63 - Why Sex Can Leave You Dissatisfied (and Wanting More)

Masculine Containment · Oct 19, 2026 · 24m · transcript

For years, I thought the problem in my marriage was simple: I wanted more sex and Cadey wanted less.

But even when we did have sex, I would sometimes find myself thinking about when we could do it again almost immediately afterward. Eventually, I started asking a different question: was I actually satisfied by the sex I was having?

In this episode, I share what I learned about the difference between sexual release and fulfillment, what changed when I stopped performing sex and became more present with Cadey, and why learning to stay connected during intimacy ultimately changed the way I show…