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HOW TO TEXT HIM FIRST!! · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables, you have to go in with
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  Speaker 1: the mindset of that maybe he might not want me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that's okay. I think rejecting therapy is
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  Speaker 2: a good thing, exactly. It's not. It's not an attack
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  Speaker 2: on you or there's nothing wrong with you. It's literally
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  Speaker 2: that like wrong timing or just you don't click. It's
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  Speaker 2: not an attack on anything. Like I think a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people think, like, what's wrong with me? Why doesn't
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  Speaker 2: any boy love me or any girl love me. It's
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  Speaker 2: not an attack on you at all. It's just like
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  Speaker 2: you don't connect in the same way exactly.
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  Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka
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  Speaker 1: the law Racks, and my partner like aka Mummy. Some
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  Speaker 1: of you might know Jake as Daddy, but Daddy not
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  Speaker 1: many of us. So I was scrolling on Instagram, you
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  Speaker 1: know when you scroll past your following feed and it
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  Speaker 1: just is like kind of like a four you feed
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  Speaker 1: now pretty much. I was on there and like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: assuming that it was an account run by dudes. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and it was one of those ones where it's like
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  Speaker 1: a little fucking like the little lad Bible up in
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  Speaker 1: the corner and it's like study show when she makes
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  Speaker 1: the first move, it's like eighty percent of couples where
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  Speaker 1: she makes the first move and in marriage or something
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  Speaker 1: like that.
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  Speaker 3: One of those bullshit And I was like, yeah, right, okay,
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  Speaker 3: of of course.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, whatever, let's just try and chick girls
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  Speaker 2: in the message.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, this is account right, this is this
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  Speaker 1: accounts run by dudes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just trying to give fucking people to message guys.
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  Speaker 1: But it made us think. We thought we would give
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  Speaker 1: you guys tips on how to text him first, randomly
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  Speaker 1: out of the blue. So I'm gonna go first, go
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  Speaker 1: for it, hit him, Hit him with is your middle name?
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  Speaker 1: And then insert a name right, any name, just after
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  Speaker 1: you want to care what you choose Mitchell, and he's
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  Speaker 1: very likely going to say no, because how are you
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  Speaker 1: supposed to guess his middle name? And then you can say, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's weird, I dreamt last night that it was. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's actually kind of good.
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  Speaker 2: It's intricate.
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  Speaker 1: I don't mind.
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  Speaker 2: That makes you think, And then that would start a
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  Speaker 2: conversation about why you're dreaming about.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly you're in there admitting that you're dreaming about him.
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  Speaker 2: I would take the bait if I got that one hundred,
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  Speaker 2: I would take the bata instantly. No one's guessing my
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  Speaker 2: middle name either, I wouldn't even know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, good point. Also, no one's going to guess mine
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  Speaker 1: because it spelled roight. Yeah, my spelt wrong. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so that one is. I think that would work.
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  Speaker 2: I think that would work too. So how to text
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  Speaker 2: him first? Randomly?
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  Speaker 1: Bold? But I think this would work?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, straight up voice message, Oh, I fully agree with that,
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  Speaker 2: like nothing by just saying like I could not agree more. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: what are you saying on the voice pasages though I
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  Speaker 2: didn't get no, told me you didn't get that far.
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  Speaker 1: I was going I say, like, you've got it. This
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  Speaker 1: is all you do. You're supposed to be help with
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  Speaker 1: the girls.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think people would think that's too bold.
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  Speaker 2: So I've helped him out a little bit. I'm thinking
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  Speaker 2: that some funny mate, like, Hey, I'm actually I thought
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  Speaker 2: you were cute when I go on a date.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you could do you know the start of all
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  Speaker 1: the shows of like the Bachelor, like all those reality
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  Speaker 1: TV shows, A lot of like the dating ones, and
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  Speaker 1: how it's like they'll intro the girl getting out of
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  Speaker 1: the vehicle and as she's walking up the red carpet
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  Speaker 1: into the house to first meet the bachelor, there's a
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  Speaker 1: video of her soul, just her on her talking about
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  Speaker 1: herself and who she is and stuff like that. So
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  Speaker 1: you could just send him a voice message saying like
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  Speaker 1: who you are, what you do and see if that works.
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  Speaker 2: This is giving hinge actually thinking about it, hinge do that.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't think about this. Maybe nah, just like a
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  Speaker 2: cool voice message, just like to show your personality, like
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  Speaker 2: maybe just but what about like, hey, I'm as special skill,
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  Speaker 2: like went to the beach today, what do you get
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  Speaker 2: up to?
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  Speaker 1: Or you could voice message and say is your middle name?
