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Fangirling with Remi Bader · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally, Lala. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: gorge it's La La Kent. Welcome back to Untraditionally Lala.
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  Speaker 1: I am so excited. I've been wanting you on the
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  Speaker 1: podcast for so long. I have Remy Bader Hello, Hello, Hello.
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  Speaker 2: We did this. We did this a long time ago,
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  Speaker 2: but it was we didn't meet. We didn't know.
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  Speaker 3: It was like, no, and have we met in person?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it was years ago, Babe.
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  Speaker 4: I'm wondering if we even did. You know when you
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  Speaker 4: like think you do, like when you think you have
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  Speaker 4: they met you in New York. I don't know. Now
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  Speaker 4: I'm like thinking maybe not, but I feel like I
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  Speaker 4: know you. I don't know, maybe we did.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I know.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I've known you for a long time.
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  Speaker 1: See, but that's what happens because we follow each other
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  Speaker 1: on social media and I feel like I know everything
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  Speaker 1: about your life. But I want to give you an
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  Speaker 1: epic intro. Okay, she is a content creator. She's a model,
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  Speaker 1: entrepreneur and advocate known for sparking a cultural shift towards
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  Speaker 1: greater inclusivity and fashion. You first rose to prominence with
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  Speaker 1: your viral like realistic halls. Yes, that's when I first
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  Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Obsessed with this girl.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: How you would show like these itty bitty clothes and
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  Speaker 3: then you'd go to like H and.
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  Speaker 2: M yeah or Zara.
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  Speaker 4: I would try on the clothes that didn't fit me
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  Speaker 4: and kind of call out in a humorous way that
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  Speaker 4: the brands are not inclusive, which ended up working in
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  Speaker 4: my favor because then I.
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  Speaker 2: Started working with the brands to make them more inclusive,
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  Speaker 2: which I never thought would happen.
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  Speaker 3: It's so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But also there were looks that you would put on,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like you would also inspire all different
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  Speaker 1: body types, like this could work for you, right.
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  Speaker 4: It wasn't all bad, Like I would show the bad
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  Speaker 4: and the good, but I just felt like everyone was
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  Speaker 4: always only showing the good, and I'm like, there's clearly
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  Speaker 4: things that don't fit us a lot of the time.
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  Speaker 2: Why is no one putting that online? I do feel
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  Speaker 2: like at.
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  Speaker 4: That time, I was kind of the person who brought that,
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  Speaker 4: I guess onto TikTok because I didn't do I really
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  Speaker 4: didn't follow influencers or like much YouTube in Instagram ever,
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  Speaker 4: and then TikTok came to be and then I just
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  Speaker 4: that's where I started doing it, where it kind of
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  Speaker 4: like blew up very quickly. So you started on TikTok
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  Speaker 4: on TikTok during COVID, and.
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  Speaker 3: Did you do you have a YouTube channel?
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  Speaker 2: I don't. I do, and I moved it.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, like I do real so I do TikTok
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  Speaker 4: Instagram and I'm now like Snapchat, which I started more recently.
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  Speaker 4: I always said I wanted to start a YouTube, and like,
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  Speaker 4: I just feel like I'm almost like too late to
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  Speaker 4: the game. I mean, you're never too late, but like
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, I get what you mean. I asked
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  Speaker 4: a few YouTube friends of mine that are like, it's
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  Speaker 4: kind of like, I don't think you ever missed the market.
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  Speaker 4: A lot of people are like, oh, should I start
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  Speaker 4: on TikTok now, Like, I don't know, it's too late.
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  Speaker 2: It's oversaturated, but you never know.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that it's too late.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it's too late.
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  Speaker 4: I just think it's an oversaturated space and you really
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  Speaker 4: need to do something that no one's doing, which is
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  Speaker 4: hard to do.
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  Speaker 2: Like I feel like when I started, it was.
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  Speaker 4: So many Like I like, there just wasn't as many people,
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  Speaker 4: and I start it even what I thought was late
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  Speaker 4: because I didn't go on TikTok or have a TikTok
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  Speaker 4: like when everyone was like dancing on TikTok and home
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  Speaker 4: at in twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 2: It was more towards the end.
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  Speaker 4: I think it was like October twenty twenty, but it
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  Speaker 4: really blew up January twenty twenty one, so it like
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  Speaker 4: was not in the beginning of COVID or anything.
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  Speaker 3: How many followers do you have on TikTok.
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  Speaker 2: TikTok I have like.
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  Speaker 4: Two point two million, and then Instagram I have like
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  Speaker 4: eight hundred something thousand, So like I started a year
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  Speaker 4: later because people were like afraid and still are for
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  Speaker 4: to do reels, you know, because like Instagram's was always
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  Speaker 4: like perfection photos. But yeah, I definitely grew from reels.
