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_1 Framework Successful People Are Using (Use THIS When Your Motivation Disappears)(MP3_160K) · NO FILTER

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  Speaker 1: Failure does not exist. It's just data. It's going to
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  Speaker 1: make you a question a lot of things about yourself,
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  Speaker 1: if you're capable, if it's worth it.
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  Speaker 2: What do you successful people have that people who don't
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  Speaker 2: make it don't have.
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  Speaker 1: They keep going even when it stops being exciting.
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  Speaker 2: How do we stop comparing our timeline to everyone else's.
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  Speaker 1: Success does not have a finish line, so we can't
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  Speaker 1: compare something that does not exist. Once you believe you
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  Speaker 1: were better than anyone else, You're done.
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  Speaker 2: Carl Centurro. Welcome to on Purpose. It's great to have
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  Speaker 2: you here.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited, Carl.
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  Speaker 2: I've been such a fan of you as from Afar.
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  Speaker 2: We don't know each other. We just met today, but
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  Speaker 2: I've been following your content. It's always direct, it's clear,
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  Speaker 2: the message is easy to understand, easy to apply. There
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  Speaker 2: are millions of people across the world that are following you,
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  Speaker 2: learning from you, and you just told me that the
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  Speaker 2: number one Google question about you is is Carl Centro?
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  Speaker 1: Ai, Well, I think we are in this room. It
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  Speaker 1: can confirm that I'm not so I love it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not sure j Shutty doing the first Holgram ever.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm not doing I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm very.
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  Speaker 2: How does that make you feel when people are asking
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  Speaker 2: that question.
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  Speaker 1: It's so funny because I'm in the actual tech space,
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  Speaker 1: so I developed softwares. I'm in an AI and when
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  Speaker 1: they started asking me about these things, I'm like, it
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  Speaker 1: kind of makes sense. But at the same time, as
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  Speaker 1: soon as I started posting more content, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: the people started realizing it was not I still get
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  Speaker 1: a few questions here and there, but it was mostly
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  Speaker 1: about me coming into the space of social media because
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  Speaker 1: what I do is like the fun side of my life.
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  Speaker 1: What I actually do is text. So I came into
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  Speaker 1: this space and I understood it because no one had
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  Speaker 1: seen me before, and in this moment that we are,
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  Speaker 1: you don't know what's real or what's not. So I
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  Speaker 1: kind of understood it. And that's the point that I
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  Speaker 1: understood that I had to go more into stories show
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  Speaker 1: people are a little bit here and there about me
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  Speaker 1: being real honestly was funny and me being the first
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  Speaker 1: interview here and I'm I'm super happy that people get
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  Speaker 1: to see that I'm a real person.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely talk to me about If someone listens to this
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  Speaker 2: episode today. What do you want them to walk away with?
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  Speaker 2: What do you want them to feel? How do you
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  Speaker 2: want them to change their life?
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  Speaker 1: To be honest? Like just like the name of the
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  Speaker 1: podcast purpose, I got into social media and everything that
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  Speaker 1: you see. I got into this space because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want people to feel behind in life because of what
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  Speaker 1: they see. I feel like nowadays we can get confused
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  Speaker 1: very easily in the men's side. I was talking about
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  Speaker 1: this the other day. If you are not flaunting cash
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  Speaker 1: outside of Lamborghini and doing all the things that you see,
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  Speaker 1: you're behind. If you're a woman, if you don't have
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  Speaker 1: a breaking bag, and if you don't have, you know,
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  Speaker 1: a bouquet of roses. I was out of a jet.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I don't have the right person. And
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  Speaker 1: that is not real live. I hated the romanticism that
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  Speaker 1: we're seeing in entrepreneurship, just because real live is not
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  Speaker 1: doing a Canva template and saying to people, do this
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  Speaker 1: course and you're be financially free, and then people believe that,
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  Speaker 1: and that's not real life. We all have struggles, we
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  Speaker 1: all go through things in our lives, even if it's
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  Speaker 1: relationships or work. I want people that every time they
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  Speaker 1: listen to something. It's purpose. You're not behind, You're on track,
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  Speaker 1: You're not on a race with anyone. And that's why
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  Speaker 1: I love so much everything that you portray, and that's
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  Speaker 1: why I wanted to come here so much, because this
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  Speaker 1: is real, live, and I feel like the type of
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  Speaker 1: content that we put out everyone relates in a different way.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like we're all in the same boat, but
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  Speaker 1: we all have different destinations. At the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: we all have problems. In this room, we all have
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  Speaker 1: a problem and it's not rare, but it's just how
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  Speaker 1: we can get support from now online sub beautiful things
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  Speaker 1: that I follow a lot of the guests that have
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  Speaker 1: been here and have a voice, and I feel like
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  Speaker 1: we all have a voice, and we all have a story,
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  Speaker 1: and if we can put it out there and people
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  Speaker 1: can relate in their own way, I think that's a
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  Speaker 1: purpose of life.
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  Speaker 2: You spoke about timelines there. You spoke about this idea
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  Speaker 2: of not being behind. How do we stop comparing our
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  Speaker 2: timeline to everyone else around us when it feels like
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  Speaker 2: we're so overexposed. You said, to the cause, the burking bag,
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  Speaker 2: the bank balance, the jet, the whatever it may be.
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  Speaker 2: Now you know before you compare yourself to the twenty
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  Speaker 2: people in your class at school. Now you can see
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  Speaker 2: what twenty thousand people across the world are doing. How
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  Speaker 2: do we stop comparing our timeline to everyone else's.
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  Speaker 1: There's no race. They made us believe that there's an
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  Speaker 1: invisible finish line, and success does not have a finish line,
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  Speaker 1: So we can't compare something that does not exist. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to tell you a little bit about me. When
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  Speaker 1: I graduated from high school, I did not go the
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  Speaker 1: traditional path. Let's say I saw all my friends going
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  Speaker 1: to college doing all this college live and I knew
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  Speaker 1: that college wasn't for me. It was in my path.
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  Speaker 1: And at first it was when social media just started
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  Speaker 1: popping off, and I remember posting, and I remember I
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  Speaker 1: saw called friends talking about me in group chats and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the thing that a lot of people are
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  Speaker 1: afraid to go out there because of the group. What
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  Speaker 1: will they say? And I was, what will they say
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  Speaker 1: about what? It's you?
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  Speaker 2: We're live?
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  Speaker 1: Let them talk for a little bit. Then when you
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  Speaker 1: make it, everyone knows you, everyone is your friend. So
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  Speaker 1: what I'd like to say is like there is no race,
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  Speaker 1: there is no invisible finish line, you cannot compare to
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  Speaker 1: something that does not exist. When you follow your own path,
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  Speaker 1: when you follow your own passion, a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: will not understand. That is for sure. When you're doing
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  Speaker 1: something different, people will tell you're crazy. People will tell
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  Speaker 1: you that's not the right path to go, and it's
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  Speaker 1: because they're talking about their insecurities, not about the reality
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  Speaker 1: of what you can portray. So when I started on
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  Speaker 1: social media, I remember myself putting out there like years
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  Speaker 1: ago because I had an account. It was all about
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  Speaker 1: different things that want to have now. It was all
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  Speaker 1: about fashion and trips and stuff. And I remember all
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  Speaker 1: this people that I thought were my friends. And if
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  Speaker 1: someone's listening to this and things that their friends are
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  Speaker 1: going to talk about you because you're online, they're going
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  Speaker 1: to talk about you, and that's beautiful. And if you
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  Speaker 1: get four likes and all the people that you thought
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  Speaker 1: they were going to support to you and you thought
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  Speaker 1: they were going to buy your product, you thought they
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  Speaker 1: were going to put a like on your new page
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  Speaker 1: for your brand and they don't, that is showing you
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  Speaker 1: who your true circle is. That is showing you that
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  Speaker 1: you are doing something that they are not willing to do,
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  Speaker 1: which is expose yourself, which is putting yourself out there,
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  Speaker 1: and that is bravery to the max. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that today seeing all these things about comparing ourselves online,
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  Speaker 1: about people that are younger than themselves, because a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people are like, oh my goodness, he's twenty and
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  Speaker 1: he's already a millionaire. Well that's perfectly fine. KFC started
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  Speaker 1: when he was seventy five or seventy something, and then
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  Speaker 1: you see via Wall she decided her first, Like we've
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  Speaker 1: seen this, there's no timeline for success, so if you're patient.
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  Speaker 1: I was just telling to my team here and I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to them about this, and I'm like, if
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  Speaker 1: you're not in a rush about posting at first, you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get likes. That's fine. If you're not in a rush,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna get there. So there's no comparison about you
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  Speaker 1: being younger or being older. My parents are sixties and
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  Speaker 1: they're reinvented in themselves. They're like, I want to do
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  Speaker 1: something different their sixties. I started young when I was eighteen,
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  Speaker 1: doing political things with no experience, and now I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to turn twenty nine and be like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: you're a baby. I'm like, yes, but during those ten
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  Speaker 1: years I didn't compare myself to anyone else and just
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  Speaker 1: follow my path, follow my gut. And now I've got
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  Speaker 1: the chance to work with presidential campaigns, fortune five hundred
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  Speaker 1: CEOs and it was my path. So if you still
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  Speaker 1: want to do it, get the advice from people that
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  Speaker 1: are online, but don't compare to it. Just get it
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  Speaker 1: and go out put yourself out there.
