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108. The Value In Failure · The Shift Podcast

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Welcome to Frontline Static, we will get to hear interviews with
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some of my clients journeys of getting into flight and how they
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utilize coaching to help them create success of getting hired
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with less confusion and more ease.
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Make your dream a reality of getting into flight.
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Listen in as you hear some of the stories of the people
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getting there and come join the Flight Prep group.
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Welcome to episode 108, The value in failure.
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I can't believe we are past 100 episodes.
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I've been bringing you this podcast for a while now, and if
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you've noticed, I've been trying to do it on a more continual
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basis for you guys so that I can give you a little snippets of
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what it's like to work with me. What we talk about inside the
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Flight Prep Academy and inside my programs and also the stories
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of the people who are getting there and achieving it through
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using these mindset tools and the strategy of getting to
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flight. So this week I really want to
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talk about failure. Wah wah I know a lot of you guys
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don't want to talk about failure or even think about it but I
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have been thinking about failure in this last year or two a lot
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and my thoughts about failure are so different.
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I really believe you have to sit on a pile of failures to be able
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to get where you want to go and be successful.
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If you think about the most successful people in the world,
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you see all the aftermath, right?
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Like you see the result, you see all of the nice things and what
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they've accomplished. But what they don't talk to
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about are the piles of failures that they had to sit on.
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And I think that the most successful people who get to the
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goals and get to where they want to achieve are the ones who are
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willing to really move towards failure instead of shy away from
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it. And so this podcast episode, I
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want to talk about the value inside failure.
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So I want to start out by saying I really think of myself as
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someone who doesn't live in regret, meaning I really think
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I'm a pretty good decision maker.
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I'm a quick decision maker. I've and I've really learned to
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not look back on my decisions and think of them in regret.
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I do know a lot of people who spin in doubt and regret of the
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decisions and past things that happen, but I just consider
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myself someone who doesn't indulge in that because for the
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reasons that I'm always looking forward.
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I am the person because of coaching and the tools that I've
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learned through the coaching certification that I've done and
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coaching many people for myself. I've learned the tools of not
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looking at my past evidence to see what I can create for my
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future. I am always constantly working
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on believing I can do something that I have never done before.
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And if you're human and you have a human brain, it's typical for
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us to, when we set a big goal for ourself like flight nursing,
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to weigh how if we have evidence of getting close to it in the
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past and then deciding our belief in our self based on
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that. And if we always created only
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based on the evidence of what we've created in the past, we
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would never grow. We would never have finished
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nursing school. We would have never accomplished
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what we've accomplished to be a critical care nurse.
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And so I wanna offer you guys like little snippets of this,
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this in this episode, like really the value that you learn
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and failure and really how you can start to work on the belief
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of never doing something before. And that's really what I'm
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teaching inside the flight prep Academy.
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When you come to work with me and you know that flight is your
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goal. And people ask me when should I
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start working towards this goal? And I say as soon as you know
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that you want it because I have now noticed running this program
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for almost 4 years now that the people who map out their plan
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earlier on in their career create more success because they
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have a plan, they stick with it. And inside my program, you're
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getting constant mentorship for the failures that are happening.
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I'm going to. So I'm going to talk to you
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about the value and failure today.
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We were talking about this actually yesterday on our weekly
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group call inside the flight Prep Academy.
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So we meet weekly, we talk about your plan, we talk about
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obstacles that are coming up, we coach on them.
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And then inside we also have a community group chat that you
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can tap into 24/7 for in between sessions.
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But what we were talking about is I'm actually going to back up
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before I go into what we were talking about yesterday, I want
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to talk to you about being in between goals.
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And I kind of want to give you a metaphor that the life coach
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school kind of taught me when I was going through certification.
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And the metaphor that they talk about is a river of misery.
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So when you're going between goals, when you set a goal for
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yourself, your before and after, you have two sides of the
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riverbank. You have the side that you're
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swimming from and the side you're swimming too.
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And inside this bank is a tumultuous river.
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And sometimes it's calm and sometimes it's moving very
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quickly, and sometimes there's branches in it and you're pulled
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back or you can't create any movement to get to the other
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side. And we call that the river of
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misery when you're inside two goals and you're not getting the
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momentum that you feel like you should be getting or you're
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failing. Like this is in the river of
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misery. And this middle space is where a
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lot of people give you give up. And so let me give you an
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example of this. An example of this is someone
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who applies for a flight position.