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  Speaker 1: So see what they do. If you can think of
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  Speaker 1: a good voice message, it could work. And here's the
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  Speaker 1: thing is if you're if you're game enough or bold enough,
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  Speaker 1: like you say to do that, I reckon you know
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  Speaker 1: straight away whether or not it's going to be good
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  Speaker 1: if they send a voice message back. But if they don't,
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  Speaker 1: you should Just.
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  Speaker 2: My thinking is it gets rid of all this like
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  Speaker 2: bullshit text thing. You don't know what they're actually saying,
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  Speaker 2: when they have sarcasm, when they're actually funny, when they're smiling,
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  Speaker 2: Like you can hear someone's voice when they're enjoying talking
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  Speaker 2: to you. That's what my thinking is, So it could work.
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  Speaker 2: I love voice messages because.
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  Speaker 1: It's one more thing you know about the person. It's
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  Speaker 1: like you can figure out, you know, stuff for via text. Yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but one thing I love is like you figure out
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  Speaker 1: what their voice sounds like.
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  Speaker 2: Well, my best tip for people going on a first
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  Speaker 2: date is you should FaceTime them beforehand once. I think
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  Speaker 2: face times bold nah, just because you get their vibe, sona,
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  Speaker 2: what they sound like before the dates. You know what
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  Speaker 2: you're in for.
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  Speaker 1: And it's sort of like alleviates.
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  Speaker 2: Any nerves first date nerves and you what you're getting
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  Speaker 2: a little bit and just helps the situation. Let's use
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  Speaker 2: technology to advantage man fair what if you like true
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  Speaker 2: imagine like you got yourself a catfish in your face time,
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  Speaker 2: like oh shit, and then you're like, well, I'm looking
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  Speaker 2: on the date anymore.
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  Speaker 1: How do you think of a way to get out
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  Speaker 1: of it? I mean, I've used your tactic once before,
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  Speaker 1: back when I was single, like ages and ages ago.
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  Speaker 1: I remember I had like organized fully organized a date. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and then I think you said you were like Coler, Yeah, Coller,
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  Speaker 1: find out what she's like. And I was like, fuck,
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  Speaker 1: I guess, but so I called her and I just
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  Speaker 1: got fucked vibes. It's got fucked up vibes. Like I
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  Speaker 1: was like thinking, I'm not driving all that way for
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  Speaker 1: that beautiful girl. I'm sure. I'm sure she's a beautiful girl.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's not good, but I didn't give her the
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  Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt because what if she was nervous?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we let her head wind.
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  Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what. I canceled that date and
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  Speaker 1: I didn't go on it. Maybe this is tough.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe Okay.
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  Speaker 1: My next one text him randomly, so how to text him? First? Randomly?
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  Speaker 1: Say to him, my friend bet me that I didn't
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  Speaker 1: have the guts to message the cutest guy. I follow right,
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  Speaker 1: and then followed up instantly with thanks for existing, because
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  Speaker 1: in my opinion, it looks like I won. Oh that's good.
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  Speaker 2: Did you think about yourself? Yeah, that's smooth, that's smooth.
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  Speaker 2: We do find out that any girls listening, if you
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  Speaker 2: want a damn a dude, it doesn't matter what you say. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: if he thinks you're pretty, he's gonna recipitate. What's going on?
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  Speaker 1: I mean to be fair, it goes both ways. Like
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  Speaker 1: if you're a dude that has shit chat, yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: the girl looks at your you're thinking like oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah yeah, like you know, it doesn't matter
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  Speaker 1: fucking like that, it doesn't matter what you say. And
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  Speaker 1: it goes the same way like if you message your
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  Speaker 1: going and he's like, oh yeah, I've been waiting for this,
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  Speaker 1: Like you could say anything and you could be like
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  Speaker 1: you'd be like, I don't know. I fought fucking all
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  Speaker 1: the time.
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  Speaker 2: How to text him? First? Randomly, I reckon, this is great, Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 2: why are you so handsome? It's a question and you're
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  Speaker 2: saying he's handsome. I really like that because it's not
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  Speaker 2: just the statement, so we can reply and be like
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  Speaker 2: oh yeah just Cabins naturally is like oh I can't
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  Speaker 2: help it. My mom and dad gave it to me.
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  Speaker 2: I really really, And then I was like.
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  Speaker 1: Why you know what I'd say, I'd be like, how
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  Speaker 1: about you? Like, i'd so you send the message. I
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  Speaker 1: would say, look, why are you so handsome? Wit? Don't
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  Speaker 1: say I look better in person? Fuck? She won't re bine,
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  Speaker 1: I reckon, you should say, I'll tell you but first
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  Speaker 1: you have to tell me why you're so pretty?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't say I look even better in person, I
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  Speaker 2: look in my bedroom lighting.