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  Speaker 2: Any successful person I've interviewed or talked to, this idea
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  Speaker 2: of knowing how to deal with whatever one thinks of
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  Speaker 2: you is huge. It's one of the biggest things I
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  Speaker 2: was sharing yesterday. Last night, I was just mentioning too
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  Speaker 2: that I was interviewing Emma Gred for her book launch
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  Speaker 2: here in London at the Hackney Empire, and she's from
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  Speaker 2: East London. I'm from London, so it was a really
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  Speaker 2: really special feeling. And I shared this quote that I've
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  Speaker 2: shared many times, but every time I say it has
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  Speaker 2: such an impact on me and everyone who hears it.
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  Speaker 2: It's from Charles Houghton Cooley. He said it in eighteen ninety,
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  Speaker 2: and the fact he said it in eighteen ninety he
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  Speaker 2: tells us everything he said. The chatlengs today is I'm
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  Speaker 2: not what I think I am. I'm not what you
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  Speaker 2: think I am. I am what I think you think
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  Speaker 2: I am.
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  Speaker 1: I love that it. Yeah, so that's what it's.
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  Speaker 2: So sad statement. Yeah, he's saying that we live in
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  Speaker 2: a perception of a perception of ourselves. So we think
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  Speaker 2: if everyone thinks I'm smart, then I feel smart. But
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  Speaker 2: if everyone else thinks I'm weak, then I feel weak.
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  Speaker 1: You know what. I heard this and it's called the
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  Speaker 1: Marilyn Monroe fact. So she showed up herself how she
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  Speaker 1: wanted to be portrayed. So she was an orphan and
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  Speaker 1: she didn't have the means to be who she was
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  Speaker 1: supposed to be. So I'm like, if you want to
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  Speaker 1: be Hollywood actors, if you want to do all those things,
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  Speaker 1: and you think you don't have the things, Marilyn showed
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  Speaker 1: up as the person she wanted to be. And I
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  Speaker 1: love that because once you believe in yourself so much,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna make it. Like I always say, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: make it. I didn't have the contact, I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: the money to do one the things, and it just
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  Speaker 1: worked so hard and believe in myself so hard, in
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  Speaker 1: the talents and the capabilities. I had to that it
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  Speaker 1: starts showing, and that's when people start calling you. So
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  Speaker 1: it's just about believing in yourself so much.
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  Speaker 2: What are the top three traits you believe successful people
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  Speaker 2: have that people who don't make it don't have.
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  Speaker 1: They always ask me what's the difference with a one percent?
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  Speaker 1: They keep going even when it stops being exciting. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people start. They get the domain, they get
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  Speaker 1: the user name, they get excited doing some Canvava posts,
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  Speaker 1: and then nobody likes, nobody buys. The idea is not good.
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  Speaker 1: The idea is not the problem is that you're not
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  Speaker 1: patient enough, and then you have to be honest with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And I think the honesty is that you have to
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  Speaker 1: tell yourself that it's not going to be easy, that
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  Speaker 1: it's going to require a lot of effort. And once
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  Speaker 1: you're honest with that, you have to be on a
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  Speaker 1: track that your vision has to be so strong, but
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  Speaker 1: the path to getting there has to be flexible. So
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  Speaker 1: I feel like the one percent is always patient, is
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  Speaker 1: always honest, and the vision has to be so strong,
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  Speaker 1: but the path to getting there has to be flexible.
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  Speaker 1: Once you understand that, you're gonna understand that your timing
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  Speaker 1: is not the timing that you want. I took ten
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  Speaker 1: years to get where I am, So when people see like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: she's an overnight success, overnight success does exist after you
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  Speaker 1: work ten years with nobody watching and nobody clapping for you.
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  Speaker 1: That's what it shows. So be patient, be honest with yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and be very stubborn with your vision. But the path
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  Speaker 1: to get every flexible. So that's the one percent difference.
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  Speaker 1: Once it stops being exciting, be so repetitive about the
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  Speaker 1: boring stuff that you're gonna make it. Because everyone thinks
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  Speaker 1: a success is exciting to get here, to do this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: that the logistics behind it. This is the fun part
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  Speaker 1: when we get to talk. But in any brand, in
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  Speaker 1: any business, any relationship, the boring stuff is what makes
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  Speaker 1: everything stick together in a relationship. I love talking about
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  Speaker 1: relationship because I feel like it's been so romanticized about
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  Speaker 1: things that a relationship is a thing that you work
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  Speaker 1: on every single day. In a business, you work on
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  Speaker 1: relationships with your team, with your employees, even with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a matter of just repeating the boring stuff
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  Speaker 1: over and over again and getting better at it and
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  Speaker 1: listening to other people also one more thing that we're
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  Speaker 1: talking about that is listening. I feel like once you
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  Speaker 1: think you know it all, you know nothing. That's the
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  Speaker 1: kind of thing. Once you believe you were better than
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  Speaker 1: anyone else, you're done. In my thing, in my company
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  Speaker 1: what we do every Monday, I'm the last one to
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  Speaker 1: speak because if you speak first, as a boss is
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  Speaker 1: a CEO, then everyone's going to agree with you because
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  Speaker 1: they might be afraid not to give you the reason
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  Speaker 1: yes you're good, yes, yes, yes yes. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: yes people around me. I want people to make me better,
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  Speaker 1: and that happens with relationships. You want your partner to
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  Speaker 1: make you better. Right now, I'm in a beautiful relationship
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  Speaker 1: that make me a better entrepreneur, a better woman, a
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  Speaker 1: better because they raise you up. It's not that you're comfortable,
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  Speaker 1: but they make you better. I have beautiful friends who
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  Speaker 1: want me to succeed, So it's a matter of you know,
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  Speaker 1: I feel just listening the power of listening, not knowing
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  Speaker 1: at all. That's how you learn until the last day
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  Speaker 1: of your life. If you listen, you learn, and you
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  Speaker 1: get to know people better. Abou about the people who
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  Speaker 1: love to talk more as well, because people talk too much.
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  Speaker 1: You know that they're the ones who usually not always,
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  Speaker 1: but oh the least and have the least supertraying.
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  Speaker 2: You just reminded me of Eric Schmidt, the former sy
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  Speaker 2: of Google. He had a principle that he called, don't
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  Speaker 2: listen to the hippo in the room. Love that, and
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  Speaker 2: hippo stands for highest paid person's opinion, and he said
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  Speaker 2: the same thing. He said, if I speak in a
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  Speaker 2: leadership meeting, or the most successful or wealthy person in
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  Speaker 2: the room speaks, everyone around them will just agree, and
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  Speaker 2: so it's better to allow everyone else. One thing that
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  Speaker 2: you mentioned that really stands out to me. You said,
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  Speaker 2: what differentiates the winners from the people who don't make
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  Speaker 2: it is that they keep working when it's not exciting.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that's where the follow your Passion movement
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  Speaker 2: went wrong, because people have this belief that if I
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  Speaker 2: follow my passion or if I do my purpose, everything's
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  Speaker 2: going to be easy. I'm going to wake up happy
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  Speaker 2: every day, I'm absolutely going to love everything I do,
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  Speaker 2: not realizing that actually, if you follow your passion, there's
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  Speaker 2: going to be lots of days where you're doing things
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  Speaker 2: you don't want to do, where things are not exciting
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  Speaker 2: where you're not winning, where things are not working out,
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  Speaker 2: and your spot on that being able to work when
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  Speaker 2: things are uncomfortable is what differentiates the top one percent.
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  Speaker 2: And so how do you keep going? How do you
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  Speaker 2: keep trying and experimenting when things feel slow and they're
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  Speaker 2: not going your way? How do we stay patient? To
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  Speaker 2: your first point?
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  Speaker 1: So I like giving as example, go to the gym.
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  Speaker 1: The first time, everything hurts and you see nothing but
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  Speaker 1: just internal pain. And then if you keep going, you
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  Speaker 1: start seeing a little bit here and there, the muscle.
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  Speaker 1: You start seeing here and there a titan. That's the
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  Speaker 1: same effect. Following your purpose and your passion is hard
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  Speaker 1: because you're not going the traditional way right and we're
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  Speaker 1: not going the traditional way. It's gonna hurt. It's gonna
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  Speaker 1: make you question a lot of things about yourself, if
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  Speaker 1: you're capable, if it's worth it, Why it's not working?
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  Speaker 1: Why am I doing wrong? Is the idea bad?
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  Speaker 3: It's not.
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  Speaker 1: But once you surpass that pain, that internal pain, you
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  Speaker 1: start seeing results and it's quiet. Success is quiet at first,
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  Speaker 1: it's not easy because you are not exposed. It's just
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  Speaker 1: you yourself in a room, maybe with a laptop and
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  Speaker 1: not a team or anything. And at first, all entrepreneurs
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  Speaker 1: know you are your own PA, your own personal assistant
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  Speaker 1: who's responding to emails. You are the marketing team, you
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  Speaker 1: are sales, you are everything, and that is fine, that's
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  Speaker 1: how we all started. But once you believe in the
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  Speaker 1: process that you're greeting something inside of you as well
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  Speaker 1: during that change. Because I feel like what success really
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  Speaker 1: is if they ask me, what is success, success is
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  Speaker 1: who you're becoming in the process, is the resilience you're building.