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They go to an interview and they don't get a call back and
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obviously they didn't get the position, but they don't follow
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up. They don't know why they didn't
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get it. They don't evaluate it.
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And so they make that no mean or the no phone call mean.
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This wasn't meant for me. It's just not my time or I'm not
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supposed to be doing this. And This is why 90% of people
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don't up getting getting into flight.
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This is why 90% of people quit their goals, because when they
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get a no, when they get a fail, they make it mean something
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about themselves. But this is the moment where you
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want to dig in. This is the moment where you
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want to keep going. But most people, when they're in
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the middle and they fail or they're told no, this is where
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you slightly pull back and then you start to believe the part of
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your brain that's like, it wasn't meant for me.
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This isn't my time and this is where evaluation is so
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important. I teach you evaluation inside my
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program, inside the flight Prep Academy.
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Evaluation is important. I'm going to start out with why
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it's important and why I really teach it and why it really helps
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you in flight is because it constantly keeps you out of your
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mind and evaluating what went well, what didn't go well, what
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do you want to do differently and what were your thoughts
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during the situation. An example of this and why I
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really like evaluations is I don't, I, I, I'm, I'm sure some
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of you guys can relate to this in some way, shape or form.
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But early on in my career, I would make a mistake as a new
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grad working ICU and I'd have a conversation with someone or I
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had a argument with a patient or a physician or some sort of
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situation. And then I bring it home.
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And then I let it play in my mind over and over and over and
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over and over and over and over again, sometimes lasting days,
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sometimes lasting weeks. And that's just because I didn't
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evaluate. That's just because I made that
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failure or that situation or that obstacle make mean
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something about me. And instead of taking the time
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to see what I could do differently, I ruminated on it.
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And so This is why evaluations is so important because we want
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to put these situations to bed. We want to put these failures to
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bed, and we want to learn something from them.
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So in evaluations, where I really, really teach you inside
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my program is to always start with what went well because our
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brain always wants to go to what didn't go well.
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So what went well, be specific about it, what didn't go well,
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What do you want to do differently?
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And what are your thoughts during the situation?
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Because what we're thinking is really affecting the results
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that we are creating. So I, I want to give you an
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example of this yesterday. Now I talked to you about
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yesterday in the flight prep Academy.
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We were evaluating a, a client who had done two previous flight
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interviews and we were doing an evaluation of his last flight
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interview. And we talked about what well,
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and that was like more difficult because your brain wants to go
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to it didn't go well. So then we got to the didn't go
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well. And he said, I don't know, I
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think I just like fumble during a lot of my psychosocial
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questions when they were asking me about myself during the panel
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interview. And I really got into my head
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and I really think they just didn't like my personality.
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They didn't like my answers. I noticed they weren't writing
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as much. They weren't as engaged as much.
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And this is a common thing that I hear when I'm helping people,
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both one, prepare for flight interviews and to evaluate them
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is that they get into the interviewers head based on what
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they're doing and not doing and then outside of their head.
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And when you do this, this is detrimental because when you're
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inside their head and outside of yours, then you're trying to
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answer questions based on getting a reaction out of them,
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which has you step out of who you really are.
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And so as we were looking at this evaluation a little
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further, I asked, well, when you were paying attention to what
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they were doing or not doing, what were you not doing for
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yourself? And he said, I was not being
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myself, I was not delivering answers and showcasing who I
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was, what I value and the team player I am.
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And that's 100% of what they are looking for in the interview.
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Then we got to start talking about, he said, well, maybe I
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need to like clean up my resume. Maybe I need to showcase my time
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and experience. And I said, what's interesting
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about that is how many questions do you think did they ask you
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during the interview on your time and experience?
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And what was the percentage that you think that was?
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And he was like, oh, if I had to give it a percentage, it would
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be 5. And I said, do you see like
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doing this evaluation and figuring out what you want to do
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differently showcased us so much because the results of doing
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this evaluation, he went in out of this getting a no thinking
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that it was his personality and that he needed to vamp up his
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resume and make it look a lot nicer and tighter about his time
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and experience. And after really evaluating and
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asking him the tough questions, we figured out it was only him
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getting in his own way. It was only because he got into
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the interviewer's head and got out of his and wasn't able to
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showcase who he was, what he valued and the team player was,
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which is 95% of that particular interview and usually 95 if not
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more percentage of all fight interviews is that's all they're
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looking for. And so we were able to just with
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this evaluation, realize from this failure, get so much value
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out of it when we evaluated it that he didn't need to change
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anything. The only thing that he needed to
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change going into the next one is building up the confidence
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and mindset to stay in his own head no matter what the
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interviewers are doing. And this is the one thing that I
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offered him too with the coaching is that we're afraid
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sometimes of questions or we're afraid of not knowing.