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  Speaker 1: Oie or you know, you know what you should say?
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  Speaker 1: You could this could be funny, is so she says,
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  Speaker 1: you say to a guy, why are you so handsome?
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  Speaker 1: And then and then you could just be like if
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  Speaker 1: you're basing this off my instagram just with lighting, that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of like to be like, oh, I'm a catfish.
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  Speaker 2: But then she's want to know true because you see,
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of works.
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  Speaker 1: It is a good one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a good one.
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  Speaker 1: That's we're giving guys responses to say that to fuck Okay,
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  Speaker 1: this one's intricate. Okay, I'm here for it. Okay, how
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  Speaker 1: to text him? First? Randomly? Stick around? So stick around
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  Speaker 1: with this, okay, send him a photo of something that
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  Speaker 1: you are planning on wearing on a night out, instantly
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  Speaker 1: followed up with should I wear this? Question mark, and
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  Speaker 1: then immediately again followed up with sorry, wrong person. And
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  Speaker 1: that's all you say, Like, you don't say that's so embarrassing,
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  Speaker 1: just say sorry, wrong person. And then one more message.
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  Speaker 1: While I'm here, I may as well get your opinion too.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know really, like it would work if I
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  Speaker 2: thought she was pretty, But like that's bold, that's real bold.
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  Speaker 1: Not as bold as sending a voice message. No, like
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  Speaker 1: you got this.
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  Speaker 2: You got this like dress and something put on the
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  Speaker 2: bed and you're like, what do you think?
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  Speaker 1: No, No, you're in it. You're wearing the outfit you say.
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  Speaker 1: It's as if you're trying to send a your friend.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, But then the second message was the second one
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  Speaker 2: saying what do you think? So, yeah, you're wearing You
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  Speaker 2: send the first this photo, yeah, and then you send
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  Speaker 2: another message saying what do you think?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Do you still think you're messaging the friends? Because
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  Speaker 1: that's too consecutive. He'll probably think she seems dumb because
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  Speaker 1: she didn't pick up on the fact that, like you're
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  Speaker 1: trying to say that we think you're a man, don't
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  Speaker 1: try and go out here that we're looking into details
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  Speaker 1: of things.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying no to that one.
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  Speaker 1: Really, I don't reckon that One's that good?
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  Speaker 2: Too bold, too bold? Right, that's like the classic like
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  Speaker 2: you'd used to go on snapchat send someone to like
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  Speaker 2: a picture of Oh sorry, wrong person. Now I'm here,
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  Speaker 2: like what are you up to this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: That's the same concept.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, how to text him? First randomly you go name
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  Speaker 2: so Jake, and then capitals Jake, and then capital's exclamation
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  Speaker 2: markets make Jake, and then just sorry, I had to
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  Speaker 2: get your attention.
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  Speaker 1: That's actually a good first message. Yeah, I think that
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  Speaker 1: would work. I think it would do. And then do
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  Speaker 1: you but do you say that? And do you wait
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  Speaker 1: for like say, say someone's messaging me, and do you
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  Speaker 1: wait for me to reply and then say, oh sorry?
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  Speaker 2: I was thinking all three of them in one go,
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  Speaker 2: So like j j Jake, Capital's xmation XM sorry, I
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  Speaker 2: just had to get your attention, and then you wait
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  Speaker 2: for a reply, yeah, and then see what he does. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: that work, I would I think it would work both
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  Speaker 2: ways too, because you could do Jake, Jake, Jake, all
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  Speaker 2: the different messages one's caps and then like explanation marks and.
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  Speaker 1: Then you wait for them to be like what that's
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  Speaker 1: a dud?
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  Speaker 2: Why is this chicking?
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  Speaker 1: What? Yeah? And if you here's the things, you know
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  Speaker 1: he's got good answer. If he goes, ah, don't yell
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  Speaker 1: at me, you're like sorry, how to get your attention?
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  Speaker 1: Like you know you're that's already. That's good Actually that's
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  Speaker 1: good chat. Like, all you're doing with the first message
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  Speaker 1: is finding out if they have a fucking sense of humor, right,
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  Speaker 1: if they've got a soul? Yeah, exactly, if they have
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  Speaker 1: a brain. Literally, Okay, I got one more?
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  Speaker 2: So do why?
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  Speaker 1: How to text him first? Random? Now? I'm pretty confident
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  Speaker 1: this will work on me, But let me know what
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  Speaker 1: you think. It's time to stop fucking around and just
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  Speaker 1: to ask me on a date already? I like that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, very bold, but I like it. But I also
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  Speaker 2: we both like not betting around the bush.
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  Speaker 1: True, we're both the type that's like, don't fucking message
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  Speaker 1: me for like a month and then want to go
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  Speaker 1: on a date.