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  Speaker 4: It's interesting that I didn't grow. I don't think you
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  Speaker 4: like grow from having a TikTok, like maybe a little bit,
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  Speaker 4: but it's very different followings. Like a lot of people
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  Speaker 4: on TikTok are anti Instagram and literally will not go
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  Speaker 4: over there and seeing the other way around.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm I'm newer to TikTok yeah, and the things
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  Speaker 1: that I post, I just post my kids basically because
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  Speaker 1: I and but also when I post. If I were
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  Speaker 1: to post the bitch video of ocean on Instagram, I
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  Speaker 1: think I'd be mom shamed, whereas TikTok wait.
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  Speaker 4: You didn't post it at all, and there you have
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  Speaker 4: to because I have one. We should test it out
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  Speaker 4: to see because screw people, whatever they say. But you
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  Speaker 4: have to post that as a real It's the best
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  Speaker 4: video on the Internet.
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  Speaker 3: It's really good and I was sitting on it for
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  Speaker 3: so long. You guys, Oh my god, No.
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  Speaker 4: It's it's just the every like it's just so you
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  Speaker 4: can't make that up, like the way she did that.
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  Speaker 4: It's just the funniest thing ever.
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  Speaker 3: And the chances of Mom walking in while you're dropping
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  Speaker 3: the bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Way, yeah, like that's just crazy, not.
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  Speaker 3: Cool, funny.
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  Speaker 1: You are also a mental health advocate using your platform
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  Speaker 1: to share your experiences.
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  Speaker 4: And then you founded fangirl, Yes, which I have one
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  Speaker 4: for you. Shut up, I have one for you. I
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  Speaker 4: brought it.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, okay, so fangirl, you guys.
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  Speaker 1: It is a clip on fan and ring lights you
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  Speaker 1: can have like this Ultimate Beyonce the.
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  Speaker 4: New Brown one that just came out. Wait, it's the
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  Speaker 4: packaging is so cheap, thank you. So so it's a fit.
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  Speaker 4: It's a I started because I'm just like the sweatiest
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  Speaker 4: girl ever. And I was going to all of these
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  Speaker 4: red carpets and these events, and I was like so
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  Speaker 4: embarrassed how much I was sweating.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, whatever, I'm just going to bring
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  Speaker 2: a fan. I don't care.
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  Speaker 4: But I just started kept promoting like these random fans
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  Speaker 4: that I would take around, and I'm like, why am
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  Speaker 4: I not making my own I kind of thought it
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  Speaker 4: would be a joke, but my followers were excited about it.
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  Speaker 4: And then now this was the first summer that I
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  Speaker 4: really was selling.
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  Speaker 2: It, and I sold like ten thousand.
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  Speaker 3: It's so jillious idea.
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  Speaker 2: Now I'm gonna, you know, do some more with it.
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  Speaker 1: These belong in like Target, Yeah, like I well anywhere, No, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think that's that would be the goal.
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  Speaker 4: Like now that I have like sales to prove, like
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  Speaker 4: I want to get it into bigger places.
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  Speaker 2: Right now, you could get it on Amazon and.
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  Speaker 3: Revolve Amaze, Oh you can get it on Revolve.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Revolve. It is just I think one that's just
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  Speaker 2: like exclusive to Revolve.
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  Speaker 4: And then I like dropped different colors for on Amazon,
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  Speaker 4: and then this summer I did like a few that
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  Speaker 4: were just in the Hamptons, like at Surflage and stuff.
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  Speaker 4: So like it's like a fun thing turning into a business.
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  Speaker 4: How old are you, I'm thirty.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so impressed with what you've done by the age
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  Speaker 1: of thirty.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: And you've been through a lot, like obviously on the.
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  Speaker 1: Business side of things, and you, you know, taking a
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  Speaker 1: chance doing something different on TikTok and watching your following
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  Speaker 1: grow branding and those opportunities get larger you doing this.
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  Speaker 1: You also have edited by Remy Yes, that's a collection
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  Speaker 1: a Sam's Club.
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  Speaker 2: A collection at Sam's Club.
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  Speaker 4: It now it's shifted over to edited by Hunter McGrady,
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  Speaker 4: so like I picked someone with them that would kind
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  Speaker 4: of take the next thing over. It goes up to
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  Speaker 4: a six X, which I feel like no one is
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  Speaker 4: doing anymore, not no one, but like barely a lot
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  Speaker 4: of places in the past year or two have dropped
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  Speaker 4: plus sizes.
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  Speaker 2: So this actually did with my father. Wow, he is.