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And I offered him, expect to not know, expect to get asked the
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tough questions and expect ahead of time to know how you're going
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to deal with it If they aren't paying attention or they quit
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writing. And so just doing this tiny
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evaluation I know will be the thing that will help him, lay
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him, lay it all on the table next time and really showcase
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who he is. So that's an example of really
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finding the failure value instead of ruminating.
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And so I really told the Flight Prep Academy yesterday, like,
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it's great when we're winning, like it's great when we're
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celebrating. It's great when we're getting to
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the goal, it's great when we're crossing the other side.
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But where people get lost is when we're swimming right in the
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middle. And this is the time where you
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learn the most about yourself. This is the time if you dig in
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and you don't make it mean anything about you and you don't
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quit ahead of time, this is where you grow.
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This is where you grow into clinician, the flight clinician
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who will be able to withstand the hard moments because it's
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not always going to be about winning.
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You're not always going to save the patient.
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It's not always going to be a good outcome and you're not
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always going to have seamless calls.
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In fact, I remember out of the thousands of calls, Iran rarely
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ever having one. And so becoming the person who
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can go through the tumultuous water, who can go through the
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hard moments and come out the other side, see the bigger
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picture, evaluate and do better next time is so pertinent to
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both getting into flight and doing well afterwards.
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And I think in some short way, we forget how to do this from
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nursing school. I think in nursing school we,
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we're so good at this, right? We're learning new things.
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We have this thought in our head.
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We're so new, like we're just a blank slate.
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Let's just make mistakes, get in there and learn.
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And then after that, I think entitlement sets in a little
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bit, especially if you have been a nurse for 15 years like me, or
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I worked in ICU for four before I went into flight and then I
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did flight for seven. I think like entitlement can
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creep in a little bit in the fact that like, oh, we should
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know this or we shame ourselves. Like why don't we know that yet?
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That's such a little thing. An example for me is pathophys.
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I don't know about you guys, but I am not good at pathophys.
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Physicians would ask me questions, people would ask me
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questions and I'd be like, I'm just going to explain to you
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what's going on. But any pathophys question was
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so hard for me. And so I just want to offer you
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guys notice how good we were in, in nursing school with it and
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notice how we can sometimes step into entitlement of like, I
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should know this or why am I not getting this?
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Or, And entitlement also looks like when we make a mistake
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further on in our career after we've been doing it a long time
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or we're in leadership roles, it can also look like, oh, well,
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maybe I'm doing this wrong or I, I'm a bad person or I don't know
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what I'm doing or it's not meant for me.
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Just like this situation where I see a lot of nurses who are
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really, really good critical care nurses or critical care
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medics and been doing it a long time in leadership roles, then
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get to flight and realize it's, it's a lot more difficult than
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it has been for them. And then they think something's
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gone wrong. Then they think, oh, I'm not
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meant for this. It's not meant for me.
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Versus why don't we just go back to the nursing school us who's
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willing to have a clean slate, evaluate and know this is a
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constant learning process and we're constantly growing.
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So that is really finding the value in every failure.
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If we can find the value in every single failure and create
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and be willing to make a ton of them, that's how we get better.
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And you guys all know this, as healthcare workers and 1st
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responders, we never know anything.
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And being able to be the person who who knows that we don't know
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everything, it's a constant learning process.
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Those are the clinicians that are really good because they're
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willing to break down the walls of entitlement and really
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willing to go back and look at the thing and willing to see the
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pig big picture past themselves. But here is what happens when we
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don't get the value out of the failure.
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When we don't get the value out of the failure, we quit ahead of
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time. We decide the middle piece, the
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water in between as it's getting rough is too hard.
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And then we go back to the other side.
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But what we always go back to is the most comfortable last self
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concept of ourselves. So This is why everybody who
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doesn't have three years of ER or who has three years of ERICU
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isn't a flight nurse. Like if, if that if that were
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the fact, then we would have so many people doing flight
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nursing. But most people don't go for it
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because they quit ahead of time and they make it mean something
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about themselves. And then they decide to go back
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to the most comfortable version of themselves, their last self
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concept of where they were comfortable, which is usually
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back to the leadership role, usually back to the critical
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care unit or the ground unit that they worked in.