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  Speaker 2: You might as well find out and not waste each
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  Speaker 2: other's time straight up with the first message. Times important?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, also because I don't know, I just
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  Speaker 1: don't not a fan of texting neither my last one.
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  Speaker 1: How to text him first? Randomly?
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  Speaker 2: Send a funny TikTok like that everyone finds funny, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and then go So I just wanted to skip a
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  Speaker 2: few steps.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I like that one, and you guys are sending
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  Speaker 1: each other fucking TikTok's and reels already.
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  Speaker 2: Hopefully he gets it. You got it, So I'm thinking
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  Speaker 2: everyone would get it.
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  Speaker 1: What's that supposed to mean?
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  Speaker 2: I actually wasn't meanted.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, that's good. I like that.
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  Speaker 2: I like that one.
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  Speaker 1: Ah shit, Okay, well that's ammunition if I've ever seen it,
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  Speaker 1: I said, like, and again, I want to reiterate the
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  Speaker 1: fact that it's like, think about if you've got a
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  Speaker 1: message from a guy that you wanted to message you,
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  Speaker 1: no matter what he says, unless he's saying like send nudes, Like,
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  Speaker 1: no matter what he says, you're gonna reply if you
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  Speaker 1: think he's attractive, If you think's attractive, and so like,
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  Speaker 1: you just have to go into all these thinking with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Like also just like you have to go in with
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  Speaker 1: the mindset of that maybe he might not want me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that's okay. I think rejection therapy is
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  Speaker 2: a good thing.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: It's not. It's not an attack on you or there's
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  Speaker 2: nothing wrong with you. It's literally that like wrong timing
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  Speaker 2: or just you don't click. Yeah, it's not an attack
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  Speaker 2: on anything. Like I think a lot of people think, like,
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  Speaker 2: what's wrong with me? Why doesn't any boy love me
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  Speaker 2: or any girl love me? It's not an attack on
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  Speaker 2: you at all. It's just like you don't connect in
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  Speaker 2: the same way exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, guys, it's dilemmas.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to submit a dilemma in the description
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  Speaker 1: of this episode or in our the Lincoln, our Instagram buyer,
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  Speaker 1: you'll find it. Submit it's all anonymous. Okay, quick rundown
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  Speaker 1: lads was seeing someone for five months, still hadn't asked
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  Speaker 1: me to be his girlfriend, even though he kept telling me.
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  Speaker 1: Soon in quotations, came to the fifth month, felt like
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  Speaker 1: things were a little off, hadn't slept together for over
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  Speaker 1: a week, like odd, how to chat? Asked if everything
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  Speaker 1: is okay? He responded with yes. I wanted this, so yes,
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  Speaker 1: I want this one hundred percent. I was gonna ask
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: you to be my girlfriend in Bali in two weeks. Also,
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  Speaker 1: when we get back, would you move into my place? Shit?
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  Speaker 1: Days later, I seen Hinge on his phone, asked him
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  Speaker 1: the next day, full denied it, said that's not what
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  Speaker 1: you saw, and I don't have time to talk to people.
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  Speaker 1: I said, okay, sorry, I'm just in my head, you know,
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  Speaker 1: anxiety and stuff. Castle the fuck moved on from that
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  Speaker 1: two days later, had a huge gut feeling, so I
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  Speaker 1: downloaded Hinge, made a fake profile, found him straight away,
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  Speaker 1: matched and sent a message. He replied a couple of
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  Speaker 1: hours later. So seeing him the next day, pulled him,
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: was like, hey, you know you said you're not on
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  Speaker 1: the apps. Well you are because you matched with one
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  Speaker 1: of my girlfriends. He said, oh really, then said, please
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  Speaker 1: look at my phone. I've got nothing on here. I said,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need you to justify anything, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to see your phone. He went on, and I
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  Speaker 1: I said, I have evidence of your chat. He then said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I was feeling a bit on edge.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you're always upset with me and my
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  Speaker 1: ex was like that, but she would hurt and throw
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  Speaker 1: things at me. I said, I'd like to think I'm
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  Speaker 1: nothing like your ex. He said absolutely not. I said, yeah, well,
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: well that's your issue and me getting annoyed. We're all
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  Speaker 1: valid reasons. I said, how am I supposed to trust
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  Speaker 1: you again? He goes, the balls in your court, you
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  Speaker 1: can decide lol. I said, I'm getting my stuff and going.
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  Speaker 1: He goes, I really hope this isn't the last time
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  Speaker 1: I see you. Well, what that's crazy?