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  Speaker 4: In the DNA industry. We want to do something for
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  Speaker 4: a long time. I think at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't. I think it's better, which I told I
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  Speaker 4: was open about that, Like, I don't think I would
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  Speaker 4: work with family again after that because I feel like
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  Speaker 4: it was affecting our relationship in not a good way
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  Speaker 4: and it was just better to end it there. So
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  Speaker 4: I did two drops with them. It did super well.
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  Speaker 4: But now Hunter's taking over, so it's edited by Hunter
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  Speaker 4: and then there'll be someone else to take the next one,
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  Speaker 4: so it's.
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  Speaker 2: Doing super well. It was on one hundred Sam's Clubs
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  Speaker 2: and now this year it went up to two hundred
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  Speaker 2: Sam's Clubs, So it's very unheard of these days to
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  Speaker 2: have any sort of plus sizes in store. Yeah, if
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  Speaker 2: anyone gets out online, and they're even dropping it online
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  Speaker 2: these days too, just because just because so many people
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  Speaker 2: in the past year or two lost weight, they're taking
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  Speaker 2: away plus sizes completely at all these places, which I
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  Speaker 2: don't think is fair.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that people are dropping the weight since
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  Speaker 3: the g what is it called the GLGLP one.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's what.
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  Speaker 4: Kind of started it, But I don't really get how
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  Speaker 4: that then just turns into like, oh, this gives us
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  Speaker 4: a reason, like there's so many plusized people still out
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  Speaker 4: there so it's like, I still you know, my body
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  Speaker 4: has changed so much since I've fluctuated gained loss weight
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  Speaker 4: many times since I started in twenty twenty online, But
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  Speaker 4: no matter what, from before I was online to now,
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  Speaker 4: I still have the same I still feel very passionate
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  Speaker 4: that everyone should be able to get the same clothes
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  Speaker 4: no matter what size they are, and that's not going
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  Speaker 4: to change.
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  Speaker 1: So it's very hard because you are now making a
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  Speaker 1: living off of people watching you and they want to
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  Speaker 1: know what you like, what you're going through. They're now
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  Speaker 1: invested in you as a person. It's kind of not
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  Speaker 1: kind of it has gone well beyond you just trying
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  Speaker 1: on clothing, yeah and calling out brands. Yeah, you went
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  Speaker 1: through a massive breakup, right, which.
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  Speaker 4: I always remember you reaching out and you were wait,
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  Speaker 4: was it the breakup or.
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  Speaker 3: The I reached out to you about Maybe it was.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we spoke, we were sending voice notes to each other,
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  Speaker 4: But no, I always appreciated that, Yes, my breakup was
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  Speaker 4: like very public because I showed that person in my
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  Speaker 4: life publicly, even though they weren't like in the public eye.
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  Speaker 4: So everyone wants an you know, that is like fels
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  Speaker 4: like they're owdin answer which I understand to a point
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  Speaker 4: of that, but then that led to obviously I opened
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  Speaker 4: up about losing weight and having a surgery, and then
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  Speaker 4: that too, a lot of people felt entitled to knowing
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  Speaker 4: every detail about that, which I think just from getting
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  Speaker 4: so much hate when I got a lot bigger, and
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  Speaker 4: people just seeing how horrible the internet could be, like
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  Speaker 4: the disgusting things people would say about my weight. I
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  Speaker 4: just decided that I wanted to start keeping a lot
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  Speaker 4: of my health journey to myself after that, because I
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  Speaker 4: was like, this isn't fair. You guys, don't I'm not
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  Speaker 4: giving this to you anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Right, It's too sacred for me to give to you,
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  Speaker 1: And they don't. You have to go to bed with
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  Speaker 1: yourself at night. And I think when you start seeing
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  Speaker 1: the same thing over and over again, we start to
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  Speaker 1: believe what people say about us, and before you know it,
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  Speaker 1: you look in the mirror and you're like, who am I?
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  Speaker 1: What do I believe in? What do I want out
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  Speaker 1: of life? Because you start buying into this fiction that
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  Speaker 1: the audience knows you better than you know.
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  Speaker 2: Your hundred percent.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you got a lot of heat when you
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  Speaker 1: would gain weight, but you got.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of heat as well. I lost it when
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  Speaker 3: you lost it.
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  Speaker 4: Because I think that was the first time, well I
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  Speaker 4: think that's what people thought it was the first time
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  Speaker 4: that I wasn't sharing things, But it was really a
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  Speaker 4: ye over a year of me not sharing personal things
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  Speaker 4: and not sharing things.
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  Speaker 2: About my health.
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  Speaker 4: But I do think I have such a close relationship
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  Speaker 4: with a lot of my followers in a way that
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  Speaker 4: I like answer them respond all the time. I do
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  Speaker 4: give a or always did give personal details about my life,
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  Speaker 4: so they felt I owed every moment and thought about
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  Speaker 4: that health decision I made where I needed to for
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  Speaker 4: my mental health keep a lot of that to myself.