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And they had the perfect hours or the perfect pay, or they knew
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all the skills. Whereas growing in the flight
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nurse is a whole new level of autonomy, a whole new level of
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skills, and a whole new level of being willing to be a beginner
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again. And So what I want to offer you
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is find the value in every single failure.
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Don't let it mean anything about you.
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Don't quit on yourself ahead of time.
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Because if you can do this, this is how you will get to the other
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side. But not only will you get to the
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other side, learning the value in every single failure will
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help you be that flight nurse ahead of time so that when you
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get the job, that transition is more seamless for you.
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You're more confident. You've already been that person
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of being a flight nurse. And this is really the key and
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strategy of what I teach you inside the Flight Prep Academy
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is being that flight nurse now, no matter where you're starting,
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even if you're a nursing school, How does she think?
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What does she believe about ourselves?
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What does she think about decisions?
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What does she or he think about their failures?
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And how does she get the value out of it?
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Because the key to getting in there is becoming that flight
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nurse ahead of time. And I really teach you how to do
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that inside my program. So when we get the value out of
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the failure, we figure out what we want to do differently.
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We stop making it mean that it's something innately, innately
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about ourselves. And then we can fix what we want
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to improve on. So for example, for my client
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who's like, I just need to get out of my way.
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I need to get back into my head. We are going to really work on
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building the confidence to go into some of these interviews
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expecting that the people won't be paying attention, expecting
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that they're going to give them hard answers and staying inside
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his own thoughts and his own level of confidence the whole
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time. While still carrying some doubt
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and failure with him or some doubt and nervousness with him.
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But now going into it expecting that they may not pay attention
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and that might not mean anything about him.
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So when we're stuck in our own heads, it's hard for us to see
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the bigger picture. It's easier for us to give up
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ahead of time. Being in the middle is where we
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want to dig in because we only truly find out about ourselves
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and what we're made of in the failures.
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The winning is so great. It feels really good.
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And I'm not saying we shouldn't win and we shouldn't celebrate.
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We definitely need to celebrate more our wins.
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But we find out the most about ourselves inside our failures,
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when we get a know, when we don't, when we set a goal and we
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don't get to it right away. Being the person who's willing
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to look at that goal and say, OK, I didn't get it.
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Now what I want to do differently for the next time,
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what do I want to take that went well?
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Because I still want to keep doing the things that went well.
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And this is what I told him. I said, you definitely want to
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notice what you did well because you want to take that into the
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next interview. Otherwise we're solving for a
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whole new subset of problems. So you want to take what went
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well and you want to implement those things that you did
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differently and keep doing it and keep going at it.
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It's both hard. And I want to just tell you
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this, I was coaching one of my one-on-one clients this week on
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it and she had some big fears on moving from one job to the next.
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And she said, I'm really fearful that I'm never going to find
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something as good as my current job.
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And I'm fearful that I just won't be good enough for it.
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And I said, either way you're going to have fears.
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Either way is going to be hard. It's going to be hard to stay at
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your current job and it's going to be hard to bring that fear
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with you and find something new. But I said I do think it will be
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even harder for you to stay in a position that you don't love and
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feel stuck and unfulfilled. And we forget about that when
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we're going for goals. We think about like all the bad
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things that are going to happen and all the good things if we
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stay comfortable versus we need to start thinking about all the
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good things that could happen and the bad things if we stayed.
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And so I told her, I know both are going to be hard, but it
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will be even harder for you to stay in this job and be unhappy
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and unfulfilled and stuck. And so I think sometimes we lie
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to ourselves and we think, oh, it's just easier.
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It's easier to not go for it. It's easier to not fail.
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It's easier to stay comfortable and it's not easier because if
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you're anything like me, you're going to have that fire that's
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still going to burn. You're still going to have that
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what if, and that's going to replay in your mind over and
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over and over and over again. And for me, I like being the
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version of myself that keeps going at it.
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Even if I fail over and over and again than the one who quits
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ahead of time. I like that version of me.
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I learned the most about me. And so for in some cases, I
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think for me, it's even harder to quit because a moment of
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relief is great in the moment, but then I got to deal with all
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the aftermath. And here's the thing, my
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quitting moment to follow me. And they will follow you too,
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because that's the learning. You're supposed to keep learning
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something about yourself. It's like when I just started in
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an ICU. I want to give you another
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example to help out with this failure value.