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Well, what's her dilemma. Is there more there's basically like,
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  Speaker 2: that's what's happened to her, that's what's happened. And I
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  Speaker 2: sent you a photo of what he exit her.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, I'm here. This is him
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: to her. Yeah, I'm here. If you need to talk.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: I just thought I would give you some space. Apologies again,
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: I never meant to upset you.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Okay, so leave it on that, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: We want to give our advice first.
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Basically, normally in dilemmas, it's maybe like what do
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: I do, and it's hard to decipher what to do.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: It's very clear what to do here. But I thought
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: it was a great indication of how to catch someone
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: out when they're not treating you very well.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: I like the way she called him yeah, yeah, Well
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: she had a good feeling and it worked.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, trust your gut, and she used her
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: girlypop investigative skills, which every girl has. But I also
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: hated the fucking the fact that we also found out
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: how much he was guest lighting her, like that, just the.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: What you saw and then like you made me feel
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: like my ex bringing up an x yeah, so yeah,
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: comparing her to your ex so tracked crazy.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: So this dilemma is obviously very very clear what to do.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: But I think it was like a good one to
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: hear because you also need to like catch yourself sometimes
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: out when you've got like a you're in a bad situation,
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: and like put him in his place. Yeah, so we
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: have a text message.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: What she said. Read it? Yeah, what she sent him
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: is long, but I think she had a good response.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Okay, I won't say his name, no, but his name
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: is the classic name of a guy who would do.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: This facts bro. So after that message he sent her, yeah,
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: she said, honestly insert name. I really don't know what
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: to say to you. Apart from the fact you told
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: me to trust you, and so I did. I feel
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: this has been absolute poor effort and respect on your behalf.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: I thought, out of all people, you weren't like that
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: because of what happened to you, But I guess that
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: doesn't matter. If you've been cheated slash lied to in
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: the past. You say you hate how people go behind
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: each other's backs, cheat, lie, whatever, and you are literally
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: the exact same person trying to hide it from me.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: Maybe you can finally realize why people do it as
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: you couldn't seem to be honest and tried to hide
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: it from me. I really thought you were something special
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: and you made me so happy. Believe it or not.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: If you never meant to upset me in quotes, you
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: would have never done it. Actions speak louder than words
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: in certain name. Again, I wish you nothing but the
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: best and hope you find what you are really looking for. Oh,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: I don't wish him the best. I can't like her response. Bro, sure, yeah,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: puts him in his place, but still nice. Yeah, No,
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: that's a good response because he's really questioning like who
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: he is as a person. Let's wait, let's shadow the
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: male ego. Yeah, fucking know.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: I thought it was a great dilemma just to like
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: on these podcasts, we live in our own little bubble
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: of like nice people, yes, and we sometimes struggle to
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: a This is like a good indication of the dating
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: world out there, and like some people.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Don't treat you as humans.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: No, And it's good to catch people out like this
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: and put him in their place.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: I think I always find it funny as well, like
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: he was obviously very scanned to get cheated on it.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Sounds like he's been cheated on in the past, poor guy,
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: fuck it. But and so he talks about that a
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: lot is in like you know, she's probably says like
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: trust is a huge thing for me, Like yeah, like
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: I have trusted serves and stuff. So I wonder like
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: when he says those things if he genuinely believes it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: And then when he's on the apps, like he doesn't
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: feel a thing about it, Like is he just like
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: fucked in the head or do you reckon? He like
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: really knows what he's doing, Like is he is he
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: manipulating you with the whole I've been cheated on, I
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: need trust in my relationship type thing, and then just
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: goes and does it.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Like what do you think guys? Well, most guys, do
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: you reckon? They know what girls want to hear and
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: say it they do obviously, well yeah, some do, and
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: then they don't act on it, like actions do speak
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: later than words. But like, do you reckon? Like do
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: you know how all these people, all these guys don't
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: take girls on dates, don't open the door from them,
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: do you reckon? They know all these things, but they constantly
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: choose just not to dorm and like he's consciously chose
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: to tell her what she wants to hear, obviously, and
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: in the background he's not doing it. I don't think
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: that's what dudes do. That is what must be what
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: they do.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I mean it has to be because anyone who knows
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: how to talk is smart enough to know that what
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: they're doing is wrong. Yeah, Like you can't genuinely like
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: they must be. Yeah, they must just be fucking super
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: narcissistic and super selfish. I think they are super selfish.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: It comes down to like being mature. Yeah, and like
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: some never grow out of it.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Man, but some people don't like realize the impact of
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: their actions on other people's lives and emotions. Like this
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: chick's obviously starting to fall heead of a heel. So
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: this guy, oh yeah, and he's.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Just like, oh yeah, I doesn't know, chick, I get
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: to have sex with Itah. My sister watches a show,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: proper reality TV show, like these guys fucking are real
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: human beings. Yeah, off camera they are like this really,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: it's called vander Pump Rules. Oh my god, it's the
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: hardest thing to watch in this fucking whole planet. Bro,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: you just forget people like that. E. I don't even
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: want to begin to explain to you what it's like,
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: but I just want everyone out there, if you know
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: what Vonderpunt Rules is, or if you if you have
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: time and feel like watching Vonda Punt Rules, just go
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: watch an episode. You're not gonna believe what you see. Really,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I reckon you. Just go fuck it watch, just sit
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: through an episode, and you're gonna be like, holy fuck,
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: I can't believe these people exist. Yeah. Well, that's the
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: same thing with this guy. I can't believe people like
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: that exist.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Ah.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: God, I feel terrible for this girl. I think she
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: did a really good thing. Like she doesn't need our help. No, No,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: she's be ture enough to leave straight away. Didn't let
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: him gas lighter. I think this gave him the benefit
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: of the doubt. This is a good dilemma to highlight
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: how to act in this situation.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because this situation would happen more than yeah, more
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: than a handful of times in the world. It'd be reliable,
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: So be like our dilemma, sender. Yeah, yeah, just fucking
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: shatter is eager make him believe he is what he
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: doesn't want to be.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: All right, Jake often on the potty. We got to
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: think about topics and ideas for the pod that are relatable. Yes,
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: And sometimes I scratch my head. I'm like, funck, what
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: do these people want to hear? What is relatable?
