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Discipline Is Everything: Wake Up, Focus, and Take Action · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I've never met a person who is not successful that
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  Speaker 1: didn't have a great amount of self discipline within their life.
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  Speaker 1: Self discipline and being able to perform and being able
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  Speaker 1: to keep your life on schedule and being able to
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  Speaker 1: keep commitments and promises and meet deadlines is essential to success.
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  Speaker 1: None of us, none of us can afford to have
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  Speaker 1: a life that is controlled by someone else or a
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  Speaker 1: life that is basically controlled by our emotions. I learned
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  Speaker 1: many years ago that there are two kinds of people.
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  Speaker 1: There's the type of person who says, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: wait too I feel like it before I do it,
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  Speaker 1: and then there's a person who says, I've got to
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  Speaker 1: do it so that I feel like it. One will
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  Speaker 1: never get anything done because they're still waiting to feel
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  Speaker 1: the moment to move, and the other person says, no,
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  Speaker 1: I need to move, and then I will begin to
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  Speaker 1: feel the movement. Sonya, self discipline is essential in your
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  Speaker 1: life and in my life if we're going to get
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  Speaker 1: things done. So I have a challenge for everyone I
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  Speaker 1: view this weekend. The challenge is simple. As you go
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  Speaker 1: through your weekend, and sometimes it's kind of a hopefully
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  Speaker 1: an easier time of your week, ask yourself. Am I
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  Speaker 1: practicing self disper in my life? Am I doing the
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  Speaker 1: things that I should do because I need to do them?
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  Speaker 1: Or am I kind of waiting to feel the moment?
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  Speaker 1: Do like our friends Nike.
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  Speaker 2: Saying, just do it, because what you're doing is you're
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  Speaker 2: trying to optimize right now to stop the discomfort. But
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  Speaker 2: what you're going to pay for that in is shame
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  Speaker 2: and guilt and regret long term. So what you need
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  Speaker 2: to be able to do is bundle all of that
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  Speaker 2: up that is as yet unfelt but will last for way, way,
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  Speaker 2: way longer. You know, the future is much longer than now.
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  Speaker 2: The future is going to extend out up until the
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  Speaker 2: day that you die, and then now is just for now,
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  Speaker 2: And even one hundred and thirty hours is just one
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  Speaker 2: hundred and thirty hours. And you get to look back,
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  Speaker 2: and you look back with right and glory. What'd you
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  Speaker 2: look back at?
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  Speaker 3: Sham and Ghil, I suggest to you that if you
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  Speaker 3: are facing a challenge, don't stop, stay busy, work your plan,
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  Speaker 3: continue to do those things that you know that work
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  Speaker 3: for you. After you have evaluated yourself in the situation,
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  Speaker 3: continue to move Stay busy, stay busy, stay busy, expect
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  Speaker 3: things to get better for you because they are.
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  Speaker 2: Say, life is cyclic.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever experience you're having right now, it.
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  Speaker 3: Has not come to stay. It has come to pass,
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  Speaker 3: not to stay, just to pass. It's just going through.
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  Speaker 3: The biggest challenge is is to know what's happening, this
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  Speaker 3: is a part of this thing we call life, This
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  Speaker 3: too shall pass, and maintaining perspectives, putting it in perspective.
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  Speaker 5: And what I didn't understand by being determined to chase something,
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  Speaker 5: by being committed to it.
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  Speaker 6: And what commitment is.
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  Speaker 5: Commitment is staying true to what you said you were
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  Speaker 5: going to do, long of the mood that you have.
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  Speaker 7: Said it in has left you.
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  Speaker 5: See, people think commitment of saying yes, I'll do it
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  Speaker 5: on the days when it felt good.
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  Speaker 7: But I have been committed to.
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  Speaker 5: Everything that I ever started in my life, and I
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  Speaker 5: never stopped and I never quit it. And so by
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  Speaker 5: being committed to everything that I started, I finished it.
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  Speaker 5: It built a certain type of spirit, It built a
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  Speaker 5: certain type of mentality, it built a certain type of
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  Speaker 5: individual And so now I couldn't quit even if I
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  Speaker 5: wanted to.
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  Speaker 6: I couldn't lay in the.
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  Speaker 5: Bed even if I wanted to.
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  Speaker 6: I couldn't stop even if I wanted to.
