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Season 2 - Episode 320 - Compassion in action · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about compassion and how we
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  demonstrate compassion for people.
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  The other day we talked about respect, but respect goes hand
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  in hand with compassion. So how do you show someone or
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  something that you have compassion for it?
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  How do you express compassion? Interesting.
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  Thought about compassion. Sometimes people get stuck in
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  thinking that if I have compassion for someone, I all of
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  a sudden don't have the ability to be honest with them.
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  I don't have the ability to be real with them.
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  And none of that is true. None of that is true because.
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  It's all about how you demonstrate it with respect.
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  Like, that's why we talked about respect the other day first.
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  But now we're talking about demonstrating compassion.
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  And compassion is tricky because sometimes it's one of the
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  biggest hurts we have to go through.
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  So one of my clients recently had to put her dog to sleep and
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  we had a long conversation about this and the truth is that it
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  was the most compassionate thing to do.
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  Because he was suffering and there was no question about the
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  fact that it had to happen. And in compassion comes pain and
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  we've if you've ever owned an animal you absolutely know that
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  that is one of the hardest things to do is putting a dog or
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  cat or any animal to sleep. It is the most difficult thing
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  for me as an as the mad animal lover that I am, I.
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  Still can't get past the fact that I had to put my Chihuahua
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  to sleep. And you know, all these years
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  later and he is still on my phone every morning when I open
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  it up. He is the the my home screen on
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  my phone smiling at me. And I still see him every single
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  day. And having having compassion for
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  him meant that I couldn't be selfish for myself and keep him
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  here anymore. And there's a fine line.
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  Between understanding the selfish part and the compassion
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  part for things. And compassion in everyday world
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  works the same thing. Not just always the big
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  decisions, but having compassion for someone when they are having
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  an emotional breakdown because something's happening around
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  them. And you feel like, oh, if I have
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  compassion for this person, it's just going to keep going on and
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  on and on. But it doesn't have to be that
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  way. It just has to be that you
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  acknowledge it. Hey, I'm.
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  I'm going to have compassion for where they are right now.
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  I'm not going to hold that over their head and make them suffer
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  for the fact that, you know, they had a weak moment in
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  whatever they were thinking, doing or being.
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  And then I'm going to let it go and treat them as I would
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  outside of the situation. It's like having a little.
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  A little pattern that you can do for yourself by providing them
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  the connection of the energetic connection of compassion, by
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  just saying I'm expressing it to them.
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  Just giving them just a little bit of it makes all the
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  difference in the world. And sometimes we don't know the
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  backstories. 9 times out of 10, we don't know all the
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  backstories. We know what people want us to
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  know, but we don't know the whole backstories.
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  So when you think you know everything, please remind
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  yourselves. I don't know everything, 'cause
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  I can promise you, even when you think you know everything, you
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  don't know everything. You honestly cannot.
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  Because guess what? They don't know everything
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  themselves. They don't know what's at play
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  unless they've gone through a ton of this work themselves.
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  They don't know what's even happening.
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  They just know where they are in this moment, how they feel, and
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  they're being reactive to it. So give yourself the gift of
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  showing up with that compassion, meeting them where they are,
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  give them the respect of it, and then move yourself on.
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  Because nothing is worse than knowing that you did something
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  to hurt somebody and you didn't even realize it because you
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  weren't in a state of compassion for where they were, but they
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  didn't even know it themselves. So just give yourself that
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  little tiny. I'm going to pause.
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  How would compassion show up right now?
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  If I was in a compassionate state of mind, what would that
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  look like? What would it sound like?
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  Even sometimes just saying the words to somebody I understand
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  is a big deal. Now, if you don't understand,
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  I'm not asking you to act out of integrity.
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  Don't do that. You can say, I understand your
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  thoughts. I understand your feeling.
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  I understand your emotion. You could say something like
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  that. You could even just say, OK.
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  OK. You can just say the word OK, 2
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  letters to somebody makes that you acknowledge that place
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  they're in. And sometimes for people,
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  compassion is just acknowledgement.
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  So keep that in mind because as we go through the holiday
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  season, it's usually really hard for people that you know.
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  I think more people have trouble than don't because of what it
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  represents. And if I had my way, I'd like to
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  make it so everyone could at least have a joyous season of
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  whichever holiday you are celebrating, but without having
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  that heavy feeling of the burden of it.
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  And we can all do that when we just start these small little
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  tiny things around us. OK, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.