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When I started out in the ICU, I was really, really nervous.
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And I did a student internship for two years.
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So I got a lot of opportunity to learn the people, learn the
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physicians. But it's just different when
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you're a new grad and you're on your own.
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And I remember early on being just really intimidated by
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intimidated by rounds. I mean, for those of you guys
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who work ICU, you know, you get in there, you look at your labs,
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you look at your chest X-rays, you find out a little bit about
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your patient. And then you get in there and
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you do your meds right away. And then you got, you got your
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residence and you got in your intensivist rounding within that
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first 3045 minutes, you got to have your act together.
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So earlier on while I was like just trying to have time
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management, I remember my first preceptor, he would just yell at
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me TMTM and I'd be like, OK, OK. And that was short for time
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management because realize a new grad, you're trying to learn all
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of these new things. And you also have ancillary
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staff coming by. You have your residents coming
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by, you have your lab coming by, you have OT, speech therapy, you
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have all these people coming by. And so you got to really have
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good time management. So anyway, early on in rounds, I
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would fumble and I would turn red and they would ask me a
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bunch of questions and I didn't know.
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I would get into my head like Oh my gosh, I feel stupid.
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I feel so dumb. Why can't I do this?
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And I just ultimately, when I was so stuck in my head, I
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wasn't getting what I needed for my patient, I wasn't able to
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think critically. And so I really learned, and
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this is what I recommend inside the flight Prep Academy to new
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grads as well as to start journaling.
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So I journaled every single shift in every single patient
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that I had. I journaled in there.
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What went well, what didn't go well, what did I learn?
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Patient diagnosis and what I want to do differently for that
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next patient that I had with that same exact situation.
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And what journaling taught me to do was leave it at work and also
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be willing to evaluate how I want to run it differently and
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all of the failures and mistakes I made so that I knew what I
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wanted to do next when I had that same situation so I didn't
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make the same mistakes. And I remember also being really
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nervous about having a patient that was ventilated with
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multiple drips that could code. And I remember every day we had
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a walk up flights of stairs to the ICU thinking my stomach
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hurts so bad. I'm like really nervous about
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having a coding patient. And I remember at the end of the
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four years, I was like, bring it, give me that coding patient,
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give me the sickest patient, bring me the challenge.
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And I became that person through having a ton of failures,
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through making a lot of wrong decisions, through, through just
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failing a lot. And I really think what has made
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me a great flight nurse and a great critical care nurse was
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not in the moments where I did really well.
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It it was in the moments that I failed, and it was in the
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moments that things didn't go as planned.
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It was in the moments where the patients didn't make it and you
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replayed it over and over and over again because you wanted to
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be better and you wanted to make sure that you did everything.
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And I know some of you guys feel that too.
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And I know mental health is something that we don't talk
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about in our industry enough. And especially those nurses who
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went through COVID, we saw a lot.
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There were things that we did with patients that would work in
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the past and didn't work anymore and it became disheartening.
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And we, I know a lot of you guys made that mean something about
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yourselves. And I just really feel like we
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quit. Like really good nurses quit
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ahead of time and really good physician clinicians quit ahead
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before they get into flight. But we need you.
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We need the people who are willing to fail, willing to get
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back up, willing to dig in instead of pull back, and to be
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better. Because I really think we all
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have gifts. And I feel like my gift is
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really being able to critically think under pressure and see a
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bigger picture that most people can't see when there's a lot
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going on, a lot of people, they dim and their, their binoculars
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get much smaller and they only see in.
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And when I am in an overwhelming situation and there's a lot
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going on and there's a lot of pressure, I'm able to make that
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lens zoom out. And I think that's a gift that I
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brought to critical care and that's a gift that I brought
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into flight. And I know all of you guys have
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that and notice, like my gift isn't that I'm super smart or
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super strong or any of those things, but it's in all of the
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failures that I honed that gift and I became really good at it.
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And it was being willing to find the value in the failure, OK?
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And no emotions are welcome inside my program.
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Like being able to experience the emotions.
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Like that's what makes us human. That's what makes us connect.
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That's what makes us deeply desire the work that we do.
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And so going on with this, evaluations are important.
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I teach this in my program and how to do it.
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We evaluate on everything because as a flight clinician,
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you debrief every single call. If you're good at what you do,
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you debrief every call. The thousands of calls that I
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ran, I debriefed every single call.