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  Speaker 5: I had too much swat equity in my life and
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  Speaker 5: everything that I was doing because I understood my existence
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  Speaker 5: wasn't about me. I went from me to wait a
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  Speaker 5: long time ago. I understood the process is going important
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  Speaker 5: in the product. It wasn't about the outcome for me once.
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  Speaker 6: I made it to the NFL or not. That was
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  Speaker 6: inconsequent you in God's playing for my life.
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  Speaker 5: But I was going to fall in love with that
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  Speaker 5: process because I understood by falling in love with that process,
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  Speaker 5: it was going to turn.
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  Speaker 7: Me into a machine.
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  Speaker 4: If you don't have a lofty ambition, then you suffer miserably.
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  Speaker 4: And the reason of that is life is really complex, short, finite,
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  Speaker 4: full of suffering, and beyond you, the suffering is meaningful.
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  Speaker 4: Let's just start the kind of meaning you want. So
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  Speaker 4: how do you get out of that? You note the
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  Speaker 4: baseline of suffering, and then you say to yourself, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: I need to do something that justifies that.
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  Speaker 6: At some point in life, we gotta wake up and
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  Speaker 6: we gotta say no more. We got to wake up
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  Speaker 6: and we gotta say, man, this is it. We gotta
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  Speaker 6: wake up and say I'm gonna make a change of difference.
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  Speaker 6: We can't just be online watching things saying amen, you
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  Speaker 6: know all the things and go back to the same things, y'all.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't work like that.
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  Speaker 6: Hearing things is great, but you know what, doing things
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  Speaker 6: and taking action, that's what's gonna make change in your life.
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  Speaker 6: You need to start making some decisions. You ain't got
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  Speaker 6: to change everything, but you need to say, you know what,
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  Speaker 6: this is the one thing I'm gonna stop being a
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  Speaker 6: little to. This is the one thing I'm gonna start
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  Speaker 6: being law to.
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  Speaker 7: What permission you need, and I'm here to give you
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  Speaker 7: that permission. I'm here to tell you to give yourself
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  Speaker 7: that permission. I'm here to tell you to take the
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  Speaker 7: pen back and start rewriting that story.
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  Speaker 1: So what.
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  Speaker 7: If you were beaten, So what if you were mentally
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  Speaker 7: and emotionally abused. Those are all superpowers out because you
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  Speaker 7: are the type of person that went through that and
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  Speaker 7: came out the other side a stronger person. You have
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  Speaker 7: more resiliency, You are more resourceful than people that have
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  Speaker 7: not gone and suffered through adversity and abuse.
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  Speaker 2: That's the reality.
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  Speaker 7: We are more resilient, we are more emotionally strong, mentally tough,
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  Speaker 7: and we can deal with so much, but we have
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  Speaker 7: to first let go of the mental crippling crutch that
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  Speaker 7: we carried, which is this victim mindhood.
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  Speaker 5: Stop being driven by rewards, stop being driven by outcomes,
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  Speaker 5: stop being driven by If I get this, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 5: do this.
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  Speaker 4: Just work.
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  Speaker 5: And if you don't get what you thought you were
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  Speaker 5: gonna get, show up and still.
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  Speaker 6: Go to work.
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  Speaker 8: Self confidence is really someone who keeps promises of themselves,
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  Speaker 8: because self confidence is really like your reputation with yourself.
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  Speaker 8: If you've got a great reputation with yourself and you
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  Speaker 8: know you can trust you, you're not still concerned about
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  Speaker 8: your reputation what other people think about.
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  Speaker 9: Now you got to be able to find all these
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  Speaker 9: different things in your mind. Oh, I could put discipline
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  Speaker 9: right there, I could put consistency right there. I can
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  Speaker 9: put all these things right there in that spot. If
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  Speaker 9: your life is not organized and your life being everything around.
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  Speaker 10: You, when you get better, everything will get better for you.
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  Speaker 10: And that's where I picked up that phrase for things
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  Speaker 10: to change, you've got to change. You don't have to
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  Speaker 10: change the marketplace. You don't have to change the marketing plan.
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  Speaker 10: You don't have to change the economy You don't have
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  Speaker 10: to change countries, You don't have to change circumstances out there.