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: And I was thinking to myself the other day, I
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: was just like, I'm always tired, an't I was.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Thinking about ideas. I'm like, I'm always tired. In the
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: after afternoon, I'm like, what's I.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Was thinking, like, what's relatable?
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: What do people want to hear? I'm like, but why
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: are we always so tired?
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay?
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: And everyone always tells you like, oh, you're doing your
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: phone too much, Like all we parents are.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Like that can't be it, that can't be. That can't
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: be the only thing that makes you. Yeah, like you're
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: going your phone too much.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: So I've got why are we so tired? And it's
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: a very new study and it made a lot of
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: sense to me. So this is in reference to the
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: Paris Brain Institute Johnny Harris video. If you want more details,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: I like that Paris Brain Institute sounds smart. Yeah yeah yeah,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: start off starts some fact. But I actually really like
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: these conversations because they're very smart and boring videos. But
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: they're dumb down, like we dumb them down to a
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: conversation yeah, anyone else would have with their friends. So
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: I think the information is way easy to digest coming
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: from us, and.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: Like you're never going to fucking go look up at
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: ted talk or something and then talk about it.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: So I feel like the older we get, the afternoon slumps,
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: get like way more tired and tired, and they start
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: to hit.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: Us way harder.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: So it actually starts with the things we do throughout
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: the day, which makes a lot of sense. And on
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: this potty we love to reference like primitive state and
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: back in the caveman times, so let's start there. So
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: everything from the world has changed so much from caveman
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: times until now, but you know it stayed the same
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: our brain, Yeah, boy, have stayed relatively the exact same
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: from caveman to now. Yeah, but think about how much
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: the world's changed. So let's explo playing what I mean
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: a little bit. So inside the brain, the prefrontal cortex
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: is the part of the brain used for decision making.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: So a caveman, for example, his day would consist of
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: waking up deciding where he not wants to have some berries,
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: awesome meat, and then he would go pick his axe
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: or his spear and go hunt. And that would be
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: about the decision making as much as he does. Oh shit, okay, yeah,
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: that's all he got, fair good. He wouldn't have many
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: decisions to make at all.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, that makes sense. Yeah, like fuck all.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: Okay, And so his prefrontal cortex isn't pinging at all.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: This is he's very relaxed.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: He's been nice.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, his brain's just chilling.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Does anxiety exist, Yeah, So let's.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: Transport to like the nineteen hundreds, right, yeah, there's let's
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: go into a day of like a normal factory worker.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: He'd wake up, he choose between bread and fruit. He'd
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: go to work and work at a factory, do a
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: monotonous task, and same old thing like painting, the same thing.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: Wouldn't be making too many decisions. He'd come home and
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: he wouldn't take work back to his family, make a
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: couple of decisions. His prefrontal cortex would be pinging here
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: and there. But at the end of the day, he's
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: pretty fine. Yeah, a little bit tire, a little bit stressed,
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: but yeah, eagle labor easy to recover, right, yep. But
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: Let's take that cave man's brain, which is still our brain,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: and put him in twenty twenty four. Right, So our day,
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: we wake up, go on our phone, check you liked
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: our thing? Snapchat? See who's texted me back. Then we'll
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: go buy something one line, and then we'll go pick food.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Which food we want to get? We want pories? Do
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: we want cereal? Do we want fucking avocado toast? Do
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: we want post egg?