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I we talked about with pilot and my medic and if I wasn't able to
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be with my pilot, I was with my partner and said what, what?
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Well, it didn't go well. What do we want to do
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differently even if everything went accordingly?
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Because that's how you grow and you constantly learn and become
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a better clinician. And this is how you're able to
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move on from calls. So for those of you who bring
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calls home or especially in flight, you're moving very
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quickly. There were some really busy
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summer months where we had four or five transports and some of
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those patients didn't make it and some of it was very
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traumatic. And so being able to have those
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debriefs and talk about it in a timely manner so that you could
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get to the next call and get to the next person.
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And then I always, of course, of course, recommend talking with
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someone afterwards and debriefing with someone
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afterwards for your mental health.
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But being able to move to the next call, it required me to
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learn from those failures and debrief so that my clients are
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working with me. Once they get hired, they're
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doing these debriefs because they've already been doing them.
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And this is what's helping them move on from call to call and be
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really confident and strategic in how they're handling each
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call, even if they're stacking on top of each other and they
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have multiple ones. It's in the failures who where
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we find out who we are, what we're made of, and it's in the
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evaluations how we approve improve.
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So finding the value in the failure helps us evaluate and
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assess what we want to do differently.
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It helps us become better. It helps us not make the same
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mistake. It helps us see the bigger
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picture. And it also allows us to not
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make it mean anything about ourselves or quit ahead of time.
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And ultimately, I really believe it makes you into a really good
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critical thinker and clinician. I know that's what it did for
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me. This is required of you in
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flight to be able to sit on a continuous pile of failures and
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be willing to go out there and make them and, and to be willing
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to do the best that you can without regret.
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I also had this thought that really served me in flight and
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also continues to serve me as a mother of four and now having
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adult children as well, is with the decisions that I make.
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I made the best decisions that I could with the information that
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I had at the time. And that has really helped me as
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I processed some really tough calls and some really tough
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situations. Is I made and my team made the
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best decisions that we could with the information that we had
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at the time. And that's really helped propel
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me move forward and some of my failures as well, both
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personally and professionally. I want to offer you guys, if
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anything in this episode rang true for you and you want help
32:11
in finding the value in your failures, I will help you inside
32:16
the Flight Prep Academy. If flight is your goal, this is
32:19
the place to be. I'm not only helping you get to
32:22
flight, but I'm mentoring you all the way.
32:24
I'm helping you figure out how to not make the same common
32:29
mistakes that I see people make, how to get out of the failures
32:33
that I see people get stuck in and quit in, and also how to
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evaluate and improve in each failure that you have because
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navigating your failures is what's going to be required of
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you in flight. So if you can do this now, you
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are going to make a really good transition after getting hired.
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And I know a lot of you guys are focused on just getting there.
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I really help you not only focus on getting there, but deciding
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that you're going to do well ahead of time after getting an
33:02
offer. And so I'm already mentoring and
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helping you so that you make a more seamless transition in
33:08
confidently through your orientation period and into this
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role. And that's really what I'm
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seeing a lot of my clients do is not only have shorter
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orientations after they get offers, but do it more
33:19
confidently with the knowledge of this little finding the value
33:24
at every failure and being able to do these debriefs.
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If flight is what you want, come join me now inside of the Flight
33:31
Prep Academy. Don't wait.
33:32
You're going to create more success for yourself by getting
33:35
started early, having a mentor, and getting support for every
33:38
single failure and obstacle that your fight that you come up
33:41
against. And I'm going to help you
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prevent making the most common ones that I see people make that
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have them get stuck or have them quit ahead of time.
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This is the power of having a mentor who's been there before
33:53
and get supported all the way inside the Flight Prep Academy.
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I'd love to be your coach, your mentor, teach you the strategy
34:00
of getting you to flight and help you with the mindset piece
34:03
all the way there. That's it This week.
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I hope you guys find the value in your failures and join us
34:09
inside the Flight Prep Academy. We'll see you next week.
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Bye. Anything in this episode sparked
34:14
your interest into getting into flight?
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Come join my flight pet group. We are an entire community that
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meets together on a weekly basis with an ongoing group chat.
34:23
And if you are already flying and you are currently a flight
34:25
nurse or flight medic, you can join my all flight clinician
34:27
group as well. You can click on the link to
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join in the show notes or you can DM me on Instagram.
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I hope to see all of you guys inside.