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Why some Narcissists think they are EMPATHS · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful folks, Lee Hammock, your
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  favorite diagnosed narcissist And today we're going to be
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  talking about why narcissist some narcissist think that they
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  are impasse Lee what they what narcissist not not they.
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  Some of them think that they are.
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  And we're going to get into detail in that in just a few
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  seconds. Y'all, if you're new here, my
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  name is Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Go.
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  Boom. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back. Yes, y'all, that tricky,
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  slippery, slippery snake, narcissistic person in your life
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  might actually in the back of their mind think that they are
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  an empath. But Lee, how the hell does that
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  happen? Like narcissists have to know
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  that they have a lack of empathy that there are demons.
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  Don't don't they feel the their insides burning from the the
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  lake of fire from whence from whence they came from whence
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  they were birthed? Don't they feel the insides on
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  fire? How can they be an impact?
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  Now I know people think like that.
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  There are a lot of people out there who think the darses or
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  demons and I they say I don't necessarily believe it, but I I
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  understand the sentiment of where people coming from because
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  you get hurt and you I get it. Trust me, but there are so many
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  people out here that are dealing with narcissistic people that
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  are dealing with toxic people that have a partner or parent or
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  friend or whoever it is in their life, a boss that they're that
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  truly believe that they might be an empath.
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  But why do why Lee? Why do they think that?
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  Because y'all narcissistic people tend to live in the
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  physical, the physical element of expression.
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  Like what is a narcissist love language?
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  Most narcissists, the people that I've seen their love
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  language. So for some reason, y'all for
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  some wild reason just happens to be physical touch.
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  I have no idea why it's physical touch.
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  Because they live in the physical.
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  They live in the act of giving and receiving.
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  It's always, it's never, it's never really going to be that
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  deep emotional stuff. It's always going to be be
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  levels to it, right? And a lot of times those levels
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  are going to be on the physical, the physical, the physicality of
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  it. So when narcissists, the people
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  all here doing good deeds and giving this donated to charity
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  and doing things like that, doing physical acts, they think
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  that they are empathetic, being empathetic in those moments.
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  That's how narcissists think they love you.
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  When an art like if you ask a narcissist if they love you most
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  of the time, a lot of times their answer is going to be I'm
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  here art na. They think their presence in
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  showing up in certain places in certain certain scenarios makes
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  them empathetic, makes them loving.
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  I wouldn't be here if I didn't love you.
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  They think that their presence is enough to demonstrate love.
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  They think that the act of giving something physically
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  makes them an empathetic person, makes them an empath.
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  Like you might call them a narcissist.
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  You might look at like they might do something horrible to
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  you, right? They might put their they might
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  actually smack you across your face, right, or might cheat on
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  you or steal something. They might steal something from
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  you, right, or might just tell you a lot to your face.
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  You called them out on it. You like, and they try to
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  gaslight you. They try to manipulate you, and
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  then you call them narcissists. You like.
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  Look, there's you been a you been a narcissist right now.
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  You've been super narcissistic right now and they, if they know
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  what narcissist is or they hear their word before, they might
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  just say, oh, I'm being an impact right now.
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  I'm kind. I'm I'm being a thoughtful
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  person trying to rationalize with you.
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  You're the one who's not taking accountability for what you have
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  done. I know what I've done.
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  What have you done, though? You're not taking accountability
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  for what you've done. And and that's what narcissists
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  do. Narcissists don't take
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  accountability and that's what you're not doing right now.
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  You're not taking accountability.
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  So, IE, if the if the effect, though, being bang, boom, bang,
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  you're the narcissist, all righty then.
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  Oh, isn't, but that's what happens, y'all?
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  That's what like, that's how you have to like when you are
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  dealing with this toxic relationship dynamics, this is
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  the stuff you're going to encounter.
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  Let's be real. This is the type of stuff, this
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  is type of people you're going to be dealing with.
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  It's going to hurt, it's going to suck.
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  It's going to be yeah, there's so many moving pieces when
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  you're in these abusive relationship situation, when you
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  need manipulative situation, there's so many moving pieces
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  going on all right that it sucks to even have to deal with.
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  It sucks to even have to like conjure up to deal with this
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  person who might actually truly believe in their delusional
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  brains that they are being empathetic just because they
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  give look, they do everything. Everything else in their life
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  they do is bad. They lie, they cheat, they
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  steal, they never take accountability.
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  They never show up on time. They whatever it is, y'all, they
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  have delusions of grandeur. They future fake.
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  They've been in the 40, they've been in the 49 relationships.
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  All their exes are crazy, whatever it is, for some reason
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  they're my the way the narcissist mind copes with all
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  of this is by saying I'm trying to come from a place of empathy
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  or trying to come from a place of being correct or being good
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  narcissist. A lot of narcissist biggest fear
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  is being perceived or being looked at as a bad person.