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: Checking bank account?
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Literally, there's so many decisions to be made, So by
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: nine o'clock in the morning, we've already made like one
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: hundred decisions, which are complex, important decisions.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: So our prefrontal cortex is going absolutely wild. And they
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: estimate we make up to thirty five thousand decisions a day,
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: and two thousand of them decisions are about food alone.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: What Yeah, which is crazy? I love food, Yeah exactly,
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: There's so many choices. Now, whoa food alone?
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: But like, why are we so tired?
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: That's what we all want to know, And like we're
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: not obviously getting chased by bears or anything like these
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: cave men are, But it's a different type of tiredness.
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: It's like a mental fatigue. So here's the answer. It's
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: a complex problem, but a very simple solution that I
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: know you're gonna love.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: Ah.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: So, when we make decisions, there's these electrical signals, like
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: a pulse, traveling along these wires called neurons in our brain.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: It's like a little spiderweb going on in there. There's
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: like one hundred billion of them making a giant network.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: But in order to send these chemicals to each other,
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: you need a very important chemical called glutamate. It's a
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: neurotransmitter that helps everyone talk to each other. But after
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: you make these decisions, do you know what happens to
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: the glutamate? It no, the opposite. Actually, the glutamate stays
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: around and clogs all these systems, making decision making getting
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: a lot harder and makes you feel this time fatigue
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: in your brain. Oh so you obviously you feel tired.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: So how do you beat this afternoon slump?
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: Nap?
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I love it, you've answered it and nap. And I've
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: always been against naps just because you're told. Everyone's told
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: like grind, grind, grind, sleeps for the sleep when you're dad.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, la la la la lah.
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: But there's actually a lot of science behind afternoon siestas.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: I'll tell you what, mate, Yes the guy, Yeah, yes,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: the guy.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: So anyone out there who can have an afternoon nap,
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: This resets the glutenan stores and they go back and
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: you can come up fresher. But a lot of people
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: can't nap.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: No. True.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: So the simple solution is to limit your decision making
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: throughout the day. Oh okay, So it's as simple as
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: this is. A lot of successful people will actually do it.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Meal prep throughout the week, yep. Don't have to have
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: any decisions about food, no yeah, oh yeah, true, there's
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: already decisions gone, two thousand gone. Pick your outfits on
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: the Sunday. And that's why you see all like the
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Jeff Bezos, everyone wears the same clothes.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: You know what's crazy is I've been thinking, like, hey,
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: we're lucky, and we've been getting sent lots of stuff. Yeah,
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: and so I chucked out lots of stuff and then
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I've refilled my wardrobe via getting sent stuff, which is
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: like fucking awesome. I love it. But honestly, with so
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: many options, I have so many options, and I want
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: to I just want to buy like five of the
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: same T shirt, five of the same jumpers, five of
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: the same pants and wear the same thing every day.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: It sounds like it must be nice, but that's so relatable.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: Everyone has so many outfixed the pick and we're wasting
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: out energy on all these like on mundane things. Yeah,
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: which made so much sense to me. So finally, obviously,
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: obviously you need really good sleep. And there's a couple
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: of points they thought were very interesting. Most people know,
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: but I'll say them anyway. So you need good sleep
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: obviously to clear all the toxins to build up throughout
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: the day, and most people before they go to bed
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: jump on Netflix, where they make more decisions. I can
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: never pick a TV show, but then all so we
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: mistake the TV screen as sun, which blocks our melatonin,
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: which is responsible from shifting our brains from wakefulness to sleep.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Yep. So it's very good to read, but overall, I.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: Feel like most people always say, like, you go on
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: your phone too much, blah blah blah blah, But realistically
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's a much bigger problem with this
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: evolutional mismatch from our brain not developing and everything around
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: us developing so much that we can't keep up and
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: it causes this fatigue. And for me, I thought that
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: was really relatable because I've shifted my day to day
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: life from being outside and maintaining gardens. They're spending a
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: lot of time in front of a computer and making
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: it a lot of decisions with my mind. I feel
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: like everyone's job is getting paid to make decisions, and
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: they take all those decisions home with them and it's
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: hard to turn off.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Fuck bro, good point. When as you were saying that,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: I was thinking, like, you know what, like when we're
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: sitting there editing, or if someone's at work and they
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: send a lot of emails or they just do in
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: their job and stuff like like if you if you
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: priced building jobs, or if you fucking most secretariat at
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: law firm, like those jobs are mental. Now, Yeah, like
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: thinking like in our instance, like I can straight away
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: think of all the decisions I'm making while editing. Yeah,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: that won't be good in this that way, I'm going
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: to take that. I need to rearrange this.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: And while we're doing that relatable our phones buzzing and
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: people wanting us to make decisions about other things going on.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, sign this contract? Do you want to do this
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: video for this company? Which is whatever? Is lucky but
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: you know, and then yeah, you think about.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: Like yo, and I'm way more like it sounds like
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe it sounds like we're preaching to
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: the choir, but like I'm way more tired doing this
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: with a mental strain than being like a gardener.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: You know what's wild is I've I agree, but I've
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: never wanted to voice it. Yeah, neither I feel I
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: feel because I feel like I shouldn't. I feel like
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't be like like I for some reason, I'm
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: also way more tired doing what we're doing when I
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: was relatable before.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: The people in corporate job is making all these decisions.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: They're in an office all day and then they come
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: home to tradey husband and he's like, fuck them, Like
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: what pros some buttons all dough? Yes, but literally it
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: is it's this new mental fatigue, which I think is
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: a lot more fatiguing than the physical demands that jobs
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: used to be. And as soon as they come home
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: they can turn off. They don't have to think about
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: fucking the wood they're going to cut tomorrow.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Do that? Fuck bro, Okay, this is good. This is
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: something to think about. Yeah, something about So if you're
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: it's just more steps that you can take. So it's like,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: if you're constantly tired, you know, instead of going to
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: a doctor, you can start to think about, like, oh, well,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: how many decision decisions am I making in a day?