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  Speaker 1: Do you feel comfortable sharing when the moment was where
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  Speaker 1: you said I'm going to have surgery?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that was when.
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  Speaker 4: That was when I was getting all that really bad
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  Speaker 4: haye and made a video crying online that I can't
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  Speaker 4: do this anymore in terms of sharing my health journey.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not giving this to you guys anymore.
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  Speaker 4: And I would say it was like around that the
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  Speaker 4: next few days where I was like if I had
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  Speaker 4: no follower, if followers didn't exist, if my family didn't exist,
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  Speaker 4: in anyone in my life that had an opinion on
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  Speaker 4: my way.
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  Speaker 2: What would I do? And that's kind of when I
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  Speaker 2: made that decision, like by myself.
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  Speaker 3: And was your family receptive to it?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I kept them a little separate to that.
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  Speaker 4: To it, I was like, I'm doing this and I
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  Speaker 4: don't really want to hear your opinion because I had
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  Speaker 4: a lot of like issues with weight with my parents
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  Speaker 4: growing up, like them telling me to lose weight all
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  Speaker 4: the time. So I was like, this isn't a part
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  Speaker 4: of I don't want you a part of the decision.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just letting you know I'm doing this, okay, but
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  Speaker 4: I didn't want I was with my boyfriend at the
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  Speaker 4: time and like I just at the.
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  Speaker 3: Time you made the decision, yes.
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  Speaker 4: Who also had a lot to say about my weight
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  Speaker 4: at the time. So I just was like, I don't
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  Speaker 4: want anyone's opinion here, like this is for me, no
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  Speaker 4: one else.
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  Speaker 3: Was he against it?
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  Speaker 4: No, he was like he was like do what He
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  Speaker 4: was very much like he was supportive during that time
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  Speaker 4: of like do what makes you happy, But everyone close
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  Speaker 4: to me in my life was very much like pushing
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  Speaker 4: me to lose weight. Okay, but I think for the
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  Speaker 4: wrong reasons, Like I think I had like at the
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  Speaker 4: end of the day, I did what I did for
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  Speaker 4: my health and for me, Like I was just like
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  Speaker 4: really didn't want anyone else's opinions in the way. Actually
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  Speaker 4: at that time, now that I think of it, too,
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  Speaker 4: he didn't say anything about my weight till after I
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  Speaker 4: made the surgery decision. He was very like supportive, just
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  Speaker 4: without saying anything, like very quiet. Okay, so it wasn't
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  Speaker 4: until later on, but like I've always and my sister
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  Speaker 4: also like never said anything.
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  Speaker 2: But like I just knew people were more. I knew
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  Speaker 2: that people.
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  Speaker 4: Were like concerned, but I felt like the concern from
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  Speaker 4: followers was more of like a hate being mean concerned,
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  Speaker 4: You're just getting bigger. We're like my family friends, like
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  Speaker 4: people in my life closer, like knew I.
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  Speaker 2: Was having actual health issues. Right.
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  Speaker 4: I want to make a point that this was like
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  Speaker 4: a personal decision for my health. But like I will
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  Speaker 4: never change my mindset, like I said on advocating for
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  Speaker 4: size inclusivity. But again, I kind of always thought body
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  Speaker 4: positivity was a little bit toxic in a way of
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  Speaker 4: always saying you need to love your body twenty four
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  Speaker 4: to seven. I never believed that I never spoke about
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  Speaker 4: that or anything.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think it's very unreal too, because no matter
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  Speaker 1: what you look like, what size you happen to be
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  Speaker 1: at at that point in time, you know, you're always
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  Speaker 1: your worst critic and you're always going to have something
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  Speaker 1: that you wish you could fix or change. Lose weight
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  Speaker 1: in some places, gain weight in others. And I understand
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  Speaker 1: where you're coming from where that's not not a label
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  Speaker 1: that you put on yourself. But society makes it very
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  Speaker 1: difficult to just be. They want to put you in
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  Speaker 1: a box, they want to know what to do with you.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone belongs in a box. I remember season six of
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  Speaker 1: vander Pump Rules. You know, I was very much like
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  Speaker 1: I preferred women. I had been through a lot, and
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  Speaker 1: everyone was like, oh, she's like a newfound feminist and
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  Speaker 1: she's she's a girl's girl, and I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want these labels. This puts a target on my back
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  Speaker 1: because any move that I made beyond what you have
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  Speaker 1: labeled me, you're gonna try to hit that target.
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  Speaker 3: And I just don't want it.
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  Speaker 4: Don't even have a choice, Like you literally don't have
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  Speaker 4: a choice, Like what if what for you change just
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  Speaker 4: because you've been doing this for a while, Like when
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  Speaker 4: you were on TV, Like what changed from that that
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  Speaker 4: people labeled you a few years later?
