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Being A Conduit Of Learning – A System · The Missing Secret Podcast

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  Kelly Hatfield: We believe life is precious. This is it. We've
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  got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to
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  maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our
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  full potential.
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  John Mitchell: Are you living up to your potential? Are you
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  frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't
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  seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next
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  level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
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  Kelly Hatfield: If this is hitting home, you're in the
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  right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional
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  life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher
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  level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a
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  fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that
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  once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you
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  learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think Be it the
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  podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
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  John Mitchell: And I'm John Michell. So today, we've got a
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  topic that I think you guys will find interesting. You know, life
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  is all about growing, and, and evolving intellectually. And so
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  my, the topic today is really, do you have a system for
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  growing? And do you have a system for reviewing what you've
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  learned in the past. And with that, as the subject I'll share
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  with you, sort of my system, and Kelly, then utilise yours, but
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  you know, so I have a system where I pick basically three,
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  three podcasts that I follow, you know, that are relative to
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  entrepreneurs and, and to sports coaches. And so I have three
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  different podcasts that I follow. And every Monday, I look
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  and see what episodes what new episodes are there. And I pick
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  two specific episodes out of those three different podcasts.
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  And I listen to the episodes during the week. But, and that's
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  how it evolves every week for me. And I, I send myself an
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  email, those episodes that I'm going to listen to on Monday, so
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  that I really start listing, Monday at lunch, and then
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  through the end of the week. But the other thing I am big on is,
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  is recording what I'm learning. And I have a place that when I
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  like read a book, I'll take notes, and then I'll record the
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  notes in this particular file that I have. And so I'm tracking
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  what I'm learning. And, and lately, I've been tracking what
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  I've been learning every week by looking at what I'm writing in
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  my thinking tablet, which is this technique of thinking two
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  times a week. But that's how I do it. And so Kelly, tell us how
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  you do it. And then I want to talk a little deeper about why,
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  you know, reviewing what you're learning is important. So how do
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  you how do you do it.
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  Kelly Hatfield: So I've got part of what I do each week. So I
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  have a review that I do each week, and it's part of my
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  planning session for the following week. So um, whatever
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  I listened to, as far as the you know, whether it's a podcast, or
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  whether it was a specific training that I did, or, you
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  know, we've got a monthly learning team learning growth
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  session that we do. And so it could be the download from that.
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  But basically, I'll use voice notes while I'm listening to it.
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  Because a lot of the time I'm doing something like getting
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  ready in the morning, or I'm on the treadmill. So something
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  really like jumps out at me. I'm like, Okay, I need to, I need to
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  be thinking about that more deeply. I'm using I'm putting it
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  into my thinking session, you know, it might even be an
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  episode that I will go back. And because I'll timestamp it like,
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  Okay, I need to come back to 10 minutes and 30 seconds, because
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  everything from there for the next five minutes was like
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  really the essence of what I want to be thinking more deeply
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  about. Right? And so I go through that process during the
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  week and then on Sunday, I'm looking at okay, when I did my
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  thinking session, were there any like what action items were
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  there? You know, what were my takeaways do any of those need
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  to go on to my calendar for the next week, as far as planning is
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  concerned? Or so I'm looking at it. I haven't been looking at it
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  specifically in terms of what did I learn? It's more so okay,
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  like what were my key takeaways? And then if there were any
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  action items as a result of this thinking sessions, am I moving
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  this project forward or what I learned forward? Or how do I
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  move it forward by getting it on Mike? calendar and making the
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  space for the following week. So that's kind of my process.
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  John Mitchell: Right? You know, I think probably when people
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  hear how we do it, they're like, whoa, that's, that's way too
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  complicated for me. And but it doesn't have to be, you know,
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  you're listening to two people that are serious growers, you
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  know, but you do have to have a simple system, quote, unquote,
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  system to grow. Such as, you know, setting up what you're
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  gonna grow, what you're gonna listen to, at the start of the
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  week, and then listen to it. By the way, that's pretty simple.
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  And that's powerful. But one of the things I've sort of see,
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  though, is that once you learn something, oftentimes you'll
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  forget it unless you go back, and, and read it again. And so
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  that's the next iteration to growing is, is capturing those
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  really powerful things you're learning and review them. And,
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  and it sticks in my head, this idea that, that it's better to
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  read one great book 10 times than 10, good books. And, and
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  I'm big believer in that. And so along that lines, you have to,
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  you have to record those things that you're learning so that,
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  you know, like I do it once a quarter, the first week of the
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  new quarter, I'm gonna go back and review all the notes I had
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  for the past quarter, and probably for the past year. And,
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  and it's pretty powerful. And I was and as we launched into this
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  whole idea I was this week looking at what I learned last
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  quarter, and I think the most powerful thing I learned was
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  what we had a podcast episode on this a while back, where you
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  have to tune in to reality. Because reality is the the most
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  efficient way things work. And so if you, you know, don't tuned
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  in or reality, let's, let's say you're in a business, and you're
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  sort of going along, but you're oblivious to are we getting more
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  sales are? Are more and more leads coming in? Or is the
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  opposite having happening, fewer leads are coming in, you know,
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  you've got to tune in to reality, and see, what is it
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  telling you, you may not like it. But the sooner you tune in
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  to reality, and adjust your behavior so that the results
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  that reality is giving you are more favorable, you're always
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  going to struggle, and I never, I never really got this as deep
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  as I do today. What do you think was this past? Say, since the
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  start of the year? What do you think, is the biggest lesson
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  you've gotten?