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  And the easiest way to not be looked at as a bad person is to
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  do good stuff. So you'll get the communal
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  narcissist, right? You'll get the communal, I mean
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  my communal narcissist, the narcissist that does good deeds
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  for validation, the narcissist that has a good job helping
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  people. They, they get validation from
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  you get the nurse or the police officer, the abuse, the abusive
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  ass police officer, the, the fidgety cheating firefighter,
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  the, the, the devious Dr. the, the, the, the, the pimpin
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  pastor, whatever it is. There's so many different
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  scenarios in the cases and whatnot where like they use
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  their positions of power to present their positions of
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  prestige to get narcissistic supply from because you
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  automatically think about some of the worst stories I've ever
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  heard come from come from are are about fake ass religious
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  people, right? Some of the worst stories out
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  here, like, yeah, we are. I think most people understand
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  this dynamic that Christianity, especially in America, has been
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  Co opted by some wild ass. Just it's been it's been there's
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  a, it's been replaced with something.
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  You mean it's been replaced with a, with a, with a dark clone or
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  something like that? But in these spaces right here,
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  when you're dealing with narcissistic people, that's what
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  you have to think about. Like they think that they're
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  good people because they go to church.
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  I'm an empath. I go to church.
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  Well, you just beat up, beat me up last night.
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  I go to church. Why do you cheat on me?
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  I'm a firefighter. I put up fires.
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  I say flies. I'm an empath.
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  You see what I'm saying? They think because they do good
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  deeds or have jobs in the fields where they do good deeds, that
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  they are perceived. They they they should be
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  perceived as being empathetic. They can really be the crux of
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  it right there. They can really look in these
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  situations like they are like their impacts, like there are
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  good people because this is how they feel.
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  This is where the bond goes. They just well, I'm a
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  firefighter. I put out fires.
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  I'm a police officer. Yeah.
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  I cheated on you. Yeah.
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  I beat you. You got pistol with you.
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  Yeah, I did this. But you did you hear about that
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  story, that drug bust I got the other day?
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  Did you hear about me saving those kids?
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  Yeah. So I'm an empath.
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  They think that they by doing good deeds and by doing this
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  type of stuff that they are actually being, being good.
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  Y'all, this is real. This is me being real.
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  This is they, they think that they're being good people.
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  They think that they're being empathetic.
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  Like this is how the mind of a lot of abusive narcissist works.
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  They believe that because they're doing good deeds that
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  they are good people regardless of what, regardless of what they
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  a lot of times they only do good deeds to try to wash away the
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  what kind of like watch the bad taste under their mouth from
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  being horrible to you or to other people.
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  I think, I think a lot of y'all can attest to this.
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  I just, I gave it a homeless person on a, I forgot it
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  unhoused person, $20 today. Well, you cheated on me
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  yesterday. You beat me up yesterday.
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  Well, I gave them $20. You know what I'm saying?
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  They tried to wash away the bad stuff by doing good deeds.
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  It doesn't make them a good person.
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  They believe makes them a good person.
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  And a lot of times, and this is how, you know, y'all, they keep
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  a running, they keep a running tally of the good stuff that
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  they do for people. They keep a running count of the
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  good deeds and the good things that they do for other people.
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  They really, really do. That's why you know that they're
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  not doing it. They're not coming from a place,
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  they're not coming from a place of, you know, what's the word?
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  They're not coming from a place of just being altruistic.
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  They're coming from a place of being self-serving.
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  Even in those moments, even in these moments of good deeds,
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  they're coming from a place of being self-serving.
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  That's why you get like some of these narcissistic toxic, like
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  one of the main people, one of the main archetype of of fake
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  impacts, narcissist disguising themselves.
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  The impacts you see online or social media creators, a lot of
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  them will be on like a lot of especially when you film your
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  good deeds. Hey guys, I'm going to go around
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  today giving food to the homeless and they just, they
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  might be doing something else horrible people on the planet,
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  but they're giving food to the unhoused or the homeless, the
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  folks, they're doing stuff like that.
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  I just do, hey guys, I'm driving all these clothes off at
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  Goodwill. You need to like and subscribe
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  so you can see me keep doing this type of stuff.
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  They do it for the filling. They do it for the validation.
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  I'm a good person. So guess what happens when they
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  keep doing these good deeds, especially if they're doing it
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  doing it doing them to your friends or family members or
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  they do it or they do it in front of a big crowd.
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  And other people might actually start to believe that this
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  person is a good person. Other people might truly start
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  to believe that this person that you're dealing with this part,
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  this fake impact. They might truly believe that
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  they're an empathetic person like blow when you.
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  So when you come out with your story of being abused or hurt or
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  harmed, other people might not believe you because they haven't
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  seen this side of them. Other people might not believe
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  you because they only they only know this version of them right
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  here. Other people might not believe
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  you because they really, truly only know this.
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  They only see the good deeds. Oh, that's a fighter.
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  He's a cop, though. He's a firefighter.
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  So he's a good lawyer. You know what I'm saying?
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  He's a judge. He's a no, I ain't gonna say
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  politician because I don't think anybody can just oh, he's a
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  good, he's a good person 'cause he's a politician.
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  I don't, I haven't heard that just yet.
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  You know, I'm saying he's a, he's an amazing person 'cause
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  he's a politician, but she's amazing person because she's a
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  politician. But we just like politics, just
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  like religion has been Co opted. So it's politics.
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  There's too many political celebrities.
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  We're not going to get it into that.
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  Too many politicians want to be celebrities as opposed to doing
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  the will of the American people and trying to help help out the
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  country. But anyways, y'all, I appreciate
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  I'm up. Peace.
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