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  Speaker 2: Because I feel like you people can.
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: You can get. People don't want you to evolve.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: People want you to stay the same person that you've
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: always been. And if years down the line, you do
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: something that doesn't add up to what you did a
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: few years back, you're a hypocrite. I reserve the right
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: to evolve. I reserve the right to make myself.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: Change and grow. How old were you when you started
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: on vander Pump.
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: I think the first season aired when I was twenty five,
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: so I think I was twenty.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: Four ten Are you open about your age now?
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm thirty five now, So like, imagine you didn't
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: change in ten years, Like that would be insane, It
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: would be insane, And like, I think that yet to
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: the core, I'm the same person. But if I started
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: at twenty five and now I'm thirty, it would be
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: really sad if I didn't change and.
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: Grow in ways.
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: And it's very interesting that people online, when you're you're online,
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: you like no longer are a person to people, You're
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: like the character or something, and it's like you changed
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: becomes this insult and it's like wait, I should change.
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and so should you.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: You should also be changing the people who are commenting
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: who have the luxury of sitting behind a keyboard with
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: you know, two hundred followers that are just their close
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: friends and family. Right, So you are in a very
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: delicate situation when you decide to open up for people
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: to relate to you, because then the floodgates are open
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: for people who relate to you and also want to
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: bring you down to the pits of hell.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: I want to know in all of this and your
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: your health journey and this guy that you were with that.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: You pretty much you know, you were living together.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: He basically like lived at my apartment.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, you guys had a lot of videos together.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Would you say that he was like one of your
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: great loves that just didn't work out?
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: That was my only boyfriend I've ever had.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: Okay, so you go through these.
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: Two monumental things only human I've ever like loved, So
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: like that's all I have to like compare to or anything. Yeah,
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: And that was at the same time that breakup was
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: during this whole post, the surgery got like I got
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: very sick for like I would say, like two months,
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: like I couldn't eat, couldn't drink.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: I kind of I was.
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: In a lot of regret from the surgery, like I
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: didn't know how it was going to be. And that's
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: also why I didn't open up about it. I was like,
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: I don't know if I just made a huge mistake.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: So I got in a you know, a big depression
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: that was all the same time.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: As the breakup.
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: Like the breakup was like basically during all of this happening,
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: so like it was, Yeah, definitely a very interesting time
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: where like I was trying, I was like, do I
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: open up about some things not others?
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: It was very confused, a confusing time for me.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Did these two things happening at once make you someone
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: who goes, I know exactly what I want and don't
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: want here the red flags, here the green flags. Do
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: you feel like you're more focused on what you want
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: in life?
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: More focused because I had nothing to compare to, and
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: I definitely let a lot of things like slide or
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: thinking back to the beginning, like was just letting maybe
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: if that has started now with someone else, I'd be like, no,
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: you know really so like I just yes the answers,
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: but I don't know exactly what I want.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: I can't picture that person.
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: I don't know what I want definitely, Like in terms
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: of everyone always sets me, especially lately because I talk
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: about my dating more openly or like just meeting people,
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: and everyone's like, what's your type?
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: What's your type?
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: Like I literally don't have a type in terms of
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: like physical or anything. Like I love funny people and
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: someone that gets my humor and is funny, but like,
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: and there are obviously other things in terms of like
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: being super motivated. I do think I want someone that's
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: not in my career path, like some something different and
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: very passionate.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: About their own thing.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you have so many different career paths though, Like
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: you're you're a content creator, but you're also like a creator.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: I don't think I want someone that's a content creator
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: putting themselves online. But okay, but I can't. I'm not
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: anti Like I'm not anti anything. Like again, that was
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: my only experience. So I have like written down in
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: my phone things of like red flags now to look
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: out for, but also like things I would want in someone,
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: but I still don't know, Like I have no idea
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: who that person is.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: Or what they're going to bring to me or what
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: they're going to do for a living. So I just
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: don't know. I also am not like I would say that.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: My followers probably think I'm like actively looking because I
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: talk about it so much, But I'm not looking for
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: a boyfriend at the moment.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: I'm dating so that I can experience. I've never dated.
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: I probably got on five dates in my life, not
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: like with dates like dates with people, because like obviously
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: me and my boyfriend would go on dates, but like
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: never like I didn't go on a date for two
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: and a half years when date with him he became
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: my boyfriend. Wow, I never dated, So like I'm just
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: more like, Okay, I'm thirty.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: I mean, no rush. My mom had me at thirty nine.
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: Both my parents had My dad had two marriages before
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: my mom had one. Then they are not pushing me
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: in any way where I feel like a lot of
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: my friends that are single right now like their parents
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: are pushing them to be My parents are like, have fun,
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: and I just want a date to experience and learn
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: what I want and don't want.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: I think that's the only way to do it.
