need to have to be able to change your perspective, change the way you feel and then change those areas.
• 10:14
  Speaker 1: Because when I started applying these in these three areas, that's when I saw my own transformation, and that's when I have also seen it in my clients lives as well, which is why I love sharing this information, because this stuff really works when you work it, but it doesn't work if you don't work it.
• 10:30
  Speaker 1: So the only person that can transform your life is yourself, but you have to take on the information and actually apply it to get the experience, which is called the wisdom.
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: Wisdom is experience.
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: Otherwise, these words are just empty.
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: So let's just look into one of the first areas of where you can find personal freedom that may be challenging you, and let's just see if one of these strategies might guide you in a more empowering direction.
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: If you want more freedom in your health, one of the things that you need to do and ask yourself on a day-to to day sometimes moment to moment basis if this is a really important thing for you is ask yourself what would the healthiest version of myself do here, or what would a healthy person do here?
• 11:16
  Speaker 1: And then you have to ask yourself would they do this and what wouldn't they do?
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: I remember asking this to myself regularly over 20 years ago when I first started on my health mission, and I remember I was getting in shape, but I wasn't feeling really healthy, and so I remember asking this question regularly, and it was only a matter of a few months before things really shifted and transformed for me and have done so for so many years and I was asking myself this question what would a healthy person do?
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: Because I'm not that healthy and I could tell, because I was going out most nights of the week, drinking, taking drugs, partying, smoking.
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: I was using these externals to try and make myself feel better and feel freedom, but really I was a slave to these substances, to these externals.
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: And it was only when I changed what I was asking myself, and then changed with the actions, that my identity changed.
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: And it probably changed within about four or five months of me asking.
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: So I asked myself what would a healthy person do in this situation?
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: Would it eat that or would it not eat that?
• 12:30
  Speaker 1: Would it go out there or would it not go out there?
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: Would it hang out with those types of people or not?
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: What sort of activities does a healthy person do?
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: And I just kept on asking myself that.
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: And then I started finding books about health and nutrition.
• 12:46
  Speaker 1: So I started reading them and then applying what I learned.
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: I started looking into movement and meditation and I started practicing them.
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: And as I started practicing, these were new things that I were doing aside from going out to a pub or a bar.
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: Instead, I would like stay home and I'd meditate for like the evening, or I'd stay home and I'd like learn how to cook a new dish.
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: This was so foreign from who I was and it was so alien, but little did I know.
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: Each time I was asking myself what would a healthy person do?
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: Here I was shifting my identity.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to find personal freedom, you need to shift your identity, about the way you're looking at things, and it won't shift until you change the way you're looking at that situation.
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: And this is super empowering because I remember, within about four or five months of me changing my diet, releasing the need to drink alcohol, take drugs and give up smoking, it was all because I felt that these owned me, these externals owned me, and I was never going to be free when something else owned me, meaning these unhealthy habits.
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: So ask yourself that question if you really want your health to change, you really want to get in shape or you really want to improve the quality of your energy in your life?
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: Because if you want more and I'm sure you want more you're going to need a lot more energy, because energy is the thing that turns ideas into physical stuff.
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: That's how empires are built, that's how ideas are built, that's how businesses are built, that's how you attract money.
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: You need more energy to attract higher levels of what you really want, which feels really good.
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: So if you want more, you're going to shift your energy and that is so important for you.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: And you've got to ask yourself what would a healthy person do?
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: What would the healthiest version of myself do?
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: And then go, do it.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: Go and read and then apply, or listen and apply, and until you apply, it's nothing because your identity won't have shift.
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: But you need to show up every single day for yourself, your identity, to change and for you to experience greater freedom in the area of health.
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: That's what I did and I noticed, wow, within four or five months, I'd completely changed my life, and I thought that it might take way longer than that, but it didn't really.
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: One of the things that can sometimes hold you back from feeling freedom is asking that sort of question.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: But you know, I'm not at the ideal weight that I want to be, I'm not looking the way I want to be, and so, ultimately, every time you're looking in the mirror, you're getting feedback of where you're at, and sometimes nothing changes because you're constantly looking at the feedback.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: This is a way to find freedom.
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: Always have a lovely sentence that is low resistance in your environment, which is this will pass, this is temporary, I'm on my way to this, things are on their way and working out for me.
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: These type of sentences when you're having conversations with other people or yourself help you feel positive help.
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: You feel empowered because you need to build the bridge from where you are to where you want to be by having these beautiful, easy statements in your locker, by saying things like things are coming together for me.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: This is coming together for me and, although this might not be the way I want to look right now, it's temporary, because you realize that everything is temporary until the condition changes, which requires consistent effort and consistency in showing up for yourself.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: That's how everything changes and an overnight success is only one based on consistent change over time.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: And if you want to experience greater freedom financially, you've got to be very mindful about that.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: And financial freedom can mean to a lot of people that what you're receiving in terms of income supersedes what you're paying with regards to your consumption.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: But what you really want is prosperity.