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  Speaker 1: It is the path to the top. You're going to
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  Speaker 1: be losing weight because to get there, you're going to
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  Speaker 1: lose friends. For sure. You're gonna lose friends because you're
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  Speaker 1: not the same person. You're gonna not be able to
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  Speaker 1: speak about the same things on a dinner table. That
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  Speaker 1: is fine. You're gonna maybe lose family members who didn't
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  Speaker 1: believe in you, and that is fine as well. And
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  Speaker 1: you're going to lose a part of yourself that you
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  Speaker 1: might not notice because in that silence of not knowing
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  Speaker 1: it changes, you're changing and that is already success. So
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  Speaker 1: on the way to the top, I always say, the
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  Speaker 1: top is not closed. People at the top will want
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: to help you I heard a friend of mine saying
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: a lot of people aren't helping me, and I'm like,
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: you don't need life. You don't need a lot of people.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: You just need one. If you have one person who
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: grabs you by the hand tells you I'm gonna I'm
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: gonna help you, I'm gonna introduce you to someone, that
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: might be enough. You don't need an army of people
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: to succeed. You need first to believe in yourself and
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: then just one person to introduce you. So the top
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: is not closed. The thing is that the top is cold.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: People were not expecting to be that cold, because when
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: you get to the top, it gets lonely sometimes because
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: since you lost a lot of things during the process
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: of getting there, it's a new you. And at the
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: top there are fewer voices, so that means that you
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: have more time to think. As a CEO you have,
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: it's you deciding. You don't get to run to other
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: people lots of times, so that's when your mind has
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: to be very clear on listening on who you are
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: and being so sure that any decision that you make
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: either are urns too good or bad. It's you at
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: the top who got there. Who've made all decisions to
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: get there, and you're going to be fine. So I
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: feel like the same thing. Once you understand that there's
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: going to be silence, that you're going to lose people,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: that you're going to grieve in all part of yourself,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: you're ready and you're the climate is slow, and you
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: lose people, but it's worth it.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: I always say to people, You'll get to where you
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: want in life, just not in the way you imagine it.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: Because all of us have a visual of what the
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: path looks like, and then reality next to it, which
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: doesn't look like that at all, And then we start thinking, well,
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: this can't be the right path because it doesn't look
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: like what I visioned. It doesn't look like the idea
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: I had in my mind, and reality saying no, no, no,
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: this is what it's going to look like, and we
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: just keep debating, we keep fighting it, and then you
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: don't take the step forward in reality because it doesn't
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: look like the one in your dream.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: In my case, I started so different from where I
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: am now.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: Tell me about that.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: So I graduated from high school, like I mentioned, and
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: I want it to be what it was. It was
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: blogger in that time because it was like an actual
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: blog and I started posting, and at first it was
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: like nothing, and it was kind of tough because a
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: lot of my friends were talking about me and ooh,
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: she thinks she's an influence. That was an influencer. I
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: was like, ooh, she thinks she's a blogger. You know,
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: but that's so cool when they underestimate you. I love
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: being underestimated because you get to build quieter. If you
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: don't have pressure, you don't have to prove anything. Yes,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: so not do it. I love it. So once I
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: started posting these things later on today, they all are
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: my friends, they all know me, and they all want something.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: That's the path. When I started, I thought it was
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: going to be into fashion. But once I started getting
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: invited into fashion Week, I understood the power of too
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: loudging and where it was going. So I started calling
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: all these brands that were inviting me to fashion Week,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: and I started doing their social media accounts. So once
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: I understood the power of social media, I went into
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: my first presidential campaign. I managed my first presidential campaign,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: then it led me to a second, one third, and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: I'm starting my fourth one. So if you told me
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I would end up in POD and then that led
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: to cybersecurity, met development SOFTWAREES and cybersecurity. I would have
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: never believed it, or me, being a political strategist, never
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: would have thought in a second. So if you told
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: me that by age twenty nine, twenty nine, I would
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: have been divorced, I would have never believed it. And
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: that is fine. I remember when I got divorced. It
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: was something like, ooh that she's so young and she
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: got divorced. And I always loved to talk about it
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: because it's not a taboo thing like I got the
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: most amicable divorce ever. It was all good, But it's
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: just things that happen, and live will just throw things
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: at you that you're not prepared. But the resilience comes
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: through the hardest moments of your life, and in that moment,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: through all the things that I've been through, and now
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I started into this path of social media of what
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: I do. This is the fun things. I get messages
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: from all around the world about people me changing their lives,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: which I would have never envisioned it. Right, So I
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: always say to the people I coach and to people
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I talk to, do you don't do any Everyone else
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: is taken right I've heard that the phrase you know
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: everyone's taking just be you. And in my case, I'm young,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: but I've lived so much. Even my Spotify a count
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: says that I'm sixty three years old, and I totally
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: believe it. I'm an old soul.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: You mean when it does this, what if I wrap?
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Exactly? Yeah, this makes sense. Exactly, this makes sense. So
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: it's just amount of like, do you do whatever dress
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: if you want a dress in certain way, dress in
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: a certain way, you want to go a different path
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: that is not the typical one, do it and don't
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: criticize others. It's so important because that energy that you're
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: portraying by criticizing or doing it's not coming back to
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: you in a goat way. I was talking to a
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: friend of mine the other day and she said, Oh,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: I heard this friend of ours had a baby and
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: she thinks she's a mom influencer. I thought it was like,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: that's so cool. But the way she said it, and
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: it's those things that I hear all the time. She
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: thinks she is Oh, she thinks she's a singer. She
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: thinks she's a designer. She is a designer. She might
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: not be at the top yet, she's gonna get there.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: She's not the top influence, but she's gonna get there
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: in her own timing. So the way that we portray
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: words is so important because if someone has blue hair
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: and you are staring at her because she has blue hair,
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: let her. It's just like the mob robins thing right
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: that it's like let them let her. If they want
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: to do something different that you are not engaged, whent
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: let them be you do you? You focus on yourself
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: so much that your energy. I've heard this over and over.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Successful people cannot criticize others because they don't have the
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: time for it. They're so focused on being better of
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: For example, I feel like us sitting here. I'm happy
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: about your success. I'm happy about you having a production company.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I'm truly happy. Like when I saw it, I called
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: a page who's been so wonderful? A page. If you're
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: listening to this, it was so good because I'm happy
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: for it because I know what it takes to get
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: to certain places. And when people read headlines and when
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: we put something out there is not to brag. I
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: always say, when people put a vacation there, it's not
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: to brag. People put something in their social media. Sometimes
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: it's not to brag. It's sometimes a way of saying,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you know the times they said no to a lot
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: of things to get there. So many times they had
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: to cry themselves to sleep to finally purchase the car
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: they've been saving for. So a lot of times we
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: read social media and the ways that we want to read.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: If it's with envy, we can twist envy in a way.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: If you're jealous about something, let it be for good.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: Let it be for If he can do it, I
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: can do it. Yeah, but not in a way of like,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: oh he has it, then it's not for me, or
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: I cannot have it. There's room for everyone. The world
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: can give so much. The doors are not closed to
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: just do you be happy, whether you go and read
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: the things differently, happy for others. Truly, we are in
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: a society that is so jealous, so confused because they
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: don't have it. And I know there's tough times, but
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: in the toughest times, it's when people can arise, they
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: can become the person they want to become. I remember
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: one time I had like twelve dollars to my name
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: and I was looking at my bank account.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: And I could have haven't.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: It was when I just started and I needed to
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: do like my first website for my It was when
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: e commerce were started boobing, and I remember the YouTubers.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: That's one of one of the things. They were like,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you're going to become a billionaire if you do this
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: product and Amazon FBA was call I thing or something
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: like that, and I was like, ooh, I'm going to
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: get into e commerce. So I saw all those YouTubers.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: It was like twelve years ago, and I got out
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: into it. I pay this guy to do my website
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: and he basically got my card.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: I was.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I gave him my card and basically he took like
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: all the money, didn't anything. And in that moment, I
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: understood the power of anything in live, like trust. Like
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: I trusted the guy. It failed. It was a lesson
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: and I opened my bank account and I feel like
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: we've all been there. When you look at your bank account,
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: you're like, oh my gosh, the overdraft fee and all
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: these things right, And there were two options. Either I
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: stayed there and cried or I saw to work. That's
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: how it got into tech. I learned how to code
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: my own website because I didn't have money to pay
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: someone to do my website, and I realized later on
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: how it got into tech was by a moment of failure,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: which I love to say, failure does not exist. It's
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: just data. It's just giving you more information and those
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: moments where you're like, what am I going to do
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: with my life and a lot of things. I feel
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: like people right now and the world is struggling with
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: financial situations like ever before, and in those moments, I
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: want you to know that I feel like all successful
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: people we've been there, like it's not easy to get
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: to where you want to get. And on my way here,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: I remember that a lot of people think they see
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: the car or they see the back or the watch
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: and they want that, and I'm like, it's fine, you
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: can get there, But real success is not assets. Real
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: success is who you become in the process, and real
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: success once you get there is who you share it with,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: because once you get there, it's like who I want
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: to share the news. Before I came here, I caught
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: my partner, I'm like, I'm so excited. He was like, oh,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: you look so beautiful, congratulations, and like they're happy for me.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: I caught my friend and she's like Oh my gosh,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. I brought here my team,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: they're so excited for me. It's who you share it with.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: And I always say in friendship, if there's a slight
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: chance of envy or jealousy, the friendship is gone because
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: they are competing with you, and the second they're competing
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: with you, it's broken. People who are around you have
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: to be happy about your success because they know their
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: timing is coming. They're following their own timeline and they're
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: happy for you. And that's so important who you share
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: success with.