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  Kelly Hatfield: I would think and listen, I know, I knew this,
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  you know, but common sense isn't always common practice. Right?
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  So, um, you know, one of the key things for me, is really, I've
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  been able to exponentially change and I've got a great
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  mindset. But you know, honestly, um, you know, with everything
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  that's been going on in the world, and with, you know, just
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  all of this uncertainty, and, you know, we know that our, we
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  naturally are fearful, you know, our brains are geared for that.
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  And so, for me, it was, I got rid of every news, social media,
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  app, anything on my phone, I limit my intake of the news,
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  because I want to stay informed, doesn't need to be on in the
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  office, it doesn't need to be on in the background, filling my
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  brain with anxiety and everything, even though maybe
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  I'm not really listening to it, your brain is yeah, there. You
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  know. So I think turning that off, being very intentional
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  about how I consume those things, and at what time of day,
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  and like really dialing that in, because the life, the role of an
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  entrepreneur, of a business owner of it, like it's all a bit
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  what's happening in your mind, in your mindset. And so really
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  protecting that protecting what you're allowing the input that
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  you're allowing into your life and into your, you know, your
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  brain. And so, and I again, I knew these things, but you just
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  fall into some old patterns. And, you know, so back into my
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  visualization it went so that I could correct some of that
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  behavior that was just fine on autopilot. And it made a huge
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  difference.
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  John Mitchell: Yeah, that's, that's great. I completely agree
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  with you. I mean, it goes back to what we were talking about a
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  while ago, you know, life is a state of mind. Yep. And so how
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  are you controlling your state of mind? Yep. You know, the
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  other thing that I noticed that was a big one for me last
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  quarter was that just the pure power of doing what you say
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  you're going to do, and how, as you and I have learned, and
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  coaching people, you know, everybody says they do what they
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  say they're going to do. And then when they when you really
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  sort of dig a little deeper, oftentimes, you see that they're
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  doing it, maybe 40% of the time. And, and this is such an aha
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  moment with people. And it's sort of a good or a bad thing,
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  you know, they discover that they're not doing it, and they
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  feel bad about it. But then, you know, you teach them how that if
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  now you're conscious of doing what you say you're going to do,
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  it'll make them way more conscious about what they say
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  they will, they will do, and then they'll actually do it.
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  And, and, of course, it's easy to articulate this in our life
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  GPS template, and that, you know, I do what I say, I'm going
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  to do both with myself and other people. But I see that when
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  people really embrace this, they typically get twice as much done
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  from just that mindset shift. Right?
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  Kelly Hatfield: Absolutely. Well, you know, we talk about
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  how precious life is, you know, and, you know, so when you're
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  very intentional, you know, about and having a sense of
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  urgency about life, about what you say yes to, and this goes
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  back to what you were just talking about the things that
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  you commit to doing and following through and doing them
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  the thing, you know, you begin to filter everything through
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  that, like, Hey, listen, is this aligned with you? No, no, can I
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  really get this done in the time limit? No. So So you start
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  editing, the things you're saying yes to, and then watch
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  what happens as far as momentum, if you're really have a lot of
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  clarity around what your goals are, what you want, you know,
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  what you want to achieve, how you want to show up, you know,
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  and then you start planning and acting in alignment with that,
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  and then keeping your word to yourself, the momentum, you
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  know, it just happens so quickly, and you get so much
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  more done. Because you're not doing all that fluffy stuff that
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  you shouldn't have said yes to to begin with. And then you're
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  not diluting any of your energy by being stressed about the fact
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  you've committed to something that you really aren't going to
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  do, you know, or you haven't done and you've let somebody
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  down, and there's this whole cascade that happens that just
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  shifts your energy and slows everything down. And so when you
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  do this, the way you just get on with that keeping your word to
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  yourself, oh my gosh, right. It's just everything.
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  John Mitchell: Right? You know, using our technique, one of the
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  things I noticed is, is, of course, I feel big time guilt.
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  If I don't do something I say I'm gonna do, which is great.