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: Like I'm making a fuck time. If you're one of
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: those people that likes to be of different meal every
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: single meal, that sucks because that's a lot of decisions.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: You might be making four thousand decisions on food.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: And it's sort of like it made me think, like
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: cutting out all the decisions I have in my life
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: which aren't important, like I easily do food, would I
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: address like the things I just scroll on TikTok and
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: make decisions even when I go on Safari or something,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: I'm looking for things and making decisions which websites the best,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: like things like that. It's so simple. And the study
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: actually went into the effects of caffeine how that impacts
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: your tiredness, but I left that out because.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: Well, I like caffeine a lot, like I like coffee
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: a lot. One thing I've learned about caffeine is that
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: it doesn't actually make you. It doesn't give you energy,
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: it blocks tiredness. Yeah, that's exactly what the study said. Shit, yeah,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: you know what's funny is I mean I could drink
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: a coffee before bed and for asleep. I'm pretty certain
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I have some sort of ADHD.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: And he also goes into like you fall asleep being
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: not really sleeping.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Yes, because that's why, Like I've always thought like I
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: could have caffeine up until whenever I want, But I
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: don't have any caffeine until like at two pm. I'll
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: drink a coffee. No more caffeine after that, because I
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: do know that. Yeah, I can fall asleep, but is
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: my brain really sleeping? Yeah, your body's not actually resetting.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: That's so interesting, man.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: I thought it was very just decisions and relatable.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: It was a very new study.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's new information and it also it's I
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: think that it's relatable for us. Like people think I
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: can't complain about my job because that's fucking I'm in
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: an office all day.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I'm sitting down all day. I do
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: a chill job. But it's this new mental fatigue that
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: people don't even know that exists. Yeah, yeah, that interesting. Interesting.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I want to know how they figure out what a
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: fucking glued to mean? Is what do you do to
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: figure it out out?
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: But interesting, that's one of our this is a new
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: thing we come to with.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I think we've done I think we've done stuff like
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: this before where we call it relatables university. Yeah, we've
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: done something before, were like, let's still a relatable university segment.
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: Who was an under relatible university?
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: Thirty thousand dollars give it to us the intro textbook. Yeah,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: how to piss man off? Yeah, one hundred and nine
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: things to say, just shatter the male ego.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: This is how we end the university.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: This is how we ended the podcast last episode, how
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: we're going to end it every episode. This one is quote,
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: you're like the male Amy Schumer. I don't know what
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: that is. I mean, I don't mind if we don't know.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: He says a little blur up here. I'm not sure
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: what exactly Amy Schumer did to elicit such omnipresent rage,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: but the male psyche he is to be allergic to
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: the very mention of her. I found this one to
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: be nearly successful one hundred percent of the time. When
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: he asks you why you said this, say, oh, it's
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: just like, I don't know. Something about your energy reminds
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: me of her. Okay, be helpful if we knew who
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: she was. Yeah, I mean I know who she is
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: and I am not gonna lie. Pisses me off, So
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: this would be a good one on me, like the
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: male Amy Schumer be like, because when I think of
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: Amy Schumer, like she's probably super talented, right, but I'm
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: always like, why the fuck is she famous? This one
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: goes over my head. Yeah, maybe you'll get the next one.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: Everybody, thank you for listening. You know what to do?
• 34:38
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• 34:41
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• 34:42
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• 34:44
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• 34:46
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• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Lovely bye.