• 25:45
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  Speaker 2: and live better. I'm so glad you brought up these
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: more underlying things when it comes to success, especially when
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: you talk about not criticizing others, because I feel like
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: as soon as we hear about someone doing something, and
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: if we're aware of it and they're doing it a
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: little bit better than us, everyone gets really really critical.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: And we're being critical because we're being competitive. We don't
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: even agree with what we're saying, we're just saying it
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: because oh, it's uncomfortable to hear that someone's doing it
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: better than me, that someone's getting it right compared to me.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: And I think what that does is it creates a
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: culture of criticism in our mind, where now I think
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: about this all the time. My friends who are doing
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: well on social media will never laugh at someone else
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: on social media. They'll only send me the good stuff
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: that other people are doing. They'll say, hey, did you
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: see this update? Did you see what this person just launched?
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: Did you see what this person invested in? And all
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: of my friends who are doing badly on social media
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: will always send me a video of someone to laugh
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: at them, to be like oh, did you see what
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: I'll look at a less laugh at this, and it's
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: fascinating to me how you get lost in that world
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: and you feel better about yourself. So what I found is,
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: if you're doing well, you feel better when other people
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: are doing better because it shows you there's more opportunity.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: But when you're doing badly, you feel happier when other
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: people are doing worse because that makes you feel like
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: a bit of an ego boost. And so I think
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: it's such a good tell as to whether you're focused
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: on yourself or whether you're not because of the critical piece.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: The other thing that you mentioned that really stood out
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: to me is this idea of sharing it with people. Earlier,
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: you talked about the idea of being lonely at the top,
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: and I think people are also lonely at the top
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: because they don't know how to build the friendships that
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: you're talking about. Because you can't control whether your friends
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: envious of you or not. You can't control that. How
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: do you maintain good relationships on your way up so
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: that you don't get to the top and then go, oh,
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: I want to make friends now, because once you're at
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: the top, you don't know why someone wants to be
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: friends with you exactly, So how do you maintain great
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: friendships on the way up without knowing if someone's envious
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: of you or not.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: I think that you change your circle. It's going to
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: happen because the people you're doing business with usually end
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: up being your friends, and the old circle just stays
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: where they are, and not because it's wrong, but because
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: their lives are different. And if you're doing something non conventional,
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: you're hanging out with non conventional people with minds that
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: don't see the impossible, right. So I think you just
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: change a circle. And that happens in life. Sometimes your
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: group Chad went silent, someone had a baby, someone got married,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: someone went abroad, and the group goes silent, and then
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: that's just life. The other day, I was got a
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: dinner and I heard them talk badly about you, And
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: the response was like, that doesn't matter. What matters to
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: me is why they felt comfortable to when in your
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: presence if you're supposed to be my friend. So that's
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: how you know.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: Say that again, that's good if.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: Someone's talking about you and they come to you. A
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: friend comes to you and says, I was at a
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: dinner and they were talking badly about you. The thing
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: is not why they were talking about me badly, It's
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: because why they were so comfortable talking about me in
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: your presence if you're supposed to be my friend, right,
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: So I love that because if it's a true friend,
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: they're not going to dare to talk badly about you.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: So that's the thing. I think. Circles changes. I feel
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: like in my life, my circles have changed multiple times.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: And that's just life. Yeah, that's just the circle of life.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: And if you're married, sometimes your partner's friends are going
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: to be your friends. If you get divorced, maybe it's splits.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: If you go to college, it's your college friends for
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: that time. Then you depart from that city and then
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: you have a new city and you become new friends.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: So I always talk about being an immigrant as will
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: and following your dreams because I feel like in a way,
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: everyone I pursue something usually leaves home and when you
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: get there, you're praying that the leads you had is
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: good enough, and if you're reading a yogurt flavor, that
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: you know the brand is good. And then you make
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: your first out of friends and they are starting to
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: show you the city, and then they become your person
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: in that city, and then you're pursuing a dream. So
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: it's just like I feel like it changes wherever you go,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: whoever you want. Sometimes it's who can take you there, Yeah, right,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: and you're hanging with them because you see that the possibilities.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: So it's just a matter of like life. I feel
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: it's just like the circle of life.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's fair. I feel really fortunate that
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: I've got friends who have been friends with for probably
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: about twenty twenty five years, is still in my life,
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: and your spot on the reason that we can all
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: still be friends is because I hopefully am not an
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: arrogant douche and yeah, and they're extremely and they're extremely
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: non envious, and I think those two things work really
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: really well together when exactly to your point earlier that
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: I have a great group of friends who aren't envious
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: and not competitive and not you know, trying to take
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: me down. And then on the other side, you're absolutely right,
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: your circle changes and you meet new people that understand
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: your new life. And I think that's what it is.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: I think people think when your circle changes, it makes
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: it feel like, oh, because you're doing better, you want
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: to be around people that are doing better. It's actually
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: not that. It's actually people understanding you at different stages
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: of your life, who have seen you in different phases,
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: who understand the pain you go through. So I have
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: lots of friends in my industry. The best thing is
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: we can all relate to each other when we're going
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: through the same things exact. And my friends from back
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: home they've seen the full picture of me, and so
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: I love that too, because they know me deeper than
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: anyone else on the planet, because they've seen me from
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: day one exactly. So the idea that your friends change
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: and your circle changes is valuable at the same time
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: as that encourage people to be like you don't have
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: to leave everyone behind, no, and you can open up
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: the door for other people.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: There was this beautiful story. I met one of the
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: survivors of the Andy's crash and they were set of
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: a group of friends who were leaving for a rugby
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: tournament and the plane crashes. And I think, if someone's
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: seen the show on the movie on f because it
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: is great, I invite them to watch it. But I
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: was talking to one of the survivors and he said
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: with something beautiful that takes me out of like bad
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: days because I'm like, you were a group of friends
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: who crashed in the snow. A lot of them died there,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: and you stay there for seventy two days, stranded and snow,
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, how did you pull through? And he's like,
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: all of us friends was important to see one good
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: thing every day. And he said something beautiful. I'm like,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: are you saying this because it sounds good and he's
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: like no, because when you're in the snow and there's
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: no sound and you just see plain white, you find
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: beauty in things that you didn't understand before.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: He said.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: While they were listening, like at the rain or the
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: snow falling, They're like, God is present, and if God
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: made all of this, that means he's here with us.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: And I find a beautiful I'm a truly believer in God,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: and I feel like once you leave everything to him,
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: everything started becoming beautiful. And at that point when he
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: told me that in seventy two days stranded in the snow,
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: they saw one beautiful thing. Seventy two days in the
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: cold with no food, like it was bad. But then
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: I asked him something. I'm like, how did you know
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: you're going to survive. And he said this because no
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: one told us it was impossible. And that is something
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: that you can take to you. You want to embark
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: into a new chapter of life, and they tell you
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: it's impossible. The market saturated, by the way, the market
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: saturated was invented by someone with low creativity to be honest, true,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: but it's just you believe in yourself. Because usually people
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: put their own fears into our own ideas and our
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: own dreams. So that's why we believe in them when
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: we think we cannot make it. So when he said that,
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I truly believe it. It's so much because he said,
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: what if we would have been stranded with a lot
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: of people around it, the odds of everyone saying, ooh,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: they're not going to make it, ooh, what are the conditions,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: seventy two days in the cool, They're not gonna make it, it
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: would have been higher. Right, So he said, nobody told
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: us that it was impossible. And seeing one good thing
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: in your life, and I truly believe in that. I
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: believe in that on the worst days that I have,
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I find one good thing. And once you find that
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: one good thing, you push through. You wake up one
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: more day and be like, one more day to fix
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: any problem that I have, one more day to try again,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: one more day to become the person I want to become,
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: one more day, one day at a time. That's why
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: I don't believe in five year plans and five year
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: plans with the advance of the technology and everything that
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: doesn't exist. You know how I hire people, it's the
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: funniest thing. I love resumes. That's all good, love that,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: but I usually take them to a smoothie ride. I
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: take them with me to a smoothie and I love
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: how they treat people. I see how they treat the
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: waiter or the person at the kashir. I see the
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: sistiffness on ordering they're going to take to like forever
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: or you know. And then while we're sitting in a
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: casual environment, I asked questions about life right and when
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: you get to know the person's going to be part
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: of your team, being good, being a good person, kind, heard, honest,
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: and has values, the resume will follow. But if you
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: don't have that as a person, the rest doesn't matter.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: You can have Ivy League people and your team. That
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: doesn't mean anything, but they're kind people I hired the
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: other day, so it was impressive. I was doing this
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: speech in Dubai and then this guy had come from
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: India and he didn't know how to speak English, so
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: he wrote on a piece of paper something and he
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: showed it to me once they were doing a meet
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: and greet, and it was basically him saying that he
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: was in tech and that he had saved the last
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: amount of money and asked his mom to come to
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: Dubai to meet me and had a chance to work
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: at my company. And I thought that was so brave
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: because he didn't have the language, he had spend the
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: last cent to come and see me, and he was
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: taking a chance. And that's what I love. The three
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: seas of life, challenges, choices, and change. Challenges. We all
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: have them and life will throw at us every single day.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: But then you have the chance to make a choice.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: And once you have that. This guy I hired him
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: on the spot. He showed me what I thought. It
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: was so brave what he had done. So when I
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: see people that have everything and oh and he had
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: two ratte syndrome, so when he started talking to me,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: he was like having a situation and showing with a
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: piece of paper trembling, and I thought was so brave,
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: because the meaning of being brave is not that you're fearless,
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: is that even though you have fear, you're gonna go
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: for it. And that moment, he was so brave, and
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I just gave him a hug and I like, come
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: come Monday to my office. I'll pay the hotel, don't
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: worry about I take care of it. His mom just
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: right now. And he was a big chance that he
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: was in my team. So it's just a matter of
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: like people, if you have air in your lungs, if
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: you get the chance to wake up one more day,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: you can do it. You can totally do it. I
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: believe in that so much. And I have such an
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: amazing p I didn't get here alone, like nobody gets
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: there alone. You have people that have helped you. When
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: this guy told me that he has survived the situation,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: seen good thing and his friendships. Oh and one more
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: thing he told me, he said that between all of them,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: they couldn't complain. And I thought it was so beautiful
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: because in her every day we complained so much about
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: dumb things that if you use that energy to complain,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: you're going another way, it's the wrong way to go.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: And he said that during the snow it was in
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: no complaining, loving each other, seeing one good thing and
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: knowing that nobody told him that it was impossible to survive.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: So in your every day I feel like what he
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: said is like, nobody can tell you you're not peopble of
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: doing something. See one beautiful thing every single day and
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: do not complain.