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I think a lot of other people are
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: like I mean a lot of my really close friends
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: that are single right now are like literally going in
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: six states a week being like I need to find
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: this person now, like.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: A they on the apps? Yeah, how do you meet people?
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: I'm on the apps. I'm on like Bumble and Hinge.
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: Raya has not let me on ever, like they just
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: won't no clue.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I've heard Raya is only like there's little actual meetups.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: You just like develop a pen pal sort of relationship.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: So I don't know that you're wouldn't know.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Wouldn't but.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: I yeah, like sometime, and I don't want a freaking
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: pen pal, like I feel like that always ends up happening.
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: When I'm like talking to people, I'm like, no, no, no,
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: I don't like talking to someone I don't know, Like
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: that's why this summer, like when I was out, that
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: was my first time even practicing, like meeting someone at
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: a bar and going up to them, which I did
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: a good job at.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: But I was like.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: Out and drinking and partying like I was out the
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: other day and I was like sober and which I
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: could talk to anyone sober, like I've never an issue,
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: But it was very shocking to me in terms of
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: dating and like men, I was like, I made my
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: friend do it.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Like for me, I was like, I can't. I'm like,
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: who am I?
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: Like, I'm literally very outgoing, can talk to a wall,
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: and I'm like in terms of guys, I like didn't
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: know how to. So that's my next step is like,
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: how do I go up to and flirt with men
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: without alcohol? Because that's not ever what I needed in
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: my life in terms of being social and I don't
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: need that now. But I just thought that was interesting.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, I'm like a nervous flirter.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: I think that's totally normal.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: You know, I had never been single sober, and now
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: obviously that's what I am. And it is you start
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: having an out of body experience where you're like watching
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: yourself make this move to talk to this guy and
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: the like, I literally had had sex for the first
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: time sober. This was like a couple of years ago,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: and it was fucking awesome. Have you had sober sex before?
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's great.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: Are you open to like one night stance? I never
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: had one before?
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: Yes, Like, and like this was a more recent thing
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: because I again like I but like and I shouldn't
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: feel this way, but like now I feel like it mean,
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: I like, I don't care what people say, Like women
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: like when you have sex with someone, don't you like
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: release a hormone that makes you look attached to that person?
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: It's I think that that's just yeah, most women. I
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: think any woman that goes like no, I don't get attached.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: I could fuck it. However, like I rather.
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: Still talk to that person. I don't need to date them.
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: But it's funny because I said so many times to
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: my followers, even like a few months ago, I'm just like,
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: why can't I just hook up with I'm gonna have
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: it be casual, and they're like that never ends.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: Well I'm like no, no.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: And then I had like a three month situationship where
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: like I really liked the guy, thought it was going
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: as we're go, and it ended really badly, and I
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: was like, oh, I like need to I need to
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: somewhat have like a connection to this person or even
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: just like keep talking or be friends. So like when
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: someone just goes m I A, I'm like so offended,
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: right like that.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: If it wants I understand, Yeah, that's what it's supposed
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: to be.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, maybe that's not for me, Okay, that's.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: Fine, but I'm ready. You're you're learning. Do you think
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: men get nervous.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: That like if they date you it could end up
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: being content on?
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: No, this isn't new. This is a new thing for me.
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: I've been making videos being like this loser did this
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: the other day and like whatever, I actually I got
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: scared when I'm not scared. But I finally blocked the
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: situationship God, because every time we've had an encounter, I'm like, I.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: Want to talk about it.
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like now I I freaking keep saying like if
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: I see him, like I know, like I think at
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: this point we're just not gonna like look at each
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: other because it's all content now.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: But I never say someone's name.
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: I would never say them people they dropped the nay
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: drop the name every time they know where there are.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: Because one guy that I was like kind of hooking
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: up with and kind of had this not this guy,
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: but like how to talk about that? He was like
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: whatever happened? He's like, I was really bitter you made
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: that video about me? And I'm like, no one knows
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: who you are, and he's like, but I knew it
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: was about me. I'm like, you ghosted me. And he's like,
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: I think you're really cool.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: Good and he was like, let's hang out again.
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: I'm like sure, because honestly, for me, I'm like I
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: need sometimes someone that I want to hook up with,
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: just if I'm like horny or something like why can't
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: I But I just want to have like some sort
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: of like friendship or.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Like not that they're gonna go on my ag Do
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: you want them like on the roster until you're over it?
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or else it's like rude.
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: But but going back to your question, I have been
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: nervous being like, if these guys see these videos, it's.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: So gonna push away people.
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: But then some of my friends are like, no, it'll
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: just make them treat you right, and I'm like, no,
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: it seems a.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Little scary, even though I I'm not saying their name.