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: You don't want just consumption, that all your needs are met.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: You want all your needs met abundantly.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: That's what you really want.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: And to find that is different from just saying I want to feel freedom financially.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: You want to feel completely abundant, that all your needs are met all the time in excess.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: So that requires another change of energy.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: And the best way to begin that trajectory and begin that energy movement is to ask yourself this what does a wealthy person behave like?
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: What does he or she do?
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Study people who are successful that you admire, and notice what their traits are, notice what their virtues are, notice what their principles are.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: What I often find with clients that I work with is everybody loves to share what they've learned, and it's so inspiring to listen to people's stories about how they made it from nothing to something, and you, too, can also do that.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: But you have to ask that question what does the wealthiest version of myself do and behave like here?
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: And this is really powerful, and when I started asking that, I noticed that my finances began to change, and yours will too.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: When you start asking and showing up and changing your identity again and again, what does that person behave like?
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Your identity again and again.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: What does that person behave like?
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Do they have a budget?
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Do they have a plan?
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Do they invest?
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: And if you don't know how to invest, find an area of something that you use on a day-to-day basis.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Find a way to get shares or stocks in those, if that lights you up, because any product that you buy you could potentially be a shareholder or a stockholder in that company that you use because you see value in it.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: And when you own a bit of that company, your shares of appreciation in your life, meaning your net worth, goes up as well.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: This is what all wealthy people do.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: They look to buy assets that will accrue in value above the rate of inflation, and then some.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: And if you want to become wealthy, you really do need to learn how to invest.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: And if you are not learning how to invest right now, it means you're only a consumer, which means you'll just stay just comfortable.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: But if you want to go for big, if you want to go for large, if you want to have the best life ever, you've got to learn how to invest.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: And you've got to learn how to be creative in increasing your income as well, whilst keeping your costs as low as possible, so you've got more coming in than going out.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Also, if you want to feel that freedom in your finances, where are you controlled?
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Where are you disciplined?
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: Are you good at having a budget?
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Are you good at spending less than you earn?
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Because these are all parts and processes of not only managing and being responsible for your own money and your own finances, but also if you were to run a company.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: Most companies go bust within a year and the reason being is because their product or their service is bringing in less than what's going out.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: So it's super important to learn to have to have control and discipline in the area of finances because remember you're activating the law of responsibility here, and when you are showing that you are responsible for the money that you have, the universe will give you more to manage.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Because the universe always wants to give and expand, and if you're showing and demonstrating clearly that you can manage the money you've got, however small, it will give you more money to manage.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: This is how this principle works.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: The universe is based on expansion and it's always wanting more.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: It's always wanting to give more, and so if you have an idea, it wants to give you more.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: If you can show where you can manage, where you're at and this is what I've noticed in my own experience and in my clients' experiences and when I'm just looking at other people of my friends, I've noticed, wow, they're managing that well, and then they come into a lot more money, and I'm fascinated by this principle, how the universe works like that.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: It's accurate, but it's funny as well.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: So be really good at managing what you've got and notice everything increase as a result of how good you're managing.
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: Also, you need to practice gratitude regularly, because when you're grateful, you're just going to get more.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: This is, this is just the principle of feeling more free in your finances.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: The more grateful you are for the money that you receive and when you pay for it, then that gratitude is being reciprocated over and over again, because energy is always being sent out into the world and when you're happy and thankful for what you've got, the universe will give you more, and it just goes on like this perpetual positive cycle, rather than this negative cycle of you feeling confined, that you can't do this or you don't have enough.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: All freedom in your finances comes from recognizing that you are enough and that there is enough, and that the only shortage there is is one that's in your mind.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: So, in order to change any shortage which comes from the human mind alone because if you look into nature, nature is abundant.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: It's, it's a full of absolutely so much, and it's only in our human mind that we find shortage.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: You know, we even think that time, we're short of time and that's all just a receptive state that we're in of lack.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: So we need to change our minds from lack to abundant and fullness, and that's where we find freedom.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: One of the ways I love to do this is always to look at what you can do versus what you can't do.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: I can do this.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: I could do this if I wanted to.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I could do this if I wanted to.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: You know, I have this lovely game I learned from Abraham Hicks is you take a hundred dollars, put it in your wallet and you go.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: What could I do with this hundred dollars today?