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: That's a great story, that's a great experience. You said,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: we can watch the is it a movie.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: Or that's a movie. It's called The Society of No. Oh,
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: it's fantastic and the scenes are so someone to see that.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you see like how how did they
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: actually survive? But that's the thing. I feel like, those
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: those type of situations when people go through that. It
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: was just like the Hudson River crash and I heard
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: this beautiful story said what engine is out? The other
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: one is out as well. This guy goes. I realized
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: that moment when the plane was crashing that I haven't
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: loved my wife enough that I didn't have to spend
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: time with my friends all the things that you are
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: waiting to do someday, right and that side, we have
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: our planes crashing every single day. Sometimes we feel like
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: we're down and under, but that's the moment of wake
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: up call. That's the moment when you took a deep breath.
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: I like myself when I'm feeling down, doing the ten
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: second rule, and it's just counting myself ten nine eight.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: Even like rockets, they count backwards because they're going to
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: go up. So I feel myself like that, even when
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like I count myself ten nine eight,
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: seven and one one. I'm up and I'm doing. So
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: it's little rules here and that I place myself, and
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: nobody taught me. Another thing I like to cause the
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: rule of nines. So people who like productivity tips, I
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: put like a TikTok board and it's like nine squares.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: And if you just put nine squares throughout your day
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: or throughout your week and you cross them, the mind
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: loves completion. So if you cross it out physically. I
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: love tech, but I like some things physically cross it
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: out and post it notes and just cross it out.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: Your brain loves completion, and you feel like you're advancing
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: more than if you think that your brain can hold
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: everything together. It can. But once you feel completion it's fantastic.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: So certain things that I've learned. It's like when when
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: you're in school and they put a happy happy face
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: sticker and you're like, yay, and you're happy. When we're adults,
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: we don't have that, So we have to give that
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: to ourselves. Then we have to give the grace of
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: us trying. Nobody gave us the blueprint of life. I
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: think that people made us believe that we have another day,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: that we have more time, time to love, time to forgive,
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: more time to try that thing that we want to start.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: But live life is moments and we think that we
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: own those moments, but we don't. And that's why we
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: have to make the most of it. And at the
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: end of the day, when when our time comes, I
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: don't want to be able to say I wish I had,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: because when the time comes, I want to say I tried,
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I loved, I did it my way. And the invisible
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: footprint that you're living in someone else's life, that's what matters.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: I heard the other day that when you die, men
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: especially get their first set of roses or a bouquet
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: of flowers.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: Now that was.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: Beautiful in a way, because why do we say all
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: those things when people die, Why do we handle a
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: set of flowers when we can do it when we're alive.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: They said, the two times that people are gathered in
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: your alive, all the important people in your alive are
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: either at your wedding or at your funeral, right And
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: I thought that is sad in a way, because real life,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: real life is trying, real life is failing. I don't
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: believe in failure is just data, but let's call it failure.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: I believe in the power that we have as humans
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: to grab each other's hands and be better. Right now,
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: in this time of our lives, we see more division
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: than ever, and we see division because we don't understand.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: And when we don't understand something, it's easier to criticize,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: it's easier to hate. And nowaday with the media, with
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: the world and what's going on. I believe in unity.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: I believe that we're separated by things that should never
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: be separated. And I love that if we can get
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: the message of just unity, that we're all humans under
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: this skin, we are all bones, we're all the same,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: and I believe as humans we can give each other
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: the hand of love and the power of sincerity. And
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: the power of you know what, I can help you,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: and if you need someone, I will call you and
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: check in on your friends. There's so much loneliness. It's
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: a new epidemic. It's a new pandemic loneliness, and especially
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: with economic situation as well as like people are not
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: happy and able to have kids. And now that I
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: work in the political space as well, and when you
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: ask them one, oh, we're not having babies, it's not
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: because I don't want to, because maybe you know, they
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: can't afford people who are lonely because they got divorced
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: or then depression. And I do believe that now, especially now,
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: we can come together as humans, not as political parties,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: not as race, not as nations, but as humans. The
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: other day, I was sitting at a table where there
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: were Christians, where they were juice, where they were each
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: one of the literally Arabs. It was beautiful and I
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: told them that you realize there's one of each religion
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: and we can all talk because we can all listen
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: to each other, and then it's beautiful. But now that
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: I've been moving around and ubers, the other day, my
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: uber driver asked me about my religion. He was Muslim,
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: and I asked him about his and as soon as
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: I got off the uber, he said, in shal lamn,
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: I hope your day is beautiful, and I thought it
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: was beautiful. He was praying in his culture and his
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: and it's beautiful, and I told him, God bless you.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: So the moment that we understand each other as humans
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: is not as political parties, not as anything else that
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: the media can portray, and we just see each other
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: as humans means I think that the moment that we're
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: sitting in the table, it's a table that should be
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: everywhere and around the world. It's because you listen, because
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: you understand. So the moment you start listening to more people,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: you understand more and getting your own opinion.
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: It's so interesting now because I feel like we're listening
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: to more people than ever before, but we're not hearing
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: them exactly right, We're not actually hearing them because there's
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: so much noise. And today we have to more cultures,
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: more countries, more opinions than ever before, but no one's
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: actually hearing anyone anymore because you're just filtering it through.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: Your own lens because you feel that your opinion is
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: so set in stone that it becomes your identity.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, it's because we'd rather be right than have peace, exactly.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, one hundred percent. That's what when you listen to
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: someone truly, And what you just said is that I
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: feel like more and more today with politics all around
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: the world, is that you feel that that's your identity
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: and that's not your identity. And once you understand more
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: about situations and we have more people talking about free press,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: let's say, more information, different ways that you can get
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: your information, you can understand that any political party cannot
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: be your identity. Your identity is something completely different. It's
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: who you are on your every day, who you're becoming
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: for a better person. And the other day I found
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: this beautiful story that I told that there are three
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: genies and they decided where to hide happiness from humans.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: And the one genie goes, you know what, let's hide
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: it at the bottom of the ocean. And the other goes,
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: you know what, No, they're gonna build a submarine. They're
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: gonna find it. Yeah, you're right. The other one says,
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: let's put at the top of the mountain. He says, no,
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: they're gonna learn and put equipment. They're gonna climb and
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: find it, and the last Genie says, why don't we
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: hide it inside them? They were never gonna dare to
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: find it there. And I thought it's so funny because
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: it's true, because we're seeking happiness externally, and we've been
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: taught that because since we're little. If it's not an applause,
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: it's not valid when people say let's take a picture
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: and post it, because if not, it didn't happen. You
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: know what I love when I take a picture that
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: I'm never gonna pose because it made me happy.