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  Speaker 10: All you've got to do is look within and see
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  Speaker 10: if you can change yourself for the better. And as
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  Speaker 10: you change, things will start to change for you.
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  Speaker 9: Almost nothing in life is constant. Conditions and circumstances are
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  Speaker 9: perpetually influx, like the winds and the tide. Why my
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  Speaker 9: mind has never fixed, attack and adjust forever searching for
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  Speaker 9: my new one. Age, Health and the responsibilities we carry
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  Speaker 9: can be limiting. That doesn't mean we should give into
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  Speaker 9: those limitations or use them as excuses to let ourselves
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  Speaker 9: or our dreams go. But we can acknowledge them as
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  Speaker 9: long as we are committed to finding out what we
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  Speaker 9: can still do given those limits, whether they be temporary
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  Speaker 9: or indefinite, and maximizing that. Every day, thousands of people
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  Speaker 9: wake up to a life defined by newfound limitations that
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  Speaker 9: are difficult to accept. Maybe they've been diagnosed with a
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  Speaker 9: terminal disease or suffered a spinal injury.
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  Speaker 7: Could be they lost a.
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  Speaker 9: Limb or are suffering from PTS. More often, the shifting
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  Speaker 9: circumstances are not nearly so dire. Sometimes it's good news
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  Speaker 9: that changes the equation. Maybe you are a new parent
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  Speaker 9: or landed a lucrative gig that demands ten to twelve
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  Speaker 9: hour workdays. Could be you recently got married, which means
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  Speaker 9: you have to consider more than just your own goals.
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  Speaker 9: No matter the variables, you're new one is out there
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  Speaker 9: waiting for you to find it. The thing is, most
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  Speaker 9: people don't want to because whenever you're trying to find
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  Speaker 9: new anything, it means you're not who you used to be,
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  Speaker 9: and that can be depressing enough to give up the search.
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  Speaker 9: Some people use their new circumstances to dial down their
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  Speaker 9: effort level instead of adjusting their approach and still giving
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  Speaker 9: it their all to achieve their goals. You've got to
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  Speaker 9: work with.
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  Speaker 10: What you have.
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  Speaker 9: I couldn't run a ruck, but that didn't mean I
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  Speaker 9: was out of the fight. No matter what you are
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  Speaker 9: dealing with, your goals should be to maximize the resources
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  Speaker 9: and capabilities you do have. If you've suffered a freak
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  Speaker 9: injury or received diagnosis that changes everything, what does your
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  Speaker 9: new maximum effort level look like? A lot of people
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  Speaker 9: buy their time and wait to see what happens next,
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  Speaker 9: but a year or two later they find they are
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  Speaker 9: still waiting with every unfortunate turn in life, no matter
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  Speaker 9: how heavy the weight, you have to be committed to
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  Speaker 9: pushing back against that pressure with effort. No matter your age, abilities, disabilities,
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  Speaker 9: or responsibilities, we must all stay committed to finding our
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  Speaker 9: new benchmarks, because not only does that keep your mind
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  Speaker 9: engaged and your demons at bay, you actually might achieve
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  Speaker 9: things the old you never could have conceived.
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  Speaker 10: There are two phrases I'd like you to ponder for
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  Speaker 10: a moment. The first is that life and business are
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  Speaker 10: like the changing seasons. That's one of the best ways
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  Speaker 10: to illustrate life. It's like the seasons, the change. Here's
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  Speaker 10: the second phrase. You cannot change the seasons, but you
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  Speaker 10: can change yourself. Now, with those two key phrases in mind,
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  Speaker 10: let's turn to what I consider to be the four
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  Speaker 10: major lessons in life to learn. The first lesson is this,
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  Speaker 10: learn how to handle the winters. They come regularly right
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  Speaker 10: after autumn. Some are long, some are short, some are difficult,
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  Speaker 10: some are easy. But they always come right after autumn.
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  Speaker 10: That is never going to change. There are all kinds
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  Speaker 10: of winters. The winter when you can't figure it out,
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  Speaker 10: the winter when everything seems to go haywire. One writer
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  Speaker 10: called it the winter of discontent. There are economic winters,
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  Speaker 10: social winters, personal winters. When your heart is smashed into
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  Speaker 10: a thousand pieces, wintertime brings disappointment, and disappointment is common
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  Speaker 10: to all of us. So learn how to handle the winters.