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: And then, as you're always noticing what you can do, then you get more.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: I remember when I was doing a waiting job, I was always told by the bosses which I really loved.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: This analogy is like if you can't give them a drink, show them what else you could give them, because don't say no, just say I don't have this, but I do have this, and that makes people feel warm.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: This is why companies that thrive are based upon their level of care, like apple.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: If you look about how good apple is, their care system, apple care is really good.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Their support system yes, the product's really good, but if something goes wrong, don't worry.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: We've got apple care to help you get your machinery or your technology back on track.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: That's why apple shares have soared massively in the last 20-25 years, and this was a company that was about to go bust years ago.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: So we're looking at these amazing principles of generating greater freedom, and freedom comes from changing your perspective.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Freedom comes from having discipline and self-control.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: And if you want to have greater freedom in your finances, aside from having discipline and self-control, are you demonstrating the virtues of being reliable?
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Are you demonstrating the virtue of having integrity, because the universe will always give more to people who are demonstrating an alignment of thought, word and deed?
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: This is just such a powerful principle and it's one that I use not to do, and I make it one of my massive priorities.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: And also, if you want to feel that freedom in finances, you've got to ask yourself what would that wealthy version of myself dress like and dress like that?
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: What does that wealthy person behave and do with their money here?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Would they go on that trip?
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: Would they not go on that trip?
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Would they invest in this computer?
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: Would they not invest in this computer?
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Because you've got to see everything as an investment.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Is it taking you to or away from where you want to be?
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: And only you can tell whether, if you're going to spend money, it it's going to be uncomfortable and if it's uncomfortable, don't spend it because it's not going to be helpful.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: But if you spend something where you know it's going to light you up and it's going to help you, then that's a worthy investment.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: And the best investment you could ever have is in yourself and in your own education of the most important things and principles you can have for enjoying greater freedom financially for yourself, wherever you're at, is by having delayed gratification, recognizing that time is your greatest asset, and just by putting a little now away in an investment that will be above the rate of inflation will serve you in so many years to come I mean, warren buffett says this unless you are putting money away for a minimum of six years, it's not an investment, it's a gamble.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: And if you can use money to be able to invest it so that it creates more above the rate of inflation, you're going to receive more money and getting your money work for you.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: This is the wisest thing you can do, which makes you feel free because you're not worried, because your money is making money, which means that you don't have to turn up with your time and energy to make money.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Your money is working automatically for you.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: This will create freedom like you wouldn't believe, and one of the best ways that I love to form that into being is why are all my needs met abundantly and why do I invest wisely Now, if you want your relationships to enjoy greater freedom and some people feel that they are bound in relationships, meaning there is no freedom, because a relationship means I'm not allowed to do this, I'm not allowed to do this but that's looking at it from a false premise.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Actually, relationships can be incredibly liberating when you realize that you put your happiness in your own hands, not in your partner's, or you put your happiness in your own hands, not the family that you're living with.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Your happiness is your own responsibility, it is nobody else's and as soon as you get that clear, your whole relationship dynamic begins to change.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I used to put my happiness in other people's hands and realize, oh, I don't feel happy with that, and so I was always looking and working to find a common ground to make that relationship better, but it never got better until I started to do this make happiness my own mission, so everybody else is off the hook.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: So when I made happiness my own mission, my relationships improved because I'm not putting anybody else's responsibility to make me happy.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: My expectations of another is absolutely minimal, meaning I have zero expectations about what they do, because people won't always behave and work and move in a way that you think they're going to do, because there's so many moving parts.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: But if you can make your own happiness your mission, your daily goal, then you're going to find you're going to rendezvous with other people who are on the same frequency, which might mean your partner or it might mean your family.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: But it's absolutely essential to you that you recognize that no one else is responsible for your happiness other than yourself.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: But often we become attached to people in ways that are unhealthy or toxic because we're still needing them to validate us, or toxic because we're still needing them to validate us.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: We're still needing them to fill us up, to fill our void where we don't feel full or validated by ourselves.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: So that's why it's so important to have wellbeing habits, to bring yourself into a place of equilibrium every single day, and meditation will absolutely 100% do that for you.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: Finding things to appreciate in yourself and other people and in the world will do that for you.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: Finding things to appreciate in yourself and other people and in the world will do that for you, will fill you up.
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: Movement of the body will do that for you.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: And eating good, healthy foods and lovely meals and beverages will do that for you.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: And hanging around good feeling people will do that for you.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: And you know what Good sleep and rest will do that for you.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: All of these things matter when you recognize nothing is more important that you feel good and you find a way to fill your own tank up before giving anybody else that responsibility.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: So one of the best ways you can ask yourself how can I feel free in a relationship is what would a healthy relationship be like?
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: What would the healthiest good-feeling relationship where I feel free?
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: What would that be like?
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: And start acting like that.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: And if you're wanting a partner and you don't have one, you've got to ask yourself what would it be like to be in a very good, healthy, loving, intimate, passionate, spiritual, joyful, wealthy relationship?