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: It's the best.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: It's the moment that you understand it was for you.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: The other day, my partner took a picture of me
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my gosh, a corp. Well He's like, no,
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: to me, you look beautiful. No, And I want to
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: remember this moment. And it's about moments, it's not about externally.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: So when this story about the genies just remind me
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: of it's true. Happiness is inside you. The purpose is
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: inside to you. It never left you, just let it
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: rotten based on someone else's opinions and because they didn't
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: clap for you, So the purpose and never left the
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: other day, someone told me I've fell out of my purpose.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: I lost my purpose. And I'm like, no, No, your
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: purpose isn't inside you, It never left you. Who just
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: let outside opinion dictate your decisions.
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's when you feel disconnected from yourself, stop listening
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: to yourself, that you get distracted by other people's opinion.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: Is when you think you've lost your purpose, Corol, I
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: wanted to switch into a bit of entrepreneurship and I
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: want to do this segment with you called this or that.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: I love it, and so I'm going to ask you
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: this or that and you're going to tell me which
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: one and then why it? And we're going to go
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: through quite a few. So the first one is do
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: you believe in discipline or motivation?
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, discipline hund percent. Motivation fates. Motivation pates when everyone's
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: I'm still motivated. That happens a lot. I was super
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: motivated in January to start Jim Went twice motivation diet.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: I'm out right when people say I'm motivated to start
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: a new diet. But I'm going to start on Monday.
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: Why Monday? Why can't you tusk start Thursday? Because as humans,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: we just decided that Monday was it or January was it?
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: But now what is it? Oh, we're halfway through our
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: week and it's almost June, so that means we're halfway
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: through the year. And that means you know what I'm
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: going to start next year? We're too late. No motivation
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: fades discipline. This simply makes you wake up the day
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: so you don't want to. Discipline makes you want on
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: a rainy day. Discipline means you're up until five am
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: and you haven't slept, and you haven't had any food,
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: and you're still going because you have to finish the task.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Discipline one hundred percent Olympic athletes you know, and you
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: probably talk to so many, and it's discipline. They don't
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: they don't want to go and swim on minus two
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: degrees and train for the Olympics. It's and it's gonna hurt.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: And that's the same thing with an entrepreneurship. It's gonna hurt.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: It's not the same physical plane as an athlete, but
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: it's a different kind of pain. When you're an entrepreneur,
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: not going to pay yourself at first a salary. You're
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: gonna pay your team first, or you're going to have
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: noodles and pasta for the next year because so you
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: can't apport a lot of things. It's a different kind
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: of pain, but it's discipline and if you stick to it.
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: It's just like when people post the first time they
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: open an Instagram account, they post once, they post twice,
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: it's not working. Like discipline, discipline, you're going to get there.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: You're going to learn my first video sucked. My first
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: video has got like fifty likes. No, no, my first
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: video has got my mom, my dad likes, and probably
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: someone else account that followed that day, I was a bot, right,
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: but then it just grows and you learn from that.
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: It's not immediate.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: So discipline, okay, discipline our motivation ideas or execution.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like both because you have to have a
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: strong idea of what you want to do and not
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: change ten thousand times the idea because sometimes the idea
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: is good, but you have to execute it and change
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: sometimes a lot of things for that idea to work.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes we think we know the industry we're getting to,
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: but we actually don't until we're there, and we have
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: to do a lot of different things, like the path
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: to get there. The visual strong. So when people say
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: that idea is bad. It's not bad. You just haven't
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: tried one thing for a long time to see if
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: it's working. So you try five different variables and you
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: don't know which one's working, and you think, like, h
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: it's not working. No, just one thing at a time.
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: I feel like at the same time, a lot of
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: people have great ideas, but they just don't stick to
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: it for a long.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: That's why I'm an execution over ideas person. I feel
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: like I've seen the worst ideas become really successful because
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: someone executed really well on it.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: You see La or death right, Yeah? Yeah, water like
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: water making it water.
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: It's just water, brilliant, just how they do it.
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: Then, market saturated that we just talked about it is
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: not saturated totally.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean I was told podcasting was saturated seven
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: years ago when there was seven hundred thousand podcasts. Today
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: there's two and a half million podcasts. So I fully
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: agree with you. Last one of these intuition or data.
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: So I feel like intuition is data. Talk to me
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: about interestion, what is the actual meaning of tuition? And
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: for me, intuition is just a lot of things that
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: you've lived, which is data which has given you a
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: sense that we don't know how to explain. Did you
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: know that when you're a baby, the first organ that
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: is born is your stomach. So when you feel intuition
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: and say I feel it, I feel it is because
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: technically it started there. So intuition for me is just
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: data that you've lived in order for not to make
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: a mistake or in order to make a good decision.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: So in my case, a lot of the times when
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: I started in my career being a woman young at
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: eighteen manage a political campaign on social media when social
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: media wasn't a thing, it was kind of like, who
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: is she? She's young, she doesn't have a degree, she
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: didn't have the thing right. But then as I started moving,
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: I've worked with soccer, which is fully male dominated. Tech
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: is a space that has now more and more women.
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: But when I started, it was me. Well until now,
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: I feel like I work with one hundred percent men
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: on my meetings, on everything, And it's just a matter
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: of like getting into an industry where you have to
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: believe in yourself so much that you're not drawn apart.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: So when people give me excuses about I'm too young,
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: or I'm this and that or that, there's no excuse
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: anymore the path and then information has now been opened
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: to so much, to so many people. I feelt before,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: if it was set on a book, it was that
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: on the stand. Google came. If Google said it, it
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: must have been right. Then Alexa came, if Alexa said
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: it beautiful, if Siri came, it must have been true. And
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: now we have chagbt. If Chagibt said, the information has
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: been out there all along. I started coding when there
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: was no chagpt to help me to code, had to
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: go and read, actually read and go to articles and
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: blogs and stuff online to try to understand. So if
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: you really want it, nowadays you can do it like anything,
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: and then to renew. So it's just intuition for me
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: is a muss because it's just backened by the data
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: that you've lived.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: Because you do so much of this in your professional life.
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: You're guiding people in their presidential campaigns, You're guiding Fortune
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: five hundred CEOs when it comes to their social media strategy,
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: the digital strategy. If someone right now wants to stop
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: building a social media following, what are the first three
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: things that they should do?
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: First things, go and search your competitors. You know, what
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: I love to do. I love to go to Google
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: and find not the five stars, but the three stars,
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: because the three stars are giving you a path of
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: where it was almost good but not terrible, and that's
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: your gap. So go to Google. Search your competitors, go
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: to Instagram, and on Instagram, I would go even to
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: your page when I started, and I wanted to see
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: what people liked. It's not gonna be the same from
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: you and me because I'm gonna do something totally different.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: So people are like, oh, she's copying or you're copying. No,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: nobody's copying anything because warm water is already there has
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: been created, right, But go to your competitors. The first
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: time I started my first account on e commerce, I
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: would go to Google. I would see the three star reviews,
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: and then I would go to all the people that
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: I commented. I will go and find them on social
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: media or go to their social media page and literally
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: invite them to go see my page. So when people
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: are like, oh, it's not working, nobody's following me, I'm like,
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: but have you done the work. It's not easy at first,
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: especially if you're a sole entrepreneur. So first definitely go and.
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: Stalk step one.
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, your algorithm is showing you about your same thing
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: over and over again, so you're saturated that's the way
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: to go. So you not intentionally, but intentionally your subconscious
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: strives to copy that, and you turn out to be
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: something that you're not because you're copying that. Right, the
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: biggest ideas that I've gotten for other people's brands or
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: strategies that have done have come. If I'm looking into soap,
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: I would go to nail polish because that we get
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: ideas from there and then we are applied here. So
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: trying to make your algorithm show you something else that's
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: not in your industry because you're saturated with that that
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: you think that's the path to go. And if that's
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: not the path to go, it's done. Force your algorithm
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: to show your different things. And Third, be patient because
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: social media today there's a saturation. I started eight months
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: ago and built a huge platform. It's so funny because
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: it's like the Mandela effect. Have people talk to me
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: and say, I've been following you for years and I've
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: been eight months on social right, so it's just the
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: fact that they saw me so many times of the
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: thing they've seen me there but that's the thing my paths.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: It can be different from you. And if your patient
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: and you don't have a rush, and you truly believe
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: in yourself and your idea, you're going to get there.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: So it's just a lot of patients. Anything in life
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: is patience. Nothing happens in the blink of an eye.
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: It's like just getting your body toned. Like if you
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: want to go on a YouTube input how to get
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: apps in seven days, and there are a lot of
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: those videos, you're not gonna get them right. The muscle
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: builds and the muscle of resilience in business, it's hard,
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: it's tough, but you build a muscle, you build resilience,
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: you build character, And for me, character is something so
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: important because today we hear a lot of people talking
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: about success, but it would truly a success. It's who
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: you are as a person, who you're leaving with and
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: the values that you're leaving people with and in your
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: busines as if you're a business owner, always abcs. The
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: ABC's is always be communicating. And I love that because
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: if you are communicating with your team, if you're communicating
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: and love, nothing can go wrong. I feel like one
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: of the most important things is humans is the lack
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: of communication because when there's lack of communication, bad things
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: happen everywhere. It doesn't matter what happens, is just it
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: just goes bad. I have one time one of my
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: team had a bad communication with a business that we
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: were doing and instead of putting a zero, they added
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: another zero. It said the wire. So I was like, oh,
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: that's beautiful, Okay, what we're going to do about it.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: It was a lack of communication between teams. So it's
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: just a matter of like communicating and love the same thing.