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  Speaker 10: You must learn how to handle the nights. They come
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  Speaker 10: right after days. You must learn how to handle difficulty.
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  Speaker 10: It always comes after opportunity. You must learn to handle recessions.
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  Speaker 10: They come right after expansions. That isn't going to change.
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  Speaker 10: The big question is what do you do about winters.
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  Speaker 10: You can't get rid of January simply by tearing it
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  Speaker 10: off the calendar. But here is what you can do.
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  Speaker 10: You can get stronger, you can get wiser, and you
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  Speaker 10: can get better. Make a note of that trio of words, stronger, wiser, better.
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  Speaker 10: The winters won't change, but you can. Before I understood this,
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  Speaker 10: I used to wish it were summer when it was winter.
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  Speaker 10: When things were difficult, I used to wish they were easy.
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  Speaker 10: I didn't know any better. Then mister chaff gave me
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  Speaker 10: the answer from a part of his very unique philosophy
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  Speaker 10: when he said, don't wish it were easier, wish you
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  Speaker 10: were better. Don't wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills.
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  Speaker 10: Don't wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom. Here
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  Speaker 10: is the second major lesson in life. Learn how to
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  Speaker 10: take advantage of the spring. Spring is opportunity, and spring
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  Speaker 10: always follows winter. What a great place for spring right
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  Speaker 10: after winter. If you were going to put it somewhere,
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  Speaker 10: that would be the place to put it. God is
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  Speaker 10: a genius. Days follow nights, Opportunity follows difficulty, expansion follows recession,
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  Speaker 10: and this all happens with regularity. You can count on it. However,
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  Speaker 10: the mere arrival of spring is no sign that things
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  Speaker 10: are going to look good in the fall. You must
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  Speaker 10: do something with the spring. In fact, everyone has to
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  Speaker 10: get good at one of two things, planting in the
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  Speaker 10: spring or begging in the fall. So take advantage of
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  Speaker 10: the day, take advantage of the opportunity, and read every
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  Speaker 10: book you can get your hands on to learn how
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  Speaker 10: to take advantage of the spring. Get busy quickly on
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  Speaker 10: your springs, your opportunities. There are just a handful of
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  Speaker 10: springs that have been handed to each of us. Life
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  Speaker 10: is brief, even at its longest. Whatever you are going
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  Speaker 10: to do with your life. Get at it. Don't just
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  Speaker 10: let the seasons pass by. The third major lesson in
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  Speaker 10: life is this, learn how to nourish and protect your
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  Speaker 10: crops all summer. Sure enough, as soon as you've planted,
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  Speaker 10: the busy bugs and noxious weeds are out to take
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  Speaker 10: things over. And here's the next bit of truth. They
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  Speaker 10: will take it unless you prevent it. There are two
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  Speaker 10: key phrases to consider with the third major lesson. The
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  Speaker 10: first is all good will be attacked. Don't press me
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  Speaker 10: for a reason. I was not in on some of
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  Speaker 10: the early decisions, so I don't know why. I just
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  Speaker 10: know that it's true. Let reality be your best beginning.
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  Speaker 10: Every garden will be invaded. The second phrase is all
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  Speaker 10: values must be defended. Social values, political values, friendship values,
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  Speaker 10: business values. All must be defended. Every garden must be
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  Speaker 10: tended all summer. If you don't develop this skill, you'll
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  Speaker 10: never wind up with anything of value. The fourth major
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  Speaker 10: lesson in life is this, learn how to reap in
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  Speaker 10: the fall without complaint. Take full responsibility for what happens
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  Speaker 10: to you. One of the highest forms of human maturity
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  Speaker 10: is accepting full responsibility. Learn how to reap in the
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  Speaker 10: fall without apology. If you have done well and without complaint.
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  Speaker 10: If you have not, that's being mature. I'm not saying
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  Speaker 10: it's easy. I'm saying it's the best way to be.
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  Speaker 10: The seasons don't work for you or against you. They
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  Speaker 10: just are what they are. They are guaranteed to come
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  Speaker 10: every year, bringing both the positive and the negative. So
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  Speaker 10: it's up to you to remember the four major lessons
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  Speaker 10: in life, prepare for them, and make the most of
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  Speaker 10: everything they offer.