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Season 5 - Episode 134 - Things don’t happen by accident….do they? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. So little food for thought
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  today. Things don't happen by accident
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  to us. And we kind of love to say, Oh
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  well, I picked the wrong person or Oh well, I picked the wrong
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  job. And we kind of go into this
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  modality of looking at our life like things happen by accident.
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  But here I sit to tell you I don't personally believe that
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  I'm willing to take responsibility for the fact that
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  the things that are in my life are here because I tolerate
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  them. I let them happen.
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  I choose certain things and then those have repercussions,
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  whether it's a dinner, like let's just use something simple
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  like you go out to eat and you you eat something that you know
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  is going to bother your stomach. There are going to be
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  consequences from that. Yet we do it all the time.
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  I know that when I eat ice cream, my nose is going to run
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  and I'm going to have to blow my nose a lot for the next few
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  hours because the dairy that's in the ice cream is usually not
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  dairy. That's particularly going to be
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  effective for my body and it will cause my nose to run.
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  It will it will just be an uncomfortable hour, maybe 2.
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  And I have to decide if I'm willing to do that.
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  When I decide to have ice cream, it's a it's a simple procedure.
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  I feel like having ice cream. OK, great.
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  Do I feel like blowing my nose for an hour?
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  Not really. So I'll skip it.
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  And I've come to discover that certain spots have more of that
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  certain types of ice cream have more of that than others.
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  So I could say, all right, yeah, I could have ice cream, but I
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  got to know what shop to go to. Now I know that sounds it's
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  crazy, but it's really true. If I go to 1 certain shop here,
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  I know it's going to be hours of me having this problem as
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  opposed to if I go to this little custard place, it's not
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  nearly as bad, ironically. So it's something in the
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  product. Obviously it's an allergy to it,
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  but point is it it didn't happen by accident.
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  I'm there's a reason behind the scene.
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  So when we are having all these conditions in our lives that
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  show up and irritate us and we get frustrated and we're like
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  this sucks. There's often 90% of the time
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  high, high percentage 90 at least, if not 100%.
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  I, I just don't like to give absolutes and say 100% of the
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  time we are responsible because sometimes we could look at it
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  and say, I'm not responsible for this.
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  And I wouldn't disagree to this point of like, you get up in the
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  morning, you walk out the door and something happens by
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  accident. You get in a car accident and
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  we're not always responsible. Someone bangs into us and we
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  could say, well, spiritually we were on that path and we left
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  and you know, we attracted it. And, and again, I don't
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  disbelieve that, but I also believe there are things that we
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  can't, can't comprehend in our human brain that's so puny
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  sometimes. So we have to say 90% of the
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  time we're responsible for this. So I'm a big believer in looking
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  at the things we tolerate so we can learn from them.
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  And those things have an effect. So when you decide that you're
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  going to get angry about something, you have to stop and
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  say, what was my participation in this?
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  Did I allow it? You might not have allowed the
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  specific situation that happened, but you did allow
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  this. The person in your life, you,
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  you might not have allowed the specific incident in the
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  beginning, but if you hear a noise in the background, just
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  know I'm, I'm getting ready for the girls breakfast.
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  They're getting peanuts this morning back to this anyway.
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  But you, you, you might not have allowed the specific incident,
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  right? Like you, like you didn't say
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  that, but all of a sudden you allowed the conditions.
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  We teach people how to treat us. So that shows up and then all of
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  a sudden it's like you let someone get away with something
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  once and it becomes OK. And then they're they're going
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  to go for that. They're going to keep going back
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  to that. So we have to stop ourselves and
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  say, OK, I need to stop allowing this.
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  And the best time to do that is when there's nothing happening,
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  when you know that it's calm and you can make a clear headed
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  judgement. So if you are in a state where
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  that is the case, where things are tend to be copacetic right
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  now, nothing good, nothing bad, just right in the middle of the
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  road and it's the middle of the year.
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  So it's a great time to do this and look and say, OK, I'm going
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  to clean up a lot of the things that I've been tolerating in my
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  relationships, in my world, in my emotional world.
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  This is an emotional clean up place.
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  Stop, pause and look and say, what do I need to clean up?
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  Look at it hard, my friends, because it is a really great
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  exercise to do when you're not emotionally tied to it one way
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  or another, angry or exuberant. It's a wonderful exercise, so I
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  hope that's helpful. I hope you guys have a blessed
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  day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.