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: Once communication ends, love ends. That's something I like to
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: talk about, is becoming an entrepreneurs. Who you're with romantically
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: it's very important.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: Interesting tell me about that.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Who you have next to you can definitely define you
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: because I've seen a lot of very talented people that
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: can't go past that because of the person who have
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: next to it, because they make them feel stuck. If
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: you are a woman get into business, I felt like
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: you have to have someone that is not afraid of
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: you being more than them. Maybe because there's certain stigmas
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: in this life that the man was the one that
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: provided man was And now we see more and more
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: entrepreneurs more women who are super powerful by themselves. Right now,
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: I have the most beautiful relationship right and I see
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: the difference from others because he is happy by my success.
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: He's happy to, you know, help me in the ways
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: that he can to make me succeed.
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: I have close friends who have partners who don't make
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: it easy for them. I feel like when you're an entrepreneur,
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: you're marrying the vision. You're not marrying the person. You
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: are marrying late nights. You're marrying an idea that the
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: other person cannot see but has to trust you. And
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: when you understand that, everything changes. Because when you marry
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, you're marrying uncertainty, you're marrying late nights. You're
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: marrying those things that having a nine to five might
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: not give you because that's more stability, right. But an entrepreneur,
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: ooh bear, an entrepreneur is just marrying an idea that
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: might change ten times and you have to be good
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: with it. It might mean that they're going to miss birthdays. Yeah,
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: it might mean that they're in their phone all the time.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: It might mean that you know, you are on a
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: dinner and you have to leave to take the call
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: and you have to be okay with that because you're
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: marrying that person or you're dating that person. Yeah, so
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like who you are with in this lifetime
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: can either make or break you. And it's just not
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: about being comfortable with the idea because sometimes, like I'm
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: comfortable then, so I'm saying, life is not meant to
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: be comfortable. Life is meant to be uncomfortable. I never
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: want to be comfortable. And the other day they asked
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: me in an interview, they said, but why do you
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: want more? I don't want more because it comes to
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: monetary because I want more money. It's because I know
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: that I'm not finished being the woman I want to become.
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: And when you're becoming, that means you're uncomfortable. And for example,
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: you right now entering a new space. It's uncomfortable at
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: times because it's more work and it's more things, and
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: you have a That's why I.
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: Take it on. That's why we take it on.
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: But I could never envision myself being so comfortable that
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: I'm on a Tuesday night and I'm like, okay, noah, no,
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: I want more because live is meant to be lived
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: to the fullest, mean to be used. So much that,
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: you know, I wake up every day. I came here
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: and I was so excited about this because you know what,
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: once you start living I feel like in our industry
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: and you get to enjoy all this cool places and
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: dinners and events. I remember the first time I got
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: invited to the American Music Worst after party, and it
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: was a Chainsmorkers after party, and I did not know
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: anyone of the industry. And my friend Jason Richmond, he
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: was at the time of the vice president of Paramount Pictures,
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: and I met him there and we were sitting at
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: this like fireplace and he goes like, oh, it's so cold,
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: and he goes and I go, yeah, yeah, yeah, And
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: he's what do you do? And I'm like, oh, I'm
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: an influencer, I'm a blogger. He's like, oh, that's so cool.
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: Can you come to my office to Paramount. I'm in
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: on what we can do together?
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: Like I was uncomfortable at that point because they were
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: all celebrities. I remember like one direction was there, like
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: Haley sign for Like it was so many people. I
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: did not feel comfortable. I'm like, what can I talk
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: to the people about? Like? Who am I the imposter?
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: Syndrome and imposter syndrome at the end of the day
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: is just you're getting to a new level that you're
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: not familiar with. It's like getting to an airport where
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: you already know the gate, and you already know where
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have lunch, or you know all these things,
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: and you go to the airport and you feel easy.
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: But when you're landing to a new airport you did
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: not know, you're kind of like, oh, wait, wait, where
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: is the gate. That's kind of what imposters that it
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: feels like it's just another place. So at that time,
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: I remember I was sitting down at this after party
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: and I started talking to this guy who I did
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: not know who he was. So I go like, oh,
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: and what do you do? And he was like I
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: sing like oh, that's so cool. And then my friend
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: goes like, oh, you're talking to post Malone and I'm like, ooh,
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: I didn't know how he looks like, you know, and
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: this is this really cool things. When I met Daddy
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: Yankee as well, and I'm like, Okay, where's the guy,
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: He's like that's the guy. I'm like, oh, that's the guy,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: you know. So it's just moments that you're uncomfortable and
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: you have to be yourself and you have to be
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: opened up the possibility. It was a what life can
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: bring to you. And at this point, I remember in
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: my career, I got to meet so amazing and talent
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: in people and a lot of times you just see
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: they're humans. When when you see social media and you
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: see a number is just a number. I'm a human,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: You're a human. Everyone's this room. We're just normal people.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: We all have problems. The only thing that we have
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: different is that we dare to believe in ourselves so
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: much that people believed in us and gave us a fall.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be here sitting if people weren't following me.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: You weren't be sitting giving me the interview people that
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: didn't believe in you. So it's just a matter of like,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: don't believe in the imposter syndrome. Don't believe it's not real.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: It's just believe in the thing that I just said. Somewhere.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: You've not been yet, which I love the word yet.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: You're not successful yet, you are not there yet. It's
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: just yet. And I have been doing this, I've been
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: going around. We brought it to so many countries. It's
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: one hundred and twenty two countries we brought it to.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: And it's that I still build movement. And I'm launching
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: my book next year, so I'm gonna be definitely launching
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: it with you. But I still build movement. Is that
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: we're all builders in either way or not, we are
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: building something. And I love to do this every time
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: I go somewhere into a different country, I love to
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: do this part where I put on the screen and
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: I'm like, when fear takes over me and it tells
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: you I'm not enough, what do you say? And people
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: go around and say I still build? When and I
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: still doing all these things? And people go like, I
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: still build, And you just start believing I'm a builder.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: You're a builder. We're all builders. We're building different lives.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: Someone is becoming a mother full time. That's beautiful. You're
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: building a home. You're building an idea from scratch it
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: doesn't exist. You're a builder. You're building a live alongside
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: someone that you're going to spend the rest of your life.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: You're a builder. You're building an idea that might exist,
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: and you want to speak it a little bit. That's awesome.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: You're a builder and in this stage of like, we
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: just see that we're, like I said, in the same
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: boat in different destinations. We all have problems, we'll have
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: crisis in life. And I understood the power of time
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: with this because my dad, I'm an only child. My
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: parents have been they are my life. They are my
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: greatest support. But you know what, it's something that I
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: understood that they always believed in me. I always saw
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: them as builders because they build their businesses from scratch.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: I always knew what a real entrepreneurship entrepreneur looks like
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: because when I was young, I would go to the
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: office on a Saturday because they were building right. And
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  Speaker 1: my grandma always always something is, you can do it.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember this you can do it because there
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  Speaker 1: was like a little thing in my bed and she
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  Speaker 1: would hold my hand and she would let go and
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  Speaker 1: she said, you can cross. You can do it. And
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  Speaker 1: it's the same thing. The most beautiful thing that you
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  Speaker 1: can do in live is believing yourself. So much of
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  Speaker 1: what you're building. It doesn't matter what it is, but
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  Speaker 1: it's just believing in what you're building. And in this
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  Speaker 1: moment of you can do it. Sometimes I do what
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  Speaker 1: it's called the power post and the power pose. I
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  Speaker 1: heard this article about this neurosurgeon who stood up that
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  Speaker 1: he was going to do operate in this little girl's brain.
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  Speaker 1: She was three years old, and as a neurosurgeon, he
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  Speaker 1: said that if he had had like a tiny mistake,
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  Speaker 1: the girl would basically be brain dead. So he said
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  Speaker 1: that it was like a sixteen seventeen hour surgery, and
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  Speaker 1: he would go in front of a mirror before it,
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  Speaker 1: and he did the power poles right and after I
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  Speaker 1: heard that, I always do the power post. So what
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  Speaker 1: is the power post? You stand in front of a mirror,
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  Speaker 1: you put your arms like a superman, and you lock yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You see yourself and you see who you really are.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, you know what, let's do this. Bring it.
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  Speaker 1: They tell me I can't watch me. You think I
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  Speaker 1: cannot do it, watch me. And I love that because
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  Speaker 1: once you understand the power that is inside you, nothing
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  Speaker 1: can break you. And seeing yourself in the mirror is
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  Speaker 1: something that I always ask how many times you talk
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  Speaker 1: to yourself? Like, no, I talked to myself. No, you
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  Speaker 1: are thinking, you're having thoughts. And there was a Harvard
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: study I said that seventy eight percent of thoughts are
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: negative on a daily basis. So when I heard that,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you're not talking to yourself. You are listening
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  Speaker 1: to your thoughts in mute. But what if I told
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  Speaker 1: you that you stand in front of a mirror and
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  Speaker 1: you said, you know what, Coral, I'm gonna have a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful day. You're so powerful, you're so capable, you're breathing.