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: What would that feel like?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: And start behaving like that person now, start dressing like that person now.
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  Speaker 1: Start with everything that you've got in your home and in your environment.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Ask that question and then follow through to the best of your ability and start to be that person Also on social media.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: How would you behave as that person now on social media?
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: And it's really important because if you want your social media accounts to be reciprocated by someone in a certain way, you have to behave like that now, because otherwise you're just going to attract something where you feel lack, where you feel insecure, and your insecurities will be exposed by your inability to have connection with yourself.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: And that is why finding a way to fill yourself up, to find your own happy space, is more important than anything.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: Another point to be able to enjoy greater freedom in your relationships is can you look at a partner, can you look at your family in a way of saying I can love you, but without needing to change you now?
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  Speaker 1: That's a tricky question, because we all want to change them to a certain extent so that when we look at them we can feel better.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: But that's not how this goes.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: We've got to look at someone as they are and appreciate them as they are.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: It's through your appreciation things begin to morph before you.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: That's why appreciation in stocks and assets is so important, because we see the rise and when we complain or find fault in anybody.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: That's basically like the downward trend in a market.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: That's the same in your relationships.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: If you want upward trends in your market, find things to complement and appreciate in other people and watch how they change before your eyes.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Also, healthy relationships and liberating and freeing relationships are built on trust.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: So how much do you trust yourself?
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Because that is huge.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Can you trust yourself to make good decisions?
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: And in doing so, as you become that person who makes good decisions and shows level of trust, you're going to also attract that in.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: Trust is built, trust is earned and it's earned by all the small little actions.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: So, wherever you are, are you building trust with your thought, words and deeds, which is what I mentioned before?
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: Your thoughts, words and deeds will help build trust in other people.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: So you become reliable and that reliability builds freedom in your relationships, because then you're going to go out and you're going to have a great time and you recognize that the foundation of your relationship is built on your reliability, is built on you being present, is built on your love and your care, because you do what you say you're going to do, and if you don't do what you say you're going to do, and if you don't do what you say you're going to do, your promises aren't kept you, you tarnish that trust, you break it away.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: So it's so important that you build that for yourself before you enter into a relationship with another.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: And maybe, if you've built that into a relationship with someone but they're not demonstrating it question is that person for you?
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: Because you've got to have those red flags that say, hey, this person's not for me?
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: And that's a deal breaker because if they're not demonstrating some of the virtues and values and principles that you hold dear to you, then you're setting yourself up to fail.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: So it's so important that you value yourself enough to know when something is a major red flag for you.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: And relationships that thrive and are built on love and peace and security and happiness and freedom are ones built on trust.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: In a relationship, it's so important that you can share your troubles with somebody else.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: And if you are not able to share your troubles in a way that will be listened to and heard, rather than being pushed back where the other person feels as though they're being vindictive against you, that is still coming from a place of ego.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: So it's so important that we drop the ego in our relationships and come back into the heart, because the heart is one where you're able to say this is the pain that I'm feeling and I want to share it with you and I'm wanting to work through this and I'm wanting to heal with you, because some of the most amazing relationships you ever have will be based on you both mutually healing together, because this is wisdom.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: And when you're both wanting to come from a place of saying, hey, I want to have a fantastic relationship and I want to have that fantastic relationship with myself and with you, and I recognize that I'm having to deal with some of these wounds that I'm trying to heal and I'm just trying to share that with you.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: And that kind of upset me what you said, because the ego will always push back with resistance.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: But when you can both come from a place of heart and you can both come of place of, hey, I'm just trying to do the best I can, I'm going to recognize I want to work through this and the other person can also say the same, that will be a very freeing and liberating relationship, because there will always be things in your life that you need to work through.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: But can you do that in a way where you're coming from the heart rather than the ego.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: This is what creates a beautiful relationship, not only with yourself, but with others.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Ultimately, everything you're looking for all starts with you and all finishes with you, but you share your journey with others because in relationships, it's not so much what you say to people, it's how that they made you feel, that leaves a lasting impression, and that comes from the heart and that comes from the soul.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: So these are some of the ways that you can look to find greater personal freedom in your life and in what you're doing in some of the core areas of health, finances and relationships.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Now, I could go even deeper on these subjects, but these are just sort of touching some of the surface areas where you can actually begin to have strategies.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: My favorite one is just ask yourself what would that version of myself behave like now?
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: And then go, do it on a moment to moment basis.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: I noticed, as soon as I started doing this in all of those three areas, my life began to change, and yours will too, when you ask better questions.
• 34:52
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• 35:05
  Speaker 1: It's done it for me and loads of my clients, so it will also for you if you work it.
• 35:10
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• 35:19
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much and until the next time.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I wish you a wonderful week ahead and green lights all the way.