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: No, I'm unsure how much I want to keep going
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: with it, Like I don't know.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I think you keep doing Whoever is going to be
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: signing your checks is what you fucking do.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: Like you are a content creator.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Whoever comes into your life should be the person that's like,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: whatever you need to do, Okay, But you know.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: What I just realized that I did yesterday or like
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: this week is like some guys that are in my dms,
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: which there aren't many, but like guys that I'm like
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: maybe it's newer or like just flirting with Yah, I
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: block them from my stories and that's showing that, like
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: what I love that, No, but it's showing that I'm
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: like nervous for them to see their real me. So
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: that's not like a great thing, you know, but I'm
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: posting about so many I feel like if you don't
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: know me first in person, you're just getting this like
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: like rogue version of me and they're gonna be like what,
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: Like I'm I just don't know, So like that's the
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: thing that I'm like. And then I said it to
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: one friend the other day and they're like, but then
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: they're not then you're hiding you, And I'm like, I
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: nobody think it's a lot to just like if you
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: follow me and just like see everything I post on
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: my stories, you might be a little scared.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: Oh okay, can I tell you. I feel that I
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: love that you do that.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: But at the same time, I'm like, anyone who I'm
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: gonna be talking to you need to know get on
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: my socials. See how I interact in a bunch of
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: different situations, whether I'm saying, like tune into my Amazon
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: Live or like a new episode of untraditionally La La
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: being a mom, or like maybe doing a slutty thirst trap.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: You gotta see me in all my elements because if
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: you come into my world, this is what you get.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: True.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: And if I if you come into my world based
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: off of what I want you to see and only
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: what I want you to see, then I get attached.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: And when you see other things you may not like
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: and you abort mission, big fucking waste of time.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Right, No, for sure. And for my saying that when
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I was with my ex two like, I was very
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: I never changed my content, Like I remember one time
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: he said like that I was like showing too much
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: skin in a photo. I said, okay, well then you
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: can go.
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: I was like, I've I was like, or was it
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: one of my fond any videos where like I'm changing
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: in my halls and stuff, And I'm like, I'm never
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: changing that, just so you know, FYI like this will
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: always be how it started. Because if I'm not planning
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: on changing my content for someone, which I would never do.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: If a man told me what to post or not post,
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: it'd be like you're done, so I.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Probably should unblock them from my stories. Yeah, but like
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: what if they're just flirting.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: Situations like like I want them to I don't know.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know either. You're asking someone who's like chronically safe.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I don't like the word date because it gives it
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: potential for it to go somewhere. So I right now
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: just fuck.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: Oh you're you're just okay? Same.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I don't need you, I don't want
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: anything from you. I, for the first time in my life,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: feels so peaceful, and I would like to enjoy this
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: moment in my life because I deserve that. It's been
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: like years of just chaos, right and fighting tooth and
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: nail to like get some oxygen, and now I have it,
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, why would I ruin that?
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: Are people just like you're not on the apps or
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: not on the app or it sliding into people's I.
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: Am always the aggressor.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: I always It's very rare that I'll give out my
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: number because I like to take the numbers, sit on it,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: and then if I feel like reaching out, great. I
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: don't want to be the person that goests even though
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: that that that has happened before.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: Oh I give my number out like candy, So that
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: part's not like me.
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: Great, but you have to find your groove.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: Bring me to stop doing that, like it could be
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: anyone on that, like.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: You know, like you're gonna get to the point where
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: you have to change your phone number.
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: I had reason My sister yells at me everage amount
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: just stop stop because I'm literally like a girl will
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: be like I love you whatever. I'm like, text me tomorrow.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: And then I'm like what am I doing? Like, oh,
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: I have to stop, but you have to.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: I know it's bad.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: No, And you know, it's a fine line for me
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: with bringing dudes around, because there's the people who are
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: like overly eager to be on television.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: It's real. Is it not really hard to not know
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: people's intentions? Yes, yes it is.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: But and there are the people that are like I
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: don't want to be talking about to do.
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: With that all, And I'm like, well, there's the guy.
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: That is exactly what I want, And I'm like, there's
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: I have yet to find that. Like that guy had
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: a situationship was like, do not put me anywhere. That's
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: why I started making the videos to piss him off
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: more after, because I know there's nothing that makes him
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: more mad. But like then, my ex, I think wanted
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: it a little too much. And now now I'm like
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: very cautious about that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've learned a lot, and I mean you're only thirty,
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  Speaker 1: Like you're still it's gonna be a process because you're
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  Speaker 1: only going to.
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  Speaker 3: Get higher and higher to the sky.