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  Speaker 1: You get one more chance, and you put yourself in
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  Speaker 1: powerfles and you see yourself, You see the parents side
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  Speaker 1: do No one that you admire has something different than you.
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  Speaker 1: They just believe in themselves so much that once you
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: stand in front of the mirror and you do the
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  Speaker 1: talk to yourself and you do this, ooh, it becomes
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  Speaker 1: so beautiful. Yah, oh I love it.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I can definitely say that before I go
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  Speaker 2: on stage, there's really a mirror there because I'm backstage.
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  Speaker 2: But whenever I go on before stage, if I'm in
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: power post, it is so much more easier to go
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  Speaker 2: out there and own the stage, yes, than it is
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  Speaker 2: when you're like just sitting there thinking about stuff, whatever
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  Speaker 2: it may be. And the distinction you made between the
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  Speaker 2: thoughts and the mind that's not talking to yourself that's
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  Speaker 2: just hearing. Yeah, and the big one that I took
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: away there. My favorite type of people are over communicators.
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 2: And when you were talking about couples, this is how
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: I think about a relationship. You're in one place, your
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: partner's in another place, and you're driving to the same
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 2: party tonight, and your partner leaves a bit earlier than you.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: You leave a bit later, but you call them up
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: and say, hey, i'm running a bit late. Can you
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: wait for me outside? And your partner says, yeah, yeah, sure, sure, sure,
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: I'll wait for you outside. That's cool. What time you're
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: going to get there? You're like, I think I'm going
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: to get there twenty minutes after you get there. They go, great, fine,
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  Speaker 2: come it. Twenty minutes after they're waiting there, you're on
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: the way. You get stuck in a bit of traffic.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: You go, hey, look i'm still ten minutes behind. I'll
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: be there in thirty minutes. Why don't you go inside?
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  Speaker 2: Your partner says, I thought you wanted me to wait.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 2: You go, no, no, no, it's okay, it's okay. You just
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  Speaker 2: go inside. You know I'm going to be a bit later.
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  Speaker 2: You get there thirty minutes later, you walk in the relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Wasn't getting there at the same time. It wasn't that
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: you were moving at the same pace. It's that you
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: were in constant and conversation and communication and connection about
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: where you were. And I think that's the communication that's lost.
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  Speaker 1: And I love that you're posting on your social media
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  Speaker 1: those things that I did. One similar, but it was
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: about traffic and like one is having a baby, one
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: just divorced, one is having all situations and live and
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: I feel like that is social media. We'd just see
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: a tiny window. We don't see the full picture. And
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: that's when we communicate each other and you talk to
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: your partner, you talk to your friends, you see you
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  Speaker 1: see like, oh we're not so behind. Oh it's not
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: that perfect. I'm like, when it comes to my social media,
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: I wanted people to leave with a message, not with
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: what I have, not with where I live, not with
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: anything at all, because my life is not perfit at all.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: I understood the power of time and lively. My dad
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: got cancer and he got diagnosed and there was a
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: moment in life where he's wonderful to thank God. But
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: he got into an exam and he got stepsis from it,
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: and he was in intensive care for a long time,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: and I understood the power of time of the things
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 1: that I wanted to do, and I'm like, I want
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 1: to do everything now. And it's the moments when you
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: understand all this things right as an only child, I
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: feel like when they ask you, how is it to
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: be an only child? Was it tough when you were
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: a kid? No, it's when you are an adult and
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: you realize that everything is up to you. So it's
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: just a matter of like how you can communicate. Everything's
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: about communication. Communicate about the beautiful things you can tell person.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: Why wait, if you are in love with someone, say it,
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 1: even if you're afraid. Have you heard that? Grays and
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: out of my line? It's beautiful. It's like Eric Salan
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: that just passed away. He has this beautiful line where
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: he says, say it. If you're in love with someone,
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 1: say it, even if it hurts in your bones, even
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: if you're afraid, even if it's not the result that
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: you want to hear, say it. And I feel like
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 1: that's life. Go for it, dare to say it. In
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: a meeting, I heard this amazing story about the guy
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 1: that invented spidamin water, and he went to Coca Cola
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 1: and basically said, I have the next product, and he
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: literally sold the idea of having like water with flavors
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: and he got pay out like four billion I think
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: if I'm not wrong, So it's just about it, like
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: going communicating, dare to do it. The worst thing that
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: can happen isn't no, and that's fine, you know, But
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: it's just a matter of believing. Communicate yourself, say that
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: you love, say what you don't like as well, because
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: in the best communications, it's saying the uncomfortable things. Yeah,
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: people don't want to hear uncomfortable things, but it's what
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 1: makes you grow in a company. When people have to
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 1: come and say the things that you've been doing wrong
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: and nobody wants to hear that. It's just going to
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: make you grow or it's going to make you bankrupt
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: if you don't hear that, right, So it's just a
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: matter of communication. Live is all about communicating in every
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: aspect of it.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: Well, said Carl, I want to thank you first of
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 2: all for traveling thirty hours to be here. This is
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: the dedication. I wanted to point it out because you've
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: been talking about dedication. You've been talking about discipline, You've
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: been talking about putting in the work, talked about overnight success.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 2: For you to travel thirty hours to be here to
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 2: be on the show, I think that is the longest
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: anyone that's ever traveled to be on the show. So
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 2: I want to honor you for that. I want to
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: thank you for that, be so grateful for that. And
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: we end every episode of On Purpose with a final five.
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: These questions have to be answered in one word to
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: one sentence maximum, So Carl Center, these are your final five,
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: brought to you by State Farm. Question number one, what
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: is the best advice you've ever heard or received?
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: So I think there's a quote I really like and
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: it's a winner is just a loser who tried it
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 1: one more time, so I don't stop at failure.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: I love that great advice. Question number two, what is
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 2: the worst advice you've ever heard or received?
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: Follow your purpose? Because well, at the end of the day,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: a lot of people just say, like, follow your purpose,
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: but purpose comes with a lot of dedications, So I
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: feel like that's in complete advice. So just say follow
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: your purpose, But no, that is not going to be easy,
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: and that's the thing. Just purpose sometimes is.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: Not enough absolutely. Question number three, when do you know
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: that a relationship is over?
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: I think a relationship is over when the admition dies.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: You have to admire your partner for the good and
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: the worst. You know. I was just talking two to
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 1: my friend who's in the studio with me. But it's
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: a matter of like when you get married and they
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: ask you and good or and bad and sick? Doesn't hell?
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: That's the pre saying, like the cute version. But what
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: if I told you? And I heard those the other day,
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: It's like, what if they amputate three of your members?
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: What do you still love her? It's like, ooh, it
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: makes you think, what if we bankrupt and we have
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: to start over. I just heard Ian Thumhowlder talking about
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: Nikki Reid and that they were eight figures in debt
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: and how they pull through that that's not easy. Financial
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: debt is not easy. But it's just a matter of admiration.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: If you admire your partner and that dies, I think
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: it's over.
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: Question number four, how do you define a good friend?
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: I feel like a good friend is always happy for
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: your success. I have a group chat with two of
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: my friends and before I got you one is in Shanghai,
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: one is in Buenos Aires, and they all woke up
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: at the same time to see me get ready and
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: my makeup and for me, they were happy for my success.
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: So if your friend is happy for you, you have a
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: good friend because they're not jealous of you and they're
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: not afraid of your success.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: And final question, we asked this to every guest who's
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: ever been on the show. If you could create one
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 2: law that everyone in the world had to follow, what
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 2: would it be?
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: Respect? If you respect each other, that's it. You don't
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: need anything else. Respect means that you have heard one
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: another's opinion. Respect means that you respect their time. I
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: respect so much people's time because it means that you
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: value their time as well as yours. Respect means that
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: you can respect your partner because you respect them. Maybe
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: they don't have a good day, and that doesn't mean
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: you know you've lost it all. Respect means that in
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 1: your team, you respect them with who they are, with
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 1: their ideas, with their values. So if there could be
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: one thing, and I think the world will be better
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: off with, is respect each other.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: Carl Tantura, thank you so much everyone who's been listening
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: and watching wherever you are, whether you're at work at home,
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: please tag me and Carl on TikTok and Instagram with
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: your best moments, the parts that you're going to try
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 2: and apply, the parts that you're going to try and
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: live by, the parts that you're sharing with a friend. Carl.
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much, thank you so much, so so thankful,
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 2: truly grateful, and it's wonderful if finding to meet you
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 2: and wishing you all the best for your boys. Bless
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: success may come your way, and thank you continue to
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: help so many people around the world.
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, it's been a pleasure and for
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: everyone's listen, just God, bless you. Keep believing in yourself.
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 1: You are enough and I'll see you next time.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much. Thank you everyone for watching. We'll
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: see you soon. If you love this episode, you love
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: my conversation with Airbnb founder Brian Chesky on how to
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 2: tap into your creative potential and the number one thing
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: people get wrong about success. The best people in your
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: life will be people who see potential in you that
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: you didn't see in yourself.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: And I often wonder