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  You know that guilt is a powerful thing. And so I'm glad
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  it's there. But if if I actually see that I didn't do something I
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  said, I'm going to do, I'm going to by God do it the next time.
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  And if I see that I it doesn't happen again. I'm going to
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  change the wording in my visualization in terms of what
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  I'm how I'm saying it, because evidently, my subconscious mind
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  doesn't like how I'm saying it or doesn't appreciate the
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  importance of whatever it is.
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  Kelly Hatfield: It's John, it's so interesting that you say that
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  because in my life, GPS or visualization, I change the
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  wording to be I'm deliberate. And intentional about what I say
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  yes. And what I say no to. Yeah. So like, now I've trained myself
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  that in the moment, I rarely will give somebody an answer. I
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  slow down because my, my autopilot that 95% subconscious
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  happens subconsciously would be to just right in the moment.
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  Right? Well, that gets me nowhere. So by saving that
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  space, then I'm able to slow down and say, okay, here are my
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  goals. Here's really let me get a realistic picture. Is this
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  aligned? Does this make sense for me to, to commit to this?
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  And then I can circle back with the person and say no,
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  graciously, you know, I agree to do it. But I'm deliberate and
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  intentional. And by using those specific words, those words work
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  for me. You know, so I love that just again, those little nuances
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  where you can shift something and it makes all the difference
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  in the world.
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  John Mitchell: Right. You know, one final thing that that that
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  that's interesting that I observed about life is how
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  beneficial, the wisdom of other people can be relative to your
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  life. And I was thinking I was watching this new show on on
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  Apple TV about Boris Becker remember, Boris Becker, the
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  tennis player, you know, he ended up, you know, when he won
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  Wimbledon a couple of times, and he, but he ended up going to
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  jail for tax fraud. And, and it's an interesting story. But I
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  remember and I don't know if I've ever told you this. But,
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  you know, my claim to fame in high school was, I won the
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  district's singles title in tennis, three years in a row,
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  which nobody, nobody had had, of course, this is for Texas,
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  Catholic high schools, which you know, means, you know, probably
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  any public school school kid could beat me, but, you know, I
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  wanted three years in a row the district and was second in the
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  state. And, and, you know, I never really took tennis at all
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  that serious, I was naturally good at it. Because when I was
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  in seventh and eighth grade, a friend of mine, and I just
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  played all the time, and we were just, we just got good. And my
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  main sport was football. But I'm watching this Boris Becker
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  thing. And I'm like, Boy, I tell you, you know, I would have
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  loved or somebody in my life to come to me and say, Now, John,
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  how it first of all, how important is tennis to you. Let
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  me point out something to you, you're going to be as good as
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  you make yourself good is not going to be how talented you
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  are. It's how hard you work to be good at tennis. That's what's
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  gonna determine it. And I know if if I heard that I would like,
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  well, I thought, I just thought some people more gifted. Know
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  that, that is generally not the case. It's who's working the
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  hardest. And, and, you know, I also would have probably told
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  myself, that, look who your coach is, he's the algebra
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  teacher. And he's Tom, really, you're not really a, you know,
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  tennis coach, if you're serious about this, get a real coach.
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  And, and I see how transformative sort of those two
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  little piece of his pieces of advice would have been. And I
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  would have been a much better tennis player than I was, but
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  also see how that plays out in people's lives. Like what you
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  and I teach people. And we've, we've seen it, you know, once
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  they get it, it's like, Whoa, it's a whole new perspective, a
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  whole new level of, of happiness and success from doing this
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  thing that somebody teaches them to do, that they had to learn
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  from the top book in the world on success. But you know, the
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  point of it, is that the wisdom of other people can change your
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  life. So,
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  Kelly Hatfield: absolutely, no, I think it's so important.
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  There's no and there's no need to reinvent the wheel. And the
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  cool thing is, is that we live in a time now, where you got
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  access to like, anything you want to learn. And, like, you
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  can get advice from the people at the top of their game, you
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  know, by Googling, you know, and doing some search searches and
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  starting to get that input of, you know, mentorships and
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  mentorship from afar and again, the wisdom of others. So no, I
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  love this, John, it's such a great, it's so important to, you
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  know, understand that.
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  John Mitchell: And I'll also say chat GPT is going to change the
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  world. I say that with 100% confidence. I just had been
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  learning about chat GPT through Darren Hardy, and I'm giving it
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  to the 17 head coaches at the University of Texas. And
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  justice, just what you said, you know, you can Google it. Well,
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  the next evolution of googling it is using chat GPT to learn
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  things. So buckle up, because it's, it's coming on strong.
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  With that said, we'll see you next time.
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  Kelly Hatfield: Thanks for listening today. If you've had
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  your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an
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  email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So
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  email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or
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  John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional
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  life