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  Speaker 1: Right So right now, I think, and this is just
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  Speaker 1: my opinion, you stay true to like getting yourself where
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: you want to be physically, emotionally, spiritually wherever, and also
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: business wise so that the guy that comes in, you know,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: you'll attract someone who needs nothing from you, you don't
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: need anything from him, and you guys just add to
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  Speaker 1: each other's one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that's what my mom always says. Who's
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: a huge fan of you. She's always like, we were
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: watching Like Love Is Blond the other day and she's like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: I can't when they keep saying my person. If you
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: ever come home and say my person, I'm kicking you out.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, what is with you?
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: Like with the and she goes any soul me to
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  Speaker 4: hate that too, And I was like, why are you
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  Speaker 4: so like anti that? And she was just like I've
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: always like from her too. It's always been like someone
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: to add to not be like your other half. For me,
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: those words, it's more other half, I'm like, and everyone's like,
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: I love my other half. I never I'm not looking
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: for another half, like you need to be whole. And
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: then I think I totally agree. Someone that adds to
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  Speaker 4: my life. That's great in a good way and a
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: positive exactly.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm so happy for you, and I know that
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: that comment section can be brutal.
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  Speaker 3: My heart was like breaking for you.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: You want to feel brutal, but brute definitely have a
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: little bit of thicker skin.
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  Speaker 3: Do you feel like you got thicker skin through it all?
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  Speaker 4: I think I one hundred percent do. But I've like
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: I have my days in my weeks. I think it's
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: when I'm hormonal. I have no idea, but like all
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: last week I was like in my fields and then
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: like you know, like there's certain days where like you
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: focus on those negative comments where like I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: I woke up yesterday and I didn't give a shit
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  Speaker 4: about anything, and I'm like, yeah, it's very I mean,
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  Speaker 4: I think that's just a part of being in this world.
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  Speaker 2: It's just like confusing.
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  Speaker 4: So, yes, I thought I'd gained thicker skin, and then
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: recently I think I've just kind of what you said, like,
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: I do need to figure out my brand and who
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: I am and where I what I'm doing right now
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: because of what the box people put me in. Now,
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: I'm like, where am I? What am I doing? Like
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: I love putting out content and I talk about kind
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: of everything, but I think it's almost hard me not
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: being put into this box for ones that I'm like.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: What am I or what am I?
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Like?
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: Hold on, I'm more comfortable in a box.
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, I'm like, did I like the box?
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: Like I don't know, but I'm just I'm figuring it all.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: You got comfortable people.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Sometimes you could be in the most unhappy place of
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: your life. But if you're comfortable there because it's your
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: every day, the moment that you get.
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  Speaker 3: Out of it, you start to flounder a bit.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I was comfortable for so long, like didn't
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: focus on my health, my mental health like nothing. But
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: I was just like staying in this place because I
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: was like, oh, my career is skyrocketing, So like I'm
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: just going to be here. But now that I'm like,
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: I am happier, Like when I think about like mentally,
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: I'm overall happier in the past year just for so
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: many reasons and work I've done on myself and physically
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: not in pain like I was in pain with my
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: back and my knees for so long.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: So like I'm happier.
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: But I think now it's like, Okay, I'm out of
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: that box that people were putting me in terms of
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: like connecting.
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  Speaker 2: My weight to who I am that right.
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: It almost started happening to me, Like I almost started
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: thinking that way too, And now I'm like.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: Okay, who am I? Without that piece?
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: You felt like it was your identity.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: I feel like people were making it my identity, but
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: I think that started to become it.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So where can people find you so that
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: you can like share your journey and share all of
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: your amazing because you're also one of the fun as
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: people that I've ever met in my life.
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: And where can they buy your goods? Tell me everything?
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: It's just at remy Bader on TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, and
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: then you could buy fangirl.
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  Speaker 2: Which also clips on your phone.
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: Or laptop or anything you've use in like a zoom,
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: meaning you could use it on your phone when you're out. Anyways,
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: Fangirl by Remy you can get that on Amazon and
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: on Revolve as of now and TBD because you'll be
• 33:27
  Speaker 4: able to see it more somewhere many other places in
• 33:29
  Speaker 4: the future.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: No, I can't wait. I'm so into this.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: I'm literally I can't wait to clip my extensions in
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: and like have a Beyonce fans.
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: Light is so you could do the fan the light
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: at the same time. But like I didn't do for
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: the light, but I was like, what is something that's
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: non existent? And people are like obviously when it's like
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: darker outer, it's like the light is amazing.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: It makes you look like gorge.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Oh I can't wait to look gorge.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: I needed it today.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Noo Remmy, thank you so much for coming on my livecast.
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  Speaker 1: I love you. You're a fucking rock star. You look amazing.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: I hope you feel amazing.
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  Speaker 1: You guys, thank you for listening to another episode of
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: Untraditionally La La. I'm gonna catch you on Monday for
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: the bonus and again next week.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: Bye.